#sympathy pain

[kuromori4]

Fic authors self-rec! When you get this, reply with your favourite five fics you've written, then pass on to at least five other writers. Let’s spread the self-love! <3<3

Oh wow! I don't know how I missed this in my asks! Woops!

Is this for published fics only? Because at least 2 of my fav fics I ever wrote are yet to be published! (Complete or almost complete)

Ashes to Ashes- In an unfortunate twist of fate, Chat Noir ends up facing Monarch alone, and it ends very badly. Watch as it slowly destroys him. (Trauma is my middle name!) Marinette tries to figure out what the hell is going on. (Twisty and emotional, this fic is a bit of a wild ride. I've been told by readers that it's quite intense! And of course, I have to agree.) Read it here!

The Grove- Ladybug and Chat Noir spend seemingly peaceful days in an idyllic paradise that she created just for him. (Hard to talk about without spoiling it, but it's dark, bleak and depressing. But this for sure rests in my top 3 fav fics I've ever written. Emotional is a good word for it.) Read it here!

Friends who Kiss- Follows the Reverse kids after the Paris special, trying to figure out how to get along and be good guys. (Spoiler, they aren't very good at it) (Also admittedly, this one's 2 parts and I love them both. The sequel is called No more Friends who Kiss, and is linked in this fic) Read it here!

The First of Many Nights- (Mature fic) This is a oneshot where post-reveal Adrienette enjoy a very special romantic night on a private beach under a starry sky. I just love how sweet and romantic the whole thing is. <3 Read it here! (This is rated M for Mature! You have been warned.)

Sympathy Pain- (Mature fic) Ladybug and Chat Noir have always shared a magical connection. However, when they start to feel their magical connection on a more physical level, things start to get a little heated. (Or: Unknowingly, Ladybug and Chat Noir begin to feel each other's pain. And their pleasure!) Absolutely packed full of relationship drama and tension galore! (This one isn't published yet, but I had to put it on the list because I'm just so in love with this story, haha. Coming soon! (Or so I keep saying) it's been sitting at about 90% finished and begging me to wrap it up! (Life has been lifeing though)

Honorable mention: I'm working on a (Mature, and very dark) Enemies AU series and part 1 is done, and part 2-5 are planned out. And boy, I am so enamored with this AU! It doesn't have a title yet though, and I don't want to post part 1 until I have a title for the series.

I don't know many authors very well to tag! I'll tag @fandomofone for sure, and @chatnia-starlight. But I'm leaving this open to anyone else who wants to jump in, especially/including everyone I've met on this year's MLB Big Bang!

[samanthasummers05]

i hate it when people say that autistic people don't feel emotions or empathy. because if feel things so much that they hurt like actually sympathy pain is really annoying. so I was watching the hunger games with my parents and brother because he wanted to i had seen it a few years ago but mostly forgot about it. seeing people rip each other to shreds is disgusting and all but it doesn't hurt me but seeing someone fall and roll down a hill or run into a tree makes me super uncomfortable and just makes me feel icky and bad. to the extent that i usually turn away and make a disgusted/uncomfortable noise and i sometimes put i my hand up to protect my head. because of other health things my body spasms partially my right arm and for some reason seeing people get hurt like that makes my arm go off and it spasms many times and has many times just thinking about this discomfort.

[languagendersex]

Really thinking about how i had horrible excruciating pain, had an endometrial biopsy, ultrasound, and hysterectomy, and yet they never found anything wrong with me. Never had the excruciating pain again, though.

Today, i wake up and have sudden sharp pains that don’t go away, i call my boss and she’s like “oh just take something and plan to be here by 1”. Well i did not feel better by 1, i went to the fucking ER because no one apparently believes me when I’m in pain, they do all the tests to be sure it’s not appendicitis and send me home.

And now here i am, still in pain, i feel like no one believes me, and i don’t even have a reason—why can’t someone ever tell me what’s wrong when I’m in pain? Is this just some manifestation of anxiety, a ripple effect from the pain i feel of those around me?

I get the feeling I experience more empathy than I notice normally, and I’m starting to think being a sensitive person takes a toll on my body… Regardless, it is Real, I am Real, and I deserve a fucking break every once in a while.

[jananimal813]

My boyfriend cut his thumb this morning, badly enough that we went to urgent care.

They stitched him up (4 stitches) with relative ease, wrapped it up, and sent us home.

And then My thumb starting hurting? Like for no reason I can discern other than…sympathy pains?

Is that a legit thing?? I guess it must be, since my thumb still hurts??

Absolutely wild.

[philosophybits]

Pain and suffering are always inevitable for a large intelligence and a deep heart. The really great men must, I think, have great sadness on earth.

Fyodor Dostoyevsky, Crime and Punishment

[sysig]

Rainbows (Patreon)

[vaggieslefteye]

HUSK, Hotel Bartender & Concierge | 1x04 - Masquerade

"Oh, I FORGOT — you're the wise-old bartender who's seen it all! Get the fuck over yourself and pour me a real drink."

[creekfiend]

Man sometimes I think about Dora and like yeah she's a fictional person and not real but Jesus christ imagine dating a guy and he's literally the worst like just absolutely terrible and he doesn't let you be A Real Person and you finally leave and he makes you into a cudgel to beat himself with in his horrible brain and then ALSO YOU GET USED AS A METAPHOR FOR THE VIOLENCE OF LIBERALISM IN A VIDEO GAME ABOUT HIM ????? AND THE NARRATIVE CONTINUES TO NOT LET YOU BE A REAL PERSON EVER

WERE THERE NO GRAVES IN EGYPT

[nohoperadio]

There's a weirdly poignant sort of... metaphysical tragedy in the fact that pain, which evolved as a helpful signal to alert us when bad things might be happening to us, grew into becoming... well, basically the Bad Thing. To the point where by universal consensus the very worst thing you can do to a being like us is torture them (i.e. trigger the warning signal as strongly as possible while perhaps deliberately avoiding causing "actual" harm). And there are tons of illnesses and injuries and disabilities that massively impact people's quality of life, ranging from annoying to depressing to driving people to suicide, basically purely because they're very physically painful, while the underlying bodily dysfunction that the pain is supposedly "warning" of is either relatively minor or literally non-existent.

The capacity to feel pain is a good and important thing, some people lack it and that's generally awful for them, only in a universe unrecognizably different from ours could we ever do without it. But isn't it awful to think how if only there was somebody up there to adjust the settings for us, they'd probably only have to tweak them the tiniest bit to keep 99.99% of the benefits while saving us from all the most extreme miseries forever?

The mechanism didn't have to be perfect for natural selection's purposes, it had to be good enough that the average individual in the average situation would be motivated to stay more or less out of trouble. Measured by the metrics nature was working towards, she could afford to be a little slapdash with the exact implementation, and she was. In doing so she opened the door to infinities of evil and suffering that wouldn't otherwise be conceivable. All this only had one chance to happen, and it happened that way. There's nobody to be mad at--I'm mad about it, though.

[mourn-and-watch]

no but essek's abnormal behaviours in the last arc and especially in episode 140 are my roman empire. which is ironic because aeor is something of a roman empire itself. but in all seriousness, it was the episode that made me realise i love essek and his development so much and it kinda summarised it even before caleb's epilogue.

and i mean the "it's not fair" scene specifically. it's like, an epitome of his whole character progression from a person who put An Objectively Important Goal above all else without hesitation to someone who can't help but care for people around even more than his goal, no matter how big and relevant it is.

the mighty nein - and he alongside them - pretty much saved the world and freed an ancient city from thousand-year-long suffering. they defeated nine extremely powerful menacing entities who managed to stay out of everyone's sight for years and were so close to achieving their goal and dooming exandria in the process. they did the impossible and became heroes and somehow, they survived, even though they had bidden farewells a couple of hours ago because they had already understood what they had been facing. and nevertheless. they made it.

and none of them was celebrating.

mighty nein are basically essek's only friends. he knew them to be very unusual people, to put it lightly, loud and stubborn and completely inescapable once they consider you to be one of their own. and they showed him so much kindness and put so much faith in him, they were here playing the most atrocious music ever and digging clay in his backyard for a spell they invented just to help one of theirs and asking him if he could bring them pastries the day after they found out he was lying to them and had started a war. they were chaotic and weird and sometimes unbearable but most importantly they were carrying so much hope with them all this time - a hope they could end the war, a hope they could stop the angel of irons cult, a hope they could get better, a hope he could get better, and now, finally, that they could save their lost friend.

and that hope shattered, just like that, the moments after they'd already made the impossible. they saved so many souls - and then could not get back just that one.

for essek "my intentions were never good they were important" thelyss it just. shouldn't have mattered. they won. it could have been worse. people die and when they die they rarely come back. they should've been happy everyone else barely made it alive.

but for some reason, mighty nein being so defeated after they saved the world exposed him to that overwhelming feeling of injustice and unfairness. and i mean, there were many things essek considered to be unfair, but when i watched his first appearance and his interactions with mighty nein later on til their reunion in aeor arc, i wouldn't dare to guess that one of the things on that list would be something that personal. and personal not even to him.

the thing is, essek didn't even know who that guy was. why mighty nein cared about him so much. he had an idea, i guess, that he was their friend once, or someone in that body was. it was also a person who wanted to unleash a terrifying horrific aberration onto the material plane. it was a person very dedicated to killing essek and his friends - and they still didn't take any pleasure in fighting him. essek didn't feel strongly about lucien or molly, because he never knew them.

i don't think he mourned his death and failed resurrection. he mourned mighty nein's hope, the one they put in him when they had no reason to, the one they offered yasha in the cathedral and the one they kept after the spell for veth failed and the one they carried til the very end because they wanted it to reach molly. they had saved people with this hope. they had saved nations. they had saved the world. but they ended up feeling like it hadn't even been worth anything.

how desperate would it feel, witnessing people who for some reason always saw good in you when they absolutely shouldn't, who made literal miracles out of nothing, who ended wars and fought gods and tricked the hags and freed cities from horrors beyond anyone's comprehension purely because they thought it was the right thing to do and also loved their friends this much, silently crying over a dead body they couldn't bring back to life? how desperate would it feel to realise that with all your knowledge about time you dedicated your life to and threw away any principles for, you can't undo this? no one can. some things are left to fate alone and this time it wasn't kind to them. no matter how much good they did, they still got slapped in the face.

and it was, i think, such a genuine moment of empathy. like, essek is the character who prefers to put up a facade and act distant and self-composed but this time he just. walked away unable to watch this. the could only say to fjord that it wasn't fair. even when he was caught off guard in nicodranas he was able to explain himself and his motives to an extent even though he was a nervous wreck whose extra important plan went to hell the second the only people he cared about appeared. this time he had nothing to elaborate on. it just wasn't fair. it wasn't fair his friends didn't get what they wanted the most. it wasn't fair he couldn't do anything to make it right.

it is such a sad and beautiful and even cathartic scene because it is about person who started a war that destroyed so many lives - and then met this ragtag group of weirdos who saw a lonely stand-offish guy and said "hey, let's be friends!" and didn't even wait for him to answer. he saw them being serious and calculated and he saw them being ridiculous and extremely stupid, he saw their mistrust to outsiders and their loyalty to each other, he made spells with them and paid a visit to their hot tub, he ate their stale pastries and drank their hot chocolate mixed with whiskey, he was welcomed amongst them and in their wonderful home, both in xhorhas before they even found out what he had done and in the tower when they already knew - and then, he saw them mourning their loss, defeated and helpless, and he, a person who believed there were things more important than whole nations, let alone just one life, couldn't help but share the pain they felt. a pure display of compassion from someone who detached himself from it, who didn't believe he could grow into a better person capable of it again, but became one nonetheless without even realising it

[cry-ptidd]

Laura genuinely makes me so sad, like I cried all silly sometimes ago cause we have a similar past but I went on and she’s like you know..stuck and I wouldn’t want that for anyone :( even if she’s fictional and a killer. I just wish to be kind to her for a moment and tell her a lot of women or really humans feel her pain, that it didn’t turn all of us into monsters. I guess it’s why I’m attached to her because I get it I do, but also…why I hate characters that have SA in their backstory cause it’s really depressing. She’s an amazing character but I can’t help but still wish her punishment and somehow through it all. Peace. That she gets all the punishment she needs and gets some peace right after..a good for good slumber. Even if she doesn’t get that, or feel worthy of it.

This ask actually made me a bit emotional, im gonna be honest. It's one of the most sincere messages I've gotten i think? I am very sorry about what you went through and I will do the same thing you'd do for Laura and tell you to please remember you're not alone and that i believe in you as a person, and that you're still able to move ahead despite everything that's hurt you.

Laura is a character built on cruel irony and tragedy, and many of her aspects are an exaggerated version of views that i also have because of my own trauma (aversion to men, aggression, anger, spite, stubbornness) and the crimes and attitude that would make her an irredeemable character are here to kind of cement the fact she went way too far in her revenge and how being hurt an turn a person into a monster.

But, i rally have to agree with you. Holy FUCK do i pity her. She's not reveling in her evil, she's not actively trying to do more harm (not anymore), and she's just in a state of permanent self-loathing and isolation, where her punishment isn't satisfying to watch or even really clear. You don't really wanna root for her morally, you just kinda wish she'd just... stop. And take a long sleep. Just like you said, a proper, defined punishment, and then let her sleep.

I think this ask sealed the deal of me giving her a canonically somewhat "happy" ending? Maybe a mild one? Where she starts to settle down and indirectly heal alongside Integra and Seras post-canon. A household of damaged women growing alongside each other. Im sure her Creator can decide on a rightful punishment when she passes. Let's just give her a bit of leisure for now.

[froody]

as much as I love osteoarchaeology, I’m not sure I could do it. I’d just be standing there looking at a badly healed break on a femur from the Paleolithic era thinking “ow. owwwww. yeowch. ouchie.”

[villain-disorder]

Having no empathy and limited sympathy is so thankless. You can sit here doing equations in your brain trying to figure out how to not upset people and they still get mad if you make an "obvious" social mistake. But they don't see the amount of thought that goes into every damn interaction to make sure you're not unintentionally being hurtful, so if you make too many "obvious" mistakes, you're evil and a bad person.

You have disorganised thinking and can't see every outcome for a social interaction? Evil. You have no/low empathy and struggle to see how others feel and can be seen as cold even if you try to seem kind and be compassionate? Evil. Cut us some slack, it's not innate to us to function "perfectly". When I'm in a psychotic episode I can hardly think at all. Chill out.

[howellslides]

babes my experience is not universal and blah blah blah but when i bring up how much pain i’m in by using positivity and humour, that is not the time to respond with sympathy and sads. like if i’m joking about it i’m either not ready to be upset about it or i’ve already done being upset about it, you being upset about it for me is just pushing me into that space unnecessarily and kinda makes me feel like i’m not allowed to like? talk? about my day? unless i’m catering to your emotions in the first place.

also, like, just match my energy, the conversation is gonna be way funnier if we’re both joking about it cuz let’s be real bodies are already engineered terribly and there’s something hilarious about mine not even meeting that subpar standard

[gojoest]

pf!satoru when fighting a curse: oh wait. wife is calling.

satoru on the phone while fighting: hiii honey! yeah, i'll grab your snacks. i promise i'll be quick. yep! love you, too! give me an hour. :)

he's so quick about it, but if he's even a minute late, he's all over you, begging for kisses and cuddles. he apologizes so much and he almost cries. (he's probably more hormonal than you during the entire pregnancy tbh)

i can totally see it going this way—he’s playing around with the curse, just like with jogo during their first fight, literally taking his sweet time before he gets serious. letting the curse “attack” him and then thoroughly explain his CT and why the attacks never worked in the first place… but, when you call him it takes him less than a second to be done with the mission and then another half of a second, maybe even less, to teleport himself in front of the store and pick up your snacks

and yea if he’s late he is all over the place, feeling guilty for leaving you in the first place :( nuzzling into you with apologies, kissing your belly on his knees :(

[kaionyx]

I haven’t been able to let my anger out on a pup in a long time and i’m itching for it. Tying them down with their legs spread, carving bites and cuts into them to drag out the muffled cries and begs to slow down. Laugh at how much they’ve cum from calling them such sinful names while defiling their body, taunting and giving faux sympathy about how easy it is to break and abuse them when they’re cockdrunk like this.

Not stopping until they’re sobbing and barely conscious from what seems like endless torment, just to pick them up and shower them with kisses and praise for being such a good punching bag for me.