#support all of the trans folks!

[bisexualfagdyke]

I will always unapologetically and loudly love my trans manhood and queer/bisexual attraction to men and nobody will stop me!!!

You will never make me feel Bad for being a man, being bisexual, or being attracted to men. I will always be proud of these things and they will always bring me such joy.

[givemewallywestorgivemedeath]

Hey, hey, I just wanna pop in here real fast and say that I've just discovered the funniest fucking trans head canons/aus, and that's the Teenaged Mutant Ninja Turtles trans head canons/aus where they have no fucking clue that they're trans because Splinter doesn't know turtle anatomy.

It's the best. Holy shit. It's hilarious dog. They're so fucking stupid, it's great. This is my new favorite thing. They just find out one day that they've actually been trans this whole time because their Dad just assumed all of them were male. But surprise bitch! One/all/whatever of your sons actually had XX chromosomes the whole time!!

This is like... assigned cis at birth lmao

This is fantastic

[outcast-stomp]

Saying this as someone who spends a lot of my time searching for new queer bands and has a whole spreadsheet of almost 1000 queer bands + artists -

Why are trans mascs so adverse to making music in styles that are not commercially viable?

[uncanny-tranny]

One thing that kinda bothers me is when people are... surprised that other minorities tend to support trans folk more non-minority folk

To me, it plays off this idea that minorities are so "far behind" that they can hardly accept queer people, much less trans ones. It reads as very gross to me, y'know?

[horsegirlwarcrimes]

genuinely thank you for writing transmasc pregnancy fics

aahh thank you!! it's important to me and im glad it can be for others as well (♡ˊ͈ ꒳ ˋ͈)

[taviokapudding]

Ladies of the US who just voted for the first time this year

Before you adopt the oractices of a newer 4B or 7B movement, I've been doing a smaller level version with my friends since 2016 and I cannot stress this enough, do not let terfs and rad femmes take over & try to be leaders

Do not exclude trans, queer and nonbinary people- I've seen some of them already start the last 3 days on tiktok hijacking the smaller but established US movements

Before you enter a newer 4B or 7B online or irl space ask questions:

Are the leaders white women who voted for Trump or have a history of conservatism?

Are the leaders allowing trans people into their spaces?

Are they kind to gay men & lesbians?

Do they like bipoc or are almost all the members European Americans/white?

Do they encourage masking and vaccinating?

Are disabled women allowed in their spaces?

Fingers crossed that this fall into full blown fascism doesn't negatively break down the smaller movements at a community level that have been around- if you see a terf or rad femme giving out instructions, block & avoid them for your safety. The signs aren't always visible from the jump but there will be signs- do not ignore them.

[androgynealienfemme]

Brooklyn Pride was fun !! 🏳️‍🌈 🏳️‍⚧️

[ara-line]

So, queer POC.

A lot of left wing people are uncomfortable acknowledging many queer POC face marginalization from their own communities.

This is especially true if you're from an immigrant family.

"But Bee," you say, "your grandmother and mom are very open minded towards the gays and they grew up in uber homophobic India. They managed to unlearn their homophobia. You have coworkers who've been in Canada for less than a year and they include their pronouns on their LinkedIn profiles. The Chennai Rainbow Parade is a thing. There are Indian universities with LGBT support clubs. So just because they grew up in a homophobic environment doesn't mean they'll be that way for the rest of their lives."

Yes, that is true, especially among urban university educated Gen Z Indians. But there are still many who for whatever reason, don't unlearn those views.

And their potentially queer children, who already struggle to see eye to eye with their parents because of how wildly different the environments in which the generations grew up in are, struggle even more because of it.

Many white North American middle and upper class LGBT people, who are able to come out and are privileged compared to many of their fellow gays because of this, are left wing and are quite uncomfortable acknowledging this reality out of fear of being racist. We can recognize this reality and also not be racist or xenophobic. What matters is doing so with respect and nuance.

As a result, many queer POC are not able to get support from their own POC communities and from their fellow LGBT people, leading to a whole new level of alienation. Jasvir Singh is one openly gay Sikh man, and he has discussed how many LGBT Sikhs are excluded from their communities when they come out.

See: Bruce MacArthur was able to kill gay male POC, primarily men from South Asia and the Middle East, because his victims concealed their homosexuality from their families because they knew their families were homophobic. TW for murder, torture, and dismemberment.

I am aware there's many other factors at play with respect to Bruce MacArthur, but given some of my own experiences growing up as a first generation Canadian from India, I do think this particular fact of life I'm talking about did play somewhat of a role in why MacArthur evaded justice for so long.

So I do want to acknowledge queer POC who aren't able to come out due to homophobia within their fellow POC communities and because many usually white North American middle and upper class LGBT people, aka the ones who are safest coming out because they're able to get support easily and don't have to fear marginalization, refuse to acknowledge their privilege and support their fellow LGBT people who are less privileged and less safe in coming out.

In short, white, economically privileged LGBT people with supportive communities need to do more to support their fellow LGBT people. Especially POC ones and queer first generation immigrants.

[not-poignant]

This is the anon the said 'safe'. Your tags hit me hard, since I'm actually starting a transition but am avoiding hrt. I've been getting pushback on it, and been told I'm not really trans without it. I know what I want to change to feel like myself. Also what I don't want to change. That's probably why 'safe' was my choice. It sucks when you think you should belong, but still feel like you aren't good enough. It helped to hear you have felt the same. I just want to give you a big virtual hug.

Ahhh I have a similar story, anon <333 I'm so sorry you went through it too.

Under a read more because it contains transphobia towards a nonbinary person from a binary trans person. My experiences are from a nonbinary lens, anon, so take the bits that are useful to you and ignore the rest, depending on where you sit on the trans spectrum <333

When I started realising I was transmasc (I'd known I was non-binary for a while) I remember that I talked to a trans man about it, he'd been going through the process for a couple of years at that point and we'd talked about that too at different points.

And I remember mentioning that I'd thought about hormones, but I was still on the fence because I'm nonbinary, not like 'binary trans' (i.e. I'm not going from point A to point B, where you move from AFAB to man or AMAB to woman), and I was talking about wanting they/them pronouns and maybe he/him pronouns at that point.

And he said: 'Oh cool, yeah, hopefully that helps until you decide for sure with testosterone and surgery.' I had this moment of like ??? and he was like 'when you realise and can be brave enough to commit to being a guy, I hope that goes really well for you.'

It was one of the most transphobic things I'd ever heard, not because it was said from a hateful place (it really wasn't, I'm still friends with this guy), but because it came from a friend, I was being very vulnerable during the conversation and it left me feeling like I didn't have a right to consider myself trans at all for about two years after that. It pushed me into this space where I'd been defined by a fellow trans person as a 'coward until I decided to be officially a man.' And then for two years I kept looking for that inside of myself, denying my non-binary-ness in favour of looking for a very clear and decisive 'I'm a man!' moment. It was a horrible period of time, gender-wise. Because being identified exclusively only as a man or a woman is dysphoric to me, so trying to do it to myself was like cutting at myself with an axe.

It's also very much like when gay and lesbian folk would say to me - back when I identified as bisexual - 'get back to me when you pick a side / become a real queer.' There's a real phobic bent among folks who are 'one or the other' (sighs) towards people who are in the liminal with this stuff and that's where they belong. And it hadn't occurred to me that I'd hear a version of that from a fellow trans person. You'd think I'd have learned, right?

He and I are still friends, but I stopped talking to him about all of my experiences as a trans and nonbinary person. It was clear to me, in that moment, he saw me as a much lesser version of an identity he'd embraced and was living. You know, how so many people think of nonbinary transmascs. (It's also frustrating, because trans men also don't need to have hormones or surgery to be trans men, and it makes me furious when people take this attitude with binary trans folk too, but I'm mostly focusing on my own experience here, of the myriad ways we encounter transphobia in the trans community).

I never heard anything quite like that again, but I've had one other trans guy be like 'when you're ready for testosterone, I'll support you' like he was waiting in the wings for me to 'fully make a decision to be 100% a man' which isn't a decision I can make, because I'm not 100% a man, lmao, I'm like 80% of one, and 20% something else, and 0% woman, lmao, which is why I call myself nonbinary transmasc.

I was lucky that through research and listening to voices in nonbinary transmasc spaces and more open-minded trans spaces that I realised that I'd encountered transphobia, and that this specific kind of transphobia is particularly common in the trans community, especially in cases where a trans man or woman has a period of being nonbinary as an experiment to see what transitioning feels like before they fully commit to the surgery and/or hormones and name etc. that they often wanted all along. So they often project this onto other people, because for them being nonbinary was a midway point, or the middle of an evolution. But being nonbinary isn't an experiment for most nonbinary people, it's literally our identity and it always will be. (And any binary trans person reading this, don't ever use this rhetoric with your nonbinary friends, or your fellow binary trans friends who have elected not to use hormones or surgery - it's transphobic.)

These days, I'm proudly trans and proudly part of the trans community, but I'm also aware that there are a lot of binary trans people who will treat me and other trans folk as 'other' because I haven't suffered through the same surgeries or adjustments that they have. That's...their transphobia, and it's not me expressing my identity wrongly, or being 'lesser', it's just straight up transphobia. It belongs to them, not to me. I don't believe we have a unique word for nonbinary transphobia, it all comes under the same umbrella, but that's definitely what it is.

When you start to feel like you don't belong, anon, remind yourself that this is internalised transphobia, not to punish yourself, but to remind yourself that it's not true. Those feelings belong to the people who gave them to you, but they're not innately or inherently true, they actually have nothing to do with how valid you are at every stage of your transition.

You're fully a trans man if you don't take hormones, and you're fully nonbinary if you do. Whatever you need (or don't need) to affirm or express your gender for you, is what you need, and that deserves to be respected and fully validated no matter what, at any time. Whether it's binding or not binding, hormones or not hormones, hormones and then 'not for the next few years' and then hormones again, surgery or not surgery, etc. Whether you're a trans man, woman, nonbinary, agender etc.

People have this idea of what it is to be a 'proper' trans, bi, gay, lesbian person (like the 'gold star lesbian' which is horrendously disgusting as a term and concept), but all you need - literally all you need - re: these things, is to just... know you're these things. That's it. That's how a gay person can know they're gay without having sex. That's how a bi person can know they're bi without sleeping with someone of the same sex. And it's how a trans person knows they're trans without looking perfectly androgynous or perfectly binary trans (depending on what they desire) on the outside. (Don't get me started on fatphobia in androgynous and nonbinary spaces, and the equation of true 'nonbinary androgyny' with thinness, because that's a whole other rant for another day, lol).

I'm sorry you've experienced that pressure to be 'more' of something from society / particular people. I can specifically relate on the hormones front because I actually went quite far into looking into taking T, to the point where my doctor was ready to sign off with an endocrinologist, before I realised that it wasn't the right decision for me. It might be one day, but right now I know I'm transmasc without it, and I'm concerned about some of the side effects with my neuroendocrine tumours. There are other ways I affirm my gender that work great for me. But I did have a moment of knowing that would impact how other people see me, and it's one thing when it comes from all the cis people, but it's another thing when it comes from the trans community as well. :( Thankfully most people are really validating now, use the right pronouns, and I just don't confide nonbinary vulnerabilities with folks who saw being nonbinary as a midpoint of their own evolution/journey, just to be safe, lmao.

Wishing you fortune and strength and much validation, anon <3 You are amazing as you are, whatever you decide to do or not do in the future. :) *hugs*

[icannotgetoverbirds]

saw an exclusionist post so here's a reminder

specifically in reference to transmasc lesbians and trying to draw lines in the sand on who can and can't claim the lesbian label, about how being a lesbian is exclusive of loving men, with someone referring to the people they're attempting to exclude as "fandom gremlin transmascs and neo-mogai crazies."

I don't have the spoons for a proper response but i do feel like i need to make something clear.

on this blog we support fucky genders, fandom gremlin transmascs, and neo-mogai crazies. reblog if u love ur fellow fandom gremlin and neo-mogai crazy queers.

[nappingpaperclip]

idk it rlly gets to me sometimes to be told that I like don’t get it/don’t care about trans youth or whatever whenever I am vocally critical of democrat politicians cause. idk I AM trans youth, I struggle a lot and get treated like shit a lot for it, by politicians and people who should care about me and idk, have y’all ever been kicked out as a teenager and had to call the only adults who support you to come pick you up as a lonely suicidal trans kid? have you ever had to walk home from pride cause you can’t call your parents? ever been outed to your parents against your will and without your knowledge? cause I have and it rlly sucks. having my own experiences and rights used against me, as a token to silence me and others is rlly frustrating and upsetting. It was so lonely being a trans teenager and I spent a lot of time trying to connect with other lgbt+ people but especially younger trans people at my high school (lowerclassmen at the time) when I was a teenager cause I knew how lonely it was growing up with no one to see you for who you are.

People talk down on me for speaking out against politicians who have done nothing to secure my safety or rights, my right to exist because it is “too controversial,” ever since I was a child, and things are somehow even worse now… like I don’t live in the south, like I don’t see the obituaries of murdered trans people on my social media every day, like I don’t see tv ads from local politicians insulting eachother via support for people like me aka “letting men in girls bathrooms” and like I don’t have to see signs around local places bathrooms that say transphobic stuff. like I somehow don’t get it even though *I* don’t feel safe or comfortable no matter which bathroom I’m in, like I don’t have evangelical conservative “”redneck”” family members who would pop a blood vessel in their face if they saw what I look like now, like I don’t get called slurs by strangers or experience crazy micro aggressions in public & at work, like I didn’t have the experiences of being one of the literal handful of openly queer people in my southern public school.

Do you guys even know what it’s like for trans people in the south?? do you know how often trans kids get assaulted in bathrooms at school? it’s so fucking scary to hear from my friends from Florida, to hear them talk about how their friends got assaulted in their high school bathrooms, to hear about the crazy shit their teachers and classmates and politicians said….

idk. y’all don’t know me. You don’t know my story, you don’t know how hard I’ve fought just to be here. I don’t rlly have a point, I just wish people would stop saying stuff like that in my replies. I can take getting screamed at and flipped off irl but this type of stuff is worse and for some reason it rlly gets to me.

I know it’s the internet and ppl are going to be cruel but sometimes it makes me feel very isolated from my community and it drives me crazy because like, damn what about me? Am I not the trans youth too?? am I not included in that, are my opinions thoughts and experiences not important just cause I’m loud abt my opinions in a way u disagree with…??

[rudeboimonster]

i have shinigami eyes on. terfs/transphobes dont get to enjoy cute galvantula post or anything here. get outta here.

[nmzuka]

How can people still even stand Harry Potter?

Especially trans people?? Like to see a trans person creating and consuming HP content is completely baffling to me

How has the whole franchise not been completely poisoned for you?

[mars-ipan]

hey trans folks i wanna say i love you. trans women and transfems especially i wanna say i love you. the shit this community goes through is so fucking unfair and we have every right to be hurt and angry and tired. no matter what i love you now always and forever. may our love for each other carry and protect us through all the bullshit <3

[gender-queeries]

okay i love strange æons as much as the next tumblr user but i cannot emphasize how much i do not want to hear a cis person’s opinion on mogai genders. i’m sick of cis people inserting themselves into issues that do not, and should not, concern them

[mrbingley]

because i will only have this job i'm currently training for for only a year at most (possibly a couple months longer) and because, unfortunately, it's an oddly highly gendered job (like, weirdly so; as in, traditional gender roles are very much imposed on staff and on the guests, for, like, "chivalrous" polite reasons b/c it's supposed to be a fancy restaurant) and everyone immediately assumes and calls me she/her and i don't feel comfortable correcting anyone, i'm thinking about leaning into this alter ego and flat out saying to coworkers "from here on out, any personal question you ever ask me, or any attempt at getting to know me will be met with exuberant lies with some truth to them and you may try to discern what is which and how much, good luck" for my own fun and sanity.