#support ALL gays lesbians bis and trans folks

[ara-line]

So, queer POC.

A lot of left wing people are uncomfortable acknowledging many queer POC face marginalization from their own communities.

This is especially true if you're from an immigrant family.

"But Bee," you say, "your grandmother and mom are very open minded towards the gays and they grew up in uber homophobic India. They managed to unlearn their homophobia. You have coworkers who've been in Canada for less than a year and they include their pronouns on their LinkedIn profiles. The Chennai Rainbow Parade is a thing. There are Indian universities with LGBT support clubs. So just because they grew up in a homophobic environment doesn't mean they'll be that way for the rest of their lives."

Yes, that is true, especially among urban university educated Gen Z Indians. But there are still many who for whatever reason, don't unlearn those views.

And their potentially queer children, who already struggle to see eye to eye with their parents because of how wildly different the environments in which the generations grew up in are, struggle even more because of it.

Many white North American middle and upper class LGBT people, who are able to come out and are privileged compared to many of their fellow gays because of this, are left wing and are quite uncomfortable acknowledging this reality out of fear of being racist. We can recognize this reality and also not be racist or xenophobic. What matters is doing so with respect and nuance.

As a result, many queer POC are not able to get support from their own POC communities and from their fellow LGBT people, leading to a whole new level of alienation. Jasvir Singh is one openly gay Sikh man, and he has discussed how many LGBT Sikhs are excluded from their communities when they come out.

See: Bruce MacArthur was able to kill gay male POC, primarily men from South Asia and the Middle East, because his victims concealed their homosexuality from their families because they knew their families were homophobic. TW for murder, torture, and dismemberment.

I am aware there's many other factors at play with respect to Bruce MacArthur, but given some of my own experiences growing up as a first generation Canadian from India, I do think this particular fact of life I'm talking about did play somewhat of a role in why MacArthur evaded justice for so long.

So I do want to acknowledge queer POC who aren't able to come out due to homophobia within their fellow POC communities and because many usually white North American middle and upper class LGBT people, aka the ones who are safest coming out because they're able to get support easily and don't have to fear marginalization, refuse to acknowledge their privilege and support their fellow LGBT people who are less privileged and less safe in coming out.

In short, white, economically privileged LGBT people with supportive communities need to do more to support their fellow LGBT people. Especially POC ones and queer first generation immigrants.

[2pen2wildfire]

ALRIGHT, just in case it needs to be made clear

On this blog we support:

-Ace-specs (including heteroromantic aces)

-Aro-specs (including heterosexual aros)

-People with "contradictory" labels (lesboys and turigirls, mspec lesbians and gays, transfemmascs and transmascfems, etc)

-All mspec labels (bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, polysexual, etc)

-People who use xenogenders and neopronouns

-Kink at pride

-Transneutrals, abinary people, maveriques, any and all genders that exist outside of the male/female binary

-Multigender people and by extension the concept that "man" and "woman" are not distinct opposites with no overlap

-Nonbinary people who use words like "lesbian" "gay" and "bi" for themselves

-Nonbinary people who use words like "trixic" "toric" and "diamoric" for themselves

-"Straight-passing" queers of any kind

-All forms of ethical non-monogamous relationships

-Relationships that challenge amatonormativity

Remember that this blog is run by a bi trans man who's also a genderqueer butch dyke and uses neopronouns. And is also a therian. Like we get weird with it here folks so if you don't support even one of the above bullet points you should probably take a big step away from my blog and reevaluate your life choices, thanks.

[trans-all-at-once-tournament]

Propaganda:

Spamton G. Spamton

-They’re sort of like a mix between a puppet and a robot, both inherently trans

-LGBT+ all at once

-They’re a Butch Lesbian. A gay man. A GNC man. They’re a GNC woman. They’re a trans woman. They’re a trans man. They’re neither. They’re both. They’re all of this at the same time

-Deltarune is so queer that everyone has some level of gender

-Their look Is heavily based on Swatch, a canon nonbinary character

-Their Neo look is heavily inspired by Mettaton’s EX look, a canon trans man character

Luz Noceda

-Calls themself a bad boy

-Very intentionally GNC

-Just. Look at their Grom fit here

-The struggle between a queer child and their supportive mother that’s doing her best is so real

-All those queer parenting books their mom has. Yes because Luz is canon bi but one of them is literally called “Life Ain’t Binary”

-The way their mom wants them to be more normal out of fear of what will happen to them by the hands of folks that don’t understand them…And the way their mom turns around to doing their best to be supportive and understanding so she doesn’t become another source of pain

[oro-junestar]

motherfuckers are all 'i support you!' until the lesbians, the gays, the bi's, the transes, the queers, the questioning folk, the intersex, the aroace, the pans, the two-spirit, and all the + show up

people can be gay and queer in all different ways. it doesn't matter what the haters think, they are just as valid and welcome in our community as any other.

a lesbian dates a trans woman, they are both lesbians. a bi guy dates a woman, he is still bi. an enby identifies as a xenogender or autigender, their gender is valid. a lesbian goes by he/they pronouns, they are still a lesbian.

bi people and pan people can coexist. trans people and crossdressers can coexist. butch and fem lesbians can coexist. cis and trans people can coexist. everyone can coexist.

and we can all be happy together.

that's all i want. i'm sick of queer discourse and all kinds of -phobias. i just want us all to live, to fight against our oppressors, and to love eachother and look out for our amazing community. let's all touch grass and be friends.

[cardentist]

As a nonbinary/genderfluid biromantic, demiromantic asexual, literally every part of my gender identity and sexuality has been subject to the same "you could EASILY pass as cishet, so can you REALLY say you experience oppression when you could simply CHOOSE not to" and "you're not REALLY oppressed for being XYZ, you're only oppressed when people mistake you as cis fem/trans fem/gay/lesbian/any other identity we think is ACTUALLY important." My existence in online queer spaces has been hounded constantly by people trying to tell me what my lived experiences are and what they mean, shouting me down about how I can't speak about Insert Issue/Topic Here because sure maybe I'm queer (and to some, I don't even have the right to call myself that) but I'm at the bottom of the Who Is Oppressed More Hierarchy, I am only Oppressed in the way that sometimes I experience what they deem to be a different group's oppression. Not even my oppression is my own! I am too much of an "aberration" to find community and a place to speak amongst the general populace, and I'm too privileged to have a voice in the queer community, even about things that affect me.

And now, I'm watching that same rhetoric being used against transmen and transmascs. I remember when people on this site started really exploring queer headcanons for characters, everyone cheering "let's make X character gay! Y character is trans! Z character is a lesbian!" but if you dared to suggest "can Q character be ace?" you'd be met with "... that's boring." I remember how quickly ace exclusion devolved from "aces are boring" to "god, aces are annoying" to "when you think about it, aces aren't even really oppressed, so they aren't queer, so they should just shut up." And then it wasn't just aces, it was bi folks. And then it was enbies too. And now. Here we are.

This is the only site where people will blog about how "Gender is a sandbox! It's fucky! Men can be women, and women can be men! I'm a boygirl kind of girlboy! There are genders and sexualities in all sorts of shrimp colors you can dream of!" but in the same breath, they'll still act weird about he/him lesbians. They'll still claim that ALL masculinity is toxic. They'll still say that men are boring and annoying and-- Oh? You think that's kind of hurtful? You want to use this as an opportunity to talk about your own lived experiences and vent your frustrations courteously and privately on your own blog? Why do you have to make everything about you?! You're lower down the Who Is More Oppressed ladder because, wHeN yOu tHinK aBouT iT, no man can be oppressed for being a man! Even trans men! So you and anybody even vaguely masc aligned should just shut up and stay out of the conversation and let the queers who experience REAL bigotry talk!

... They could at least say something new instead of reusing the same rhetoric they've used for aces and aros and bi/pan folk and enbies and masc/butch lesbians and countless other queer identities.

All that to say, as someone who has been subject to all this for every part of my identity, I stand with you. Trans Unity! Queer Unity!

Context: [Link 1, Link 2]

I know Exactly what you're talking about !

I was around in inclusionist spaces 10 years ago at this point, before I'd fully crystalized what I Had Going On.

I Remember it being pointed out that ace exclusionists were stealing talking points from radfems directly, up to and including ripping off entire posts and just swapping out "trans women" with "asexuals."

I Remember people warning each other that normalizing these kinds of talking points, convincing people that that Mindset is a valid one, would then make it easy to swap out the Target of said mindset.

and it Has happened, over and over and over again. people are Always looking for the marginalized people that nobody wants to stand up for. that people don't understand, that people don't see as Needing support, that people already have negative feelings about even if they don't recognize Why.

it'll only ever stop when people examine the talking points Themselves and throw them out. when people are willing to stand in solidarity with people Regardless of whether they understand them or not.

if someone is trying to convince you that class of people As A Whole are undeserving of support, are lesser than, shouldn't have their voices heard or considered, Question It ! when they hold people up in Comparison to say that their pain is Lesser and therefore doesn't Matter, Question It !!

[menlove]

sorry if this is something u don’t wanna talk about feel free to ignore this but i remember a while back u said smth like “anybody [queer] can be femme or butch” but idk if you ever elaborated and im really interested in that statement but i feel like i don’t have enough information to support my argument if that makes sense

sorry i tried answering this and tumblr absolutely nerfed it the other day but !!

i don't have the energy to go and find sources so i'm sorry in advance fasdfasd but basically for me (personally) it just comes down to like... femme and butch did start primarily as roles in the lesbian/bisexual community (though they were one in the same for a very long time). so already, i feel like bisexual women should definitely have a claim to the labels. but outside of that, the terms "femme" and "butch" are also heavily used in ball culture as well, which is/was made up of a lot of gay & bisexual men (& ofc trans women & other gnc folks, but i feel like at least Today most people would accept that trans women can label themselves butch or femme so they're not my focus here). and also very heavily inspired by black queer culture as well. they don't Exactly mean the same thing as they do in the lesbian community in how they're used, but they're still broad labels used for decades by all sorts of queer people

and as for like. their definition among the lesbian community applying more broadly, i think there's a lot of merit there too... bc imo femme and butch are roles as much as they are identities. & those roles queer masculinity & femininity. sometimes in a very lesbian specific way, sure, but not always. so if any other queer person really relates to those roles and gender expressions, i say go for it. like a Majority of us in butchfemme are going to be lesbians but i feel like that might not be the case if more people were able to explore it without feeling like they Had to label themselves a lesbian for doing so... bc they really are very beautiful identities and gender expressions in how they queer masculinity & femininity and i think many people could benefit from exploring those sides of themselves!

but yeah, for me it's just like.... it may have Begun in primarily lesbian/bi spaces, but the queer community as a whole has always had different connections to the terms & modernity has really just expanded that imo

[quillofspirit]

I read fics!

If anyone wants to send me either their own fics, friend-fics or just want to share a fic so they can talk madly about it with someone, my inbox is always open!

I love reading stuff, and I love to be able to talk about what I thought while reading.

Let's read together :3

I will block hate speech.

I support the rights and freedoms of Trans, Ace, Bi, Lesbian, Gay, and all other LGBTQ+ folks.

I support the rights and freedoms of the autistic and neurodivergent communities.

I support the rights and freedoms of visible minorities.

I support the rights and freedoms of disabled and chronic pain folks.

I will block hate speech.

I read;

Most types of works (AU, with any warnings though please refrain from sending strictly smut)

I love original works, and can beta read if you want

The fandoms I will understand the best; DC, Ghibli, Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings, Marvel, Outlander, Pride and Prejudice, Shadowhunters, 9-1-1.

Everything else I can do but may need a little more time and I will have a few questions, though I am never opposed to falling into a new obsession.

I can read any of these formats; Tumblr, AO3, Wattpad, PDF.

These are my dividers, please do not use them.

[posi-pan]

Random question, but do you (or does anyone following you) sometimes get sad to see campaigns created to combat queerphobia, but they never talk about anything outside of the big 4? I found out today is “International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia” and while I’m so very happy that things like this exist at all, I had a momentary flash of sadness at the realization that anyone who isn’t gay/lesbian, trans or bi is likely going to be left out of the conversation. And that happens to me pretty often.

I always feel guilty for it, because I know it’s important for these things to exist at all. I’m happy to see them existing! I’m happy to see so many people show support of the lgbt+ community, whether they’re a part of it or just allying with us. I love seeing that always regardless of the cause! But sometimes it is just… disheartening to see that pansexuality is never included in these discussions. And if a pan person tries to join, they’re labeled as -phobic and attention seeking or told they’re derailing.

In the case of today, I do understand why it’s not about us. And I know we have plenty of community-made days to celebrate all identities in the community, and I love that too!! But. Idk. Sometimes I just get a little sad knowing we’re not really included in the big stuff. It’s like, no wonder people don’t care about us. They don’t know about us! And when they learn, odds are they’re hearing about us from panphobic resources, so then they hate us. It just sucks.

honestly, it’s not that days like this aren’t about us, it’s that most people think homophobia, transphobia, and biphobia cover everything.

in the case of international day against homophobia, transphobia, and biphobia, it wasn’t originally called that. it was originally international day against homophobia in 2005. transphobia was added to the name in 2009. biphobia was added in 2015.

and this is true of a lot of names of organizations and events. for example:

the national lgbtq task force was originally the national gay task force in the ’70s, then lesbian was added in the ’80s, and now it’s lgbtq.

the lgbtq+ victory fund was originally the gay and lesbian victory fund in the ’90s, it changed to the lgbtq victory fund in 2018, and this year the plus sign was added.

the glbt historical society was originally gay and lesbian in the ’80s-'90s and changed to its current name in the late ’90s.

the bay area bisexual network was founded in the ’80s and changed their name in 2019 to the bay area bi+ and pan network.

in ’93, bisexuals campaigned to be included in the name of the march on washington, which since the ’70s only included gay and lesbian

lgbt history month was originally gay and lesbian history month in the ’90s

pride month in the ’90s-’00s was gay and lesbian pride month, ’00s-’10s it was lgbt pride month, and in ’10s-’20s lgbtq+ pride month (this is based off government recognition of the month, there have been too many names for pride days/parades/month to list here)

even lgbtqia+ was originally just gay, then gay and lesbian, lgb in the ’80s, and lgbt in the late ’80s-’90s. and all the other variations followed.

so it’s pretty shitty that the people who make pan folks feel bad or guilty for wanting to be included and say we’re derailing had to advocate for their own inclusion in the first place. if they can campaign for language that includes them, why can’t we? why is it “this isn’t meant to include you” for us, but with others it’s “this should include you”? and if all these events and organizations can update their names/titles once or even more than once to reflect the evolving nature of our community and language, why couldn’t they do it again?

all this to say, you are definitely not alone in feeling sad or bothered by general queer things not mentioning or including anyone beyond the main four. and most importantly, you shouldn’t feel bad or guilty about wanting to be included things like this, and you definitely shouldn’t believe the idea that general queer things (such as idahtab) just aren’t for you. speaking about things like this is what gets language updated, as shown. so, keep speaking up about it (if you’re comfortable doing so, of course), who knows what changes could be made in the future?

[stormy-talks]

You think that calling the mlm flag "toothpaste flag" is a "terf talking point" even tho it has nothing to do with feminism or transmisogynist feminists (be ause that's what a terf is, remember? Do you think about trans women when you talk about terfs? Because thats what their main victims are not gay men) and yet, you think "bi lesbian" is a valid thing when its literally a label created by actual terfs that they used and still use to refer to cis lesbians who dated/had sex with trans women, I think you are just a chronically online tenderqueer

There is an entire history of bi lesbians existing in queer spaces before I was even born. You're the one who seems to refuse to do the research and would rather fall for a myth than fact. TERFs did not invent bi lesbian as an orientation, otherwise there would be way more discussion around reclaiming it. Trust me, you would see discourse around reclamation specifically. Just look at the dumbass infighting about "queer" as a reclaimed label.

It would also benefit you to talk to actual bi lesbians (and by extension, any mspec mono folks) to better educate yourself instead of talking about them like a hypothetical.

TERF ideology overlaps with a number of dangerous rhetorics - white nationalism, gender essentialism, homophobia, transmisogyny, ableism. It's only TERFs and those who support them who are trying to perpetuate lesbian separatism. Tangential to that are those who wish to exclude any part of the queer community. It's all connected.

I am not the main victim of TERFism despite what a lot of these young MRAs (the chronically online) might think. Trans women should always be at the forefront of queer activism because they're the backbone of this community, ESPECIALLY trans women of color.

You don't get to use "tenderqueer" anymore. You very clearly do not know what it means. You heard it once and thought it was a good insult for anyone you disagree with, which just makes you look like an idiot.

Ask yourself why you are so proudly lesbophobic and then go work on that, instead of perpetuating harm in your own community. I don't know how you sleep at night holding on so tight to bigotry.

[immortalspacelesbian]

can i ask what happened on twitter? i'm sorry BG3 twit is so insane but there are a lot of active folks here on tumblr that are much nicer imo. hope you can find a new place here and we stan all minthara lovers. queen shit. 🙏❤️

i’d say “long story short” but there’s 0 ways i can make this short there’s just SO much 😭

basically those datamined lines with halsin and minthara were found, where halsin refuses to work with minthara and makes tav choose between them even though minthara is begging for shelter from the absolute, and minthara lovers were like ‘ew wtf halsin fuck him she’s a victim of the absolute.’

we were in our own corner on our own tweets with our mututls ranting about these lines, and some halsin fans decided to come onto our tweets and talk about how they want minthara dead dead and the ways they’d kill her and stuff like that. which, to be honest, is completely unwarranted and a dick move. they were told to basically fuck off and that’s where shit hit the fan.

i won’t name names, but someone made a thread about how halsin wasn’t in the wrong at all because minthara was his abuser (which she wasn’t, she did nothing to him, it was the goblins, and she hardly knows who he is.) i think some people corrected them but i can’t remember? anyway, we made our own tweets like “minthara isn’t halsin’s abuser btw.”

person who made that thread proceeded to say that people who dislike halsin are queerphobic…

some of us tweeted about not throwing around words like abuse, abuser, and queerphobia and to not water them down. i made my own tweet too.

and then they said that we think ‘lesbians are the only “good” members of the community’ and that ‘supporting gay, bi, or trans members is oppressing lesbians.’ which is incredibly thoughtless and stupid of them to say considering queer history and how many lesbians are trans, considering how many of my minthara mutuals on twitter fall under the trans umbrella.

the lesbophobia got called out, rightfully.

i then said that i’m uncomfortable with the way halsin’s va interacts with the nsfw stuff in the fandom and it kinda gives me the creeps. yknow, on my own tweet, on my own account, not a single halsin account in sight. and since i’m a lesbian (and my personal history) it seems pretty normal to me to be uncomfortable with men being all nsfw like that’s not my scene thx. anyway, their little group found it and said i was targeting his ga and bring him into the drama (which i really wasn’t i was expressing personal feelings on my own account but aight.)

cue the ‘supporting halsin is anti-lesbian.’ and ‘if you like halsin you’re being “creepy” because all male sexuality is creepy to them, and halsin’s va, dave, supporting halsin’s sexuality obviously pisses them off.’ which is a wild thing to say. we never brought dave into it, it was them that did that. my tweet had nothing to do with the drama they kept making go on by not shutting up about it. by this point minthara lovers were back to normal tweeting and only reacting to whatever of those drama tweets showed up on the timeline.

oh! and here comes the inevitable: we all got called terfs. most of us fall somewhere under the trans umbrella. i’m agender myself. but we’re terfs to that person apparently. lesbians always get called terfs, no matter what.

i’m sure there’s more insane shit they’ve said in private.

all of that just because we got pissy at halsin sending minthara to a fate worse than death when none of what she did in act 1 was of her own free will.

[pride-flag-planets]

Hi!

I’m Theo (any pronouns + it/its + neopronouns)

Feel free to use any of the pieces on this blog as a pfp, header, wallpaper, background, etc. (with credit please!) Use it, modify it, destroy it. Go absolutely wild. I believe art should be set free to grow and evolve outside the original artist. However, these are for PERSONAL USE ONLY. I DO NOT APROVE OF USING MY DESIGNS FOR COMMERCIAL USE.

This is supposed to be a fun project for me and I do it in my free time. I don’t get paid for this. I make this for myself and for all the queer folks I can make happy with this.

List + links for completed ones under the cut

If you want me to draw something, send in an ask :]

Take my other art as an example of what I can do. But also feel free to ask me about something I haven’t drawn before and I’ll try my best.

I tend to do multiple versions with different backgrounds but not always

I’m absolutely willing to redo any of the flags I’ve already done.

Every post will be tagged to the best of my ability, if you know any other tag a post should have please tell me :]

Groups of 2+ will include #queer planetary system or #queer koi pond

To do list

(I am always taking requests, but right now im going through something also these are taking a while)

!!!! Very subtle !!!! Nonbinary, lesbian, ace (stars) planet.

Faeflux flag

koi: graysexual bi genderqueer

No current projects :]

Completed

‼️‼️ A lot of these are old and don’t represent my current skill level. I am 100% willing to re-do any of the drawings I’ve already made to make them better ‼️‼️

Key:

🪐 #pride flag planets 🐠 #queer koi 🫙#pride potions 🌳 trees ☁️ clouds/fog 👾#arcade rug 🌼 #mandala ❓IDK how to categorize these

Individual

(Alphabetical)

🐠Abrosexual

👾Abrosexual

🐠Achillean

🫙Achillean

🪐Agender

🐠Aplatonic

🪐Aro Neu/Neu Aro

🪐Aroace

🌳Aromantic

👾Aromantic

🌼Aromantic

🪐Asexual

🌳Asexual

☁️Asexual

🫙Asexual

❓Asexual

🌼Asexual

🪐Autosexual

🐠Autospec

🪐Bigender

🪐Bisexual (no rings)

🪐Bisexual (with rings)

🫙Bisexual

👾Bisexual

🐠Demiboy

🐠Demigirl

👾Emojiself neopronouns

🐠Gay (mlm)

🐠Genderfluid

🪐Genderfluid

🫙Genderfluid

👾Genderfluid

🪐Genderqueer (no rings)

🪐Genderqueer (rings)

🪐Girlboy

🪐Intersex

🪐Lesbian

👾Nebularomantic

🐠Nonbinary

🪐Nonbinary

🐠Omnisexual

🪐Pansexual

🐠Pansexual

🐠Papyrusromantic

🪐Polyamorus

🐠Polyamorus

🪐Queerplatonic Relationship / QPR

🐠Queerplatonic Relationship / QPR

🐠Quoiromantic / WTFromantic

🐠Sapphic

🪐Transfem

🪐Transfemmasc

🐠Transgender

🪐Transgender

🫙Transgender (corked)

🫙Transgender (pouring)

🌼Transgender

👾Transgender

🪐Transmasc

Multiple

(Ordered from least to most recent)

note: planetary systems are named by their planet, and moons are in parentheses

🐠Aroace (Aromantic and Asexual fish with Aroace moon reflection)

🪐Transfemmasc (+Nonbinary, Trans, Genderfluid, Genderqueer)

🐠Lesbian + Asexual

🐠Bisexual + Asexual

🐠Aroace + Demigirl

🐠Bisexual + Non-binary

🐠Lesbian + Non-binary

🪐Bisexual (+Demisexual, Demiromantic)

🐠Bigender + Genderfluid

🐠Lesbian + Oriented Aroace

🐠Pansexual + Oriented Aroace

🐠Bisexual, Demigirl, Greyace

🪐Lesbian (+Asexual, Oriented Aroace, Aromantic, Nonbinary)

🐠Aroaceflux (aroaceflux, aroflux, and aceflux fish)

🐠Aroace (Aromantic and Asexual fish redraw)

🌳Aroace (Aromantic and Asexual split trees, some with Aroace background)

🐠Greyromantic + Asexual

🐠Aroace + Nonbinary

🪐Aroallo (+bisexual and quoigender moons)

🪐Transgender, Asexual, Aromantic

🐠AAA (aromantic, asexual, agender)

🪐Aroace (+demigirl rings)

🐠Transfem + Greyrose

🐠Transgender + lesbian

🪐Aroace Genderqueer (+genderqueer rings)

🐠Aromantic, Asexual, Genderqueer

🐠Pansexual + Agender

🪐Lesbian (+greyasexual rings)

🪐Transgender (+lesbian rings, asexual moon)

🐠Panromantic, Asexual

🐠 Aroace, Transgender

🐠Pan ace

🐠Bisexual, lesbian

🐠Lesbian, Agender

🐠Sapphic, Transmasc, Intersex

Fandom

(Probably won’t make a lot of these)

Generation Loss: Showfall Media supports all of our viewers

Deepwoken: Asexual Sharko

Deepwoken: Genderfluid Sharko

[goodxgraces]

marauders headcanons by me

remus: he's bi and uses he/they pronouns, i think he realized during third year when he got turned on seeing frank shirtless. he probably has a preference for boys and he discovered he liked sirius nearing the end of their fourth year

james: he's pan and cis. he always thought he was straight because he was obsessed with lily but when remus came out to him in fifth year he started asking questions about the lgbtqia+ community and he eventually realized the gender of his partner didn't really matter to him. then he developed a crush on regulus and asked him out

sirius: in my opinion they're non-binary and use they/them pronouns. they always knew they were not a boy but repressed it because as we all know orion and walburga are awesome parents. they had a crush on remus since third year but didn't realize because everyone feels like that about their bestfriend right? right?!?

peter: i think peter is straight but ace, he never felt sexual attraction in any way towards anyone. he always knew but didn't think there was a word of it, he overheard remus talking about it with james and tried to find information

lily: she's bi but at first thought she was a lesbian, found out really early, in second year, and the first one she came out to was marlene

marlene: raging she/they lesbian, never understood what her friends liked about boys like what's so special about them?? have you seen girls?? GIRLS?? almost fainted the first time she saw dorcas, and got distracted by her multiple times during quiddich matches (there was a year when gryffindor lost almost every match against slytherin because james, marlene and alice were completely head over heels for their crushes)

mary: she started questioning her sexuality after literally all her friends turned out queer, she realized she liked boys and girls, but maybe even non-binary people? but she doesn't like labels

regulus: he's trans, uses he/him, and is very much gay. he was jealous of sirius because he could wear shirts and ties and boyish clothing while he was forced by walburga to dress super femenine. he came out to sirius at seven and they obiouvsly supported him. so regulus lended his eyeliner to sirius, who gave regulus his old clothes

evan: deeply gay but didn't realize because of compulsory heterosexuality, in love with barty since forever but they're both so dumb they noticed their very obvious (to everyone but them) feelings in seventh year

barty: just as oblivious as evan, he had a "oh. oh." moment and suddently understood everything, doesn't use labels

dorcas: hated marlene, but always talked about her "i hate mckinnon, and her beautiful face, and her mouthwatering abs, mckinnon this, mckinnon that", all the slytherins in her year were making bets about how much time would it take her to realize she was absolutely smitten

pandora: she's aroace, just as xenophilius, and they have a cute qpr relationship. but since she wanted to be a mother they decided to adopt luna

frank: he's the only cis and straight person of the friend group so obviously he's a huge ally

alice: they're pan and go by they/them. had a relationship with narcissa but broke up with her because she accepted lucius's proposal, and later they fell in love with frank

narcissa: she's an ace lesbian, but was forced to marry lucius even though she was in love with alice

that's all folks thanks for coming to my ted talk

[talisidekick]

The hardest thing about being queer and learning what that means is learning that the people against you are projecting their faults, their evil, onto you.

You hear talk about the "gay agenda" and the "trans agenda", and no matter how hard you look, you won't find one. You look because all your life you were told how to be straight and how to be cisgender, so there has to be something telling you how to be gay or transgender. You look so you can know if it fits for you, but there's nothing.

The cold and damning truth is that there is nothing telling you how to be gay or trans, because the only agenda out there is to tell you how to be straight and cisgender. The straight and cisgender folk against you have an agenda to shame, mock, and belittle you into being straight and cisgender like them. They'll hurt you to make you like them, lie to you, lessen what you feel, and give every reason to tell yourself you're mistaken in who you know you are. They'll call you "pedophile" or "molester" or "rapist" or "groomer", because that's what they do. They'll protect parents that harm their own kids, pastors that harm children, absolve anyone who harms women and men on their side, and teach kids there's only one way to be which is blindly obedient and silent.

They can't understand how their opposition is nothing like them. That we hold our own accountable, even if it will set us back. We don't defend people who do wrong because we don't hide when one of us fails or fucks up. We don't have a plan to turn cisgender and straight kids gay and trans, because we don't want people to not be who they truly feel they are.

Learning to be who you are, to embrace being queer, means learning that it is fundamentally nothing like being straight and cis. And it means learning that you, thinking this is going to be easy, will have trauma to go through. But you're not alone.

I personally have begun to understand the power behind the third A behind Aromantic and Aasexual. It's Ally. An Ally isn't just someone supporting Pride as a cisgender and straight person outside of it. Being an Ally and at Pride can also mean that that person is on a gender and sexuality discovery themselves. That straight and cisgender doesn't have to mean what they were taught by an oppressively patriarchical system that is heavily misandrist and misogynistic. Cisgender people can learn from Transgender people how to be more comfortable in their gender, and vice versa. Heterosexual people can learn from Gays, Lesbians, Bi's, Pan's, Poly's, etc. how to be more comfortable in their sexuality, and vice versa.

Pride is a protest against the Heterosexual and Cisgender agenda of grooming, shaming, aggression, and assault that it's supporters normalize. Allies are fighting this too. This is about freedom to be yourself and not attacked for existing in a way that's different from a mould others would enforce.

Whether you understand it or not, being an ally can be a form of queer, because they're trying to change what it means to be heterosexual and cisgender. They're trying to stop the norm being bigotry and hatred for those the express their gender and sexuality differently. Not everyone that fits the cisgender/heterosexual description fits the enforced societal mould.

Learning to be queer, to be yourself, means also accepting others experiences and admitting that you know absolutely nothing because you were lied to your whole life. Sometimes the lies are easier to see, othertimes you miss them entirely and need a second, third, etc. take.

The most profoundly queer moments to me have been watching a lesbian teach a straight man how to love and understand women, a trans man teaching a cisgender man how to be confidently masculine, a straight woman telling a fresh out-of-the-closet gay man good pick-up lines/conversation starters, and a straight woman teaching a trans woman how to braid her hair.

Our opposition can't understand how we can be so different, and yet so accepting of eachother without some way of enforcing that acceptance through manipulation. That our greatest strength is our diversity, because to them, any difference is problematic.

[lizardbytheriver]

Communists must be Trans Supportive

Communists and Marxists have a responsibility to stand up for the oppressed. That includes Trans People. We should not make the same mistakes we have made with Gay People. Castro and Cuba were historically horrible towards Gay Folks (both Fidel and the Cuban Government have gotten better and look down on their previous actions). It makes no sense to want to repeat those mistakes. Being bigoted, discriminatory, and erasing minorities should not be something we emulate. We need to understand that Trans People, Gay People, and the whole LGBTQIA+ Community are oppressed. Many are oppressed on a Class Level. But all members of those groups are oppressed on societal level based on their sexual orientation, romantic orientation, gender presentation, and/or gender identity. And in societies that are impacted by Western Colonialism and Imperialism that has historically promoted Transphobia, Homophobia, Racism, and Bigotry. We should not elevate the worst parts of the Communists that have come before us. Communism embraces the spirit evolution, growth, and development. There was a point in time when Communists called Homosexuality a bourgeois issue and perversion. Something coming from the rich, decadent, and the exploiters. But we have seen Homosexuality in Rich, in Poor, in Communist, in Capitalist, in the Global South, in the Global North, in the natural world, in every race, in every nationality, in every ethnicity. We have seen that no matter what, Homosexuality is not disappearing. It is not something that only impacts the bourgeois. For the proletariat is made of so many Gay People, Lesbians, Bi People, etc. Why must we repeat the same mistakes? Why must we repeat the same mistakes towards Trans People. We thought that Gay People were unnatural and could be changed. We learned that was dead wrong. We now think that Trans People are unnatural and can be changed. It is makes no sense. We are seeing that Trans People, just like Gay People, are societal reality and are a true group of people. People that are being oppressed, exploitative, and harmed especially by Capitalist Systems. If you are Communist, you must be actively fighting for the oppressed. And that includes oppression on a Class Level, but oppression in regards to race, sex, sexual orientation, romantic orientation, gender presentation, and yes, gender identity. Embrace the spirit of Growth, Evolution, and of Communism. Instead of falling for reactionary bigoted opinions and goals.

[tekra-brings-the-rain]

happy pride month to everyone who is ace, aro, bi, enby, lesbian, gay, trans, or somewhere in between. If you are out, I’m happy for you that you have support, if not, I hope you can find someone you are comfortable with to share it, or you can not share it, that’s fine too. I’m happy for all the neurodivergent and disabled queer, you are different and beautiful. Be kind to queer folk, compassion is the best rebellion in a compassionless world

[titathepixie]

Enid Sinclair’s not your friendly lesbian metaphor

okay, I wanna talk about Wednesday. the show, not the character. cause I wanna talk about Enid, and how she's kind of a terrible metaphor and why you need to think your metaphors through.

Before I start: spoilers for pretty much the whole of Enid's storyline, but big spoilers for episode 5 and onwards. Trigger warnings for mentions of conversion therapy, family issues, general bigotry, and my ranting and reading into things. (Also, when I use the term 'queer' it's meant to every lgbt+ identity)

Right, so Enid's being a werewolf but not fully wolfing out is clearly a metaphor for her being queer in some way or another, and also mixed with a metaphor for puberty (that's not inherently bad, and actually mixing those two together make sense. It's not unusual for queer people to have realised in teen years that they're queer, or at least for it to become hard to ignore).

Originally, Wednesday assumes that Enid has fully wolfed out - which can be read as Enid 'passing' as cishet.

When Enid tells Wednesday that she hasn’t fully wolfed out, she mentions being scared of not being able to find a pack or a mate - worries that aren’t unique to the queer experience, but pretty common amongst queer folks. I don’t think I have to elaborate on how scary it can be to come out to your family, or the potential consequences, but I’d like to mention that I have read trans people talking about having to worry over whether potential partners will accept them (or potentially fetishize them), and I’ve felt similar worries as an ace person. There’s also the part of bi/pan-phobia that’s focused on how we make bad partners because we’re supposedly inherently untrustworthy, or great sex partners cause we’d love a threesome. Yes, this can happen within the queer movement too. (Remember, Get The L Out is a transphobic organisation started by lesbians who want to oppress trans people, and villanise especially trans women.)

Enid also mentions that she’s been to a lot of specialists, further linking fully ‘wolfing out’ with puberty.

Personally, I think this supports an ace reading pretty well. While it still might work as an aro metaphor, Enid does show romantic attraction, so aro would only be a metaphor, so I’m going to focus on it as being an ace reading of her lycantrophy.

The thing is though, within this universe, it’s the not being fully wolfed out that reads as a queer metaphor, not the being a werewolf. She asserts herself as a werewolf (despite the introductory ‘this kitty’s got claws’ line) and it’s part of how she fits in at Nevermore. Within this world, where we hear teenaged werewolves gleefully howling at the moon, being not fully wolfed out is a metaphor for being queer (potentially being too queer within a gay community, or being queer within an otherwise marginalised community).

This is further evidenced by the fact that when Enid’s mother tries to get her to agree to go to a werewolf conversion therapy summer camp (yep, that’s, that’s a thing here), she says the line “Don’t you wanna wolf out and finally be normal?”

This is not subtle. Within this universe, not wolfing out is the queer(or queerer) thing. All the ‘regular’ wolfed out werewolves are basically the cishets (or maybe gays and lesbians), and all the writers had to have known this in order for them to reference conversion camps. A place where absolutely noone is encouraged to be their ‘true self’. (Or the just thought it was a nice way to add family drama, cause who the fuck cares, right?)

Now, I can’t tell really you about media’s general use of the werewolf metaphor, even if I can tell you about its viking counterpart, so I’ve decided to rely on other people knowing what they’re saying, when they say that it’s often used as a metaphor for, essentially, wanting sex. Or other primal urges. This would, if true, then be a clever way to use it as a metaphor for being ace, since, while varied, aceness is generally about not having a great urge to do the do. (Again, asexuality is varied, we’re talking in very simplistic strokes here. Some aces do want to do the do in (maybe in certain circumstances), and that’s cool too).

It would also be very cleverly done in that it’s placed within a community that, while outcasts, can on occasion be gatekeepy. (Think of all the debates about whether or not trans, bi, pan, ace, aro and/or intersex people should be included in the LGBT+ community). So, while Enid would very clearly not be accepted by the normie society on account of being a werewolf and having claws she can pull out at a moment’s notice, she also doesn’t fit into the werewolf society, on account of not being ‘werewolf’ (i.e. queer) enough.

So far, this all seems acceptable. Clever, even. The conversion therapy reference is a little on the nose for queer representation, but it’s still legal in some places, so clearly attention still needs to be paid. It’s also very frustrating to, again, see queer metaphors in a piece of media without queer characters (fine, there are background queer people. But since I can’t remember Eugene’s mothers’ names and the other potential couple I spotted don’t even speak, I’m not counting them.)

Here’s where it falls apart:

Enid wolfs out.

Now, you can argue that it’s worry over Wednesday that makes her wolf out, which would give rise to a sapphic reading. I even remembered it as that, but then, rewatching the scene, yeah, she’s going through the forest looking for Wednesday, but honestly, it seems more like it was the moon or just random happenstance that did it. There’s nothing reminding her of Wednesday (yes, she’s holding Thing, who is associated with Wednesday, but whom Enid clearly sees as their own person), or making her think that Wednesday is in immediate danger, anymore than just the overall situation.

Rewatching the clip where she finally transforms mainly reminded me of someone going to the bathroom and suddenly realising that they just had their first period, while maybe they’re also dealing with general stress of a big presentation (or in this case, a missing friend and classmate).

I don’t know where this puts Enid (though maybe it’s because I don’t really want to acknowledge that it becomes a very “well, you’re not ace anymore, you just had to grow up!” situation, because that ... is what it feels like) or werewolves in general as metaphors, especially since the show in general doesn’t seem to know where to put outcasts in general. Nevermore could be an example of those of marginalised groups who, while they do have certain advantages (mainly money, in this case), are still marginalised and despised and have to walk the balance of being ‘normal enough to be accepted, but still other’ (the admonishment of ‘don’t make waves’ sounds pretty similar to ‘don’t be that queer’). The world would need to be filled out more (preferably include some outcasts who aren’t wealthy enough to send their kids to a fancy boarding school and help fund an entire town) to better portray marginalisation (the whole thing about hydes also confuses the entire metaphor. Supposedly they’re too violent just by nature, but also the violence is only at the urging at others, and, seriously, you have created a group - ‘outcasts’ - to be a stand-in for reallife marginalised groups, and then you add a type that’s just, too violent to have around?? please don’t do that.)

Look, the short of this is, if you’re saving a character from getting sent to a conversion camp, or your world’s version of or metaphor for one, by having them ‘not need it’, that’s bad. You did bad with the metaphor. I would like to ban you from metaphors. You should have someone follow you around and ready to spritz you with water if you try to do a bad metaphor again.