#stop and reevaluate

[aeb-art]

note: the following is three (almost four) years post-game

okay fine i'll just draw comics for my au since writing is so dang hard smh

anyways welcome to two coins! where loop shows up again but siffrin only got the one hat ending

edit: part two

[sluckythewizard]

FIIIINALLY almost nailed my designs for lizzie and caspian can i get a HEEEELLL YEAAH???? i think these two make a vvery cute duo and i cannt wait to see them again. i also hope they both get hurt reaaaallly really badly. togeter

[dropping-out]

Anybody ever have a rough time watching D20 because Brennan does parenting in such a specific and painful way for people who have complicated relationships/feelings with their parents? No? Just me?

[the-phoenix-heart]

hang on lemme cook. LEMME COOK

Okay so I've been thinking about the stolitz breakup since I watched it last night and the thing I keep thinking about is Stolas saying, "Blitzo, I think so very highly of you...I didn't realize you think so low of me." It is a painful line read, Bryce Pinkham at his very best. And in a way Stolas is right, the fact that Blitzo thinks Stolas would willfully manipulate and play with Blitzo's emotions is a low opinion to have of him. It also makes sense that he sends Blitzo away because he's yelling at him (even Blitzo's cadence sounds a bit like Stella). However, I think Stolas misunderstands where Blitzo is coming from.

We know Stolas is aware of the power dynamic between them, and specifically the transactional nature, and that he is aware that it is unhealthy. However, I think Stolas only understands that transactional part as the unhealthy bit. Stolas (in "Full Moon" and "Just Look My Way") focuses on the "unspoken contract" and how tethered they are to each other. He thinks by giving Blitzo the crystal and semi-confessing (Stolas never says the words "I love you") it means they will be on even ground and Blitzo won't feel like he has to whore himself out for Stolas's grimoire (something he needs for his business so he can live). Then Blitzo can actually choose to stay with him or not. But he doesn't understand that even without the grimoire there's the inherent power imbalance on the hell hierarchy level.

Stolas says in "Just Look My Way", "I don't care that you're of lower station" and that's because he doesn't. But that doesn't mean Stolas is an imp ally. Stolas has never indicated that Blitzo isn't just the exception. Just in this episode Stolas was seen making life harder for his imp butler, and then there's the scene in "Seeing Stars" where he is holding the imp butler holding the phone and squeezing him when he gets pissed. His interactions with Moxie and Millie also don't really make it seem like he cares that much about them as people. Blitzo isn't wrong when he calls out Stolas's treatment of his butlers, or when he says that Stolas was dismissing him in a way that felt disrespectful. Even him putting his hand in his face feels like how he would dismiss a servant.

Throughout the entire conversation Stolas is very cordial, very genuine, and very respectful of Blitzo's emotions-right up until he takes Blitzo's response as a rejection-but even then Stolas always has the power in the conversation. Even when he is being emotionally vulnerable, he is still the one controlling the conversation. He's the one stressing Blitzo out with it. Even when he gets on his knees to put the crystal on Blitzo's glove he is technically taking the choice away from Blitzo to choose it. And then his reaction to Blitzo thinking it's roleplay is that Blitzo really doesn't want him is to completely shutdown emotionally and not listen to Blitzo.

And Blitzo is not wrong for thinking it's about sex. Half of this is Blitzo convincing himself it's roleplay because he doesn't believe anybody could truly love him, but also when isn't it about sex with Stolas? The only times where it hasn't been was after Ozzie's when Stolas offers Blitzo to come inside (which Blitzo did not believe and did not react well to) and arguably the Harvest Moon Festival where Stolas invites him, which Blitzo honestly could have misconstrued as Stolas wanting to bring his sidepiece with him. You could also make the case for "Seeing Stars" but that episode has them falling back into horny during a mission they are both participating in. And as I pointed out in an earlier post how is Blitzo supposed to realize how highly Stolas views him? Stolas has called Blitzo his "impish plaything" and covered his face at Ozzie's and has generally been condescending to him ("You are so cute when you are serious"). We know that Stolas is desperately in love with Blitzo and would do anything for him, but Blitzo himself has never really gotten that confirmation.

Hell, Blitzo is actively doing what Stolas wanted. His reaction to Stolas's semi-confession by thinking it's roleplay is specifically proof that he does want to keep this up, even if he doesn't realize the feelings behind it. And then later he is specifically trying to have a conversation with Stolas and process what's going on ("Let's go!" As in "let's have this conversation!"). The fact that Stolas sends Blitzo away when he himself starts crying, when Blitzo has been on the verge of tears throughout most of this conversation proves that Stolas is not ready to have this uncomfortable conversation. He was only ready for Blitzo to either accept or reject him, and he thought that their issues would be fixed.

"Blitzo, I think so very highly of you...I didn't realize you think so low of me." No, it's not that he thinks so low of you, it's that he has almost only seen the outrageously horny part of you, that he's more aware of this power dynamic than you, and is rightfully calling you out for how you fumbled this confession. You clearly love Blitzo, you have the right idea, but you still have these inherent biases and are unaware of the power imbalance, and you need to reevaluate some things.

This isn't to absolve Blitzo of the part he played in the breakup, but since Stolas took the initiative and almost always people are more willing to take his side, I feel he needs to be held more accountable.

[thefastestclockintheuniverse]

"No but thanks for offering" Kankri you're the biggest bitch I've ever met.

[locria-writes]

Pathetic wet dog of a man or utter Bastard(tm) the two types of Locria men

i wanna refute this, but unfortunately, it's true

[mariuspompom]

why are they like this

[flango87]

“We can’t just put our lives on hold!! we need to live and enjoy life!” Can’t enjoy life if you’re dead! Hope this helps

[invinciblerodent]

there really is a horny little freak (affectionate) out there for everyone

[houseofmcallister]

Btw, west coast and northern leftists.

The reason you’re losing people to the right is because of your vitriolic lack of empathy. Theres a LOT of systemic class and education issues in America, especially down here, that contributes to the politics of the south.

And you calling the opposition dumb and evil for not fully understanding things is pushing them further to the right. You cannot be this mean. You’re losing people because you guys refuse to educate and meet us where we’re at.

Also inisiting everyone south/east of your northern/west coast state is racist/homophobic/evil is part of the reason no one fucking likes y’all down here. Because you don’t fucking like us and keep insisting all of US are the worst.

Maybe stop doing that. You catch more flies with honey.

Sincerely,

A Texan

[bismuthburnsblue]

im a little worried that theres some slight puckering on the outside layer, but im hoping thatll go away when i steam it (or at least when its curved around the body)

ive also thread matched too close to the sun and you literally are not going to see a single boning channel on this, huh? i dont think doubling up my line of stitching will help either.. oh well! not the end of the world, it wasnt something i particularly planned to have anyway, theyre just usually pretty visible on my projects

(i can report the temporary fabric glue parted like butter for the bones, 10/10 would recommend)

[rcbertleckie]

I have yielded entirely to it tbh 😂 the lone comfort I have is that he is number two in my top three of MotA faves

honestly at this point you gotta stop fighting it and accept the predicament this man put you in

..... he is my number four?? i think??? like as much as he is making me suffer he would never overtake bucky rosie and alex BUT THATS ACTUALLY WORSE?? somehow?? bc what do u mean a man fourth in line is making me this insane like what the hell

also wait wait!!! if HE is number two.... whats the order here? is rosie or demarco the first? or am i like wayyy off?

[anonymusbosch]

if i have to redesign a part from scratch starting at noon in order to hit an "end of the day wednesday before thanksgiving" release date, the drawing will have the world's dumbest dimensions on it. badly. I'm sorry I don't make the rules

[foxgirlmoth]

Yknow correlating being into incest with being a trans woman isn't as cool and progessive as you might think. Its almost like you're spouting shit transphobes have been saying for ages! Being a trans women does not make someone into incest or anything else actually.

[mothbeasts]

sorry everyone I need to get serious for a second. fuck qelbree it no joke ruined my life 💙 and also I hate psychiatrists (one psychiatrist specifically) (the one who put me on that medication)

[smartzelda]

I almost hate that I wrote up this example now because I'm noticing this phenomenon of overreaction even more often every day now