#spousal privilege

[a-passing-storm]

A thing that I found out that I think is interesting (fucked up) is that the US Supreme Court doesn't recognize any kind of parent-child or familial evidentiary privilege. It recognizes spousal privilege, but not familial privilege. I think that's so fucked up!

(Also, this was from a really quick search. Don't take this information as the absolute truth or anything.)

[marthashlyn3]

[fortheloveofexy]

if andrew and neil ever got married, it wouldn't be for tax benefits (they're both rich from careers in exy, what do they care about taxes) or hospital visitation rights (they're already each other's emergency contacts and legal power of attorney, they don't necessarily need marriage for that).

It'd be for spousal privilege, so they can never be forced to testify against one another in court.

[natsudragneelgf]

NEVER kill yourself, your french husband will send you a handwritten letter in beautiful stationary and an Aegon Targaryen II pin

@philcollinsenjoyer I LOVE YOU SO MUCH

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[oscarpiastriwdc]

when i call fernando my war criminal wife i mean we got married so we didn’t have to testify against each other in court 💕 true love

[bad-re-takes]

lots of people assigning wife and mother status to a woman who rejects the idea of wife-ing and mother-ing

[unopenablebox]

sorry for upholding societal structures by thinking about getting married

[serethereal]

💒 hello my darling angel etc etc can i get a song

[lesbiancolumbo]

my olicharles marriage farce fic and my sidjay fake marriage fic are my two most popular so is that your guys' way of telling me something

[cesium-sheep]

people stop conflating compulsory (often forced) polygamy with consensual polyamory challenge

(although I genuinely appreciate this mainstream mormon lawyer who just said "polygamy is really not the problem anyway. it's the secondary crimes that occur in a closed religious society controlled by men.")

[lovenonymously]

I knew this was going to happen because the number of reels I saw on this series spoiled it for me, but OHMYGOD nothing could've prepared me for As Good As Dead Part II NOTHING😭

girls dont want bad boys, they want a man who will immediately help them pin the murder they committed on a serial rapist

[frownyalfred]

the “We should get married so we can’t ever be forced to testify against each other” trope except it’s Bruce and Clark as a catch all for any/all crimes committed by Bruce (as a vigilante) Clark (usually as a party to vigilantism, but also all the lies/forgery to look human) and both of them (money laundering, fraud, etc committed to create and fund the Watchtower).

Because if one identity gets found out, it’s not hard to connect the dots. And if it ever came to a trial, or a military tribunal, no one would see spousal privilege being invoked by Batman & Superman coming. Not from a mile away.

[c0ncretehands]

I am constantly reminded that this man is NOT trustworthy and that he could very well be a *********

[trans-androgyne]

Yes, trans men and mascs have historically been subjected to less public violence and ridicule than trans women and fems. Is having privilege really the only reason you can think of for that? Have you considered that they had less ability to be publicly visible in the first place? Please remember that the lack of autonomy women have historically been granted also applies to transmascs. They would have been considered the property of men. Spousal rape wasn't illegal everywhere in my country until 1993. How easy do you think it would be for forcibly impregnated transmascs to transition? For abused transmascs in general? Do you think they were all even allowed out of the house often without a man? There are so many stories of transmascs being forcibly institutionalized for being trans. Is that situation and otherwise being quietly abused and erased really so much better than hypervisibility?

[ibringyouasong89]

My friend and co-worker (we work in retail together) was directly impacted by this. Her boyfriend works for UPS and was almost out of a job before the negotiations were finally agreed upon. My poor friend was riddled with anxiety and highly stressed out because they depend more upon his income to pay rent, bills, and help buy food for them. She had been trying to convince him to look into working for DoorDash, as a driver, while the strike was going on (had the contract’s deadline not been met and Teamster and UPS not come to any agreements). She obviously was not going to tell him to cross the line and work while hundreds of thousands of people - including his friends and co-workers - were all out, still on strike, over things like air conditioning units for the trucks, better pay, better work environment, and more work-life balance needs being met.

I sat and watched, read and highlighted, and prayed with her about the outcome of these meetings between the UPS and Teamster's unions. I talked her down when the stress was mounting as the deadline’s date got closer and closer. When the news came out that the negotiations had gone well and the contract renewed, I found out before her, and texted her the good news. She was in disbelief and basically googled to see if it was true (which it obviously was/is) and then proceeded to hug me, when she’s not a touchy-feely person (like me), out of sheer relief and exhaustion. Like, she doesn't even do high-fives, even when she's happy (it's cool, I respect that).

AND THIS IS WHY UNIONS ARE SO IMPORTANT!

Yes, they are obviously, and incredibly, NECESSARY for the workers…but they are also incredibly necessary for the FAMILIES of those workers too. It’s 2023 and we are still having to fight the fights so that blue/brown-collar workers deserve fair treatment and pay…but we also, as a nation, DESERVE to have unions of every kind so that ALL WORKERS, of whatever-colored-collar-they-wear, get the same equal pay, rights, benefits, environmental and technological upgrades, AND PROTECTIONS that is afforded to police, EMTs, teachers (or soon-to-be-one's like me), postal service workers, mechanics, carpenters, electricians, plumbers, etc.... If not for those professions, unions would be non-existent, and once upon a time, it was UNIONS that brought forth such a change to Americans and working life, it became a song decades later. "Working For the WEEKEND," by Loverboy. Look it up; it's a good, catchy song from the 81'. That’s how remarkable and life-changing unions can be.

This has literally been the “Summer of Strikes” and, in all honesty, I hope to see more because it’s time for this nation of hardworking people (no matter the shape and color of the collar; class, gender, non-gender, sexual or religious identity, or ethnicity) to get what they deserve! It’s time to organize and unionize! PSA: Also, start looking into CREDIT UNIONS...which are better, and safer, than banks!

#Everything is better when it's part of a union or unionized #Because it's FOR the people #BY the people #OF the people

UPS has reached an agreement with the Teamsters union to equip its iconic brown delivery trucks with air conditioning for the first time for new units.

The agreement, announced by UPS on Tuesday, comes as the delivery giant and the International Brotherhood of Teamsters negotiate the terms of a new contract for more than 330,000 U.S. employees. (source)

Unions work, unionize.

[txttletale]

can you explain family abolition in a few words?

sure. there is no one unitary 'family abolitionist' perspective so be aware that i'm explaining this as a marxist and not as an anarchist or a radical feminist.

basically, "the family" is a social construct rather than a fixed self-evident truth. the family has been created and can be shaped, altered, or--indeed--abolished. this is evinced by the broad anthropological and historical record of radical transformations in what constitutes 'the family' (cf. clans, the extended family, the nuclear family). viewing the family as such opens it up to critique and also to the concept that it could be replaced with something better (in much the same way that, for communist and anarchist, refusing to accept the timelessness / naturalization of the bourgeois state opens up new horizons of political thought outside of engagement with electoral politics.)

among these critiques of the family are:

that it is a tool of patriarchal control over women and children by creating an economic dependence upon spouses / parents

ergo, that it enables and causes 'abuse' -- that child abuse, spousal abuse, and intimate partner violence are not abberations of 'the family' but in fact a natural consequence of its base premises re: power and control

that it serves as a site of invisiblised economic labour (e.g. housework)

that it is a tool of the capitalist (formerly the feudal) economy's reproduction of inequality via e.g. inheritance laws

that it serves as a site of normalization and reproduction of hegemonic ideology--i.e. that it is the site where heteronormativity, cisnormativity, gender roles, class positionality, & more are ingrained in children

among solutions family abolitionists propose to remedy it are:

the total dissolution of any legal privilege conferred by romantic or blood relationship in favour of total freedom for any group of people to form a household and cohabitate

the recognition of housework, the work of childrearing, & the general tasks of social reproduction as 'real' labour to be distributed fairly and not according to formal or informal (feminized) hierarchies

the economic and legal freedom of children--(i.e., allowing children unconditional access to food and shelter outside 'the family', allowing children the legal right to informed consent and self-determination)

similarly, the emancipation of women from economic dependence on their partners--both of these can only really be achieved via socialism (as marx put it, 'women in the workplace' only trade patriarchal dependence upon a husband for patriarchal dependence upon an employer)

communal caretaking of children, the sick, & the elderly

yeah. i know. this is a lot of words. its not few words. sorry. it's a complex topic innit. this is a few words For Me consideri ng that i've got a long-ass google doc open where i'm writing up a whole damn essay on this exact topic.

tldr: the family is not inevitable, it is constructed & can be replaced with something better. full economic freedom from dependence on interpersonal familial relationships for everybody now. check out cuba's 2022 family code for an idea of what this could look like as practical legislation.