#specs and sex

[specs-tacularmen]

“Why do I ride buck naked?

Why else… to feel my hard cock flappin’ in the wind!”

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[agrebel18]

saw someone on here the other day say that we don’t need aromantic and asexual representation in media because that’s a “sanitized” identity like BITCH WHAT????? IF YOU CAN ONLY SEE ASPEC PEOPLE AS CHILDREN THAT IS A YOU PROBLEM.

[neptune-scythe]

I bring a certain repulsed aroace vibe to the fandom that most people don't appreciate

[bizarreaizen]

i will always dislike the stereotype that cisgender men are just beings who only think / care about sex, so my cis men out there who are asexual or just genuinely don't think sex is that important, you are seen and will always be valid :D /gen

[ifwebefriends]

I want aftercare but without the sex part

[morspritt]

Can I interest you in some AU JonGerryMichael?

(They need a new name, STAT.)

[the-great-kraken]

if you see a male character kiss a male character, you assume they are gay.

if you see a female character kiss a female character, you assume they are a lesbian.

if you hear a character say they don't feel like their gender, you assume they are trans.

so why do a-spec characters have to jump through so many loops?

a character saying they've never had a crush or don't want a relationship or that they don't understand romantic love is so often ignored or used as fodder for other queer or autistic headcanons (reinforcing stereotypes that aroace people are secretly gay or always autistic)

why is it that our stories are always "up to interpretation"? why do we have to wait for the words aromantic or asexual to be said to be taken seriously? why is it that even when characters say they don't want relationships, fans will scream and cry about sex/romance favourable aspecs and qprs?

when it comes to gay and trans characters, even the likes of bisexual lighting is often treated as though it canonises their sexuality. for aroace characters, even the most explicit coding possible is swept under the rug in favour of other "interpretations"

i'm so tired of fighting for representation just to have it ignored and minimised by fans. let characters be aroace. please.

[melovibes57]

I’m sick and tired of having to explain to people that i’m not interested in sex because i’m asexual, NOT because i’ve been brainwashed by purity culture. 😒

*I’m also sex positive but apparently it’s not possible to be sex positive and have a disinterest in sexual activites at the same time. 🙃

[specs-tacularmen]

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I’m too sexy for my pecs!

Too sexy for my pecs!

Just sexy for sex!

[januscorner]

Reminder that not everyone thinks being attractive is a compliment and it makes a lot of people uncomfortable. Not everyone wants to be "hot" or "sexy"

[spicy-dragon]

Thinking about a-spec Zoro as always and I just think it’d be really fucking funny if Sanji decided to withhold sex because Zoro pissed him off somehow only for Zoro to be wholly unaffected by it meanwhile Sanji is getting more antsy as the days go by until he finally blows up at him like

Sanji: WHY AREN’T YOU MAD THAT WE’RE NOT HAVING SEX??

Zoro, putting his weights down: Huh? What are you talking about it’s only been— *counts on his fingers* Oh.

Sanji, seething, spitting, ready to tear his head off:

OH?

[oxymoronicdumbass]

yes, i am aroace. yes, that person is hot. no, i did not mean that platonically

[pet-shop-of-horror-fan]

Sure you're sex positive but are you normal about aroallos?

[newttxt]

oh you ship lawlu ROMANTIC FR??

ANON… I…

[bizarreaizen]

aromantic and asexual cis men seriously need more recognition, they've been told that being a virgin above the age of 18 is weird and that all cis men are p0rn brained and they've seen that romance and sex is very important to a man and you need to have it or you're confirmed "lame" "boring" and a "virgin loser" /gen

[sweetdreamuwu]

Also yes, of course you can let your aro characters date or let your ace characters have sex, just keep their identity in mind while writing them.

Here are some guide questions I'd personally keep in mind:

How do they feel towards the conpect of romance/sex? Repulsed? Neutral? Postive? Or does it depend on the context?

If they have little to no attraction, any other reasons they might want to engage in romantic or sexual relationships? Do they think sex is fun? Are they looking for companionship? Do they just enjoy the conpect of roamance?

If their attraction is context based, like demiromantic/sexual, how do these specific context impact the way they expiernce relationships and or attraction?

And sooo many other things, this is just a quik overview. This all has alot of nuisance of course.