#repulsed aroace

[neptune-scythe]

shout out to repulsed aces and aros who have no safe spaces in fandom because it's just everywhere you turn and it's in all the fanarts and all the fanfics and all the posts except for like ... 5% TOPS.

shout out for enduring the horrors every day for the few rare posts that have nothing to do with sex or romance

[countrysavageofficial]

“Alastor is just ace!”

Nuh-uh! Whips out proof that he is also aromantic/repulsed aromantic:

[colorful-craze]

I think my funniest aspec headcanon is Disgust from Inside Out. I mean HEAR ME OUT yall are sleeping on her being a repulsed aroace! Her color scheme is green and purple. I think she’s definitely a repulsed aroace icon 🏳️‍🌈

[angieblogging]

can we talk about the fact that even when a character is canonically/confirmed aroace there will still be allo romance and allo sex/smut written by them? *rant below*

yes aros can date and aces can have sex, but have it ever occurred to the allos that maybe repulsed aroaces or those who don’t want to date or fuck or even allos who don’t want to do those activities deserve to be represented and respected in media?

It will always be „it’s not confirmed!” „comics/og piece of media isn’t the new piece of media!”, but the moment it is confirmed it’s always „they could be *insert any aro/ace spec identity that feels romantic/sexual attraction.” or „but aros can date!” „aces can have sex!” „qprs exists!”

The point is people who say that mainly like 99% of them are allos, straight, bi, gay, lesbian, they’re still allos, they’re allos and they don’t understand how it works, so they write aroaces in romantic and/or sexual relationships where they portray them as allo, they write qprs, as a romantic/sexual relationship, while not fully understanding what a qpr or how such relationships are navigated, they don’t understand that a repulsed aromantic wouldn’t date, because dating implies romance and how does one that’s uncomfortable with it would engage in it? same thing goes for repulsed asexuals.

it hurts that people will always find a way to excuse ship an aro/ace character, to erase my sexuality, it feels like that one time i talked with my mother and she told me that whatever i choose to do when it comes to dating is up to me, that she will accept me no matter if i date men or women and i felt a spark od hope so i asked what if i won’t date anyone? to which she said i will, cause everyone eventually does.

they don’t care that by saying all those things they’re hurting actual people, aros who don’t want to date, aces who don’t want to have sex, allos who don’t want to have those relationships as well or even those who don’t want qprs, as no qprs are not to replace romance for aros or sexual relationships for aces.

[productofaritual]

The amount of laughter I held in after our social studies teacher said we'd be talking about romantic relationships and the amount of facepalms I got from my friend (who I'm out to) when I slipped and laughed

[fivetrench]

Ridiculously specific thing that I go through basically weekly

[galimatiaskosmos]

I'm feeling strange.

I can’t form connections with people; I can't feel anything for anyone—neither sexually, romantically, nor affectionately, nothing. It’s as if I have to build my own world from scratch, surrounded by a bunch of animals who only think about sex, reproduction, forming families, and having partners.

This has never affected me; being alone has never bothered me. The only thing that has bothered me is that when I need help, I won’t have anyone to lift me up or protect me.

Lately, seeing people have intimate relationships on TV has begun to affect me deeply. It never bothered me before; I would just skip those scenes or ignore them.

I’m trying to find the reason for this. It doesn’t seem like trauma, it doesn’t seem like disgust or aversion… I think it might have to do with a kind of… adjustment disorder?

It’s like I’ve finally realized that most people are different from me, completely different. This feels like a punch in the stomach because while others know what they want in life, know what to do, I have to learn everything on my own, I have to build my own path.

It’s as if I’m the only illithid/devil among animals. They are born, survive, have sex, start families, have kids, and die. I am born and survive, don’t feel the need for a partner, sex, children, or family. But it’s not just that; they bombard me with this constant message: be born, survive, have sex, make a family, have children, and die.

I feel out of place when I see a series/movie/media where characters fall in love and have sex—whether for fun or in a relationship—because it reminds me that I’m out of place—the only devil/illithid among animals.

No, I don’t feel lonely, and I don’t mind being a solitary and virgin person. I also don’t care about finding a friend or a lifelong companion to have sex with or whatever; I just don’t care. Yes, I’ve touched grass, I’ve gone out to live the world, and I’m enjoying life now.

I just wanted to vent, and I wrote this to try to understand this bad feeling I get whenever I see two characters have sex or fall in love in media.

Interacting is exhausting; people are so foolish and irritating, so sensitive. They are just another form of temporary entertainment for me, something to pass the time and calm my boredom from ADHD.

Even the people I like (or at least those I feel closest to), they eventually tire me out, like a toy that stops being fun, or they abandon me for their boyfriends/partners.

It’s a constant boredom, but I don’t mind being alone, I don’t mind having someone or being alone in life. I think what I’m looking for in life is just to feel good—both with myself, because I know I’m different from most people, and to reach a state of well-being—something to alleviate my constant boredom or at least soften it.

For the first time in my life, I’m seeking my well-being; I’m looking for health and trying to escape my toxic family environment. I don’t know what the solution is or if I’m just being dramatic. It’s the first time in 20 years—since I was born—that I’m getting to know myself completely, understanding who I really am, what I am, and that maybe—just maybe—I’m different from most people in many significant ways—seeking companionship, friendship, empathy, remorse, sexuality, mind…

It’s the first time I’m understanding… and recognizing… that I might truly be an illithid/devil among animals in heat—or maybe just a very sick and traumatized human because of the abuse I suffered in childhood (or maybe both).

Whatever it is, I don’t know, and I’m trying to find pleasure in life, trying to live. Maybe I’m like that guy—the psychopath who was considered the most friendless man in the world/the most solitary—since I suspect I have psychopathy/sociopathy/ASPD—for many factors I intend to discuss with my psychologist.

This is my venting—and an attempt to understand why suddenly seeing fictional characters having sex/romance makes me feel sick—and I’ll leave this here for people who might feel like I do. I wish happiness for everyone—especially those like me, who go against the masses/are a minority—and I hope I can live well one day, both with myself and with others.

[rotting-brains]

Hopeless romantic repulsed AroAce

(READ MY DNI BEFORE USING)

For when you're an hopeless romantic but you're also aroace, and repulsed by the idea of a relationship.

This hatred towards relationship but love of romanticism, makes you twice as lonely, as you feel you'll never find someone to share your fantasies with, and those same fantasies make you feel guilty for calling yourself aroace, and may cause you to spiral as to why you're aroace and repulsed in the first place, which can often be triggering.

Intended for people who are aroace and repulsed because of trauma, but not limited to them. Any repulsed aroace can use this.

[purplespacekitty]

as someone who knows the comics better than they know Riverdale, i can confirm that, this would have made more sense originally, too.

Reggie is basically the main deuteragonist of the Archie Comics: he is often pitched as Archie’s rival for Veronica (and sometimes Betty) and any other girl Archie shows an interest in, however, he is still considered part of The Gang. he can be quite conceited and immature, but when it comes down to what really matters, he’s a good friend and would rather not genuinely hurt Archie, Jughead, Betty or Veronica.

in this sense, the open/polyamorous relationship Archie, Betty and Veronica exercise gains a fourth person. whether Reggie is actually interested in Archie or Betty is irrelevant because he dates Veronica almost as frequently as Archie does and clearly has a strong enough attachment to all of them to call them pals.

which is also why i feel that Riverdale actually did pretty well with Reggie, all things considered. that conceit, pranking and teasing as well as showing up for the others when it really matters was all kept as part of Reggie’s character. obviously, things between him and Veronica are different, but still occupies this ever-changing frenemy space in The Gang’s group.

plus, the Archie/Reggie bromance was for sure going strong for a while there. and it’s not like Jughead wouldn’t have still been a part of The Gang. it’s the way it’s been for over 80 years already.

Hey guys I love polyam representation as much if not more than the next guy but why didn't they make Jughead the repulsed aroace that he is why didn't they make Jughead the repulsed aroace that he is why didn't they make Jughead the repulsed aroace that he is why didn't they make Jughead the repulsed aroace that he is why didn't they make Jughead the repulsed aroace that he is why didn't they make Jughead the repulsed aroace that he is

[welcometo79s]

The best way I can describe to an allo person how you feel about sex as a topic as a sex-repulsed or averse asexual is that it feels like a hype that never ends. As though Despicable Me came out and everyone around you was sending minion facebook memes to each other for years to come. The stores are full of minion themed products; they're in ads and your friends talk about them all the time. And deep in your heart you're like "I'm glad that they're able to enjoy something I personally don't like and am not interested in :3". But there is always this little voice in the back of your head that's like "If I have to see ONE MORE of these little yellow FUCKERS today then God help us all." You make an active choice to communicate only the former.

[h4zardousch3micals]

By the way "some aroace people still date and have sex" and "it's weird how internet spaces makes every single aroace character romance and sex favourable" can and should co-exist. Sincerely, an aroace person

[neptune-scythe]

I bring a certain repulsed aroace vibe to the fandom that most people don't appreciate

[countrysavageofficial]

After Reading an Essay on Mammon being a Great Ace Representation, now I’m Scared on what People will think when Octavia shows signs on being an Ace Demon.

Since the recent Helluva Boss episode “Sinsmas” released, I wanted to make a post about my worries of the fandom when they see Octavia showing signs of her being asexual in later episodes of the series. “Vivziepop said that it is okay to ship him with whoever,” some people in the Hellaverse fandom said when it comes to pointing out to these fans that Alastor is repulsed aroace. “Mammon shows some horrible asexual representation,” some people in the Hellaverse fandom said when it comes to pointing out to these fans that Mammon shows great asexual representation and that asexuality does not equal aromantism. “Octavia has a while to figure out who she is because she is too young to even be asexual,” is what I’m worried that some fans would say when it comes to pointing out to these fans that Octavia is asexual and is not “too young” to even be asexual. If fans were to ever say something like that, then I will tell them that people, (and even other characters) that are Octavia’s age, are old enough to figure out who they really are based on their gender and sexuality. I get it that some people Octavia’s age have a long way to figure out who they really are, but with Octavia, she is old enough to know what asexual means and is more than likely going to stay as an asexual demon because that is who she feels like she is on the inside and always and forever will be. I want to know where Octavia is in the asexuality spectrum, but I wouldn’t find out in later episodes of the show and I hope that the fandom can respect her sexuality and all.

[fun-k-boards]

If I ever make a book it's going to be so painfully aromantic and asexual that any allos reading will die from a heart attack because of the lack of romance and sex

[weepingfireflies]

I'm actually not particularly fond of the romance/sex-favorable/neutral/repulsed division as, like, a permanent identity for me because somedays I'm frolicking in romance and smut & other days I want to explode the world if I see ppl even mention a ship at all. I think it's good for a lot of people, but it doesn't really work for me unless I'm feeling repulsed or neutral or favorable

Edit: Everyone who saw this that was wondering if there was a word for this: I've been informed about the term sex/romance-ambivalent. I suggest searching it up. Thank you to the people who mentioned it, but please stop trying to label me. Whether I decide to personally use it as a label is up to me.

[cosmicredcadet]

The response to "ace people are just virgins who can't get laid!" Shouldn't be "ace people can still have sex!" but instead " being a virgin isn't a bad thing."

The response to "aro people are just heartless freaks!" Shouldn't be "aro people can still feel love!" And instead be "not feeling love or other emotions doesn't make you a bad person."

Instead of pushing the idea that aspec people can be "normal like allos" we should instead be trying to normalize aspec experiences. Yes aspec people can be normal because aspec identities are normal. Some aros fall in love. some aces have sex. but they should not be the only valid aspec experiences. We should not use these experiences to make the aspec identity more palatable to amatonormativity and allos.