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where's my award for hiding my daily panic attaccs
#im getting my shit together#getting 8 hours of sleep daily#showering daily#writing diary#attending classes#socialising sometimes#reading books#and yet still falling apart at the easiest trigger#escaping to bathrooms to take deep breaths and calm myself down#and full body shaking#hollow crying#if someone from my real life sees this#no you didn't#tumblr is my void#i post stuff and woof it disappears
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Been thinking 'bout Fresh lately
If you guys didn't notice I got high on crack through the middle of this
#sans au#utmv#undertale au#dream sans#blueberry sans#reaper sans#Geno sans#afterdeath#sanscest#Reapertale papyrus#POODLE!!!#Also context for the Afterdeath part um god of death it isn't easy finding love#I've been planning to draw the idea way too long and um it still it just turned into crack#I'm on crack#I'm tired#and WTF am I supposed to do I do not know how to socialise I used to meow??#vrchat isn't as fun as it sometimes is#and how do I socialise btw#someone shit on my passions earlier so like I don't think#I had a sleepover at school so I'm free today??#um yeah sobbing motivations not motivating RAAAHHHH#AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA#dream is so pretty#AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
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my thing is, i want to talk to people. i want to be good at socialising. but i've never really had much practice, so i don't know how? i don't know how to carry on a conversation. it makes me nervous and anxious and makes my stomach hurt and it tires me out. i would love to have a constant back and forth. it'd be swell lmao
unfortunately. i cannot and it's confusing. i want to talk, but i can't. and i also don't want to? mental illness cocktail gets in the way
like earlier i was going to speak to people, i'd typed a couple messages out!! but i figured they wouldn't want to talk to me which is fine i know that's likely just the anxiety. so then i thought "i know, mitigate the risk!! i'll ask if people want to chat about a specific topic with me so they have to opt in" and then panicked because that would mean people would talk to me? which is what i wanted? LMAO
confusing and irritating, so i made a meme
#anyway... weird post but sometimes writing things out makes it easier to have to think about it#also it's my blog so i can do what i want u-u#anyway i'm trying to understand myself and how my brain works to try and make things better and easier!!#but it's not very easy lmao#and socialising is one of my biggest issues#it's terribly needy but i often need people to outright tell me if they like me or are ok talking to me#it's why i've never really infodumped i think i panic that i'm just... talking over people or boring them#same with social gatherings like i will not assume i am invited to participate unless explicitly told#which confuses a lot of people in my family i think#finnie shouts into the void
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me @ my pain flared self that got up at 7:30am: you know you could simply. not go to a party at your best friend‘s place with a whole bunch of people you don’t know who will probably be loud and drunk in the middle of the night and instead simply go to sleep and hopefully wake up not aching
also me: :) maybe socialising will cure the pain and the tireds :)
#i’ll report back. this is a bad idea. i should stay home. but also i wanna go there. but also i wanna sleep.#im the world‘s most tired person. who’s also aching. i took some ibu and that’s gonna mesh so well with the imminent alcohol :)))#in my defence tho socialising sometimes does cure the pains and the tireds#fingers crossed ig!
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feminist literature ruined my life
#joking#but I’m not#ruined my life in a way where I’ll see the system of sexism and racism everywhere….#like I don’t bring it up I’m not annoying like dat but sometime I hear men say shit and I’m like o.. o… yeah.. we experience life different#based on gender socialising as kids
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went to an interview today and some parts were very nice but one part that had me looking for beef was me saying 'some people find me intimidating because I like to read' and that if I got in, I was looking forward to meet people who intellectually challenge me, and the interviewer went 'oh but are you going to just read and ignore people?' and the other went 'how do you know the other participants will be what you hope what if other countries are ✨ less stringent ✨ than Singapore and don't have our selection processes' which is just so silly because 1. I read to listen to people who write, and obviously if an interesting person is in front of me I'd set aside the book, and if they're insecure in themselves why am I supposed to approach them? they just assumed right off the bat that I am stuck up, wrong, I just want to talk to people who are confident enough to hold a civil conversation without making me tone myself down for them, it's my greatest wish actually. 2. He's saying that Singapore is the literal best country and we're going there to represent the best?? we're there to internationalise why are you saying I shouldn't have high hopes for other people?? then why would I even want to go??? and the kids going there are way more amazing than me which I know firsthand from research and communication with them on the discord server u didn't even know about! I brought cookies to the interview!! why are you assuming that I am not socially adept and that I am shy simply because I don't like talking to Every Available Person Around??! lack of reading comprehension in these guys. I don't wanna be elitist or rude but it is a fact that there r ppl u can't get along w because they include u for the sake of inclusion which is absolutely insulting and then there are lovely beautiful people who are nonetheless scared by you and it's important not to freak them out by pouncing on them.
#i steam in anger#this is a big thing for me because all my life through primary and secondary school i was told how i ought to socialise and people acted#like i was being difficult and hard to work with#i felt like i took up space that no one wanted to give me#'just play nice'! insert name is hard to get along with aloof and she should Socialize More!#It wasnt until this year that i had a teacher who actually wrote me a nice non backhanded letter of referral#who understood that sometimes i wanted to be alone and was cool about it#i wasn't socially inept and i made friends when i wanted to! I wasn't some kind of handicapped person#no one should have treated me like i wasn't doing enough by not smiling and being introverted#no one of you ought to have acted like i had to change myself to fulfill your expectations#i felt so looked down on#so pitied#it disgusts me#then and now i am disgusted#i will not cripple myself because other people think i ought to bear a load#i will not make friends to appease you!#that wouldn't be sincere#it wouldn't be fair to either party#you talk infantilizingly#i abhor being told to play nice; to *shrink*.
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Sometimes I just want to explode in delight and wonder at the fact that all these cool people let me bother them with my silly headcanons and AUs like I CANNOT EVEN.
#lil is a sap#my mother has told me I bore people more than once okay#(also that I’m terrible at interpersonal relationships and socialising)#(my bio father told me I was inherently abusive when I was four)#i just…it is so hard sometimes and then it’s like PEOPLE LIKE MY STUFF????)
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me watching other phans talk about dnf and act as if it's terrible and gross with the 2k dteam images on my phone shoved up my ass (as well as countless fics)
#why me. WHY ME#ghost woes#vent#venting#neg#negative#tagging a lot just in case anyone doesnt want to see me rant out of nowhere. dorry#this is why i only trust other dream stans istg 😭#sometimes im not even sure why i bother to socialise with ppl online. (only applies to outside of dtblr space bc i only feel comfy here)
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kind of annoys me sometimes how I can happily listen to my roommate explain the entire plot of whatever she's currently into but when it comes to my interests she can only listen for a few mins before wordlessly walking out of the room
#ive only slept 4 hours and its a sunday so im probably just cranky and getting irrationally annoyed idk.#but i wanted to talk abt revenant gun bc im enjoying it and havent gotten to discuss it w anyone :-(#i dont wanna post on here bc i dont wanna see spoilers and i dont have anything to say that other fans would find particularly interesting#ik half the arcs of the veilguard characters despite the fact ill never play it bc i like listening to her + hearing her opinions#but damn i guess she doesnt gaf shes got better things to do. im not being fair i get we jusr socialise differently n thats fine.#and ik its not true but sometimes i feel like she doesnt like being around me very much bc shes always halfway out the door#and she doesnt suggest we watch shit together anymore n has turned me down the last few times ive suggested it#but ik shes doing shit w other ppl shes always calling n playing games n stuff w other friends so well maybe its a little true#and she acts so strange around me sometimes like she'll move to the other side of the room if i go open the fridge or whatever#like damn girl im not gonna fucking bite u. whats up with the constant 5ft distance. bc u dont ever do that with other friends just me.#and then it pisses me off when it sort of comes up as a side thing to smth else bc it ONLY ever comes up around other ppl she'll never#bring it up directly with me and she'll blame it on me as if we havent had this conversation multiple times where ive explained exactly#why im weird abt shit sometimes and where my boundaries are and what i would like and then nothing at all changes#like last time she brought it up around another friend she was like oh well we can hug more if u want like no we fucking cant bc u act#like we're magnetically repulsed u hate me being in ur space and only tolerate it when we're around other ppl which is why it makes ME#uncomfortable when she does try to be physically affectionate or whatever bc she 100% exclusively does it in front of others#like man u dont have to put on a fucking performance??? or even worse do it just bc u feel guilty abt leaving me out i hate being pitied#even if ik i very obviously do get hurt at being left out. but thats my problem man i would never fuck w someone elses boundaries#i hate hate hate when ppl have inconsistent conditional boundaries and never communicate what the fucking conditions are so theyre#constantly moving the benchposts around and acting unpredictably like how am i supposed to know where they are!!!!!! please#snd then so embarrassing to pointedly say its bc of MY behaviour in front of someone else like oh ok. u couldnt have told me this before.#in private so we could actually communicatr. sorry this has gotten so off track im feeling so gross this morning and everything is#frustrating me im so tired i feel nauseous ughhhh#okay well anyway. got my list of tasks lets just focus on this shit instead before i spend yet another sunday miserably ruminating#.vent#im not actually mad at her or anything like i said we just socialise differently we have different incompatible flavours of autism#and thats not her fault but its just so frustrating that we cant seem to communicate very well. i think im allowed to be frustrated#anyway yeah sorry im leaving it im leaving it. i should go polish my boots before i shower
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It frustrates me to no end that everyone I talk to someone new my brain catastrophises to the point where even though I know logically it’s fine, and normal, and fun, I end up making it a bigger deal in my head that I know it is…I think myself into spirals that the logical part of my brain knows are ridiculous and dramatic and improbable, which stress me out more than is entirely necessary…it’s so tiring to exist and participate in the social world sometimes
#personal#night time ramblings#the potentially autistic side of my brain really comes to party when I begin a new social relationship in any capacity#my analytical brain is not compatible with the lawless wasteland of socialising with someone new#gonna just ramble a bit about this situation here where I don’t have to make a lotta sense#I’ve been talking to a guy I’ve known for many year but never been properly friends with#we were in the same friendship circle when we were teenagers#but in different groups#we’ve literally been talking again for maybe 5 days#it’s taken me a few days to be more or less certain that our conversations are more than 2 sort of old friends catching up#like I think we’ve been flirting a little we’re going to go for a drink maybe he jokingly called me babygirl earlier#it’s been nice to be in that talking stage with a guy but without the awkward first few conversations where you’re getting to know the basic#I’ve always thought he was a nice guy our political and moral leaning have always been pretty similar he’s alright looking#that’s the extent of it#but of course my brains going haywire#scripting conversations I need to have if this become serious#wondering how hell react to less fun things about me physically or personality wise#wondering if and when we’ll ever have sex and if hell be any good 😂#trying to work out if hell get on with my family#like the whole 9 fucking yards#and it’s so fucking silly#like it isn’t that deep in the fucking slightest#it has the potential to be#and if it’s not it won’t be that upsetting to me#I’ll be a bit bummed out for a day or 2 and that’s it#I know myself well enough#but in the moment my brain always speed runs times everything could go wrong reasons it could fail reasons things will never succeed for me#and it doesn’t help that almost every romantic partner or potential I’ve ever had has proved this dumb shit right#but at what point does it become a self-fulfilling prophecy?#I sometimes think deep deep down I’m just a hopeless romantic hidden under layers of cynicism and emotional repression😂
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first week of uni and I've met so many people. Some less awesome and a few so absolutely fucking awesome, I wanna know them forever! Like, you know when you just click with people? BC damn, I love that feeling:)
#university student#university#Leipzig#Lehramt#teachers#queer#ftm#transmasc#The one trans dude and I decided that we're brothers#We are very similar#it's so fun#Sometimes socialising is worth it people#Seriously
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Bryce met his classmate Aminah who was part of the Brainiacs. He wanted to join so he could manage studying time and meet with other like-minded people. Half way into their studying, Bryce got a text from Billy telling him about a house party and to invite anyone he knew....and so he invited Aminah and Freddy!!
Join the Brainiacs Group while at Uni ✅️
#ts4#sims 4#ts4 gameplay#ts4 legacy#postcard legacy#this guy being a bad influence already he wants to socialise haha#they were like hell yeah screw this term paper!!#postcard gen 2#bryce reichmann#aminah hussain#freddy daley#also its a change from being not all square#sometimes it looks better not to squeeze everything into squares#and i told you its a new gen new start so ill list the goals#i wish i did this for freegan but i hate eco lifestyle so its ok#see how it looks for a few posts consistency am i right lmao#but im so indecisive might switch back uhhh ill stop rambling
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this is why no one at work knows when my birthday is <3
#i also usually try to take a week off over my birthday so i don't have to socialise but they blocked that week off this year#also yeah people do really do that. sometimes they're so insane that they COME IN on their DAY OFF to bring these assholes CAKE#i would literally rather die#rayrambles
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I got too absorbed in some work, and turned around to find that the particularly temperamental Tepig I’m looking after had scorched all of the snacks I’d bought myself to ashes… I guess I didn’t feed her fast enough for her liking!
I love all Pokémon equally, regardless of their looks, personality, or troubles. But...when it comes to snacks, I can't help but be a little disappointed when one of my oh-so-carefully looked after Pokémon fosters decides to destroy them. -_-; Yes, this has happened multiple times...
#i know it would be more responsible to choose either my job or my studies but i love both too much!#//yes I understand that I have long breaks between posts.#//a combination of insecurities and mental health and writers block#//but at the end of the day these blogs are kind of just for me#//im not really good at socialising or interacting#//but yknow! it makes me happy sometimes#rotomblr#rebecca: foster fables
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gotta start my s2 rewatch
#also one of my fave youtubers made a vid on dghda??#and she agrees with a lot of my takes abt the rowdy 3#like martin already an adult when he was first in bw and vogel being so much younger the reason r3 went nuts in bw#look sometimes i feel like the fandom doesnt agree with this#especially martin being well into adulthood#even tho it makes sense???#hes much better spoken so he likely was socialised a lot before taken into isolation#cross and gripps were likely much younger so they arent well spoken#also;;; making martin gripps cross all the same age as children in bw together#yet somehow martin is the only one whos somehow well spoken#it uh.... looks really fucking bad 😬
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why is making new friends as an adult so hard
#that last!!! friendhips that last at least for months!#preferably years#like i joined this whatsapp group and all#but socialising is so hard sometimes#where is 2k22 me she was so outgoing and fun#delete
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