#sexologist

[tiny-enthusiast]

getting older and learning more about my sexuality is so refreshing, especially as someone going to school to be a sexologist. i’ve suspected that i’m on the asexual spectrum for years but i’m finally learning to accept it for what it is and love myself for it

saw a post on here that said “there are asexuals who enjoy or even love the stimulation of sex but have no actual need or craving for it; its just like any other activity to do with someone and can easily be replaced with literally anything else” and i just felt so connected to it, nobody has ever understood when i’ve tried to explain it

[whats-in-a-sentence]

The finding by sexologists in the 1950s and 1960s that women's sexual intimacy with women occurred so frequently as to be considered a 'normal' expression of desire was widely ignored by doctors and psychologists who only met professionally with women troubled by their feelings – not those who were living happily in loving or sexual relationships with other women.

"Normal Women: 900 Years of Making History" - Philippa Gregory

[shahirani]

Over the years, sex therapists have been working with many people who are looking for a perfect, wonderful and dreamy relationship like the one they see in movies. But I have to say that this is not the case, such things should only happen in movies.

In real life, sex can be complicated and even frustrating. Usually, when a couple goes to a sex therapist, they are a little angry, and this anger is completely normal.

Since their expectations of sex are not defined and they may have argued and fought about it many times or had sex.

I give these 10 tips to all clients, all students who participate in sex therapist training courses, and anyone who wants to improve their sex and make it look like the movies to some extent!! As basic and basic recommendations.

1- Use your senses.

Use all your five senses to become fully aware of your body. Instead of thinking about what you can do, explore the feeling and pleasure that you can have in the moment.

Doing so will decrease your sex drive. This exercise will help you reduce the fear of having to know everything about sex.

2- Expand your definition of sex. Try intercourse without intercourse

Sex is more than penetration. For more variety, try sexless intercourse, which can be anything from kissing, touching, touching, to any kind of flirting. Searching for different pleasures to orgasm.

3- Know the common love language

When things get complicated in the bedroom, focus on your strengths. It is very easy to find fault and get angry when sex is not required. Instead, spend time getting to know your preferred methods of attribution.

Complaining usually happens because someone feels like they can't do it. So learning your partner's love language (whether it's gift-giving, affection, or taking out the trash) can help you build a foundation for sexual intimacy.

4- The main advice of all sex therapists: compare your partner with others.

Avoid comparing your partner with your former sexual partners, no one likes to be compared. It is compared to creating tension and negative reaction in sex. Instead, try making memories together! Plan your nights together to make sure you spend time making new memories.

5- Be a body detective.

Be curious about your body and your wife! Think of it as an exercise in looking for them to make you feel sexier. All these exercises will help you to teach your partner how to touch you more easily.

6- Know your limits

If you know what motivates you and how much time and energy you have to devote to yourself and your partner, you will feel less pressure and better able to find a relationship that creates your ideal.

7- Play

Relax and play together. The relationship does not necessarily have to be serious

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8- Decide to be close

Take time for yourself and your partner or, simply put, don't be busy with other things. To keep a relationship alive, you need to spend at least an hour exploring the bodies of the team and the adult game week.

9- Put the phone aside and rest a little

To be comfortable with your body and active in the bedroom, you need to be fresh. Stop checking Telegram and Instagram and devote your waking hours to exploring and discovering your sexual pleasure.

10- Have a plan for the relationship.

All sex therapists should advise you to plan your sex. Let go of the misconception that sex has to happen.

Create opportunities for sex. Clear your schedule for rest, relaxation before sex and sexual activity.

11- Don't forget exercise.

Because you need blood flow in your sexual organs, don't forget to exercise regularly. Exercise is needed to increase. Exercising makes you fresher and releases endorphins in your body. Two things that enhance sex.

Summary and conclusion

If these 11 great tips to improve your sex relationship do not help, it seems that there are serious problems in your relationship that it is better to get help from a sex therapist.

[oh-dear-so-queer]

Women's desire for other women was said to be an 'inversion' of their true nature, which was assumed to be heterosexual. The same belief when applied to homosexual lovers led some sexologists to suggest that both lesbians and homosexuals were 'inverting' their natural desires, and they created and named a new third sex called 'inverts'.

"Normal Women: 900 Years of Making History" - Philippa Gregory

[crankycalcifer]

Is this sex thing I want to do "healthy"?

Short Answer: yeah, probably. pay attention to consent and power, what feels pleasurable, and protection against STIs and pregnancy. If you feel good about those things, go for it.

Long Answer: Sex (and gender) have been colonized by protestant, christian religion in the USA. Even asking the question is this "good", "healthy", "correct" uses a cognitive frame where there are morally right options and morally bad options. Sex as a thing is probably morally neutral. But how we relate to sex, how we engage with it, what it means to us, how we use it with others can have some moral elements to it.

Moving outside of a religious context, sex therapists often refer to "The Six Principles of Sexual Health" which combines research on human functioning, psychological principles, and moves beyond restrictive definitions of sex and sexual health. These principles are aspirational (you may not be able to achieve all of them at all times- and that's okay!), meant to be applied flexibly (not rigid rules but more like risk management, harm reduction, benefit maximizers so you can make informed choices), and are open to interpretation and refinement (what works for you may not work for someone else, and that's okay!)

Here are the six:

Consent

Everyone engaging in the sexual experience is aware what is happening, wants to engage, feels like they can give or remove their consent freely, and consents to each part of the experience. This can often mean that there is space and time to check in with all partners during the sexual experience to ensure consent is present and being given. Consent helps to create safety in the sexual encounter which allows those involved to receive what they want from one another and allows themselves to be present in the experience.

2. Non-exploitative

Exploitation refers to the unjust use of power to force someone to do something they don't want to do. In a sexual context, this can include making access to resources contingent on performing certain sexual acts. Money, drugs, shelter, love, affection, attention can all be used as ways of pressuring someone into engaging sexually in ways they do not actually consent to. Threats or actual danger of physical, emotional, or psychological harm is a certain sexual act is not performed can also be a form of exploitation. When there is a power imbalance in the relationship (e.g. you and your boss want to engage sexually in some way) power must be attended to in some way (e.g. if you decide you don't want to have sex with your boss anymore, will that negatively impact your job?).

Exploitation is not necessarily about the specific act that is taking place, it is about the context of the act. Do you (and your sexual partner(s)) enjoy bringing some experiences of pain into your sexual experiences? If everyone consents and has the power to say yes and no, cool! Do you (and your sexual partner(s)) enjoy roleplaying with different power relationships during sex? If everyone consents and has the power to say yes and no, party on!

(note: establishing clear ways of communicating with one another and withdrawing consent, even in sexual play that includes elements of power should be established before engaging sexually whenever possible)

3. Honest

Everyone has access to the same information and that information is communicated openly and honestly. This information can be personal (e.g. sexual orientation, past sexual experiences, sexual interests, etc.), educational (e.g. types of sexual engagement, positions to try, types of lubricants, etc.), relational (e.g. fears, anxiety, things that bring you pleasure). There are different levels of honesty and different people have different personal beliefs about how honest they feel comfortable being with others, their community, medical professionals etc.

Again, not everyone will automatically have the same beliefs about the level of honesty they need in order to feel comfortable, connected, and safe engaging sexually- and that's okay! Having conversations about honesty can help make sure you and any sexual partner(s) are on the same page.

4. Shared Values

There is clarity about what engaging sexually means for all parties involved.

Some questions to explore-

does having sex mean that we are in a relationship?

does having sex mean that we love each other?

do we have any emotional responsibilities to each other now that we have had sex?

will we automatically have sex again (the same kind of sex, different kinds of sex, sex more frequently or more intensely)?

will we provide feedback to each other based on what we did or didn't like?

5. Protection from STIs, HIV, and unwanted pregnancy

Develop a contraception plan (2 means of birth control are often best practice- e.g. condoms and female birth control, vasectomy and condoms, etc.).

Develop a plan to prevent acquiring a sexually transmitted disease and HIV. Examples include: regular medical tests to determine the presence of sexually transmitted diseases for yourself and potential sexual partners, appropriate medical treatment (adherence to HIV medication, use of PrEP-pre-exposure prophylaxis- where medically appropriate, latex condoms), reduction of contact with fluids during sexual encounters

6. Pleasure

Pleasure, enjoyment, and positive sensations are often primary motivators for engaging in solo sexual activity and partnered sexual activity. Exploring what things give us pleasure (while balancing sexual safety and the other principles of sexual health) is a lifelong project. Although we may have conflicting feelings about some of the things we find pleasurable or are interested in exploring, usually these conflicts reflect the difference between what we find pleasurable and what our culture, society, or social group define as appropriate interests.

[edtype]

Sexology Comes Naturally

Talk about Zawe’s interest in the profession of sexology triggered the memory of her appearing on the “Talk Art” podcast with Russell Tovey. In the context of discussing compatible relationships, Zawe shared advice in the form of a favorite John Waters quote: “If you go home with somebody, and they don't have books, don't fuck ‘em!”

[fallingforyourlovee]

~spelling facts~

[whats-in-a-sentence]

The new professional sociologists (all men) discussed love letters between women but – as sexologists – they were mostly interested in women's love if it was sexual.

"Normal Women: 900 Years of Making History" - Philippa Gregory

[yagikidd57]

[dubeyclinic]

Ayurveda Efficient Sexologist Doctor in Patna, Bihar | Dr. Sunil Dubey

What to do if I lose my sexual drive day to day….

If the man or woman is below 40 years of age and is experiencing decreased libido or sexual desire then it is a difficult situation. Generally, it is said that the peak age of women sexual desire is from 30 to 35 and it may be more than 35. The peak age of libido in men is starting from 16 to 24 or it may be more than 24. 

Dr. Sunil Dubey, World famous Ayurvedacharya says that in today’s time, below the age of 40, 10% people are suffering from this sexual disorder. In other term, low sexual drive or libido is known as sexual desire disorder in which a man or woman gets his/her sexual desire lower due to medical, physical, and psychological reasons.

The large number of sexual patients who come to Dubey Clinic and say that they had been addicted with masturbation and this hypoactive sexual desire disorder happens with them. This best sexologist doctor in Patna says that people should quit this myth of masturbation because there are many factors those lead a man or woman to low libido sexual disorder.

Causes of Low Sexual Drive in a person:

Those are the causes of low sexual drive in persons such as- Mental Health Issues, Conflict between couples, Medical Conditions, Aging, Disturbance, Hormonal Changing, Stress of Work, and Irregular of Daily Life. The sexual patients will have to study this problem sincerely why it happens with their sexual life. If they are unable to identify their problems, then they should consult the experienced sexual medicine counselor to get treatment and medication.

Dr. Sunil Dubey is one of the most experienced sexologist doctors in Bihar who treats married, unmarried, male, female, young, and couple sexual patients. He has researched on loss of libido sexual dysfunction, and then he has found that mostly persons are disturbed with their daily and family life. They have become pessimist and their strong will power has abolished due to stress and irregular routine.

Treatment for low sexual drive patients:

Dr. Sunil Dubey is the first Indian gold medalist sexologist doctor who was awarded with Bharat Gaurav and Bihar Ratna Award. He has discovered many sexual medications for sexual patients those are suffering from erection problems, low libido, premature ejaculation, nocturnal emission, sexual desire disorder, sexual pain disorder, and so on.

He says that the sexual patients who are suffering from hypoactive sexual desire disorder, they should not worry too much. It is curable and the sexual patients can improve his libido and sexual desire through Ayurveda Medicare and Natural medicines. The diagnosis of this sexual disorder is based on the patients’ problems. It is obvious that they will have to take nearly 3-6 months medication and follow some guidelines. He provides fully natural medication to the sexual patients to get rid of their problems.

If you are a sexual patients and having any sexual problem, then you should be aware of your health. Just consult the Ayurveda Specialist Sexual Medicine Counselor who has genuine experience in this Ayurveda and Sexology Medical Science. Dubey Clinic always helps all those sexual patients who are suffering from any sexual, marital, or family problems.

Make an appointment with Dubey Clinic, if you want to get rid of your sexual problems permanently. This certified clinic will be helping you from your first call to the ultimate time of medication.

With best wishes:

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[sexologist8787]

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[arthayurvedic]

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[perfect-clinic]

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