crankycalcifer
Queer, Distracted, Probably Angry
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Gender+Sex+Relationship Therapist/Researcher🏳️���🌈(he/they, 30s, Colorado)🏴‍☠️Happy to chat!
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crankycalcifer · 2 hours ago
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This hits.
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crankycalcifer · 2 days ago
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America has a weird relationship with cults where they’re terrified of small cults (or organizations they think are cults) but completely normalized massive cults that hurt many more people (eg: LDS Church, Jehovah’s Witnesses, the Amish, Scientology, most Megachurches)
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crankycalcifer · 8 days ago
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crankycalcifer · 14 days ago
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crankycalcifer · 1 month ago
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REMINDER TO CHECK YOUR BALLS
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crankycalcifer · 1 month ago
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Shark Culling Laws Poster
Designed by Matteo Musci
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crankycalcifer · 1 month ago
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crankycalcifer · 1 month ago
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My theory of adhd management is that in order to focus there are 4 things that need to be sufficiently occupied:
Eyes
Ears
Hands (or body)
Brain
And if you aren’t occupying them enough or there’s too many things demanding the use of one, it’ll start to wreck havoc on your ability to do things.
So for example, listening to a podcast. This occupies your ears and brain as you focus on both listening and processing what you hear, but it leaves your hands and eyes completely without anything to do. If you tried to sit down and just listen to a podcast by itself you’d probably get unbearably bored and stop doing it.
But if you pair that activity with something that uses your hands and eyes, like a craft, household chore, or commute, suddenly you’re fully plugged in and can in fact focus better on both tasks than you could if you tried doing them separately.
It’s also why you can’t listen to a podcast while doing homework; you’re trying to use your brain for two different tasks. To occupy your ears while doing homework (which is already using eyes, brain, and hands) you need something for your ears that doesn’t require your brain: music. Specifically music that doesn’t use too much brain power, which is why some people prefer instrumentals or songs in other languages.
Hyperfixation and sensory overload change this by moving the threshold for how much sensory input you need to be able to function. If I’m extremely focused on a craft project (eyes, hands, brain) I might not even need something for my ears; my interest in the project makes up for it. If i’ve had a very overwhelming day, trying to listen to an audiobook while I do some stretches could be too much to process. My brain needs a break.
Video games, which pretty much universally occupy all 4 areas, are basically instant, easy focus wrapped up in a neat little bow. No wonder adhd-havers tend to love them.
If you’re struggling with a task, try looking at which areas it occupies and which are left unattended. Then try to find something enjoyable to fill those gaps, and see if that helps.
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crankycalcifer · 2 months ago
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I can't keep having the same conversations about love languages, mbti, iq, bmi, "brain fully formed at 25" and shit over and over again...
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crankycalcifer · 2 months ago
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crankycalcifer · 2 months ago
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you picked me
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crankycalcifer · 2 months ago
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Wow. The patience, kindness and calm communication skills. Outstanding.
From raindovemodel
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crankycalcifer · 2 months ago
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"i just feel like boys are easier" -- parent who is going to emotionally neglect their amab kids
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crankycalcifer · 2 months ago
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UBI needs to happen. via antiwork
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crankycalcifer · 2 months ago
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We need to talk more about the transmasculine suicide rate.
There's a common saying that every transgender suicide is a murder, because it is the lack of acceptance in society that leads transgender individuals to commit suicide at such a high rate, this is true of trans men who have the highest suicide rate across all gender identities:
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Trans men are not receiving the support they need, and many of them are not surviving because of this. We need to make sure that mental health support and suicide for transgender individuals is as inclusive as possible for these transgender men who are at the highest risk.
We need to ensure trans men feel safe and welcome within the queer community as isolation is one of the more exacerbating factors on one's mental health. We need to make sure resources for victims of sexual violence are inclusive of transmasculine individuals, who face the highest rate of sexual abuse and yet often have to recloset themselves to find support. We have to love trans men because society shows them nothing but hate.
Check in with the trans men in your community, you may just save a life.
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crankycalcifer · 2 months ago
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Thought both the strips that I had come across separately fit well together.
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crankycalcifer · 2 months ago
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The biggest tyrannical influence on your life is your job. Most of the things you hate in life are mostly how capitalism makes you suffer and feel exhausted.
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