#regardless of who you are and your previous health levels

[oasatelematics]

also it feels like my brain is fried, it's quite hard to gather my thoughts consistently.... it was much worse when my symptoms peaked a couple days ago but i can still feel it lingering

[allaboutthemoonlight]

How to Master Motivation

Hi friends,

Today I want to talk about motivation and finding ways to maintain it in our daily lives. Motivation is a crucial factor that drives us to achieve our goals, overcome challenges, and stay committed to our development.

Understand the locus of control

Our locus of control, internal or external, is the degree to which we believe we have control over what happens to us in our lives. It influences how we respond to circumstances that impact us and how motivated we feel to take action.

An external locus of control is when we believe that our life and the outcomes we experience are a result of external forces beyond our power. We think everything that happens to us occurs because of chance or luck—two things we can’t control.

The key to staying motivated is to develop an internal locus of control. This is when we believe that we’re responsible for the things happening to us and understand that we have control over the outcome. It’s a level of self-determination where we realize our efforts, decisions, and habits create the life we live.

So, how do we adopt an internal locus of control?

The first point I want to emphasize is that, regardless of your perception of how much control you have over your life, the amount of work you put into something is always within your control. The first step is to abandon the mindset that everything is left up to chance and, because of this, you should stop trying. You need to understand that you always have some level of power over your circumstances, even if you’ve been told otherwise:

Be more aware of the choices you make and realize there is always a choice to be made.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help or guidance from those around you.

Spend time self-reflecting and trying to understand yourself better. Reflect on previous instances where you’ve felt a lack of control and write down what could have been done instead.

Don’t be afraid to fail; it’s an opportunity to learn.

Know the different types of motivation

Next, I want to talk about the different types of motivation and how they impact you.

There are 4 different types of motivation, each with their own distinctions:

Intrinsic motivation: This is where you do something because it aligns with your values or just because it’s fun. Although it’s good to have intrinsic motivation, this type is fragile and can be undermined when we start feeling like we’re losing autonomy over our choices.

Extrinsic motivation: This is what most people think of when they imagine motivation. It’s when our motivation comes from outside of us—we’re doing something for a reward or to avoid a punishment. It’s the opposite type of motivation that you should seek if you want to be self-driven.

Introjected: This type of motivation can create resentment or tension. We do something because if we don’t, we’ll feel shameful or guilty. For example, you might go to the gym not because you enjoy it or care about the health benefits, but because you feel guilty if you don’t work out.

Identified: The reason you’re doing something is because it aligns with your idealized self. It’s something that you’ve internalized to be important and allows you to behave in accordance with your self-concept and identity. This is the most important type because it creates habitual behaviors are no longer choices. We understand our identity and that certain habits and behaviors need to be done so that we’re constantly aligned with our higher selves. For example, you might regularly volunteer at a local shelter or organization because you’re someone who values compassion and community service.

So, how can we implement identified motivation more into our lives?

Really try and understand the reasoning behind a goal you want to achieve. Ask yourself “why do you actually want this thing?”. This is also a good time to review your values and whether or not your goal aligns with them.

Constantly remind yourself about why the outcome matters to you because we often forget the reason that we started in the first place. —ex.

Like James Clear said, make your goal, system, habit, or whatever you’re wanting to accomplish more motivating or fun. Beyond that, start associating the reward with the challenge itself. If you’re training for a marathon, instead of seeing the finish line as the only reward, find or fulfillment in the training process and the discipline you developed along the way.

Adopt a positive mindset. Rather than complaining about having to workout in the morning or studying for an exam, start saying “I get to study for this exam and further my education” or “I’m blessed to have a body that works for me and allows me to exercise”. It’s all about perspective and embracing gratitude. If you put half the energy that you use from complaining into figuring out how to take the next step, you’ll accomplish a lot more.

Don’t neglect your emotional and mental health

Slumps are very real, and mental health can impact every aspect of motivation. Self-improvement and changing your life aren’t easy journeys by any means, and there will be times when stress and feelings of being overwhelmed can paralyze you. In these moments, it’s critical to take a break, a breather, or anything that can help reset your mental health. Remember to engage in activities that support your emotional needs. Not every second of the day needs to be spent doing something productive or working toward your goals. It’s okay to take breaks and have rest days; in fact, I think it’s crucial.

Reward yourself often, even for the smallest achievements. It’s not about what you completed, but the fact that you completed something at all. Spend time acknowledging your accomplishments.

Take it one step at a time and remember no action is too small. Starting small is what helps us build consistency in the long run.

Embrace positive self-talk. Avoid talking yourself into a negative spiral, as it will only make you lose motivation and put you in a slump.

Get an accountability partner. Having someone in your corner who will cheer for you and keep you accountable is a game changer.

Stay motivated, stay grateful, stay resilient.

Love,

Luna<3

[andhumanslovedstories]

Hi Sarah (or Sara? I remember you discussing the h but don't remember which way it's spelled). I hope you're doing well on your break and enjoying September. I have a question - how much schooling did you have to do to become a nurse? I'm considering becoming an elementary school teacher in Norway, which would require me to go back to school for 5 (additional) years. Seems like a long fucking time and i didnt do great the first run tbh. It would be free though. Investment in the future seems like it could pay off, so i guess im looking for inspiration from other ppl who have perhaps made a similar plunge

Hi, anon! I wish I could give you some straight up inspo. Instead, I navel-gazed for a while. Schooling-wise, I already had a (completely unrelated) bachelor's degree so I was able to do an accelerated nursing program after two semesters of community college doing the prereqs. I did struggle in nursing school. College has always been brutal on my mental health and nursing is a hard pivot from my original degree (double major history and english w a concentration in creative writing) (you cannot imagine how many books I read and essays I wrote). It took a little over two years in total.

You don't have to don't have to worry about student debt which is so so wonderful. I didn't have to either, and that's let me be way more adventurous with my life choices. The cost of your education would just ("just") be your time, energy, and the potential money that you could earn by focusing on work instead. I had to stick around in my hometown instead of going traveling with Cyrus. I worked a lot fewer hours than I would if I'd not been in school. I had to miss the live airing of the Jesus Christ Superstar on NBC in order to study for an anatomy test which was genuinely so distressing to me. 2018 was a hell of a year for me. (I aced that test btw. It was such an improvement over my previous test my teacher emailed me a congratulations note with twelve exclamation points.)

All of this while people were constantly talking about how shitty it is to be a nurse and how so many of them leave the field within six months. (Similar to teaching in that way, at least in America.) I was doing work I didn't enjoy for a job I might not stick with. There were a lot of times I resented nursing school for interfering with my life.

I'm still very glad I did it. My degree gave me a lot. On the very practical side, my degree has given me more financial freedom and a much higher earning potential. On the idealistic level, my degree has enabled me to do work that I find meaningful. The work touches a lot of things that I find interesting. My nursing degree has benefited my life, regardless of if I stay in nursing for the rest of my career or move on to something new. I didn't like getting my degree, but I don't regret that I got it.

Maybe it'll go way easier for you, maybe it won't be worth it. When I thought about becoming a nurse, it felt like my life plan clicked into place because it ticked every single need I had for a job. I didn't know if it would work out, but the rewards outweighed the risks. More than that, it was the first plan I had for my future that made me excited. I liked the life I pictured if I was a nurse. I've found that excitement to be rare and precious. If teaching gives you that, I'd strongly consider pursuing it.

Besides, you can always use my last-line defense against school despair: being like "fuck it I'm gonna drop out after this semester" and then keep not doing that. You can bail on stuff! It's rad.

[incorrectelswordquotes]

Do you remember when the job progression quests had dialogue cutscenes and difficult quests? Each town had its own gear and you'd have to drop blue-background items to upgrade it. And it was character-specific too. Ice statues had to be crafted, and the ingredients would just pile up in your inventory. There was Unique equipment for every region you had a chance to drop after a boss battle, and it'd be shown in the chat. Plant Overlord's accessory was the top trending thing. Rena was blonde and did a flip when she double jumped. The first field introduced was the one between Hamel and Velder. The level cap was 40 and it was *hard* to get there.

I sure don't miss a lot of this stuff, but looking back, it feels like a wholly different game.

i played around when the game was still like this for the most part, except the level cap at the time was 70? and then over time it jumped to 90 but my middle-school/high-school ass couldn't keep up. actually, i remember seeing the new UI the game has for the health bars and that was already enough to throw me off. not that it looks bad, but i remember seeing this UI for the longest time:

vs this:

like as much as i miss the one i got acquainted with, this new one is a lot simpler and cleaner? yet it retains that cartoony vibe with the slanted bars so thats neat. and then there's THIS:

i'll admit i havent played during this era but man this looks busy af. it was simple yea, but something feels off about it. like i love the look here too but it kinda clashes colors-wise. there's not too much of a difference between the original UI and the one after it but i could tell it needed slimming down.

while i was gone i also learned that the previous privately-hosted server VoidEls was shut down but was eventually replaced by another, which is fair enough i guess.

"Each town had its own gear and you'd have to drop blue-background items to upgrade it. And it was character-specific too."

this was both cool and annoying, for me personally at least. it's cool in that every town having gear gave you a way to progress before getting even stronger gear. sort of like a jumping-off point for every town you got to as they handed you their own version of stuff you could use. and you could emulate their aesthetic by wearing their gear. the annoying part is that constantly switching gear means item management is necessary to prevent your inventory from maxing out, and not every item looked good on you. if you didn't have skins? tough luck. (my memory might be wrong here so please correct me if i messed something up)

"...job progression quests had dialogue cutscenes and difficult quests?"

THEY GOT RID OF THOSE!? maybe im jaded but as a writer, i liked seeing the player-characters' personal struggle as they progressed through a job-specific mission. those short cutscenes let us see what they're really like. even if some of the requirements really were trash. i still remember spamming the same dungeon over and over hoping for a quest drop (or multiple) so i can move on. but after hearing the story was consolidated to be one singular, linear path regardless of who you played, maybe they streamlined the job class progression system too?

update: yea it seems you still have to spam dungeons to upgrade to Master Class but it looks less tedious than before for previous class ranks.

"Plant Overlord's accessory was the top trending thing."

boss accessories were the bane of my existence so this makes sense. it seems like it's unobtainable, as many overworld zones and dungeons have since been removed based on what i just looked up

im assuming Plant Overlord isn't fightable anymore or only shows up in some elite zone now so rip

"Rena was blonde and did a flip when she double jumped."

i didn't know this. in fact when i checked her wiki page, the change was because her hair wasn't green enough despite her class art showing her as having green-hued hair.

speaking of the wiki,

holy fucking shit thats a lot of classes

[multidimensionalguidance]

🌟🩺 Chiron Observations #2 🩻🌟

Here’s a continuation to my previous post of Chiron in strong (conjunction, square, opposition) or soft (sextile and trines) aspects to planetary bodies.

🧠 Mercury 🧠: there is a pain that stems from your communication skills. During early life you might have been silenced and misunderstood. You were not allowed to express freely or felt like you were inadequate at it. There could literally be a difficulty or impediment in speech or thought process. A mental wound that only you understand. Since words were probably used as daggers to hurt you, there might be a tendency of you doing the same when triggered. Any time someone makes you feel inadequate, words will seek to cause the pain you’ve previously experienced. This might hurt you and your relationships a lot until you become aware of this tendency. There could also be wounds formed by siblings or painful interactions with them throughout your lives. This can make interactions with people younger or the same age as you feel like a tedious task. There could be a fear of not being mentally agile enough or as if you aren’t clever enough, which paradoxically could make you focus on it so much that you develop a very sharp mind. If you know several languages, there might be embarrassment associated with how you sound in one of them, and probably because it doesn’t allow you to express yourself as well as you know you could. You might feel like a brother or sister to those around you. You are not behind anyone on a mental level. Your mind is here to heal itself and allow others to do the same just by hearing you speak. Your power is in your voice, and once you’re comfortable with discussing topics related to mental health those that need healing or help will be very thankful for your insights. They will see you as someone who can guide them on a mental level to get rid of any blocks that might not be allowing them to be their best version.

💌 Venus 💌: relationships of all kinds, but specifically romantic ones create many wounds. You might have grown up feeling uncomfortable in your own feminine energy (regardless of gender), values, creativity, and mannerisms. As if nothing seems to be fit for you, and nothing felt right. Dealing with love and feminine relationships was very difficult for you growing up. You never felt fully loved by others nor felt girly or womanly enough when next to your feminine friends. You might have decided to reject these themes all together. Maybe even avoiding all Venusian things, as simple as not wearing the color pink or disliking anything that seemed hyper feminine. You are here to understand that feminine and masculine energy exists within all of us, and it is our gift to express them as freely as we want without feeling stuck or shackled by one or the other. Work on your Venus traits (including those associated to your sign) by trying out bright colors, enjoying self care nights, playing with your style, and indulging into everything that makes you feel empowered in your own feminine energy. As for relationships, this might be a bit more difficult to navigate until you are 25+ and your Venus matures. Love does not have to be a source of pain. Chasing or seeking for someone to love you will only bring more pain, for you are telling yourself that you do not inherently deserve love just by existing, and can only receive it once you seek it outwardly. The more you focus on empowering your Venus, the more relationships will heal. Romance is important, but the love you feel for yourself is far more relevant, and it will dictate the love you’re willing to accept from others. Once you integrate these lessons, being loved by you will heal others. Your love will feel unforgettable to others. They will seek to be close to you just to experience how strong your feminine energy has become, and sit down to wonder how they can learn from you. It will be like going from “I have no idea what makeup is..” to “Everyone keeps on asking me to do their makeup and style them all the time”. That’s Venus and Chirons gift to you on a very superficial level.

🧨 Mars 💥: the painful lessons come from understanding the weight and importance of your action and physical drive. You might be harsh when it comes to these aspects with others, and most likely because its a harshness you’ve experienced from others. Masculine energy in general is difficult to embody due to possible traumatic wounds that have been associated with it. Interacting with individuals who had a lot of it wounded you at some point in your life, either physically, mentally or spiritually. Perhaps in all ways previously mentioned. Learning to heal this energy within you will be a source of strong healing and power. Once you empower yourself in the ways that you use your drive, motivation, and more harsh aspects to achieve your goals, it will motivate and help others heal this within themselves. Life will keep on testing the way you channel this energy to aid you on your evolution, and awake the forces that will let you harbor your spiritual gifts. There might be a likelihood in getting burned and experiencing physical wounds. If you’re someone who embodies a lot of feminine energy, be extra careful when dealing with toxic masculinity. This is something to be mindful in all situations outside of astrology, but I’ve noticed a probability of it being a tad more dangerous for these natives. There is powerful physical healing that comes natural and can be developed, such as Reiki or anything that works towards aiding physical wounds, etc. Might even be really good Doctors if they ever choose to do so, or might be naturally attract or be attracted to being healers.

[phdguides]

7 important tips and advice every PhD student should know

PhD is considered the highest level of qualification and is not for the faint of heart. The difficulties and frustrations are real. You are constantly looking for motivation to keep up with your hectic schedule.

We understand your situation, and to assist you, we have compiled a list of seven essential tips and advice that will come in handy during your PhD journey.

These tips and advice are backed by scholars and industry experts based on their experience, and if you are in the early stages of your PhD, you will be astounded by the information.

So, without further ado, let’s get started:

Read a lot

Read, read, and read some more. This will be a very useful step in creating a research roadmap. Read as many research papers as you can on your chosen topic.

It will provide you with in-depth knowledge of your subject, what previous researchers have done, and how you can begin your own research. By reading other people’s work, you can learn what has already been done and avoid duplicating existing research.

Aside from reading old papers, remember to keep an eye out for new developments also in your field. All of this reading will help you gain a thorough understanding of your chosen subject.

Write more

When you’re reading this much, you should also be writing. Write down your progress, new discoveries, and any other important information you believe is relevant.

It is always preferable to begin writing as soon as possible. Because it will ultimately assist you in writing your thesis. Writing on a regular basis will help you hone your writing skills.

It may appear to be a daunting task, but with practice, you will notice that the quality of your research paper will improve and you will take less time to complete it.

You don’t have to write every day, but try to write at least three times a week, if not more.

Be positive

PhD research is a long and time-consuming process in which you must constantly work on finding new solutions in your field. As a result, if your research paper is not accepted or people do not support your idea, you may become demotivated.

However, keep in mind that these are all part of the process. You will not always be successful. So it’s okay if you don’t achieve your goals sometimes. Concentrate on the good things you have.

Divert your attention to topics that interest you, surround yourself with positive people, take short breaks, and engage in activities that you enjoy.

PhD may appear to be a difficult journey but believe in yourself because you will succeed and your efforts will be rewarded.

Don’t isolate yourself.

PhD candidates frequently become so engrossed in their work that they completely isolate themselves from the rest of the world. They worked hard all hours of the day and night, but the feeling of missing out never left them.

However, stressing yourself may harm your health, which is ultimately detrimental to your research. So take some time to unwind. Connect with others who share your interests and have a productive discussion about your topic.

It will provide you with new perspectives and allow you to connect with people in your field.

Do an internship

An internship can provide you with valuable insight and a deeper understanding of how research is conducted in other environments and what tools are used.

An internship can help you learn a lot. You can broaden your network with other researchers and learn a lot of details. It can be a fantastic way to gain a thorough understanding of your topic.

Reach out to people.

Building a network is critical regardless of what you do. A valuable network can provide you with endless possibilities. Don’t waste the opportunity to meet a lot of influential people and industry experts during your PhD.

Create a strong network for yourself. Reach out to people and have a good conversation with them. Make the most of your opportunity, as a worthwhile network can help you not only in your career but also in your life after your PhD.

Appreciate your small wins

Many students lose interest or productivity halfway through their PhD studies. It can happen because they have unrealistic expectations of themselves.

You don’t have to make the same mistakes in your PhD. Set attainable goals. Appreciate your small victories because they are also significant. You must accept the fact that you will not always be successful. You will have failures, but they will be temporary, and with consistency, you will be able to achieve your goals.

As a result, it is critical to keep yourself motivated and productive by focusing on your progress.

Conclusion

 Pursuing a PhD is a little challenging, but if you believe in yourself, you can achieve your doctorate dream.  The only thing that matters is that you need to stay consistent and focused. Read a lot and try every possible method to learn about new discoveries in your field. Take advice from experts in the field, and your fellow researchers and stay motivated.

https://phdguides.org/guides/

https://phdguides.org/7-important-tips-and-advice-every-phd-student-should-know/

[the-ships-to-rule-them-all]

Details on the SAG-AFTRA negotiations

Wanted to share from the SAG website what exactly it is that negotiations were like, what was proposed and what exactly this fight is about

Performers need minimum earnings to simply keep up with inflation.

Us: We need an 11% general wage increase in year 1 so our members can recover from record inflation during the previous contract term.

Them: The most we will give you is 5%, even though that means your 2023 earnings will effectively be a significant pay cut due to inflation and it is likely you will still be working for less than your 2020 wages in 2026.

Performers need the protection of our images and performances to prevent replacement of human performances by artificial intelligence technology.

Us: Here’s a comprehensive set of provisions to grant informed consent and fair compensation when a “digital replica” is made or our performance is changed using AI.

Them: We want to be able to scan a background performer’s image, pay them for a half a day’s labor, and then use an individual’s likeness for any purpose forever without their consent. We also want to be able to make changes to principal performers’ dialogue, and even create new scenes, without informed consent. And we want to be able to use someone’s images, likenesses, and performances to train new generative AI systems without consent or compensation.

Performers need qualified hair and makeup professionals as well as equipment to safely and effectively style a variety of hair textures/styles and skin tones.

Us: How about consultations with qualified hair and makeup professionals for all performers on set to ensure equity for performers of color, and a requirement to have the proper tools and equipment?

Them: Begrudgingly, we will do this for principal performers, but background actors are on their own.

Performers need compensation to reflect the value we bring to the streamers who profit from our labor.

Us: Consider this comprehensive plan for actors to participate in streaming revenue, since the current business model has eroded our residuals income.

Them: No.

All performers need support from our employers to keep our health and retirement funds sustainable.

Us: Contribution caps haven’t been raised in 40 years, imperiling our pension and health plans. Would you consider raising the caps to adjust for inflation and ensure that all performers, regardless of age or location, receive equal contributions?

Them: Here are some nominal increases nowhere near the level of inflation that won’t adequately fund your health plan. Also, background child performers under 14 years of age living in the N.Y. zone don’t deserve pension contributions, which is why we haven’t paid them since 1992.

Principal performers need to be able to work during hiatus and not be held captive by employers.

Us: These timelines we’ve proposed help series regulars by limiting the increasingly long breaks between seasons and giving them some certainty as to when they'll start work again or will be released.

Them: Take these select few improvements that will only help a select few.

Principal performers need to be reimbursed for relocation expenses when they’re employed away from home.

Us: Drop the ruse that series regulars are becoming residents of a new state or country when they go on location and adequately pay them for all of their relocation costs.

Them: Here’s some stipends which don’t realistically reflect the cost of relocating to an out-of-state or out-of-country production.

(A chart with a full breakdown here)

This was particularly heinous

[thescrumblingmidwife]

what advice would you give to a trans person who is terrified of getting health checks such as pap smears? I'm generally rather touch-averse and that doubled with the dysphoria makes it very scary to think about.

Hi Anon,

This is a topic close to my heart, because I myself am touch-averse and have a trauma response to pelvic examinations. I also want to make sure everyone understands why it's important to get pap smears!

Let's start with what pap smears are, why they're important, and who they are for. Maybe understanding that will be the first step in finding the strength and courage to go through with them.

QUICK ANATOMY & PHYSIOLOGY LESSON - THE PAP SMEAR

What is a pap smear for?

Your cervix is the gateway to your uterus, sitting atop the vagina. It's a thick ring of muscle that is normally closed, opening just a tiny bit for menses to escape (the sensation of the muscle opening is what causes cramps).

Now, the trouble comes when cervical cells have been infected with a virus called human papillomavirus (or HPV) - especially certain "high-risk" strains. HPV is very common in the human population - almost everyone sexually active has had it at some time, with about 50% of infections being a high-risk type. Most people just clear the virus themselves and never even know. But sometimes, this viral infection will start a process of dysplasia (basically growing weird cells), which can be the start of cervical cancer.

The job of a pap smear is to check the cervical cells for dysplastic changes that indicate things might progress towards cancer, or for the virus itself. (What it looks for specifically depends on your age and previous results, but the process is the same for you). When lesions are found early, they are VERY easily treatable. The pap smear saves thousands of lives every year by preventing cervical cancers.

How is a pap smear performed?

A device called a speculum will need to be inserted into your vagina to hold open the walls of the vagina and allow the provider to visualize the cervix. Once this is in place, a soft brush-like device is passed up through the vagina, pressed against the cervix, and swirled around several times to collect cells. This may feel weird or uncomfortable, but shouldn't cause pain. Most people don't feel it at all, the speculum being the worst part. The whole thing takes about one minute.

Separate from the pap smear, the provider may also perform a bimanual exam, which is when they insert fingers from one hand into the vagina while pressing down on the abdomen, to look for masses, abnormalities or tenderness.

Who needs a pap smear?

CURRENTLY (as of 2023), everyone with an intact cervix who is 21 or older is recommended to get pap smears, regardless of gender identity, sexual orientation, or sexual history. Between ages 21-29, you should go every 3 years, and after age 30, every 5 years (depending on results - if you get a positive, you would need more frequent observation).

If you are older than 21 and have never had any kind of sexual contact with anyone at all (including hands, mouths, or sharing toys!), you can discuss with your provider to see if a modified schedule may make sense based on your risk level.

Note: The HPV vaccine may change these recommendations in the future! I strongly recommend getting the vaccine if you have not already!

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OK, Anon. With that public service announcement out of the way, let's talk about the real meat of your question.

The best thing I can recommend is to take the time to find a provider you vibe with. Someone with whom you feel safe, with whom you have mutual respect. See if your local LGTBQIA+ support group has recommendations, or if any clinics in your area have providers that specialize in LGTBQIA+ or trauma-informed care. Call and ask providers questions about how they handle people who struggle with pelvic exams. Generally, avoid crusty old men.

A good provider will warn you before ever touching any part of your body, go slowly, and ask permission each time, and stop the second you tense up. A GREAT provider will make you feel in control the whole time - they may let you insert the speculum yourself and not make you use stirrups if they're triggering for you. Medical consent is the same as sexual consent - just because you're disrobed in that room doesn't mean you need to let anyone touch you. You do not have to undergo a pap smear with a provider you don't trust. You are allowed to walk away.

Other things to try:

You can ask for a short-acting anti-anxiety medicine, like Xanax, to take before the visit, provided you've got a ride.

You can bring a companion, or ask for a nurse to hold your hand.

Chat nonstop, tell stupid jokes, or listen to music on headphones, whatever kind of distraction works best for you.

Meditate, practice belly breathing, really focus on full body relaxation, especially of the pelvic muscles

Remind yourself that it's one minute every few years for the piece of mind that you won't get cancer.

Be open to the possibility that it won't be as bad as you're fearing.

Know that you are brave and strong. You can do hard things. You can do anything for one minute.

If any other trans folx out there want to share tips with Anon for how to navigate gynecologic exams, please share!

[woodsfae]

B5 s03e06: Dust to Dust table of contents • previous episode

Lame that there are so many insubordinate soldiers under Sheridan's command!

Bester, my best guy <3 This should be a delightfully creepy episode! Psi horror! I love him so much. His threatening vibe is sooo gooood. Hope Lyta stays safe!

Did Stop Falling On Me guy just do a murder? 

The new opener is so good. Maybe because I always watch this show high, but it is so excellent. 

Casually discussing my best guy's murder! I will be fair to them. Bester is a murder-danger-level threat. But he's also the war criminal who has my heart. I want to squish him. Like a stuffed animal.

Vir! And awww, don't be mean to him, Londo! His Minbari robe of welcoming looks much more comfortable than Centauri clothes. 

Londo: "Do they speak of me often?" Vir: "Only behind closed doors."

lmao?? I can't believe that only a season ago I was fully "meh" on Vir, and now I would kill for him ^_^

Telepathy accident? Strange. I like strange medical mysteries, but B5's seem to tend to be extra tragic. I don't trust 'em not to be tearjerkers. 

Oh my goddddd. Is Susan about to murder Bester with the station? She was! but for Sheridan's interference. tsk. well, probably the rational choice. But I support Susan Ivanova no matter what. 

lol Bester, being hit with a feeling of strong personal danger. I should say so! 

Delenn's non-murder solution is blocking Bester with Minbari telepaths! This must be so unexpected for Bester. And it is also unexpected for me! Delenn has this kind of pull still? Or again? I love that for her. However, it does tell Bester that they know things they're lowkey desperate to keep him from knowing. Hope that doesn't come back to bite them later!

What a good set-down by Sheridan. Doesn't faze Bester a bit, though!

Dissection of Talia? Fuck thaaaat. And Susan stays so cool! She's so badass, damn. And right after her murder attempt was thwarted. She has iron emotional control. 

Bester: "You choose not to trust me. That's sad. And unfortunate. But unlike the rest of you, I have no intention of letting it get in the way of my work. Doctor. Trust, Captain. You should try it some time. The [telepathy inhibiting] drug requires three hours to take effect. See you in four. Perhaps then you'll all be a little less hysterical, and little more productive. I'm here to save your butts! Next time: show a little gratitude." Dr Franklin: "On the other hand, maybe wounding him isn't such a bad idea after all."

Lol!! I love Bester so much. He's such a pragmatist!! And it certainly got the point across that he's here to cooperate over a case.

The Drazi seem to be occupying a similar sociopolitical niche in the show as the late Markab. Which gives me concerns for their long term prospective. Regardless, good for them, giving Londo and Centauri a hard time. Especially since Londo can't help but be a dick to the Drazi and the Narn on the way out. 

Vir has gained much confidence while he's been away. And he likes Minbar and his new assignment! He deserves some appreciation and respect. 

Awww Lennier, that's such a gentle denial for Vir's request that Londo visit Minbar for a mental health vacation. Is it just me, or is Lennier really developing a shiny backbone? He's come so far from the hyper-sheltered religious acolyte, and I'm glad he hasn't lost any of the stars in his eyes about Delenn. She is that cool. Vir has astonishing faith in Londo's goodness. I hope he's right one of these days!

This is a reasonable request for cooperative behavior. Bester wants help tracking this drug which allows for a high degree of mental assault with a high for the perpetrator, which usually permanently incapacitates the victim if they are also a telepath. sounds like someone's gonna use it in war! 

This person selling it to G'Kar says it turns the user into a telepath and lets them directly experience the life of the target. But it might not work on Narns. More Narnuan lore! There used to be Narn telepaths, but they were "exterminated." Brutal. By the Shadows, I wonder, or perhaps the Centauri?

If G'Kar ends up a telepath, that was not on my season 3 bingo card! 

Bester's giving a "there are existential horrors you never have to worry about because we take care of them before anyone knows they exist," and it's downright unnerving. How many chill-ass folks have they taken out for fear of what they could be capable of?

G'Kar's No Good Very Bad Acid Trip does seem to be coming with some sort of mental abilities, though not particularly controllable. And since it works on people who aren't telepaths, but turns on a telepathy gene (in humans), does it also turn every human who uses it into an active telepath? That'd be a huge reason for PsiCorps to want to contain it. 

Garibaldi working with Bester is highly effective and very extralegal, what with all the threats and civil rights violations. He's a bad influence on Garibaldi. He's already too inclined to threaten civilians, he doesn't need any encouragement of Bester's type. 

Even though Garibaldi argues with Bester about it later, he still goes right along with it while their detainee was present. Bad! Influence!

Bester: "The badge and the uniform do have certain advantages." Garibaldi: "Like intimidation?" Bester: "Absolutely. Just like your badge, and your uniform."

Exactly!! Love me a self aware villain.

Londo arranged for Vir to be appointed the Ambassador to Minbar because he didn't trust him. Didn't trust him to keep himself intact in Centauri's political climate, didn't trust him to make wise decisions for himself, and wanted to send him somewhere safe. And now he isn't trusting Vir's assessment that the Minbari are trustworthy potential allies. That's sad for Londo. He'd be making much better decisions if he would take Vir's advice.

Go G'Kar, go! Fulfill Londo's death dream! One can dream. 

Bester my sassy, amoral little guy. <3 His snark is such a good mixture of strangely wise, self-aware, inane, and troubling. 

Their fascist sonic weapon crowd control devices are super effective. At least they didn't use them on the Dockworkers Union, but that's a small at least. Don't like knowing they exist in universe. Statistically, now that they've been introduced, they're going to be used to commit horrible war crimes. 

Oh...I was so caught up in the euphoria of G'Kar potentially strangling Londo that I quite forgot about the Narn telepathy subplot. Well. Go G'Kar, go, anyway. I also support his telepathy plot. Good keeping it together while very disorientingly drugged! He might pull it off, except I'd be surprised if Londo knows anything of particular value. 

And he has so much more clarity inside Londo's mind! Compelling! Get him! Collaborating with Morden and the Shadows! Seeing the fuckin evil that Londo arranged on fucking purpose! It's meaningful for G'Kar to know, but like....with no proof will it do G'Kar any good? 

Interesting that G'Kar had far more control than the drug guy suggested, able to target memories and types of knowledge, before absorbing all of Londo's life.

Oh, grim. G'Kar's vision of his father and another Narnuan elder is a type of sorrowful that feels so extra heavy today. 

Is...G'Kar having a vision of Kosh?? Oh damn! Kosh is making moves while G'Kar trips hard! If that was Kosh, the voice is very different. 

I really. Really wanna give G'Kar a nice warm robe, and a vacation. And some rest. And a cute little roast animal for him to eat, snoot-first. 

Surprisingly soft interaction between Vir and Londo in the medbay.

Disappointed this went to trial! Let G'Kar Assault Centauri And Particularly Londo Mollari!

At least it's only 60 days in prison, I guess? I don't trust Babylon 5 prisons not to be horrific. 

Vir's hair is less cresty then usual, I feel. Or is somehow Differently Shaped. 

Hmmm. And some advice from Londo that's somewhat decent. When he chooses to use his brain, it works sorta ok. 

Bester says the Dust didn't work! Didn't produce one telepath of a reasonable strength! Go G'Kar, go! Of course PsiCorps was responsible for it. 

I really would not have guessed New Telepaths, Particularly G'Kar as a plot point in B5! I guess they sorta primed the pump with metamorphosing Matt Stoner's telepathy to empathy, elevating Jason Ironheart to a telekinetic high order being, and the other general mind fuckery, but that's cool! And I can't wait to see what they do with it. 

Overall, exactly what I've come to expect from a Bester episodes. And I love G'Kar, so I love this for him. And more Narnuan lore! I also enjoy that a lot.

next!

[teamcuriosity]

Extreme Cold Safety: The Basics

Due to uncharacteristically cold weather caused by Team Winter affecting the entirety of the Unova region, it's imperative now more than ever that everyone is informed on how to handle extreme cold safely and effectively. Extreme cold must be specified as there is a vast difference between what we are experiencing now and what many people are used to experiencing, even in the dead of winter. For those unaware, Team Winter has specified themselves that the temperatures will be dropping to -20°F at a bare minimum. They may fall lower than this, and Admin Thrash is keeping an eye on the live temperatures from the Hoenn Weather Institute, but for now, the advice in this article will be given based on the presumption that -20°F is the lowest possible temperature.

Skin Exposure

Leaving your skin exposed for any period of time in weather this cold is highly dangerous. All skin must be covered, especially extremities such as your fingers, ears, and nose. In -20°F degree weather, frostbite can occur within 10-15 minutes. It should also be noted that a light covering will not be enough to prevent frostbite, that your footwear should be waterproofed to prevent trench foot, and that your clothes should not be too tight in order to keep your blood circulating. We recommend reading through our previous reblogs for in-depth instruction on how to properly dress for the cold. Time spent unsheltered should be kept to a minimum regardless of your level of winter gear in order to minimize the risk of cold weather injury.

This advice should also be taken with pokemon who do not have extreme cold resistance. Grass, ground, flying, and dragon types are notably more susceptible than other types to extreme cold injuries, but even fire types should be cautious

Hypothermia

Even if your winter gear is substantial enough to avoid frostbite, hypothermia is still a very real concern in extreme cold. Your body still has to take in air, and warming the air takes a lot of energy out of you. Hypothermia occurs when a person’s internal body temperature drops below 95°F, and can happen even happen when temperatures are above freezing. The symptoms set in slow, so if you're not being perceptive, you could miss them. Be mindful of your own body and limits. If you stop shivering but you haven't warmed up, that doesn't mean you're recovering. That means you are in the end stages of hypothermia.

Keeping well-fed and active is the best way to stay warm. If you can't move due to disability or injury, then at least keep fed.

Dehydration

Cold weather dries out the air so, much like an intense summer day, it can dehydrate you incredibly quickly. It's one of the biggest dangers in extreme cold, but it's also one that is severely underinformed about. Remember: do not eat snow. Your body will expend more energy trying to warm it than it is worth. So, make sure you melt the snow before you drink it, otherwise you could end up worsening your hypothermia symptoms.

Disability, Housing, and Age

People in certain age demographics can find it much harder to weather the cold. Infants in particular can become hypothermic much faster than your average adult, and should be carefully monitored and kept close during extreme cold. The elderly can also have more trouble with hypothermia as it can aggravate existing health problems, potentially permanently worsening them.

Some people also rely on medical devices which require electricity to run. Unova's grid is fairly robust, but if the power goes out, it could severely impair the quality of life for these individuals. There are also many disorders that can flare up during extreme temperature shifts including, but not limited to, fibromyalgia, migraine disorders, and COPD. This can leave some people unable to move to shelter on their own.

Unstable housing status also leaves people incredibly vulnerable. The homeless have the most difficulty surviving extreme cold due to a lack of stable shelter, but even those with housing can be in unsafe housing. Some buildings aren't built to handle the extreme cold, and will not retain heat savely. These buildings must be fortified from the inside or simply evacuated from.

Conclusion

I was going to finish this out with some sort of professional conclusion. Something you might see in an academic paper or at least a news article. I can't. I have nothing that could appropriately sum up my thoughts and feelings on the situation.

I just hope the temperature rises again.

—Dr. Ryan Alston

[femmefatalevibe]

Hello FemmeFataleVibe! I have a question for you: how does a woman reconcile her sexuality and being a high value woman (HVW)? Are there certain desires or kinks a HVW should not have? What is the appropriate protocol in regard to disclosing past relationships or lack thereof to a suitor/dating prospect?

Hi love! Fun question. I believe that part of being a HVW is fully accepting, exploring, and owning your sexuality without any shame but understanding the importance of discretion in the public eye.

While any sexual preferences and (protected) consensual encounters, regardless of age, frequency, number of partners (lower or higher), etc., you prefer or decide to act on are morally neutral, it is best to keep these personal details to yourself along with your closest friends, a therapist, trusted mentors (could be a mom, aunt, or big sister figure), and partners on a need-to-know basis because this information can be used against you if in the wrong hands. Also, being crass – like being close-minded about sexuality and sexual preferences – reads as a sign of immaturity and/or insecurity.

Everyone has the right to the privacy of their own mind. So, I believe it is essential to accept your desires as they are. You cannot control what arouses you past a certain degree. The important thing is to know what desires are ethical to act on or in your best interest to share with others. I believe that any kinks outside of the ones where consent is not possible (involving children, animals, corpses, etc. – these are sick fantasies that require mental health treatment and, as far as I know, are not acceptable within kink communities), it is essential as a HVW to discern whether you find a particular kink(s) to be sexually gratifying or if they're rewarding purely because they satisfy a partner's desires (or perceived desires) and offer you a sense of external validation. While I don't identify as a radical feminist, I do agree with their philosophy on how the mainstream porn industry has negatively impacted how we approach sex and sexuality. The violence portrayed and its sole focus on male pleasure that it conditions (especially young) people to believe is the "right" or socially-acceptable way to engage with sex and their sexuality is concerning. Normalizing nonconsensual choking, face slapping, and anal sex are vile things to promote in society. With that being said, I don't think kink-shaming is necessary if two consenting adults (or older teens) discuss what they (genuinely) like and don't like and act according with respect to each others' boundaries.

I believe that discussing past relationships (or lack thereof) with a new partner should not be done upfront and on a need-to-know basis. Your first in-person meeting with a partner (whether it's a casual activity, coffee date, dinner, sexual encounter, etc.) should be focused on establishing the connection between you two and seeing if there's potential/compatibility there. If a new suitor asks about your relationship history very early on (let's say 1-3 meetings or a month into a new relationship), I think it's best to provide a truthful, high-level answer to the question such as: "My most recent relationship was a serious 2-year relationship ended 1 year ago, since that relationship ended, I've been learning about myself to determine what I'm looking for in an ideal partner/compatible lover." Even if you've never had an official relationship or long-term partner, know that if you have a good track record of sustained friendships (and especially if you have previous sexual experiences), you have all of the ingredients necessary for a romantic partnership. Don't stress about formalities. You have relationship experience, just a different type of relationship experience. Every partner and relationship is different, so we're all learning as we go through life anyways.

Anyone who feels the need to ask detailed questions about your past relationships upfront is a huge red flag. The same goes for anyone who talks about their exes right away and elaborates or dwells on the details of their relationship (this person is definitely not over their ex, lol). Your sexual history is no one's business outside of asking for negative test results and/or discussing exclusivity. Preferences, though, should be discussed once intimacy is in the immediate future.

Hope this helps xx

[thrandythefabulous]

Cost Of Martial Arts Classes For Adults

Are you considering taking up martial arts as an adult but wondering about the cost?

It's no secret that martial arts classes can be expensive, and it's important to understand what you're getting into before committing your time and money.

In this article, we'll explore the average cost of martial arts classes for adults and break down some factors that may affect pricing.

Firstly, it's essential to note that there is a wide range of prices when it comes to martial arts classes for adults.

The cost will depend on several variables, such as location, type of class, length of session or membership duration, and instructor experience level.

Additionally, different schools may have various payment structures; some may require upfront payments for extended periods while others offer monthly subscriptions with discounts based on attendance frequency.

By examining these aspects in more detail, we hope to provide accurate information so that you can make an informed decision when choosing a school or program that fits your budget and goals.

Factors That Affect The Cost Of Martial Arts Classes

When it comes to the cost of martial arts classes for adults, there are many factors that can affect the price.

One of the most significant is teaching quality. Classes taught by highly experienced and skilled instructors may come at a higher cost than those taught by less experienced teachers.

Another factor that can impact the cost of martial arts classes is class size. Smaller classes with more individualized attention from instructors may be priced higher than larger classes where instruction is more generalized.

Additionally, smaller classes often allow for greater opportunity for one-on-one training and personalized feedback, which may also contribute to an increased cost.

Location: How Location Impacts Pricing

As we discussed in the previous section, there are various factors that can affect the cost of martial arts classes for adults. However, one crucial aspect that impacts pricing is location.

The accessibility options and community involvement within a particular area play an essential role in determining how much you need to spend on these classes.

For instance, if a martial arts studio has ample parking space and is situated in an easily accessible location, it may have higher prices compared to another dojo located in a less convenient spot.

Furthermore, some regions may have more affluent communities who are willing to pay top dollar for high-quality training, while others may have lower-income groups who prefer affordable programs tailored to their needs.

Thus, when considering joining a martial arts class as an adult, it's important to take into account not just your budget but also the convenience and inclusivity of the studio's location.

Class Type: Understanding Different Martial Arts Styles

Now that you have an idea of how much martial arts classes for adults cost, let's dive into the different types and styles available.

It is essential to choose a style that suits your personality and fitness goals. Some prefer more intense combat sports like boxing or kickboxing, while others enjoy the discipline and focus required in traditional martial arts such as karate or jiu-jitsu.

Regardless of which style you choose, there are numerous benefits to practicing martial arts. These include improved physical health, increased confidence and self-esteem, better stress management skills, and a sense of community among fellow practitioners.

However, finding the right class can be challenging. Consider factors such as location, class schedule, instructor qualifications, and whether the class caters to beginners or advanced students. With careful consideration and research, you will find the perfect fit for your needs and budget.

Length Of Session Or Membership Duration

When it comes to martial arts classes for adults, the length of each session or membership duration can greatly affect the cost. It's important to consider what benefits and drawbacks come with different options as you try to find the right fit for your needs.

Shorter sessions may be more affordable upfront but could end up costing more in the long run if you need to take more sessions overall. Longer sessions or memberships may have a higher price tag initially but could ultimately save you money if you plan on sticking with it for a while. Additionally, some studios offer discounts for longer commitments which can also help offset costs.

Ultimately, it's best to think about how often you realistically see yourself attending class and calculate the total cost over time before making a decision.

Finding the right session length or membership duration is key to getting the most value out of your investment in martial arts classes. Consider factors such as schedule flexibility, financial commitment, and long-term goals when making your choice.

With careful consideration and planning, you can enjoy all the physical, mental, and emotional benefits that come from practicing martial arts without breaking the bank.

Instructor Experience And Qualifications

As adults, we want to ensure that the martial arts classes we take are led by experienced and qualified instructors who can guide us in our journey towards mastering the art.

A good instructor should not only possess technical knowledge of various martial arts but also have a deep understanding of teaching methods and student engagement.

Instructors with extensive experience will have encountered different types of students, each with their unique learning styles and abilities.

They would know how to cater to each individual's needs effectively while keeping everyone engaged throughout the class.

Additionally, they should be able to adjust their teaching style according to the student's progress, ensuring that no one gets left behind or feels overwhelmed.

Instructors who prioritize student engagement create an environment where learning is fun and enjoyable for everyone involved.

This approach ensures that students remain motivated, focused, and committed to improving themselves both physically and mentally.

Payment Structures: Upfront Payments, Monthly Subscriptions, And Discounts

After considering the instructor's experience and qualifications, it's now time to talk about the cost of martial arts classes for adults. The price can vary depending on several factors such as location, amenities, class schedules, and refund policies.

When it comes to payment structures, there are typically three options available: upfront payments, monthly subscriptions, or discounts for longer-term commitments. Some schools may offer a combination of these options to provide more flexibility for their students.

It's essential to consider your budget and how often you plan on attending classes before deciding which payment structure is best for you. Additionally, make sure to inquire about any potential discounts or promotions that could help lower the overall cost of tuition.

Finally, be aware of the refund policy in case unforeseen circumstances prevent you from continuing with the program. By taking these factors into account when evaluating costs, you'll be able to find a program that fits both your needs and your wallet.

Frequently Asked Questions

Are There Any Additional Costs That Students Should Be Aware Of, Such As Uniform Or Equipment Fees?

When considering signing up for martial arts classes, it's important to ask about any additional costs that may not be immediately apparent.

These can include fees for uniforms or equipment, which could vary depending on the martial art being studied.

It's also possible that there are hidden fees that students should be aware of, such as testing fees or membership dues.

By asking about these potential costs upfront, adults interested in martial arts classes can better prepare themselves financially and avoid any surprises down the line.

Can Adults With No Prior Martial Arts Experience Join These Classes?

Adults with no prior martial arts experience can absolutely join these classes! In fact, there are numerous benefits to starting your martial arts journey as an adult.

While the learning curve may be steep at first, instructors typically tailor their teaching methods to accommodate students of all skill levels. With consistent attendance and dedication, beginners can quickly become adept in various techniques and forms.

Don't let a lack of experience hold you back from pursuing this rewarding activity!

Are There Any Age Restrictions For Adults Wanting To Join Martial Arts Classes?

Are there any age restrictions for adults wanting to join martial arts classes?

The great news is that most facilities do not have an age limit! This means that even if you're a beginner with no prior experience, you can still reap the benefits of training in martial arts.

Not only will you learn self-defense techniques and improve your physical health, but joining these classes can also provide a sense of community involvement.

So whether you're 25 or 55, don't hesitate to sign up and start your journey towards becoming a martial artist.

Will The Cost Of Classes Vary Depending On The Level Of Expertise Of The Student?

Adult beginners and experienced students alike may wonder if the cost of martial arts classes vary depending on their level of expertise.

The answer is that it truly depends on the specific studio or gym offering the classes.

Some places may have a flat rate for all adult participants, while others could offer different pricing tiers based on experience.

It's important to research and compare costs at various locations before committing to a program, as some studios may also require additional fees for equipment or uniforms.

Ultimately, finding an affordable option with knowledgeable instructors should be the top priority for any aspiring martial artist, regardless of their skill level.

Are There Any Health Requirements That Students Should Meet Before Joining Martial Arts Classes?

Before starting martial arts classes, it's important to consider any health requirements that need to be met. Consulting a physician is highly recommended, as certain conditions or injuries may make participation in the sport unsafe.

However, for those who are able to participate, there are numerous benefits of martial arts for overall health. Improved physical fitness, increased flexibility and strength, stress relief, and improved mental focus are just a few examples.

Prioritizing personal health before beginning classes can pave the way for a successful and fulfilling experience in martial arts.

Conclusion

Overall, the cost of martial arts classes for adults can vary depending on several factors. It is important for students to inquire about any additional fees such as uniform or equipment costs before enrolling in a class.

Additionally, many schools welcome beginners with no prior experience and may have age restrictions in place. It's also essential to note that the cost of classes may differ based on the level of expertise of the student.

Finally, there may be specific health requirements that students should meet before joining martial arts classes. Investing in martial arts training can improve physical fitness, self-defense skills, and overall well-being.

[ashers-transition]

Pre T (December 13, 2022)

Hello! I'm making this post to show where I'm starting out in my medical transition. I'm going to go through some of the changes that can happen on testosterone based HRT and show what those areas are currently like for me while being pre T.

Please check my pinned post for more info about me and why I started this blog!

CWs: full body images, eye contact, measuring tape (in reference to hand width only), discussion of menstruation, discussion of appetite and disordered eating).

(If I've missed any content warnings that I should include, please let me know and I will add them in).

Face Shape

Hairline

Facial Hair

I have a bit of peach fuzz (soft, light colored hairs) all over my face. Other than that, I have a small amount of slightly darker hairs around my upper lip area, as can be seen in images 1 and 2. I also wanted to include an image of my eyebrows pre T because T can thicken your eyebrows as well. It isn't fully grown in because I usually shave it (just personal preference) but I do also have a slight unibrow. I imagine this will come in thicker as well.

Body Hair

You probably can't see unless you zoom in, but I have some light brown hair on my forearms and on my lower legs. My thighs are covered in lighter hairs that are not really visible. (You might have to zoom in on these to see anything).

Increased Muscle Mass

I have a slight amount of muscle from my previous job, which involved lifting heavy objects on a somewhat regular basis. I no longer have that job, but I may start working out soon to help with my health, so I'm unsure currently in which direction my muscle mass will go.

The most obvious muscles I have are my biceps and my abs, both of which have slightly defined muscles if I flex. My thighs also have a decent bit of muscle, but there is more body fat in that area sitting on top of the muscle so they aren't as defined.

Menstrual Cycle

I currently have a somewhat regular period that typically comes once every month and a half. Previously, I have dealt with very bad fibro flares whenever I got my period, with the first day being painful enough to take me out of commission. I've started a new pain medication about two months ago, so my period related flares are much more manageable now. Instead of putting me somewhere in the 6-8 range on the pain scale, I'm now at around a 3-4 when my period starts. I'm curious as to whether my period stopping will make these monthly flares go away altogether, or if I will still get them without bleeding. This is something my doctor did not know the answer to, and I'd like to be able to share my experiences with others who have chronic pain and are transitioning.

Body Fat Distribution

Acne

I currently only have light acne on a regular basis, with light breakouts whenever my period starts. The images of my face shown earlier are a good representation of the average amount of acne I have when not on my period.

Skin Texture

I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, one symptom of which is very soft skin. The skin on my face and inner forearms are especially soft. I'm also interested to see if and how that changes considering my disorder.

Hand Size

I'm including this because I've heard some people mention their hands looking "more masculine" after starting T, and even their hands getting bigger. I'm sure this probably isn't something that everyone who goes on T experiences, but I'd rather have the comparison pictures than not.

Energy Levels, Pain, and POTS

I struggle with chronic fatigue, chronic pain, and POTS. My doctor has mentioned that it's possible these conditions will improve after being on T for a while, and I'd like to document that as well.

Currently, I wake up exhausted every day, regardless of how much sleep I've gotten. I also frequently take naps during the day and wake up exhausted from those as well. I struggle waking up, caffeine doesn't help, and I often struggle to complete basic tasks. Heavy physical activity often makes it worse.

Without medication, I'm typically somewhere in the 3-4 range on the pain scale, with flares bringing it up to 5-7. Since starting the medication I'm currently on, I've typically been in the 1-2 range, with flares bringing it up to 3-4.

I typically get short dizziness spells upon standing, but they tend to go away quickly. I often get dizzy enough that my vision starts to go out, but this does not happen every day. I only experience presyncope a few days out of the month, but when it does happen, it usually happens more than once in a day. So far in my three years of being symptomatic, I have only fainted once.

Appetite

Due to being autistic, I often struggle to tell when I am hungry. ADHD also makes it difficult to eat sometimes, because I often forget. On other days, I will eat out of boredom. I typically eat 2-3 meals a day while snacking in between.

Emotional State

I have BPD, which makes it very difficult to regulate my emotions. I once heard BPD described as being "like bipolar, but faster," and I think that's a helpful way to explain it. I have intense emotional states that usually only last a few hours. When I'm happy I'm really happy, and when I'm sad I'm really sad. For me personally, I tend to turn these emotions inward.

I decided to go on testosterone gel instead of the injections. I've heard of people having mood swing when getting closer to their next injection, and would rather avoid that if possible due to my already unstable mood.

Voice and Adam's Apple

My voice is somewhat androgynous, but it does keep me from passing. I also have what I like to call an "almost Adam's apple," though it's more apparent in person.

[Video description: A waist high video of Asher talking to the camera. End video description.]

[Video transcript: "Hi, my name is Asher, and this is my voice, like, four days on T, 'cause I forgot."]

[scacademy]

What Are The Benefits Of NDIS Training?

The National Disability Insurance Scheme (NDIS) is a government-funded program that assists and supports people with impairments. It accomplishes it through paying things like carers, special education and training, transportation, and other things. They look at what the NDIS is, how it helps individuals with disabilities, and what you can do to make the most of it in this post. The National Disability Insurance Scheme (NDIS) is a government program that helps persons with disabilities financially and in other ways. People, communities, and professions can all benefit from it. There are many NDIS courses available that you can pursue to get the benefits of NDIS Training. 

What is the National Disability Insurance Scheme?

The National Disability Insurance Scheme (NDIS) is an Australian government-run program that offers assistance and services to persons with disabilities. It was implemented in July 2013 to replace the previous Disability Support Pension (DSP). The National Disability Insurance Scheme (NDIS) is a cooperative project of the federal and state governments. The National Disability Insurance Scheme (NDIS) is a federally funded program that assists people with disabilities in getting accurate, inexpensive, and long-term support.

What Services Does The National Disability Insurance Scheme (NDIS) Offer?

The National Disability Insurance Scheme (NDIS) is a government-run programme that assists persons with impairments. It was launched in 2013. The NDIS offers a variety of support services to enable persons with impairments to live as independently as possible. Help with finding and keeping a job, financial support, health care, and housing are just some of the services available. This assistance is available to everyone who requires it, regardless of how long they have been disabled. Here is the list of services offered by NDIS:

A Pre-Service Development Package for those going to begin working or studying

Assistance with the NDIS transition

Assistance in avoiding or minimizing hardship

Support services provided by Community Connections

Obtaining funds for items such as machinery and transport.

Benefits Of NDIS Training 

Encourage the development of life skills

The National Disability Insurance Scheme training has made it easier for disabled persons to get government assistance with their disabilities. Many of these vital programs have been incorporated into the NDIS, including life skills training, which focuses on enhancing the life and social skills of people with disabilities. This includes assisting them in being more self-sufficient, driven, and tolerant of their limitations, as well as teaching them important communication skills.

Assisting People Through Life's Transitions

It can be challenging to transition to a new stage of life, especially if you have a disability. Moving away from the home and going back to work, or retirement and putting everything behind and beginning over, are just a few examples of life stage changes that can have an impact on your mental health. It's no secret that difficult transitions can cause stress and despair, but we want to show you that if you prepare ahead and get the right assistance, this bad period in your life will not really have to last.

Independent Living Supported

The National Disability Insurance Scheme (NDIS) is a crucial programme that guarantees that people with disabilities can live independently. The NDIS includes provisions for supportive housing as well as health care provider services at various levels.

Assistance with Daily Tasks

Daily chores such as feeding, resting, personal services, clothing, bathing, moving around securely, using the bathroom, using the computer, and many others are supported and assisted by the NDIS support coordination Training.

Participation in Social and Community Activities

Participants in the NDIS are encouraged to participate in events that keep them educated and motivated. A disability support worker, for example, can help you travel or join a town meeting.

Wrapping It Up 

Well, these are the benefits of the NDIS support coordination training. There are many academies providing NDIS courses. SCA Academy is also one of the best options to go for taking NDIS support coordination training.  Their goal is to improve the practice of professional Support Coordination. Visit them now and know more about the Support Coordination Software and NDIS training. 

[phdguides]

7 important tips and advice every PhD student should know

PhD is considered the highest level of qualification and is not for the faint of heart. The difficulties and frustrations are real. You are constantly looking for motivation to keep up with your hectic schedule.

We understand your situation, and to assist you, we have compiled a list of seven essential tips and advice that will come in handy during your PhD journey.

These tips and advice are backed by scholars and industry experts based on their experience, and if you are in the early stages of your PhD, you will be astounded by the information.

So, without further ado, let’s get started:

Read a lot

Read, read, and read some more. This will be a very useful step in creating a research roadmap. Read as many research papers as you can on your chosen topic.

It will provide you with in-depth knowledge of your subject, what previous researchers have done, and how you can begin your own research. By reading other people’s work, you can learn what has already been done and avoid duplicating existing research.

Aside from reading old papers, remember to keep an eye out for new developments also in your field. All of this reading will help you gain a thorough understanding of your chosen subject.

Write more

When you’re reading this much, you should also be writing. Write down your progress, new discoveries, and any other important information you believe is relevant.

It is always preferable to begin writing as soon as possible. Because it will ultimately assist you in writing your thesis. Writing on a regular basis will help you hone your writing skills.

It may appear to be a daunting task, but with practice, you will notice that the quality of your research paper will improve and you will take less time to complete it.

You don’t have to write every day, but try to write at least three times a week, if not more.

Be positive

PhD research is a long and time-consuming process in which you must constantly work on finding new solutions in your field. As a result, if your research paper is not accepted or people do not support your idea, you may become demotivated.

However, keep in mind that these are all part of the process. You will not always be successful. So it’s okay if you don’t achieve your goals sometimes. Concentrate on the good things you have.

Divert your attention to topics that interest you, surround yourself with positive people, take short breaks, and engage in activities that you enjoy.

PhD may appear to be a difficult journey but believe in yourself because you will succeed and your efforts will be rewarded.

Don’t isolate yourself.

PhD candidates frequently become so engrossed in their work that they completely isolate themselves from the rest of the world. They worked hard all hours of the day and night, but the feeling of missing out never left them.

However, stressing yourself may harm your health, which is ultimately detrimental to your research. So take some time to unwind. Connect with others who share your interests and have a productive discussion about your topic.

It will provide you with new perspectives and allow you to connect with people in your field.

Do an internship

An internship can provide you with valuable insight and a deeper understanding of how research is conducted in other environments and what tools are used.

An internship can help you learn a lot. You can broaden your network with other researchers and learn a lot of details. It can be a fantastic way to gain a thorough understanding of your topic.

Reach out to people.

Building a network is critical regardless of what you do. A valuable network can provide you with endless possibilities. Don’t waste the opportunity to meet a lot of influential people and industry experts during your PhD.

Create a strong network for yourself. Reach out to people and have a good conversation with them. Make the most of your opportunity, as a worthwhile network can help you not only in your career but also in your life after your PhD.

Appreciate your small wins

Many students lose interest or productivity halfway through their PhD studies. It can happen because they have unrealistic expectations of themselves.

You don’t have to make the same mistakes in your PhD. Set attainable goals. Appreciate your small victories because they are also significant. You must accept the fact that you will not always be successful. You will have failures, but they will be temporary, and with consistency, you will be able to achieve your goals.

As a result, it is critical to keep yourself motivated and productive by focusing on your progress.

Conclusion

 Pursuing a PhD is a little challenging, but if you believe in yourself, you can achieve your doctorate dream.  The only thing that matters is that you need to stay consistent and focused. Read a lot and try every possible method to learn about new discoveries in your field. Take advice from experts in the field, and your fellow researchers and stay motivated.

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A Letter to A Friend

@lumine-no-hikari -#204

I see that you have undergone some weather struggles. Where I am, it seems to have been somewhat strenuous as well. Where I am, there are some issues regarding the weather and precipitation as well. It almost makes me wonder... (laugh). But in all seriousness, I am sorry that the lack of power has diminished access to your breathing devices. That does not sound like the most ideal situation for you. Frankly, with the Shinra power company, they had a tendency to perform power outages on a weekly basis. If you lived in the city, it became less and less convenient to keep your power on. Things like keeping your house warm or brightening your bedroom was nearly impossible. To have a Shinra reactor was hardly ideal as it meant that Hojo would have a space to store his experiments....but I am rambling. The infrastructure was not well kept after a while. As you well know, sector four was not an ideal area to be around for those in the well to do. Even those blinded by their comfort avoided Sector four as though it were a disease that should be burned.

But I digress.

In the time I have been reading your letters, I have been taking note of your life over the days I have missed. And for that I am sorry. To begin, I am once again extremely proud of you for obtaining a job at the bakery. I am very excited for your progression in the department and am eager to see what you accomplish. Second, I understand that mistakes do happen. Triggers occur. Please remember to be patient with yourself and understand that sometimes, even though people who have hurt us are no longer there. Understand that even though they are no longer there, the things we are feeling are still very real and they exist because of the choices someone else made. It is better to nurse the wound as opposed to ignore it. It's okay to take a step back and evaluate the situation rather than apologize profusely over a mistake that happens all the time in a grocery store bakery. Chances are, that specific branch makes billions a year, and that store makes a little over two to three million in your respective area. I think they can spare the supplies. You should focus on yourself in that moment. Your healing is what is most important.

I felt the need to address this because this is one of the things that stood out to me the most. Your healing and personal needs should come first. These are very much like food and water for your body. They cannot be neglected. As much as I enjoy seeing things like your tea and your adventures, I felt like perhaps it was best to talk about your mental health and well being first and foremost.

Second, I am not sure if I have addressed this as of yet. But did you know that someone who states that another person or group of people should kill themselves is often the one of the main progenitors of a global suicide rate of 703,000 people according to a 2019 study? Often times, this includes individuals with severe mental health diagnosis', physical ailments, poverty levels...the list goes on. And when you look at the data, it really depends on the country. Regardless, lets take a look at how many people will die or even attempt to take their own lives, simply because someone decided to say something like this. When someone says something like this, they can be held liable for chosen family losing someone near and dear to them. When someone says "So and So does not deserve to live" or a certain group of people "Should just die", they are pushing several people over the edge and will potentially into a place where they will stay under watch for twenty four hours. MUW has been in such a place. MUW has then been put under watch for well over a week for their attempt because of someone who tortured them to the brink of self loathing. They received no love or support. The only person they relied on wasn't there. So when you told me about the person who said this in a previous letter, and you informed me of their cruelty, this reminded me of those events. Among several others. It made me think of several people who are still going through some difficult times and are incapable of escaping. Many who are in domestic violence situations and ready to take their own lives.

I want to be angry and lash out.

But I must maintain self control.

Regardless Lumine, there are several things from you that I need to catch up on and so much that I want to say. So much that I would like to respond to. But for now, let me tell you what has been occurring in my life. For starters, it has gotten cold where I am. It is likely from the rain, I don't know. I suspect it's due to the air conditioner running all of the time. Namely because it is slightly warm by the window by the stairs. I think you would like it. Since it was raining these past few days, MUW has taken it upon themselves to drag me outside and danced for a moment beneath the trees, before running to the back yard and having the both of us slosh about in the mud with bear feet. We have cat's you see. I guess you could say we've rescued quite a few. There is one in particular that is fading because of a brain tumor, whom MUW is having a difficult time with.

As for your furry friend, I never got back to you regarding that. I never had the chance to say hello, but I did light a candle and sent prayers their way. I do hope that they reach them. By the way, when it comes to people like you and MUW, I do need you to know, that the lack of acceptance needs to be fought for on all accounts. Acceptance is non-negotiable. Just as much as ones place in the LGBTQIA.

What was the term?

"Accept my existence or expect my resistance."?

Not Respect. Accept. No negotiations.

It's easy to think you are not strong enough. But I believe you are. You believed in me this long haven't you?

Tell me; How is your therapy going?

With love and tenderness

-Sephiroth