#rant over :)

[shmooseee]

Jason stray/catlad au

[xstardust-and-wanderlustx]

I say this with the utmost love:

I think witchtok is bullshit. I don't think much stuff on there is worth your time. There is much more Magick and learning to be done right in front of you that you will ever find within a screen.

There's a plethora of content out there, but it's all a tool. It's all other people's experiences. You need to find what speaks to YOU and center in on that.

There's nothing wrong with platforms that share genuine information (Tumblr, Reddit, on occasion Instagram, just from my own experience), but holy fuck do some of y'all need to learn to weed out bad info.

I'm so sick of seeing Witches influenced by, well, influencers. People just making little videos with the most basic information to get the most likes. People listing out these rules that they don't even know about or follow because they think it's some Cool Cult Info.

Stop listening to these people! Think for yourself! Fuck, don't even listen to me if you disagree! Your practice is YOURS.

[abigfatboi-bhm]

I wanna be more adventurous with what I wear but I’m pathologically scared of showing off my moobs/belly/love handles.

Which is silly, I’m 350lbs, I’m going to look fat no matter what. I am really fucking fat.

But still I’ll run from anything even slightly form fitting, opting for baggy fits, hiding my shape under layers. It’s murder in the warmer months.

There’s so much stigma around what fat people can wear. But it seems like there’s a lot less choice in fun, “acceptable” clothes for fat men versus fat women.

I feel like I have to excuse and hide my size, even if I look worse for it. I’m so scared of looking slovenly or sloppy and being ridiculed for it. Because good style = thinness.

I like my size and maybe I’m vain but this is one of the most difficult aspects of being fat for me. It’s hard to feel confident in a large body when society says you need to be thin, and the options for clothes alone are drastically limited.

When I’ve been smaller that’s always really the only thing I like about it: being able to wear more clothes and not worrying so much about how it shapes me.

I love that there are famous fat guys with cool fashion sense like Matty Matheson and though I’m fatter, flabbier, and poorer than him (also in the UK where sizing is more limited) I so wish I could dress like that 😭

[hadesoftheladies]

I've been seeing some bad faith critcisms on separatism lately, but I will say I don't think it's entirely for no reason. for one, most radblr users don't read theory. it's not unique to radblr. It's just internet culture. most people just reblog quotes. So not only do we have a lot of radblr users that are unfamiliar with radical feminism as an actual theory, but you have a lot who simply don't know how to conceptualize separatism.

I'll be honest, separatism as a subject is confusing. It has many forms, many iterations and interpretations, and it makes sense that many feminists from all sorts of backgrounds get hung up on the details.

So all I'm going to do is clarify my stance in relation to Marilyn Frye's work:

There is no pure separatism. Not in feminist discourse, at least. Separatism as a concept is ALLOWED to be varied. Not marrying a man is separatism. Not living with one is separatism. Not listening to male musicians is separatism. Many feminists can and will disagree.

HOWEVER, I examine the use of separatism, like all other feminist actions, based on how it tackles the primary modes of female oppression by male persons: reproductive, sexual and domestic exploitation. In short, how effective is this strategy in limiting or eradicating men's reproductive, sexual, economic and domestic control over women? This is also what Marilyn Frye is talking about when she defines "sexual access" as the ultimate form of male dominance and patriarchal power. Sexual relations is the primary medium for male brutality and control. Understanding that is KEY to understanding female oppression.

Marriage is historically and institutionally a primary mode of women's exploitation. Just like prostitution and motherhood. Women are disenfranchised, disempowered and de-radicalized in marriages. They are more easily exploited (sexually, reproductively and domestically) and isolated (especially due to imbalance in domestic labor).

I also examine the effectiveness of feminist strategy not only by how it disempowers male dominance and control, but how it empowers female agency. Things that empower female agency are: same-sex spaces and programs, female solidarity, judicial and legislative power, economic power, etc.

By these two metrics, I argue that separatism, that is divesting from male hegemony in any way and centering female solidarity in any way, IS useful feminist action AND a worthwhile strategy BUT NOT a cure-all.

I get a little annoyed when non/anti-separatists discuss separatism as worthless or unserious because it cannot be done in total or even because it is difficult. All activism is brave and difficult because it goes against the status quo.

I won't speak for all separatists, because opinions will vary, but here's what I think:

When I call separatism or celibacy a preventative measure, I AM NOT equating it to being THE solution or THE ONLY solution. Separatism will not stop a woman from being raped BUT IT WILL REDUCE HER CHANCES OF DOMESTIC AND SEXUAL EXPLOITATION ENDEMIC TO THE SPHERE OF HET-MARRIAGE/DATING. The same way abstinence will not make your coochie immune to STD'S, just make the chances of encountering them less likely. All we can ever work with as humans is ODDS not CERTAINTIES. Decreasing the odds of being raped happens when you decrease the OPPORTUNITIES of being raped, and MOST RAPE IS DONE BY MEN WITH INTIMATE ACCESS TO WOMEN ESP IN MARRIAGE AND DATING.

Some of y'all straight up sound like that condescending ad for Bumble saying "You know celibacy is not the answer." It's AN ANSWER. One that works for very many women.

"But what about the women who can't?" Wherever they are, the conversation is clearly not about them. It's clearly about the women who can. No separatist is out here lecturing women and girls being forced into marriages about feminism to begin with. No separatist is blaming the women in Iran and Afghanistan for what the Taliban is doing to them.

Every woman and girl at some point knows that fear--when recognizing the ever-present threat of male violence--while a rational response, cannot be the solution. To live in fear will be akin to not living at all. It makes no sense to tell women to avoid every space a man may be in. Idk which separatist on here is saying that, but I would disagree with them. That would explicitly weaken other urgent feminist agendas such as acquiring economic and political power, so no I don’t think or support separatism in that sense. That is a decontexualized exaggeration of what most radblr separatists are saying. Fear should not control us but IT SHOULD INFORM US.

WE KNOW men are unavoidable. But the legally binding and socio-economically significant contract of MARRIAGE is avoidable for most of us, especially tumblrinas like let's be serious. WE KNOW that women do not choose whether or not they are victimized, but there are contexts and situations where your odds can increase or decrease. How safe a woman is when it comes to male violence is SIGNIFICANTLY dependent on HOW DEPENDENT SHE IS ON A MAN. Separatism is not, for me at least, a conversation on PROXIMITY but a conversation on DEPENDENCY. Something libfems and choicefems are NOTORIOUS for scapegoating. Women are likely to be endangered by a man if they are at his mercy at any given point and in any given sphere. So, the feminist's goal is to limit that dependence, in the work-force, government, and interpersonal dynamics.

The question of proximity is ALSO NOT (for me) about whether or not rubbing shoulders with a man on the bus will give me evil male cooties, but whether or not my female socialization will kick in and I will end up deferring to him and his needs instead of myself. THAT IS THE VULNERABILITY. Not that men exist, but that women so easily resort to fawning and pouring energy and effort into men for SIMPLY BEING THERE AS A MAN.

Women and girls need female-only spaces to combat female socialization. Without unlearning female socialization, female empowerment is moot. That's just the truth. You'll give a woman an education or a job, and she'll throw it all away for a man. We've all seen this happen. Separatism as a transitional phase is still vitally important.

To say that separatists are victim-blaming for suggesting that women DO have some say and some agency when it comes to protecting themselves is just ludicrous and absurd.

Not everyone can escape cancer. Sometimes it's genetic. Sometimes it's the air you breathe. You don't have total control, but YOU CAN REDUCE YOUR ODDS.

That is the point of a preventative measure. It is not a guarantee, it is just an extra safety net. Some men can and will cut through it, but to act like women can't do anything about it but try appease men, I find, on some level, insulting.

Because men are not these immovable or invulnerable creatures. Our freedom does not depend on their sympathy or moral sense. Case in point: history. Rehabilitating oppressors is not what got any marginalized group their freedom. Some of you sound like MRA's where the only chance women have is gonna come from convincing men and I'm just not sold on that idea like at all.

So am I saying we don't need male allies? Also no! I don't see why this has to be a fucking either or!

The primary fixation of separatist discourse should not be "abstinence" but "decentering." De-centering men in our lives, finances, decisions, etc. Because women are an important, perhaps the most important unit in the patriarchal machine. It is our loyalty to men, our worship of men, our efforts poured into men, that have facilitated the exploitation of our own sex. Being complicit doesn't mean we're any less victims. They are not exclusive in this case. When non/anti separatists deride “utopic separatists communes” that is also, to me, a distraction from the main argument. Men drain our resources in close proximity. Living in an apartment complex with only female residents doesn’t have to stop me from participating in the mixed-sex labor market or mixed-sex liberation movements. It just means that ultimately, whatever effort I am putting into either won’t jeapordize me because I am not going home to perform unpaid domestic labor or share my own wealth with a man. If anything, a female-only space empowers me more than not to effect change in the world.

Furthermore, foregoing marriage is NOT THE SAME as foregoing love. You can have a romantic relationship with a man and NOT COHABIT with him. You don't have to buy a house together or make yourself more vulnerable either financially or otherwise for the sake of proving your love or living up to this enforced ideal of what love ought to look like. You can have a fulfilling loving community and life OUTSIDE of romance, too! Like why tf are we still essentializing romance and gender in radblr???!!! Fucking frustrating! Like we're adults, y'all. We actually have to outgrow the Disney bs. Again, I'm not saying that liking romance is bad, but treating it as the end-all-be-all is literally for twelve-year-olds idc.

Instead of arguing with separatists about what makes a good separatist or not, encourage discussion on creative ways to live the rich life you want outside of patriarchal institutions. You can live with your sister and have a male partner. You can co-parent with your best friend instead of a husband. You can adopt instead of get pregnant or whatever. And if you create a bio child it can be a girl rather than a boy. Literally there's more options now than ever and I can't believe I have to keep explaining this to one of the whitest parts of the internet.

More than anything, I wish the separatist discussion would open up women's imaginations to LIFE OUTSIDE OF MEN. To focusing on WHAT THEY TRULY WANT instead of what they can or can't do. Loving a man doesn't mean you want to live with him or marry him. “Having a life” does not have to mean “living recklessly” and too many radblr users equate being in a romantic relationship with men as NECESSARY to having a life in the first place, which is part of the problem! Whether you’re attracted to them or not!

Use separatism and separatist discourse to de-center men from being these beings of ultimate fulfilment. Straight, bi, lesbian I DON'T CARE just make sure you're routinely in a space where you can TRUST that you are making decisions YOU WANT to make and that you are WARY of the way patriarchal society constantly coerces us into being in exploitative situations that benefit men more than us.

THAT'S ALL.

[maruniee]

i have thoughts i want to share about the shaw pack boys being treated more like proper werewolves instead of just "people that can turn into big ass wolves" ...but i fear i'm to embarrassed to share them to the world

[chitra111goddess]

Astrology psychosis is so real like i mostly experienced that when I was heavily into western astrology and transits and hearing ppl talk about every full moon or some harsh transit like its the end of the world or sum sht

I don't even check transits anymore like yea I still think planets influence us or wtv but stfu about it it's all this fear mongering that makes it manifest

At the end of the day astrology doesn't define u like stop making it so ego-based , ppl who actually benifit the most from studying astrology are the ones who see it from a spiritual perspective and can also be detached on some level , it's a TOOL not a personality type

U rly think ur soul is a libra or a Scorpio? Ur soul doesn't have those labels it's just energy , ur chart just shows u the path and the tools to evolve

[gothamite-rambler]

Kory: We should get married in a year.

Dick: Yeah... What?

Kory: I've had my share of adventures and experiences in my single life and in our poly dynamic. After exploring that side of myself, especially during my time with the Outlaws, I've come to realize that what I truly want is a deeper connection with you. I love you, Richard.

Dick sniffled, his eyes misty as he smiled. He looked away, looking at the ceiling.

Dick (talking to his parents): Mom, Dad if you don't want this for some reason, send a sign.

After a minute of silence and nothing bad happening in the room, Dick sighed with relief. Kory laughed softly, waiting for her boyfriend's response.

Dick (playing it cool): I guess I've reached that age to get married and you've been someone I could see myself growing old with. Yeah, in a year I will propose to you.

Kory (eager): Perfect! Oh, and you'll be getting married to a woman that's not a five stage clinger who is no good. Like Talia.

Dick: You remembered I said that. That makes me want you more.

Dick and Kory shared a kiss while Hayley napped next to the couch.

[sleepysheepyxx]

Okay, so... I know Edgar is seen as the "love" opposing force to AM's hate but like...

HAL can also fill that position.

Learned to sing Daisy Bell early in programming

One of his biggest jobs is to literally care for and protect the humans aboard Discovery

Not just physically, but also mentally (Dave mentions a "psychology report" implying he checks their mental health regularly) Plus the keeping of high morale he was to do

Literally states he enjoys working with humans, in two different occasions (2001 and 2010)

Just sayin'

[myheromarveldemia]

The fact that there are so many anti-woke X-Men fans has convinced me that having self-awareness is outright prohibited in conservatism. Being an anti-woke Marvel fan in general already exposes you for being bereft of media literacy, but how do you fix your lips to claim that Nazi-punching Captain America would don a MAGA hat? That’s a level of delulu that needs to be studied.

The way conservatives are in denial about the fact that they’re the bad guys in most of their favorite stories…

[phantom-shell]

Everytime I dare to get comfortable with the idea of my future being in the animation industry, I get hit with a wave of "fuck you" in the form of beautiful animated shows being removed from existence. I know it would absolutely break me if a beloved project of mine was treated like this.

There's no legal way of watching some of these anymore. What the hell. Why is this considered the norm now.

Why are there a bunch of showrunners, animators, writers and other various artists that need to pirate THEIR OWN SHOWS?? Y'know, the things that THEY made???

It breaks my heart that the only thing keeping these works of art from collecting dust in some corporate basement and eventually becoming lost media is pirating websites.

This is so frustrating, fuck

[airas-story]

Infinity Wars in which Strange wasn’t one of the snapped people

Numbness spread through him, overtaking the agony ripping him apart. 

Footsteps pulled his attention. “Tony.” Strange’s voice seemed to reach him through a haze. “Tony.”

Tony looked up. Rage overtook him. “You promised,” he hissed viciously. “You swore, swore, you’d let me die first.” He pushed himself to his feet, stumbling slightly as pain screamed from his side.

Strange caught him. Tony wanted to push away, but Thanos had done damage, his nanite-stitches could hide the damage, not fix it. Not even his anger could keep him standing, right now.

“I know.” Grief lined Strange’s voice. “You’re not going to believe me, but we just got lucky.” A hoarse laugh escaped him, and Tony heard pain there. “We’ll fix this, Tony.”

Tony stared at him, disbelieving. “How?” he asked. How could they possibly fix this?

Strange met his gaze. “When Thanos snapped, the only people in the entire universe who were certain to survive were you, Nebula, and Thor, lives bought and paid for by a stone. Depending on who else survived…” He shook his head. “Thanos’ ‘impartiality’ meant it had to be random. I hadn’t dared hope I’d survive. Most of the time, I didn’t.”

Tony stared at Strange, trying to conceptualize the words. “You expected to die?” The quiet resignation he’d seen in Strange’s eyes after giving the stone away made sense in a whole new way.

Something flickered across Strange’s expression. “I’ve had worse deaths.” Regret and grief filled his eyes. “I’m sorry about Peter, Tony. I…” He took a deep breath. “I had hoped…” His voice broke off. “I’m so sorry,” he whispered. “For all of this.”

“Can we really fix this?” He needed to know.

Fire lit Strange’s eyes. “Yes. We can.”

Tony took a deep breath, then chose to believe. “Then let’s do it.”

[jennastarkhasaheart]

honestly fuck nathaniel malick. just rewatched 7x10 and this guy is just the worst fucking dude aos has to offer. he tortures daisy and steals her powers, acts like theyre his, brainwashes and manipulates her sister who she didnt know existed, and then kills her mother in front of her, with her own powers, just after she got to meet her before she became insane and murderous. can someone please just punch his fucking head off or finally just shoot him in his fucking face already

[saturnniines]

malev fandom really can’t comprehend people wanting to make aus about the women/girls of the story and not just girl-beaming the same men that already get 273848394486 fanworks

[because-buddie]

What happened between 8a and 8b?

Seriously, what the fuck is going on? I’m constantly flip flopping and telling myself that “this has been intentionally written terribly” to “this is real life and Tim is just terrible at his job.” This has been my thought process since Thursday and I ain’t even watch the episode, just important clips on twitter

What happens to all the stories from 8a? What happens with Eddie and Christopher? Why even open that door to El Paso if it doesn’t get resolved before a major character death? Why give us crumbs of Buddie canon just to put some potentially major Buddie moments offscreen? Why is Ryan being treated like a side character when he’s part of the main cast? Is he in trouble? Do they just not care about his major storyline anymore?

Has this whole thing been a terrible dream sequence? Is this some type of fake out? How is it that Michael somehow got a better send off than BOBBY NASH? Why did they do this? Is one of the “character stories” that comes out of this is that chimney develops an unhealthy relationship with alcohol? Are the writers imagining some twisted, beautiful story to come out of that? Are they dumb?

Why make Athena go through this again? Why take away her (and our) joy? We know the emotions Angela Bassett is capable of but did we really need to see it this way on screen? Why can’t she just be happy? Why bother building their dream house if Bobby isn’t gonna be there for it? Why can’t a black woman get a happy ending on her own show?

Where is the quality? Where is the continuity? Why did they do this? Why are all the characters acting like mere caricatures of who they are? Why has this been handled in the laziest way possible? WHAT THE FUCK IS GOING ON???

[lunnaeva]

Kinda tired of the fandom lately, not gonna lie. Every time I try to look for new stuff in the Remus/Sirius tags, all I find is Regulus/James or Barty/Evan or some wild Regulus/Barty/James/Evan poly nonsense.

Like… what the hell is going on???

Why the hell are Death Eaters — literal known sadistic murderers — suddenly the Marauders’ besties??

I mean, I do love a good Remus & Regulus friendship trope, but I just can’t see Remus ditching the Marauders to go be BFFs with Barty and Evan of all people.

And Sirius?? With his strong moral compass?? No way he’d ever be chill with those guys — that’s literally everything he stood against.

And now James is just some sunshine himbo with no personality other than “I’m a happy golden retriever!!” Like… what???

Look, I get it, everyone can write whatever they want, AUs exist for a reason, but I really don’t get why this weird version of events is becoming so popular. Why are these clearly villainous characters suddenly getting redemption arcs while Snape is still considered human garbage (which, like, fair)?

And I’m not even talking about Regulus — I totally see him being friends with the Marauders if he actually had a believable redemption arc.

Anyway… I just wanted to scroll through the Wolfstar tag without running into 95% Jegulus and roserkiller. Even with filters, it’s a mess…