#questioning arospec

[tired-and-bored-nerd]

i might be aspec?? idk ive been having realizations??? apparently other people actually experience sexual/romantic attraction?????? like?? to people they see???? the dont just go "huh that person is cool, i shall now have a crush on them" like?? its an unwilling process??? that they cant just turn off?????

[allegoriesandepithets]

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Questioning Ace-spec ~ Questioning Aro-spec

Questioning Apl-spec ~ Questioning Aqp-spec

Questioning Analt-spec ~ Questioning Asen-spec ~ Questioning Anae-spec

Definition: One who isn’t sure if one is on the a- [attraction type] spectrum or not.

These also go by a-[attraction type]-allo-unsure (ex: ace-allo-unsure).

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@tertiary-attraction-archive @orientation-archive @radiomogai @liom-archive @imoga-pride

[questioning-aspec-culture-is]

hii,, im ace and find nonmen "attractive". ive had crushes. ive been to a few relationships, but all of them have been over the internet and ive never actually met the person. the thing is,, i love the idea of a relationship and being in love, but whenever i get into the relationship, after a few days,, my feelings just dissappear. does this mean i may be in the arospec or is this just some sign of mental illness?😭

well, I don't know of any specific label, but i do know that attraction fading when it's reciprocated/you're in a relationship is something that frayromantic and lithromantic people can experience. And if you desire a romantic relationship, then you might want to look into cupioromantic?

Even if it is 'just some sign of mental illness', it doesn't really matter. If you relate to arospec experiences, you can label yourself as arospec. Plenty of people are aro/ace due to trauma or mental illness et cetera, and that doesn't make them any less aspec than anyone else.

[trickstersaint]

i want to introduce you all to a project that is very close to my heart... or lack of one. anyway. for anyone who has ever wanted to play a poem. i'd like you to meet aromanticism

(link opens itch.io - she'll run on html in your browser! please be nice to her!)

[cookthepenguin]

is this fr? do people really use pickup lines?

[earth2audiee]

is it an aroace thing to watch a show and pick up my phone every time a kiss scene happens like it’s the most boring thing i’ve ever seen or do i just do that

[stormandsparks]

Poll

(because of something my sister told me and I’m confused so)

*but it’s fine as a word/thing for others to call themselves

Oh yeah and pls reblog for sample size!

Edit: uhhhh so votes have more than doubled in the last like hour and a half??? Thanks @fuckyeahasexual (i think) 0-0

[knifearo]

you can literally just be aromantic. it’s free and nobody’s stopping you :)

[nexus-nebulae]

petition to call wondering if you're aspec "a-speculation"

[incognitopolls]

We ask your questions so you don’t have to! Submit your questions to have them posted anonymously as polls.

[greatandholypangolin]

am I wrong for saying “shoutout to asexuals”?

ok so recently, whenever a conversation has died or whatever, I’ll just say “shoutout to asexuals” and then move on, because, idk, it’s a bit funnygoofy and also I like my asexual friends. Anyway, I said it in front of my mother and she said not to do it anymore, because it could be seen as “othering” people with asexuality. I don’t see it that way at all, but I wouldn’t like to be accidentally homophobic, so I’m using a poll to get real asexual opinions

for reference, I’m bisexual, and my mother knows that, so I am part of the LQBTQ+ community, but I’m (maybe) not asexual. I’ve been thinking about things around the aro/ace spectrum, based on past experiences, but I feel as though I’m not sure enough to give myself any proper labels. My mother doesn’t know about that part.

so, my mother’s arguments:

It may seem like I’m “othering” the asexual community by saying that

its like being the a white girl in a room with a few black people in it and saying “shoutout to black people” - it feels weird to her

im not saying it because I genuinely want to support asexuals, I’m saying it as more of a verbal tic

my 2 asexual friends agreeing is not a large enough group, even if they both are fine with it, others may not be

and my arguments are:

Im saying it to include asexuals, because they can sometimes feel disregarded in LGBTQ+ spaces

its pride month, literally the best time to give random unprovoked asexuality shoutouts

Idk, I feel like asexual people wouldn’t really be offended by that

both of my asexual friends think it’s hilarious and encourage me to keep going

it’s like a cis person saying “yay trans pride” at random moments and being told not to because it’s making trans people feel more separate

im not othering asexual people, I’m celebrating them

also pls reblog this around I want the largest possible data set so I know if I’m problematic or not

[thatone-churro]

hang on. there’s no way we’re revitalizing “are [cishet] aro people queer” discourse. it is almost 20-fucking-24. no. say sike right now. you’re all fucking ridiculous. how are we not only not over this, but bringing it up for active discourse again. and acting like the things being said are common discussion and not. blatant aphobia. which is homophobia. it’s queerphobia. did we never fucking learn from the many “they want us to fight amongst ourselves because if we’re divided it’s easier to ruin us” type talks that everyone was making a while ago. or was that a phase too. what happened to “anything not heteronormative is what queer is. anything with romance/sex/gender that’s othered from what society deems the “norm” is what we are. we are a community of outcasts because the greater community doesn’t want us either way.” what the shit.

[person25]

Something that has always bothered me is when a show/movie says something like “I want you to find the person for you. Then you’ll understand how it feels to be truly happy.”

Every time it’s said i yell “wrong!” at the tv. Really, are you saying the only way i can find true peace in life is if i’m in a romantic relationship?

My parents never understand why i have such strong feelings about this but that’s not much of a surprise.

[akorean]

Please stay safe

Please stay safe

It gets better please

[not-ay-vin]

I want a qpr so bad rn