#questioning aplatonic

[victorianvivisection]

Questioning aplatonic stuff I guess 🍏

- I mostly talk to people just because I’m bored and I need something to do, not because I’m like damn I really wanna talk to this person/people in general.

- I don’t really miss people but I will occasionally reach out to people I haven’t heard from in a while because I recognize their absence is atypical.

- I’m better with it now I think but for a very long time I would come up with every excuse to not call someone my friend because it didn’t feel right.

- I think I’d like to be apart of a group but I have little to no desire to be friends/close friends with people one on one.

- I heard platonic attraction is wanting to know someone better. Is it platonic attraction if I have curiosities about people but I satisfy that urge by just going through their social media not because I’m scared to talk to them but because I genuinely just don’t want to?

- I think I form bonds cognitively as opposed to emotionally but there might be an emotional attachment there and I don’t want bad things to happen to those I’m ‘close’ with even though I actively feel nothing for them.

- I typically talk to people of current relevancy which sounds completely normal to me but I’ve been hearing things saying/implying it isn’t??? Like if I wanna talk about this thing I should talk to this person, or this person is typically better with this stuff, etc.

[allegoriesandepithets]

Large Pixel Size Questioning A-spec Flags

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Questioning Ace-spec ~ Questioning Aro-spec

Questioning Apl-spec ~ Questioning Aqp-spec

Questioning Analt-spec ~ Questioning Asen-spec ~ Questioning Anae-spec

Definition: One who isn’t sure if one is on the a- [attraction type] spectrum or not.

These also go by a-[attraction type]-allo-unsure (ex: ace-allo-unsure).

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@tertiary-attraction-archive @orientation-archive @radiomogai @liom-archive @imoga-pride

[justatorturedpoet]

I'm questioning if I'm on the aplatonic spectrum

[questioning-aspec-culture-is]

questioning apl culture is having difficulty differentiating between emotional attachment and platonic attraction

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[analyticcataclysm]

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hi !! i figured i should make a pinned eventually. albeit i rarely use this blog, but i might repurpose it as a fandom + aspec blog ?? not sure yet.

basics > just call me anon. 16. it/its only. aroace + questioning aplatonic.

interests / fandoms > homestuck. south park. mandela catalogue.

list of tags i use (for filtering purposes. will add stuff as i see fit or if someone asks):

#friendship (mentions, implications or depictions)

#romance (mentions, implications or depictions. includes most shipping content)

i try to tag most common problems (like #blood, #eyestrain, etc.) i might occasionally miss/improperly tag stuff (feel free to dm me/send an ask if this happens.) its always ok to ask me to tag anything for any reason.

[itsoktocallmegay]

Friendly reminder that aplatonics are queer. It’s so disheartening to see so much aphobia be directed towards aplatonics. The A includes all aspecs.

[angieblogging]

can someone explain being aplatonic/afamilial to me??? i literally have questions so, feel free to answer anything or don’t idk?

1. how do friendships/platonic relationships work when you are aplatonic?

2. do u just not want or need friends when you’re aplatonic? do u need them but not want them?

3. what do you feel when you’re aplatonic? when you’re ace like i am you don’t feel sexual attraction and when you’re aplatonic you don’t feel platonic attraction, so if you don’t feel it what feelings do you feel for your friends?

4. how do your familial relationships look like if you’re afamilial? what exactly do you not feel? love for them? if so then what do you feel for them? attachment? also platonic attraction maybe instead?

5. how did you know you are aplatonic OR afamilial OR both.

**IN NO WAY I MEAN THIS AS AN INSULT I AM ASKING GENUINE QUESTIONS ABOUT A TOPIC I DONT FULLY UNDERSTAND! I DONT GET PLATONIC/FAMILIAL ATTRACTION AS WELL I CANNOT PINPOINT WHERE IT STARTS AND ENDS HENCE THE QUESTIONS ABOUT WHAT YOU DO FEEL**

[aro-culture-is]

sorry if this isn't the place to ask, i'm just feeling really dumb right now and the blogrunners here are very good at explaining things in a kind way i can understand: how do aplatonic people think of the people in their lives if not as friends? i don't ask to be judgemental, i'm really sorry if my question sounds rude, i just want to know if most aplatonic people see their (nonromantic, nonsexual) relationships as purely transactional or if it varies from person to person. i maintain a lot of impersonal transactional relationships myself so i get that, i'm just curious

hiya! i think this is something that's more of a personal question that varies among aplatonic folks.

we (the blog runners) are a system, with some members alloplatonic, others apl-spec, none who primarily identify as apl currently. Our apl-spec headmates usually call individuals we're close with our friends, in a similar way to how ace people can have sex and aro people can have romantic relationships - it's not exactly the same, but they don't feel strongly about not calling those people friends. they feel no particular drive to hang out with specific people, thought they may do so for an assortment of reasons. those are often either transactional, about maintaining relationships with people that our system values, or about community building and care, which we are very driven towards. (as in, regularly start up connections for the purpose of community building and forming affinity groups)

I'll also encourage other folks under the apl-spec to respond to this via reblogs!

note: Our blog preference, to be clear, is that we do not receive follow-up asks from anons on previous topics, as it just gets pretty confusing to navigate. when our inbox used to be in the 6-7 hundreds regularly for this blog, we'd often have asks from over a month prior appear and disappear from the inbox by just... refreshing the same page. thank you for understanding!

[foolishfynnesse]

Questioning whether I’m actually grayplatonic or if it’s just the AuDHD.

Lmao help /srs

[apl-culture-is]

Platonic-favourable Apl culture is constantly questioning if you are actually apl or if you are just a lonley allo

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[hermit-pride]

Day: 20.

Question: "Do you guys (schizoids) build strong connections to other animals or objects?". ...yes...

It's any animal for me since early childhood. They have always been a source of comfort and security for me. They don't judge, betray, talk behind your back, cheat on you, try to hurt you or anything but love you back!

I had been feeding a stray Tom cat for at least two years. Every day he showed up at the front door for his dinner unless he was on a Tomcat adventure. I had tried tirelessly to get him to warm up to me. I know cats well enough to know that we had a close bond and he was happy to be mine and vice versa but he hated it when I touched him. But he would roll around on the ground in front of me, just out of reach, with a big grin on his feline mug.

Thanksgiving Eve I brought him a little extra to celebrate the holiday. But he just laid on the ground. He allowed me to pet and comfort him for a short time then crawled under the front of the car. His breathing was slightly rapid and labored. The next morning I found his lifeless body, unmoved with fire ants all over his face. I brushed the tiny bastards off him and gave him a dignified burial in our mini pet cemetery.

My feelings were mixed. I had finally achieved my goal of giving him a little physical love. Was he too weak to resist or did he come back home to die on my doorstep knowing that at any time soon his best friend, me, would be there to bid him farewell? I miss him so much.

Snowball came home to say his final goodbye. And I will never forget him

[victorianvivisection]

In a surprising turn of events I might just be completely disinterested in people as a whole

[your-pal-nebula]

Question for aplatonic people (I'm sorry if this comes off as ignorant or rude somehow, I'm not aplatonic I'm just actually wondering)

Do you feel the desire to be friends with animals? Like, pets if you have any? It is just humans you're disinterested in or just all friends in general?

[questioning-aspec-culture-is]

questioning aplspec culture is also having attraction you label as queerplatonic and suddenly everything is confusing. are you confusing platonic attraction for queerplatonic? do you feel so little platonic attraction that (queer)platonic attraction feels so strong?? are they totally different things for you??? why does it matter so much?!?? aaAAA

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[yeye-hiro]

Just learned about aplatonic and afamilial. Aplatonic I get it and all, but I'm a bit curious about afamilial... Not in a bad way, It's interesting, and... Idk, I mean, I thought people didn't think that much about family bond? I thought it was just like a platonic relationship? Like, I love my sister, I consider her my best friend like a daughter I should protect, because I saw her growing and all that stuff, of course I have a bond with her but it's because I was there all along, and I believe if it was someone's daughter I would feel the same, wouldn't I? If I never saw her at all I would never love her the same way, probably not even love, probably not even care. What is exactly a "family bond" of isn't platonic? I should feel something with my family even when I almost never saw most of them?

[our-aplatonic-experience]

im curious what is aplatonic?

little to no platonic attraction, similar to aromantic and asexual