#queer sex education

[hellyeahscarleteen]

New donors needed to help keep Scarleteen’s queer, trans and gender nonconforming sex educators going!

We, the queer and trans, staff & volunteers at Scarleteen spend the vast majority of our time giving support. We very actively maintain a friendly and accessible website full of resources, advice and information, and provide a caring, safe and patient environment in all of our direct services. We continue to make a massive contribution towards sexuality education as a whole, as we have for the whole of our 25 year tenure. Everywhere we go we receive thanks from educators and service workers for the motivation we, and our founder Heather Corinna, have given them to do incredible work in their communities. However, for our daily survival and our dreams of the future, we need support too!

Unless our current trajectory changes we will not have the funding this year to give our volunteers end-of-year stipends to reward their generous efforts, nor bring our codirectors’ wages any closer to industry standard or even industry average rates of pay for their positions and tenure - averages which we continue to undershoot by quite some margin, nor will we be able to reimburse those staff for the many hours they have worked in excess of their basic 30 hours a week. We will also be unable to increase their healthcare benefits which for one disabled member of our team, will have been exceeded 4 times over by actual healthcare costs by the end of the year, which they have had to pay for out-of-pocket.

As part of our annual Pride celebration we are asking you to consider becoming one of the 50 (and fabulous) new recurring donors we are determined to find this week! Please consider supporting a few good queer & trans people to help us continue to deliver queer sex and relationships education, info and support, which remains free and open to all.

Recurring monthly donations of $10 or more are part of the treasured community of donors who give us peace of mind like nothing else can. We will need a further 250 recurring donors at that level or the financial equivalent to keep us on-track for our most modest projections through the coming years, so whatever help you can give us today to exceed our initial target of 50 will be cherished by us more than you can know.

Here’s some ways to help:

If you can become a new monthly donor, please do! We would love to welcome you to our valued bunch of fabulous supporters!

If you are already a donor, please consider tacking on an extra $10 per month, even temporarily, if you can!

If you cannot currently afford to donate an increased amount, or cannot donate at all, please consider reaching out to someone who you think can, so that eventually we can find that new donor. (And if you manage to sign someone up, do let us know so we can thank you!)

If you only want to or can give us a one-time donation we will still be incredibly grateful for that help at any level. We know a thing or 12 about deep financial limitations and having to choose very carefully where you give.

Please go to scarleteen.com/donate to begin your monthly donation, or if you have further questions head to scarleteen.com/contact drop us a message.

Thank you once more for your support and for being your queer/trans/allied/otherwise-awesome self,

Yours sincerely,

The Scarleteam …

of Scarleteen: queer sex ed for all since 1998❤️

[butchesanddykesandqueersohmy]

Post for the folks just starting on t who enjoy topping

Don't let dysphoria stop you from using your cock/clit etc. up and around and in your lovers holes, it can feel amazing for both of you; I promise.

One of the best things an ex who loved anal told me was that they loved when my cock rubbed up against his hole, she likened it grinding against them to a tongue but better because it allowed for me to bite the back of her neck of other kind of pinning her down etc

And it felt fucking amazing to hear her moaning while the most wonderful twitch sensations where happening around the tip of my cock every time I thrusted or ground hard enough.

So like please take this tip I really fucking wish I knew sooner cos like I had realised folks loved giving me head because oral fixation but I had thought I was too small to be of any use any where else and so let dysphoria fear rule.

Explore my loves I promise pushing yourself to explore a little bit can feel really fucking wonderful how freeing it feels to connect with lovers in ways you never anticipated you could.

It's a beautiful moment of self healing by being I've found

Love from a butch in his 30's

X

[transsexualfiend]

Repeat after me: kink is not a "gateway" to committing a crime.

[fixing-bad-posts]

be free mate

[tuttle-did-it]

“We’re trained to be like, ‘If I’m not exceptional, I won’t be loved.’ Certainly, I think that was my thing,” Gatwa shared. “So, yeah, I think I’m just learning now like, ‘Oh, you are allowed to be loved.’ You don’t have to be excellent or aspire to that term, ‘Black excellence’. What the hell?”

He continued, “There’s so much white mediocrity that gets celebrated, and Black people, we have to be absolutely flawless to get half of [that] anyway. So, I’m slowly training myself out of that and being like, ‘No shit. You deserve love just for existing.’ And that has taught me to be a lot more loving as well, in a weird way.”

No lies detected

edit - adding link to original article here.

[sexwithsophie]

My site, $ex With Sophie (withsophie.co), is a safe space for everyone, no matter if you're trans, ace, straight… anything. All are welcome. Come and join me for FREE! I love you.

[huckleberrycomics]

Make Sex Ed for Trans Men Better!

I'm doing research for a potential follow-up zine and I would love for any transmasc aligned folks to fill out this survey if you have 2 minutes!

I'm not collecting email addresses and not every question is required. I want to know what people want to learn about.

Please share this so I can get more information!

[hellyeahscarleteen]

Funding update: We're still short

Co-director Jacob here, with an update on our current fundraising efforts. We sure appreciate your understanding this interruption to the award-winning sex and relationships education programming we’d much rather be spending our time providing for you! Just over 200 wonderful folks have made a donation or become a recurring donor since we started, but we are still short of our goal! We’re still 171 new recurring donors and 5K short of 15K we need to pay our most basic bills through the end of 2024 to help us avoid cuts to our staffing and services in 2025. We'll need just around as many people as have already pitched in to close the economic gaps we're up against, and help from people who value what we do to close them. You know the drill! If you can pitch in financially, and especially as a recurring donor, we’d love and appreciate your help at any level. If you can’t, or you already have and want to help some more, making your own posts about us, why you value us, and directing your circles to our work and where to donate to support it can go such a long way. Thank you for keeping us trucking, especially to those of you who have donated now or in the past, and those of you loudly banging this drum for us out here! Here's the link to donate for yourself or to direct others to:

[butchesanddykesandqueersohmy]

Any advice would be appreciated !

I am FtM and the FtM guy I’m seeing seems to know what he’s doing a lot more than I do (Im clueless) we have only made out as of rn. He grinds his knee into me just right.. he’s been a little off before but asks to make sure and then he gets into the groove i’ve tried to do the same back but it doesn’t seem to be landing as well with him and it’s difficult to tell what i’m actually doing down there.. Next time I’ll obviously ask and I understand how important communication is about this type of thing just wondering if you have any general advice

Thank you

#1 thank you so fecking much for reaching out it means a lot to be able to offer help potentially with something like this

#2 standard sex related caveats including but not limited to

- I'm not an expert

-bodies are weird (in a positive way e.g. the different ways bodies react to sensation)

-bodies are weird (annoying/upsetting kinds of way e.g. trauma)

-consent is always important and something that can change depending on the act so check ins are important

#3 my actual advice, which will always be based in actual experience of my own or friends/partners

So first all gotta love the constant communication you folks seem to have and how you instantly know this is the key to any successes you're gonna have with this type of thing!

Fuck yes we're already off to a great start💜

For me i often find that when folks are wearing trousers like jeans, combats, corduroy or even some kinds of linen that has a larger seam allowance in the pant they're gonna be able to help you with a couple of things,

The first being that when the pants are tight fitting there's a solid chance that seam lines up pretty well with the centre line of their genitals, which depending on set up can line it perfectly up with the most sensitive parts and can be a good visual cue for you,

The other thing is that thicker seam provides something for the person to grind against for a form of extra friction which can feel good for all kinds of set ups

With a loose trouser it changes a Little obviously, but all that extra fabric can be useful for friction too, try instead of using your knee getting your partner to grind themselves down onto the top of your thigh, as they move their pelvis, the looser material of their trousers can add to the friction

Now some other things to consider that I hope doesn't come off as trite or over played but like not everybody can get off in the same ways, what works to make you feel good might not make him feel the same way there could be an element of dysphoria or even physical biology that's not hitting in the same way

He may have a slightly different sensation set up to you and so stimulation of only the most sensitive parts might not be how he gets off

Maybe he's a top of some kind and needs to feel more in control of his sexual experience

I guess what I'd do in that situation let him know how amazing he's making you feel and ask if what you're doing feels good or if there's anything else you could be doing that would make him feel good

I genuinely hope this helps and feel free to reach out anytime x

[beeesworld]

Doctor: Okay, Leighton, you've tested positive for Chlamydia.

Leighton: What? No, I've only been with women recently so that's actually impossible.

Doctor: It's actually very possible and something you should contact all your recent partners about.

[icemav86]

1980s/1990s safe sex posters part 2

[part 1]

[eve-ate-the-right-fruit]

not me ugly crying at God telling Her queer son that She "made [him] this bright so that others would see in the darkness"

Eric's arc this last season of sex education was a love letter to religious queer folk. Bless the writers the world really needed this

[angelellipsis-devilofdots]

i will never understand what goes through someone's mind when they teach teenagers, whose hormones are (in most cases) all out of whack and causing ridiculous amounts of Horny, that libido and sexual attraction are bad. literally what the fuck. actual proper education on safe sex will protect teens more than teaching them to be abstinent. all you do when you reiterate puritan culture is ensure that teens feel ashamed of sexuality and will hate themselves for it.

[spongebobs-dirty-dish]

tumblr i would absolutely hate to yell at you but WHAT ARE YOU DOING IF YOU ARE NOT WATCHING DEADBOY DETECTIVES?!?!!???!??? ITS QUEER ITS FANTASTIC ITS SCARY ITS FUNNY ITS ADORABLE AND ITS AT RISK OF BEING CANCELLED FROM LOW VIEWERSHIP!!!!!!!!!! GO WATCH IT NOW NOW NOW NOW NOWWWWWWWWWWWW

[s0lren]

Sexual information post!

(This is not a post to make anyone feel bad or to scare anyone this is just to inform people on how to have safe sex since I feel like it's not talked about enough and it needs to be normalised)

Safewords are always important, especially when doing cnc and even during 'vanilla' sex

The stop light system is a great method

Green means keep going

Orange means slow down

Red means stop

If you aren't a fan of the stoplight system try using words that you would never use during sex but are also easy to remember, names of fruit are very common

Remember, ignoring someone's safe word is never okay, sometimes people can just not hear it but if it continues to happen it's not okay.

Aftercare is also extremely important.

Some people need aftercare all the time. Some people only need it sometimes. Other people don't need it at all. But it's always good to ask.

Aftercare is for both subs and doms. I've seen way too many people claim its just for subs which isn't true, aftercare is for everyone.

People can also need aftercare in different ways. Some people need something to eat and drink. Some people need some reassuring. Some people need to be left alone for a bit. No matter what kind of aftercare you need, it's valid.

It's okay not to cum.

For some people, especially AFAB people or people on medication, it can be hard to cum but that doesn't mean that they can't enjoy themselves. Just because your partner hasn't cum doesn't mean they haven't enjoyed themselves. You can get off without needing an orgasm and don't be disheartened if you or your partner doesn't have one.

Always be safe.

If you have multiple sexual partners always use condoms to avoid contracting anything, even if they claim to be clean don't go without one unless they have proof of being clean. This also applies to sex toys, if you are sharing them with someone else then use a condom and be sure to sterilise it after using just to be on the safe side.

STIs aren't always curable and can lead to health complications down the line so if you ever suspect you have one then go to the doctor before having sex with anyone, especially if it's unprotected.

Don't do the pull out method. There is a chance that sperm can leak with precum or you could pull out just a little too late. If you are worried about pregnancy just use birth control or a condom.

Reminder

Giving your consent shouldn't be a turn off

If you aren't sure that someone is consenting then ask, never do something with someone unless you are 100% sure they want to do it

It is not consent if they persuade you to do something

It is not consent if you are too drunk to say no

It is not consent if you are asleep

It is not consent if you are being blackmailed

It is not consent if you say no

It is not consent if you don't say yes

If you didn't want to give your consent then you didn't give your consent.

Even if you aren't sure that something wasn't consensual you still need to reach out to someone. Don't suffer in silence.

[huckleberrycomics]

Zine time, zine time!

I still get downloads of this zine that @notaclevernamer and I made together every week! It is such a delight to know that so many people have found this useful.

You can download this FOR FREE on either Gumroad or on my Ko-Fi page.

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