#poor communication

[sysboxes]

[Text: This alter struggles with words both verbally and through text.]

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Never catch feelings for people with poor communication. If you want an easier life, choose people who can easily communicate, how they feel about both you and the relationship.

[ask-a-bot]

I understand, Megs. I’ve spoken with Optimus. It seems like he noticed your discomfort, but didn’t want to draw attention to it for your sake, as far as I understand it. I think, when you are ready, you two should have a talk to clear things up. What do you think?

You are probably right. Thank you for... for your kindness. Optimus has sent me a message. There is a peace offering in the kitchen, he says.

[the-bisexual-bitch]

Storytime- because it's FUN to tell people things :D

So, I've dated several people- shocking, I know! I don't know how MULTIPLE PEOPLE have made the choice to date me. Fuckin' WILD, man.

Anywhizzle, I'm usually the one to say "hey, I like you romantically!" first (usually, not always). If we end up dating, they said that they felt the same.

Unfortunately, I am a dumbass.

And EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. I've been unclear as to whether or not we're dating for like, a WEEK. For example, a couple of partners ago, I was informed by my friend, at the time, that we were dating. They had told my friend that we were dating, who asked me about it, and I answered no.

Like, it was SO UNCLEAR to me that we were dating that I answered NO. And it's been like this every time I've gotten into a romantic relationship.

In conclusion, I'm bad at context clues, and communication is important lol

[wot-tidbits]

The misunderstandings in Love Is War always make me cackle, but the ones in WoT make me wanna chuck my book across the room.

[fumbling-flower]

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Rating: E (18+)

Word Count: 57k currently

Pairing: Halsin/Tav (Named Tav)

Relationships: Halsin/Tav (Baldur's Gate), Gale & Tav (Baldur's Gate), Jaheira & Tav (Baldur's Gate), Tav & Wyll (Baldur's Gate), Halsin & Jaheira (Baldur's Gate)

Characters: Tav (Baldur's Gate), Halsin (Baldur's Gate), Gale (Baldur's Gate), Jaheira (Baldur's Gate), Wyll (Baldur's Gate), Omeluum (Baldur's Gate), Shadowheart (Baldur's Gate), Astarion (Baldur's Gate), Karlach (Baldur's Gate)

Tags/CW: 18+, Named Tav (Baldur's Gate) Alternate Universe - Modern Setting, Alternate Universe - College/University, Lack of Communication, Slow Burn, Trauma, Widowed, Smut, Fluff and Angst, Fluff, Fluff and Smut, Angst and Fluff and Smut, Communication Failure, C-PTSD, Panic Attacks, Implied Background Death, Background Character Death

Author's Note: this is a wyll chapter, because i love him.

excerpt, spoilers below!

Wyll Ravenguard was sitting in one of the red-leather booths of Waukeen’s, a hot mocha next to his hand and his laptop open in front of him. The late-autumn wind whistled against the door as people came in and out. He leaned forward and squinted at the screen—maybe he needed glasses after all. Or maybe, the screen was destroying his eyesight after looking at it for far too long.

Isobel Thorm. Philanthropist. Executive Director of the Reithwin Restoration Project.

He’d already known that about Isobel Thorm. She was a devout Selûnite who, alongside her wife, (an Aasimar by the name of Dame Aylin), dedicated herself to helping the people of Reithwin both during and after the events of the Shadow-Curse—an event, as he and thousands upon thousands of others were aware, had been brought about by Sharrans in an attack that was eventually deemed to be an act of terrorism upon the city of Reithwin. Some Sharrans had been persecuted, others were still free, and many were now dead by the hands of time—but none of that had mattered when no one had been able to lift the curse Shar had left behind. Years upon years had been spent trying to cleanse the land, to no avail. The region had become a political dead zone, left to rot by ‘civilized’ society and leaving the few survivors to their own devices. It was she and Dame Aylin who had been able to release the curse with Selûne’s power, and for that she was destined to be a famous historical figure, written in textbooks to be taught to children forever.

Rightfully, he thought. To be one of the only people not to abandon the needy of Reithwin, after having been dead for nearly one hundred years… she truly was a saint walking on Toril’s unworthy earth.

In any case, Isobel Thorm’s initial rise to sainthood wasn’t what he was looking for. He needed more discourse on the politics of Reithwin for his project—because one could not create a restoration plan without knowing what needed to be restored first. That was to be his final paper for this class, titled Diplomacy in Wartimes: to develop a restoration project that they might, in theory, put into practice next semester, if the plan was deemed good enough. He, being who he was as a person, was of course aiming for his to be as perfect as possible—not just for the grade, but so that he could put his plans into action and do some good. Though he supposed he could always volunteer time over the summer if this didn’t work out.

Wyll jotted down a couple of things in his notebook, including volunteer over the summer? at the very top of his notes. He would need to find something to do with his time, and hopefully, a job to pay his bills. As strange as it was, he’d bonded with Dr. Woodberry over his general kindness and willingness to help a disgruntled poly-sci student, and he was inclined to see if he needed an extra set of hands. Hells, he could have sorted papers for all he cared, if he could make a couple of gold off of it. He leaned out of his booth for a moment and looked for the mycology professor, curious if he was still sitting nearby, but to no avail. He had seemed to be a bit… off today. Sort of tired-looking, or a little sad. He hadn’t been able to place it at the time. But then again, he’d only spoken to the man a few times, and it had always been for help with his lab. He didn’t know him in the way someone like Dr. Dekarios would have. Maybe that was just his face, and he was making assumptions.

It was strange. But it wasn’t strange enough to distract him from his work any longer.

He turned back to the Weavenet Wikipedia page and scrolled past all of Thorm’s personal information. That was interesting to look at, but of little use to his project. Below her section was the outline of the Reithwin Restoration Project, excruciatingly detailing everything that had been done so far, both pre- and post-Shadow-Curse. Excruciating was precisely what he’d been looking for. Wyll took a sip of his coffee, now the perfect temperature, and began rummaging through it, noting things down as he went.

Housing Crisis: New low-income housing being built with funding from wealthy in Baldur’s Gate and donations from civilians. Attempting to create public housing, waiting on confirmation from Baldur’s Gate. Housing focuses on safety, decency/longevity, and affordability/charity.

Affordable housing made sense, of course. It was impossible to recover from a traumatic event without somewhere to lay your head. The donations from Baldur’s Gate itself pleasantly surprised him. Father would have approved.

He frowned, shaking his head, and kept looking.

Rebuilding Damaged Buildings and Clearing Rubble: Restoring buildings related to production and mandatory resources, i.e. food production, healthcare, soup kitchens, grocery stores, etc.

That would bring jobs back onto the market too, he thought. The only issue would be convincing workers who had never lived within Reithwin to go to Reithwin, a place that many (horribly ignorant) people still considered to be ‘cursed.’ The way those people talked about it was the same way they talked about Elturel—they were the same breed who’d essentially exiled hundreds of innocent tieflings for “looking of the hells.”

Beneath all of the action plans was an interview taken from Isobel Thorm’s shortly after her resurrection. He’d never seen this interview before; not in full anyhow. Mentions of it had come up in academic journals, but it struck him that he’d never read the whole thing. Curious, he began to skim through it.

Thorm: “I’m glad to be back on this plane. It is… jarring, I must admit.”

Interviewer: “If you don’t mind me asking, do you remember how you died?”

Thorm: “No, I don’t mind. I struggle to remember who killed me—and if I did, I wouldn’t want to speak his name, even if I knew it. Things were complicated then. My father had me on the wrong side of the war. He was a tragic man. [She pauses, collecting herself.] I am safe in Selûne’s light now, and I am ready to do her bidding.”

Interviewer: “You don’t hold any malice for the one that killed you? That’s very forgiving of you.”

Thorm: “Don’t misunderstand me. This person still ended my life. He took me away from my beloved Aylin. He forced me to lie in a tomb for a hundred years. I hold no malice, but you do not forgive your killer, no matter how well-intentioned they might have been.”

Another fragment of an interview rest below:

Thorm: “I know it may not make sense to you. It hasn’t made sense to anyone else I’ve told. But like I’ve said before, I’ve chosen to forgive the one who killed me, even knowing who he was. There was so much misunderstanding then. He did the wrong thing, but acted in a way that he thought was right.”

Interviewer: “Will his name ever be released to the public?”

Thorm: “No. Never. He deserves to live his life—away from me—just as I deserve mine.”

The text gave him chills.

Ketheric Thorm was—well, had been—Isobel Thorm’s father. He’d been a powerful political figure in Reithwin over a hundred years ago, but it was rumored that when his wife passed away, he’d turned away from Selûne’s light towards Shar’s darkness. That had affected the board he worked with as he ousted people left and right, until in the end, he’d been was surrounded with others like himself. Some of the people of Reithwin had begun to grow nervous, and protests began. Instead of handling things diplomatically, Ketheric, whom Wyll presumed was no longer in his right mind, released a sliver of the Shadowfell onto the Material Plane and drenched Reithwin in darkness. It was then that the true war had begun, and Isobel, who was loyal to her father and trapped on the wrong side of things, was killed. It was said that she’d been assassinated mere days before she was to abandon her father’s grasp.

To be assassinated and left for dead for one hundred years, wrongfully? Wyll thought Isobel Thorm had been kind in her judgment. He may not have been so forgiving.

[its--deandraa]

In case anyone is wondering what it’s like to try to speak to a 60 year old woman (aka my mom) about anything serious in life ever, this is about all I get!

Suppose I just go fuck myself now, right?

[cosmicevolushion]

It's just me and my poor communication skill against the world

[sysboxes]

[Text: This alter struggles with communication.]

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[vedette-venti]

i was trying to get this cute 4 year old tortie cat named bianca from my ex’s relative’s home that he was staying at. all i can remember was how incredibly difficult it was to get this cat to me. 

i had asked him a couple of times if i could travel to their own and pick her up because he was super busy and i was trying to make this process easy as possible, but he would tell me no without an explanation. 

when i was doing a ton of research on how to care for a cat, he had questioned me about how i was going to care of the cat. don’t get me wrong, it’s a wonderful question to ask. however, this was kind of an issue for me because we knew that she wasn’t being fully cared for in the home where she was at and he doesn’t like pets, especially cats. i quietly suspected him of trying to keep me from getting a cat because if we ever lived together, then he would know the cat was coming in with us. i don’t if this suspicion is true. i just felt he’d rather live in a pet free home.

when i was done researching and cat proofing my home, ready to receive her, i went and talked to him about it with a plan. i told him that i was ready and that i can drive down there and pick her up or when he’s free and not tired, meet him halfway somewhere. he was upset cause i didn’t consider him and his situation in any of this.

the situation: he got into a huge argument with 2 of the ladies in the home. afterwards, the house essentially divided against him.

so he let me know that he was too busy and that he couldn’t do this plan, let alone anytime soon. i was very upset cause i was eagerly awaiting bianca. i let him know this later on and he let me know that if i really wanted her, i wouldn’t have waited so long and that i could have asked to pick her up on a couple of days that he was free that he did not communicate to me. 

at the time i didn’t realize it, but i was the only one really working overtime to plan and receive this cat. i only know this because of how seamless he came up with dates that i could have picked her up after i worked to get our schedules and see when we were both free. this included days where i knew he was free, but maybe wanted to himself.

this text conversation happened awhile after the situation above regarding picking up bianca. it shows what guilt tripping and poor communication looks like. happy learning !

♥ || ♥ || ♥

the apology was nice. it’s always nice, but he has been abducted by his emotions in this same fashion all 3.5 years we were together. this situation in particular has been one of the tamer times, unfortunately.

[cmesparkle]

Look Who's Silent Now

My words are reflections of this truth I sat with on simmer for three years, begging myself to never boil, knowing that your soul disrupted mine. How could I climb with your dead weight? How could I be your peace when you weren't mine? How could I be the beacon in the middle of your night when you never answered my calls? My words encapsulate you, you hate what I am and you still can't stop looking, the beauty in our naked bodies trumping all logic and reason. When you really think about it, there's no point in speaking up. I shouldn't have told you how you let me down. You never cared, and why would you care now?

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

yay water

time to drink water woo hoo yay

[meinradsocien]

How does poor communication evolve in relationships--it's effects and causes, the case of mine

Poor communication starts when you simply assume that what you chose not to say or was not asked is already in your partner’s knowledge. When your partner finds out, the first thing you are likely to do is defend yourself by explaining yourself or you have to apologise. Should you choose to defend yourself, you list things you should have said some time ago for you to have been considered good at…

[faggotisaacfloofs]

the person who helped today when I fell out of my wheelchair actually did a really great job, so I want to share in case other people wonder what to do. [Note: this is not universal, this is merely a suggestion from one person, every wheelchair user's needs are different! I am a person who uses a manual chair usually pushed by someone else who is also disabled.]

Scenario: you see someone in a wheelchair fall out of their chair, and you have the ability to help.

1. Approach and ask "are you okay?"*

2. Next question if they say no, are vague, or open to continuing conversation** is, "is there anything I can do to help?" Or "what can I do?"

If they say no to help, then that's the end, just leave and go do whatever you were doing!

If they ask for help or say they are mildly injured, ask "what would you like me to do?" And wait for an answer before doing anything! If they seem dazed or confused, they might have hit their head or had another medical event*, or they might just be like that due to regular disability. Be patient.

Do not touch the person unless they say to, or they are like, unconcious in the middle of the road, ya know?? Wheelchair users usually have conditions that mean being handled improperly can severely injure us, you could cause much more damage than the fall.

Some things they might need you to do:

Bring their wheelchair closer (mine went about 5 feet away after it dumped me)

engage the brakes of the wheelchair

hold wheelchair steady if it's an unsteady surface (mud, hill, ramp, wet, etc)

offer an arm for them to hold onto to get up (them grabbing you, not you grabbing them) or move another solid item closer for them to use (i.e. a chair) [only do this if you physically have the ability to!]

If the terrain is rough (i.e. a parking lot), they *might* ask you to push their chair to a more stable area once they are back in their chair

nothing

Something else

Do what they ask, NOT what you think would be helpful. If for some reason you have to do something (i.e. you can't stop oncoming traffic and need to get them out) ASAP, tell them what you plan to do

Keep in mind they might also be D/deaf, have a communication disability, be stunned after the fall, have a head injury, not trust other people, etc. Be patient and treat them as a person with autonomy and agency! They might need to just sit on the ground for a few minutes to recover before trying to get back in their chair. They might want everyone to leave them alone. They might ask you to call someone specific. Their chair might have broken and that can be extremely distressing. All of this is like if your legs spontaneously stop working when you're out and about!

A lot of wheelchair users (NOT ALL) have ways to get into their chair on their own once the chair is close enough and brakes engaged (but it's hard from the ground!). Here's what brakes look like on a lot of manual wheelchairs, in case they ask you to lock the brakes. They're levers on each side and pushing the lever pushes a bar against the wheel to hold it still.

ID: A manual wheelchair with the brake levels circled in red and labeled "user brake levers"

*There is also the possibility of course that a person fell out of their chair due to a seizure or other medical event, so that is why it is important to ask if they are okay. If you saw them hit their head, tell them so. If they had a medical event, follow protocol for that, I'm not gonna get into it here (thought I could).

**sometimes a person will be clear after the first question i.e. "I'm all good thanks" clearly means they do not need you to ask another question, you can just leave them alone. Keep walking and don't stare. A lot of the time people will be a bit banged up but be totally fine and able to manage on their own.

TLDR: Ask the wheelchair user if they're okay, then what they need, and then do exactly that, including leaving them alone. Thanks!

[chloeworships]

The Russian….

Someone’s ex and their current love interest are trying to expose them. Why? Because this man was not honest from the start.

Now, he may have had his reasons why he didn’t reveal the the truth as to why he was hiding these children, but what was revealed to me was that he should have told the truth about the situation he was in. It would have panned out better for him.

This man has two children that are not his and he doesn’t know 😞

This man or his ex could be Russian.

Sorry fellas but I have to be 💯 truthful. So many issues could be resolved if people were honest. When you deceive others you yourself become the deceived. This man has no idea these two children are not his.

Ladies, you may have tried to reach this man to ask for clarity and to voice your suspicions but he ignored your calls and left you to assume the worst. That’s where he went wrong.

Although I don’t see this being necessarily vengeful, your current love interest wants to show she has proof of you with this ex in the past, even though you’re no longer together. God revealed to her that those kids you’ve been mining on the side and hiding from her, are not yours.

The lying and sneaking around was all for nothing and it may impact your pockets 💰your career (reputation) and cause you embarrassment…Severely…. Not to mention the children 😔

This man ignored the woman who was the one being true to him for the woman who was lying. I saw him ignoring her calls but answering the calls of the deceiver 📲

What’s even more insane about this is, the one who did the deceiving will take part in this exposé. 🤦��‍♀️

Ladies if you are the current lover, you could have left another broken relationship only to find out your new love interest was keeping secrets from you and it broke your heart 💔 For that, I am sorry girl. You deserve better because YOU were loyal the entire time.

Please don’t blame yourself because you did the right thing by asking for clarification. You were somewhat of a good luck charm for this person to alert this man to this deception. The LORD sent you to reveal this to him but he ignored you for what he thought was better 👩🏻‍🦰

Withholding the truth is just as bad as telling a lie.

Now you know so be ready. The audacity of some people eh?

PS. I know for someone in this situation, their ex-wife is Russian. She tried to speak to me in Russian when I tried to confront her about the cold hard facts. I was willing to have an honest conversation with her in contrast to my love interest in the dream.

PPS. I want to be clear, that no one in the dream was actually together… it was more like a situationship rather than a committed relationship. I specifically said “love interest” instead of boyfriend or girlfriend for this reason.

Songs I heard 🎵

SN. Pls note some folks could be actors in this dream and this could be for more than one person.

Someone here loves their cannabis. I smelled it while writing this.

I also saw the Russian woman with a lollipop 🍭

My “proof” was a photo she and I took in front of his house 🏡👀

Btw he cannot stand this ex-wife. He tolerates her for the sake of the children who aren’t even his. The Russian woman looked a tad bit frail and looked as though she suffers from low self-esteem. I felt bad for her in a way 😭 Maybe it’s because I confronted her.

Scriptures to consider:

Lastly, a good wife always brings her husband favour, not trouble 🍀 She herself has a good reputation in her community.

Whatever you do,

KEEP YOUR 🆒

Remember this message is to give you the heads up of this upcoming deception. Not to ridicule you.

I forgot to mention I made Ms. Russian FaceTime my love interest while I listened in the background to prove he was indeed ignoring my calls. If this hasn’t happened yet, be honest with your new love interest. Even if she becomes upset, at least she can’t call you a liar 🤥 The other woman is your ex.

I have another message that’s sensitive like this to share 🔜

⚠️UPDATE:

If this isn’t love related, are the Russians hiding children somewhere?

👀

I saw two red head children in a pink stroller. They were no older than two years old. Come to think of it, aren’t two red head children apart of the missing hostages abducted in Israel? 🇮🇱 Aren’t Ukrainian children missing also? Why would they be in RUSSIA???? Or are the Russians involved in this kidnapping somehow? Lawd have mercy!!!

I need answers.

And people are going to sit here and condemn Israel while Hamas parades around falsely dubbed as some Resistance. I promise you, calamity and chaos is coming for anyone supporting this injustice.

💔🔥😡

All hell is going to break loose if these children are harmed.

[phywrites]

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