#please tag them properly because it just makes it so much easier for people to find stuff they are looking for

[star-wh0r3s]

I have this ick when people don’t tag things correctly for fanfics and stuff

like when your scrolling through x reader and there’s a bunch of oc’s or like when your trying to find smut or something and then posts about fluff are on there

i get adding more tags helps boost the post but please don’t include tags that don’t relate to the post

[genericpuff]

in the wake of LO ending, especially over the next three weeks as the FP updates become free, this is your public service reminder from a fellow anti that you should be following tumblr / fandom etiquette and keeping antiLO/critical LO posts to their respective tags (#antiloreolympus , #antilo, #locritical, #loreolympuscritical) as best as you can

yes, it's our own responsibility to curate our online experiences by following the accounts we like and blocking the accounts we don't, and using the general search bar on tumblr absolutely opens you up to the inevitable risk of seeing something you don't wanna see, but we as the critical side of the fandom should be doing what we can to make it easier for people to curate by labelling our criticisms / shitposts / etc. about LO with the correct tags ! this ensures that if someone doesn't want to see anti/critical stuff, they can do their part to block those tags and don't have to worry about it leaking into the general tags. I don't think it's that big of a reach to expect that general fandom tags will contain content from, y'know... people who are still genuine fans and not talking shit LOL

And yes, this is why you will not see me ever using the general loreolympus tags when posting my own critical essays or Rekindled. Obviously what you decide to tag your stuff with is on you, but I'm gonna ask y'all to please remember NOT to use general loreolympus tags when reblogging my stuff!! that's not to say my content is entirely off-limits to fans of the comic (we actually do have people in the Rekindled community who enjoy both!), but what I do here obviously isn't tailored specifically to general fans of the comic and the general LO tags are what those fans are using to find content from other fans, not hyper-driven maniacal anti's like myself ╭( ･ㅂ･)و

Just because it's no longer an unpopular opinion to rag on LO doesn't mean our slice of the fandom is now the whole pie. It's easy to think when you spend so much time in the critical part of the fandom that LO is somehow "dead" but like, there is still very much a dedicated fanbase to this comic and it still has some of the highest stats on the platform. We can't in good faith complain about fans coming into our spaces complaining about criticism existing if we're not gonna follow the rules of etiquette and label our stuff properly. And hey, at the very least if we properly tag things and they still find it from journeying into the anti/critical tags, then that's on them at that point. We don't have to take that "stop being such a meanie to two-time-Eisner-winning NYT bestselling creator Rachel Smythe" shtick from anyone, but we do gotta be willing to respect the lines that are drawn in the sand so that we don't tear each other apart over this dumbass webcomic LOL

[syninplays]

So uhm... I did a thing...

✨Character Info Template✨

UPDATE 11.24.24: this template now has a page theme version! if you're not a fan of templates, you can get the code to use it as an interactive multimuse page >here<

Been meaning to do this a long time ago (and actually started it but never finished it, lol) as a way to share some more information about my ocs without needing to use a custom page theme, but mostly because I haven't found any page theme that looks exactly as I want and allows this much customization.

There are two versions and both are almost exactly the same; but the example shown in the left has an 'appearance' section which is small and has few quick facts regarding the oc's appearance; while the example on the right has a 'moodboard' section instead which allows you to add more info about your oc.

You can change every section/title to fit your needs like I did in the examples below; I personally removed some categories as well and got rid of some connections as this oc doesn't have that many close friends/partners to fill the original template. However, I also included an extra separated 'connections' section in the download in case you want to add more people and more information.

I recommend you stick to square-shaped pictures so it's easier to fit them to each section. Also if and when you edit the information or section titles, please select only one line at a time to replace it so you don't lose the text format. (Titles shouldn't change because that's a single format/font within the same text box, but should it change you can always hit ctrl+z hehe) When you're done, I strongly recommend you save this as a .png instead of .jpg so it's the best possible quality!

Last but not least, this is a .psd file. So you'll need either Photoshop (I did this with Photoshop Portable, but it supports newer versions of PS and it *should* support older versions too) or Photopea to open and edit this file.

Credits: Adobe Photoshop, Inter font, Golften Vintage font

>DOWNLOAD< (patreon but free :p)

(note: I'm posting this with my gaming blog because I think my fellow gamers might be interested in this, but please consider giving credits to me if you use this template by tagging @synindoodles instead of this blog)

More info on how to use and edit this template below the cut!

Layers:

>Each layer is properly named and categorized. The general layers such as the background, the icon shape and background shapes are under the groups.

>If you don't want to see/don't need one of the connections' pictures and information, I recommend you find which one it is (1, 2, 3, 4, 5 or 6) and click on the eye symbol next to the layer to hide it so that way if you ever need it, it won't be truly gone.

>To edit a text section, simply find the layer (such as General Information>Left Column) and double click on the 'T' symbol next to the layer. That way it will open edit mode and allow you to edit the text, just don't hit delete or enter while everything is selected or you'll erase it :p

>Main text sections aren't separated, they're blocks of text. I recommend you don't remove the amount (for example, if you downloaded the version with the 'appearance' section, which has 5 sections of information, don't remove the fifth line.) Either leave it empty or replace it with another data, otherwise it will look weird. The 'general information' section might look good even if you remove a few lines, just don't get rid of the whole block of text.

Pictures:

>To add a new picture, simply paste it over this document and move it using the Move Tool.

>To frame it (so it becomes a circle or fits over the shape you want), make sure the picture layer is over the layer you want, then while holding alt click between the two layers. [For example, if you want to add a new main oc picture: 1) paste the pic you want, 2) move it with the Move Tool so it's covering the big circle, 3) once you've fully covered the shape (if it isn't you can resize it by right clicking on it then on 'free transform', sometimes you might need to hold shift to proportionally resize it) make sure the newly pasted pic layer is over the layer named "picture goes here", 4) hold the alt key and hover your mouse cursor over the line between your pic layer and the circle layer until you see an arrow going down symbol, once you see it click it and tah dah! your picture should now have the same shape as the circle! - you can further move it if it doesn't fit the way you want with the Move Tool (;

Others:

>You can change every color, font and section to your liking, just don't change the general layout of the template.

>To hide/show the guides (those bright blue lines all over the document), click ctrl+,

>'Inter' is a free font and you can get it in the link above (linked with the credits), Golften Vintage is not, but you can get the demo version >here< (just scroll down and click the blue download button under license). I will not tell you how to install fonts as it might be different for everyone (for me it's C:/Windows/Fonts and I just drop the zipped files (except the .txt one) there), but google is your friend.

>I can't think of anything else that needs to be said here, but if you have any other question feel free to send me an ask or dm and I'll help you out!

>Last but not least, a like is appreciated if you plan to use this plus consider tagging @synindoodles if you use it <3

[riordanverserpdatabase]

RP Community Courtesy Rules

Hello users!!! It’s come to our attention that there have been some pretty heavy controversies occurring here in our favorite place on the internet, and we wanted to try and do our part to help ease the tensions as much as we can. Let’s preface this post with a little disclaimer before we continue:

The Database is not a regulating body in the Tumblr RP Community, so these rules are merely a suggestion. We are in no way attempting to force anyone to follow them, or make any comments about those who don’t. We just want everyone to have a good time here, and figured evening out the playing field by suggesting a few courtesy rules would be a good idea. If you disagree with any of our suggestions, feel free to disregard our post!

Let’s get started!! Here’s what we have to say:

1. Respecting others, and their ideas.

With so many different people all in one place, you’re bound to see a concept or idea that you disagree with, maybe even one that upsets you. While it’s understandable that you might feel passionate about sharing that opinion (and you are allowed to) it’s important to remember that there are people on the other side of the screen reading what you have to say.

It is never okay to send hate, threats, or other negative things to a user because you don’t like their ideas.

Instead, vent privately to your friends, and block users who are making you uncomfortable so you don’t have to see the things that are bothering you.

At the same time, if you are planning on posting content that contains sensitive topics that tend to be controversial, please ensure it is properly tagged, and understand that you are likely going to make some waves. If you think it’s going to get some push back and you’re not prepared to handle it, keep it private.

2. Tagging with Courtesy

There are LOTS of ways to tag other users in our community. On pinned posts, in tag lists for starters or reblog games, and other places too. Remember that when you tag someone, especially on a pinned post, you’re connecting your accounts in a very public way.

It is usually considered rude to tag people without asking them first. If you are personal friends with them the rules become a bit more flexible, but otherwise it’s most appropriate to ask a user if they are willing to be tagged in something before you do it. This includes tag games, which some people prefer not to be included in.

Many people have a tag list, which is a list of users they’ve already got permission to tag in their posts. We love this idea!!

To aid in making this rule easier to follow, some blogs have started adding these permissions to their bios/pinned posts to make this easier.feel free to join in with us!

Tag games: yes/no

Roleplay Tags: Anyone/moots only/ask first/no thank you

3. Approaching angst carefully

Role playing difficult or sensitive topics is a great way to vent and explore, but sometimes having that directed at one of your characters directly can be a little difficult to handle.

Before starting an interaction that involves angst (such as characters fighting/venting/revealing traumatic backstories) it is polite to ask your partner if they’re comfortable.

You never know what kind of a day someone is having. This permission might change day to day, and some days it might just be a little too much. That also means this permission might change depending on what’s going on in their lives. Be patient and respectful with your Roleplay partners. Take care of them!

In addition, if you are an OC interacting with a Canon Character, and your OC had some kind of negative interaction or relationship with that canon character, understand that the person running that blog is not obligated to entertain your idea, just like you are not obligated to change your OCs backstory.

It is perfectly fine for you to disagree! It is not okay to harass someone running a canon character blog because of something they had no idea was a part of your characters backstory and had no say in creating.

4. Replies; timing and consistency

As frustrating as it may be, nobody here owes anybody else replies. No one is being paid to be here, and so no one is obligated to reply.

Replies may stop for any number of reasons, including:

- people getting busy with school/work/family

-someone becoming uncomfortable with the Roleplay

- a character’s direction changing

- someone feeling like the thread has gone on long enough

- having RP styles that are a little too different

Or even for no reason at all! If someone is not replying to you anymore, there is no need to go after them. They do not owe you, and you do not owe them! Entertain RP partners who give you the quality/speed of replies that you enjoy, and let everyone else mind their own business.

5. Replies pt. 2, the content!!

When replying to someone, the format can vary greatly from blog to blog. While there are no rules, since we are all here to have fun, here are some guidelines that make your replies easy and enjoyable to read!

Make sure that your replies are formatted so that your RP partner can tell which things are actions and which are spoken words!

Here’s an example of an unformatted reply:

Hey, did you want to share?

He smiled, holding out a bowl of candy towards you.

And here are a couple of examples of how you could more clearly format this so you can tell what’s spoken and what’s not:

“Hey, did you want to share?”

He smiled, holding out a bowl of candy towards you.

Hey, did you want to share?

He smiled, holding out a bowl of candy towards you.

“Hey, did you want to share?”

He smiled, holding out a bowl of candy towards you.

In addition to the formatting, content of replies is just as important! It is general courtesy to match the length and style of your role play partner, but it’s not necessary! You can role play any style you like.

However, role play replies should always contain TWO things: a response to the previous reply, and something for your partner to respond to!

It’s hard to respond to short or one word replies sometimes, and equally hard to respond to replies that only answer the last post and don’t continue the action. This can be really simple! Let’s do an example using Dean and Maverick:

Maverick sends a reply to Dean that reads as follows:

Maverick waved in greeting, one hand in his pocket.

“Hey Dean! It’s good to see you. Getting breakfast?”

A too-short reply to this might read like this:

“Hi Maverick!”

In this reply, Maverick’s mun is now responsible for moving the role play forward. They will have to write all the action, and carry the role play all on their own, while Dean’s mun continues responding by only reacting to the action happening in the replies.

For some people, roleplaying that way can be very draining and take the fun out of the responses.

Let’s format a reply that gives Maverick a little more to work with!

“Hi Maverick!”

Dean waved back, smiling brightly.

“Yeah I am! Do you want to come with me?”

See how in this reply, we’ve matched the length of the previous one, and given Maverick something to respond to? It doesn’t have to be a super long reply! All you have to do is give your partner something to do!

Now that you’ve made it to the bottom, we’d like to take this opportunity to remind you that these are only suggestions, and by no means are these hard rules. If you’re new to roleplaying, you may not have known that these are sort of standards of the community, and if you are having trouble getting replies and noticed that you’re doing one or more of these things, that could be the reason!

If you’d prefer to ignore this post and continue doing things the way you were, we’re more than fine to hear that! We love and support all our community members, regardless of their role play style.

We hope some people will find this post reassuring! If you have expressed discomfort with the way some of your friends are roleplaying, you are heard. Please be patient and kind!

[blueflipflops]

More snippets from my previous posts about introducing Feanorions to Scrabble...

Part 1, Part 2,

Next (part4)

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@youareunbearable

Babe, please. Dont hide these in the tags. Your brain is huge. This just changed my entire world view. We should kiss on the mouth.

Already did monopoly but I'll add it so that other people can see it too. Although I added more to this one.

@backgroundelf @arinele @weezlbot

Feanorions and Monopoly would be even MORE chaotic. No matter how they start the game, it would always end up with them taking it too seriously. They would somehow make it into a high stakes strategy game only not so slightly veering into warcraft. It'd be Silmarillion 2.0. No one really dies but theres always someone who gets close to being stabbed and someone flips the table at least twice a game.

Moryo is being a very stingy banker. He wanted to play too but was too preoccupied on the money distribution being Right that just took over the job. But when he does join in the game, everyone suddenly wants to team up against the guy on principle. Moryo double checks every piece of money everyone has. He somehow knows how much is left in your bank and can and will find a way to bankrupt you for the pettiest things. In fact, he enjoys driving people to backrupcy. Especially Curufin. And Maglor.

While he's playing, Maedhros vollunteers to be the banker and suddenly commiting tax frauds are 10x more harder and easier at the same time. It makes Moryo wanna rip his hair off.(His own or Meadhros. He's not that picky)

It is surprisingly, Maedhros who commits tax frauds when playing but they cant even call him out on it because he is somehow able to keep argueing his way out of the accusation and it blindsides them when he pulls out an Actual Literal Quenyan Property Law out of his ass and says that they cannot properly arrest him nor seize his properties without a warrant and evidence. He claimed the Ambarussa as his "vassals" (there are no such things as vassals in monopoly, Nelyo—) and therefore he has negotiated, with all the gravitas and political expertise he has learned from several years of leading armies and being an actual Lord of Himring, 25% of their own profits to be promised to him. ("This is basically daylight robbery, brother! From our own flesh and blood!—")

Maglor is somehow getting good investments at the first half before Curufin and Celegorm worked together to bankrupt him in one fell swoop. He is shouting crying throwing up but he cant do anything about it but become indebted to the two.

There was a near mutiny when Feanor and Nerdanel teamed up.

Before they knew it they're in a three way war with each other.

No one has more stronger opinions on property law than Feanorions.

[victimeyez]

Break Up

Professional//Victim

Masterlist: x Prev: x Next: x

Mind the tags

Tag list: @suspicious-whumping-egg @just-a-whumping-racoon-with-wifi @whumpyourdamnpears @generic-whumperz @lonesome--hunter @whumplr-reader @theelvishcowgirl @sunshiline-writes @dont-be-gentle-please @galesgallery @thembology @2in1whump @sparrowsage @apokolyps @whumpinggrounds

~

“Tell me when it hurts. Well, when it hurts more.”

Sam probed his fingers up Tommy’s abdomen, pushing in gently. Tommy grit his teeth and stared up at the exam light until his eyes watered.

Everything hurt, a condition he was almost starting to get used to. His chest hurt, his back hurt, his ankles hurt, his ass hurt. The skin Sam’s touch skirted over was in slices, and deeper bruising cut beneath it from the force of the whip.

He flinched badly when Sam’s fingers hit a sore spot, painful enough that he immediately curled up to protect himself. Sam sighed.

“You could make this easier for me.”

(You could, too.)

When Sam stepped away, he wrapped the towel he had been given back around himself, attempting some form of modesty. He’d had the shivers since they had taken him off of the hooks.

Sam returned wheeling an odd machine in like a cart, Caius in tow this time.

“So tell me,” Sam addressed the other man.

“What the fuck am I supposed to do with this?”

Sam gestured broadly to Tommy, laying on the exam table with the towel.

“What’s the problem?” Caius asked coolly, unaffected by the state of his ward.

“Damn near every time you bring him in, it gets worse. Where are you even finding these people?”

The machine was rolled over to Tommy’s bedside and he started manipulating his limbs like a ragdoll. Tommy didn’t resist, just swallowed the bile in his throat and closed his eyes. A curved part of the machine was positioned over his chest.

“Keep those closed, put your head to the side.”

He obeyed, and saw the flash of the x-ray light under his eyelids for a moment. A few more adjustments, a few more flashes.

“Roll over.”

“Woof.” Tommy mumbled sarcastically, but he was tired. Far too tired to fight. He managed to turn over onto his stomach. There wasn’t any position he could lie in that didn’t hurt like hell, but Sam had given him some good shit and it was starting to kick in. Its foggy embrace dulled the pain significantly.

Sam made an annoyed sound when he saw the gouges on his back. The romantic carving on his ass was still trickling blood, the deep lines struggling to clot properly.

A few more photos taken up his back, and the big printer in the corner started to spit them out. Sam pulled them off and started sticking them to his light board in rows. Caius joined him, eyeing the photos impassively.

“You see this here? Broken rib. Another here. This other one is a hairline fracture. You’re lucky his ankles aren’t broken. And his wrists are both half-pulled out of their sockets -“

Tommy listened to Sam shaming Caius, smirking a little to himself as if it was to his benefit. He really didn’t realize he had broken anything, but it made sense given how bad he was roughed up. It made him feel a little better about how much pain he had been in, as if this revelation justified it.

“They tossed him down some stairs. And he fell off some…monkey bars. It probably happened then.”

Sam swore, and there was a clatter as he hit or threw something to the ground.

“What the fuck were you thinking? Do you know how easily he could have broken his neck?”

“It happened really fast, I didn’t realize he was in danger until he was already at the bottom of the steps. And fuck off, because he’s fine.”

They continued to bicker, while Tommy pulled the towel up to pad under his head. He started to doze off, the heavy drugs finally letting him relax for the first time since the first blow.

(They’re being insufferable.)

(...More than they usually are. You know what that means,)

(…)

(They’re hooking up again.)

The realization suddenly settled in, and it disturbed him enough that he lost the thread of sleep he had started to follow. When Caius and Sam started acting like this, it only ever meant one horrible, terrifying thing:

They were dating again.

Their last breakup had almost been amenable, and they had been separated for over a year. They were terrible and toxic and constantly on again/off again, but he thought they’d finally stopped trying.

His first clue should have been Sam chewing out Caius over him. Sam couldn’t give a shit about his well-being, he just liked nagging Caius about him.

Last time they broke up, Caius put off taking Tommy to get fixed up until he could no longer eat. Caius bitched about Sam the whole way there, and dumped him off - just in time to have Sam bitch about Caius until his keeper hauled him off again.

Every time, he inevitably became a weird pawn between them. Sam cut his meds off when he was pissed at Caius, and Tommy had to beg for aspirin for a broken jaw.

Caius would become overly concerned with Tommy’s health and demand lots of checkups to spend time bothering Dr. Snow. When Sam called him out on it, he broke Tommy’s nose so he’d have another reason.

That one never healed quite right.

Sam was laughing when he returned next to the exam table, and he pulled a prescription bottle out of his pocket. He waggled it naughtily in front of him, making the tablets inside rattle.

“You want another one?”

He uncapped it and dangled an oblong pill in his fingertips over Tommy. Tommy brought his hand up and managed to catch Sam’s, pulling his wrist to his mouth.

Sam chuckled and relinquished the pill to him. Tommy choked it down dry and laid back down. It tasted disgustingly bitter. He just wanted to go away for a while, somewhere outside his prison of a body. He definitely did not want to think about Sam, and Caius, and Lisa and Mark.

Sam popped one in his own mouth and dry swallowed it with practiced ease.

“Let’s get you fixed up, huh?”

[sleepymccoy]

Hey sleepy! I liked your reply about your job and the questions you need to think about wording. I saw something in your tags and wanted to provide my experience if that's ok? I don't know how valuable it is to share, and it may be the case that you already know or have considered this, so, to be taken or left at will :)

You say you see a lot of autistic people on tumblr having strong negative reactions to normal interactions, which can be a bit confusing. And it's true! They are normal and polite, and to some extent necessary. What I want to say is this : I am autistic, and growing up I struggled a lot with these subtle questions. I did get a lot better at this with practice, and conscious effort - I am 30 years old now, and my interactions are easier to navigate, even if I still regularly run into the same problems I used to. This makes me have complicated interactions with people, but complicated is just part of life, and most people are quite helpful I find.

Where I think the problem still lies for me, and where this anger might be coming from when people complain about this online, is that people quite regularly still get angry or upset with me when I don't answer properly or seem like I don't understand something easy. I mean like colleagues at work, where we range from 30 to 55 years of age.

There is a difference between your work and mine, question wise, I think : my colleagues don't know I'm autistic, while you know your patients have dementia. They think I'm a bit weird (this has been communicated to me lol), but no more. It may be that you simply don't interpret them as rude, because you know they're not trying to be, while people regularly interpret my behavior this way - rude, lazy, stupid, what have you. In my life I am finding people to not always be very patient when I don't follow the expected script. Many people are!! Most people are. And we go back and forth asking more questions to figure out what we're talking about, and sometimes I can feel that they are finding this a bit funny, but it works out in the end. But the angry and upset ones weigh heavy, and when I was a child many more people felt comfortable, I think, being angry with me. It took a lot of time to unlearn that I could get punished for asking follow up or clarifying questions for simple conversations.

I think, in short, that the autistic people you see complain about this have learned to be afraid. If they are young, or surrounded by less patient people, people might be getting angry at them often, or it may be recent in their life that they did get angry.

(It may also be that they have been trying to learn how to navigate these for a while, and it just won't work! It can be very hard to tell what went wrong in a given interaction and it's easy to leave it with the wrong conclusion. Working on this was a very frustrating process. But this is, I think, another subject.)

Thank you for your patience with my many many words, and please have a good day :)

Hey thank you!!

Especially thank you cos I was a bit nervous rambling like that cos I definitely don't want to try and take away from autistic people's experiences, or put myself in a place where I shouldn't be. I fully get that a lot of tumblr stuff is people not looking for solutions and just venting about their life (that's healthy! You need a space for that!) so I don't wanna step in all defensive and explanatory when someone's just had a particularly shit day. I'm very pleased you read it (long as it was) and didn't come away offended ❤️

I expect I do have quite different experiences, one (obviously) because I'm not autistic. The other being I work in a place that pretty much requires abnormal patience to be able to do the job. This job also is hugely culturally diverse and the style of communication in the break room is plain and simple English and trying to reword sentences quickly and blamelessly because confusion is presumed to be a cultural mishmash or struggle with english. There are definitely neurodiverse staff who I work with (some have told me, some just struggle beyond a language barrier) but it isn't much of an issue cos of the culture we've built. This probably puts me on a back foot cos it seems so easy to me to chat to everyone I meet, just by code switching slightly as needed. That's basic politeness

So yeah, if there's fucking adult professionals in the world not approaching colleagues with politeness and generosity, you'll have some bad times. I've had them at prior workplaces, bullies are cunts

There are of course a lot of differences between people living with dementia and autistic people, but I admit I hadn't thought of my awareness of their diagnosis! You're totally right, and being aware of someone's needs does change my behaviour.

I agree with you that it seems like people have learnt to be afraid of conversations. I think that's very sad, cos most conversations are harmless and fun.

The bit I see on tumblr that bothers me most really is the grouping of "all autistics think like this whereas all neurotypicals think like that" which just cannot help anyone actually chat. It's not always as a neurotypical = bad (although that is most often the tone), but I don't like how it removes uniqueness from people. And I think it's more of a situation where people are applying their personal trauma responses to a whole group of people and assuming it's correct cos it's true for them, individually.

Like, I see my staff room with three Nepalese (one of whom is on the spectrum), a Ugandan with brain damage, the most beautiful Ethiopian woman you'll ever see, the country guy with ADHD, and little me and we're all laughing at the same joke and I just am not seeing the neurotypical people in the room with the same cruelty and dismissiveness as what autistic people describe on tumblr

I can fully empathise how hard it is to shake childhood and lifelong damage from insidious stuff like what you're describing. I'm just not sure the tone I see on most autistic-centric posts are working on shaking it, I think they're wallowing. And it bothers me cos it's fucking sad, most people are fantastic!

I'm glad you mentioned that you do enjoy/don't struggle with most conversations you have these days! I also have some dud interactions throughout the week, but that's just personality clashes. Or the occasional racist 🙄. But most of it should be easy or fun, that's why we've culturally built polite interest small talk and referential shorthand jokes to show intimacy without invasiveness.

I guess it's a bit hard for me to hear that my attempts at being cheerful and causal and friendly might cause just stress in someone, and then I'd never know cos they go away to blog about it in anger. But I suppose I should get over that, if someone chooses not to talk to me about how I unknowingly make life difficult for them that's their choice and not my problem until I'm told

Cos I'm not gonna stop being cheerful and friendly just in case i confuse the odd someone, I'll be miserable and I'll feel cruel. But I am very sorry to think this sort of carry on could be unpleasant to anyone. I dunno, no fixes here of course ❤️❤️

[rose-of-oz]

𝗠𝗢𝗡𝗦𝗧𝗘𝗥 𝗛𝗜𝗚𝗛 𝗣𝗟𝗢𝗧 𝗕𝗨𝗡𝗡𝗜𝗘𝗦

So, after posting my fancast the other day, we have finally arrived at the OCs that go with it!! Honestly, I’m so excited to share these babies with you guys; Monster High was one of my first hyperfixations ever, and despite how long it’s been since I properly interacted with it, I’ve never stopped loving it. So without further ado, please observe my beautiful freaky babies!!

(Also gonna tag my beloveds @manyfandomocs and @ginevrastilinski-ocs, because I know they’ve been waiting for this!! <3)

Nyx Darkfeather, a fallen angel, Jackson/Holt ship. The daughter of two angels who fell from Heaven. A new student at Monster High because her parents homeschooled her for a long time, scared of her being hurt for what she is since fallen angels are so rare. Very stone-faced, blunt, and closed-off, but eventually gets pulled into Frankie’s friend group after they make it their mission to befriend her, and winds up slowly being endeared by Jackson and Holt. Pretty powerful as the child of two angels, with umbrakinesis and some psychic powers, but she doesn’t use them very often. Also becomes besties with Twyla, since they’re both very used to the shadows.

Aiko Inoue, daughter of the Slit-Mouthed Women, Deuce ship. An exchange student from Japan who eventually decides to stay and learn at Monster High. Kind of has a bad reputation at first because of her mother and how quiet she is, but eventually people start to warm up to her. Gets close to Deuce after she gets assigned to tutor him in History of the Undead shortly after he and Cleo break up, and they eventually wind up becoming a super cute couple. Intensely shy and awkward and often uses her spirit powers to turn invisible or disappear for long periods of time, but also very caring and loyal. Becomes really good friends with the hybrids, especially Neighthan and Serena.

Chester Hoppington, a wererabbit, Gil ship. Only attends Monster High in person part-time because he cares for his eight younger siblings while his parents work. An incredible artist who meets Gil when he decides to go swimming in the school pool while Chester is there doing a drawing of the water. Incredibly sweet and caring as a result of having to be a babysitter so often, but also surprisingly stubborn and never afraid to speak out for the people he cares about. Has bunny ears and a little tail, and also has a habit of rapidly tapping his feet when he’s frustrated or angry. Eventually gets pulled into the ghouls’ friendship, and even becomes really good friends with Lagoona despite her and Gil being exes.

Matthew Steam, a robot, Frankie ship. Robecca’s “twin” brother since Hezekiah built them at the same time, and got dismantled shortly after her when he tried to confront the Gargoyles about what they did to her. A lot more socially awkward than his sister, but surprisingly adjusts to modern life a lot easier because he was always more interested in science and mechanics and he gets incredibly excited about all the new advancements. A total nerd who goes on a lot of excited rants about his interests, which Frankie is only too happy to listen to. Also an iconic sibling duo with Robecca.

Bonita Calaveras, a skeleton, Heath ship. Skelita’s older sister by eleven months, so they’ve always been in the same school year. Does the transfer with her sister and Jinafire, because she’s always seen it as her job to protect Skelita. Tries to keep Heath away from Skelita when she learns how much of a flirt he is, but just winds up falling for him instead. Fiercely loving and protective of those she cares about, but also sometimes forgets to take care of herself. The best sibling duo with Skelita, and also comes really good friends with Jinafire because they enjoy judging people together.

Dabria Yelps, a zombie, Draculaura ship. Ghoulia’s younger sibling who uses they/she pronouns, and definitely the more creativity-minded of the two; an incredible writer who wants to publish romance novels one day. Also a hopeless lesbian who falls in love with Draculaura almost the moment they meet her, but it takes a while for them to get together because Draculaura still needs to get over her breakup with Clawd and Dabira is way too awkward to properly confess for the longest time. She’s also best friends with Howleen and Twyla, and kinda goes through it for a bit during the whole Shadow Genie ordeal.

Gaia Nature, child of Mother Nature, Abbey ship. Homeschooled in the forest for a good portion of their life, but finally allowed to attend Monster High because they’ve always wanted to meet more kids their age. A total and complete sweetheart because they’ve always been taught to be kind to all living creatures, but also tends to be kind of naïve and overly trusting because they haven’t really been around actual people very much. They and Abbey are a total opposites attract couple, but Abbey is very soft for them and also manages to toughen them up a bit, so they work very well together. Definitely besties with Rochelle, Robecca, and Venus, and frequently teams up with Venus on environment-saving endeavors.

Chord Nightingale, a siren, Manny ship. Head of the Monster High choir, which Manny is forced to join as a punishment from Headmistress Bloodgood after beating up another student. Totally outgoing and sunshiney, which doesn’t allow him to get long with Manny at first. Mostly confident but also scared of ever accidentally enchanting someone with his siren song after an incident that happened when he was a kid that he’s never told anyone about. Eventually grows close to Manny and the two of them start to open up to each other, until they finally get together. Doesn’t really have many friends despite being a social butterfly, but eventually becomes pretty close with the ghost crew - Operetta, Scarah, Serena, and Johnny Spirit - and they become kind of an iconic group.

[always-together]

Just a Little Something Up Ahead

(Aka: A very long overdue apology, where I’ve been, where I’m going, and the future of my blogs (Spoiler alert: I’m not going anywhere, but updates are needed))

Tagging everyone I remember writing with frequently on my blogs in the hopes they see this and read the whole thing: @pcrplevenom , @nxtleftbehxnd , @misfitxofxfriends , @ssatxr , @advnterccs , @opportunistic-chicanery , @trickywanderer , @twistytwine , @automaton-otto , @monmuses , @raktanag , @dragonizens , @alicerozen , @arianatheangel-girl , @saltygempearl , @castleofmxses

Please take the time to read this whole thing if you can. This has been a long time coming and I don’t want anyone to feel as if my absence has been anyone’s fault, because it absolutely has not been, under any circumstance. It’s been entirely me, and my own inability to maintain all of my blogs during college.

Hello everyone. If I’m remembering correctly, this is my first non-reblog post since last October, when I vowed to come back and respond to the Halloween threads I attempted to start and obviously, disappointingly (most especially to myself), never did. I felt very bad then and still do, because it was going to be my first time interacting with several new blogs and I just…ruined my chance to make a good first impression because all will to write Garnet completely vanished. Some of the people that I tried to start interactions with are tagged in this post, and to both you all and those I write with all the time, but especially the first-timers, I apologize deeply and hope you can forgive me for letting you all down like that.

I know there’s a million worse things to be guilty of on the internet than abandoning your rp blogs because you have no muse, but this has all been just as bad as those worse things to me. Although I’ve undoubtedly been having fun on my Spamton blog I’ve also been feeling incredibly guilty, and for leaving you all in the dark as to my thought processes and IRL reasons why I went away I once again deeply apologize. No words can properly express to every single one of you all just how sorry I am for disappearing this past year and a half. It’s been a long time coming, but now that my fall semester at college is over I feel now is a good time to explain everything and talk about where me and my blogs are going from here.

The number one thing is, of course, college. Even in my freshman year, prior to my Spamton blog, I was having trouble maintaining multiple blogs and characters at once due to work sapping all of my writing energy. Coupled with the jobs I ended up getting, especially the one I’ve had since June, trying to run five blogs at the same time proved impossible. So, foolishly, I took the easy way out and stayed put at the one I had, and still continue to have, the most muse for. I don’t regret doing so, as it made balancing everything much easier to handle, but I do regret not telling you guys somehow first and leaving you all behind like I did.

The other main thing is…hard to explain through just text with no tone indicators, so please bear with me and know that, again, me leaving most of my blogs and you guys behind was no one else’s fault but my own. Attempts to properly come back here and apologize have been stymied by me finding my prior writing style and tagging system cringy and disorganized, respectively. Of course, it was only a matter of time before I felt this way: This blog has been around since I was 17 and now I’m 20, with much more writing experience behind me and the ability to refine my tagging process over the course of my different blogs. This blog feels stuck in the past in comparison to my Spamton blog, my newest blog, in a certain way, in regards to that. Especially with the disorganized tagging. What was I thinking 🤦‍♀️

That’s not even getting into the muse pages across all of my blogs, further worsened by the fact that I’m primarily mobile and can’t edit them at a moments notice or create fancy Caards like all of my mutuals. They make me cringe more than my writing in some ways. Please do not look at my About the Mun page on this blog, I will be removing that when I can 😬

Returning here eventually became associated with regressing to how I was back in 2020 in my mind, and soon that began to spread towards how I felt about my other blogs, too. I was rigid in replies and sticking to plots, barely sent partners memes yet inwardly expected to be sent them in return, and never really IMed or communicated except through tags. I am happy to say that over the past year of silence I’ve gotten better at all of that, but you all shouldn’t have had to suffer while I figured my shit out. But nevertheless I still left, and hid away at my Spamton blog until now.

I want that to change, desperately. I miss you all. I miss Garnet. I miss all of my other muses, too. But considering I’m a junior in college now, with my capstone/thesis fast approaching, I don’t know how difficult that’s going to be. And of course, I don’t want to abandon my Spamton blog, either. Whatever I end up deciding, however, I need to update all of my information pages to reflect my current standards and make my tags more easier to navigate, like they (mostly) are at my Spamton blog.

So until I can find the time with my busy holiday work schedule to do this necessary work on all of my blogs, all activity is currently at @thebigshotman . Feel free to send in memes, random asks, and interact/IM me there, if you’d like! I’ve gotten a lot of crossover threads going lately, and much like the Haunted Mansion there is always room for one more 😊 So please, if you’re still interested in interacting with me after all of the shit I’ve done, head there for now.

I’ll be reblogging this on all of my other blogs tomorrow so as many people see this as possible, and know I didn’t forget about everyone. Changing everything looks like it’s not going to happen until after New Years, so consider coming back to everything my New Year’s resolution-except unlike many resolutions, this one is actually going to happen.

Thank you for taking the time to read all of this, if you indeed still are. Like I said, I’ve missed you all dearly, and I want to come back. But I can’t until I’ve done some very overdue updating and organization. (Everything old will stay tagged as it is, but going forward things will be easier to find.)

I’ll see you all soon. And this time, that’s a promise.

Love, Mun Bri ❤️

Relationships/friendships with Garnet and all of my other muses will remain the same unless you or I message each other agreeing otherwise

[moeitsu]

Can i ask you about your OC Kate?

Where did your inspo for her character come from? Does she represent anything about yourself?

I really love your fic. I think it’s an interesting approach to Arthur’s character to explore the parental guilt he has for what happened to Eliza and Isaac. And I love the way you do that by introducing a character that’s pretty much a mirror of himself, but under different circumstances. And she has broken the cycle already. Her backstory literally gave me chills when I read it. You have a great way of adding so much detail in such a short amount of words! I really look forward to each chapter :)))

AHH OF COURSE YOU CAN!!!! 💗♥️💜

Ty Ty Ty for asking it means so much to me when you guys ask question/give feedback/leave comments on my work. I’m so serious it literally brightens my day.

I wish this wasn’t anon so I can thank you properly, but please DM me and if you want I will add you to the tags for the next chapters!!

I’m so ready to dive into the Kate McCanon lore, I’m sorry if I get carried away:

I can’t really take any credit for her name. It’s from a Colter Wall song called “Kate McCanon”, but her character is nothing like the woman he’s singing about. I just really loved the name tbh. (And I’m a big fan of his music)

As far as my inspo for her character traits, they kinda just developed over time. I began forming ideas of her as I played rdr2 for the first time, at first I kinda pictured myself in the time period and how I would respond/react to certain events. Then as the story progressed I was like hm, I would definitely be dead by now if this was me. So i made someone stronger but also kept certain aspects like her humor, sarcasm, honesty, intelligence and kindness that I think are sorta reflection of myself.

In a nutshell, the Kate we see with Arthur and the gang is a free spirited tomboy who fully embraces the freedom and possibilities of life in the west and she also defies the gender stereotypes of that time period.

However, the lack of description of Kates appearance was entirely on purpose. I dropped little snippets of her looks at the beginning such as her height and size. (She’s a big woman) But tbh i didn’t want the focus of the story to be on what she looked like or what she was wearing. I purposely mentioned she is half Italian on her mothers side, (bc that will come up again later in the story for the plot) but I also wanted you guys to picture her however you felt was right. In my mind, she is a woman who appears intimidating but once you get to know her she’s a total sweetheart (much like Arthur hehe)

One of the reasons why I choose to keep Kate out of most missions is because she genuinely wants to be done with hurting people. She gave that life up and vowed to do better. Only when she’s pushed and survival is at stake do we see her break that promise. It’s almost ironic considering she is with a gang of outlaws, but like the girls, and Arthur too, she sees them as just people trying to get by. When she meets Jack and Abigail she sees a future dangling on a thread, and decides that if there’s something good she can do here. Then it’s going to be helping that family escape this life. Falling in love with Arthur just happens to be a bonus ;)

I had always intended to give Kate a traumatic backstory (sorry girlie). It started with her family, I wrote out an entire detailed timeline of her life. With names and dates and even random life events that will never make it in the story. But it helped me so much with building her background. It made her feel more real to me. I did so much research on the time period and what Boston was like in the 1800s. Even though I didn’t go into grave detail about her childhood or the death of her family members. But by doing so, it made it easier for me to write about that hopelessness and vulnerability she felt when she finally lost everything.

I chose to open the story with her burying her husband and child because (spoiler alert, but not really if you’ve been actively reading) that is the tie that links her soul with Arthur’s. Even though she does not blame herself for their deaths, it’s something that is engraved into the very being of her identity. And it pretty much dictates the person she becomes throughout the story.

When Kate is captured and taken to a military fort, that is where her “rock bottom” hits its “peak” so to speak. She has nothing left to lose at this point but herself. And in a way, she does lose herself. River is a character I hold very dear to me. And i might write a small spin off about him and Kate in the future. He was a reflection of what Kate would have become if she did not make a change. At first, he was her hope. But when his family met the same fate as hers, he became consumed by the darkness and rage. And unfortunately, she was in a state where Rivers anger nurtured her own. (I want to make it clear River is not a villain, he’s a victim)

I do kinda regret not exploring their relationship more in the chapter. But tbh it probably wouldn’t have added anything. However, I will say the two of them pretty much trauma bonded. They loved each other deeply, but not really in a romantic sense. River offered to marry her, but it was more out of “you are the only one i have left” kind of way. He was never going to give up that life and settle down again, getting married to Kate would just be a way to seal their relationship and vow to stand by each other till the very end. (Does this kinda mirror Arthur/Mary? That might be a reach idk)

All in all, I wanted to give Arthur someone who already understands him, but doesn’t know it yet. Someone that he doesn’t need to explain himself to because Kate has already been there. Arthur knows he’s a bad man, and he knows Kate has been a bad woman. He believes he is beyond saving, beyond redemption. But Kate sees someone who can be saved, he just need the support to do it.

I’ve been trying to plant the seeds over time that Kate truly misses being a mother, and feels robbed of the life she should be living. Raising her daughter. Jacks character has helped me manifest that in the story a lot. Especially that first kiss scene. Kate longs for a family. But she’s pretty much convinced herself that she will never have one again. So by helping the Marstons it alleviates some of that yearning. Arthur believes he has failed as a father, but what Kate sees is the potential for him to be a very loving parent. And it makes her head dizzy with adoration. (There will be many more tender moments with Jack/Arthur/Kate in the future btw)

I hope you guys don’t think my Arthur is too out-of-character. In the game, his son really isn’t mentioned a whole lot, and we know the reason he gives John such a hard time is because he doesn’t want to see him make the same mistakes. But I honestly believe Arthur would have made a wonderful father. The motivation behind this whole fanfic is really just exploring grief and parenthood. Which is ironic because i don’t have children lmao.

TLDR: Kate McCanon domesticates the wild outlaw known as Arthur Morgan 😂

I can’t believe I rambled so much on this. I hope I didn’t overwhelm you. But I guess it just goes to show how much I appreciate your question, and the fact that you’ve taken time out of your day to read my story.

I love you guys! ♥️

[inevitably-johnlocked]

hey steph! i hope you’re doing well!! i know you have all the fics you’ve read in a masterlist doc you made yourself, and i was wondering if it was worth the time it took to make that? if so, do you have any tips on how to go about doing that? thank you :]

Hey Lovely!!

I am SO sorry for the delay in a reply to this... I saw it and then it just got buried LOL. I'm SO SO SORRY, wasn't intentional!!!

I do indeed have all my fics listed on an offline RTF Text Document (not even a word doc, it's Apple TextPad lol) and OOOF when I first decided to start filing it, UGH it was A CHORE. I'm talking a LONG time because I went through, at the time, all 500 of my bookmarks and just spent DAYS AND DAYS of holiday time just copy pasting them all into a tumblr post, and then copying those over to the lists. I chose to use the Tumblr formatting since that's where it would inevitably be posted to.

"Why not use a spreadsheet??" I've been asked before. It's literally because I hate spreadsheets, I don't like using them, and by using an RTF formatted document I can keep the formatting consistent between Tumblr and the lists offline. I wanted to make it as PAINLESS and easy as possible to copy-paste between Tumblr's ever-changing UI and my offline lists. I literally just have to double click a block of text and I highlight the whole rec :)

Now, at the time I thought I was wasting time doing it, thought it was all for naught re-reading EVERYTHING so I could properly add tags to fics that didn't have them or so I could sort them better. But it's now 500 more fics later, and I'm SO glad I streamlined a process to do it. Having the posts this way, WITH my own tags makes it MUCH easier for me to call up the fics you guys are needing, or if I need to make a quick-list in-a-pinch. It was well-worth the time to initially sort the bookmarks. It's worth the time to format not-read fics on a separate list so I can quickly find them again and add them to my Bookmarks list already-done. And I keep going back to my bookmarks every couple months to add those new fics to my offline lists.

That said... it's a lot of work, and it's REALLY fortunate that my OCPD actually functions well for this kind of website. I like digital organization, and I'm meticulous about how things are organized, because it feeds that need for control in my brain. So I can say it's ALSO not for everyone, but if you're just looking to do it for yourself, just add tags to all your bookmarks on AO3 (make sure all your bookmarks are private, otherwise the authors can see what you're tagging or noting them as. All my bookmarks are private because my tags are all spoilerific and I don't know if those would show up for other people).

BUT if you want to run your own blog, check out this post here for some past things I've written on the organization and time management tips for your own :)

Finally though, Yes, it's worth it. While not getting the traction I used to, I know that my recs bring joy to people, and honestly being someone who people can come to to find what they're looking for is heady and humbling. I love being able to leave my mark on the fandom in some way. :)

Sorry again for the delay, but I hope this helps answer your question. Please don't hesitate to ask something else if I missed anything or misunderstood <3

[silver-heller]

"I make murderous men cute, that's just my thing."

Note: For personal reasons, I like writing soft villains. I don't like the implication that makes my version of them "fake", lesser, or completely devoid from the canon I take large inspiration from. I'm not going to argue over preferences/interpretations, just don't be a dick about it. Ranking certain depictions as more "true" than others will get you blocked.

Greetings! I'm Nightmares or Silver. I'm an asexual, 22 year old transman (he/him) and this is my blog for most of my self shipping antics. I have a type and it's either evil or slightly crazed with glasses lol. I mostly write (too much) fanfiction and make random posts for my ships. I love hearing about other's F/Os and seeing all your guys' lovely creations! I am plural. If you don't know what this means or how to avoid spreading negative plural stereotypes, do not follow me.

I am okay with sharing all F/Os (except the OCs).

My main f/o is Mordecai Heller from Lackadaisy, who I've paired with my S/I Silver (he/him). I've written a lot of lore about them at this point, so if you ask about them expect to get your ear talked off.

Ao3 / F/Os / Lacka FOs / NSFW / Lacka College AU

DNI

*Certain canon x canon ships make me uncomfortable, particularly Rocky x Mordecai, Rocky x Serafine, and Rocky x Mordecai x Serafine. I also am not comfortable with Mordecai being shipped with Atlas or Mitzi, and/or Ivy or Freckle being shipped with Mordecai, Viktor, or Mitzi and Atlas as well. Freckle x the Savoys would also make me uncomfortable.

Please tag these ships properly or let me know a tag you use for them so I can block it. This does not include poly selfships with them, except where Atlas and Mitzi x Mordecai or Ivy x Mordecai are concerned. Viktor x Ivy or Freckle too, and Ivy or Freckle with Atlas or Mitzi. For those I will just outright block you. Sorry, but they squeak me out.

Not plural safe (if you make jokes about or reblog jokes that go along the lines of "I have an alter ego/other personality so I'm crazy" you're not plural safe). Minor x adult, incest, or bestiality shippers (aka characters that are just animals). Pro ship. Anti self diagnosis. Bigots of any kind. Exclusionists. Unnecessarily dictate how characters should be written (especially asexual characters). If you have F/Os from creepypastas I probably won't be comfy interacting with you. Drama/discourse blogs. Please tag things pertaining to the deaths of my F/Os, including theories. Thank you!

I have villain F/Os and enjoy following others with villain F/Os. If that bothers you this is not the place for you. That being said, characters that canonically commit acts of CSA, SA, or child abuse/murder make me extremely uncomfortable and I may block you if you self ship with villains of that descriptor. I am not comfortable with Doctor Jekyll and Mr. Hyde F/Os, please don't follow me if you have them.

I hate vague posting with a passion and will block you if I see you do it.

About Discord Servers

I don't want to burst anyone's bubble, but, I don't join Discord servers. Why? Simply put, I block people for the sake of my own mental health. Some of these people are within the communities I reside most often in. However, Discord servers often mean I have to bend my block list to get along in and have a comfortable time in said server. 9 times out of 10 the instincts that made me block someone were correct. Therefore I prefer my blog because I can have an easier time curating my interactions with the community.

That being said I am totally down to chat with you on discord if you want to add me! Chatting one on one gives me more power to block people that make me uncomfortable and avoid people on my blocklist.

[deadmandairyland]

Considering starting The Fog Cutters over from the beginning but I’m not sure what the etiquette is for starting a fic over on AO3. Currently thinking that I should add a new chapter telling people that I’m going to start the fic over and why, but I don’t know how people feel about that kind of thing. Though I think it’s better than saying nothing.

For the record, here are my current thoughts on why I want to start the fic over:

I’m not a fan of how it’s going so far. I want to at least revise it and make it more well-rounded. (I feel like I’m focusing too much on comedy right now and I want it to just have some comedy, some serious, etc.)

I want to focus on world-building a bit more, which is something I feel the fic is lacking. Though the story takes place in an established city in the Danganronpa universe, I’m reworking the city as a “Japanamerica” type setting, so it’s not 1-to-1 with the official depiction of the city and should be treated as such.

Longer fic projects like this, in my personal opinion, benefit from the story being written in a way where you write the characters as if the reader has never heard of the character before. This is especially important in my fic because it’s a massive crossover fic, so there’s a good chance that there may actually be some characters the reader doesn’t know anything about.

I’m still not confident in my ability to write mysteries, so I want to look more into that.

I feel like I’m just hitting bullet points rather than telling a properly flowing story, which is something I need to work on in my writing in general.

Ironically I also feel like I haven’t planned the bullet points out very well either. I had a much more concrete outline with Despair Imitator and I’m mostly okay with how that turned out, and I think I need to plan this fic out a lot better too if I want it to work.

Fukawa deserved better than how I’ve written her tbh

I am also considering maybe splitting it up into separate fics that follow an overall story arc and combining them in a series. This would resolve a few problems that I’m worried about:

The new tag limit. By splitting up the arcs into separate fics I won’t have to worry as much about having too many tags per fic.

Longer fics in general can be pretty overwhelming to get into if it’s not broken up, I think. I know I sometimes see 100 chapter fics on AO3 and I get overwhelmed just looking at that, and I feel like doing it this way will make the series feel more accessible.

The arcs I have in mind are mostly episodic, so if you don’t like one arc, you probably wouldn’t miss much if you skip it (and if it’s super important to the plot as a whole I’ll probably mention that it’s an important arc in the author’s notes anyway), and it’d be easier to skip those arcs this way.

Related to the above, if I decide to add some lemon-lime to this... insert food analogy here, I feel like it’d be easier to notice and skip because you’d see a change in rating and new tags with sexy words and be like “I think I’ll go to the next one.”

So what I’m thinking of doing, if I decide to go through with this, is updating the fic with a message saying I want to start the fic over, and then when/if the new fic is ready to post I will delete the old one and start a new one. But I’d like to know if this is a good idea. Personally I would feel weird about just removing the chapters and just revising it because the hits, kudos...es, and bookmarks would reflect the old fic, not the new one. But if there’s some kind of issue like a waste of bandwidth or something that might be a problem, or if it’s just considered rude for some reason, please let me know before I make any changes.

[cantillat-moved]

@more-than-a-princess Share an opinion you have about multimuse blogs.

I’m sus because I have a multimuse blog, but I do have a few things I’d like to say. I started this blog as an experiment as I used to have only one muse at a time for years, so this one was a secondary blog to test muses and now it is the one thing I have so I believe my story is a little uncommon ANYWAY.

One of my oldest gripes about multimuses is when the mun won’t list the muses properly or have little info about their muses. One of the earliest reasons given was being mobile-bound so they were unable to create pages but nowadays it isn’t really an excuse: there are google docs, carrd, pinned posts and a plethora of ways of making your blog accessible and you don’t even need to use graphics or know html for that. It is fine if you don’t feel compelled to make these, sometimes people have different priorities or style, but I personally don’t feel compelled into following “mystery multis”. Tagging the muses properly is also something else that I consider the bare minimum, if you got the energy and time to write a reply you have enough time to start to write your muse’s name and let tumblr suggest the rest.

As a multi it makes things much harder when I ask people to specify the muse and they don’t. Some people like you I know the muses they like. For example, if you ever forget to specify or leave it to my discretion, I know I could pick Shirou, Waver, Gray, Hilda, Hajime or maybe throw you a curveball and give you Angra or Kirigiri. Or I could just hit you up and ask. But some people doesn’t, so I check the interest checker and starter calls and…nothing. Should I talk to them? Should I check their blog and see the fandoms they are in and try pick an appropriate muse? The tl;dr is to please don't be afraid of requesting a muse. It makes our lives so much easier! And also fill 'em interest checkers or like the permanent starter calls, it is sexy and cool and I'll love you forever.

[what-if-nct]

hiii! (cw // dec 18th, cyber/targeted bullying)

so i'm the "friend's sister" the anon was talking about. it was literally about a shinee drabble i made. these are the tags i used.

#drabble #fanfic #shinee #jonghyun #smut #female reader

isn't it accordingly to my post? and then i was told to TAG properly when i did just that! this is how you post, no? and it wasn't even like they were even nice about it, they were straight up disrespectful. plus, they decided to use the dumb "dead man" card at me which of course anyone could agree that it is disgusting of them regardless of anything. the fact that they're using my trauma of losing my bias against me over something that could of been solved if they just blocked me the moment they found my blog.

i really don't blame him for leaving. imagine receiving plenty of those dumb ass messages of people using his death as a mean to attack them. i don't care if they're shawols or not, it's just so disrespectful for those who are still grieving and for those that are trying to brush it off as a "small inconvenience for them", they're basically downplaying the amount of things us shawols must go through every single day.

i just want those messages to stop for everyone. i hear it all the time and it is obvious that it isn't out of respect for me nor for jonghyun either. it's just getting out of hand now. i want them to leave me, my brothers, his friends, my cousins, every single shawol the fuck alone. trauma isn't something that should be laughed or mocked. just because someone does something you don't like, doesn't mean you have to harass them. we are human too trying to go through this cruel world. please don't waste your life trying to make it harder for others, especially if they're suffering.

sorry if it made you uncomfortable to read. i just saw the message and began crying. this is at the heat of the moment. trust me, i'm not usually like this.

also, merry christmas! hope you're having a good day though!

ok byeeee!

Hi, Yes you tagged it perfectly fine. There was nothing wrong with the way you tagged it. It definitely seems like this person just has a problem with Jonghyun fanfiction which I do see a ton of. A lot of them are quite sweet. But yes just as you said if someone genuinely has a problem with something they can block you or ignore it. You genuinely weren't hurting anyone. There's really no reason to attack someone for something you personally don't like. It's much easier to move along. I'm sorry that you were on the receiving end of it. It wasn't your fault at all you did nothing wrong, okay. You didn't do a single thing wrong.

[traumasurvivorshelpingsurvivors]

looking for some reassurance (and possibly advice?), i don't think there's any tws but i'm sorry if i miss something

lately i've been really struggling like feeling like i'm just like my abusers and combined with rsd and probable bpd and i just have a complete nightmare any time i try to interact with people. i feel like none of my friends care or want to hang out with me, especially the person i consider my best and closest friend. i don't really have a basis for it beyond everyone either doesn't or takes a long time to respond to my texts (which. is the case for all of us we're all shit at responding) and just a general feeling of "what if they don't want me" and "what if i'm as bad as those people and I've been hurting them this entire time subconsciously and they just don't want to or are afraid to say anything"

my best friend hasn't said anything of the sort but i feel like he hates me or that I've hurt him even though he reassures me he loves me when i ask. we used to be very physically close and he'd let me just lean on him or hug him anytime i needed reassurance (i am Very touch-starved and physical touch is very reassuring for me, it's like. one of the biggest ways i show people i trust that i care for and trust them) but lately he just. hasn't? i tried to lean on his shoulder earlier tonight and he tensed up and flinched a little so i backed up and apologized and i just wish he'd tell me if i'm doing something wrong. we still hug each other when we see each other or say goodbye and shit but i just feel like I've done something bad? but no one is telling me anything??

i'm sorry if i didn't explain things well but i just. wish people would talk to me first instead of me always reaching out. sometimes i wish i'd get a "hey are you doing good?" or "i love you" without asking for reassurance because it always just feels forced then, even if it's not. i just don't know what to do and i'm scared of losing these people because they're the first healthy support system I've ever had and logically i know they care and they've said they care but sometimes it feels like i'm invisible. like i'm not even there.

i guess i just... am looking for reassurance that my brain's just being dumb? and maybe some advice on what to do and how to cope with this awful feeling

uhh for tagging you can use kestrel? if that's not taken by someone else

Hi Kestrel,

Seeking reassurance and validation is a natural aspect of friendships but sometimes the persistent urge can stem from something like a fear of abandonment. I think it can be easy to misinterpret silence or delays in response. As someone with BPD, it helps me to think that if someone has something to say, they can say it directly, and otherwise, I have no obligation to read into their behavior. If they struggle to communicate in a direct and mature way, then that's not your problem or responsibility to analyze. But it's definitely easier said than done.

If people reassure you that everything is good between you and them, then that's your answer, as much as it may feel like there's something deeper or left unsaid. Sometimes it can even help to just say "If I ever make you uncomfortable, please let me know. I want to make sure that I create an environment where you feel safe enough to communicate if I'm doing something wrong." That way you can explicitly open the door for them to make any comments, and potentially feel some relief when they have nothing to say.

It's hard to accept but some people will not communicate properly, and some people may even stop being friends with you without explaining why, but these experiences aren't inherently a reflection on you - it doesn't necessarily mean that you've done anything wrong. It can be needlessly exhausting emotionally and spiritually to constantly internalize these things.

I also think it's worth saying that, at least in my mind, true abusers don't take accountability for their behavior, but it sounds like you're pretty self-aware and mindful of how your actions may impact others. If you can access or afford it, a mental health professional such as a therapist could help you process these things further.

I hope I could help and please let us know if you need anything.

-Bun