#past life abuse

[uncanny-tranny]

I think so many people are so deeply alienated from themselves that they have no clue how to exercise their free will and autonomy. For some, this alienation runs so deep that they are afraid of their own autonomy and humanity. It is completely understandable why one would have those feelings, but it can be worrisome.

I want to help others who feel this way, so here are small things I have done to exercise my free will:

Add "guilty pleasure" songs to playlists and actually listen to them (I have a ton of late 1990s-early 2000s music I listen to now proudly that I never listened to in the past out of shame)

Getting the décor item, bath set, bed spread, ect. in the patterns you like, even if it's "childish" (I got a dinosaur-themed wastebasket from the kids' décor section and I adore it)

Taking a new route to get to a place you go to often

Eat dessert first

Celebrate well, and often

Collect things that are "odd" or don't seem like an "acceptable" thing to collect (somebody on my "for you" page collects dandelion crayola crayons and it was so cool!!!!!!)

Incorporate one new piece in an outfit you wear frequently (e.g., a new chain, a necklace, ribbons, bracelets, ect.). Challenge yourself to add onto the outfits if you feel up for it.

Sing along to songs without worrying that you sound "good" or your intonation is completely accurate

Read a book from a genre you weren't allowed to read as a kid (comics, thrillers, mysteries, anything!)

Walk without having a specific destination or goal

Pick up a new craft without expecting yourself to master it or to ever be "good" enough. Get your hands messy.

I don't want to shame anybody for not feeling as though they have free will or that they are exempt from exercising it. However, I wanted to give ideas so that you might read this list and find your own ways to express your intrinsic autonomy and will. You deserve to be a person, to feel alive, not just living. That is what our lives are for.

[paingoes]

actually obsessed with restoring dignity in recovery

[mxtxfanatic]

The common thread tying together how mxtx treats all her well-rounded character across all her works is that a character's past is as real as their actions. That means that a character's tragic past is a key part of their character and should be considered while analyzing them. It also means that their actions are also their own and must be considered when analyzing them. One does not negate the other. The trauma that a character experiences in the narrative is not erased by their shitty actions, but those experiences also don't redeem their immoral behavior. Everyone must live with the consequences of their chosen actions, regardless of what drove them to make those choices. That is the lesson.

[liketolaugh-writes]

I’ll probably do a longer post on this another time but I just want to say that it’s good and right to portray Vlad’s behavior towards Danny as Abuse and Vlad as his Abuser

Like yes yes, Danny is very powerful and fights back pretty well, successfully sabotages most of Vlad’s schemes, etc etc

But

He is still a CHILD that is being HARASSED and ACTIVELY HARMED by a man in a position of power over him, in an ONGOING ARRANGEMENT that SPECIFICALLY DEPRIVES DANNY OF ANY ABILITY TO SEEK HELP

Like the whole ‘arch-nemesis’ and ‘secret identity’ thing really muddies the whole thing but ultimately?? Vlad Is Just A Fucking Abuser

(This is not to take away from any possible Vlad Redemption or Moral Gray perspectives on Vlad, I love those and I think there’s a lot of potential to move forward between them - but the very first step? You gotta call a spade a spade.)

[ping-ski]

pahinga ka na, JJ (CW: VENT POST)

i finally found the courage to write to you, i'm sorry it took so long.

(feel free to ignore the note under the cut)

We weren't perfect, I know that.

I was and still am your crybaby older sibling.  Your “Ate”.

You'd be 18 by now. Isn't that terrible?

Every so often, I dream that you came home that day and that nothing had changed.

I still wish I thanked you for every time you protected or stood up for me, even if it was in vain. We both know that woman never cared.

Honestly, I was angry at first. Angry, you left me behind to survive alone. Angry, that you got an “easy out” and I was stuck with her cruelty. My anger fizzled out pretty quick and for so long I was numb or believed it was my fault for not being able to do the impossible. I couldn't come to an answer that wasn't my fault for not being able to miraculously save you. I don't blame myself much anymore though. I'm meant to be here, even if I don't know the reason.

You'd probably tell me to let it go, but I wish we had played one last game together like you wanted instead of arguing the night before.

You wouldn't know, but that morning I really was working on my apology. I was finding the courage to tell you that I was wrong. And I was. I'm so sorry.

Running away wasn't anything like we imagined as kids. I didn't have a cool plan drawn in crayon. It wasn't even a good one. I had to leave everything behind and never look back.

I'm not sure if you'd recognize me now. I've grown to be more patient and more empathetic. I think holding your cold hands humbled me. Though, you'd be more proud to know I finally have a sense of humor or maybe I stole it from you? Who knows.

I'm trying to live for the both of us, even if it took me 7 years to decide that. I hope you know I still miss you and always will. I hope you miss me too.

[sukibenders]

"I'm team feminist/feminism!" But will quickly drag a female character through the mud without sympathy for their circumstances just because they don't fit your ideals, will get mad when poc criticize a female character's actions that are very thinly coded in racism and say "support her crimes!" while ignoring how that often leads to the harm of poc characters, will shade woc characters or put them on higher pedestals than their yte counterparts while ignoring the harm they face while trying to meet your standards, will victim blame those who suffer (and are still suffering) from abuse when they act out in ways you deem "wrong" because of it, following up with the last point will mock and laugh at said abuse to uplift another female character (pitting women against women, even when the narrative does not ask for that), will dismiss any valuable argument displayed if the said female character is a little mean but then go and say "why can't female characters be mean? 🙄"

I could go on.

[trappedinafantasy37]

"I want this one, she said."

[meandhisjohn]

Sherlock finally finds John's confidential file, with all the information about his childhood, his abusive father,his military journey, and the constant voice of solitude....until....

Please allow me to skip #FreemanFriday this week for a John gift.

This video and the story are my way to thank you for all your support, kindness, and messages this past week.

I found some healing in the process, and I guarantee you a happy ending.

@inevitably-johnlocked @lisbeth-kk @compact-and-beautiful @totallysilvergirl @safedistancefrombeingsmart @jobooksncoffee @jcshellyg @helloliriels @swissmissing @sherlockisactuallyagaysname @thinwhitedoc @apazwtsn @whatnext2020 @rockinlibrarian @peanitbear @medhes @sgam76 @johnlock-and-tea @angiefsutton @dapetty @ghostofnuggetspast @shiroinu98mf

@jcshellyg @astudyinvillains

[thepersonalwords]

Sometimes we are very convinced that what we went through needs to be re-lived so we end up going back and forth to the demons of the past and eventually we fail to get over them.

Stephen Richards, The Pain You Feel Today Is The Strength You Feel Tomorrow

[selfhealingmoments]

[im-kino853]

planned to render these but im in an artblock🤯 so mb if these look shitty lol, anyway

smth smth about filbrick engraving the "stanley is bad" idea to ford, which imo heavily contributes to ford's grudge with stan throughout the years tw abuse? under cut

depicting them in a scenario where filbrick is hitting/beating stan but then ford rushes in to hug him and tells filbrick to stop but instead gets hit/beaten too so the next time it happens to either of them, all the other could do was watch ☹

[batcavescolony]

What ever you do don't think about Percy reading Estelle a little kid version of 'The Odyssey' because that's what Sally read to him but he doesn't want to scare her. Don't imagine Sally looking on with guilt in her eyes cus she HAD to read him the real one so he knew what to expect. Don't think about Sally looking down on her little girl with tears in her eyes cus she doesn't need to worry about snakes in her bed or teachers being Cyclopes. Don't think of Sally seeing Estelle with Paul and having to leave the room cus when Percy was that age they had Gabe. Don't think of the unimaginable guilt that Sally must feel for being relieved that Estelle's biggest battle at 16, is her Dad being her teacher. And whatever you do don't think about Percy feeling like an outsider in his own family even though he gets constantly reassured that he's part of it and loved.

[mingot-studios]

Can we stop vilifying Stolas? Blitzo and Stolas are both messes who need to work through their issues ended up hurting each other in different ways

[citricacidprince]

Thinking about Psychonauts and how much I love the Aquato family once again

They mean the world to me your honor

[violetren]

I love that El's reaction to Peter telling her that Neal might end up in jail again is for El to ask if Peter is gonna be ok.

Something was in the air 2008/2009 that two network shows had barely subtextual OT3s and to varying degrees follow nominally ex con(s) screwing over rich criminals.

[cloudysarts]

imagine if the federation tried to make a phoenix with birdperson's daughter wouldn't that be fucked up hahaha < insane

like father like daughter.

(pr0/c0mship dni)