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[chaotic-neutral-knitter]

I think one of the kindest things you can do for people with various mental health struggles is just... let people back into your life after they've been absent for a while.

Making friends as an adult is so fucking hard already and isolating yourself from other people is a very common symptom of depression, anxiety, burnout, ocd, trauma, grief, etc. Which means that someone will do the hard work of recovery/healing and resurface back into a world where their previous friends have written them off because they stopped showing up.

So if you know someone where you're like "yeah we could have been better friends but they fell off the map a bit" and that person suddenly reaches out, or starts showing up to events even though you kind of forgot they were still in the group chat... well they may have been Going Through It and you don't actually have to punish them for their absence you can just be glad that they're back.

[nooling]

LOOK I JUST REALLY ENJOY THEIR FRIENDSHIP OK?? You can't tell me they wouldn't hang after their respective personal quests (spawn ending ofc)/emotional breakdowns over their own mortality

EDIT: I forgot to watermark these so now more than ever PLEASE don't repost

[thepoisonroom]

NOTICEABLE positive change in the utilities company lady's mood once she found out i had a girlfriend

[spitedemon]

i really don’t think it’s “typical dragon age fandom nonsense” for people to be genuinely upset about the world state choices. combat, level design, art direction, gameplay gimmicks, those have all varied across each dragon age game. the one thing that’s remained constant are nods to our previous choices.

i wasn’t expecting my HoF to come riding in on a griffon, but i can’t find a monument dedicated to warden tabris somewhere around the anderfels? lucanis couldn’t have some lines about the time that one arainai boy was stirring up trouble in antiva city? you’re gonna tell me that making a mage the new divine wouldn’t have some impact on nevarra and antiva? on the anderfels, the supposed most devout militant andrastian nation in thedas? you’re saying nobody in the north is paying attention to who rules orlais or ferelden? come on.

[sindirimba]

can't vibe with the pathetic sopping wet generic sub boy man/pristine feminine perfect goddess woman dynamic people try to put onto every m/f pairing in existence. don't you want something more interesting? characters don't need to have perfect psychologist approved relationships in fiction obvs but it's just so boring. don't you want something in character? don't you want something more interesting?? oh she pegs him? and you write this in a way that implies penetration is about domination and power? wowee. never seen that one before.

[xxplastic-cubexx]

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[hajihiko]

💕

[pancakemolybdenum]

happy bday!! suit suit for u on this lovely 413

jake

dirk

roxy

alpha kids

beta kids from last year

[brucethewannabebard]

Hero of the Story

They say that everyone is the hero of their own story. Which when you look at what is meant by that phrase, is true. But I think the problem people have with is the use of the word “hero”. After all, I doubt many of us feel very heroic most days. I sometimes question if those we look to as heroes; whether current or historical, really saw themselves that way. I am sure at least some did. But I wonder how many felt like me. Like they were just muddling through this life as best they could, til they finally found something that moved them in a way that they had no choice but to act. 

Our civil rights leaders I imagine didn’t see themselves as heroes, but as common men and women who just couldn’t stand the thought of their kids having to fight because they didn’t. I like to think they knew it was important, but did any of them really walk in those crowds and consider themselves heroic? Or did they just see a wrong that needed to be right? What about the people who run towards disaster? The ones who charge into burning buildings, or a car crash, whether it is their job or not? Do all of them do it thinking they are going to be a hero? Surely at least some just did what they knew needed to be done. Or those people donating their time and effort to charities? As a collective they can accomplish wonderful things within the right organization, and really change the world. But when they lay down in bed at night do they feel like a hero?

People are all different, and so I am sure there are just as many who feel that way as don’t. But then there are several who probably feel they are who have done nothing to justify that feeling at all. I guess it is all about how you choose to view yourself. Maybe the problem is really that most people just don’t have a hero that they can relate to their own lives. For some people they have a close friend or family member that they would call a hero. But then if they do the same things that person did they tend to downplay themselves. Whether it be a father doing his best just like his dad before him, or an athlete who is an endless inspiration to others but looks up to his mom who always believed in him and took him to practice as a kid. Heroics can take on almost as many forms was there are people too, but we don’t always recognize them. Because in the stories everything has more context. 

When you watch a movie, or read a book, or experience a story in any other medium, we have the context of a beginning and end. We only get the parts that inform the character and plot. that reinforce themes.Many people go through trauma or events that they can parallel to the heroes, but without the clear vision of an outside observer. When we suffer we rarely see the virtue in the struggle that we love characters for getting through. We rarely view their suffering in the same way we see our own, and so we pretend that our overcoming it or ongoing battles with it somehow are not the same as the heroes. We also rarely if ever get a day to day. what those people were like outside of the high stress times. Even many of our histories of heroes have this same flaw. Painting them are great men and women, but some how forgetting to underline the fact that they were just men and women. Not gods, not super powered, not titans. Just people doing what they could. 

So yeah, I may not have done anything particularly heroic. I haven’t saved a life to my knowledge, nor have I gone out and changed the world. But maybe I am just not at the part of the story yet where I do the thing that makes me a hero. Maybe I am still in the early stages. Fordo wasn’t a hero to himself until the journey was complete and you could view all his effort with the context of his struggle. Even then he saw the virtue of others more than his own. All along the way he complained that he didn’t feel he was the right one for this, that he wishes it could be someone else, that it wasn’t like it was in the stories. But he was wrong. Because all a hero really does is keep going and trying. So maybe this last year of being beaten down, and broken and abandoned isn’t the proof that I am not good enough like I first thought. Maybe, just maybe, it is my darkest hour and nothing more. Maybe this suffering is just my time spent running from a spider in a cave with a treacherous wretch who wants to see me fail. And if that is the case, then maybe I just need to hold on long enough for my Sam to show up and help me finish the quest.

If I can do that, maybe then I can reach the end and come out the other side having done something worth living for. Probably not saving the entire world of men, but something more subtle. Something that when I do die, I can look back on and say “I did that”, and go without regret. 

[thevioletcaptain]

y'know, the different factions of spn fandom on tumblr do fundamentally and vehemently disagree with each other about a lot of things, and many of the factions actively hate one another, but i just want to say for the record that i appreciate the fact that this site is not overrun with painfully hetero facebook fans. i just saw someone over there saying with their whole chest that they fully expected the finale to have dean meeting jo harvelle in heaven and them getting afterlife married, and someone else angrily responded that this was obviously never going to happen because clearly dean was still in love with lisa braeden who would therefore be his finale bride (i guess this person expected her to die in the finale somehow?), and then someone ELSE responded that they wouldn't want to see either of those things happen because they like to pretend dean is their boyfriend and it would feel like cheating(!!!!) if he ended up with one of them and they'd never be able to fantasize about him anymore. and all of these comments had over a dozen people agreeing with them.

[to-be-a-dreamer]

Man. If I had a nickel for every time Zac Oyama and Lou Wilson had to rp a breakup-coded fight between their “platonic besties” characters because Zac’s character was experiencing a hard personal internal struggle and decided to leave a group/cause that he wasn’t actually invested in and mostly just joined because Lou’s character was passionate about it and Lou’s character was canonically very charismatic and good at garnering followers/admirers but Zac’s character was one of his only true friends that he fully trusted and was loyal to and Lou’s character was really hurt when Zac’s character left, less by the actual action of leaving and more by the implication that he didn’t care about Lou’s character enough to stay I’d have two nickels. Which isn’t a lot but it’s fucking RUDE that it’s happened twice.

[feelo-fick]

i thought the reason was obvious..??

but you dont seem to get the implication so i guess ill just keep talking and you can listen if you want to

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that one meme but its them :] sort of a sequel to this

[strangefa11]

my favourite part about making new people listen to tma is watching them go through the inevitable transition from “man this jon guy is kind of a dickhead I don’t like him very much” to “I would die for jonathan sims”

[ricksanchezbignaturals]

silverv may not technically be "canon" but in actuality they are realer than all these other mfs

[fuckyeahchinesefashion]

cnetizen: it is not recommended that you call your partner baby..

[xxplastic-cubexx]

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finally finished This Wip from Ever ago and so now i ask you ever look into another dudes eyes and suddenly want to do whatever he wants