#or women and femme presenting

[arinmoss]

women and femmes is like. what the fuck r u talking about lol.

like ppl will be talking about shit that effects me but postulate it as something that effects only women and femmes, two things i am not lolol

[spartalabouche]

sometimes its really obvious how much people dont actually believe presentation=/=gender when they see their nonbinary friend go from extremely masculine to relaxing back into femininity once theyre comfortable with their gender and every time they call it detransitioning with zero indication thats what their friend is calling it. i dont know how to tell you this but sometimes you present a certain way for social reasons and not because thats how you actually feel. sometimes you experience dysphoria about your body that is actually related to how people view you and not how you feel about your body. i really dont think its that uncommon for trans people to swing really hard in one direction for the affirmation and then relax back into a different presentation once they are more comfortable in their gender

[sapphicsparkles]

Mando and Mando adjacent sapphics

[ashertickler]

thinking gay thoughts... thinking about... genderbent asher... pretty... pretty woman... I love women... so pretty... wow...

[edwardallenpoe]

man I sure do hope people who say that trans people don't have to present hyper-binary or be passable are normal about masc/butch trans people, including trans women who don't want surgeries or hrt or use she/her pronouns. Man I sure do hope they don't just mean femme trans men and exclude trans women and nonbinary masculine people. Man I sure do hope that they aren't super fucking weird about masculinity, especially when performed by trans women.

[androgynousevilqueen]

Guaranteed turn-off seeing men post shit like "women love to be tickled - it's in their nature!" and "Tickling brings out the feminity in all of us", indicating lees only. Speak for yourself!

If you're going to equate feminity with submission / vulnerability / powerlessness/ diminishment / being reduced, recognize that your kink is being informed by misogyny. Even if you think of that as something positive about feminine people.

It leaves no room for anyone into being tickled who isn't into being feminized. It leaves no room for those who like to feel feminine AND powerful/dominant.

There is nothing inherently submissive in the feminine, just as there is nothing inherently dominant in the masculine. We need to stop perpetuating this nonsense. It harms people by denying the complexity of their existence.

Have whatever fantasies you want, but don't oversimplify the rest of us to make us fit into them.

I know there are a lot of us cultivating our tumblrs for pure fantasy, I get that. But you dehumanize women, anyone who expresses themselves as feminine, AND those who want to feel masculine in their submission by making these bold statements that gender is a sure indication of someone's relationship to power in the bedroom.

Seriously, F off with that shit.

[tyrianludaship]

i once saw a guy say in the tags that my mutual's medic/femme oc ship made him uncomfortable "because he is a gay man" and in that moment i was like. yeah so many people in this fandom are very self absorbed and don't even try to look outside of themselves. i am just tired of watching my friends get hurt because people are so careless with what they say.

Medic isn't even canonically gay; let femme selfshippers do what they want.

[soldierandawar]

black women truly have no one but themselves to rely on. it’s a reality that we have to live with everyday but it’s emphasized in times like this when you look at the poll results and see the disparity.

[darkangel0410]

As someone who's been through multiple iterations of people finding out about rpf and then immediately making life worse for those of us here, I have two pieces of advice for hockey fandom in the wake of the booktok stuff:

Lock your fic if you haven't already. Regular hockey media and fans are picking up on this now so it's only a matter of time before they stumble into rpf and most of them are not going to be kind about it. Expect lots of pearl clutching and screams of disgust, and they will pull copies of fics they find to use as examples of why rpf is disgusting and bad and morally wrong. They won't bother to censor the writer's name either.

Go download your favorite fics if you haven't already. Especially Kraken fics. People will delete their fics and profiles because of this and I don't even blame them.

[bellhopping]

Oh yeah I'm a lesbian now I think. B

[yourdailyqueer]

Jay Hunt

Gender: Female

Sexuality: Lesbian

DOB: Born 1965

Ethnicity: White - British

Occupation: Entrepreneur, producer, stylist, presenter.

[sailorscouts]

damn people really think femme means women + women lite. why are you including masc women in the definition of femme 😭 whom does that serve

[sovaghoul]

I have a question for anyone attracted to women/femme-presenting/woman-aligned people. Do...do y'all really like full bush and hairy pits and leg hair, and are scars and cellulite and stretch marks and loose jiggly skin really ok? Like are those things not deterrents or detrimental to your attraction? Like have I really been lied to for the past 40 years when I've been force-fed the messages that those things are bad and ugly and gross?

...I mean, um, asking for a friend

[cruelsister-moved2]

btw the fact that butch/femme relationships arent 'replicating heterosexuality' doesnt mean you as a feminine woman are incapable of having desires+expectations rooted in internalisation of the male gaze & then projecting that onto masc women. it means masc women dont "have a male gaze" & are in no position to actually benefit from it, it doesnt mean that you as a feminine woman fantasising about being a tradwife and regurgitating tiktok divine feminine bimbo nonsense needs no further exploration as long as u construct an internal voyeur in the shape of a masculine woman rather than a man

[tricornonthecob]

My body decided that my 30s was the perfect time to flesh out my girl beard and now I have *six* genuine facial hairs instead of the one I've had since 18, and NOW ONE IS GRAY.

[papaivcallme]

Although I'm a trans man, I cannot deny the deep down very sapphic part of me from when I was younger. He still calls out to me every once in a while