#or bring on the outcome urself

[wolvertooth]

theres an alternate timeline where victor lavalle wrote all the sabretooth war issues n im pissed im not living in it

[honeytonedhottie]

a post on persistence⋆.ೃ࿔*:･💝

im super happy and excited to announce that this post is a collab with the AMAZINGG @pinkpigtailsprincess. we wanted to collab on this post and talk about PERSISTENCE in manifesting and how crucial it is when ur manifesting things.

HOW TO PERSIST ; persisting simply means reminding urself that u already have whatever it is that u want. when u persist, you decide what it is that u want and you STICK to it.

the oxford definition of persistence simply means to continue in an opinion or course of action in spite of difficulty or opposition.

your 3d literally has no choice but to catch up and reflect the new thoughts that ur thinking in ur 4d so just KEEP GOING. if ur gonna whine or complain every step of the way and think thoughts like "persisting is hard" or "theres lots of resistance/difficulty with manifesting" then thats what ur going to experience.

manifesting is easy, effortless, and instant. when u catch urself thinking thoughts that perpetuate the old story, remind urself that no matter what, whatever u persist in will harden into reality simply because it HAS to. stop getting in your own way!!

LIMITLESS > IMAGINATION ;

limitless definition; possesing power of an immeasurable rate a perfect way to describe your power your literally the god of your reality and you know you might think thats silly or “delusional” its so true though like ever since birth people are conditioned to believe that being negative is the more “logical” and “realistic” way to think than positive which is such a stupid revelation because all throughout life you meant to believe that you have to bring yourself down to earth about achieving something and that you’ll never have “” but that makes no sense seeing all of the extraordinary achievements that humans have done like

build rockets and do rocket science

walk on the moon

build the great wall of china

and so many others including the human body its self your cells in your body healing and protecting wounds and your organs being able to stay in the designated spot no matter what and you think “logic” actually matters?

everything in the human mind is projected i mean everything you use on a daily basis started off in the mind it all stems from imagination

DECISIONS ⭐️ ;

deciding is the final decision and the final outcome no matter what no questions asked like if you went too a sushi restaurant and ordered and decided that you want a shrimp tempura roll you will have the shrimp tempura roll no matter what concepts “if the concept of something can exist then that can be achieved no matter what”

literally something i think about alot and a direct quote from yours truly like most people do think that you can have something because its quote “unrealistic” or it “doesn’t exist” but if that were really the case than why is the concept of it allowed to prosper like if those things really didn’t exist then the concept of billionaires or superpowers and superheroes wouldn’t exist or even time travel everything single one of those things are a product of imagination!!!

YOUR THE ONLY POWER ;

alot of the times on loablr you see people say “you’re the only power” and “you don’t even need that method just imagination and that honestly just so real because if you really think about all of these methods ie: 48 hour challenge, 10k affirmations method etc.

and the void state those things also stemmed from that person’s imagination when you use those methods or use subliminals all your doing is giving it a smidge of your power the method is only powerful because your giving it that power in conclusion you and your imagination are the only things that matter !!

[pinkpigtailsprincess]

౨ৎ ⁺ . Dolly n Honeys Collab .ᐟ 🎀🍯🐬

Hii Dolls!! im soo soo 2 do this collabs with one of my favorite blogs @honeytonedhottie !!! basically we’ll be talking about persistence and being limitless!!🧁🎀 Enjoy!!!

Honey 𝜗𝜚 ! 🍯🎀

HOW TO PERSIST ; persisting simply means reminding urself that u already have whatever it is that u want. when u persist, you decide what it is that u want and you STICK to it.

the oxford definition of persistence simply means to continue in an opinion or course of action in spite of difficulty or opposition.

your 3d literally has no choice but to catch up and reflect the new thoughts that ur thinking in ur 4d so just KEEP GOING. if ur gonna whine or complain every step of the way and think thoughts like "persisting is hard" or "theres lots of resistance/difficulty with manifesting" then thats what ur going to experience.

manifesting is easy, effortless, and instant. when u catch urself thinking thoughts that perpetuate the old story, remind urself that no matter what, whatever u persist in will harden into reality simply because it HAS to. stop getting in your own way!!

Dolly ୨୧ ! 🎀🫧🍨🛼

Limitless > Imagination!! 🎀🧁

Limitless Definition; Possesing power of an immeasurable rate a perfect way to describe your power your literally the god of your reality and you know you might think thats silly or “delusional” its so true though like ever since birth people are conditioned to believe that being negative is the more “logical” and “realistic” way to think than positive whoch is such a stupid revelation because all throughout life you meant to believe that you have to bring yourself down to earth about achieving something and that you’ll never have “__” because of “__” but that makes no sense seeing all of the extraordinary achievements that humans have done like

- build rockets and do rocket science

- walk on the moon

- build the great wall of china

and so many others including the human body its self your cells in your body healing and protecting wounds and your organs being able to stay in the designated spot no matter what and you think “logic” actually matters? everything in the human mind is projected i mean everything you use on a daily basis started off in the mind it all stems from imagination i mean just think about how everything around you started put as an idea in someones head!!

Decisions!! 🎀🍨🫧

deciding is the final decision and the final outcome no matter what no questions asked like if you went too a sushi restaurant and ordered and decided that you want a shrimp tempura roll you will have the shrimp tempura roll no matter what

Concepts !! 🎀🧁🐬

“if the concept of something can exist then that can be achieved no matter” literally something i think about alot and a direct quote from yours truly like most people do think that you can have something because its quote “unrealistic” or it “doesn’t exist” but if that were really the case than why is the concept of it allowed to prosper like if those things really didn’t exist then the concept of Billionaires or Superpowers and Superheroes wouldn’t exist or even time travel everything single one of those things are a product of imagination!!! 💭🎀

[banefort]

cornplating here but even if you do the mental gymnastics to justify to urself that rhaenyra wasnt asking for Aemond to be tortured in S1E7, that doesnt take away from the fact that 'sharply questioned' is still an incredibly aggressive and pointed way to get across that she wanted him to give a debriefing on the whole knife-to-face situation. even if torture wasnt the intended outcome she still carefully invoked violent imagery and sought to bring some kind of harm to him. who uses 'sharply' as an adjective unless you kind of want to fuck somebody up like just a bit.

[pumpumdemsugah]

One of the most pathetic things to me is seeing BW talk down to other BW using slurs and insults and historically inaccurate ‘facts’ to defend white queer trans types. Makes me feel so embarrassed like how can you have such little self respect. Not on there anymore but the amount of times I’ve seen BW pile up other BW on twitter talking about ‘you’re hardly a woman urself wench’ etc to make sure Sock & co. know that they’re good allies is wild. Whiteness and misogyny has done a number of some people for sure.

It's mental fucking behaviour. Its desperate craven and ahistorical

We weren't seen as women the same way you don't call a cow a woman because that's not a person and because that's not a person it's property and because it's property is enslaving them really so bad ? The cows don't complain?

Using white supremacist framing against a Black woman for solidarity lol I hope they learn shame and get well. Misogynistic Black patriarchal men often speak to Black women the exact same way. They remind us how slave masters see us ( be it true or not ) and want us to internalise that as what we are.

People are going out of their way to avoid the fact the reason medical practitioners think Black people feel less pain, Black children have to wait longer for pain medication, Black boys young as 12 get described as big men and society characterises Black women as tough, so tough we have horrible maternal death outcomes in the UK and US because they think hink we're lying because we're tough is because of the legacy of slavery.

You don't mass enslave, rape and work people to death and then describe them complex people who can be hurt, you describe them as unfeeling animals and it stuck

Straight from the crackers mouths

He literally just didn't think the Black women he owned as slaves didn't feel pain even though they need to be restrained when he'd hack them open. They don't feel pain though but pin her down. Stereotypes aren't about reality but the way people on social media seem to need us to view ourselves as 3rd gender because we're Black and distance slavery from why people think of us the way they do...Black women don't benefit and whites get to pretend they aren't beneficiaries of this framing. Now it's a moral imperative to think this

Slaves masters tell you why they treated enslaved Black people that way. They had diaries. They thought we were animals and we couldn't feel pain. Being stereotyped as a wild beast doesn't lend itself to be seen as feminine. That's where it comes from . Why are so many people intent on gendering this in such a racist inappropriate way ? Because the same thing happened to Black men but no one is making the same claims about them, they recognise doing so is racist but not for us

Why are we decentring white supremacy and slavery, often for the approval of white people?

This is why when people say you can't solve how Black women are treated with solving transphobia i roll my eyes. You can talk about how you can gender peoples bodies to excuse abuse and certain ideas so it's important we don't do this, but we can solve transphobia and Black women will be seen exactly the same way because it stems from slavery and anti-Black racism.

Slave masters left diaries detailing what they thought about the negro and it's about dehumanisation in a very literal way. They were measuring skulls to prove we're just like monkeys. We were compared to animals. They didn't think we were the same fucking species as them. No one brings this up anymore because umm solidarity. It's not even enough that you simply don't agree as someone with left leaning politics, they need to humiliate you in a public racist way because of it

Sorry I think you're a massive coon if you do this and need to relearn self-respect. You can draw connections without doing all this but I'm not lying about a single historical fact because it makes for a good viral moment

[tommyssupercoolblog]

Writing Pattern Tag Game

@bootlegfrank tagged me and @septiccoffeefreak - who shares this post w me because we're writing partners >:3 (frank tagged us indirectly. and then directly because i responded saying i was gonna do it. so in-indirect-diretly(??))

Rules: list the first lines(s) of your last 10 fics and see if there's a pattern. I also said where each one is from in case u don't wanna scroll through our ao3 and do the math urself!!!

all these fics except one r RPF, sooo BE WARNED. i'm putting everything under da cut, and i'm also putting my reblog banner since fanfiction!!! is!!! art!!!

Seán’s about ready to burn his entire calendar.

from "Scheduling Conflicts and How To Cope - A Guide For The Busy Homosexual"

Tommy hates LA with every fiber of his being.

from "City Of Angels"

it's cold, and it hurts.

from "The Part Where it Gets Better (Lads rescue AU)", and also THIS SOUNDS SO WEIRD OUT OF CONTEXT LIKE WHAT'S COLD??? it's water. the water is cold. this is the character based one btw. WE FOUND IT, THE NON-RPF!!!

Tommy inspects Seán’s behelit tattoo carefully, running his thumb over it a little, then kisses it.

I fucking would. kissing all his tattoos right now. mwah. this goddamn MOOD is from "There's No Place Like Home"

Ethan N3st0r was not expecting Seán to still be awake at three AM, even though with jet lag considered, he really fuckin should have.

I censored the name for search but it's not like that in the fic, that's just for tumblr. anyway, from "Three Drabbles In Which Tommy and Seán are bad at Keeping Secrets"

Ethan's the one to bring it up first, on Brain Leak, of all things.

OPENING WITH ETHAN AGAIN LMAOO. this is from "And Suddenly, It Makes Sense."

"So, who would have thought, huh? T0mmy1nn1t and Jacks3pt1c3y3, famous YouTubers, passed away in their sleep on the same night."

censored for tumblr again. from "Count your Soulmates- There's only one."

Seán and Tommy have sleepovers sometimes.

from "kissing practice". very original opening line /sar /lh (also tbh i feel awful about em being evil in this one :( I know its fanfic and i can do whatever I want but like. idk. i'm not accusing em of being mean IRL okay??? OKAY))

Seán spends about fifteen minutes pacing and staring at himself in the mirror, doing breathing exercises his therapist taught him and trying not to rub or scratch his wrists too much.

from "Puppy Love", the closest we've ever gotten to full misce posting on main

They were gluing ducks to a jeep the first time it happened.

FROM "PETNAMES" AND ALSO THE BEST OPENING LINE EVER

INTERPRETATION TIME!!!!

soooo yeah!!! we like to jump right into action as well but I think it's safe to say our autistic ass habits of giving exposition for everything lead to the specific outcome of starting in the middle of a scene, WITH an explanation of the scene. like we're already in the middle of something going on but also sometimes it's exposition at the same time somehow?? or like right after these first lines. idk maybe that's just me????

the way it's usually less (character does this) and more (character does this BECAUSE ____ // character is doing this and FEELING ____) feels like it's trying to give context, to me. but again idk maybe just me

TIME FOR SEÁN'S READING:

@septiccoffeefreak - "What I'm noticing here is more along the lines of just, how we almost always seem to open with a person. Usually by their actual name(s) too and not just a pronoun. I understand what you mean, Tommy, but I don't personally get that vibe? You could totally be right, of course, I just don't pick up on that. I defenitely notice, though, just how many of these are sentences where the literal first word is a name. the two exceptions to that are the pronoun "they" (which is still a person- or two people actually), and then water.

I guess the dialogue could also be considered an exception, but I don't think it counts since it also directly references us as characters.

and that's not something you necessarily have to do. You could open describing scenery or objects, or with dialogue that DOESN'T have the names of the characters in it- you could open with wind through a blade of grass or a character cursing under their breath or someone's cellphone crashing to the pavement or something. So it's definitely an "us" thing, it's a quirk of our writing style and not just normal writing. I don't know if like, we ALWAYS do this, but I do know that in these ten fics you pulled we do. I wouldn't be surprised if we did it like literally all the time as well, but I'm not going to pretend to know every first line we've ever penned to paper. or...print?? I don't fucking know, here, I'm just analyzing sentences on the internet for a tagging project.

Sorry if this ramble is kind of long, I hope it's at least interesting though??? sort of interesting? kind of interesting, in it's own way, hopefully. at least mildly, like a video you didn't turn on but aren't really reaching for the mouse/remote on to change it. You know?? Yeah. Like that. Or more interesting then that, hopefully. Thanks for uh, reading or, whatever, listening if you have a screen reader i guess, I'm getting nervous and it's very obvious because i'm rambling so I'm gonna hand things back off to the birthday boy, Toms. wish Tommo a happy birthday or I swear to fucking god your liver will be missing in the morning and you'll find it at the bottom of your morning cup of coffee."

back to me:

LMAO

wow omg i love my babygirl,,,, that made me laugh >:p

ANYWAYS. i didn't notice that!! oh em gee,,,,, name moment.

YOU SHOULD DO THIS TOO AND SEE IF YOUUUU SEE ANYTHING!!!!!

I'M TAGGING @kalcifers-blog AND.... no one else because all my other mutuals who i know for a fact write have paused as far as i'm aware, bc they're into mcyt RPF like I am and the w1lbvr situation put them on hiatus. and i don't know if any of them are back to feeling up to writing stuff.

I don't write about w1bvr ever and didn't watch him so I wasn't that affected but a lot of people were even if they just watched so like... Kalcie ur alone on here i'm SO SORRIE. ALSO this is /nf so u don't have to if u dont want to :p :3 >:D :000 >:PPPP :000 >:00

[electrosair]

hiiii! hope ur doing well ❤️I'm joining in on the matchup bandwagon as well yippeee

to give you a tiny bit of an idea about my personality, i'm an INFJ 9w1. I tend to be extremely shy, and closed off from people when it comes to talking about myself, as my main focus is on the people themselves and the world around me in general. I like to maintain peace and quiet and help the others around me - but also escape in other worlds through books, video games or fiction.

I'm very emotionally sensitive. I am also prone to overthinking and getting really anxious. It's easy to make me embarrassed too!

generally I don't bother people with my problems because I'd feel really selfish, but I am always willing to help those in need - hell people even come to me for advice, comfort or just to be heard. I kind of tend to neglect myself sometimes, when it comes to my physical energy or emotional well-being.

being social isn't very easy for me and I run out of energy quickly.

I have only a few friends. when I'm around them I tend to have a very positive and pleasant disposition! I actually tend to be a little louder than I normally am, and I've been told that it brings people at ease. also my optimism is seemingly infectious, or so I've been told. the thing is that I'm very optimistic around people, but negative with myself - I'm my own worst critic, I'm very harsh on myself.

I value honesty and I prefer for people to tell me things at face value. I can be blunt most of the time, but I usually read the emotional atmosphere and go easier with my words (sugarcoating most of the time), so I don't hurt the others around me (I tend to gently scold people sometimes). it's hard to make me angry, and also I forgive easily.

I am able to predict outcomes of situations most of the time, and it's helped me a lot (legit feel like I'm able to avoid any dangers fhsjfhd).

my favourite nation is Fontaine! lovely story, music, landscape and characters, and exploration is so fun. as for my favorite element, it has to be anemo!

during my free time I am usually reading about psychology stuff (I love understanding the human mind and people around me in general), playing video games, watching vtubers, watching documentaries (from nature to crime ones), or creating my own artwork, characters and generally just. creating things in my head and living in my own little world when things get too tough for me (its a good way for me to cope).

some fun facts as the cherry on top! I'm a very organized person. my entire room is SUPER organized, neat, super clean. some plushies, manga and books here and there.

I am good in academics, I'm hardworking, and I love animals. cats especially. I'm a sucker for cute things, and I kinda know how to cook. I don't have a lot of physical strength, I'm really weak.

I dedicate myself to those close to me a lot, at this point some people would call a sister figure or a "mom friend" lol.

🙏I hope this isn't a lot. if it is I'm super sorry I tend to ramble plenty;;; anyway make sure to take real good care of urself! sending love ~ ꒰⁠⑅⁠ᵕ⁠༚⁠ᵕ⁠꒱⁠˖⁠♡

you can ramble all you want in my requests 😭

Lyney!

After getting to know you a little better he would make sure to ask you every so often how you've been feeling since he knows that if he doesn't ask you, you won't tell him anything.

He loves when you to start to open up little by little with him, he would try everything so that you can become closer and gain trust with him. One of the things he does is to invite you to the new shows he does, always in the front row so he can surprise you more.

He might even ask you what you would like to see in magic tricks or if you know any, he also wants ideas and would be willing to listen to you and figure out afterwards how he can do it. Lyney would also tell you about some of his own, but always in a discreet way so as not to ruin the moment of the performance for you.

He's probably a person who really appreciates order to have everything go according to plan, so I think you would also be pretty compatible in terms of little personality things like that as well. And the fact that you like cats so much just makes it even better.

[skittles-reblogs]

Hi uh you're probably swamped with requests so like make sure you're taking care of urself! Uh and noise and smell sensitive enby reader x hisoka please? Like for noise if the noise is loud enough the reader will experience physical pain for hour's and for smell the reader would double over if the smell is bad enough? Sorry if I'm requesting too much I just would like to see a reader with my issues 🙂

warnings

notes: i am swamped with requests ;) there are like fourteen in my inbox 🤭 but it’s okay because i said that i’m a slow writer in my bio so they can’t say i didn’t warn them 😈anyways i can definitely do this :)) also you can request as much as you need 👍

he probably has no clue how it’s happening whatsoever

but if you explain, he’ll retain that information like it’s the secret krabby patty formula or something

he’s super weird so he’d probably test it or something

(like a weirdo)

anyways he’ll probably buy you earplugs for the noise

(a genius weirdo)

and he’ll steal you a clothespin for your nose if worst comes to worst

(not as smart but still smart)

he’ll try to avoid loud sounds or smells before they even happen in the first place

his thought process is something like “eradicate the problem's origin before it worsens”

it’s a great thing he’s smart i guess

this is because whenever something is going to happen is just magically doesn’t end up happening??

who even know who could’ve possibly done this

or how??

that is for him to know and for you to never find out

what happens in the forest stays in the forest is what he likes to say when you ask him

on the off chance that a noise or smell is bad enough though

first he’ll internally think about what he can do to “alter the outcome next time”

then he’ll rush to your side and bring you somewhere he knows is safe

you won’t have to worry about a single thing for the next 24-48 hours

only about the fact that your safe now and that he’s trying his best to keep you safe ❤️

[haneys]

the saddest thing about moving I think is that I have to leave my Physical Therapy group 😭 going there has been so fucking good to me physically and mentally it's just like Gym but so much more fun bc were in small groups of few patients at a time so everyone knows everyone and we're all chatting. Marta (my physician idk how to call it) is such a great person she's litersly so fun and also mischievous and every time I go we end up gossiping about everyhring and chatting and joking and she's genuelly the no1 supporter for everyone in her care like she cares for real, I am not saying this Lightly bc its still physician - patient but unironically she's friends with everyone. and the atmosphere there is so 😭 we bet on football matches outcomes we bring and share food and snacks with everyone we all hyoe each other up we have inside jokes Marta has fucking??? started a sort of garden on the windowsills there straight up radishes and watercress in posts there everyone can come up to and munch on and I was like where did you get this. and she was like Theehee :P LIKE HELP ME LORD. Also she loves her job sm today we all had to leave a bit early so she was our if patients early and she was liek what the fuck am I going to do now. whimper. and we told her well you can go home early and enjoy urself do normal people things like watch TV read a book. and she's dying 10000 deaths saying ew but these all suck T_T I don't know I like working out I love socializing going there's been doing wonder to me.. not onky kne flop ass knee but also my heart etc... truly so healing and so fun the highlight of my days easily even when it's killing my ass and often painfull. I'm gonan miss everyone T_T OH AND ALSO SHE ALSO TEACHES AT COLLEGE bc there's a physiotherapy major where i live slay!!

[zushimart]

hi idk if this is a weird ask or not bc im half asleep but i just wanted to say that i started following u on my old blog in late 2022 like maybe december and your posts about bpd scara made me feel so seen. i wasn't diagnosed then but it was recently on the table as a diagnosis for me all of a sudden and it was terrifying because i feel like pwbpd are demonized and hated everywhere i look. and just like scrolling thru ur bpd scara tag was like looking at a diary of my own mind or smth. so it was really new to me to see someone talk about borderline as something that brings love and pain into our lives and not just as some scary evil-people diagnosis. like ur definitely my fav writer on this app by far but also u make me feel really validated in my emotions i guess? wow idk sorry like i actually have no idea how to describe it but hopefully u can read minds ‼️ 🤞 i have since been diagnosed with bpd with a criteria score of 9/9 so 😳 idk where id be rn in september 2023 if i hadn't sort of started to learn to love myself from your writings exploring a character. so yea this is probably a strange ask so feel free to ignore it. also im going on anon bc im scared of interacting w ppl. ALSO U R SO FUNNY ND YOUR HUMOR/RANDOM FUNNY TAGS FEEL SO SIMILAR TO MY INTERNAL MONOLOGUE

this is such an open & genuine thing to say to me . i like had to sit with it for a second because it was so .. idk like how to communicate it . my devaluation of ths blog is pretty frequent, treating it sort of like a big boy version of the 2000s children’s diaries with locks.. my thoughts tossed in here nd piled nd piled nd piled, endlessly messy. nd it objectively is a writing blog , like yeah, on a surface level, i own& maintain a writing blog, but i would never tell people that. when people ask my hobbies i always say writing & ill show them my poetry pieces but i never tell them i have a blog because im kind of embarrassed by the very seriously delusional self indulgence i pour into this thing . but then i hear about.. like, for ex. we learned ab and have to maintain our own commonplace book in class, which is essentially where people collected anything and everything they felt needed to be archived from their day and tucked it into the pages of a journal . like how thomas jefferson’s commonplace book will have his serious philosophical & political ramblings side by side a recipe for cornbread because it was just a place to put everything big & small . the practical & the theoretical. just, whatever Means something to u. and leisure, indulgence, pleasure r concepts just as important as virtues imo. anyway i say all this to say that what u said to me makes me want to treat everything better, even this place. it like, makes me feel really proud of my writing& analyses that i might normally b quick to label as inconsequential or childlike because im scared people will think i care too much about something so culturally insignificant. but i do care!! obviously!! a lot. i was like kind of bummed today for a number of reasons frm feeling a bit isolated to feeling like living out my principles& ideals (connecting w community, peer centered thinking etc etc) is almost impossible because im sooo freaking shitty at social convention. so when u sent this in & i read it, it was almost like when ur spacing out nd someone snaps 🫰🫰 in front of ur face to get ur attn. so busy trying 2 b significant to someone to realize that u Already are significant in a myriad of little ways. that it’s not something u search for or insert urself into but rather an inevitable outcome of existing. Anyway . not to b sentimental but i wanted 2 b as candid with u because i really did think it was sweet of u to share & im really happy that i was able 2 positively shape & support a little space of ur life because really thats all i ever want to do. Soooooooooo if ur ask was weird then my response is even weirder. Handwritten thank u:

[elkrisen]

hey vin, i’ve been kinda saving this question for a time when i think i really need the answer, but i’m about to receive a lot of change soon and i guess i was wondering how you go about making so many connections with people and places. like how do you cope with the change that comes with that? and how do you stay so grounded in urself? it’s cool if you don’t have an answer, you just seemed like a good person to ask

this is a really good question and also something that is uniquely relevant to a lot of thoughts I've been having about my own past and eventual future. this will be a long answer because I have a lot of thoughts on this.

in part, it's because I purposefully place myself in the temporary. all of my jobs last about three to six months tops. I move three times a year, I refuse to stay anywhere that makes me unhappy and since happiness is temporary, inevitably I will be driven to leave. people are drawn to the temporary and they fiercely love what is no longer part of their life. you can maintain a lot of connections by no longer being there. you have to learn to not only be comfortable with endings, but to crave them because you know that there is relief in resolution. my most treasured memories are usually of the last time I see a group of people I have become deeply attached to and the place that brought us together. there is no greater birthplace of love than a goodbye.

you have to treat every place and person like the most important place you'll ever be and a place that you'll never be again. your love has to be nomadic. when I meet someone and they interest me I try to learn as much as I can about them and and if they try to learn about me in return I develop a relationship even if it's temporary. a relationship can be one night talking to a stranger, or it can be three months crying into the arms of someone who sees your soul. everyone is a chance to grow and you are a chance to grow everyone. relationships are transactional that way, you have to be willing to changed by someone in a formative way, to change them, and then to let them go.

you also have to have something to offer. I think that's important. in connections, you have to know what you bring to the table and you have to know what you want brought to yours. that confidence will take you far and draw people to you. it will also keep you from depending on a place or a people to feel love. the biggest trap I see when traveling is when people find love in a place or a person for the first time and like a moth to a flame they stay, paralyzed in the fear of losing something they've never had before. but things are only beautiful because they end, I really believe that. and if you never leave, then what you have may lose it's beauty. (this isn't true for everyone, but it has never not been true for me.)

the way that I deal with that is that I know that it's a necessary sacrifice for the life I want to live and for the person I want to become. it's not easy, in fact - change scares me more than anything. the unpredictability, the trust, the vulnerability, the open-ended nature - it all preys on my greatest fears. however, it also the only thing that truly grounds me. knowing that it's all temporary. there is always a new place to be, a new person to love and to become. it's the only consistently dependable aspect of my life. it's also something that I can control - not the outcome but the leap. there's very few things you can really control in your life, but leaving and arriving are both wholly dependent on you.

finally, I stay grounded in myself because there's nothing else to ground to. when you arrive somewhere new, and you sit on the place that you will sleep surrounded by strangers you realize pretty quickly that all you really have in this world is yourself. and when you leave, after those strangers have become friends and the unfamiliar becomes home all you have is yourself again. I intentionally cultivate an intimate relationship with my aloneness. there's no one whose company I enjoy more than myself - if you can feel that way anywhere in the world then you always have someone you can trust. I have the sigil of hestia, goddess of the hearth tattooed in the center of my collarbones because I am my own home and I am a home for others and because of that I never feel out of place in myself.

you also have to be a little cutthroat. endings are difficult to initiate because there will always be places that want to keep you, people that you love in profound ways, an identity that you have finally grown into. you have to sever it mercilessly and trust that there is something greater ahead and that the place that has grown you has grown you as much as it can.

the way I do it isn't universal but I think it's a fair beginning. walk into your new experience with the confidence that you will changed irreparably by it. that you will be love and be loved by people you cannot even imagine. don't try to control your future too much with your dreams and try to live in the present as often as possible. what you want and what you will experience are often very different things but that doesn't mean that the unpredictable will disappoint you. I hope that answered your questions. be brave and enjoy the journey.

[britechstr]

somebody tell me i’m dreaming

u guys

THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!

i love you all so so much ?? it’s literally beyond me ?? u guys have literally changed my life. the sims community makes me feel so accepted and i absolutely love being a part of it. this account brings me so much joy, and i just AH THANK YOU <333

also i’ve had very poor outcomes from celebrations, but if u guys wanna do sim requests or whatever i’m up for anything just GAH THANK YOU I LOVE YOU ALL SO MUCH !! TAKE CARE OF URSELF !! UR WORTH IT !!! <33333

[violentviolette]

So I was on your fandom blog and I saw that you believe Bakugou (at least in assuming) to have ASPD. Is wondering if you could expand on that? I personally see him as NPD but I'd love to hear your side of things

first off anon bless u for being on my fandom blog that takes courage cause it’s a wicked hot mess over there lol and secondly to everyone else yes im about to spend an embarrassing amount of effort overanalyzing an anime man, no u shouldn’t apply this logic to diagnosing real people u don’t know or urself, no its not that deep but yes u can fuck right off if u wanna cry about me headcanoning ur favs with “shitty” illnesses. eat my dick.

But now down to the good shit! So I actually think bakugou has comorbid aspd/npd. But for this since u said u already see him as having npd I’ll just focus on the aspd criteria but im totally down to talk more about npd as well if u wanna. (the rest is under a cut because frankly mobile users would have drawn and quartered me otherwise)

So first im gonna go thru the dsm v criteria that are required for diagnosis that bakugou fits/exhibits (leaving out the few things that don’t pertain to him just for length and also because not every person has to fit every single criteria to qualify)

1. Significant impairments in personality as manifested by

a. identity (self esteem derived from power, pleasure, or personal gain), self direction (goal setting based on personal gratification, absence of prosocial standards and culturally normal ethical behavior)

katsukis entire sense of self is built upon his ability to “win” and to always be number one and come out on top. He absolutely cant stand to be viewed as less than that because if so, his entire sense of self begins to crumble. Part of the reason he’s so antagonistic towards Izuku in the early chapters is the fact that Izuku challenges that identity. He (unintentionally and intentionally) challenges katsuki and wont give way to him (which is the right thing to do, but we see how “well” katsuki handles that). He also doesn’t have a good sense of “prosocial standards.” katsuki has created his own internal sense of morals and values, he’s decided whats worth his time and effort based on his own opinions and not on what society deems worthwhile behavior. He’s constantly getting admonished that his attitude “isn’t that of a hero” because his values are different than the ones of the society around him. But he doesn’t care, as long as he “wins” then everythings good. And its not until he stops “winning” and his behavior begins to get in the way of his goals does he begin to realize that he has a problem.

b. impairments in interpersonal functioning as manifested by lack of empathy (lack of concern for feelings, needs, or suffering of others) and lack of intimacy (incapacity for mutually intimate relationships, use of dominance or intimidation to control others)

I could frankly write a whole essay about just this bit alone but I’ll try to condense my thoughts. So. Lets talk about katsukis lack of empathy. This boy wouldn’t know another person’s emotions if they walked up and punched him in the face. Which they do. On multiple occasions. But I digress. Katsuki is known for his shitty bedside manner, his lack of concern for the feelings of others is literally what cost him his provisional license, but aside from with Izuku (who we’ve established is a source of Baggage for katsuki and shouldn’t be counted among his normal behavior because at the start of the series they BOTH bring out the worst in one another and overcoming that is part of both of their character arcs and growth and a main theme of the damn story. Win and save. Save and win. Ahem. But again I digress) katsuki isn’t vindictive or cruel in an unnecessary way about other peoples emotions. He doesn’t use them against people, it just doesn’t occur to him that they exist. But as we see katsuki grow and begin to try and change his unhealthy behavior, we see that he’s not oblivious of others emotions in the same way todoroki is (who I headcanon as autistic along with izuku (who also has adhd), but that’s a whole nother post lol), he just doesn’t know what to do with them. He can handle things like kirishima feeling insecure, because he can logically talk to him about how strong he is to encourage and support him, but really struggles with more intimate and open forms of emotional support, like with Izuku.

He also struggles with forming prosocial bonds and friends. At the start of the series katsuki doesn’t have friends, he has lackeys he controls with intimidation and fear because he doesn’t know any other way to be. He has trust and intimacy issues and doesn’t like people getting too close to him because he feels displays of vulnerability are what makes someone weak (see those asocial morals and values we talked about earlier). After his time at UA, a few large helpings of some humble pie, and the diligent and hard work of a small group of fearless idiots (aka kaminari whose literally too prosocial for his own good and has zero self preservation instincts, and kirishima who has an endless supply of patience and understands empathy and other peoples emotions to a degree that’s baffling to me) he is able to start deconstructing that idea and realizing that u can be vulnerable and let people close to u and still be strong. That the mortifying ordeal of being known isn’t actually the worst things ever. Also that when confronted with people who aren’t actually afraid of him, he doesn’t know how else to deter them from getting close to him. The fact that none of the other kids in 1-A take katsukis shit and even go so far as to pick on him and mock him and call him out on his bullshit is a MAJOR turning point for his socialization skills.

2. pathological personality traits in the following catagories

a. antagonism, characterized by hostility (persistent and frequent angry feelings, anger or irritability in response to minor slights or insults, nasty mean vengeful behavior), callousness (lack of concern for the feelings and problems of others)

I mean. Do I even have to expand on this point? I feel like no

b. disinhibition, characterized by impulsivity (acting on the spur of the moment in response to immediate stimuli, acting without a plan or consideration for outcomes, difficulty establishing and following plans), risk taking (lack of concern for ones limitations and denial of the reality of personal danger, engaging in potentially risky and self-damaging activities without regard for consequences)

this is a criteria where u have to adjust for the world these characters are living in. but even then, by hero standards, katsuki is still impulsive. His teachers are constantly admonishing him in the early series for charging headfirst into a situation, loosing himself to his emotions and anger, and letting things get the better of him because hes not taking the time to properly assess the situation, this also bleeds into katsukis inability to work with others or ask for help. He charges headfirst into a situation by himself, blows up anything in his way, and then asks questions later. His teammates are often left totally in the dark to his plans, motives, or other moves and have to just play catch up to him the entire time. In the deku vs. kacchan 1 fight we see this behavior come out in full force. He has no plan, he blows up half the building with zero regard for their goals, and leaves iida completely in the dark. Momo pointing this all out and dragging him for filth during the recap is another wakeup moment for him, having to confront the realities of his impulsive and negative behavior whereas before he was only praised for it.

so if we take a look at even just that, which is still about ¾ of the diagnostic criteria, I think u can see where this really starts to explain his personality. Katsuki is hot headed, angry, impulsive, stubborn, selfish, he gets in his own way more often than not, he struggles with prosocial behavior, making friends, and relating emotionally to others. He has a hard time comforting people and usually does so in a blunt and logical way, he isn’t great at sympathy and being soft, kind, or gentle with other people. It takes a considerable amount of effort for him to realize where his world view and his morals and goals are warped and doing him more harm than good, and he absolutely cant stand to be vulnerable or honest about his feelings with others. 

All those things, imo, as someone with aspd & npd, are what make me feel like hes a good character representation of what the complexities of living with these disorders is like. Katsuki isn’t inherently a bad person, and as we see him grow and change, we see the ways in which hes becoming better, but its still hard for him. And despite what a lot of fandom thinks, if u look at the canon, the main person katsuki hurts with his behavior is himself. And I think that’s really important because people with aspd & npd are so often catagorized as abusive villians whose only goal in life is to hurt others. Whereas with katsuki we see where these things and this kind of thinking gets in the way of his goals and ultimately hurts him. and thats what I think makes him the most relatable and makes his growth all the much more satisfying. Katsuki is both fundamentally the same and an entirely different person from when we first meet him. his personality didn’t magically completely change, hes not just a tsundere whose suddenly all mushy feely and hyper empathetic, he’s just learning how to deal with his emotions and the world and getting better at being a healthy person.

So yea, those are my thoughts! There was apparently a whole 1600 words of them so my apologies for writing u a literal dissertation on this lol I just really love this fucking character

[seekersoul1]

BOND THE DESTINY DEMANDS

life is what you make out of it or say reality is reflection of your mind you will become ultimatly what you think ... but what about the pre established reality around us surely it has to make some impact on the processing of our brain i.e decisionmaking, perspective, protectiveness for ourselfs so who is producing the ultimate outcome .....you are the product of your brain or just the reality affecting your brain and making you a part of it .reality i mean is the rude mean selfish restless world around you resulting into poverty pollution crime hunger international conflicts imagine urself born in a country like libya yemen mexico Afghanistan we need to consider reality of the whole world not just aroud us

just as sir Thomas hobbes said we emerged from a state of nature (brutual) to civilised through a social contract but i think the process is on going we are in the middle of it still a long way to go

it is easy to be ignorant and avoid reality . plato in 325bc concluded ignorance as one basic quality of humans only according to him philosopher king(vitues man having 50yrs of knowledge) can completely eradicte ignorance so do marx in 18ce when he gave theory of veil of ignorance i belive attaining philosopher king is not possible n soo do completely end ignorance but we can surely minimise it

and if we do so we reach to a phase of evaluation of ourselfs as well as of society after that only we can identify the true right and wrongs beside that pre established reality we start questioning ourself basic questions why we took birth what is the purpose of our life and what meaningfull contribution we can make and with this comes the urge to bring changes whatever feild we choose we want to make a strong iron impact

to bring simple change or a revoltion you need to go againsed the pre established culture of the society normss which other thinks the way of life if you have successfully realised this new reality you have the strength and courage to do soo but to sustain be in the marathon instead sprint, to keep youself standing againsed the fast blowing winds you need to make sacrifices which is the most difficult part

with out being sure abut the outcome you need to put ur present on the line you will start finding yourself in a hard mentally tiering alone journey which sometimes may feel aimless and senseless you keep finding yourself isolated unacceptable by the society and dependent only on your owwn help this is the part where we feels like to quit to go back and join the society and accept there norms and way of life

making sacrifices, coming out of your comfort zone is not easy but for that reason and aim of life we need to keep going sacrifices are inherent in every virtues journey say mother Teresa who left her country people family went to an unknown new nation to help humanity or mahatma gandhi wo left his dream career comforts family whn he realised things are seriously not right around him evn the frictional superheroes supermans-louise lane peter parkers- gwen stacy or say batmans -vickywale no one could have a cheerful lovelife we saw them being alone not so successful in social life beside a choice of giving up there rage against the wrong n join the norms culture of society to attain comfort and happiness they kept the light of there lamp on gave up their desires for the betterment of society well motive is clear by now achieving greater things requires greater sacrifices

i was always a great admirer of the two most hated men on the planet adolf hitler and thanos not about the path they chose or the inhumanity the possessed but for the purpose they adopted hitler startd with a simple mission to attain justice for his nation when no one could see the injustice done to a defeted nation even thanos purpose was soo noble to bring balance in the universe and releave it from the over stress nature is facing due to humans whn everyone was busy with there own personal concerns he stood up for the nature & universe

to spend a meaningful life is not a new concept we talking today socrates in 4 bce talked abut the importance of purpose of life and further plato divided human soul into three kinds gold-men of reason, silver-men of courage, broze- men of desire. it is our failure of not adopting such great ideas in our way of life still after 2000 years. to bring changes you desire and change the norms around you we need to stand up do what it takes but should not stop untill we attain our final goal ups and downs are part of life you may face the worst crisis of your life during your most noble step just keep on going and doing your things with full passion and heart sooner or later you will will change your idealism into realism

all views are personal i found myself in between para 7 desire to reach para 9

(title talked about the bonding between sacrifices and final destiny)

peace out ☮️🕊️

[lifelessonsguru]

Parenting- Reality versus Aspirations (Part 2)

The answer lies in ourself, if we just remember our upbringing , we were also technically more advanced in our thought process than our parents but the most important thing which they have is wisdom and this wisdom have made us a successful person. They have provided us a culture which was full of responsibilities they made us realised that after them we are the only one who have whole reponsibilities of the family . Our parents always told us that if you love us than you have to take care of us and also told us directly and indirectly that when we grow old then you will be the person who will handhold us and will do care for us. These act of theirs have made us mature and sensible enough to understand small small needs of our parents then tell me why now a day as a parent we tell our kids that we dont expect anything from them and just do study and make your career just only for you. See I know one thing that if a person does effort to achieve happiness for their parents or children then that person never felt tired and after gradual achieving of happiness for his/ her loved ones that person will always be satisfied and there is an awesome sense of fulfillment.

But why we are not teaching our kids the same thing , why we are just reluctant in teaching these basic things which moves in a family tradition and hierarchy. Why just we waiting that some magic will happen which will make our kids mature. As a parents all of you have observed each and every characteristic of our kids then why we are not guiding them that which career option will be good for them.?

I met many parents in my day to day life moreover I have counselled thousands of parents , some are very busy with their day to day work life affairs , some are busy in their virtual life I.e life without emotional connect in their smart phone where they are sending emojis to each other and kept them selves very busy in that hypothetical virtual world of theirs. Some parents are scared that what if I suggest something to my ward then what If that will not work out.

All these things are lame and one thing is damn sure that your kid is your asset and that beautiful integral part of your life will decide the fate of the family and then why I ask again why we are just ignoring our duties as a parent and why we are not having that simple faith on ourselves and faith on our kids that what ever we decide together will comes out to be a great thing for our kids .

See in this crucial time where the smart phones and everyone's virtual life is affecting the essence of life , we should understand that we should leave that smart phones out of our small world so that we can share some real emotions and should establish a divine connection among ourselves in a family so that every small happiness should matter a lot to us and every moment should bring a positive and healthy outcome for the future.

If you want to establish a true family you should perform certain things

1. Make your kid responsible and guide them about their duties

2. Teach them the true essence of life that success will come only if they are working for bringing the happiness for their loved ones in family and not for themselves

3. Let them do mistakes and let them fall in life so that they become strong internally .

4. Always act as a strong support at the time our kids need us.

5. Always observe the acts of kids silently and in a mature way and just dont yell on them just simply observe , let them fall and then at the time when they need you just eradicate their problems

6. DONT TELL THAT YOU LOVE THEM BUT SHOW THEM THAT YOU ARE HERE AS A STRONG SUPPORT.

7. Give lot of love without any justification and show off.

8. Be urself and do your duties and work properly

9. Never give any of your job or business tension to them and never discuss finances with them until they are mature enough to take that responsibility

I hope this article would have eradicated many problems of your life ... god bless you

[fraisejd22]

Watching u uncomfortable in ur skin even struggling to dance or the false smiles I see in u are a reminder to and for me ur gonna crash in to misery

The desperation shown in so many ways begging it with people desperate to like fit in with drinking practicing haram rituals and shit believing in ‘energy’ etc I never knew I could become so attracted to someone I knew as long as I had. From like what ur tryna wear stuff that clearly doesn’t fit you or is just …. Anyway I get it even that time ridas friends were talking about u ur literally a pick me girl desperate to fit in or be cared for by anything or anyone to the point u visibly don’t know how to take care of yourself anymore

From drinking to doing drugs im more embarrassed of what I thought of u than ur actions towards me

I’m a hypocrite on many levels but I don’t deny my religion I couldn’t I don’t and couldn’t bring shame to myself the way u do

U cheat and maybe for you it’s the norm with ur dad and maybe subconsciously u see it to be acceptable but that’s not normal or functional and things I said before u left weren’t in spite I’ve been conscious for a long time ur just a shitty person

When it came to money the only reason it was ever acceptable was because it was a long term solution to a long term outcome with someone at a time I looked at differently we’re not similar in anyway to accuse me of using u in anyway

U should be ashamed and when it goes quiet ur gonna be so sad and consumed by urself and by that point you’ll be even more of a joke to me then than u are now

I wonder who you’ll blame for your actions leading to pretending to want to commit suicide this time for effect