#offendability

[mentalisttraceur]

As I grow and heal, I catch more cloudbreaks of not needing to get angry because I'm safe now (the bad thing can't happen to me), or I'm feeling unshakably powerful (I can stop the bad thing once it happens or handle everything it does to me), or seeing far and wide enough (it's not really all bad, or it's actually good).

Working to develop a healthy relationship with my anger has also shown great promise for ability to be more gentle or measured with my anger. Because:

Anger expression doesn't have to always be either held back or a five-second explosive surgery that decisively changes the doer of shitty behavior to do it less. In childhood, under a certain pattern of abuse, fear, stress, and trauma, I had to sharpen and compress but also curb my anger, until that's basically what it always had to be. I could only safely release anger when it would do something effective in the time window I had before it was punished.

Anger expression doesn't have to be saved for the worst transgressions. In my late teens I ended up in a relationship with someone very easily and strongly hurt by me being angry at them. I had more compassion for their hurt than my wants and needs I guess. That's a funny error of empathy - a more hurtable person always "wins", a sufficiently resilient empath only ever gives. So I got very good at both finding ways to not be angry and to not express anger for minor stuff.

As I heal these two things, I am starting to see a view where anger is a normal active part of the toolkit, not a vicious snarling dog only released in extreme situations or when tired, but something always ready to fade in and out fluidly. Anger is interpersonal hardening which you can use to shore up your resolve and tolerance as-needed. Our boundaries, offendabilities, and even just perception of contradiction to our goals and preferences, can define healthy automatic activations of anger and how intense or soft they will be.

Growing a self-worth core tied into this. That axiomatic feeling that I deserve good things. Specifically, that I deserve a certain standard of treatment from others more than they deserve me proactively tolerating worse to spare them bad feelings or outcomes. Without a self-worth core, empathy prevented me from getting/acting mad at people unless I felt their intentions/motives/thinking were sufficiently bad/unacceptable. With a self-worth core, the other person can be well-meaning, understandable, or even just good and right, and yet I can still deserve better from them or from the situation.

A healthy self-worth with healthy internal anger freedom naturally dials up anger to defend and assert yourself in line with your wants, and it doesn't need others to be unacceptably bad, which means the anger doesn't need to escalate to your-existence-as-you-are-is-a-problem levels just to get going, it doesn't need to be bundled with judgement, condemnation, and hard feelings, and it can relax once the behavior changes instead of needing the person to change.

[professor-pants]

Genre of character: submissive like a guard dog is submissive

[notherpuppet]

Good morning 🍎📻

[lesbianfiddleford]

[yooo-lets-go]

what sort of music does simon listen to- and what are the others’ opinions on it when they inevitably discover it?

They probably wouldn’t share a playlist

Plus Roach:

[ditzybat]

one of those tiktok gotham university reporters approaching bernard on the way to one of his bio classes: thoughts on red robin?

bernard, mildly sleep deprived, and knowing full well what tim’s night life is like: smash [proceeds to walk away like nothing happened]

[asocketwrench]

it's all coming together

[batfamilycannons]

Bruce *storming in, burnt and covered in ash*: Where is your brother?

Damian and Tim: tf??

Tim: uh I think Jason’s in the library?

Bruce: no not him the other one

Dick, *scurries past the door*

Bruce: RICHARD JOHN GRAYSON why did you set my bed on fire

Dick: You deserve it!!

[cryptvokeeper]

I don’t go here f1 tumblr did I get this race right

[comicake]

glad to see that a lot of people were disappointed by the fact that Niko’s colourful lights were not her lesbian vibes but just some parasites

[zephyrchama]

Can't stop thinking about the brothers calling MC "master" since that new teaser trailer came out. The game is called "One Master to Rule Them All." It's always been called that. This massive potential has been right in front of our eyes the whole time.

Lucifer, who only uses it in private when he's feeling particularly devilish. He wraps his arms around you, looks you right in the eye, and asks, "how does my master feel today, hmm?"

Mammon, who has an empty wallet and the urge to gamble: "Maaaster! Can I borrow some cash? I can, right? I'm your first, after all. I'll just take it from your wallet."

Leviathan, who wants to go to an anime collab cafe but is too anxious to go alone, so he begs you: "Please! Master! It's only open this week and I just have to collect all 24 limited edition cafe coasters! It'll be easier if we go together!"

Satan, who catches you when you stumble and jokingly asks, "are you okay, master?" He likes seeing the little sparks of wrath in your eyes that mirror his own.

Asmodeus, who thinks the word is hot and enjoys your reaction when he comes to steal you away from other people by saying "hey! I need to speak with my master. I'll be borrowing them for a while. I'm sure you don't mind."

Beelzebub, who hungrily stares at the food in the fridge with your name on it. He knows he needs to butter you up to have any chance of success: "Hey master, are you gonna eat that?"

Belphegor, who uses it at the most unexpected times. He texts the group chat, "does anyone know where our master is? I can't find them." It sets off a long chain of messages. "Master's not in their bedroom?" "Master? Haven't seen 'em." "Did you try yelling 'master!' and seeing if they respond?" "I saw master getting something to drink about an hour ago." "Master, are you reading our messages? I know you are." "I can't believe master is ignoring us." Several crying emoji are sent in quick succession.

Solomon and Barbatos, who witness the brothers doing this on occasion. Solomon turns to the latter and says, "You never call me your master. Want to give it a try?"

Barbatos looks at him with barely repressed revulsion. "I only have one master, and that is the Young Master. If you ever make such a joke again I will have you tried in court for lese-majeste."

[notbrucewayne48]

"aphobia doesn't exist"

bitch literally not that long ago an aroace youtuber animator was insulted by almost half of its community for being it

[theaceofarrows]

[nat-20s]

One very slow news day when they're all bored as hell at work Lois is like. Okay. Fuck marry kill The Big Three. And Clark replies "oh easy fuck batman marry wonder woman kill Superman" and the entire office gets so mad at him like you KILL Superman our collective BEST FRIEND Superman????!?!?!?

[peofun1]

playing MTG with people who have been in the game for like 20 years is so insufferable sometimes

every turn they're like "I play Cock Goblin of Guzzleberg" and everyone else at the table nods and goes "ah yes of course, the Cock Goblin, classic" and doesn't explain.

so I'm like okay. what does that do. and they go "well it has a Guzzler effect" and I'm like okay great what the FUCK is a Guzzler Effect™

and then after like 10 minutes of trying to get them to explain, eventually I figure out that there was a card called Guzzler Greebling that was only printed ONCE in 1998, and its text was "when this creature ETBs, everyone at the table has to suck your dick" and this card got so popular in Standard at the time that now all effects that involve dick-sucking are called "Guzzlers" by the players

[loveexpelrevolt]

How about the winner get a kiss from the loser? Do you wanna end up in a coma? You can drain my energy any time, chère. Gambit has plenty.

GAMBIT & ROGUE | X-Men '97 1.03 "Fire Made Flesh"