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why do the worst people be having kids
#i feel like a lot of people geniuenly dont like children#but they keep popping them out!!#like....whats wrong with you??#i really hate yall and wish ur reproductive organs would stop working omg#sorry im watching this video and its making my so mad oml#and u know what makes this all worse#when the child acts out because theyre being abused#theres no accountability to be found#its only ever the kids fault#theyre just bad#has nothing to do with them at all#gifti3 rants#gif rants#ik theres a lot of social pressure and i hope it lessens with time#not having children is always an option#dont be tricked into something u dont want to do
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Hope you don't feel pressure to try to make Ear canon in any AU! I love cute kid OCs and seeing what characters could be like as parents as much as anyone else but I know some people can get overly insistent that artists give their characters kids as soon as the idea comes up. That being said I do have to admit what little you've shared about how they'd be as parents sounds very heartwarming. I'm a sucker for when someone is determined to make sure a kid has it better than they did when they were young like Machete would be, and how that can sometimes help to heal pains from their own childhood. Vasco would be wonderful too of course! He may have had a better childhood but I'm sure there are things he struggled with or wished could've been different. All fun ideas, but if Ear remains as just an idea that is absolutely okay!
Aw it's okay. A tiny bit pressured but in an encouraging/inspiring way, I don't think I'm going to lose sleep over it.
It would be really interesting to see how parenthood would alter their relationship and self-image, it could potentially expand their character into unexpected directions. Ear seems like a likable pup, they'd be a fun character to develope.
On the other hand I'm fond of their dynamic as is, I think they're happy that way. It's still typical that couples are expected to want to have children and start a family, it's seen as the norm and the next logical step after getting married. I like the idea of them feeling content and complete in their relationship even if it's just the two of them, and showing that the absence of offspring doesn't make their union any less valid and committed.
#it's not like I have to commit hard in any direction or make the choice right now#I'll think about it and see what feels right#as charming as the orphan theory is I don't think their original canon will involve children#it's just not a suitable time or place#it could potentially work in modern times if they adopted#I'm not feeling the surrogacy option I don't think#if I wanted to imagine them doing parenting exercises they'll always have nieces and nephews they could babysit on occasion#answered#anonymous#kid named ear
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So Sameth & Maximus were absentee dads huh
#snm#sam & max#sam and max#sameth & maximus#sam & max the devil's playhouse#sam and max the devil's playhouse#LOOK GUYS#it's mentioned during the game that they're always together & don't have any other affiliates (especially women)#& “people are starting to talk”#AND they die at the end of the ep#so it's not like they could have had any children afterwards. the children must exist#(unless they had some epic victory sex w/ someone between defeating papierwaite & visiting the mole family)#what other options are there. the children were already grown adults at this point in time?#i mean it's a game where they take a train from new york to egypt so obviously we're not supposed to think too hard about it#they even make a joke about it at the end of the ep#idk why I'm so stuck on this I'm sorry
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You could stay forever, if you wanted (Patreon)
#Doodles#Max Vyer#Dexter Favin#Helix#Coraline#I blame plushy brain lol#I initially wanted this to be a Max-centric Coraline AU but I realized pretty quickly that Max would just straight up get button eyes#Like it would be barely a question he would fall for it hook line and sinker#''The Beldam doesn't go after adults because children's problems and trust in parental figures'' wrong - Max Vyer#He already falls into his own world of dreams and make believe you Cannot look me in the eyes and tell me this man wouldn't get his soul#eaten in exchange for getting to actually experience his fantasies he's so dumb ;;<3#So I had to switch it to Dex because he'd actually be a challenge and the Beldam loves games lol#Okay but also imagine - Max getting duped and Dex coming to rescue him hwehh#Coraline AUs are endlessly fascinating to me because they always cut right to the core of ''This is what you want - right?''#It's that Want Vs. Need babey!!! Gah it's so good <3#Here's another question - you think the Beldam would assume the form of Madame Vyer? 'Cause yes the Matriarch role but#It's hard to argue that Dex and Max aren't the most important figures in each other's lives and her wit would kinda need to be in full focus#But it's Definitely incorrect to limit their relationship to being just guardian/paternal/filial/platonic to really any degree#Would get real awkward real fast - another reason I had to switch to Dex 'cause again he'd Resist just agh how creepy! It'd be really creepy#All that to one side for now tho lol - I really love the twist of the knife option personally ♪#Of ''I see what you want and I can give it to you exactly how it would be in your real old life - don't you want that?''#It's so invasive! So intrusive! The little doll scouting out the disappointments that could be so easily ''corrected'' hwagh#Dex finally getting actually called out for his coddling Max from Max ''himself'' and promised that he could keep doing it#That's where it hurts - to be told that you don't have to change but that this is the way reality would conform around your decisions#Ow <3 I love that#Is it everything you hoped it would be? Are you ready to give in yet? Hhhh ♥
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Part of me, deep deep down, wonders if we still may have a scene of MK on his knees versus his friends a la 4x07
#like maybe we WON'T. and that's totally fine#I did get ''You were locked in a corner- told to get on your knees and accept your fate! And you didn't!#You came back and chose to stand to meet your end! Together.'' Like at the very least *kisses kneeling/standing motif*#And it's like ''your friends will turn on you- seeing you for the monster you will become!'' like where did that fear come from. Wukong#Wukong & Macaque#And what are we MAYBE getting answers to next season. Wukong V Macaque#I just. *gestures* the chaos shit is so weird. the staff corruption is so weird#''When the chaos makes them who they are'' SO WEIRD#So like. Rn I feel like MK finally gets hey. You really don't have to do it alone! And it's okay it all leads to pain! Good job bestie#Like the option is it all leads to pain or there's nothing. Cool cool#But I do feel like. He needs to be okay with his role specifically? You know? Like the ''it's always my fault!'' aspect of it#''It definitely shouldn't be left up to me'' like. Well. It kinda was#This was YOUR choice#Idk man like. This is just gonna have consequences#like ''I saw my children couldn't survive the chaos'' We have lost the safety net of the cycle#We have lost the 10 kings. We've lost heaven (ish).#MK you quite literally chose your sentimentality for mortal pleasures over a lot. Over guaranteed survival#God part of me is like. U were so willing to kill yourself so you could finally make up for being you I know it#I fucking know it MK#Ur so rayla core#my god#U were like "I can finally make the world better than I found it by fucking killing myself'' like dude. dude no#this is such a weird amalgamation of getting better/worse MK like I love you#character of all time#And earlier in the season being like ''You're a beast. A monster'' and then calling nine a monster like. MK. whatever#was part of LBD's plan literally destroying chaos with the fire (''And everything beyond even that!'') like idk I'm losing it#lmk#lego monkie kid#lmk rant#lmk spoilers
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"he reaches out to protect the heroine..."
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"... and the two small children in her care"
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#romance novel blogging#lol there are so few authors that do children effectively for me#like... lorraine heath is one#very few others#it's getting to the point where i'm almost just not even trying kid books from my faves#bc there's a strong chance that i just won't enjoy it#even the IAD book with a kid is like my least favorite IAD book#what's funny is that technically the heroine i'm writing is a mom?#but to be fair she isn't one until p late in the book#and babies are easier to keep off-page#and i'm deliberately writing a heroine who LOVES her baby#but does not find motherhood easy or natural#and like takes advantage of the privilege of having nannies#and feels kinda bad about it but is overall like i am a loving mother but being a mom isn't my favorite role#bc idk i think that's important#especially when you're writing a historical wherein motherhood wasn't always something women could opt out of#and especially in this day and age#to have heroines who like do accept motherhood and do love their kids#but aren't like... 'oh this is my favorite thing in the world'#like she's a solid mom and she's a loving mom but would she be a mom TODAY? if she had options? who knows#anyway that's another thing i just really don't often have time for kids and parenting in romance
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ngl these "which eoran god is/isn't problematic" polls make me wanna rant about Magran but I don't have the braincells rn
edit: i did end up ranting in the tags whoopsie lmao
#hablaty#I love magran as a character and as an... imperfect to say the least goddess#but I will also blow a gasket if my fire godlike watcher won't ever get the option to drive a sword through her heart#bc holy shit do i also hate her#she too is a ''god of staying in your lane'' really she only ever steps in to intervene if some god or another starts shit#thing is tho: her followers aren't like her#a lot of folks of the violent murder hobo variety is drawn to her bc god of fire and war and whatnot#but if you read the codex entries on her she doesn't actually urge people to start wars#the doctrines are actually more along the lines of ''don't start shit take no shit'' or idk#don't go out of your way to start a conflict for no reason but be always ready for war basically#she pushes people to embrace their power and strive for bettering themselves through struggle#problem is that bc like i said she ghosts her followers a lot of her followers will just take these doctrines to justify their atrocities#she doesn't want eothasians gone bc she doesn't care enough about them to want that#she doesn't want animancers gone bc she supports animancy#but she won't stop her followers bc she doesn't interfere with kith unless she has to protect them from the other gods#but also on the flip side if she does step in she will stop at nothing to win#even if that means building god killing weapons and then having her priests off themselves deploying it#even if that means wiping out her own fire giant children in a volcanic eruption (whomst you can save btw pls save the rathunn they're nice#and even if that means eating the souls of her godlike children who#magran is incredible cruel and also very cool and I have very complex feelings on her and just aaaa
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I find antinatalism deeply cringe, not because I'm entirely unsympathetic to it but because it seems like the height of self righteousness (a state I am far from inexperienced with, tbf) to assume my opinion about having children is relevant to literally anyone who might have children
#also were anyone to ask ME “do you think i should have kids?” my only answer would be “that seems really hard.”#idk like im pro birth control & abortion obviously but i also like. figure kids just kinda happen and mostly have throughout most of history#and people have always had kids and figured out how to Deal#individual people should absolutely have the option to hard nope out of it but like#i dont think having kids when youre poor is immoral or anything and theres not a way to like. form an idea about Who Should Have Children#that doesnt dovetail real fucking hard into like reproductive oppression.#and idk i feel like answering that with Nobody Should Have Kids is just kind of a useless position#like that can be your opinion but its not like it. does anything.
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People's "get off the internet" advisory would be funny if it weren't sad.
#It was genuinely my only option as a child & I doubt most chronically online children can be reasoned with like that#so idk why people try. My bedroom was like a prison cell; there was Nothing#I wasn't allowed to have Anything#He flipped the fuck out if I had friends#I couldn't play outside#I couldn't even read books past a point because there were too many words and I was too concussed#And I had 0 support for help#Nobody SHOWED me how to spend my time#Many grand ideas about what I Should have been doing#But all the adults in my life were either distant or always online or watching TV#or going out without us so#Seeing people respond to anon children on Tumblr with shit like 'log off go outside and play with your friends'#feels like a gross misunderstanding of how a lot of too-young end up here#It's not random chance! They usually lack options!#I'm well aware my childhood was unusually bad but christ alive...#If you wanna give children advisory they'll actually take why not be fucking realistic about it?#Why tell them to do something they won't do and pat yourself on the back about it as if any would listen?
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i cannot believe im saying this but ive been thinking about my cousland and sten all morning and theyre making me insane
#oc: elspeth#tay plays dao#ive been debating whether or not elspeth recruits him for WEEKS now#but contextually her being a cousland AND an archetypal 'hero' chara doesnt rly slide w the whole killing children thing lol#but ive finally settled on her recruiting him regardless and it makes sense in my head both in yhe moment AND narratively which is 🤪#her whole arc is sort of abt her internal struggle irt being a warden (altruistic/heroic) which shes always wanted to be until she was one#vs being a noble (powerful/respected) which she never appreciated until she lost it#and feeling like both of them conflict with the other and thus feeling like shes not living up to either#she chooses to 'conscript' sten under the pretense of the warden redemption but a lot of it is her selfish noble streak#wanting to punish him for rendon howe's sins .....#idk if this makes sense to anybody but me but obvs it also opens up more moral dilemmas#like..... she gives sten mercy and she WANTS to give loghain mercy and resents alistair for denying her the option#but she would never allow the same mercy to be extended to howe. with good reason obviously but yeah ultimately shes a noble and#quite unknowingly selfish underneath all the posturing and righteousness. she gets over it especially a bit after reaffirming her loyalty#to the wardens..... but yeah. her idea of heroes comes from very sanitized bard songs and chantry tales#she def realizes she cant have her cake and eat it too and i think sten surprisingly is the best character i have to explore that with????#WHO'D HAVE THOUGHT ? NOT ME ❤#anyways if u read all this ur a legend and u may be entitled to financial compensation
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I love taituk they’re so funny. they’re simultaneously really cool and capable and. kind of a loser. wet cat of a woman (not actually a woman). a dykefag AND a fagdyke. they can’t tell when people are flirting with them and suaveness is Not in their vocabulary. everyone wants them and they’re involved with quite literally every crew member their age. their reaction to there being “men’s work” and “women’s work” is “I will simply do everything. all of the work.” they’re fine with the concept & reality of death but thinking about killing somebody with their own hands makes them physically ill. they will quite literally heal their enemies so they don’t die. they’re eldestsiblingcore but only see their siblings like. twice a year. they could be stabbed and bleeding out and their only reaction would be “ugh now my favourite jacket will be stained :/”. they don’t know what’s going on at any given moment. they’ve been permanently banned from the ship’s kitchen even though they’re the captain. by god they’re even transgender. they’ve even got long hair
#oc tag#elli rambles#oc rambles#the thing about killing might be subject to change but this is the vibe for now#taituk#the birates#the sibling thing is just. they had to leave their family behind both because of circumstances (drought. sickness. the only way to provide#for their family was to turn to crime and piracy was the best/safest option) and bc of their thirst for adventure. and though they know#they couldn’t (wouldn’t) have done anything differently their biggest regret in life if not being there to watch their siblings grow up#bc as lovely as being able to exchange letters and visit a few times a year is it just isn’t the same y’know :(#me choosing to give them siblings: how shall I hurt them this time#ok truth is that I chose to give them siblings bc I like them and so they couldn’t be an only child#esp bc there already are so many only children on the ship#which now I’m thinking about it oh god are there even any other eldest siblings in the crew#tetsuo maybe? sumiyati is an older sibling I think but not the Eldest probably. maybe tao? that would be Ouch#considering he can never visit or contact them as a fugitive from the ek#wait. I’ve always seen xuan as an only child considering his. Everything. but him being a stereotypical eldest brother like you see in films#(annoying. constantly blasting music at the loudest volume. vaguely alt. etc) would also fit actually#and would hurt considering his backstory (his family dies of an illness and he’s the only one who survives)#the way he’d feel sososo guilty…#anyway. this post was about taituk#conclusion: I LOVE THEM#my babygirl made of dualities <3
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I am thinking about the idea of an aged-up Sei so goddamn much right now. This post is a reminder to continue thinking about it.
#alright.#yttd spoilers#JUST PUTTING SOME NOTES IN THE TAGS. NOTHING MAJOR!!#the only way that this could happen would be if kai died instead or if gashu had the wherewithal to either send his children into hiding#or manage to run away from asu-naro entirely#And because i am GashuHead Supreme; the second option is way more appealing despite being much unrealistic to an important degree#Because . Sei's death cements him as What He Is Today- what would happen if he never reached that point?#in the mini-episode; gashu still has some SEMBLANCE of a heart. would he have been able to keep it if he ran away?#but the thing is... he couldn't!! he couldn't run away!!! but it would be just the same to him to send his children away because his job#WAS to raise those children#and he was worthless beyond what he could provide ‚ which was‚ at this moment and for an incomprehensible value: these assassins#and so. god. it'd be ego death!!! it'd be an essential death for the whole family but for what REBIRTH would it be?!?!?!?#they would have to move out of the country‚ probably!!#But. Would it be worth it.#real sorta self v. job logic v. emotion decision for a hypothetical au here#just so i can make an older sei design#but that's how it always is for GASHU HEAD SUPREME!!!#sigh.
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Some of yall really don't know what it means to be working class in some countries. Yes maybe we can afford little "luxuries" from time to time but that doesn't make people rich or capable to completely boycott the low costs companies.
#what is middle class does it exist and working class is all poor or just can't afford certain stuff? it's more complicated now than ever#and yet yes labour should be payed right it isn't and life costs a shitton of money and people are like i rather buy this than eat bc yolo#who are you to judge tho? ik it's a vicious circle but it's also quite classist to think that we should boycott shein or McDonald's bc#they're evil but cheap and we want to pay according to what we get. do u think speculation isn't a thing even w ethical stuff#omg people don't want to pay 400 euros for vegan jeans or 8900 dollars for a painting they want free ai art shame shame#maybe people want things they can't afford and should just settle yk i can't afford a Ferrari oh well and then comes china w a fake ferrari#that costs 3 dollars and ur like mmmh and the ferrari was built by children and maybe ur evil or maybe laws can step in#and create an option in the middle#it's not always poor people greed or fomo fault if they want to have something more at a lower price#do u really think that everything expensive that says it's fair and good really is? based on what#a.i. is so hated but it's trained on what's popular in what humans value and artists are so pretentious so who's really evil#usians wouldnt understand yall pay everything will to pay demand to pay more..u dont even get the concept of bargain and that sets the tone
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I am Mohammed Almanasra, 32 years old, married, and a father of three children: Abdulrahman, 6 years old, Sarah, 4 years old, and Lina, 3 years old.
My story began with the loss of my parents and four of my sisters, who were bombed and lost their lives along with their children after the events of October 7 and the severe war on Gaza. Now, I am facing a severe injury to my leg, which is at risk of amputation if I do not receive the necessary treatment. My wife, children, and I are displaced, without parents or siblings, and my wife is also suffering from uterine cancer.
Recently, I moved to the south of the Gaza Strip, fearing for the lives of my children. We left behind our memories and our new home, for which we had not finished paying the installments, in addition to losing my job. Currently, I live in a tent that does not protect me from the heat of summer or the cold of winter, and without the minimum necessary livinng basics including water, food medical care, clothe and even bedding .
I suffer from a chronic asthma and severe attacks from tightness and an extreme allergy in the ear and I need medicine that are not available, or very expensive .
Under these difficult circumstances, after five attempts at displacement and narrowly escaping death from the bombing, I am trying with all my might to protect my family, the most precious thing I have.
My dreams were shattered, and my house was destroyed, and I found myself living in a tent no larger than 4 square metres. My work turned from a tailor to a street vendor in order to barely buy a few crumbs of bread to feed my children.
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sometimes i really wish that the people in court were fictional characters, so i could laugh at their unhinged goofy nonsense instead of just feeling depressed for the innocent people putting up with them
#taz talks#family law is really something#i’ve been here two months and i have STORIES about some unhinged weirdos who have shown up to plead their cases#but it’s hard to find them funny even when they’re objectively funny because it’s just so sad to think abt the consequences#yeah the dude ranting and raving sounds silly but there are real children having to live with this#and so many of these people need help that they don’t know or can’t afford to get#and being pro se is almost always a terrible idea but so many people don’t have a better option#it’s a crash course in the worst ways humans treat each other when they think they’re about to lose everything#and a crash course in the weirdest and most intense people in the county#reasonable healthy people do not end up in front of a judge for custody and divorce stuff#reasonable healthy people talk their shit out and sign a PSA and go home#so circuit court family law hearings self select for the people who aren’t smart stable mature sober or rational enough to figure it out#i really admire the attorneys we see at these hearings. they put up with SO MUCH#the first famlaw hearing i attended involved a pro se litigant literally pointing fingers and shouting at OC while calling her rude names#and that attorney kept a straight poker face and weathered the whole storm and played it off like she didn’t give a single fuck#and that is how i aspire to be tbh#i doubt ill ever manage it but it’s really impressive and admirable#anyone who can sit still without flinching through that kind of thing has nerves of steel and deserves an award
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Working in the yarn shop on Sundays, I have a group of regulars who come in specifically then for my advice on their knitting projects and over the years I've gotten to know a lot about them - their ailments and their spouses and their children and their careers and their mothers are all things they find themselves telling me about over the course of trying to bring forth a knitted piece. Most of them are women, most of them are over 50, and most of them have been through a lot and are trying to reclaim something for themselves through the act of creation. A while back, one of these older women opened up to me about how when she first came to this country it was just her and her daughter and they were so happy until her husband joined them, when he promptly began making her miserable. Now, decades later, all her children live far away, she spends all her time taking the husband to dialysis, her sciatic is bad and she may need heart surgery (who will take care of her, I find myself wondering), and she comes to see me once a month or so to talk about a new project and tells me it is the only thing she does for herself.
Today she came in with a smile on her face and delightedly introduced me to her son, who will soon move closer to home with his family. Then she says, as if commenting on the weather, that on Friday her husband died, and tomorrow they will hold the funeral. For a second I had tonal whiplash from the conversation and then I realized, oh, you're unburdened now. Like the relief in her face and her body were palpable. The son shows a picture of a cardigan to me and asks if it can be knitted, and we pick out yarn and a pattern. She's so excited to make it for him. She beams when she looks at him; he is tall and handsome and polite, and wants to wear something she made for him. She is proud of this man she raised.
It just made me think of the many, many women who come from cultures where leaving a crappy spouse isn't an option so they shuttle along doing their best and trying to find some beauty and joy in whatever way they can. Kids may not visit often because their spouse isn't welcoming or there is bad blood, so they are lonely. I remind her, we have our social group. She hasn't come to it much before because she is always taking him to dialysis, but now she says she will come often and meet the other women. Many of them are like her, but in the craft they find companionship that has been absent for so much of their lives. I hope there will be renewal for this dear lady and that she can learn more about herself and what brings her joy.
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