#new me

[selfhealingmoments]

[superkursunaskr]

New me

[prettieinpink]

NEW YEAR, NEW ME

( A collab with thee lovely lele @bloombabydoll )

If you want to reinvent and rebrand yourself, or just continue to make positive improvements in 2024, the first thing is to evaluate your current year. 

EVALUATION

Reflect on how things went for you. Was there continuous growth? Were there many difficult times? Did you discover anything major about yourself and so on. Try to summarise your year in (a) paragraph(s) at least. 

Oversee your goals. Which ones you didn’t, did achieve, difficult ones, easy ones and the impacts it had on your life. 

Compare your dream girl then and now. Is your visualisation of your life currently different to the one you have now and why? 

List any major losses or successes you’ve had in your life, and how they have helped you or why it matters to you. 

This evaluation can be as detailed or simple as you like, but as long as you have a decent outline of your year. 

PREPARING & PLANNING

To prepare for 2024, you want to know what you want life to be like in 2024. Something realistic to a point, but still is a growth journey. 

Think of something that you can associate with 2024. This can be a word, a symbol, art, a song, a book, a movie, a place, or even just all of these things. When you think about your goals and your journey, this is your theme. This is something that should relate to your goals or your dream girl somehow. 

For me, I chose a word and a song. My word is growth because, for me, 2023 was a year for just being able to shed my old self which I did achieve however I just felt there wasn’t much growth as an actual person and not just in my environment. 

For my song, it is Mayflowers by Proleters and Taskrok. This song is the epitome of what I would imagine, is the most polished mindset. I would say perfect, but having a perfect mindset is near impossible. I want to have a mindset glow up because I’ve just been hard on myself lately which has caused my confidence to plummet. 

Before we get into the fun part of the preparation stage, we have to do some organisation in our life. I want you to take a look at your daily lifestyle and your habits, and be completely unashamed about this. 

Then categorise these habits into two sections; Leave and Leap. Leave habits are habits that you are leaving behind in 2023, leap habits are habits that are leaping into 2024 with you. 

Any habits that are self-destructive, addictive or generally harmful are leave habits. Beneficial habits and self-building are leaping with you into the new year.

I want you to do the same for people in your life, all environments (school, work, online etc) and anything else you believe needs to be sorted out. 

This works better if you can reason with yourself why it is a leaping or leaving habit, but don’t try to convince yourself a bad habit is good or vice versa. 

Now, I want you to document an honest paragraph about who you are right now. List your bad and good habits, your strengths and weaknesses and your behaviours. This one requires a bit more detail. 

Then, write a paragraph about who you will be in 2024, your dream girl. List her habits, lifestyle, behaviours, mindset, strengths and anything else extra. I’ll explain later but do not include materialistic desires in this your dream girl. Once again, this one also requires details. 

Stemming from those paragraphs, I want you to create specific and achievable goals. SMART goals are best, but I want to introduce you to how I set goals. 

I divide my year into quarters. For each 3 months, I have 3-5 goals for those months. Usually, it’s one from each area of my life. Then, I break down these goals. 

Questions and How They Help 

Why do I want to do this goal - For motivation and commitment. 

How it’ll benefit me - For the sake of improvement. 

How can I involve myself in this goal - To achieve your goal.  

I prefer this method because it is a lot simpler for me, as I am just a young girl and my bigger goals are more in the future in which I’ll utilise SMART goals. 

To create good goals; Make sure they align with your current values and life principles first. Try to avoid creating goals that you have just taken from the internet. Those goals just aren’t it and you most likely won’t follow through with it. 

Be specific. Don’t say you want to eat more healthily, instead say you want to include (a certain group of veggies/fruits) in your diet and reduce the intake of ( food/drink). 

E.g using eating healthy example

I want to eat healthy -> I want to start including foods that boost my immunity system and support my skin while reducing those that have the opposite effect. 

Then break down those quarterly goals into monthly, weekly and daily goals. Make these habits that you can establish in your lifestyle and have a way in which you can refer back to your progress. 

EXAMPLE GOAL BREAKDOWN

Quarterly Goal - Read 6 books.  

Monthly Goal - Finish 2 books.

Weekly Goal - Be or near half way of one book.

Daily Goal - 20 minutes of reading per day. 

AREAS TO SET GOALS IN YOUR LIFE

Academics

Spiritual

Fitness/sport

Health and wellbeing

Mental health

Personal life

Relationships

Hobbies and recreation

Now for the best part- vision boards! Collect all of your favourite images that embody your quarters or the whole year, then put them in one place where you can see them regularly!

Some ideas are a scrapbook, Pinterest boards, mood boards, playlists etc. 

Choose your theme; It can be your healthy girl era, your academic come back or whatever you want. You can have more than two btw.

Use quotes! Then actually say them in your daily life as a way to shift your mindset to reflect said quote.

Include inspirational people. It doesn't even have to be a millionaire or a very well established person, it could be your friends or someone on the internet.

Be imaginative. Your vision board doesn't have to realistic in my opinion, as the whole point of it to me is that viewing it daily and considering it to be part of your life one day allows for you to open up to those opportunities.

Materialistic Wants

I feel obligated to make this a separate section. This section is practically tangible objects that you want.

However, when choosing this said object that you want, mindfully think about why you want that thing specifically.

It doesn’t have to be meaningful, but as long as each thing on that list has got a purpose to you, and will serve you, I think it’s all good!

Conclusion

If you want, you can definitely start implementing habits before January. However, I believe that as long as you go into 2024 at least knowing who you want to be and shedding away any limiting beliefs, you’ll be fine.

Make sure to incorporate some self care rituals into your daily life as well✨

To end this, I hope everyone has a very merry Christmas! And that 2024 they will achieve to close that gap with their current selves and their dream girl selves! 💖🙏

[lizaisdrawing]

MY NEW OBSESSION 🗣️

Can’t get enough of them 💚💫

[ditzyblues]

happy capril new years ･:*+.\(( °ω° ))/.:+ 🎇🎆

[chrissy-kaos]

I gots my new glasses in today! I freaking love them! 🤓🥰

[poleriri]

[nyxisart]

I took my first estrogen pill on Jan 1st 2020 (hence the fireworks), so now I can tell how long I've been on HRT exactly to the day

[library-of-lifee]

Ins and outs 2025

Ins ･❪ 🎕 ❫ ･

Supportive people

Creating your own style

Not typecasting yourself

Stretching

Supplementation

Reading

Regular study

Gratitude

Affirmation

Self-confidence

Taking care of one's own sensitivity

Out ･❪ 🎕 ❫ ･

Excessive complaining

Toxic people

Being concerned about people's opinions

Low self-esteem

Making nights for boys

Overconsupcionism

Procrastination

Tiktok

Dating apps

Not falling in love with potential

[copperbadge]

As I think most people do, I look at the year's end as a time for taking stock and evaluating life. I'm sure my ancestors, with the same rampant ADHD that I have, who regularly spent winters cooped up with their entire social network, were rethinking their life choices round about this time every year. I'm sure their loved ones deserve an honorable mention for allowing them to live long enough to eventually produce me. But the point is, I get the idea of using the quiet time between harvest and sowing to really contemplate life.

I don't make New Year's resolutions anymore, though. I was never that into them but the last one I made was to see more live shows and lectures, really get out in the world and experience in-person culture more. That was December of 2019. Seems like tempting fate to ever make another resolution after my last one was legally thwarted by a global pandemic.

These days I prefer to pick themes for years, guided by happenstance. A few years ago when I knew I could afford some home remodeling, I called it the Year of Upgrade. 2022 was the year of Completing Things. (Ironically "completing" the first shivadh novel led to a BUNCH OF STUFF MORE TO COMPLETE.) 2023 didn't really have a theme but I was dealing with a lot so the breathing room was kind of welcome.

This year it's been oddly less abstract but also more symbolic. I've been seeing a lot of mushroom imagery towards the end of the year and a TON of fire imagery -- perhaps more "heat/light" than fire, lots of candle/cookfire/forge stuff, but basically open flames as they involve creative transformation. I joked it was a year of flaming fungi to a friend and she said, "well, fire can't kill them in a way that matters either" which struck me.

I think 2024 may involve being very durable in the process of changing. Worrying, but then again are we not always on some level worried about my fragile mortal husk? I definitely am. I took some powerful (legal, medically supervised) relaxants the other day and I think I sprained a muscle in my calf from moving my leg after just...not being tense for an hour. I hurt myself by relaxing.

I know eyelids aren't supposed to twitch like this, I'm taking potassium about it, it's fine.

I did just get a clean bill of health, though. Blood tests show I'm super normal except in ways we already knew I was weird (personality, skin ph, etc).

I like to think of it as spiritual durability, anyway. Physically I'm the manifestation of a hapless gesture, but emotionally I'm a mushroom on fire, yelling encouraging threats as I speed past. Where am I going? Mind your business. Why am I screaming encouraging threats? I'm a mushroom on fire. Why, is it not working?

Anyway, happy new year. Mind how you go, my fellow flaming porcini. I'm off to cook a pot roast, tell some fortunes, and berate some ghosts.

[selfhealingmoments]

[melty-artz]

Courage, dear heart.

[prettieinpink]

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!! GOODBYE 2024, WELCOME 2025!

As a christian, I see NY as a time to spread joy, hope and love as our saviour gave us. Another year that God has so graciously graced us with. So, I thought, why not give a few of my favourite girlbloggers some love ᡣ𐭩ྀིྀི

@honeytonedhottie - I love her so much like, she gives great tips and is an even greater person. Her authenticity is what really stands out to me, and its inspirational to me and many others. I hope everything that you wish for in 2025 comes true, and is so much more better than you ever could've imagined.

@mymelodymia - one of my most biggest supporters oh my gosh!! She would frequently check up on me and interact. Thank you so much for your overwhelming love, and I hope the love that you give to others is multiplied back to you 10x in 2025 :D

@missdollcouture - another one of my faves :D gives great tips and is a really great friend of mine! I wish 2025 is the year in which you become the better version of your best self 😚

@4theitgirls - if you need someone for inspiration.. this is your girl. All of her posts are always so inspirational to me, and i'm sure many other people are just as motivated as me when they see you on their feeds. In 2025, I hope you excel in everything that you do :))

@girljournal - I LOVE her posts. She makes cute little reminders every week, month and year that are great to screenshot and put on your visionboard- or just to reblog! you spread so much positivity on everyone's dash, so thank you for that. I hope all the positiviy that you put into others, comes back to you 20x!

@elicathebunny - unsure if you're still on hiatus, but regardless! It was so rewarding and motivating to see you grow SO MUCH in such little time. I absolutely loved seeing the evolution of your blog (@angelacademy) into something so great :) I hope in 2025, you grow to much greater heights!

@agirlwithglam @girlbloggen @lovelylau @huellitaa @joeymichaela @luvvlivia @coco-oats @bunnysdollette @bloomzone @navyhealthyglow @thefemigirl @glowettee @elprincess @sugarsprinklesoul @maespo @pinkwishlist @st4rg1rlz-m00n and to the rest of my mutuals, just know I love seeing each and every single one of you on my dash. I love seeing your wins in life, tips and advice, and anything that you share, I love!! Each and every one of your posts help everyone us evolve into a better person, and i'm sure the whole community is equally grateful and proud of you. I hope 2025 is the year in which all of you achieve personal growth, explore new opportunities, and make meaningful memories while striving to be ambitious.

and lastly, to my followers. Thank you for supporting me and this blog for so long. I appreciate every single like and reglog that I get, and i'm so grateful that I have the opportunity to help you guys, even if its just by a little bit. I know 2024 was a rough year for a lot of us, so I hope this year, we all continue to grow, learn and become better than we've ever imagined. Once again, I appreciate your support a lot, every single note or reply, or an ask that says how much they love my blog or how much I've helped them, gives me real, genuine joy.

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[a-titty-ninja]

「YOASOBI - New me」