#my therapist taught me this

[ghostly-rantings]

it's also seriously important that you not only feel proud of yourself, but to celebrate those wins too. you can celebrate any way you want to, go to the movies, see some friends, make that fancy tea you save for special occasions. doesn't matter what you do, just celebrate your wins. all of them.

our brains are wired to focus on negative experiences to ensure our survival in the wild, this isn't really needed anymore in modern society but evolution is slow & cant keep up with human innovation. this means that we have to work to rewire our brains to remember the good things, to take pride in them, to stay proud of them later on. so the more you diminish your accomplishments (i.e: i only cleaned some of my room, my essay isnt very well written, etc) the less you focus on the positive things you Did Do (i.e: you cleaned!!!! you wrote an essay!!!!, etc) which will negatively impact your self-esteem and mental health overall. so please, go celebrate all those small wins you get, they are so so important

be proud of all of your small victories. you only snoozed your alarm twice today instead seven times. you changed out of pyjamas and into actual clothes. you found a new song that makes you want to dance. you smiled at a stranger and they smiled back. life doesn’t have to be all about getting first place every time or always being the best. a win is still a win, no matter how small.

[heuffopla]

Took me very long in life to realize that when an article about anxiety or whatever says "listening to relaxing music helps :)" it means music that's relaxing to YOU. Not just the usual slow and calm and soft relaxation music. This whole time I was wondering why listening to those didn't do anything, it's because they're not what I personally find relaxing!!

Turns out, if your favorite musician screaming moaning and crying in your ears is what you find relaxing, that's what you should listen to when panicking.

[aintgonnatakethis]

whenever i see the view of 'always be 100% honest with the medical professionals providing you with healthcare' i just... how much privilege do you have to have to not see the pitfalls with that statement?

i understand 'always tell first responders what drugs you've taken'. but when it comes down to trans healthcare or people who're disabled or have "scary" mental health conditions. do you really think being honest the entire time is safe?

[scrawlingwithstyle]

so my anxiety is still way over my tolerable limit, and I don't know how to turn it off. I've tried talking it away, I've tried distracting myself, and I've tried dissociating (via escapism/reading/writing), but nothing is working. I'm going to wean myself from my ADHD meds to help (I'm trying to cut stimulants out until I can get a handle on this).

In the meantime, does anyone have any healthy coping mechanisms they can suggest?

[yuri-for-businesswomen]

i need to consume something or my thoughts consume me

[paintedplum7]

A comic about mortality and befriending a death God

[e8luhs]

being traumatized is crazy. ive been living in the same metaphorical home in my mind for the past 22 years and i am finally moving out and now that im moving out im looking at that old home in my mind and im going "oh my god the floorboards are rotting out there are leaks everywhere the ceiling is caving in theres black mold theres roaches in the walls how did i live like this for so long and not realize something was direly direly wrong" but it is because that house was all i have known. the maladaptive coping mechanisms and the incredibly fucked up rewiring of my brain is all ive known for 22 years and im only just now realizing how deep it goes

[sluttish-armchair]

Ok but thinking back to how I was in elementary and middle school: I had such disdain for other kids who broke the rules, that I irrationally hated a whole bunch of kids — kids I would have made good friends with — all because I couldn’t stand the fact that they engaged in conflicts with, and affronts to authority figures or standards.

It even went as far as internally mocking a kid my age — calling him “Mama’s Boy” in my head — over the fact that his mother whispered comments into his ear, which he mumbled unintelligibly into the mic, and then would fall asleep as if dead on her arm. I perceived his inability to give comments on his own, and his sleeping, as moral failings of both mother and child; because I wasn’t raised like that. And maybe, those feelings also came from jealousy. I was expected to fight off sleep all the time because I could read at a college level in third grade, and could theoretically understand the material presented at the meetings despite it still being inappropriate for my age group.

I was so far deep into the “bad associations spoil useful habits” mindset that it made me hate my fellow neurodivergents — kids I would have been friends with — who maybe couldn’t hide it as well as I could. That is beyond fucked up. Now, I work with those very kids I disliked so much as a child, and guess what? They are my absolute favorite people to be around; and many of them remind me of myself.

[thirdmagic]

a reminder to sober me when she returns: you didnt do anything wrong, you're fine, the worst you've done is be very earnest and occasionally raising your voice out of excitement without realizing it bc you're drunk, don't be embarrassed or ashamed, being drunk and over-enthusiastic isnt a moral failing, you're fine

[starlooove]

“They need to drop a show about the toxic sketches” y’all couldnt handle that rose quartz wasnt a good person

[scarefox]

me throwing once more hints in my daily text report, that I might have ADD or autism because my thoughts are sometimes all over the place, and my social anxiety disorder partly coms from me having issues to talk & think properly when my emotions go rampage inside me in whatever direction. Also sunday depression hit me again.

therapist: is it that the secrets you keep from others take so much energy from you that you can't enjoy life fully?

me, tired of them being stuck on my 'secrets I keep from society': (for fucks sake) my secrets are "just" that I am a major asia nerd, do pole dance (as sport), am queer and mentally ill + now my financial issues. Those are all valid things to not tell everyone right away at the first meetings... My other social fears & problems I literally have since preschool.

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Man, I regret that I was open / honest in the very first talk in the clinic because they built an image just on that and are stuck on it now. I dropped that one of my issues with other people / my fears is that people could react discriminating, make fun of me or my interests, have prejudices I would have to clarify every time. Things that happened and still happen. And most of the time I don't want to explain and justify myself and my interests to random people. But all they tell me now is that I am the one who rejects the others and I am judging them actually (me being afraid of others reactions is me assuming they are bad people.... which i don't even do I am just cautious till I know them better)

Oh and I also don't tell them about "my online save space" anymore too. Because nothing in here is real it's a fantasy world that has nothing to do with the real world 🙄 I mean yes if we talk about instagram, but tumblr is a save bubble for nerds, neurodivergent and queers. But they don't get that.

[hereticsgravesite]

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[treasurehuntbuck]

anytime i see a take that starts with 'eddie NEEDS to go back to therapy for s8' my kneejerk reaction is ew. and that's on eddiebuddieblr brainwashing ❤️

[bloodheartz]

“I wonder why my hallucinations and paranoia are getting worse” I say while sitting in the middle of a high stress environment

[gxlden-angels]

Christians will see a group of stressed college students and ask if anyone else is gonna make their stress worse and not wait for an answer

[barkingangelbaby]

venting so much i ran out of tags lmao