#most of these are femme in styling btw

[wri0thesley]

having a robe and lingerie and sleepwear moment, here is what i think the genshin men would like on you:

(cw: not sfw, most of these link to pictures on irl models if you're uncomfortable with that, they're also for a more femme-presenting reader and as many as i could find are on plus models bc what is my blog for if not self-indulgence!!!)

as much as diluc loves you in his colours - and he does, for you're stunning in red - in the end, he falls over himself for you in soft pastels and whites with frills and lace and fluff and ruffles, that he can slowly prise his fingers beneath and admire the sight of you in. anything that might be read as 'bridal' has his heart beating too fast in his chest and his breath coming in hungry little pants.

alhaitham doesn't mind a little fanciness - a nice lace trim, for instance - but he's also logical and rational at heart, and if he has to fumble too often with too many complicated little fastenings, it is going to eat into the time he can spend doing what he really wants to do - which is, of course, make you feel so good that you cry out his name and kaveh gets a taste of his own medicines. he does love you in his colours, though - something about seeing you in that deep green he outfits himself in . . . it's hard to not want to run his hands all over you.

dottore likes restraints and leather and anything shiny; he loves harnesses and buckles and anything that reminds him that, at heart, you are a little mouse trapped by him (even if that entrapment is by choice). he appreciates an element of fetish; he wants you to remember that he's in charge. one of the most likely to have you in a corset and enjoy watching you learn to acclimatise; this particular set has buckles and fishnets, so . . . yes, that leaves him a happy man.

pantalone is a man of luxury. he wants his beloved in things made only of the finest - something elegant and lovely that makes him feel glad to come home to you and find you at the end of the bed with your lashes fluttering prettily. he likes classic colours and fabrics like silk and feathers; there is something of the classic hollywood in his preferences. and, naturally, he loves seeing you keep as much of it on as possible when he takes you.

ayato is yet another man who likes elegance; he thinks you ought to always have the proper underpinnings to any outfit you wear, and he gets great delight from both helping you dress and helping you undress, clipping stockings and artfully arranging things . . . and knowing that beneath the demure outfit you wear to the yashiro commission's latest elegant function, you're sinfully lovely. fine embroidery and lovely lace also greatly appeal to him; like on this lovely satin and roses piece.

childe likes anything he can rip off of you - and, unfortunately, he thinks his strength means he can indeed rip anything off of you. his favourite colour to see his beloved in is red; there's something of the 'red to a bull' in him, and when he sees it on you . . . oh, it's on. he likes things that are tight to your body and show off everything; he's not big on lace and frilly bits, he just wants to bite into you and take you for his own instead of playing around. there's something about a set like this - quarter cups, cut-outs - that has him going wild on how much flesh is on display.

venti likes something a little playful; he doesn't mind if you're wearing things hard to take off, that's half of the fun for him! he adores ruffles and floaty bits and pieces that he can toy with using the wind - and, naturally, he adores feathers. they feel so light and airy! so a set like this has him drooling onto the floor. there's so much potential there!

dainsleif, much like diluc, likes the reminder that you are a sweet lovely thing. the choice of pale colours and ribbons and lace do occasionally remind him that he feels like he is profaning something holy . . . but when you strip off your clothes and flutter your eyelashes and ask him to take you, please, it's not such a bad thing to be imagining. how could something sinful feel as good as you feel around him?

kaveh adores drama. he loves pieces with long trains, with feathers, with beautiful fabrics that drape over you lusciously so he can admire the way that it heightens your curve or sweeps elegantly across the floor. so it's entirely likely that he has a terribly sheer robe with mounds and mounds of feathery fluff (all the more likely because he knows it will shed feathers and that will drive alhaitham out of his mind - this pettiness is worth the fact that kaveh will be the one cleaning the feathers up) - but most of all, he likes your body and form underneath it. with nothing else on it at all.

after all; what inspires him most than your body in its purest and most natural form?

[natsmagi]

my 2wink femstars hcs btw!!!!!!!! since i finally got around to drawing hinata i thought i should finally sketch it out!!

i want their original hairstyles to basically be a side ponytail on opposite sides, and i wasnt entirely sure on if i should go with the hairclips side or not, as it would feel very packed to have everything be on one side and just. feel incomplete. But i thought Hey. that might actually be optimal. as they will now look incomplete if not standing next to each other

and for their new era yuutas hairstyle is basically just the one he canonically has, but for hinata i decided she gets to have both the ponytails now.... i thought this would be cute bc yay! new hairstyle for hina too! But at the same time it can be viewed as her kinda. being stuck with what made 2wink 2wink initially by herself. Picking up what yuuta put down yanno. yet another instance of clinging to the past and not doing anything really "new"

another thing is i want hinata to be a more femme girlie and yuuta to be a tomboy. i think yuuta would wear beanies and hoodies and baggy jeans while hinata will indulge in the occasional summer dresses if shes feeling bold. But for the most part their fashion sense remains the street-wear style we see their canon counterparts wear, the aforementioned is just what they personally would like to wear when given the freedom

[manicpixiedckgirl]

if you're a perfectionist, and you're trans -

and not the kind of perfectionist they show on TV where you just spend an outrageously long time getting every detail right, enjoying yourself the whole time, but the kind of perfectionist where you practice something over and over and over again before ever doing it in front of other people because you'd rather die than be seen failing -

you're going to need to learn how to be very patient and very kind with yourself during transition, especially the early years. Like any puberty, there are going to be awkward periods - that's unavoidable. youll have too much hair where you dont want it, too little where you do. you'll need to learn your new voice, whether it's dropping on it's own or you're trying to raise it. you'll walk different, stand different, because your body is going to be different. your wardrobe is going shrink and grow and shrink again and then explode.

you need to be okay with growing as a person, over time. with changing your style, changing your mannerisms, changing your habits - and with things not working. you don't know how to do this, not yet, and you're going get it wrong sometimes. that's okay. nobody knows what to do, ever. there's going to be so much happiness when you do get something right. and you're going learn so many new skills, discover new hobbies, new fashions, new artforms. you'll figure it all out eventually, to the point where you wake up and it's not hard anymore.

but you're going to have to try these things around other people a lot of the time, to exist in the world with any sort of life (which is the point btw. go out. make a friend. touch grass), but also, to know if they're working, and if you even really like doing them at all. maybe you're not as femme or masc as you thought you were - maybe it's just too much work to do that everyday. you'll have fashion years, and rotting years - you'll probably settle somewhere in between. but you'll go through phases, and you'll think your old ones were cringe, just like you did before - transition isn't going to fix that. your inner critic will start to shut up when you start be nice to yourself, HRT won't do that for you.

but the people in your life, the ones who matter, will love and respect you regardless. they just want to see you smile, see you happy. they think you're fine as you are, and want to know who you'll be tomorrow. it's not actually a competition, and no one's watching anyway. they're too busy with their own shit to notice most of the time.

and by being kinder to yourself, you might even end up as a slightly less tightly wound ball of anxiety. idk if you'll ever drop the constant self-judgement, i haven't gotten that far yet. but you'll learn to take your flowers, every once in a while - let your girlfriend call you pretty and stop arguing with her - hear a friend say thank you, and say 'anytime' instead of 'no problem', because you want them to know that you'll help whenever they need it, not just when it's no effort. anyway. maybe this is just a note to myself. goodbye. i love you. good luck, you got this

[boringkate]

That Girl was a sitcom that aired from 1966 to 1971 and followed an unmarried woman moving to New York to live alone and pursue her own career (as an actress) (uncommon stuff for tv shows at the time). Every episode began with someone saying the words "That Girl" and then the camera would zoom in on her or a photo of her. I watched it all a few years ago and I still think about it, so now you all have to put up with me telling you about some of the episodes that stood out the most to me.

S01E01 "Don't Just Do Something, Stand There"

A fun introduction to Ann and her new boyfriend Don. It also establishes here in this first episode that That Girl just keeps getting sexually harassed. And not in a "wow it's wild that old timey romcoms acted like behaviour like this was charming" type of way. Dudes are just creeps and she's straight up having a bad time. This will happen in more episodes than I can remember or touch on here.

S02E22 "He and She and He"

Ann (after being told by them that she has to choose between them) dreams about marrying both of the boys who love her. Simultaneously. And their throuple works amazingly. Everyone is happy. It's utopian. Untill the rain starts. Noah (the bible guy with the ark) shows up at her door to reaffirm that she has to choose. He's played by the same actor who plays her father (a conservative old guy and constant source of generation gap based conflict).

S02E24 "Great Guy"

Ann's gal pal Pete (bit of a boy name) (played by Ruth Buzzi who was a regular on Rowan & Martin's Laugh-In and is BTW a bit of a brick) gets her first boyfriend! He's a rough and tumble guy tho and he's always boxing and jogging with Pete instead of treating her like a lady. He even repeatedly calls Pete a "great guy" (he says Ann is more of a "girl girl" and a "pussycat"). Ann (thinking there's a problem) tries to meddle and gives Pete a femme makeover, but it was totally unnecessary and unwanted. They're happy together the way that they are. The episode ends with him saying "you meet a lot of pussycats, but it's only once in your life that you meet a great guy!"

S02E25 "The Detective Story"

Ann is scared because she keeps getting obscene phone calls from an unknown man (presumably threatening to rape her). It is not a misunderstanding. I swear this is an upbeat and breezy sitcom series.

S03E08 "A Muggy Day in Central Park"

It's a crossdressing episode. The cops are crossdressing. Her boyfriend Don is crossdressing (and I think I remember her dad catching Don crossdressing). All to catch some thieves in central park. They show a clip from it (as a flashback) in the series finale too.

S05E03 "I Ain't Got No Body"

A Playboy style porno mag features Ann's face edited onto another woman's body (she never agreed to her photo being used in this way). A precursor to the celebrity photoshops that were themselves precursors to modern deepfakes. Her conservative father sees it at his barbershop (because apparently barbershops stocked porno mags back then).

S05E24 "The Elevated Woman"

At some point the series finale was planned to show Ann and Don's wedding, but Marlo Thomas (the actress who played Ann) felt that would send the wrong message (suggesting that at the end of the day getting married is all girls should aspire to), so instead the episode is about Ann bringing Don to one of her women's lib meetings to show him what the movement is all about. He spends the whole journey telling her how ridiculous she is and saying that women don't know how good they have it. When they finally arrive it turns out that the meeting was cancelled because none of the other women could even convince their boyfriends to come. No growth occurs. There is no character arc. And no better alternatives exist within the confines of heterosexuality. He's sexist and they're engaged.

[capriciouscaprine]

hey btw if you're a 'glow up'/'it girl' blog who doesn't want trans women interacting with you bc your blog is 'for women' and you don't think trans women count?

you're the biggest dummy on this site.

who tf do you think is putting in more work to glow up:

some cis girl who finally gets around to doing pilates once a week?

or a trans girl who's speed reading up on multiple different styles of clothes, ripping out hair from her toes to her nose, training her voice to be smooth and sweet to her own ears, and even getting monthly blood work done so she can get gel/pills/injections to completely reshape herself???

(obviously, you don't need to do all or even any of those things to be a woman, but these are glow up blogs we're talking about here; the whole point is pursuing a largely aspirational way of presenting yourself so as to gain specific social advantages... which sounds trans af to me, tbh)

no joke, the most comprehensive guide I've ever gotten on how to go from awkward schlub (regardless of gender) to gorgeous yet still warm and approachable high-value femme came from a subreddit dedicated to a genderfluid twitch streamer who STILL primarily uses he/him pronouns even while on feminizing hrt

heck, his trans girlfriend keeps getting invited to pre-launch events for luxury fashion brands in London, Paris, and Milan, and y'all are, what, tag spamming on pictures you're reposting from pinterest? and SHE'S the one who wouldn't 'fit in' the 'it girl'/'glow up' aesthetic???

be for real for serious, you're embarrassing yourself and the community AND completely ignoring a valuable resource on how to glow up from not even being a girl to be the it girl everyone follows

[ventruevitae]

OC SMASH OR PASS

tagged by @ineed-to-sleep ily <3<3<3

go ahead and consider this a tag if you see it! i can't think of anyone rn + i'll probably be doing these for other ocs anyway so sdgfhhj

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rules: pretty self explanatory. include physical descriptions or pics, and propaganda. the “other” label can be used for “sexuality misalignment” (ie: oc is femme and you’re gay, vice versa or you aren’t into smashing but a specific thing you wanna do with them like perhaps hug or study them under a microscope idc).

these images are all over the place don't @ me

BASICS:

Full name: Katerina Irakleidis (That last name gets swapped out every few decades. Most people just call her Kat.)

Age: Looks like she's in her mid-twenties, was actually born in the 20s

Height: 5"3-ish (almost always wearing some sort of heel tbh, it's hard to clock her actual height between that & the hair)

Eyes: green

Gender: cis woman

Pronouns: she/her

Sexuality: bisexual (major preference for masc/butch types gender notwithstanding btw lmao)

PROS:

vampire.

bit of a hard outer shell but if you break through it ohh man, truly one of the most passionate & devoted people you will meet

surprisingly selfless also?

knows how to dress well, you'll always have something pretty on your arm & she'll be so happy if you let her coordinate outfits

you want to see the world burn? cool, so does she. just point her in a direction & tell her who you want dead.

really goddamn good in bed. she knows it too.

money isn't a problem. how did she come by it? don't worry about it darling.

loves physical touch. top contender of the cuddliest vampire in LA currently.

she can teach you how to do some fun swing dance stuff from her fledgling years c: (she knows a ton of partner dance styles & is pretty good at making up steps/choreo on the fly--so yes, you will get those midnight kitchen dances if you so desire)

basically a happy/content kat is someone who likes to get pretty domestic with her partners. she seems like she'd be looking for something flashy, but nope. her biggest desire is really just settling into something peaceful & being called someone's baby.

CONS:

vampire but also a Ventrue. ymmv on how much of a con this is.

see above: ventrue possessiveness. not necessarily your fault, but can & will become your problem.

"hard outer shell" = she can be genuinely prickly & argumentative at times and can leave a fairly negative impression on people. doesn't care if this happens 99% of the time either.

will not be staying with you if her sire is still alive.

actually that probably puts a pretty massive target on your back, sorry.

is probably definitely still hung up on her sort-of-not-really-an-ex. you will never be him, i am sorry. can you blame her though, who's out here getting over nines rodriguez?

she has a sister, which would be a pro except this sister is a lasombra who will regularly fuck up any emotional regulation kat has scraped together after they cross paths (assuming it doesn't get more physical)

chain smokes. dead god she smokes So Much. doesn't matter for health reasons, being dead and all, but still.

[mysticstarlightduck]

OC Smash or Pass

I was tagged by @writernopal (here)! Thank you so much for this fun Tag! I think I might do a few of these for my OCs, because I adore this tag game (:

Rules: pretty self-explanatory. include physical descriptions or pics, and propaganda. the “other” label can be used for “sexuality misalignment” (ie: oc is femme and you’re gay, vice versa or you aren’t into smashing but a specific thing you wanna do with them like perhaps hug or study them under a microscope idc)

Augustus Grimmure

Description (I haven't completed his character art yet): Augustus is a tall young man with dark skin and long, curly ashen brown hair - which he usually styles into a very neat ponytail with a purple ribbon. He has hazel eyes that can glow red or purple depending on which magic he uses. Augustus usually wears a long dapper suit/coat (in the colors of either white, dark purple, green, or charcoal black), along with a silk ruffle tie and other Victorian-style clothing, he also has dark circles under his eyes and may wear gloves from time to time. Has a sharp smile. He is heavily near-sighted and often wears spectacles/glasses (when possible) reinforced by magic - which might be because I wanted a glass-wearing protagonist in this book because I personally can't see shite without my glasses IRL (:

Basic Facts:

Height - 6 ft (around 1.80m)

Age - 19, soon to be 20

Gender - Male

Pronouns - He/Him

Occupation: Necromancer

Sexuality - An extremely hot, very romantic, Asexual straight man

Pros:

HUGGER! Once he's grown to love you that is. Augustus loves to show how much he cares by holding hands, cuddling, running hands through your hair, and (especially) hugging. He wants a relationship to be something special.

Augustus is very brave, and it takes a lot to faze him, especially since he is one of the most powerful beings in Ansburke, but even if he weren't he doesn't hesitate to face risks if it means doing something he considers right - especially when it comes to protecting the one he loves.

Dark Academia aesthetic (more like Chaotic Academia lmao) incarnate, and very gothic-coded. A romance with him has strong Gomez/Morticia vibes (this is legit the best way I could describe it), it's all about finding love in the dark and even macabre. He's also hopelessly devoted, and quite the romantic underneath his chaotic exterior.

Intelligent and witty, with a wild sense of humor. Will not hesitate to pull a carefully thought-out prank on someone if it makes you both laugh. Is also known for his clever comebacks, especially to those who already have it coming.

A good listener. Even if he is not particularly interested in whatever it is you are talking about, he will lend you his attention and let you finish your vent, however long it may be. He's also very good at problem-solving, having a scholar's mindset.

Neutral Facts (that may be pros or cons to some):

Augustus is somewhat inspired by the story of Victor Frankenstein (this character was born of the question I once asked myself - "What if Frankenstein wasn't insane and was a sorcerer instead of a scientist?"). This means he inherits a bit of a mad scientist's disregard for rules and tradition.

He doesn't enjoy sexual intimacy or acts of that nature at all, even though he isn't particularly sex-repulsed - he's asexual, and personally just finds sex a useless and slightly disturbing waste of time. That doesn't mean he doesn't like other kinds of intimacy - as mentioned before, once he gets truly close to someone, he's quite the hugger. (Btw, his love languages are Quality Time and (non-sexual) Physical Touch.)

Cons:

Has severe trust issues. While on the surface Augustus has a very personable and polite behavior towards anyone that doesn't personally irk him (when he isn't feeling particularly petty), he believes that "everyone is out to achieve their own personal goals at all costs" and that in their cutthroat world, everyone is looking to get the upper hand on someone else, so the walls around his heart (beyond a superficially friendly relationship) are quite tall and armored. He would never betray someone who trusts him but is constantly expecting to be personally betrayed. It takes a lot to prove that you truly care for him with no strings attached, but it is worth it when you finally do!

Extended lifespan - while it means no human can truly kill him (whilst he is under the constraints of his contract to the Deathbringer, a fae demon he made a deal with) during your adventures, it also means that you, a human, will eventually get older much quicker than him and die long before him - unless he's broken his Oath, which would return his lifespan back to a normal human's.

Does have a bit of morbid/dark humor natural to any necromancer so, while it can lead to funny and slightly unhinged interactions, he doesn't quite understand why some people consider his deathly jokes as inappropriate (even though he means no harm, that's just his sense humor and how he views te world).

His devotion has a "dark side" (to him) that comes out in the form of self-sacrificial tendencies and will fight Gods if prompted, with no second thoughts about his own safety, if it means keeping the select few people he trusts away from harm. Has no qualms about killing his enemies to achieve that as well.

Tagging (gently, no pressure): @lassiesandiego, @oh-no-another-idea, @writernopal, @tabswrites, @rickie-the-storyteller, @steh-lar-uh-nuhs, @little-peril-stories, @clairelsonao3, @jasperygrace, @jay-avian, @forthesanityofstorytellers, @aziz-reads, @doublegoblin, @gummybugg, @autumnalwalker, @olivescales3, @junypr-camus, @ashen-crest, @starlit-hopes-and-dreams, @bardicbeetle @talesofsorrowandofruin, @mitchell-nihil, @pluttskutt, @saltysupercomputer, @stesierra and @dreaminggoblin

[angelbambifemme]

Favourite outfits? Style inspo? Any fashion/styling tips? Your outfits are insanely pretty and adorable btw

OH GOSH this is the best question to receive before bed! Yes, yes, yes I am a big fashion person! And thank you literally so much! 🥺💞

I'd say that my favorite outfit is this one here <3

I'd say my style teeters on vintage. I absolutely *adore* Renaissance dresses especially. I've actually gotten one recently! I haven't taken a picture yet sadly cause I've not had a reason to wear it, but I definitely will take pictures when I can. My style definitely takes a lot of inspiration from the coquette aesthetic. Frilly dresses? Lace and ruffles? Pink? Sign. Me. UP.

As for my choice of shoes, I love mary janes and ballet flats. You would not catch me dead wearing any sort of sneakers or "modern" type shoes.

And for fashion tips? Well, just have fun and experiment! It's always prime time to play a bit of dress up. Mix and match stuff, just see what you like and go with what you feel makes you feel most confident. Always know what colors compliment you and know how to coordinate them. Do your clothes go well with your hair color? That's awesome! I always love to do that. I find that beige/cream colors always compliment my hair color + gives a more vintage vibe. Not that you always *need* to find things that compliment your hair color. Again, just have fun! Your wardrobe is your paradise. Make of it what you will!

And always try to be objective about your body type. Being fashionable doesn't apply to a select few body types. Instead of focusing on what you see in the mirror and what you dislike about your body, pick apart the aspects that you do like and try to accentuate them a bit. Big hips? A skirt with splits on either side would look gorgeous! If skirts aren't your thing, find your thing. It's all about personal style and comfort. Maybe your pants are too tight or too big. That's okay! It's the clothes, not you. Besides; this just leaves more room to go shopping for some cuter clothes <3

Note: and please. When buying, especially online, please check your measurements...I learned the hard way by attempting to eyeball things. Eyeballing can lead to clothes that are either too tight or too big and a few dollars lost that could've been spent on your correct size. </3

Also, don't go *TOO* over the top with your spending habits in buying clothes. Trust me, as a high femme who loves fashion it is tempting, but please have mercy on your wallet.

At the end of the day, fashion is all about feeling confident and comfortable and looking darn good while doing it. Have fun and never be afraid to experiment.

[vitani-carnis]

Hello it's time to share...

The Basics of Vitani!

Name: Vitani, just Vitani and V for short. They tend not to think of their last name.

Age: Currently in the game 25, she looks and tends to act childishly, so people think she's closer to 19-23

Date of birth: October 31st, 2052. Her mom was adamant about that and fate granted that wish. Though V isn't a huge fan of her birthday (Halloween in general is a different story, though she still doesn't do much)

Gender: ??? It's unclear. Vitani is just themself in their eyes. But they use she/they pronouns and dresses very femme, so gets mistaken as a woman by many a gonk. Don't call her one though, or a girl (unless you're a certain someone using select pet names, or like, in a really gay way, if that makes sense)

Looks: Well she's the profile pic, so that but kinda chubby, and 5'2. Though at the beginning of the game she had a blue fade into pink, but changed it after a bit of a break down. Really the following pic (obvi not my art btw, grabbed it off Pinterest), is about what her body type is.

Family: V doesn't do family, doesn't like them, in fact, hates families! If she had to choose though, her mom is Mama Welles, and Jackie was her brother. Oh, and obviously Nibbles is her daughter and her lizard son Stewart. (In actuality she had a mom, step-dad, and two brothers, but they sort of just left her.)

Friends: Laughable to ask really. Most of V's friends have died, and it's absolutely V's fault. She shouldn't have friends... (Also in actuality, she gets along with a surprising number of people, but feels very few connections to others. Her closest friends are obviously Johnny, Misty, and Viktor. In that order. At least as far as the alive ones go. If she's counting dead ones it's Jill-an oc made for V's story, Jackie, and Johnny, all of them are equal).

Romance: Not much of one, briefly had a boyfriend, but he was like a blip on the radar in V's life. It was also an online thing started on some forum. They never met up due to home life stuff. As for in game romances? Also none, everyone is great, but really just as a friend... Except for a certain someone stuck in their brain, though it's unrealized until the ✨best day ever and beach scene✨. Because obviously they have a "best day ever and beach scene" thing.

Fears: Everything to a certain degree, but that's the insurmountable anxiety she has. Most of their fears are rational, such as sexual assault (never happened to them, but makes sense from backstory things), people leaving (nullified if V leaves first), and idk their current capitalistic nightmare hellscape.

Hobbies: V likes trying just about anything and everything. A maker at heart. But she loves music, cooking, playing video games, collecting low-tech gadgets, history, and politics. Is politics even a hobby? V doesn't know and doesn't care. It is now.

What's important right now?: Saving both Johnny and herself, specifically by getting him a body (yay! Johnny gets a body AU!). It's a thing they've been dead set on once she thought about it. Mostly because to choose herself over him? Impossible, especially towards the end of their time together... As for the game canon, it's technically the same goal, but unsuccessful.

Fighting style: Talk first, then sneak, then carnage. That's the general rule of thumb with how Vitani deals with things. Not always in that order, and not all at once. Relies on subterfuge and knocking people out, but will become borderline frenzied if spotted or if things go wrong. Typically uses a katana (specifically Evelyn's), but switches to the Malorian once she gets it (it's her safety gun).

And if I'm being honest I don't know what else would be basic questions you ask about a character, so we're done!

[uncriticalbunny]

I absolutely agree with your sentiments with regards to syd's yet unexplored sexuality but am I the only person peeved at the wardrobe choices for Syd, I appreciate her quirky, nerdy vibe but she dresses like a drab middle aged school teacher. Ayo herself has such a funky, unorthodox yet undeniably sexy vibe, she is gorgeous with an insane body. while the show does not need to have her in revealing outfits, some fitted or more age appropriate clothing would not diminish her character arc. it almost seems as if the show wishes to diminish her attractiveness, to reduce her desirability as a woman and thus vetoing any possible romance with the white stud Carmy, it always baffles me that with the exception of Molly Gordon most be ppl downplay the white hot chemistry between JAW and Ayo like it is so noticeable. there is real fire between them that any show runner wold have capitalized on.Realistic audience sees it, if syd was white, ppl would be shipping it. but u know the black girls gotta stay platonic

i think syd's style is quirky and cute and very in line with her characterization. the costume designer is black btw, but she's still beholden to storer's vision and gets input from the actors. she also did an interview, it's an interesting process! tbh even if syd was in drop dead gorgeous attire, this fandom would still struggle to see her desirability [as it generally is w/ black female characters]. it would still be nice to see for sure. because you're right, there is something to be said about it in the larger context of how black female characters in media are treated.

I sense there is a desire, I guess to try to get people to take sydney seriously by making her low femme. but it really kinda just ends up feeding into certain stereotypes. black woman -> serious character -> low-key fashion -> not seen as desirable both by the cameras/fandom -> ergo lesbian storyline w zero effort/straight or ace w no need for a romance arc. [sidenote: I think ayo has been lit a lot better this season [still not 100%] and they finally got a clue to focus on those amazing eyes of hers.] which I would normally be like whatever to these things in a show like the bear, but the show and its creators are doing and saying a lot of funky things about sydney, both quietly and out loud.

i've spoken about it ad nauseum and now I'm just tired at the circus surrounding the ship. i will simply go back to continue appreciating my completed shows with satisfying romantic arcs featuring black women whose actors/creators weren't prompted about and didn't cry every 2 seconds about ships ☝🏿 [the expanse and twd to name a few]

[bowtiedbitch]

Gnc friends - How do you handle gender/body dysphoria when you can't do the things that might help it?

I am pretty femme presenting unless in super baggy clothes, in which people think I'm just a young boy (short hair, im short myself, and a v young face). I've always liked being a bit more androgynous or even sometimes like baby butch, but I also like being femme! I've always had a complicated relationship with my body- my tits especially bc they're bigger than average (varied BTW D, DD, and C most of life)

I didn't realize I was a bit trans/gnc until about a year ago but I now know that cis women don't cry when they look in the mirror attempting to be flat chested and see booby bumps

If I had any super power it would be shape-shifting. I would really only change my hair color/style, and get rid of my boobs when I'm not feeling very femme! (Also not a cis dream. Go figure)

People have recommended binding, but im an asthmatic and having tightness around my chest makes it harder than it already is to breathe. I've tried doing sports bras- doing double sports bras bc one is not enough. I still see the fucking bump and my chest starts to hurt after a few minutes anyways so I just rip it off and deal with my boobs. But fuck the envy I feel when I see boys take their tops off and not have anything flopping around. The envy I feel when I see a flat chest underneath a graphic tee.

I don't want top surgery. I like having boobs. But sometimes I don't want them. I hate that the only temp solution is one that I physically can't do bc of the limitation of my health

Do you know any brands that give a flat look without the pain/discomfort/tightness that comes with binders? I wear baggy clothes often to make my silhouette more rectangler instead of hour glass, but im a v curvaceous and thick woman so it's doesn't happen very convincingly

Please help I wanna be able to look in the mirror at least once in my life and see the body I want to have when I'm not feeling femme without having to go under the knife. Without being in discomfort or pain

[salix-triandra]

a list of wlw musicians you may not have heard of

Christie Lenée (she/her) - Phenomenal fingerstyle guitarist and singer-songwriter. I got to see her in concert back in summer of 2018 and I bought her album Stay; enjoy this music by an insanely skilled member of our community. Here’s her official website and YouTube channel. 

Her sound in her own words: “Acoustic roots transcending through soulfully inspiring lyrics.  Somewhere between Dave Matthews, Ani Difranco, and Michael Hedges: Innovative Acoustic Guitar, Foot Stomping, and Upfliting Feel-Good Songs.”

k.d. lang (she/they) - You have seen 1990s-era photos of this Canadian musician floating around wlw tumblr I am sure, astride her motorcycle. Named the recipient of the 2018 Americana Trailblazer Award by The Americana Music Association®, they came out as a lesbian in June 1992 (six years before Ellen Degeneres, btw) and hot on the tail of the song “Constant Craving,” which is probably her best known song of sapphic longing, on an album capturing unrequited love for a married woman called Ingénue. Their most recent release Makeover is an album of stylistic remixes of her hits (seriously, listen to original and remixed versions and I doubt you will regret it), and the cover image is a portrait photo of them from 1995 in a very femme style (perhaps a figurative remix of her consistently butch style she is so known for).

Cássia Eller (she/her) - the first time I heard her voice was on a playlist of brazilian rock jams by a fellow tumblr user, and I remember desperately hoping the singer was a woman but doubting since the vocals were so deep. Luckily for us, Cássia Eller, born in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil, is! She released 5 studio albums during her lifetime to bless our ears and was even recognized for her accomplishments and popularity in Rolling Stones Brasil. She was openly bisexual and raised a son with her partner Maria; the two were together from 1987 until Cássia’s death in 2001, caused by a heart attack due to a cardiac malformation. She was only 39 when she died, which makes me so incredibly sad, but I’m so glad she was here. My personal favorite song of hers, since it was the first I ever heard, is Palavras Ao Vento.

Please reblog and add on more wlw musicians from underrepresented genres! This was just a start, and I’ll hopefully continue to add to this myself as I keep listening to music. Wishing everyone a safe and healthy July!

[specialmouse]

What does cunty mean? I thought the one on the post was the correct term??

I mean you could define it that way but the way i understand it and see it used the most, i can’t really explain it.. it has a lot more to do with femininity but almost like, a practiced, controlled femininity, like a runway model almost. Doing something amazing effortlessly and beautifully. Speaking a bit out of my ass here maybe but i feel like it came from ballroom particularly in the context of voguing femme (i think that’s the right verbiage for that) where the style of dance maintains the precision and symmetry of oldway voguing with the dignified yet sensual femininity of the trans women who were part of ballroom. Like go watch a video of crystal lebeija or leiomy amazon or dominique jackson.. THATS cunty to me. I guess you could say it’s about “putting your whole pussy into it” but i feel like that includes more things like. You cant just call anything someone did really well cunty. The people who originated it in this context were Black and latina btw .

[superkooku]

Favorite kinds of characters in media—like those with compelling stories, morals, motivations, and appearances—what makes you look at a character and think, 'Yes, this is something that will rot in my brain for a long time.

My faves

Thanks for the ask. Btw, to everyone who reads this post, don't hesitate to reblog with your own answers. I'm very curious !

It reminds me of that post by @bugsinthebayou :

It's often vibes-based.

My faves are very varied, ranging from Maomao from The apothecary diaries, to Iroh from ATLA or Mettaton from Undertale. Or Judeau from Berserk (my pfp). These four couldn't be more different and yet I really like them.

Though nuance and good writing are obviously needed, I'm a bit weak for certain tropes. They're sometimes general, sometimes targeted towards some examples.

"Beware the nice ones" : both gentle and threatening because of their strength and/or their status. It's really interesting to see one use their power for good or be a wholesome person. Not falling into despair and rage, or if they did at one point, get up, stay hopeful and just be the best person they can be.

Gentle giants : a subsection of the former. They have a huge "dad energy" and I'm all for it. They're protectors and often very generous and chill. Also works for women.

Agent peacock : and the female equivalent of that (femme fatale but not sexualized). It's basically a charismatic "pretty boy" style characters who's still very confident and competent. Often vain and charismatic, they still keep the "cool factor" and are useful. Bonus point if they're into drama.

No-nonsense characters : they're here, they're competent and they do the job. They stay calm when others panic. They may have some dark secrets or are just a bit grumpy. Either way, they still have a big heart. Bonus point if they're rarely weird and silly too.

Protective parent figures : Idk, seeing them so engaged for their child makes me respect them a lot. Seeing them do the most and be present. It's more interesting if we don't go the cliché way and full-on helicopter parent or "5 min sacrifice at the beginning".

Fluffy healthy couples : I'm not a fan of toxic ships. Be it wlw, mlm or straight, idk, seeing a character caring about their partner, being a bit shy but trying to make them happy, or simply living together, soulmates style. I INSTANTLY like the relationship. They work together and I root for them. Even if they're scheming or doing bad things together XD . I also love the platonic equivalent of that.

Other cases : rays of sunshine, supportive best boys/girls, spunky roaring warriors, chaotic gremlins, tricksters

If one goes over my faves, mythology or fandom, a lot fit at least one of these boxes XD . I won't mention them all because there's a lot of them. Just look at my fandom tags.

Otherwise, they go in the "I love hating you" box. Even if they fit one of the aformentioned tropes.

Last precision : I have very little villain faves, most of which are redeemed. I'm not that big on straight up villainous characters. My faves can be flawed or do bad things, that I'll acknowledge, but they should at least be a little likeable or morally gray.

Edit : I don't hate villains and I like seeing them in the media. Well-written ones can be terrifying or pathetic or anything else, it depends on the intention. But I won't root for them.

[inkwellfire]

Post-resurrection Solas design change here we go- (I should really finish that comic I have in regards to that whole temporary death situation) He’s really taking after his mom now.

He also now wears all the family colors, his own blue, mom’s red, and sister’s purple.

[mademoisellehypergamy]

✨ CREATING A PERSONA FOR HYPERGAMY & SOCIAL CLIMBING  ✨

The votes are in and “Persona” won! Ladies, get the notebooks out. Class is in session. And this is gonna be a long one.

Be honest with me: Are you currently your ideal woman? The majority of you will probably answer honestly and say no. And there’s nothing wrong with admitting that. The harsh reality is most women on their hypergamous journey aren’t even close to being the ideal woman they aspire to be. Hell, the average woman (hypergamous or not) will probably live her life never being able to become that woman, if we’re being completely honest here.

I believe every hypergamous woman should create and adopt a persona. You are who you believe to be. When I was younger, my teachers and parents told me I was academically gifted. So guess what? I believed the same! That pushed me to work even harder in school. Same concept applies here. You are who you believe to be. A persona isn’t a “fake” version of you. It is you. Your ideal person. It is malleable, so it can change at anytime. Just like you changed throughout your life.

STEP 0 - WHY YOU SHOULD ADOPT A PERSONA

✨Not Everyone Will Win the Birth Lottery. But that doesn’t mean you can’t rewrite your past, and repave your future path. Let’s face it: some of you were born into bad circumstances; abusive families, poverty, toxic relationships, obstacles and barriers, etc. And some of you are living lives currently that you aren’t satisfied with: stressful job, health issues, bad environment, *insert sob story here*, blah, blah, blah, woe is me!  But should your current and past conditions get in the way of your hypergamous journey? No! Absolutely not. 

✨You Can’t Be the Same Basic B*tch Forever. Okay b*tch, when you were being “true to yourself” in the past, look where it got you. Probably in a less than favorable situation. Congratulations for being an authentic basic b*tch! 🥳😊

Ladies, change is necessary. When you started your hypergamous journey, you underwent a change. Are you saying your hypergamous self is fake? Of course it isn’t! It’s still you, just an “elevated you”. One that is more aware and knows what she wants. 

✨ Most People Don’t Even Know Who TF They Are. It’s sad, but true. Most people are lost and suppressing their true desires and personality. I’m here encouraging you ladies to create your ideal persona and to become this woman. Because this woman is who you are deep inside, who you want to be. Stop hiding her! Create her, and become her! As long as this person isn’t harming anyone, there is no reason you shouldn’t chase your dream self.

STEP 1 - CHOOSE & CREATE YOUR PERSONA

This is the fun part ladies! Time to choose and create your new persona!

✨ What Kind of Woman Do You Aspire to Be?  Have fun with this ladies! What kind of woman have you always dreamt of becoming? Is she wildly intelligent and beautiful? Or perhaps she has a heart of gold and is adored by all?  Nothing is off limits. This is you.

For those of you who are truly struggling, below I have included a few examples of common personas. If you don’t know where to begin, choose one as the “foundation” and build on it. Make it your own!

*Disclaimer: Anyone that I mentioned/included below is simply for inspiration. Not all of these women are hypergamous. This is just for inspiration*

1. The Socialite/ The “It” Girl: This is the girl that everyone knows. She’s always at a party with a glass of champagne, wearing the latest styles, and living the BEST life. She’s glamorously unattainable and few have access to her, but somehow she’s a part of every social circle.

Inspiration: Jamie Chua (https://www.instagram.com/ec24m/)

2. The Traveler: This is the girl that travels constantly. Whether it’s across the globe or to a different state/town, she’s always on the go! No one seems to know how she funds her lifestyle because she always appears to be traveling and never working. Her pictures are always on point and high quality, with a combination of bikini pictures, relaxing scenery, exotic foods, and endless hotels.

Inspiration: Jennifer Tuffen (https://www.instagram.com/izkiz/)

3. The Influencer: Think of the ultimate Instagram Baddie; perfect body (usually because of surgery), full lips, carefully applied makeup, nails always done, hair on point. She is sponsored by all the clothes brands, and lives lavishly. She’s always out at a restaurant and traveling. Typically dresses in more revealing clothes/lots of bikinis.  What differentiates her from the Socialite? The degree of elegance and class. While the Socialite gives you an “heiress” vibe, the Influencer is more on the “flashy celebrity” side.

Inspiration: Kaylar Will (https://www.instagram.com/kaylarwill/)

4. Femme Fatale: She rarely posts on social media, but when she does, it only makes you question her existence more. This girl is beautifully sensual, and her social media only reveals bits and pieces of her life. She is an entire mystery, no one knows about her private life. One day she’ll be flying from London, the next she’ll be visiting an art gallery  She’ll sometimes post images of gifted roses with poetry captions. She oozes seduction and dark mystery. 

Inspiration: Dita Von Teese (https://www.instagram.com/ditavonteese) Now I thought long and hard about who to choose for this one, and if you take a moment to look at Dita’s IG account, you will understand why. You will notice that the ONLY thing she posts about is her clothes/lingerie brand or things relating to business. She reveals nothing about her personal life. Every post is promotion about her business. In fact, the last time she posted something about her “life” was on October 8th when she posted her CAT modeling another designer’s scarf. She’s a very discreet woman, and it works in her favor.

5. Girl Next Door: You know that basic b*tch that’s SUPER popular for no reason? This is her. From her Starbucks to her Tiktoks, she’s just your average girl living her life. In a way, she isn’t a threat because she seems approachable, relatable, and friendly enough through social media. Something about her aspires others that they can achieve a similar lifestyle. She’s terribly basic, but somehow, it works. 

Inspiration: Loren Gray (https://www.instagram.com/loren/)

6. Exotica: *This persona is best suited for women of color* She is exotically beautiful and unique. She is a trendsetter, not a follower. She has an air of heightened sexuality, with a touch of grounded-spirituality. Something about her is wild and untamed, and she oozes excitement and adventure. 

Inspiration: Monica Leon, or “Danger”. Now if you’re in my generation, you may remember the reality show “For the Love of Ray J” (which was ghetto btw💀). To this day, one girl that I will NEVER forget on that show, was “Danger”, the girl with the tiger tattoo on her face and that NO ONE liked, but Ray J was obsessed with. Although she no longer is on Instagram (and has since legally changed her name), I still believe she naturally embodied that exotic and mysterious woman persona. I recommend watching the show for free on Youtube just to observe her (and only her because the other women were pickme’s  💀)

7. The Luxurious Diamond: This woman is the epitome of class and elegance. She exudes femininity and grace, and holds an air of mystery by only showing us bits and pieces of her life. What we see is soft luxuries, wineries, beautiful clothes/scenery, and a life of comfort. She balances a mature, elegant, ladylike presence, with subtle girly-youthfulness. 

Inspiration: Г-жа Анисимова   https://www.instagram.com/creme_de.la_femme/

✨How Does She Look Like? From her hair to how she wears her makeup, be able to create a vivid description of her appearance. Being able to do this will show you where to work on with your current appearance.

✨Personality We all have traits about ourselves that we don’t like. This is your chance to identify your traits that you love and maximize them, while also working on the aspects of your personality that are a bit more problematic.

It’s important to recognize that some “negative” traits are not really negative. Society just shames us for them. For example, “The Socialite” persona may be polite, but that doesn’t mean she’s super open and friendly with everyone. Not everyone is her friend, and she is naturally unattainable. So why would she be super friendly to everyone? Some may call her “standoffish”, but I call it “selective”.

✨Past Self? Not a Problem.  So let’s say you had a less than perfect childhood and endured a lot of trauma. Not a problem, just reinvent your past! Now I’m not saying to straight up lie and make up a crazy story about how you grew up with billionaire parents and traveled the globe. I’m saying adopt a realistic story that’ll help you on your journey. 

For example, if your date were to ask about your past, instead of telling him how tragic your childhood was and how you were homeless and abused by your parents, and no longer have a relationship with them, you can say: “I moved around a lot as a child (“homelessness”), so I really enjoyed being able to interact with a lot of different people (make the negative seem positive). My parents still move around a lot, so it’s hard for us to meet (explains why you aren’t in contact with your parents). 

Reword and reframe, ladies. Not everyone needs to know everything.

STEP 2 - BRING HER TO LIFE

✨Remove. You cannot embrace your new persona, your new IDENTITY, if you are still stuck in the past. And that includes past connections that do not serve you. Some of your old friends (college friends, childhood friends, etc.) are not meant to accompany you on this journey. And that’s OKAY. Same with other toxic relationships in your life, family included. You will have to decide who to keep, and who to distance yourself from.

✨ Social Media! I’ve mentioned this in an earlier post, but social media is the easiest way for you to push your new persona. You control the content that goes on your social media, so even if you haven’t fully embodied your new persona, you can sure as hell fake it on social media. 

- Unless your persona is a socialite/influencer type, avoid posting too often. - Be consistent; if you retouch your images, make sure its consistent with all your photos. - Be mindful of what people tag you in/post about you. You know that “friend” who always posts the ugliest pictures of you? Yeah. They’re not your friend, hun. 

✨Dress. The. Part. Okay, sis. You can have the personality down perfectly, but if the look doesn’t match, no one will buy it. Your look is the first thing people notice, so invest in it. It doesn’t cost a lot, especially with fast fashion sites like Shein that sells clothes for $5. Just be able to keep up the appearance.

✨ Immerse Yourself in the Environment.  Looking the part and having the right personality is not enough, ladies! It wouldn’t make sense for you to be a “Socialite” sharing pictures of you eating at Red Lobster and Olive Garden every night. It wouldn’t make sense for the “Traveler” persona to share only bathroom selfies in her apartment. You have to live like the woman you aspire to be, and that includes placing yourself in those environments.

If you are not in the place financially to do so, learn to project the image without spending money. Ex: If you can’t afford to go to Hawaii, go to your local beach and take bomb ass pictures. Don’t tag the location. People will automatically see a beach in your picture and assume you are on vacation traveling. Get creative, ladies. 

✨You Owe Them Nothing. Ladies! Remember you don’t owe anyone anything. Not an explanation, not your time, nothing. So if you are living this new persona and people are asking questions you don’t want to answer: don’t. This is your life. 

STEP 3 - YOUR PERSONA WHILE DATING HYPERGAMOUSLY & SOCIAL CLIMBING

So now that you have created your ideal persona, and taken the steps to incorporate it into your life, how can you use your newfound persona to aid you on your hypergamous journey and while social climbing?

✨Infiltrate New Circles. Your persona should be someone exciting and enticing. People love befriending people who are happy and adventurous. Use your persona to befriend others and enter new social circles. You can do this through: - Social media; follow similar accounts to yours and interact with them. - Activities related to your persona; Let’s say you adopted the “The Luxurious Diamond” persona and started visiting wineries. You may notice when you go that there are regulars; identify the regulars and use your common interest of wine to strike a conversation. -Interest groups; join clubs/groups that help you reach your goals. For example, “The Traveler” may have always wanted to travel to Bali, but didn’t want to go alone. She joins a travel group to meet other likeminded inviduals and meets a travel buddy. This person ends up introducing her to others who also enjoy traveling.

✨ Be a Chameleon. You should  never be set on just one persona. Like I said earlier, your persona should always be malleable. You should be able to change yourself to your benefit, and always be open to expansion. When it comes to dating, a man may “want” a certain type of woman, but the secret is that most men just want a woman who is open to possibilities.  I remember a man who used to be on my roster who loved music. This man was always insisting on taking me to operas and symphonies. And he too was a musician (I really don’t like dating musicians, but that’s a topic for another day), so whenever he was performing he would have me sitting in the box so I’d have an “undisturbed” experience.  Now ladies, I’m not into music AT ALL.  But I was open and willing, and guess what? The man adored it, and he adored me even more! He spoiled me like crazy and would serenade me with music he wrote about me because I was his “muse”. Although I ended up ghosting him, I definitely appreciate a good opera now! 

✨Be Larger than Life to Entice. The attractive part about these personas is the fact that it feels almost fake. The image that is portrayed is almost mythical, like something out of a fantasy. You can’t believe this girl is traveling so much, or you can’t believe this girl still has a social life in the middle of a pandemic! It’s unbelievable, but that’s what makes us so intrigued. Men especially love fantasy. That’s why many men have a “dream girl”, a woman that embodies their physical and emotional fantasies. They love the impossible. It’s also important to remember that you are always being watched. People see you, whether in person or on social media, and when they see someone or something more interesting than their mundane life, curiosity will get the best of them. They’ll be drawn to you and want to know you.

✨ The Persona Advantage. Creating a persona is supposed to help your journey. The purpose is to reinvent yourself into someone who will help you better navigate your hypergamous life.  For example, if you are trying to get into more exclusive, affluent circles, creating a persona who is skilled in social and dining etiquette would be more beneficial than a persona that’s an Instagram Influencer. Being an Instagram Baddie that wears Fashion Nova won’t help you at a Charity Gala. So be sure to think of what you desire in life to shape yourself into that. Don’t just become someone who won’t get you to where you want to be. 

This post will definitely have a Part 2 in the future, but in conclusion: You can be whoever you want to be as long as you play the role. Be an actress in your own life, and live the life you desire.

Well ladies, I’ll be away for Valentine’s day weekend. Wishing you all a wonderful and safe weekend ❤️ Lots of love.

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