#m spec gay

[crappyheadcanons]

Bi gay and bi lesbian Persona 4 characters

[polygamousfistingchaos]

Free-Oriented

may also be called freesexual if you so please.

A general orientation term where you are choosing to not prioritize labels in your identity. Maybe because you've come to understand that your identity is too personal to be put in a few words, having to explain the specifics/meaning of your identity repeatedly is stressful, your identity is fluid in multiple ways and trying to put a name on every part as it moves away from you is exhausting, a mix of these things, or any other reason. This is a term for those who are frustrated, stressed, or tired with their identity itself or how people treat it.

You do not have to stop using labels completely to be free-oriented, this simply means you're dropping labels as something that keeps you up and defines you. It's a recognition that we are all unique and even the boxes you create for yourself you'll eventually outgrow because we are constantly evolving beings and it's impossible to know everything about ourselves.

Stripe versions:

[felix-01000101]

Introduction post (DNI LIST AT VERY END)

Heya, you can call me Felix or Rye. I am a minor who reblogs stuff I think is neat, stands up for trans rights, and occasionally vents about my parents.

Pronouns page:

Feel free to send anything into my asks as long as it's not

Donations - I prefer to reblog posts instead

Hateful comments - your post will just be deleted and you will be blocked

Interests

Coding, AI (including ethics) and technology

Most fandoms (especially FNAF, The Wild Robot, BG3, Heartstopper, TSP and TCOAAL)

Music (anything really)

Identity

Here are some LGBallTs that represent the labels I most frequently use

Gender (+polyam):

Flags (left to right): abrogender, butch (badge), ambiamorous (symbol), nonbinary (hat), androgyne (bowtie), genderfloren, xenogender (badge), cat ears (I'm a cathoarder)

Sexuality (+ misc labels)

Flags left-to-right (excluding hat and cat ears because they mean the same as the previous one): gaybian, termcollector (badge), abrosexual, transmasc (bow), aroaceflux, bi vincian (badge)

Some other labels I use that aren't on here:

Quoiromantic

Queer

Lesboy

Salmacian

Kingender

Views

As you can probably guess, I am pro-contradictory labels, pro-MOGAI, and what most people would consider a "radinclus", though I hate the word. I am also against terms such as "TMA/TME" and a hater of transmisandry

I am generally anti-discourse

I am neutral on most topics, unless they pertain to the human rights/lives of others. (I.e I am anti-genocide, anti-war and against antisemitism)

I do not believe zionism is inherently bad (judging from the words of Jews themselves). However, I do not support zionists who are anti-Palestine.

I am a neushipper. Whilst I have nothing against proshippers, darkships make me uncomfortable. I believe in SALS, have complex views on whether fiction affects reality, and do not support drawing NSFW of minors (yes, even fictional ones. Do it in your own corner but PLEASE keep it away from me and other minors). Above all, I ask that people tag their stuff with relevant trigger warnings, respect DNIS, and don't post darkships onto shorts-style platforms (since it's wayyy too easy for minors to find them there)

I am supportive of those with paraphillias, as long as you are recovering (ESPECIALLY if you are one of the big 3)

I do not support radical feminism, and strongly believe in equality FOR EVERYONE

Other blogs

@ryebread-07 - OC posts (not very active)

@neuship-zone - Shipping and multifandom posts

DNI list is under the dashed line.

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DNI List

MAPs of any kind

Anti-recovery/pro-contact harmful paras

Racists

Antisemites

Bigots (including exclusionists of all kinds, but not including those who are anti-radqueer or anti-transID - see 'thin ice')

Radfems

Anti-therians and anti-otherkin

NSFW/kink blogs (I'm a minor)

(Pro-)self harm blogs (too triggering)

Suibait/toxic/pro-harassment/etc. (Basically, if you're the kinda person to bully people online or insult them very harshly, DNI. My mental health is poor enough)

Thin ice:

TMA/TME users (can like and send asks but not reblog)

Darkshippers (can like and reblog but don't DM/send asks unless requested)

Radqueers (can interact normally but I block freely)

TransID (can interact normally but I block freely)

Syscourse blogs (I don't really want to be involved)

Alright post over, enjoy these userboxes!

[bisexualpositivity]

It’s time for a LGBTQ+ demographic survey!

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If your orientation wasn’t on this list, please comment on this post! We want to learn more about you and how you identify.

[januscorner]

Meeting other queer people irl made me realize how irrelevant online queer discourse is. My teacher was nonbinary and gay, no one cared. A girl in the hospital was a lesbian who liked guys, no one in the group of mainly cishetallos even batted an eye. Don’t let online discourse get you down because in the real world people don’t care.

[bimdraws]

Something that bothers me about m-spec gay/lesbian discourse is that, from where I'm standing, m-spec gays and lesbians are a very clear minority within a minority. I see arguments saying lesbian/gay identity is being erased, as if most people had any idea what any of these words meant.

Straight men going after lesbians isn't m-spec lesbians' fault, it's the fault of whoever is ignoring that you aren't into them. Placing the blame on other women/feminine-aligned/female-aligned people is really strange. I can promise you the fuckboy who is going after women who clearly aren't into him isn't on Tumblr reading this post.

Another reason against this label is "m-spec gays/lesbians can leave you for a person of the opposite sex", and I have 3 issues with that:

1. Exclusive gays/lesbians can leave you for another man/woman, too.

2. Being m-spec doesn't make you a cheater, this sounds like recycled biphobia.

3. Even if you do enter a relationship with an m-spec gay/lesbian and they do leave for someone of the other sex, how is this worse than being cheated on with someone of the same gender?

I've been with bi men and straight men who rarely go for other men, so I get how it feels when they do go after women right after me, but how is that different from any time a gay man has done the same but with another guy instead? I don't think these questions can be answered without some prejudice against m-spec people overall, but I am open to read other ideas. Please be nice! We are not enemies.

[lilliaace]

What exactly "terfs" are

I see a lot of young people say "lol fuck terfs" or something similar and then I see them say stuff like:

"you can only be a lesbian nonbinary if you're AFAB, otherwise, you're not a lesbian" - this is anti trans and nonbinary statement (aka "terfs")

"transgender people can't be gay or lesbian" - this is anti trans and nonbinary statements (aka "terfs")

"2spirit people aren't in the trans umbrella, they're just spicy cis" - this is xenophobic/racist towards indigenous populatons AND anti trans and non image statement (aka "terfs")

And so many more things

Terfs = trans EXCLUSIONARY radical feminists.

They hate transgender people. They hate nonbinary people. They can be "seemingly harmless" or "just superficial" things that make trans and/or nonbinary people "YIKES 😬" . They can be as severe as screaming trans people are p3d0s. They can be as severe as funding anti transgender government representatives and/or sending their money to organizations that are pro-conversion therapy for transgender people.

[lowcallyfruity]

Twisted wonderland I need more girls in the game pls 😢

Anyways have this meme and it’s variations

Ft. My headcanons!!! 😱😱😱😱

[ur-fave-homo]

no pressure to inhale macaroni mixed with snow like kirby but what the fuck is a pangender gaybian??? do you identify as a gay bean pan?? /genq

Pangender is when you identify as multiple genders(simultaneously or fluctuating,doesnt matter) . This can encompass all genders but not always.

A gaybian is someone who is multigender,enby,or genderfluid who feels attraction to women as a woman or a non-man(in a sapphic way),and feels attraction to men as a man or a non-woman(in am achillean way),and can also feel attraction to enbys(or other genders) as an enby(in a diamoric way). Some (not all) gaybians might identify with the label as they believe their attraction to different genders is always in a queer way.

hope this helps!

[honeydreamzz]

a message from a mlw grayro-ace transmasc and questioning multiromantic

lesboys and turigirls are valid.

he/him lesbians and she/her veldians are valid.

aromantics, asexuals and aromantic asexuals are valid.

cistrans people are valid.

intersex people are valid.

non-binary and otherwise genderqueer people are valid.

m-spec lesbians and veldians are valid.

transmascfems are valid.

afab transfems and amab transmascs are valid.

straightbians, straightcians and gaybians are valid.

if your identity is considered contradictory, complicated, weird or difficult to understand but it makes you happy and doesn't purposefully harm others in any way, it's valid.

you're all welcome on my blog <3

[crappyheadcanons]

Persona 5 Royal M-spec gay and lesbian icons

[polygamousfistingchaos]

My take on the m-spec gay flags/m-spec gay flag redesigns

m-spec | bi | pan | poly | omni | abro

free to use by anyone, even those who fit my dni. reblogs appreciated

main flag stripe meanings:

[shk0lstun-flagz]

FtM4FtM / T-M4T-M

( or mtm4ftm / mtm if some trans men prefer that label over ftm )

for any achillean mlm trans men that prioritize their attraction to other trans men / men-aligned people

- does not have to be exclusive, it could just be a preference

[voidwithtoomanygooglyeyes]

I do not mean any harm with this poll, I just want to see what people think. Any negativity or hate in the comments will be deleted, so please keep it civil, genuine questions are allowed though.

(I had to remake the poll because I forgot to change the poll duration, but luckily it only had 3 responses when I realised this)

[januscorner]

The weird thing about m-spec lesbian hate is that like, they’re still gay. Like people accuse others of not being queer all the time but this isn’t even that. You’re saying someone should kill themselves because you don’t like the word they’re using. What the hell