#like yeah it does affect my gender identity

[the-pea-and-the-sun]

sry to engage w goofy ass discourse but im kinda tired of seeing the phrase "afab intersex people used as a gotcha" abt ppl who dont like phrases like tma and tme like. i dont think thats whats happening man ur talking like intersex ppl arent actively on the site and talking abt their own experiences we're not using ourselves as a gotcha. like a lot of intersex ppl r talking abt it themselves u dont gotta keep pretending we're a fringe hypothetical case. intersex ppl are just often not included in these types of conversations and applying a label to someone based on their agab is fucked up no matter what its just more obvious when you're an intersex person and you know that sex is not binary and your agab doesnt reveal some intrinsic truth abt ur biology or identity

[jewish-sideblog]

Pinkwashing as a concept is astonishing to me because it operates under the assumption that everything Israel does is for global PR.

Jews have a 6,000 year history of being more chill about gay people than (most) other religions. Jews overwhelmingly favour Queer rights in the diaspora, where Israeli law doesn’t affect us. Kabbalah regards Adam Kadmon, a genderless or multi-gendered being, as the first human, and says that their gender identity made them significantly more divine. Ancient Israeli laws documented in the Talmud make room for multiple different forms of intersex conditions.

But yeah Israel having a pretty good record on Queer rights is just because the Jews care desperately about our global image in the media. Israel having the biggest pride parade in Asia is exclusively a marketing tool that somehow convinces people to hate Palestinians. And clearly the Israeli government just handed down these Queer rights from on high to please the West. It’s not like normal Queer Israeli citizens have organized well-documented, long and difficult struggles against their government for equality and representation.

“Pinkwashing” my ass. Queer people in Israel fought hard for those rights. If Israel ceases to exist, those rights will disappear. They have good reason to be scared of Hamas, the Houthis and Iran, regardless of if they’re Queer Jews or Queer Palestinians or Queer Bedu. And yet Queer Israelis were protesting Netanyahu’s government and policy decisions before October 7, and they continue to protest what’s happening in Gaza now. They should be the sort of people you look up to instead of the sort of people you dismiss offhand. They aren’t a PR stunt. They’re human fucking beings.

[nyancrimew]

oo if we’re doing queer confessions i got a bit of a long one

first relationship, classic story of not realizing we were into eachother for the longest time, even after regularly kissing and cuddling for almost a year lol (calling him bf 1). went really well actually after we properly got together

after about a year or so, bf 1’s ex (not on any sort of bad terms INITALLY) (calling him bf 2) who was my best friend asks if we wanted to just be in poly relationship together since we all had confessed to eachother at once point and we say yeah sure we still all like eachother, it took bf 1 a few months to think over first which was fine by all of us, so we just continued all being close friends for a few months till then. few months later, he says yea sure that’d be fine and so we started trying it out since we had all been really happy with eachotehr up to that point

literaly the same exact night that happened, bf 2 changed his attitude towards me completely and despite being very good friends before this and loving eachother he started ignoring me and claiming he just didn’t have energy to do anything ever, while constantly showering bf 1 in overwhelming affection and hundreds of smaller things like that where i’d get left in the dust while he would get mounds of attention. he was just as unnerved by it as i was.

i was a bit dumb and so didn’t really act on this for a while despite realizing immediently it was weird, and after a few months me and bf 1 started talking about it privately and realized he was just flat out lying to both of us and expected us to like. not talk about it?? like super blatant things llike telling me he didn’t value sex in a relationship at all and didn’t want it with me while minutes later telling bf 1 that sexual intimacy is the thing he valued most and wouldn’t want a relationship otherwise

one of the worst thing though (atleast in terms of how much it damaged my understanding and acceptance of myself)) was despite him being nb (he/they) and even experimenting with being a girl for a while he started constantly hanging our own gender identities over our heads and sayin shit like “well i’m gay so if you start identifying as a girl i’m gonna leave” to me when i brought up to him, the first person i talked to it about, that i wanted to be a girl which stunted myself growth by years and similar things to bf 1 who was very openly nb (which, wow i’m relazing as i’m typing this how casually mysoginsitc he was, he made all sorts of “jokes” about how inherently disgusting traditionally feminine bodily features were)

after about a year of this (me and other bf were just too scared to leave, but we definently should of) he actually broke up with me , and tried to speak on behalf of bf 1 claiming they just both wanted me out of the polycule, also just a straight up lie as when i talked to him about it . after talking for a while and asking some mutual friends we figured out he told literally every single person a different, conflicting story and putting the pieces together we came to conclusion that he was just using me as a throwaway tool to get back together with bf 1 to squeeze himself in the relationship, and tried dumping me out so he could be monogamous with him only.

needless to say bf 1 dumped his ass less than a week later after we finally were able to decipher the literally 10 different conflicting stories, and this story actually does have a really happy ending!! me and bf 1 are still besties and kiss a lot while he found another much sweeter and nicer boyfriend, i got another girlfriend with a shared pet kittygirl shortly after that helped me through the whole thing and i’ve never been happier about my body image/self image and gender identity in my life. IM FINALLY A CUTE GIRL WITH A CUTE GIRLFRIEND WE MADE IT NYALL :3!!!

(and as a nice bonus ontop, the only time i hear about him now is from other people realizing how scummy he was and cutting him off, leaving himself to rot in a hole of his own making surrounded by people jus like him. feels great to be away from that whole toxic friendgroup in general. freedom.)

(anyway thanks, “but we stay silly :3” was a quote regularly said to myself during the recovery of all this )

yipppeeee, we really do stay silly!!!

[azullumi]

“grocery shopping” ; genshin men

summary — a certain notion appears inside your mind, like a lightbulb on top of your head as if you were having an eureka moment when in fact, you weren’t. it was just a silly idea in which you are curious to know the answer to. alternatively, just your average grocery shopping with him with a little twist and that being placing every item that you see into the cart.

includes — various genshin men (w/gender-neutral reader)

tags — fluff, established relationship, a sprinkle of domestic, set in a modern setting ; headcanons

words — 1215

note — honestly this is just me and my mom whenever we go out for groceries (i always put everything that i see in the cart) ; this is the first time i’ve written after so long, aside from those stupid essays i have to do for school

;; Will let you be, however, he will put some of the items back

He doesn’t show an ounce of care and will just let you have your fun, for now. Because yeah, sure, you can add that box of mugs that are identical to the ones you have at home, dear, but that doesn’t mean you’ll see it getting packed into the grocery bags; Oh, that ladle set sure does look nice (you won’t see it in your place ever). He’ll let you indulge in your pleasures and won’t deny you of it, however, so much can only one do in this economy and some of the things that you are putting in is exceeding that. He’ll put some of the things back whenever you are not looking, trying not to get noticed. Perhaps you won’t notice it at first when a few things are missing and somehow, the cart doesn’t seem to get full no matter how many you are adding to it. He’ll act so innocent and naive when you ask him about it, however, smiling at you softly and asking you what you are talking about. He’ll only tell you of it once you’re on your way back with the bags, expressing an apology that he has to remove some of the things in the cart that you added and you two will get it again next time.

Thoma, Baizhu, Tighnari, Venti

;; Will get another cart

Oh no, dear, the cart is full already? You just have to wait there and he’ll get another one for you, so for the meantime, you can scope and look out for other items that you want to get. One word, supportive. Or maybe he just loves to spoil you a lot. Either way, he clearly lets you do whatever you want; he’s a little bit of an enabler, perhaps. The weight of the groceries is nothing compared to the affection he has for you. You don’t even have to look at the price either—he advises you not to do so because that’s not really a concern (for him, atleast). Really, he loves you a lot to the point that he is willing to just watch you as he pushes the quite heavy cart and carries a basket like how you would carry a bag with just your arm (need yourself a man who’ll willingly push the cart for you and follow you around). He doesn’t mind it, it’s only one of the many things that he’ll do for you. There’s just one thing, however. You don’t know what you’re going to do with the pile of things you got so before paying it on the counter, you’ll have to return many of them.

Ayato, Pantalone, Diluc, Childe

;; Will be silent and confused but will let you be

At first, it starts off just like how it usually would: you grab some of the things that you need and want then place it in the cart as you two walk around the store and he simply lets you do as you want, just like your normal day of grocery shopping with him. Until several items were placed into the cart later and he had to question himself, why? Are those needed? What would you need a new blender for when there is a completely functional and working one at your home? He’s visibly confused but he will simply let you be because how could he stop you when you’re clearly enjoying whatever you are doing and he adores watching you in such light—you, simply, just walking and being with him has him falling head over heels for you. In lieu of that, it’s probably the reason why he’ll let you get away with doing some things including whatever you are doing (but that doesn’t mean he won’t be having any questions). Oh, how long the receipt will be. He will have to stop you as soon as the cart gets full and there is no more room for other important items, however. I mean, come on, there are more knives and cups there than there are for eggs and milk together.

Diluc, Zhongli, Xiao, Alhaitham

;; Will question every item you’ll put in

Is that really necessary? What’s that? Do you want it? He’s quite verbal on what is happening, becoming (your) voice of reason on this whimsical notion. His reaction is a mix of everything, he’ll let you add whatever you want but at the same time, he’ll place some of it back and would’ve stopped you from adding a few—perhaps he’ll also express his confusion, but never will there be annoyance: “Where are you going to use that for?” He’ll act more like a mother asking their child what in the world are they adding into the cart, just without the scolding part and telling you how it is expensive and you’re not the one paying for everything. He doesn’t mind you placing many things as long as they are essential and of necessity. He’ll let in a few of your wants here and there but not so much that it will consume half of the space of the cart. He’s more on the rational side of things, keeping you grounded to reality and that reality being the costs, the amount of things you’ll have to carry on the way back, and where you will even place some of those products that you completely don’t need.

Wanderer/Scaramouche, Cyno, Xiao, Kaveh

;; Will join you in adding those random things

All became a game of fun with him just as quick as you placed that one vase in the cart. Well, everything feels like a game with him even if it’s as simple as who’ll finish their food first. It’s silly, if you are going to be honest. You two were acting like children whose both of their parents lost sight of them at the store and are now running around the place, each with their own cart of their own (random) items. The competition? Who fills their cart first is the winner (with no duplicate items). Whenever you two would have an accidental encounter, you would check each other’s cart and see who has more then proceed to tease one another of who is the winner. However, the reality of the situation dawns over you two when you remember that you have to bring these things to the counter and pay for it—and the fact that you have to return, if not all, most of the items back to their proper places. By then, you two would have to start over the grocery shopping adventure again but this time, only with what is completely necessary in your cart. You’ll still have your own fun with him in this busy place, nonetheless.

Itto, Childe, Heizhou

© azullumi — do not plagiarize, copy, repost, nor translate any of my works.

[gaddaboutgriffon]

Superwoman AU So, I have been seeing a lot of Justice League Gender Bent art lately and couldn’t help but think that for characters like Wonder Woman and Batman it doesn’t really work for. But the more I thought about it the more I realized that the change is REALLY interesting for one core member in particular. Superman.

Given the kryptonian power set the change doesn’t affect the fighting much, but it does change workplace relationships and social aspects of the civilian ID a lot.

For example, Clara Kent would most likely have a rivalry with Lois that borders on antagonistic. Not at all helped by Clara getting scoops that should be damn near impossible. Sure, when Clara is still new at the paper she likely would act as a mentor figure. But that would change really quick if Clara starts beating Lois to scoops and stories.

Clark Kent's sweet and dorky behavior on a male reporter is cute and charming but on a female journalist that is just neon sign to take advantage of her.

Jimmy may be her only good friend but given her physique that is hindered by Jimmy probably developing a crush on her. Which seen him more like a younger brother type friend is not reciprocated.

Then there is villain gallery. Again, the ones where is find there hidden whatever and then a physical fight to win. That is pretty much the same.

No, the villains things are different with are the ones that like to outsmart and play mind games.

Aka Lex Luthor.

And in Lex’s case the major difference again is in the interactions with Clara the civilian ID.

My thinking here is that while Lex Hates Superman because he can’t see anyone being that altruistic with so much power and it must an act. He actually really likes Clark Kent the mild-mannered reporter who in Lex’s eyes overcame humble beginnings and became a self-made successful reporter.

In this AU with Clara that gets amplified. See in a few different versions Lex attempted date and, in some cases, actual got so far as nearly marrying Lois. The attraction was largely based on the fact that she was a driven woman who was climbing in a difficult industry. It is part of Lex psychology is his value of Humans overcoming things with intelligence and will. and the difference with this AU is Clara has the farm girls start as opposed to Lois typical city or military daughter origin depending on the version. In Lex's eyes, Clara is starting out from a disadvantage to Lois and rising up to be just as successful a writer. In short, a better example of something Lex values.

It is just too good not to explore. So, if we go ahead and have Lex take interest in Clara, it would only take a good conversation for her to know there is something is wrong. But what if during her crime fighting, she ran across something that the talk with Lex makes her think he may behind it. So instead of the immediate rejection she wanted, she agrees to go out with him for opportunity to investigate.

Lex is a narcissistic egotist, and in most versions his parents were not a good example of love. and in most versions his Idea of love is a bit more like conquest. (Yeah, warning now, this is not going to go down in a good way.) He is also smart and knows how to cover his tracks. I don't think it would take him long to realize that Clara is looking for something. Here comes the dark idea I had. What if he arranges things so that if Clara tried to expose his crime empire it would look like it tied back to her instead. This also gets used to keep her from leaving. and if this is far enough in the timeline where Lex already is keeping kryptonite in a lead box in his pocket, Clara has to keep her secret identity tightly held. which means she has to go along with this until she can figure out how to bring him to justice.

Unfortunately, Lex did too good a job and Clara needs help. She turns to Jimmy and Lois. at this point Lois has been an antagonistic rival, for sniping stories from her and seemingly to have gotten the most eligible bachelor in metropolis. But once Clara explains what actually has been going on, Lois' attitude changes and is all on board for taking down the rich creep. thus, this AU's beginning of their friendship.

(well this is where I am ending this initial post. I'll add on or do a part two later. @emacrow thanks for listening to the initial idea. this post is the continuation.)

[drdemonprince]

sorry if this is too long but i really appreciate your perspective and would love some advice

i have a mixed gender friend group irl, however i am the only transmasc in the group (the rest of the group is queer transfems, queer cis women, and our token cishet guy) and ive run into a little issue in that im quite close to one of the cis girls of the group, and we occasionally have deep chats about our queer identities (we're both aro, im ace, shes bi) . these chats are great and i really appreciate her as a friend but one thing shes always bringing up, even in unrealted conversations is how much she hates men .

im not a transandrobro so this isn't gonna be one of those "im one of the good ones" or "i feel guilty for being transmasc" asks dw. the issue came up when i was discussing how i was going to start T pretty soon (i pass decently well without it already but as more of a butch/androgynous type look) and as we were talking about the changes she was acting... genuinley scared and disgusted??

especially when i talked about how i will likely grow more body hair, and how T affects scent and stuff. she was almost horrified. "yeah but you dont want that right? youll shave it?" . i already dont shave my body hair (she does) and i cant help but feel scared that one of my closest friends is going to find me revolting once i start transitioning medically.

i didnt even mention bottom growth after that because i was so scared of what her reaction to that would be.

idk if you have any experience or advice for this? or any reading on the subject? ive found that its only the cis women in my friend group who are acting this way as well. i feel like maybe its because theyve secretly been viewing me as "just" a masculine woman this whole time. i id as nonbinary with the group, but secretly i really do think im a trans man, but based on the disgust with those things im reluctant to come out again.

Honestly this is a really common way that cis women microaggress against trans mascs! Those two identities have competing privilege/oppression intersections and a lot of really wild shit can play out as a result, as well as due to the projection that can happen because both groups have shared a social identity at some point (whether we liked it or not). It may not be fixable, but I think you need to set the tone that this kind of negative commentary on your transition and body is NOT acceptable, and to do so EARLY, so that you are establishing ground rules for how you will be treated.

Example conversation:

You: So I started getting some hair on my neck around my Adam's apple.

Her: Ewwwww, but you're going to shave it right?

You: (pause and look at her seriously). Gender transition is something I'm very excited about and that's very good for me, you know. I am happy about everything that's happening and I hope that as my friend you would be happy for me too.

Let's say that she continues to be somewhat shitty about your transition multiple times. Here is how you might escalate without totally blowing your lid.

Her: Wow, your [voice is so deep/your acne is getting so bad/your hair pattern is changing/whatever thing she is being shitty about].

You: (stop whatever task you're doing if any to give this full attention. lock eyes with her, maybe even sigh). I have told you multiple times not to comment on my appearance. It makes me very uncomfortable. I don't enjoy spending time with people who comment on how I look.

I think your focus should be not on correcting her feelings, which she needs to go like stare at a pond and reflect about on her own, but instead reign in her shitty commentary completely -- and if she won't do that for you, then you will need start ending conversations/walking away/not inviting her to things/whatever other boundary setting strategy you like. I would prioritize nipping the personal comments in the bud over the "men are so disgusting and evil" kind of commentary, because I think that matters more and seems to bother you more -- but if it were me? I would also be pissed that she wasn't including me in the category of "men" when she was talking about them, and would say things like "I'm a man too, you know." Or "Yeah, WE can be kind of annoying/boorish/smelly sometimes." This isn't some transandrobro NOT ALL MEN thing, it's an anti-transphobia don't misgender me thing. And perhaps by taking accountability for all that manhood is -- the good and the bad, the euphoric and the just neutral, you will influence her in a positive way to think about these things more neutrally. If not, well, that's her fuckin loss.

[sunrise-imagines]

ill do anything for something about Prismo, relationship Hcs or PDA Hcs, I don't care if it's sfw or nsfw, I love Prismo

Of course! Prismo is such an underrated character, Im so glad he’s getting more screen time and I can’t wait to find out more lore like who’s his boss! I’ll keep it SFW for now, but feel free to send in another ask for some spicier headcanons ;) Enjoy!

Prismo the Wishmaster x Reader General Headcanons

• I hope your love language is receiving gifts because hoo boy he is constantly showering you with presents

• Saw something you liked in a store but didn’t have enough money to get it? Bam, it’s right there in front of you. Craving a specific food? Here’s five servings of it.

• It gets to the point where you have to tell him to dial it back a bit, because getting everything you want whenever you want it can start to make life a bit anticlimactic.

• On a more serious note, part of the reason why he gives you so many things is because he’s afraid that you might leave. I mean yeah,he’s an extra-dimensional godlike being, but he’s also very lonely because of this and hasn’t had many serious relationships in his life. This has caused to think that the only way to keep you with him is to grant your every wish. He needs you to reassure him that you love him for who he is, and you don’t need all those things to want to be with him.

• Like Scarab, he can take on a human-like physical form sometimes, though this form is harder for him to maintain as he does it a lot less often than Scarab. In this form, he has dark skin, curly pink hair and bright blue eyes like he usually does, and he wears a comfortable pink kurta and pants.

• He uses this form for physical intimacy, which you’ll have help to teach him as he isn’t familiar with all the different ways humans show affection.

• “So this is how a hug feels! Haha, it’s a little weird, but I like it!”

• His TV isn’t just for watching over the multiverse, he can also pull up programs from any universe to watch, so expect regular movie nights/binge watching shows

• He also loves playing board games! He’s really good at them too, though he’s not that competitive. He just has a lot of time to practice

• If you started dating when Jake was alive, then he loves to hang out with both of you! Nothing is better than chilling with his partner and his best friend.

• Makes special batches of pickles just for you, and asks you to sample different flavors and give him notes on what to adjust.

• In the most non-stalking way, he likes to keep an eye on you whenever you go back to your universe. He just wants to make sure you’re safe, and if you ever told him you’re uncomfortable with this he’d definitely stop asap.

• He’ll only step in if he sees you in serious trouble, zapping you to the time room to get you out of whatever situation is causing you distress.

• For my trans, nonbinary and gender non-conforming folks, he is of course accepting of all gender identities, and if you aren’t happy with how your body or features look he’d be happy to change them for you! Only with your absolute complete consent though, he doesn’t want to permanently change anything about you unless you are absolutely sure it’s what you want. And of course, he’ll still love you no matter what you look like <3

[ohnoitstbskyen]

hey skyen, you mentioned about kuina that she seemed transmasc to you and in my experience i think more people see zoro as a transmasc person, the reason being is his want/need to break gender stereotypes rather than enforce them. through kuina, his story to become the greatest swordman is inherently about breaking gender roles. and personally i think a lot of transmascs see this as their relationship to cis women. (especially in how kuina pushes zoro into the "weak" category with him and parrots sexism without knowing how it affects him) i also think his story is WAY more satisfying from a gender perspective if you see him as transmasc, regardless of if its intended or not. (the truth is that theyre BOTH transmasc, actually, why not?) (idk if you read fanfiction, probably not, but the fanfiction Burning Man on ao3 really goes in depth with transmasc zoro. its also the best fanfiction ive personally read for op)

Yeah, I can absolutely see that.

On related lines, I've also seen an interpretation of the story that Kuina and Zoro are the same person, and that Zoro's flashback depicts a metaphorical series of events rather than literal, where he battles with his assigned identity over and over as a child and can never "beat" her, never overcome or break out from under her.

But when he realizes that his assigned identity is miserable and in pain, and that all that even she wants is to be a boy, he has to go through the trauma of seeing her die, and go out into the world as truly himself. Through that lens his quest to become the greatest swordsman in the world is, in part, a quest to spite every motherfucker on Earth who told his past self that he would never be able to transcend his assigned gender.

So long as you assume that Kuina's father is playing along with it to the point of setting up a grave for his dead daughter who never was, it does explain why he would let Zoro take away the Wado Ichimonji, an incredibly important and valuable family heirloom, and treat Zoro so much like a direct son.

The Three Sword Style already represents Zoro carrying Kuina's spirit and memory with him always - his two-sword style in the hands, her one sword style in his mouth - and in this reading the style would be carrying the memory and pain of his childhood with him, and letting it empower him to become greater than anyone without his experiences could ever be.

It's one of the nice things about One Piece, I think, that it is open to these kinds of interpretations. Luffy being aro/ace is basically canon, which I appreciate a lot, and nobody can tell me Nami and Vivi didn't have a mutual crush going during Alabasta, and there is no understanding of Ace I will accept where he wasn't the most bi/pan wandering disaster the Grand Line had ever seen since Roger.

I do hope the actual explicit text of the manga will catch up to that someday... I was really happy to finally see some actual transmasc rep with Yamato, and a bit more playfulness with gender in general in characters like Izou and Kikunojo in the Wano Country arc, and honestly canonically transmasc Zoro or Crocodile would be enriching to both of those characters, I think.

[midnight-soulless-system]

so i’ve seen people against afab and amab and i figured an intersex person who’s engaged with fighting for acceptance would know sort of the right answer? since you’re in the demographic these things would hurt the most (warning for genital talk?)

when i’m talking about people who a doctor said “yeah that’s penis enough” or “yeah that’s vagina enough” they were assigned male and assigned female. that’s the event that separates them. from my perspective saying idk “people with penises” isn’t correct bc 1 people get surgeries to remove or add things in both trans and health surgeries and 2 if your genitals are “male enough” that you were assigned male but you have noticeable female aspects to your genitals does it exclude you to say penis?

i call MYSELF afab because my experience growing up female has affected my gender identity and i know you can call yourself whatever you want bc it’s your own experience, but since people started arguing about the term i don’t know what to call people anymore when i’m talking about human bodies (like in the last thing i reblogged, I’ll stay off tumblr a bit so you can actually find it. also bc i have class soon. I’m not saying that when i see a person in the street i need to point and say AFAB lol).

If any of this is phrased like it makes NO sense i woke up like half an hour ago sorry. and if any of it is phrased harmfully please correct me. i really hope i got my question across at some point in this because i don’t have the brain power to proofread past some spelling errors yet today

I'm gonna be SO honest, when I read the '“yeah that’s penis enough” or “yeah that’s vagina enough”' I heard snoop dogg saying it, but with the body of my doctor and that was so fucking funny BUT ANYWAYS

It depends on what you're talking about. People with penises is in fact vague! It includes micropenises, can include clitoromegaly depending on the scenario, penises, tdicks, etc.

We should be getting more specific. For example, if we're talking about penis health or dpecifically foreskins, say people with foreskin. If we're talking about prostates, say People with prostates. If it's inner labia or outer labia, say that! People with a womb, People with cervixes, etc.

"from my perspective saying idk “people with penises” isn’t correct bc 1 people get surgeries to remove or add things in both trans and health surgeries and 2 if your genitals are “male enough” that you were assigned male but you have noticeable female aspects to your genitals does it exclude you to say penis?" Again, it depends on the question. For the second part, the penis is what would have been the clitoris had there been those hormones in the womb (or the lack thereof) or they were androgen resistant. It is not what would have been the vulva, womb, labias, cervix, or the ovaries.

(still answering the quoted text). If they had somewhat female genitalia (say, the scrotum or testes weren't fully developed, they had a womb (undeveloped or not), etc.) then they would apply to those type of questions/groups (people with a womb etc.). Depending on the scrotum and testes development, they may or may not be included in people with vulvas, or people with testicles/scrotums. In most cases you'd either just listen to both advice and see if that applies to you or just try all the advice.

Basically, if they consider what they have is a penis, it's a penis, especially if they have a glans. Just remember penis is not all of the sexual organ, same as vulva.

Also with trans people that got bottom surgery, it still applies to them. If you're saying people that were BORN with x genitalia, then they'd still be included because they can still answer. Again, different topics need different specifics.

"i call MYSELF afab because my experience growing up female has affected my gender identity and i know you can call yourself whatever you want bc it’s your own experience, but since people started arguing about the term i don’t know what to call people anymore when i’m talking about human bodies (like in the last thing i reblogged, I’ll stay off tumblr a bit so you can actually find it. also bc i have class soon. I’m not saying that when i see a person in the street i need to point and say AFAB lol)." Ok, understandable. Whatever gender you grow up as doesn't have too much to do with your AGAB rather than your SIG (socially imposed gender), at least not once you hit puberty. The thing about agab is that it is often not necessary to talk about and it's annoying as fuck when people bring it up unnecessarily. It says nothing about what genitals you have, what you look like, how the hormones in your body work, or how you grew up. All it is is an event that happened when you weren born where a doctor looked at your genitals and made their best guess.

Like, it is unnecessary to say "I'm amab/afab nonbinary how do i look more androgynous :)" because bitch!! that doesn't give me any information 😭 And people often just use it as a way to be like "Oh yeah I'm afab/amab so I have a vulva/penis". Like, did we forget about how people do not need to know wtf is in our pants? It's not necessarily an identity but an event that happened.

Anyways, I hope this helps? And I hope I don't sound rude and got my point across, sometimes I talk in circles or repeat myself. If you need me to clarify lmk :D

[moonmoonthecrabking]

something i find so fascinating about grace chasity’s brand of christianity is that there’s not much sexism in it? let me explain what i mean.

i come from a christian background and a denomination which, in my state, has allowed women in eldership positions for my whole life. i’m friends with other christians whose denominations Don’t have that and also us christian fundamentalism is very sexist, i know bc have access to social media.

aside from mark’s job being mentioned and karen’s not, as well as her doing the cooking, there’s not a real sense of gender hierarchy in the christian circles in hatchetfield. this applies greatly to the purity culture that pervades abstinence camp and npmd, with the jerris saying that “this is a progressive ministry. we believe men and women should just say no!” often, in fundamentalist circles, while men are encouraged to wait until marriage, so much more pressure is put on the women to “stop the men from stumbling” (yes, it’s bad, this isn’t a post about the horrors of purity culture).

however, in npmd (and even ac to an extent), grace is the one at risk of “stumbling” and blames men. in npmd she very much blames max for her corrupted purity (from her perspective) and that is her motivation for revenge, even before she has sex with his ghost. the responsibility is not on her to “gouge out her own eye”, so to speak, at least not without a greater risk to max. even in ac, she makes tiny sweaters for their Jesus status, which reminds me of when i would scroll down to the comments of a youtube video bc i was scared of being attracted to people (1. not a purity culture thing 2. id like to say that this was a me being scared of liking women thing, and to an extent it was, but i also remember doing it to men. 2017 was a weird time and something was probably awakening in me ngl).

as slightly more proof, she is the only one advocating for removing homecoming in npmd, and in ac she ends as the sole leader of the camp. now, an evangelical’s view of women in ministry varies on person to person (source: like two weeks ago when i was desperately trying to not get myself into a debate with other christian women), unless she’s in an ultra-conservative environment (which she isn’t, it’s middlingly conservative frankly), she would be able to do these on her own. however, this is theatre, it’s a demonstration of her desire for power and acquisition of it. she does not view herself as needing to be subservient to a man. also i think northern baptists (my hc for her) are a little less Bad than southern baptists but anyway.

the interesting thing about this, to me, is that she does share views that i would put in those less “yay women” denominations (yes this about the catholic line i guarantee you it annoys me even more when i encounter it in the real world). there’s the (internalised) homophobia. but not the internalised misogyny. this could be related to the respect given to trans identities by the depictions of idontwannabang and the chasitys in hatchetfield, creating the sense of a more egalitarian Biblical perspective than complimentarian.

like grace has this terrible relationship with purity culture, yeah, but she’s the active agent in it, and she shames the passive object of her affections, the man. that doesn’t happen that often. there are countless videos of “what women should wear to be modest” but men can go to the gym shirtless if they so choose. maybe it’s only interesting to me but still

[foxglove-garden]

Reason why I, an intersex trans man, got called a TERF #958465:

I don't support people who say that they're FTF or MTM "trans" or dfab trans women/DMAB trans men.

I don't really care if you're intersex or not, you can't transition to the gender you were raised as. That's just not a thing. It devalues actual trans experiences imo.

I can speak personally about the experience of being raised as a girl and actually being transmasculine and having that affect my experiences. A person who was raised has a girl and identifies as a woman does not have those experiences. A person who is raised as a boy and identifies as a man does not have those experiences.

I can fully respect people who identify as cisgender intersex, or consider intersex to be their gender, or identify as intergender, or even identify as intersex to female or intersex to male because those make sense. If your experience being intersex affected how you were raised and you identify as a different gender than your parents raised you to be, I totally understand that. But "I'm intersex and identify as the gender I was assigned/raised as" doesn't equal being trans.

But no amount of logic in my brain can ever understand how someone can transition to the same gender that they were raised as. It just seems like cis with extra steps to me, it seems like intersex erasure, and it seems transphobic.

I know that it's controversial to critique certain identities, but as someone who is intersex and trans, I feel like my opinion is valid. I don't see "MTM", "FTF", "dfab trans women" and "dmab trans men" as good faith identities.

People are still welcome to use those terms for themselves, but I don't feel comfortable interacting with them.

Usually when I have in the past, they've treated me weird (I've had people from that community insist that I can't be FTM because I'm intersex, I've experienced a lot of casual transphobia from that community, and I've had a lot of them basically pull the whole "transandrophobia is fake because trans men have male privilege blah blah blah") and I just don't want to deal with that.

So yeah, IDC if people criticize this tbh. Unless you're also intersex and trans, it's not really something you can invalidate because I'm talking about my own community.

I'm going to block anyone who leaves comments bothering to say that they don't agree with me because I really don't give a shit if you agree with me. You aren't changing my mind and talking over me is transphobic and intersexist.

[this-is-exorsexism]

When binary trans people deny the oppression of nonbinary people or say something exorsexist, and then defend it by saying "I'm a little bit nonbinary!" I'm all for people realizing where exactly they fall on the gender spectrum, and nonbinary people don't have to be gender-neutral or perfectly androgynous to be valid, but these people will identify as 100% a man or woman, live as a trans man or woman, and call themselves only a trans man or trans woman, until it's time to talk over nonbinary people about their oppression, and then suddenly they're all nonbinary and thus the #1 authority on exorsexism and how it totally doesn't exist or affect people as badly as transmisogyny or anti-transmasculinity does.

this is exorsexism.

ugh, yeah. these are usually the same people who say "everyone is nonbinary" or "actually, binary trans womanhood is the OG nonbinary gender" (this is an actual take i've seen) too when called out for exorsexism. it's because they see nonbinary as synonymous with breaking gender roles or even just disliking gender roles (which is also a TERF talking point - to them nonbinary people are just GNC men and women), or that it's the same as not being your AGAB (we already have a word for this: transgender) or that it's simply not liking the idea that there are only two genders.

and regarding the latter: i wish people actually understood that not liking the idea that there are only two genders isn't what makes you nonbinary, because being nonbinary is not an ideology. if you're strictly male or female and you don't like the gender binary, you're an ally and we need more allies! but as you said, these are often people who are invested in upholding the gender binary but say they are nonbinary when called out for it.

and it's not my job to decide for them whether they are nonbinary or not - after all, womanhood and manhood don't inherently mean binary, nonbinary men and women don't owe anyone the "full explanation" of their gender, and the idea of "nonbinary people weaponising their gender and coming out at such convenient times" is way too prevalent. at the same time, completely ignoring what nonbinary means and pulling the "everyone's a little nonbinary" bit is harmful.

but also, being nonbinary does not absolve you from exorsexism. this is true for people who just said they are nonbinary 5 minutes ago as well as for nonbinary people who have been out for years. bringing up your own nonbinary gender doesn't make your exorsexism go away. you can actually be part of a group and still be bigoted towards your own group. your identity is not a shield.

as i said, after all a lot of nonbinary people are very invested in exorsexism, which also disproves this idea that nonbinary is supposedly an ideology that is synonymous with disliking the gender binary.

it's valid for nonbinary people to be more affected by antitransmasculinity or antitransfemininity than exorsexism - but this experience is not universal and it doesn't make exorsexism less important or less oppressive. especially people whose experience is primarily defined by exorsexism are often talked over, a lot of the time even by other nonbinary people.

[yujinmikotoba]

i got the assistance of a friend who knows japanese better than i do and got him to translate all the rlly transgender susato lines. enjoy

i also just have a lot to say abt the whole ryutaro thing in general like. ok. sorry for being That Guy who Rambles but when i first played this case the thing abt "this body" and the sheer detachment slapped me like a wet fish. bc

person whos been forced to consider her gender for the first time. not even in a gender-questiony way, she's just suddenly forced to consider the fact that people see her as a woman and that affects how they treat her

so when rei treats her like a man for the first time in her life, she sees how different it is and things just. kinda start to unspool in her mind. the treatment from everybody ever is ENTIRELY DIFFERENT from when they see her as a woman, and it's frustrating

like people respect ryutaro more. they listen to his opinions. but the only thing that's changed is his appearance. susato is just as capable, she's just. brushed off for being a woman.

"never before in my life have I felt so frustrated at having been born into this body" indeed, i'd want to scream.

and my specific susato hc is bigender ngl. she has both sides of himself and no one will acknowledge them

there's probably an added layer of complications if susato isn't cis but also is not straight up a man. because she knows that part of her would be accepted and seen as capable depending on how she presents, and it would be so much simpler if he could always be ryutaro (not simple, it would never be simple, but simpler).

she doesn't necessarily want to always be ryutaro, but if he wants to have a career he'd have to squash the part of her that is still susato.... it's hiding who she is so she is allowed in these spaces but like. twice. and making her hate that part of her somehow

but that's just my opinion lol feel free to take this whole thing with a grain of salt

this is all very interesting, thank you for sharing! yeah the ryutaro naruhodo plot line is so interesting bc it’s multi-layered and there’s so much you can pull from it.

like obviously a lot of it is supposed to be commentary on misogyny and the role of women at the time and how it affects and restricts susato, but it’s presented in a way where not only does susato get to experience what life without misogyny would look like, they get to specifically experience life as ryutaro naruhodo, a whole new identity. and yeah the specific reference to feeling trapped in a specific body definitely adds to the transness of it all.

I mean it’s queer all around given that rei is attracted to ryutaro and finding out ryutaro and susato are one and the same does not deter her.

I agree with the bigender headcanon. I think there’s things about each presentation that susato enjoys and they’re both a part of her but she unfortunately does not live in a society that affords her to express both at the same time.

[angelxd-3303]

Soo..i saw your TFP oc, Mason so i decided to ask questions about him

How did he found out about autobots?

What's his favourite thing?

Who's his favourite autobots?

Does the autobots like him?

How does mason view the autobots

Does mason have a favourite person?

I'm so hyper about your oc so much :D

You're asking me about my OCS???? Oh my Primus, I've been waiting for this!

Mason is a character I've had floating in my mind void for awhile; he's originally from northern Wisconsin, but moved to Jasper to distance himself from their ex. (No, Miko, he's not going to talk about it.)

He has vitiligo, but it doesn't really bother them. He used to be really self conscious as a kid, even stealing his mom's makeup to try and cover it up. As they got older though, Mason came to accept and love his skin, because it's ultimately a part of him, and what makes them unique. (Ratchet found it fascinating, and that ended with them having an in depth conversation about dermatology)

Mason uses He/They, although he doesn't have a preference. His parents got him into geology and bushcraft, which is how he met the bots. (See above; I may write a drabble, idk)

As for favorite bots, Mason will never tell you openly. Honestly though, Ratchet and Optimus hold a special place in their heart. He has a strong bond with his parents, but those two have kind of become stand-in Dads for Mason.

His favorite thing? Probably his jean jacket. It was a gift from their grandpa, given after they came out. It was a reminder that he was loved and accepted by their family, no matter what the world said.

As for the Autobots, they like him plenty. Mason introduced a lot of new concepts to them, like gender identity and orientation, so there's no shortage of interesting conversations. As a diagnosed autistic, there are many times where they have to explain to the bots how it affects him as opposed to a neurotypical. (And if Optimus learned a few things about himself over the course of these conversations, well...)

Mason and Jack get along the best; they bond over their shared love for bushcraft and survivalism. He's almost positive that Miko is giving him gray hairs; but he admires her bravery. Even if it is a bit misplaced. As for Raf, yeah Mason's basically adopted him. Raf is his child now. ("How have none of your parents noticed you guys gone all the time?!")

They've honestly become the Dad of the group as the oldest guy besides Agent Fowler, and this extends to the bots. Mason can often be found scolding someone for doing something stupid or talking down some argument in the base. Their piercing glare is the reason Agent Fowler doesn't dare shout at Optimus anymore. Bro barely got one "PRIME!" out before Mason was nearly at his throat. Optimus may be a big bot, but Mason looked at him for half a second and immediately identified him as baby™. He and Fowler are ok now, mostly. Mostly.

That's basically all I've put together; thanks again for asking about my characters! I was kinda on the fence about sharing my ocs, mainly since I haven't made a lot of them since I was younger. I may explore that more often now.

Hope this was satisfactory, lol. I'm not the best at explaining certain things. I'm just a nerd who likes big robot Bois.

[kirkwallguy]

Veilguard so averse to transition that your Inquisitor, the character you already know and have spent time with, is forced into a binary gender and cannot have transitioned in ten years if they had a non-bisexual romance partner. Even though it would have been a handful of lines to change at most, and for the vast majority not even that.

Flynn is left super nebulous. Isabela cares so little about Taash feeling isolated that Hollix being non-binary is a throwaway line near the end, in the worst scene in the whole game. One of the companions (Lucanis? Might be Davrin, I can't recall) stumbles with Taash's pronouns even though he addresses a non-binary Rook without ever missing a beat.

We know nothing about Tarquin's HRT (is it blood magic?? tell me! we know so much invasive shit but nothing here?), they gave no grace to Taash's mom, and trans identities don't feel integrated into the world thanks to all the modern lingo and apparent disdain for the bit of language that does exist. Clearly they cared about depicting a trans Rook but the moment I heard them utter the word "trans" without any context felt a bit sad. Yeah we exist but where is our community, beyond twenty genders in Tevinter codex from a non-Tevinter character?

EXACTLYYYY... it's just a bunch of tiny missteps that all come together to create this really weird and anti-transition image

the inquisitor is like. fine. they have engine limitations and already can't account for worldstates as well as having to reckon woth gay and lesbian romances so it would need a level of sensitivity that they don't have time for. but imo continuing to gender-lock the only romance that actually matters is kind of antithetical to the game's branding as queer friendly. if you want to experience as much romance as possible your inquisitor HAS to be a cishet woman, and by default the inquisitor is this cishet woman. no other inquisitor experiences extra content aside from a queer man who will have some weirdly homophobic 'we're old friends' bs... when talking about inquisitor limitations i feel a little silly because mine was so obviously not going to be catered to and i wasnt expecting that but like... It so clearly reinforces this odd binary heteronormative lean that it feels extremely weird

and yeah. i think the best parts of the trans writing come from rook. they say some really interesting things but then as soon as a companion or anyone else responds the illusion is broken, especially the discussion i had with davrin during my romance (and potentially any other romance?). it just feels hollow and meaningless and not something that affects their character in a material way. i definitely felt like it was more about the player being trans than the player character being trans. which, again, is fine! but i won't praise it as good writing nor will i say it works well in da worldbuilding

it does just feel like trans characters are thrown in with little thought and their experiences aren't cohesive at all. if we're suddenly in a utopia where transition is fine and trans people are rarely discriminated against even in conformist societies such as tevinter (unless their parents are from a Bad Evil Regressive Backwards Qunari Society such as taash's or Poor such as tarquin's), then why not have the world around us reflect that? it's origins trying to say that misogyny doesn't exist then throwing you into a clearly patriarchal society all over again. it's a massive undertaking! to write about a world like this it honestly has to be your main goal because of how much your real-life experiences in a binary society will creep in. even some of the best writers that try to capture this experience often can't do it fully - just look at the discussion surrounding the left hand of darkness (one of my favourite books of all time, if you're at all interested in gender in spec-lit PLEASE read it despite its shortcomings.)

[battyaboutbooksreviews]

🦇 It's a Love/Skate Relationship Book Review 🦇

Rating: ⭐⭐⭐⭐

❓ #QOTD What are your favorite winter sports OR what's the last enemies-to-lovers book you read? 🦇 Charlie Porter is a force to be reckoned with on and off the ice. After accidentally starting a brawl, she’s suspended from school, meaning no hockey this season—and no chance to play in front of college scouts. Alexa Goldstein’s pairs skating partner was hurt in the fight, and with only four months until their next competition, pickings for a replacement are slim. So she strikes a deal with Charlie—skate with her at the competition well enough to place, and her Olympian mother will use her formidable connections to get Charlie in front of scouts at D-1 schools, even without her team. Can the frostiness between them thaw long enough for them to realize they’ve found a partner for more than just skating?

💜 Get ready for smirk-worthy banter and sweet sass, a narrator who draws you in and keeps you page after page, and some serious character growth amongst an all-too-sweet romance. It's a Love/Skate Relationship by Carli J Corson absolutely SCORES as a debut. Let's break it down: ✨ Charlie "Charizard" Porter demands your attention (and respect) from page one. Her narration is so strong, unique, and blunt that she'll captivate and keep you to the very end. I do wish the other characters were more thoroughly developed (they're given about one character detail each, and good luck differentiating the hockey players) but I love the contrasts between Charlie and Alexa, how those differences melt away to make them such a strong pair. Charlie's character development is essential to the story; you'll root for her as new obstacles obstruct her path. ✨ The plot will seem vaguely familiar to fans of Icebreaker, but this book far exceeds it in terms of characters, pacing, and prose (yeah, I said it). ✨ This novel encapsulates the quintessential sweetness of first/young love. Watching Charlie and Alexa's animosity melt away to create a relationship of mutual trust is heart-warming. These two will have you kicking your feet; get ready for some heart-eyed sweetness. ✨ I'm annoyed by the bisexual erasure in this novel. Though it's likely unintended, Charlie (and her friends) so quickly deny the possibility that Alexa is queer, whether because she has a boyfriend at the start of the story or based on Alexa's personality. Though I don't expect Charlie to have a well-developed gaydar, I do expect some open-mindedness, especially since the queer community is about acceptance, not judgment. I adored Charlie's tendency to break stereotypical gender norms, which led me to expect more from her than blanketed assumptions. ✨ The story starts with a male-dominate hockey game featuring a few female characters on the team. It's not until later in the book that we get more information on the team being co-ed, which was disappointing. However, I LOVE hearing that Alexa's mother "got the rule book changed so that a 'pair' is no longer defined as one male and one female skater," making them the first same-sex pairs couple (hells yes) and paving the way for other same-sex couples on the ice (potential sequel?!). ✨ Please, allow a female character to love literally ANY other artist. I haven't read a single book this year that's mentioned any other artists by name. It's exhausting, boring, and honestly makes every female character seem/sound identical.

🦇 Recommended for fans of Dahlia Adler and Rachael Lippincott or Icebreaker.

✨ The Vibes ✨ ⛸ Sapphic/Queer (Lesbian & Bi Rep) 🏒 Tending to Wounds ⛸ Hockey Star/Ice Princess 🏒 Rivals to Partners/Friends to Lovers ⛸ Young Adult Romance 🏒 Witty Banter ⛸ Sports Romance 🏒 Debut Novel

🦇 Major thanks to the author and publisher for providing an ARC of this book via Netgalley. 🥰 This does not affect my opinion regarding the book.

💬 Quotes ❝ Seriously, our rivalry? I’m talking decades of grade-A, grass-fed, organic-as-hell beef. ❞ ❝ Proving sexism is damn near impossible without making it sound like an excuse. ❞ ❝ I catch a glimpse of her face— which is actually really pretty when she’s not firing death rays from her eyes like a scary, shrimpy Superman. ❞ ❝ “Labels are unnecessary. You can be athletic and not be a jock. You can love reading and not be a nerd. You can wear black nail polish and not be a goth or whatever.” She taps my dark-painted thumbnail. “People love to categorize people in boxes with neat little labels. But humans are way more complex than that.” ❞ ❝ “Always a beautiful thing when a woman bests a man in his own game.” ❞ ❝ You’ve got a habit of making me break all my own rules.” ❞