#like. they cant do xyz until theyre told that theyre intersex? until theyre diagnosed? at what point do you go from being tme to being tma | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

the-pea-and-the-sun · 3 months

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sry to engage w goofy ass discourse but im kinda tired of seeing the phrase "afab intersex people used as a gotcha" abt ppl who dont like phrases like tma and tme like. i dont think thats whats happening man ur talking like intersex ppl arent actively on the site and talking abt their own experiences we're not using ourselves as a gotcha. like a lot of intersex ppl r talking abt it themselves u dont gotta keep pretending we're a fringe hypothetical case. intersex ppl are just often not included in these types of conversations and applying a label to someone based on their agab is fucked up no matter what its just more obvious when you're an intersex person and you know that sex is not binary and your agab doesnt reveal some intrinsic truth abt ur biology or identity

#once again reiterating: if the terms tma and tme are useful to talk at ur own experiences thats fine i am not trying to take it from you #but a person's agab isnt something they need to tell anyone literally ever #which therefore means you cannot outwardly force a label onto someone based on their agab #their agab might factor into how they identify themselves but it shouldnt factor into how you catagorize another person #ive also heard some intersex ppl say that they WOULD find the terms tma and tme useful #if ppl werent constantly including a persons agab in their definitions #i know they are SUPPOSED to not be based on ur agab #but im constantly seeing afab getting conflated with tme and amab getting conflated w tma #so i just. dont feel comfortable having these terms used on me. bcz i know ppl will make assumptions abt my agab #and i dont feel that anyone is entitled to that information #like yeah it does affect my gender identity #but if u say 'if ur afab u cant do xyz' and then slap on a 'oh unless ur intersex'#then i dont think you actually have intersex people in mind #like. they cant do xyz until theyre told that theyre intersex? until theyre diagnosed? at what point do you go from being tme to being tma #if its anything other than a voluntary label then its just reassigning a new label based on someones agab #discourse /

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