#like holy shit responsibility

[writterings]

me with my 18 year old students that i teach at a college

[marzipanandminutiae]

tumblr when mental illness makes you withdraw from company: nobody has the right to expect anything of you! take care of yourself! if they don't forgive you and act like nothing happened when you come back into the world, it's on them, not you! it's so very kind of you if you deign to try and overcome this for the sake of those annoying, awful people, but you don't have to if you don't want to! poor lamb!

tumblr when mental illness makes you need reassurance that people don't hate you: you should work on that. you should learn to compromise. expecting anyone on the other side to expend even a little bit of effort to help you is selfish and horrible. maybe just die actually

(NOTE: THE POINT HERE IS THAT BOTH SIDES DESERVE A DEGREE OF GRACE FROM OTHERS AND BOTH SIDES SHOULD WORK ON THEIR ISSUES. I hate that I have to explain it, but this is the Piss on the Poor website, so...)

[lesbianfakir]

Reading through some of the results for my aspec survey and something that’s making me emotional is how many people feel as if they’re doomed to lonely futures because they don’t know anyone “like them.”

So many people have said something along the lines of how in the future they’d want to live with someone they care about, but they don’t feel they’d find anyone who wants this as well due to their identity—whether that’s being arospec or aspec. And there’s something poetic about so many people who feel alone in the world, and yet we’re all replying to the same survey. There are people out there like you, and there are people who will love you (or not love you) the way you want to be loved. We’re all out here in this crazy world and one day we’ll find each other.

[inkskinned]

im gonna start a fight; and, at the same time, i need you to take this in the most good-faith way possible, but:

videos that involve body-checking and intentionally (and uncritically) show a mealplan of an unhealthy number of calories are just a revamped version of pro-ana food diaries.

and yeah, i know there's arguments. i address some of them under the cut. but at the end of the day, we're just coming back to romanticizing mental illness; we've just found a better platform for it.

this is already something we've done. we knew it was wrong and tried to stop it. and tbh. it just wasn't enough.

there are people who argue "well, what if you have an eating disorder, you can't help it if you don't eat!" except that as someone with an ED; we are not infants. we know what we're doing. part of having an ED is that you are like, maybe too self-aware. even if we can't help our own food choices, we don't need to fucking romanticize the disorder - something we've been warning you about since 2013. there are hours of setup, filming, and editing that go into these videos. they do not happen to fall into place randomly. there is a reason they are pieced together to be beautiful, bright, inspiring.

there's this woman who pretty much only posts daily plans under a normal amount of calories, and everyone defends her saying but it's better than nothing! and i'm like. except she opens those with images of her showing off her body and provides no context in the video or caption that suggests that she believes what she's doing is unhealthy. she has hundreds of thousands of followers on a platform designed for young kids and teens. i refuse to believe that by accident her content just happens to be cheery advice on "healthy" versions of starving.

for any other symptom of mental illness, we would be incredibly enraged by this kind of placid acceptance of a "tips and tricks" fast-start guide. imagine if people posted pink & pretty videos saying "best places to cut yourself" as if it was a fucking storytime. we, as a society, are so fucking fatphobic that we would rather accept blatantly harmful displays of self harm than admit that we are obsessed with a hyper-thin body type.

i am not suggesting someone never talks about their disorder. i talk about mine. actually, it's a plot point in my book.

here's the difference: i recognize it's a fucking mental illness. i am very careful to never mention a specific weight, eating pattern, or calorie plan. i always make sure to position it as something that ruined my fucking life. i do not put cheery music in the background and hearts and sparkles over my worst moments. i do not film it in bright light. i do not start each passage with an image of a thin body followed by "here's how to look like her."

eating disorders should not be framed as aspirational. and the problem is that society worships the "after" image, so long as you don't get too sick. there is a reason so many people who quit being "influencers" will later admit - i wasn't eating well that whole time; an obsession with food was completely destroying my life.

we let any uncredited, uncertified person write the most backwards, fucked up shit about how to get the body you desire! because the underlying, secret belief is: well, at least they're thin! and the real thing that fucking gets me each time - they make fucking money off of it. their irresponsibility and societal harm literally pays off for them.

"why do you care so much." "don't like it don't look." "so what if people experiment with new ways of thinking of food?"

thank you for asking. we're about to get extremely personal. it's because when i was 18 i discovered "thinspiration"/"thinspo." and it absolutely influenced, shaped, and codified my pre-existing eating disorder. i went from having some troubling habits and traits to being incredibly unwell within what felt like a matter of days. there were actual pages designed to train me on how to have an ED correctly. it was all so suddenly easy. i was sick; and the nature of the illness meant - i wanted to be sicker.

it takes an average of 7 years for a person to fully recover. i know this personally - even now, 10 years from the worst of it, i still fucking struggle. i am so much happier now and i eat what i want and i literally don't think about food at all (19 year old me would shudder) and yet - i still fucking know the calories of plain toast with butter.

an eating disorder is one of the deadliest types of mental illness. over 1 in 4 people with an ED will attempt suicide.

and i'm sorry. i just do not see the exchange rate of "high rate of engagement" versus "the value of a human life."

[youareatragedy]

(Contains spoilers (?) of Empyrean series)

I just want to say that I will DNF the Empyrean series if Rebecca Yarros chooses to make Violet pregnant. Do NOT make Violet as dumb as Feyre (having a child while war is looming over their heads). Are you kidding me? The only way I will barely tolerate it is if by the end of the series, Violet finds out she’s pregnant or if there’s a two-page epilogue that simply like, "Yeah Violet and Xaden have two heirs" or something like that.

I know Rebecca Yarros got pregnant young, but I still have faith in you not to self-insert, Rebecca. I'm begging you.

ACOSF already made me hate the pregnancy trope so much (thanks SJM 👍). Seeing a couple who couldn’t even wait at least five years for Feyre—barely in her early 20s—to mature a little more, strategize, or do something useful to prevent the looming war before bringing a child into the world pisses me off so badly. Especially when they had that death pact?? The audacity to hand over the responsibility of raising that child to other people if they died?? Not to mention no matter how small, there’s a possibility the magic won’t choose Rhys’ children as the next rulers anyway? So this whole "we must have an heir ASAP" thing is what? An ego trip? Narcissistic traits that can no longer be contained and must continue in the form of biological children? Selfish af.

*takes a deep breath*

I genuinely hate the pregnancy trope. And all these weirdos thinking Violet being pregnant is okay when she's a leader of a revolution or that having a baby would somehow be a cure for veninness? Please... Stop. This isn’t the Handmaid’s Tale society. The main thing shouldn’t be having babies as heirs. An unborn child shouldn’t be burdened with healing the evil in the world or carrying the weight of their parents’ trauma (*cough* people who think Nesta would heal from the trauma of her mother’s abuse by being a mother herself and that Cassian would be such a great girl dad *cough*).

Also… are we the readers, really expected to sit through Violet cartwheeling on the back of a giant ass dragon while pregnant? Or should we just assume that the most powerful rider Violet, with two powerful dragons will be stuck sitting at home because of that pregnancy? She already has EDS and struggles to fight on that dragon without being pregnant, and people want her to be pregnant?? DURING ACTIVE WAR?? What is wrong with people? Pregnant people can’t even go on a rollercoaster, let alone wield lightning while trying not to throw up during a dragon flying maneuver. PLEASE. I-DONT-CARE if the majority of people wants Violet and Xaden to have babies. I will actually DNF that book.

[aroacedavestrider]

was talking with my dad about how much i loved the wiggles as a kid and i said “theres more of them now” thats IT and without missing a beat the dude sighs and goes "yeah, all that inclusionism diversity bullshit". like man are you fucking with me its the wiggles. be so forreal

[wyrm-town]

I’ve been looking through r/psychosis and occasionally similar subreddits and holy shit the people on there are so ungodly annoying and chronically unhelpful.

LITERALLY THE ONLY PIECE OF ADVICE THEY GIVE IS “TALK TO A PROFESSIONAL”

SHUT UPPPOP SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT THE FUCK UPI HATE ALL OF YOU SHUT THE FUCK UP SHUT UP

[lyss-butterscotch]

Mom : what's everyone up to this morning?

Me : drawing

Mom, unprompted : you took the wrong major then, we shouldve put you in architechture

My 'you shouldnt pay attention to other people's progress but look at this 20 yo japanese student with 5 businesses' mom everybody 👏

[gomzdrawfr]

want to join the fandom cause it seems fun seeing fanarts and you and others interacting but I don't know how...and with the whole ai thing im scared...

my advice: just do it

really! sometimes all you really need is a leap of faith, and that was exactly how I dropped into the cod fandom. When I joined the ghoap discord server I talked to one of the artist I really like and respected from my lurking time (hi @bressynonym) aaaand the rest is history

I didnt know how to draw properly, nor digitally, all I did was scribbling on OneNote (yeah!) and rambled about cod characters, it is daunting and it is scary to interact but after a while? you may just be able to find someone to brainrot together with

start small, like commenting, reblogging, talking, chatting- doesn't have to be towards artist/writers, it could be the art/fic enjoyers!

you need to put yourself out there if you want something

as to if you want to start in the fandom as a creator, here's some more tips (which are all based on my experience, I am no pro at doing this, hell Im still learning myself, and I am by no means speaking these on behalf on others!)

establish a goal: what are you making? fandom based? original creations?

as with starting new, everything may take a while for stuff to happen, you'll feel like you're speaking to the void at times (esp with original arts, but do know that your stuff do get perceive by others as time goes, I would advise to draw fandom stuff as a beginning to get that boost going if you want! or else it's going to be quite hard to get things rolling)

imo this is hardest part of any new creator, you'll have to bear with it and try not to give up (but I understand how incredibly demotivating it could get, there were times when I stopped posting about Raven entirely, but eventually I post it anyway cuz surely someone out there will like them, it just takes a lot of patiences and perseverance)

btw, engagement can also vary from time to time, you may be booming for a bit, then suddenly you dont, it is a cycle that will bound to happen

take rest regularly, and I mean a break from social media because numbers, discourse and everything can get to you, very quickly (I cannot emphasise this enough)

the numbers are not worth it over your mental health (comes with practice to really solidify this thought)

study the algorithm (pain): see what other creators are doing to get where they are, what tags are they using in their post? what features/niche do people like?(this is, if you really want to grab some form of engagement, bcuz reminder in the end you are creating art for yourself first!)

example: I think posts would get more reach if you tag it with the ship name first, followed by the characters' name (doesn't work all the time tho)

that's the thing about algorithm, it is ever-changing, and you'll have to learn to adapt with it when it does!

expanding on that, studying algorithm could be about ships (for example, ghostsoap is most popular in the fandom), or really good rendered art/flashed out fic that leaves your jaw on the floor, or ships that gets lesser attention in general which puts you, who make content about them, easier to be brought into the light (like Faralex)

bUT, it can also be personality!

(again, not saying this is meant for everyone and strictly from my own experience + what I observe) for me, I made up the lack of my art by establishing a personality: a wild panda who yaps about price and their oc and also kinda everywhere in the place (just like this post LOL), OR you're the person who named themselves after Soap's ash particle number OR you're the one who likes bottom Ghost- literally anything goes, you want to make an impression in different ways, some more funny/goofier than others but it works (be mindful and stay respectful tho, dont wanna be the asshole in the fandom now do ya?)

efforts ≠ engagement (not all the time, but most time) and this is a fact. Sometimes, you can't expect a piece you did for 10+ hours to get thousands views and likes, especially in a fandom space. You need to understand algorithm is that wonky. (very disheartening, but again, you make the art for you and the few others who genuinely likes them, and those people can go a long way) be mentally prepared for such events, and try not to beat yourself up too much for it

ultimately tho, do it, do it scared but do it anyways and again, draw the things that bring you joy, I hope these could be helpful in some ways!

[zivvis]

barbie doll gore mod where you can do his hair and put him in situations. it's exactly the same mod

[koterkot]

i'm probably a system but i have a job so idrc about that rn

[red-dyed-sarumane]

"At this time, thank you for viewing my new song 'Zako', as well as for all of your opinions on it.

I've received various concerns regarding the use of the vocaloid kaai yuki in the song, pointing out the messages in the lyrics and video are inappropriate.

As a result of everyone's concerns, as well as our own reconsiderations, we've decided the currently available 'Zako' MV will be made private, and a 'Zako Remake Version' will be reuploaded instead.

The remake version won't only be a revision of the problem areas, we're thinking on how to remove all of the various issues many people have raised so that the song and view can have a strong positive impact.

With careful consideration to your concerns, we want to come back able to release a work with an even better form.

We would appreciate if you could look forward to the 'Zako Remake Version'"

[nyanbinaryneferpitou]

How could you say that to him??

[lesbiansanemi]

Currently trying not to vomit over the fact that I essentially just lost almost a thousand dollars brb

[battle-subway-ghost]

>> Paris...? has connected.<<

[rat-rosemary]

Is it okay if i ask about the part of coffezilla that apeared in dream's video? I'm kinda confused bc tubbo says it's his money there but i don't get if that chances anything or not/gen

Oh yeah totally! Dream didn't use really anything other then some super cool graphics from coffezilla's video, but I did also watch the original as well!

I dont think any creator who made merch with that company is at fault.

On the video coffezilla talks about how the owner of the company would spend a lot of money on frivolous purchases, making it so he didn't have money to pay the creators.

Coffezila explains it well here:

But yes, creator A would be payed not with their profit, but with creators B's profits.

Tubbo actually appears in the video! A small clip of him vaguely taking about how no one will ever go to that company again with someone who I assume is a friend.

(Niki also appears in the video! Apparently she's owned 300k! Yikes!)

But no one is at fault for this other then the owner. Also, the second half of the video includes a lot of very upsetting accusations about that owner so, be careful if you choose to watch.