#like a list of the symptoms or whatever

[skyward-floored]

Hmm. Inch resting. Don't like that.

[fruity-hub-blog]

You know that whole "those who do not remember history are doomed to repeat it" thing?

This really is starting to look like TruePhan vs AntiPhan 2.

So maybe everyone should brush up on why that was such a disaster before we irradiate the Phandom for another 10 years.

I'm a cockroach here, but goddamn, even cockroaches get tired of being bombarded after a while.

[icewindandboringhorror]

sometimes looking at like Self Help Strategies lists for the symptoms I'm having is always just like:

thing that I already do

thing I have tried 10 times

thing I already do

thing that I don't have the money to do

thing I already do

thing I've been doing since I was 10yrs old to no avail

thing that is impossible given my situation

thing that doesn't apply to me

thing that I already do

thing I have already tried

hrmm, oh wait, maybe finally- OH, yeah.. okay. thing that I already do but it was just phrased slightly differently

thing I have already done

[mothman-did-nothing-wrong]

Okay was anyone gonna tell me that I was like actually shadowbanned or was I supposed to just find out after my friend jokingly brought it up

[septimus-heap]

Big fan of the idea that marcia genuinely is completely unaware that she's autistic and just thinks everyone else is being weird on purpose. Like she knows abt autism and that it exists but that's kind of it. She's absolutely convinced she is the most normal person in the room at any given time

[wren-kitchens]

yk when you can feel yourself starting to stop caring about stuff you love and you are White Knuckling through it because no I Will still love this so fucking help me

[themslash]

:/ laid low by the common cold again, my friends

[alexclaain]

I wish people would understand that it's such an incredible useless time investment to stress about wether you really have the diagnosis™ - you don't have to proof anything to be allowed to use the ressources shared online in the respective communities to help yourself get through life. I promise you, you're not "appropiating" or "faking" anything, symptoms tend to overlap between a vast variety of diagnoses and thus tips and tricks that can work do too.

I understand wanting to find the definite answer, but that road can be long and time intensive and exhausting - you don't need to suffer through it all without trying any of the ressources people with the diagnosis™ are already sharing online.

[seilon]

you know im realizing now. with the exception of a few resident psychiatrists, ive had like. no good experiences with mental health professionals

[allonsybadwolf]

One of my biggest pet peeves is people calling headaches migraines. Like I understand that headaches are really annoying and can be very painful, I get it, I have normal headaches too, but they are NOTHING. NOTHING. next to a migraine. My worst of the worst headache is a walk in the park compared to my migraines.

And I'm not gatekeeping anybody here. If someone tells me they have a migraine, yes, I believe you, I will respect that information and act accordingly.

But, as a migraine sufferer, when some people are talking about "migraines" in general, you can just tell. They're talking about headaches. THAT'S A HEADACHE.

And I really don't want to sound like I'm minimizing people who suffer from headaches because that sucks and I feel for them, it's just about using the correct words. You wouldn't say you broke your arm if you burned it while cooking. They're different things. They require different treatment.

AHHHHHHHHHHH

[lonesomedotmp3]

um what's a good pithy label for what we're doing this month. no more mental illness march. or something. anyway here are the plans:

- write my essays for the month (ONLY two. I can do that. I can do that!)

- get my fucking propranolol !!! and then be Normal forever maybe...

- attend all my classes from now on. this is a shaky one I'll also accept attending a solid 90%

- get my asoue books in two weeks and start a reread <3 and start a mini reading club w dizzy if they're still down...

- five minutes of tai chi every evening (been meaning to do this for ages and I started today and I already feel soooo much better #slay)

- start lost with beth 🫶

- get new hozier music, yellowjackets s2, and riverdale back (<- this will fix me and then I'll be fine forever btw)

- get a JOURNAL!!!! if you see a rapid drop of weird personal posts on your dash just know I am Fucking Journalling!!!!!!! everyone clap for no more mental illness march!!!!!

- I nearly forgot my birthday is this month. WHAT will I even do for that I haven't done stuff for my birthday in years but you know what it'd be nice to celebrate surviving another year 🤔 I'll be back home then too so we'll see. regardless you all better be sooooo nice to me in my inbox that day <3

[manygreetingsfriend]

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[nexus-nebulae]

stupid fucking broken body

[hollowedskin]

Love the fucking reasoning of ableists.

Oh yeah do you go to the doctor because you're feeling great with no problems? No you go because you're having fucking symptoms and you think you have the flu by deductive reasoning, and want that either confirmed or denied (and correctly diagnosed) based on the information you give and the doctor being your official expert on questions about health.

Why is it suddenly different for neurodivergency? Nobody goes to a therapist because they have no issues and aren't being impacted in their lives. Fuck OFF.

a while ago i attended this lecture on autism. guy in the audience said he had many of the symptoms that were presented and asked what should he do to get treatment and possibly a diagnosis. instead of answering his question the psychologist went on a tangent about how “the clinic reigns all powerful over guesswork”, and how actually it has become a trend amongst little children on the internet to claim that they are autistic for cool points, and that this hurts real autistic people. no she didn’t tell him how to get his symptoms looked into, she just made it very clear that to her, aknowledging your own symptoms is bad and evil and hurts the poor real mentally ill people.

an ex-friend of mine, then a psychology major and by now probably a full psychologist, once lectured me on how horrible and bad it was that i told her “i probably have some sort of neurodivergency”, and that if i were her patient she would never give me a diagnosis because “you aren’t like this now, but i know that if you get a diagnosis you’ll use it as an excuse to start treating people badly. that’s just how mentally ill people are.”

same ex-friend was extremely disgusted when she found out that fans sometimes make neurodivergency headcanons for characters that have the same symptoms as they do, and that authors sometimes write books with neurodivergent protagonists in stories that don’t focus on that (ex: she seemed horrified that percy jackson has adhd?)

multiple psychologists i’ve seen on facebook agree that they should refuse to treat patients that say “i’m here because i have symptoms of a disorder and wonder if i have it”, and that a patient should arrive to a psychologist as a blank slate.

school psychologist asked me how i was feeling about my trauma situation and i told him i thought my friends would leave me. instead of addressing the issue he said that that no i didn’t, that i was lying, that i had searched “bpd symptoms” online and now i was faking symptoms because i wanted to have bpd, that he shouldn’t have told me he suspected i had a personality disorder because now look what was happening. no, i didn’t search bpd symptoms online. yes, my friends left me, it was a completely founded belief and not a symptom, let alone a faked symptom.

so the next time you hear someone saying they’re “anti self-diagnosis” i want you to understand what they’re saying. what they’re saying is:

- i don’t want people to be aware of their own symptoms

- i don’t think my patients should have access to any information that doesn’t come from me

- i don’t think neurodivergent people should learn how to cope with their symptoms and live “normal” lives

- i think neurodivergent people should be denied a diagnosis because the moment they get one they will become evil and dangerous

- i don’t think people who don’t look like a stereotype could possibly be neurodivergent, even if they have all the symptoms, so i think they are faking it for attention and should be denied treatment

[imabiscuitinthousandworlds]

having even more Realisations tonight. these ones are helpful rather than uncomfortable though. they do however raise the question of "how could i be this oblivious i was such an idiot"

[chatonmagique]

I'm discussing neurodiversity with a friend and she actually suspects she has adhd. I might have all the experience of adhd but who am I to judge right? But the thing is.. she has such strong qualities in area's that are challenging for people with adhd. And I feel like her definition of disorder because she is so balanced and organized in everything she does is on a whole different level. Like she is used to following through in her calculated choices and sticks to her habits more then almost any person I've known and it really sticks out to her when she doesn't. And her definition of I might have adhd is "I've always been dreamy and get distracted by my own thoughts when I'm supposed to be paying attention when someone is talking" Which IS a hallmark of adhd. But I can't feel help but feel.. misunderstood? Because I feel like she underestimates what it means to actually live with adhd. And it's such a fundamental aspects of my life that I know she'd be damn good in masking and overcompensating most adhd symptoms if she had it. I feel a little stupid for letting me bother it, but it still does? Maybe more because she is a close friend of mine.