#let that shit go

[mrs-provacateur]

Reminder: Stop putting so much effort into people who are fine with going months and years without seeing you..😞

[daziechane]

You’re Allowed to Lose Interest—Even If You’ve Poured Time Into It

At some point, we all outgrow something we once loved. Maybe it’s a hobby, a community, a show, or a career path. You used to be all in—spending time, energy, maybe even money—but now? Not so much.

The problem is, we convince ourselves we have to stay interested because we’ve already put in so much effort. (I'm lookin' at you, knitting) That’s the sunk cost fallacy talking, and it’s a load of crap.

"Marie Kondo" Your Interests

Marie Kondo says to get rid of things that don’t spark joy. Great advice for cleaning out your junk drawer or closet (ratty old hoodies, you no longer spark joy), but even better advice for your time and energy. If something no longer excites you, you don’t have to keep forcing it. You’re not obligated to stay interested in something forever just because you once were.

Sunk Costs Are Sunk—Let Them Go

The sunk cost fallacy is that little asshole voice whispering, But I’ve already spent years on this. I can’t just quit now! Except, yes, you can. Just because you’ve put time or money into something doesn’t mean you owe it a lifetime commitment. The only thing that matters is whether it still adds value to your life now. If it doesn’t, cut your losses and move on.

And yeah, we’ve all heard “Nobody likes a quitter.” But let’s be honest- nobody likes a miserable, burned-out jackwagon clinging to something out of sheer stubbornness, either. Quitting isn’t failure. It’s just refusing to keep throwing good time after bad.

Stop Making Up Dramas to Fill the Void

Here’s another thing I’ve noticed: When a steady source of content or engagement dries up—whether it’s a creator going silent, a group fizzling out, or a passion just fading—people lose their gotdamm minds. Instead of accepting the quiet, they start making up stories. And not just any stories—escalating, over-the-top, apocalyptic stories.

Did they disappear because of a scandal? Was there a secret feud? Is something awful happening behind the scenes? MIND CONTROL??!

No. Sometimes, things just stop. People move on. Not everything needs a grand conspiracy behind it. But because silence makes us uncomfortable, we scramble to fill it—even if that means manufacturing a crisis.

You don’t have to do that. You don’t have to buy into it, either. If something fades away, let it. If someone stops posting or participating, maybe they just had other shit to do. It’s not always a mystery to solve.

You’re Allowed to Change

Interests aren’t life sentences. You can be obsessed with something for years and then wake up one day and realize you just… don’t care anymore. And that’s fine. You can always pick it back up later, or not (still lookin at you, knitting). Either way, you don’t owe anyone (including past you) an explanation.

So if something no longer excites you, don’t force it. Just move tf on. There’s something better waiting on the other side of that empty space.

[princess-kurosaki]

the truth is.. i have no idea what direction my life is going. have no clue what my future plans are, i never planned on sticking around this long. i was so worried.. trying to come up with goals, and idk my next move.

but fuck that.

my only “goal” and my only “life plan for the future” is to keep seeing tomorrow, and to keep creating memories, to live for the nights i won’t remember with people that i can’t forget. that’s all. just wanna keep seeing tomorrow.

so, here’s to more love for life, and whatever the fuck it comes with.

[katcantstopthinking]

if writing letters to people that will never receive them is the only sense of consultation and closure that you can get, then get that pen and paper out and write. Talk to the moon. Speak with the stars. Whisper to the sea. Then forget about it. Burn the letter, bury it, walk away. If they cannot hear what you have to say then let it be known to something. To your notebook, to the sky, to the birds, or the trees.

Let. That. Shit. Go.

[platinum-iridium]

still kills me that so many people have a fundamental misunderstanding about how their bodies can (visibly) change.

there's literally only two ways. you can grow muscles by using them (or lose them by not using them). you can gain or lose fat by eating more or less. where you store or lose fat is determined by your hormones and genetics, that's it.

your bone structure and fat distribution isn't something you have control over. you can make significant changes to your body with the levers you can pull but there are some things that will never change. you need to make peace with that

[mariamystika]

[sexwithamanda]

Let that shit go!!!!

Episode #8924

Now that I've had the chance to read this book, I highly recommend that anyone and everyone take the time to read a self-help book.

After reading a book that makes me feel good inside, I always feel that we tend to overanalyze what we actually feel, so here I am to tell you my take.

This book was quite eye-opening, as of the aftermath of reading I now can notice right away when my mind will wander or not be focused as much as it could be.

I do have ADHD but it's liveable now I have been taught how to observe my chatty mind, my thoughts, what matters, and the bullshit we can just throw away.

This year has led me to beautiful reads, and beautiful relationships with my friends, significant other, and so much more, and being present with them is what it helps teach me.

I was taking a ride with my boyfriend and he was like are you good, I didn't tell him but I was fixated on the fact that I saw a girl message him because I needed to soothe myself.

He has friends that have girls and I have friends that are guys. I just think about how lucky they are to be friends with us. I know that he loves me but sometimes I have to remind myself that this thought of jealousy needs to blow over, I feel it and then I let that shit go.

My boyfriend loves me and then I get myself to a happy place, I know that it can be difficult, especially with the type of social media we are consuming daily of.

But it needs to be a good little breather to get away from your person and have a life beyond them.

Just like friends, recently one of my good friends was being very negative. I've read those people who are continuously negative/sad around you can drain your energy.

I would spend hours just listening to them rant, and I thought it was helping them but in reality, it wasn't. Studies show that ruminating with negative feelings for a long time is bad for your health and bad for your attraction to friends.

I understand that it can be difficult sometimes to go through things and who better than your friends to lean on when things get hard. I think the problem was, is that sometimes we have a hard time telling our friends that their problems are too much for their mental capacity. In that instance, I always ask before I dump a load of feelings I have to my friends. But, this friend is sad all the time, and it's not because of me but I can't help them.

I am not a licensed therapist yet.

The problem is that I had a conversation with them over the phone about it because I said that money is the problem as well and then they tried to get me another job. I thought about it, and I felt bad because it wasn't my intention to make it about that.

(that friend and i are still close)

I actually just don't like my energy being drained by sadness when I tend to always be happy. I just don't have the energy to be sad, there is too much to be grateful, happy for, and blessed in every chance of my life I have.

I can't transfer that to someone else, if they don't want to be happy, or don't actively do things that make them happy I can't put that burden on myself. It's good to be there for your friends but not to the point where it makes you feel like you are negative and sad all the time too.

Back to the book, anyway what I am really getting at is that you, yes YOU are the only person who can change yourself, and get you to where you want to be.

My favorite thing about this book explains how you need to take care of yourself, you are the most important and if you've been a people pleaser so much of your life, you need to unlearn this because you deserve a life where you are taken care of by the ones you call friends and family too.

Take care of your needs and let them be known, life is too short not to care for the most important person in your life, YOU.

I felt relieved reading this book because it made me understand that all I've been doing or striving to do is okay, and failing is a part of life so embrace it, and sometimes you need to embrace people for who they are, let it go. Do things that make you happy, understand your people, and love them unconditionally.

Thank you for reading this far, if you have and I send you lots of love and happiness this week, this day, this year, this month, and forevermore.

Mahal Kita,

Amanda

[ztremx]

[thestonerwitch]

It’s a Full Moon y’all. You know what to do 🌕✨

[feralchaton]

You have changed; you have grown.

You have already shed the skin they may try to get under.

Those who try to pull you down are already beneath you.

Those trying to hold you back are already behind you.

[poetry-protest-pornography]

[wonderingfree-blogging]

Is it worth it?

Hey friends! Red here ❣️💋

Goddess has been oh so good to me 🙏🏼

But something must be going on with the planets y’all…

The reason I say it like that, is because things have really been going left field in my life lately. I haven’t been getting good sleep, my mental health medications haven’t been working the way that they normally do, and are supposed to. I have been struggling with other significant issues that I do not feel comfortable sharing here, in this moment, and I honor myself today, so I will stick to that personal boundary 💕

Despite all of that, Goddess has shown up in my life lately in a way that is showing me that all of the things that are taking up space in my precious energy field, should absolutely not be. Hekate is basically screaming at this point, “LET THAT SHIT GO!!!”

I think we can all take away from Hekate’s personal message to me. I believe majority of humans allow things to affect them greatly that they really have no control over. But that is so much easier said than done! So, I am going to share a few questions that were channeled to me from Hekate, to ask myself when I am holding onto something, that is affecting me negatively.

Why are you holding onto this?

What will you gain from holding onto this?

What will you gain if you let this go?

Let this go for a day, knowing and trusting that all will be perfectly well if you do, and document how freeing it feels

Let that shit go…

[msjuicyjbuttrtflykisses]

[lunaferal]

[zombocomme]

Write about imperfect characters. Characters who have toxic habits. You are not obligated to make a moral example of your stories. Write what you want to read!

Don't be discouraged if it doesn't hit the right audience.

Write about a character struggling with mental health.

Write about a character that makes bad decisions out of anger and spite.

Write about a character that hopelessly struggles against things stronger than them and is losing.

Write about a character that is in pain, and needs help.

Write about the complex hypocrycies inherent in the human experience.

Write about a character experiencing a trope, seeing it, feeling it, there's a reason these stories hold on to us so tightly.

Do the thing.

It's OK if your writing isn't welcome in one space, there is another.

Go ahead. Write that self insert, that reprocessing experienceof childhood trauma. Write that!

Stories want to be told. And you deserve to tell yours.

You deserve to think of ideas and invest in them because you just fucking want to. Indulge in it.

Because,

You are loved, you are worthy. And you are allowed to exist in those imaginary spaces between the lines you read and write.

Go be cringe.

Learn to find and write for the audience YOU want to read this. Even if it's only you, I promise.

So,

Get over the cringe factor. Promise not to over edit, and go read your old stuff.

See that?

Look how far you've come. For better, worse, or indifferent, this is you on this dam planet. Please, accept your moments in the sun.

Please, indulge in the depths in the shaddows.

Please, do the thing.

(Even if I don't like it it's OK, I'm still proud of you)

-Zombo

Friendly reminder that you should

Write that fic

Draw your OC

Redesign that blorbo

Plan that comic how you want

Create the content you want to see

Be cringe

Be free

The only thing that matters is you having fun! Not what others think!

[stranger-exclusive]

Over here in the corner on my break FARTIN