#learn and live and heal and grow

[dreamerdrop]

I don’t talk about my love for Kira Nerys too often because. Look. I think if DS9 handles anything well, it’s Kira, hands down.

Her character development is a work of art. She is so traumatised, so angry, so beaten down and STILL FIGHTING at the start. She struggles so much with her PTSD, with the idea that she is ever allowed to be in anything but attack mode…

And then, slowly, gradually, she becomes a whole new person. She laughs, she smiles, she makes corny jokes, she does dumb fun things for the sake of enjoying herself. She has friends, she has a family, she is surrounded by love and joy and HOPE.

Even in the middle of second war, she’s DIFFERENT now. She’s not the same miserable angry person she was, afraid to let go of the vigilant surivival instincts that kept her alive for so long. She’s come back to life as a person who has something to live for.

She has done terrible things. Her hands are stained with blood. She is never going to be able to forget her trauma or the suffering, both her own and that of her people, nor the suffering she inflicted while fighting for her freedom. But she recovers. She heals. She carves out an existence where she is truly, genuinely happy to be alive.

I don’t need to talk about Kira as much as some other characters because this all happens on screen. It’s right there, and it’s beautiful and perfect.

Kira Nerys goes from a person who cannot conceive of herself outside of the horrors she has suffered, inflicted, and fought against, to someone for whom her trauma is just one part of the larger picture, a piece of a rich and vibrant tapestry that is now filled, overwhelmingly, with joy.

Kira Nerys is like, hands down, bar none, one of, if not THE best characters Star Trek has ever created. I love her so much. She is just, completely and utterly perfect, especially in her flaws.

[taketwoinink]

...

NOPE!

I REFUSE

I made uquiz to attempt to determine if you would make a good immortal.

[adh-d2]

"Clone Force 99 died with Tech"

Oh god, he's thought that the whole time, hasn't he? It's the reason he's convinced he's irredeemable. Because the worst happened while they were trying to rescue him from his choices and there's nothing he can do to make it unhappen. The glass can't be unshattered. His brother is still dead.

[remarkablebookbean]

Tbh if the mha villains end up dead without good conclusions I’m rioting

[kirkwallguy]

HOW ANDERS AND MARCUS DOING are they together, did they separate their ways, is markus sheltering an apostate bf. are they happy together and have insane gay sex because gods know they deserve it

things are uncertain and turbulent for a looong time with them just because of how difficult their situation is, but as of a few years after the events of dai they are married and live in a little cottage on the outskirts of some village <3 anders is accepted as an apostate healer after saving the life of a child in the village while marcus helps out with random farm work and everyone loves his weird autism creature ass. they have a kitty cat and grow their own herbs for poultices.

[fallenwarriorrising]

But if I hadn't done what I did, the way I did it, I might have never earned the kindness, the maturity, the depth of perception I pride myself for today. I might have never awoken the deep reserves of love lying dormant within me if I hadn't made the mistakes that broke me.

And I think the scars will have to be okay because they are reminders of what I stand to lose if I were to repeat my past mistakes. I'm living this life for the first time. I wish I'd known better, but I didn't. So it will have to be okay.

[thetwilightroadtonightfall]

I am the happiest person on earth right now because I just went out with a friend to grab a late lunch and it was just supposed to be a quick casual catch up thing that turned into a 4 hour conversation in the car about things that happened to us almost a decade ago 🥲

[the-desert-beast]

okay im putting him in the blender again

once again thinking about how Maelgwyn without a long-term partner- in general, but for this post let's go with "It didn't work out with Trahearne" path- Would've run himself into the ground as a "living weapon."

When he meets The Pact he's fully in his persona as The Desert Beast, a legendary bounty hunter the hometown hero, man and mythos etcetcetc he's having SO MANY PROBLEMS he cant even identify; He runs. He avoids. He drowns it out. It takes someone else loving him for him to start loving himself enough to work to solve the problems he's been ignoring for decades.

If it's just him and himself? eh not worth it. "i've pulled myself out of hell before i can do it again. life is suffering thats how its always been." this is just the status quo and like fuck he loves himself as he is enough to fix it.

so imagine That Guy, who only feels good- or fuck- feels anything at all when he can help someone else by fighting. when he can bleed, pant, sweat. Suffer on his own terms, feel the adrenaline course through his veins, the fire beneath his skin. that high? and he gets to feel it often whilst fighting to save the world? that's hard to pass up when he fucked up irreparably with another, suffocatingly attractive person.

He'd turn into a myth, a legend, made real on tyria's own earth and soil. A husk.

By soto i think he'd be empty if he even lived that long. Something about maelgwyn is that, until he gets it through his thick skull that his partner values HIM and not the things he does or what he can offer them but that they love and value HIMSELF first and foremost, he looks for ways to sacrifice himself for them. He doesn't do it on purpose, he truly believes in his heart for the longest time that if it's ever him or the one he loves; he's dying for them. The world is brighter with them in it, he can disappear any day now, that's fine.

He does not do this conciously. He puts himself in danger without thinking twice if it's "for them." (he unlearns this in his primary ships. most of them, they're battle couples, he fights WITH them instead of for them these days.)

I'm imagining that guy, dragged from battle to battle, to medic to medic, to battle again. until he's dead.

[crandberrysaucewithpulp]

we should all be done with trying to smear our distinctive qualities into the dent of societal normalcy. i am going to seek every weirdo freak and nerd and assemble them into a union to rival insecure conformists, and then convert them into their own authenticity

[wittyworm]

taino teachings are realigning my entire mindset. everything is. making more and more sense the more i read. Yoka hu (the father) and Ata Bey ( the mother) are both inside me . spiritually and physically. i have always said, for many years that i did not understand the concept of gender how this society is teaching it, because i am both my father and mother in body and spirit, but also wholly myself, and i need to respect myself, and how i've been feeling for so so long. it's all making so much sense.

[moonilit]

having so much emotions over Jote and Joshua I can’t even articulate, like

[windsails]

im feeling sooo good lately. a few years ago i was like a complete wreck i cared too much about what people thought and didn’t have a plan to improve my life or anything, i was just drifting aimlessly. and now??? now i swear i am learning and growing everyday and wonderful coincidences keep happening to show i’m living consciously and moving in a better and better direction all the time, like i’m honing in on better and better futures everyday. feels so good, because as i travel from discovery to discovery i also keep growing as a person. but the best part is, i know this movement is already the end goal. i will keep doing it forever

[the-acid-pear]

One of the most beautiful things Deltarune story has is the fact that you cannot remove its tragedy, because it's thru that very same that hope and love is born. You cannot change the past but you can take what you learnt and thru it build a brighter future.

[pondscummy]

real burn that bridge when we come to it hours tonight

[harmonyhealinghub]

Embracing Redemption: A Journey to Healing Regret and Embracing Your Past Mistakes Shaina Tranquilino February 27, 2024

Regret is a powerful and universal emotion that everyone experiences at some point in their lives. Whether it's a decision that led to unintended consequences or a choice that we wish we could take back, regret has a way of lingering in our minds, casting a shadow on our present and future. However, it's important to recognize that healing from regret is not only possible but also a crucial step toward personal growth and self-discovery. In this blog post, we will explore the process of healing regret and how to embrace your past mistakes as catalysts for positive change.

Acceptance: The first step towards healing regret is accepting the reality of your past mistakes. It's natural to feel a range of emotions – guilt, shame, disappointment – but dwelling on these feelings without acceptance can hinder your ability to move forward. Acknowledge your actions, take responsibility for them, and understand that mistakes are a part of the human experience.

Learn and Reflect: Mistakes, no matter how painful, are valuable lessons in disguise. Take the time to reflect on the circumstances that led to your decisions and understand the underlying motivations. What can you learn from the experience? How can you use this knowledge to make better choices in the future? Learning from your mistakes transforms regret into a tool for personal development.

Practice Self-Compassion: It's essential to be kind to yourself during the healing process. Understand that everyone makes mistakes, and self-compassion is crucial for personal growth. Avoid self-criticism and negative self-talk, as these only perpetuate feelings of regret. Treat yourself with the same empathy and understanding you would offer a friend facing a similar situation.

Seek Forgiveness: If your mistakes have affected others, seeking forgiveness can be a crucial step in the healing process. Apologize sincerely, express remorse, and be open to understanding the impact of your actions on those around you. While forgiveness may not be immediate or guaranteed, the act of seeking it demonstrates your commitment to growth and change.

Focus on the Present: While it's essential to learn from the past, dwelling on it excessively can hinder your ability to enjoy the present and plan for the future. Shift your focus to the present moment, appreciating the opportunities for positive change that exist every day. Set realistic goals, cultivate healthy habits, and surround yourself with supportive relationships.

Embrace Change: Regret can serve as a powerful catalyst for change. Use it as motivation to redefine your priorities, values, and goals. Embracing change requires a willingness to step outside your comfort zone, but it also opens the door to new possibilities and opportunities for personal and professional growth.

Healing regret and embracing your past mistakes is a transformative journey that requires self-reflection, acceptance, and a commitment to positive change. By learning from your mistakes, practicing self-compassion, seeking forgiveness, and focusing on the present, you can turn regret into a stepping stone toward a more fulfilling and purposeful life. Remember, your past does not define you, but your ability to grow from it shapes your future.

[streetdumpster]

I think (as much as I annoyingly complain and whine about not having a partner) being single this long has been good for me. I'm learning a lot about myself and I'm learning why I was a shit person, and through finding the root of the problem I can kind of... start to heal. I can be nicer to myself so I can grow and get better. Because TBH.. being mean and cruel to yourself doesn't make you become a better person. It just makes you believe that thats what you /are,/ and thats what you /always will be,/ as opposed to realizing that you are a product of your circumstances but that does not mean you can't get better and become a better person. Accepting help and trying to get better so you can eventually love yourself – even if no one else does – is the greatest and loveliest thing you can do for yourself. You deserve that love, you exist and you live and you feel and that is a truly beautiful gift.