#kim saeed

[seeking-phantoms]

If you are In a relationship that is toxic and the individual is a**sive in any way and you need out but don’t know what to do, read:

“How to do No Contact Like a Boss” by Kim Saeed

Download a sample first from Amazon to see if it will help you. And if that first paragraph resonates with you, buy the ebook to help you.

If you think you need out, most likely you do. I’m not a therapist but someone who is in the middle of the storm currently and finding the help that I need to make the best choice for me and my recovery and mental health.

Remember:

YOU ARE NOT AND NEVER ALONE.

[asoftepiloguemylove]

on death and rebirth

Ottessa Moshfegh My Year of Rest and Relaxation / @fadedkawasaki / 重庆森林 Chungking Express (1994) dir. 王家卫 Wong Kar-wai / Saeed Jones How We Fight for Our Lives / Katie Maria The Memory of a Memory / Ursula Le Guin Dragonfly; The Tales from Earthsea / 벌새 House of Hummingbird (2018) dir. 김보라 Kim Bora / pinterest

[yazan-kalem-siyah06]

En eski hikâyedir Kadın;

Saçından iktidar,

makyajından medeniyet devşirilen...

“Erkek” ve “Erken” kelimelerinin arasında nefes almaya çalışırken Kadın;

Boynunda cinsiyet künyesi,

alnında namus fünyesi,

dünya'nın orta yerinde,

ortasından taşır kederi…

Aşık olunası,

hatta aşktan öldürülesidir nazarda...

Bu yüzden yaşayan her kadına ölü bir çiçek,

ölen her kadına canlı bir çam ağacı hak görülür başucuna...

Herkes yaşamı boyunca

bir kadını öldürür hattı zatında...

Kimi doğururken,

kimi doğurduğu tarafından...

Kimi alın terinde boğar,

kimi şehvetine adak tutar...

Bazıları çok severek,

bazıları hiç sevmeyerek öldürür...

Bazen de yok sayarak

dizlerinin üzerine düştüğü caddelerde,

Kim vurduya sarılarak gönüllü linç'in ellerinde...

Ahir hakkı töredir, gelenektir, günahtır...

Altından da örse huzuru,

Kuyumcuda bozdurulur gülüşü…

Kendi yuvası açık cezaevi,

sokakta namusu saman alevi…

Yürüse suç,

ağlasa ayıp,

koşsa edepsiz

ve ölse kadersiz…

Kadın olmak yağmuru doğurup,

Yıldırımda alev almak gibi bir zûl mevsimidir...

Bayrak diken,

zehir biçen,

ırmak ören kadınlar…

Torna yürekli,

keman saçlı,

bağlama kaşlı

köy bakışlı,

kent yorgunu

evlat vurgunu,

koca şehidi kadınlar…

Acısı sendikasız,

sözü pankartsız,

düşü yasak,

yolu tutsak...

Kadınsa haykıran, sesi uzak…

Şimdi bir bulut al kendi payına,

Bir kadının kaderini kuşan hayat namına,

Bir dakika katlanabilirsen onun yerinde...

Yerinde;

Onsuz huzur olmadığını anlayacaksın..

Herkes bir şeyler söyledi kendine göre;

bir kadın döktüre döktüre susuyordu...

“İnsan esasen ne erkektir ne de dişi...

Cinsiyetin farklı olmasının amacı,

cinse özgü biçim farkını oluşturmak olmayıp yalnızca üremeye yarar…”

-Marie Le Jars de Gournay-

《Kadınlarla Erkeklerin Eşitliği Üzerine》

Ressam: Saeed Panahzade

İranlı ressam (1975-)

[battyaboutbooksreviews]

Books by BIPOC Authors August 2023

🦇 I grew up surrounded by a melting pot of cultures, diverse communities, and unique experiences. Despite the different sources of those multicultural voices, their stories still covered universal topics of colonialism, migration, identity, and race. Each story was another flavor, another sweet spice adding to that melting pot. Today, we have books by BIPOC authors that put those unique voices to the page. If you're interested in traveling to different worlds, whether familiar or foreign, here are a few books by BIPOC authors to add to your TBR! 🦇

✨ Tomb Sweeping by Alexandra Chang ✨ The Dark Place by Britney S. Lewis ✨ Forged by Blood by Ehigbor Okuson ✨ Accidentally in Love by Danielle Jackson ✨ A Council of Dolls by Mona Susan Power ✨ Still Born by Guadalupe Nettel, translated by Rosalind Harvey ✨ The Injustice of Place: Uncovering the Legacy of Poverty in America by Kathryn J. Edin, H. Luke Shaefer, Timothy J. Nelson ✨ Hangman by Maya Binyam ✨ The Heaven & Earth Grocery Store by James McBride (Historical Fiction) ✨ Under the Tamarind Tree by Nigar Alam ✨ Vampires of El Norte by Isabel Cañas ✨ An American Immigrant by Johanna Rojas Vann

🧭 Forgive Me Not by Jennifer Baker 🧭 Two Tribes by Emily Bowen Cohen 🧭 A Quantum Life: My Unlikely Journey from the Street to the Stars by Hakeem Oluseyi and Joshua Horwitz 🧭 Writing in Color: Fourteen Writers on the Lessons We've Learned (edited by) Nafiza Azad and Melody Simpson 🧭 Ghost Book by Remy Lai 🧭 The Water Outlaws by S.L. Huang 🧭 Plantains and Our Becoming by Melania Luisa Marte 🧭 Forty Words for Love by Aisha Saeed 🧭 The Great White Bard: How to Love Shakespeare While Talking About Race by Farah Karim-Cooper 🧭 Take the Long Way Home by Rochelle Alers 🧭 Swim Home to the Vanished by Brendan Shay Basham 🧭 Actually Super by Adi Alsaid

✨ Never a Hero by Vanessa Len ✨ I Fed Her to the Beast and the Beast is Me by Jamison Shea ✨ The Infinity Particle by Wendy Xu ✨ Night of the Living Queers, edited by Shelly Page ✨ Sign of the Slayer by Sharina Harris ✨ Her Radiant Curse by Elizabeth Lim ✨ My Father the Panda Killer by Jamie Jo Hoang ✨ Barely Floating by Lilliam Rivera ✨Happiness Falls by Angie Kim ✨ A Tall Dark Trouble by Vanessa Montalban ✨ Neverwraith by Shakir Rashaan ✨ House of Marionne by J. Elle

[cloudbeam]

Do you have any book recommendations?

I know this is late but these, lately:

This Is How You Lose the Time War - Amal El-Mohtar & Max Gladstone

Animal - Lisa Taddeo

Your Emergency Contact Has Experienced an Emergency - Chen Chen

My Heart Is A Chainsaw - Stephen Graham Jones

In the Dream House - Carmen Maria Machado

Bliss Montage: Stories - Ling Ma

When Breath Becomes Air - Paul Kalanithi

A Cruelty Special to Our Species - Emily Jungmin Moon

On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous & Time is a Mother - Ocean Vuong

Catalog of Unabashed Gratitude - Ross Gay

Alive At the End Of the World - Saeed Jones

And lately, anything by Kim Addonizio. Of course Gabor Maté’s In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, but it’s not a “leisure” read, just a perpetual reread for my own recovery. Beloved, as always. And my lit tag is full of (mostly poetry) but also prose excerpts I adore. <3

[bookclub4m]

Episode 182 - Lyric Poetry

This episode we’re talking about the format of Lyric Poetry! We talk about reading poetry out loud, translation, French Canadian dialects, and more!

You can download the podcast directly, find it on Libsyn, or get it through Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, or your favourite podcast delivery system.

In this episode

Anna Ferri | Meghan Whyte | Matthew Murray | Jam Edwards

Things We Read (or tried to…)

Entre Rive and Shore by Dominique Bernier-Cormier

Let Us Believe in the Beginning of the Cold Season: Selected Poems by Forugh Farrokhzad, translated by Elizabeth T. Gray Jr

Ledger: Poems by Jane Hirshfield

Rapture by Carol Ann Duffy

Goldenrod: Poems by Maggie Smith 

Good Bones: Poems by Maggie Smith 

Alive At The End Of The World by Saeed Jones

The World Keeps Ending, and the World Goes on by Franny Choi 

No Matter the Wreckage by Sarah Kay 

White Pine: Poems and Prose Poems by Mary Oliver

Bless the Daughter Raised by a Voice in Her Head by Warsan Shire

Le premier coup de clairon pour réveiller les femmes immorales by Rachel McCrum

The Hurting Kind by Ada Limón

The Arkansas Testament by Derek Walcott 

Alive at the End of the World by Saeed Jones

Other Media We Mentioned

The Bronze Horseman by Alexander Pushkin

19 Ways of Looking at Wang Wei: With More Ways by Eliot Weinberger

The Raven by Edgar Allan Poe

“The Fish” by Elizabeth Bishop

When We Were Very Young by A. A Milne

Where the Sidewalk Ends by Shel Silverstein  

The Inferno of Dante: A New Verse Translation by Dante Alighieri, translated by Robert Pinsky

All Def Poetry 

milk and honey by rupi kaur

One Piece by Eiichiro Oda

Trailer for Netflix show

“Poetry Is Not a Luxury” by Audre Lorde (pdf)

Links, Articles, and Things

Lyric poetry (Wikipedia)

The Writer's Block

The Midnight Library: Episode 001 - Halloween Poetry

Chiac (Wikipedia)

Plasco Building (Wikipedia)

30 Recent Poetry Collections by BIPOC Authors

Every month Book Club for Masochists: A Readers’ Advisory Podcasts chooses a genre at random and we read and discuss books from that genre. We also put together book lists for each episode/genre that feature works by BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, & People of Colour) authors. All of the lists can be found here.

This booklist features books from BIPOC poets published in the past three years.

Chrome Valley by Mahogany L. Browne

Feast by Ina Cariño

Your Emergency Contact Has Experienced an Emergency by Chen Chen

Girls That Never Die: Poems by Safia Elhillo

Content Warning: Everything by Akwaeke Emezi

I Do Everything I'm Told by Megan Fernandes

Living Nations, Living Words: An Anthology of First Peoples Poetry edited by Joy Harjo

Song of my Softening by Omotara James

Spells, Wishes, and the Talking Dead / Mamaht́wisiwin, Pakos̊yimow, Nikihci-́niskot́ṕn : Poems by Wanda John-Kehewin

Burning Like Her Own Planet by Vandana Khanna

Phantom Pain Wings by Kim Hyesoon, translated by Don Mee Choi

Bianca by Eugenia Leigh

Finna by Nate Marshall

Slam Coalkan Performance Poetry: The Condor and the Eagle Meet edited by Jennifer Murrin

God Themselves by Jae Nichelle

You Are Only Just Beginning: Lessons for the Journey Ahead by Morgan Harper Nichols

I’m Always So Serious by Karisma Price

Homie by Danez Smith

Blood Snow by dg nanouk okpik

Promises of Gold/Promesas de Oro by José Olivarez with translation by David Ruano

That Was Now, This is Then by Vijay Seshadri

it was never going to be okay by jaye simpson

Dark Testament by Crystal Simone Smith

Unshuttered: Poems by Patricia Smith

Falling Back in Love with Being Human: Letters to Lost Souls by Kai Cheng Thom

Femme in Public by Alok Vaid-Menon

Time Is a Mother by Ocean Vuong

Find Her. Keep Her. by Renaada Williams

Rupture Tense by Jenny Xie

From From by Monica Youn

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Fill out the form to ask for a recommendation or suggest a genre or title for us to read!

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Join us again on Tuesday, September 19th it’s time for our One Book One Podcast episode as we all discuss the book Upright Women Wanted by Sarah Gailey!

Then on Tuesday, October 3rd get ready for Halloween because we’ll be talking about the genre of Horror!

[drmikewatts]

IEEE Transactions on Fuzzy Systems, Volume 32, Issue 10, October 2024

1) Context-Aware Audio-Visual Speech Enhancement Based on Neuro-Fuzzy Modeling and User Preference Learning

Author(s): Song Chen, Jasper Kirton-Wingate, Faiyaz Doctor, Usama Arshad, Kia Dashtipour, Mandar Gogate, Zahid Halim, Ahmed Al-Dubai, Tughrul Arslan, Amir Hussain

Pages: 5400 - 5412

2) Deep Fuzzy Multiteacher Distillation Network for Medical Visual Question Answering

Author(s): Yishu Liu, Bingzhi Chen, Shuihua Wang, Guangming Lu, Zheng Zhang

Pages: 5413 - 5427

3) Explainable Fuzzy Deep Learning for Prediction of Epileptic Seizures Using EEG

Author(s): Faiq Ahmad Khan, Zainab Umar, Alireza Jolfaei, Muhammad Tariq

Pages: 5428 - 5437

4) FJA-Net: A Fuzzy Joint Attention Guided Network for Classification of Glaucoma Stages

Author(s): Dipankar Das, Deepak Ranjan Nayak

Pages: 5438 - 5448

5) FSCNN: Fuzzy Channel Filter-Based Separable Convolution Neural Networks for Medical Imaging Recognition

Author(s): Hao Huang, Sung-Kwun Oh, Zunwei Fu, Chuan-Kun Wu, Witold Pedrycz, Jin-Yul Kim

Pages: 5449 - 5461

6) Fuzzy Attention-Based Border Rendering Orthogonal Network for Lung Organ Segmentation

Author(s): Sheng Zhang, Yingying Fang, Yang Nan, Shiyi Wang, Weiping Ding, Yew-Soon Ong, Alejandro F. Frangi, Witold Pedrycz, Simon Walsh, Guang Yang

Pages: 5462 - 5476

7) Fuzzy Deep Learning for the Diagnosis of Alzheimer's Disease: Approaches and Challenges

Author(s): M. Tanveer, M. Sajid, M. Akhtar, A. Quadir, T. Goel, A. Aimen, S. Mitra, Y-D Zhang, C. T. Lin, J. Del Ser

Pages: 5477 - 5492

8) Fuzzy Federated Learning for Privacy-Preserving Detection of Adolescent Idiopathic Scoliosis

Author(s): Xiaotong Wu, Yan Ding, Xiaokang Zhou, Yanwei Xu, Shoujin Wang, Xiaolong Xu, Lianyong Qi

Pages: 5493 - 5507

9) Fuzzy-Centric Fog–Cloud Inspired Deep Interval Bi-LSTM Healthcare Framework for Predicting Yellow Fever Outbreak

Author(s): Prabal Verma, Tawseef A. Shaikh, Sandeep K. Sood, Harkiran Kaur, Mohit Kumar, Huaming Wu, Sukhpal Singh Gill

Pages: 5508 - 5519

10) Fuzzy Multiview Graph Learning on Sparse Electronic Health Records

Author(s): Tao Tang, Zhuoyang Han, Shuo Yu, Adil Bagirov, Qiang Zhang

Pages: 5520 - 5532

11) Hybrid Parallel Fuzzy CNN Paradigm: Unmasking Intricacies for Accurate Brain MRI Insights

Author(s): Saeed Iqbal, Adnan N. Qureshi, Khursheed Aurangzeb, Musaed Alhussein, Shuihua Wang, Muhammad Shahid Anwar, Faheem Khan

Pages: 5533 - 5544

12) MFISN: Modality Fuzzy Information Separation Network for Disease Classification

Author(s): Fengtao Nan, Bin Pu, Jiayi Pan, Yingchun Fan, Jiewen Yang, Xingbo Dong, Zhaozhao Xu, Shuihua Wang

Pages: 5545 - 5556

13) SLIDE-Net: A Sequential Modeling Approach With Adaptive Fuzzy C-Mean Empowered Data Balancing Policy for IDC Detection

Author(s): Abhinav Kumar, Harshit Tiwari, Rishav Singh, Amit Kumar Singh, Sanjay Kumar Singh

Pages: 5557 - 5570

14) ViTH-RFG: Vision Transformer Hashing With Residual Fuzzy Generation for Targeted Attack in Medical Image Retrieval

Author(s): Weiping Ding, Chuansheng Liu, Jiashuang Huang, Chun Cheng, Hengrong Ju

Pages: 5571 - 5584

15) TDEC: Evidential Clustering Based on Transfer Learning and Deep Autoencoder

Author(s): Lianmeng Jiao, Feng Wang, Zhun-Ga Liu, Quan Pan

Pages: 5585 - 5597

16) Dialectic Feature-Based Fuzzy Graph Learning for Label Propagation Assisting Text Classification

Author(s): Cherukula Madhu, Sudhakar M S

Pages: 5598 - 5612

17) Stochastic Sampled-Data Model Predictive Control for T-S Fuzzy Systems With Unknown Stochastic Sampling Probability

Author(s): Hong-Gui Han, Shi-Jia Fu, Hao-Yuan Sun, Zheng Liu

Pages: 5613 - 5624

18) Fuzzy Shared Representation Learning for Multistream Classification

Author(s): En Yu, Jie Lu, Guangquan Zhang

Pages: 5625 - 5637

19) Adaptive Event-Triggered Saturation-Tolerant Control for Multiagent Systems Based on Finite-Time Fuzzy Learning

Author(s): Xiaohui Yue, Huaguang Zhang, Jiayue Sun, Lei Wan

Pages: 5638 - 5647

20) Bounded and Saturation Control-Based Fixed-Time Synchronization of Discontinuous Fuzzy Competitive Networks With State-Dependent Switching

Author(s): Honglin Ni, Fanchao Kong, Quanxin Zhu, Chaoxu Mu

Pages: 5648 - 5659

21) Internal Purity: A Differential Entropy-Based Internal Validation Index for Crisp and Fuzzy Clustering Validation

Author(s): Bin Cao, Chen Yang, Kaibo He, Jing Fan, Honghao Gao, Pengjiang Qian

Pages: 5660 - 5673

22) Reinforced Fuzzy-Rule-Based Neural Networks Realized Through Streamlined Feature Selection Strategy and Fuzzy Clustering With Distance Variation

Author(s): Zheng Wang, Eun-Hu Kim, Sung-Kwun Oh, Witold Pedrycz, Zunwei Fu, Jin Hee Yoon

Pages: 5674 - 5686

23) A Robust Pseudo Fuzzy Rough Feature Selection Using Linear Reconstruction Measure

Author(s): Lin Qiu, Xingwei Wang, Yanpeng Qu, Kaimin Zhang, Fei Gao, Bo Yi, Keqin Li

Pages: 5687 - 5701

24) A Bayesian Network Inference Approach for Dynamic Risk Assessment Using Multisource-Based Information Fusion in an Interval Type-2 Fuzzy Set Environment

Author(s): Jintao Xu, Yang Sui, Tao Dai

Pages: 5702 - 5713

25) Fuzzy Neural Tangent Kernel Model for Identifying DNA N4-Methylcytosine Sites

Author(s): Yijie Ding, Prayag Tiwari, Fei Guo, Quan Zou, Weiping Ding

Pages: 5714 - 5727

26) Impulsive Formation Tracking of Nonlinear Fuzzy Multiagent Systems With Input Saturation Constraints

Author(s): Xiaowei Jiang, Le You, Ni Zhang, Ming Chi, Huaicheng Yan

Pages: 5728 - 5736

27) Data-Driven Decentralized Learning Regulation for Networked Interconnected Systems Using Generalized Fuzzy Hyperbolic Models

Author(s): Jian Liu, Jiachen Ke, Jinliang Liu, Xiangpeng Xie, Engang Tian, Jie Cao

Pages: 5737 - 5749

28) Observer-Based Fuzzy Control for Nonlinear Networked Systems Under Multichannel Attacks With Indirectly Accessible Mode Information

Author(s): Shiyu Jiao, Shengyuan Xu, Ju H. Park, Jun Chen

Pages: 5750 - 5761

29) A Fuzzy Multigranularity Convolutional Neural Network With Double Attention Mechanisms for Measuring Semantic Textual Similarity

Author(s): Butian Zhao, Runtong Zhang, Kaiyuan Bai

Pages: 5762 - 5776

30) FuSVC: A New Labeling Rule for Support Vector Clustering Using Fuzzy Sets

Author(s): Ramiro Saltos, Richard Weber, Dayana Saltos

Pages: 5777 - 5790

31) Inverse Compensation-Based Global Fast Terminal Integral Sliding Mode Control With Lumped Uncertainty Fuzzy Estimation for Dielectric Electro-Active Polymer Actuator

Author(s): Yue Zhang, Yawu Wang, Jundong Wu, Chun-Yi Su

Pages: 5791 - 5801

32) Fuzzy-Based Control for Multiple Tasks With Human–Robot Interaction

Author(s): Yuwei Yang, Zhijun Li, Peng Shi, Guoxin Li

Pages: 5802 - 5814

33) Decentralized Periodic Dynamic Event-Triggering Fuzzy Load Frequency Control for Multiarea Nonlinear Power Systems Based on IT2 Fuzzy Model

Author(s): Shanling Dong, Genyuan Yang, Yougang Bian, Zheng-Guang Wu, Meiqin Liu

Pages: 5815 - 5826

34) Event-Based Adaptive Fuzzy Constrained Control for Nonlinear Multiagent Systems via State-Error Unified Barrier Function Approach

Author(s): Xiyue Guo, Huaguang Zhang, Xin Liu, Xiaohui Yue

Pages: 5827 - 5835

35) Command Filter-Based Finite-Time Constraint Control for Flexible Joint Robots Stochastic System With Unknown Dead Zones

Author(s): Yuanbao Dong, Hak-Keung Lam, Jiapeng Liu, Jinpeng Yu

Pages: 5836 - 5844

36) A Tree-Shaped Fuzzy Clustering Answer Retrieval Model Based on Question Alignment

Author(s): Qi Lang, Witold Pedrycz, Xiaodong Liu, Yan Fang

Pages: 5845 - 5857

37) Local Fuzzy-Basis-Dependent Stabilization of Interval Type-2 T–S Fuzzy Systems via an Improved Adaptive Memory-Based Event-Triggered Mechanism

Author(s): Gia Bao Hong, Sung Hyun Kim

Pages: 5858 - 5871

38) Fuzzy Boundary Sampled-Data Control for Nonlinear DPSs With Random Time-Varying Delays

Author(s): Zi-Peng Wang, Bo-Ming Chen, Junfei Qiao, Huai-Ning Wu, Tingwen Huang

Pages: 5872 - 5885

39) A Multimodal Sentiment Analysis Method Based on Fuzzy Attention Fusion

Author(s): Yuxing Zhi, Junhuai Li, Huaijun Wang, Jing Chen, Wei Wei

Pages: 5886 - 5898

40) Adaptive Fuzzy Resilient Decentralized Control for Nonlinear Large-Scale CPSs Under DoS Attacks

Author(s): Zhihong Zhao, Tong Wang, Feng Peng, Jinyong Yu

Pages: 5899 - 5909

41) Synergizing Two Types of Fuzzy Information Granules for Accurate and Interpretable Multistep Forecasting of Time Series

Author(s): Yuqing Tang, Fusheng Yu, Witold Pedrycz

Pages: 5910 - 5923

42) Robust Discriminant Embedding Projection Fuzzy Clustering With Optimal Mean

Author(s): Jingyu Wang, Xinru Zhang, Feiping Nie, Xuelong Li

Pages: 5924 - 5938

43) Tensor-Based Possibilistic C-Means Clustering

Author(s): Josephine Bernadette M. Benjamin, Miin-Shen Yang

Pages: 5939 - 5950

44) Physics-Informed Spatial Fuzzy System and Its Applications in Modeling

Author(s): Hai-Peng Deng, Bing-Chuan Wang, Han-Xiong Li

Pages: 5951 - 5962

45) Three-Way Approximations Fusion With Granular-Ball Computing to Guide Multigranularity Fuzzy Entropy for Feature Selection

Author(s): Deyou Xia, Guoyin Wang, Qinghua Zhang, Jie Yang, Shuyin Xia

Pages: 5963 - 5977

46) Adaptive Fuzzy Predefined-Time Tracking Control Design for Nonstrict-Feedback High-Order Nonlinear Systems With Input Quantization

Author(s): Shuai Sui, Lin Zhao, C. L. Philip Chen

Pages: 5978 - 5990

47) Bumpless Tracking Switching Control for Interval Type-2 Switched Positive T–S Fuzzy Systems

Author(s): Ying Zhao, Zhe Feng, Ben Niu

Pages: 5991 - 5996

[ipbchigi]

8 Ways Narcissists Alter Your Perception of Reality

By: Kim Saeed Please Click On The Link Below: https://kimsaeed.com/2017/07/07/8-ways-narcissists-can-alter-perception-reality/ The Author

[annethunderstorms]

My Year in Books 2023:

9,563 pages read

33 books read

Home by Toni Morrison

- historical fiction, race, trauma, family

- set in US (Georgia), Korea (Korean War) in 1950s

- main characters: Frank Money, Ysidra “Cee” Money

Lost Children Archive by Valeria Luiselli

- fiction, family, immigration, deportation

- set in US (New York to New Mexico/Arizona)

- main characters: unnamed mother, father and their two children

North: How to Live Scandinavian by Brontë Aurell

- nonfiction, lifestyle, culture

- set in Denmark, Norway, Sweden

Fox and I by Catherine Raven

- nonfiction, memoir, nature, environment, biology

- set in US (Montana)

How to Live Korean by Soo Kim

- nonfiction, lifestyle, culture

- set in South Korea

Exit West by Mohsin Hamid

- fiction, romance, dystopia, war, immigration

- set in Middle East, Greece (Mykonos), UK (London), US (San Francisco)

- main characters: Saeed, Nadia

Stars Between the Sun and Moon: One Woman’s Life in North Korea and Escape to Freedom by Lucia Jang

- nonfiction, memoir, oppression, survival

- set in North Korea, China in 1990s

Land of Snow and Ashes by Petra Rautiainen

- historical fiction, World War II, Sámi, mystery

- set in northern Finland in 1944, 1947-1950

- main characters: Inkeri Lindqvist, Olavi Heiskanen, Väinö Remes

This Wound Full of Fish by Lorena Salazar Masso

- fiction, motherhood

- set in Colombia (Atrato river)

- main characters: unnamed mother, unnamed boy, Gina

Kings of the Yukon: An Alaskan River Journey by Adam Weymouth

- nonfiction, nature, environment, memoir

- set in Yukon, Alaska

The Tea Girl of Hummingbird Lane by Lisa See

- historical fiction, family, tea, Akha culture, adoption

- set in China (Yunnan), US (California) between 1980-2016

- main characters: Li-yan, Haley Davis

Il guardiano della collina dei ciliegi (The Year Shizo Kanakuri Disappeared) by Franco Faggiani

- historical fiction, sports, solitude

- set in Japan, Sweden between 1900s en 1960s

- main character: Shizo Kanakuri

When Broken Glass Floats: Growing Up Under the Khmer Rouge by Chanrithy Him

- nonfiction, memoir, war, survival

- set in Cambodia in the 1970s

Violeta by Isabel Allende

- historical fiction, family saga

- set in Chile, US between 1920-2020

- main characters: Violeta del Valle, Camilo del Valle

The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion

- nonfiction, memoir, grief, loss

- set in US (NY and LA)

Butcher’s Crossing by John Williams

- historical fiction, western, nature, bison hunt

- set in US (Kansas, Colorado) in 1870

- main characters: Will Andrews, Miller, Charley Hoge, Fred Schneider

The Unseen (De usynlige) by Roy Jacobsen

- historical fiction, family saga, hardship

- set in northern Norway between 1910-1930

- main character: Ingrid Barrøy

White Shadow (Hvitt hav) by Roy Jacobsen

- historical fiction, family saga, hardship

- set in northern Norway in 1940s

- main character: Ingrid Barrøy

The Wind Knows My Name by Isabel Allende

- historical fiction, immigration, war

- set in Austria (Vienna), US (Arizona), El Salvador between 1938-2019

- main characters: Samuel Adler, Anita Díaz, Selena Dúran, Leticia Cordero

The Devil’s Highway: A True Story by Luis Alberto Urrea

- nonfiction, immigration, crime

- set on the Mexican/US border (Arizona)

Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer

- nonfiction, indigenous, nature, environment

- set in North America

Hearing Birds Fly by Louisa Waugh

- nonfiction, memoir, travel, culture

- set in Mongolia (Tsengel) in late 1990s

Betty by Tiffany McDaniel

- historical fiction, family saga, coming-of-age, loss, abuse

- set in US (Ohio) between 1900s-1970s

- main character: Betty Carpenter

To the Lighthouse by Virginia Woolf

- fiction, classic, modernism

- set in UK (Scotland) in 1920s

- main characters: Mrs Ramsay, Mr Ramsay, Lily Briscoe

Tracks: One Woman's Journey Across 1,700 Miles of Australian Outback by Robyn Davidson

- nonfiction, memoir, adventure, nature

- set in Australia in late 1970s

The Ethnic Cleansing of Palestine by Ilan Pappé

- nonfiction, history, politics, war

- set in Palestine (Israel) in 1880s-1940s

Train to Tibet (De trein naar Tibet) by Maja Wolny

- nonfiction, travel, culture

- set in Russia, China

Sovietistan by Erika Fatland

- nonfiction, travel, culture, history

- set in Turkmenistan, Kazakhstan, Tajikistan, Kyrgyzstan, Uzbekistan

The Travelling Cat Chronicles by Hiro Arikawa

- fiction, family, grief, cats

- set in Japan

- main characters: Nana the cat, Satoru Miyawaki

Before the Coffee Gets Cold by Toshikazu Kawaguchi

- fiction, magical realism, time travel, loss

- set in Japan

- main characters: Kazu Tokita, Kei Tokita, Nagare Tokita, Yaeko Hirai

Tales from the Café: Before the Coffee Gets Cold by Toshikazu Kawaguchi

- fiction, magical realism, time travel, loss

- set in Japan

- main characters: Kazu Tokita, Nagare Tokita, Miki Tokita

The Road by Cormac McCarthy

- fiction, sci-fi, dystopia, humanity

- set in US

- main characters: a father and his son

Educated by Tara Westover

- nonfiction, memoir, family, religion

- set in US (Idaho)

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My Reaction To Kim Saeed’s Explanation Of “Monkey Branching” And Why Narcissists Are Always In New Relationships……..

Narcissists are quick to jump into relationships and hardly ever will take a break in between if they can help it. They do a maneuver called “monkey branching”. Kim Saeed who is a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Expert did an informative YouTube video on “monkey branching”, and in this post I will give my reaction and opinions on the information Ms. Saeed gave in the video. If you would like to check…

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On the Crushing of Souls (Kim Saeed)

This is a transcript of the following video: http://unillustratedadventures.tumblr.com/post/166525776214/narcissistic-abuse-feels-different-words-in-the

(Words by Kim Saeed.)

“Why does narcissistic abuse often affect us so differently than other traumatic events? All traumatic events are deeply impactful, and life-altering. Narcissistic abuse feels different. It has its damaging effects on a different psychological level.”

“Narcissistic abuse is inflicted by someone you love, and it targets you for who you are. A mugging is based on any person who walks by, who has a purse or wallet. Car crashes happen because someone wasn’t paying attention. And earthquakes are just random natural events. They have nothing to do with the sort of person you are. Narcissistic abuse, on the other hand, is like a laser beam on just this dimension of your psyche—you, as a person, are not loveable, have no redeeming qualities, and are a waste of space and time. The narcissistic abuser repeatedly exploits your fear of abandonment in order to make you more dependent on them and more likely to stay attached to them, despite—or rather, paradoxically, because of—the misery you find yourself in.”

“Narcissistic abuse is soul-crushing. That is why the trauma feels so different, and also why it is so difficult to overcome. We are left feeling so utterly helpless and hopeless. That is how narcissistic abuse works, why it is so debilitating, and why it feels different than other kinds of emotional trauma.”

“They may have been wounded as children. But those children are long gone, leaving only an adult with an underdeveloped level of emotional maturity, non-existent emotional intelligence, and deficient attachment capabilities. What’s left in that child’s place is a scheming manipulator, who doesn’t give a care about anyone except themselves.”

“Like many people who’ve endured narcissistic and emotional abuse, you probably didn’t realise what was happening to you, until you reached a point of near insanity, and began searching desperately for reasons why your fairytale romance took a grievous turn for the worse.”

“The salvation of the relationship always lies on the distant horizon, and is entirely dependent on your changing something about yourself—which is impossible to do, in spite of frantic efforts on your part, because your self-absorbed mate constantly changes the goal posts. These shady behaviours are indicators of having a destructive personality disorder.”

“You are being abandoned in every way possible. Abandonment has its own kind of grief—a powerful grief, universal to human beings. The grief can be acute, as when we go through the ending of a relationship, or chronic, as when we feel the impact of earlier losses and disconnection. Unresolved abandonment is a primary source of self-sabotage.”

“If you feel your partner simply puts up with you—only coming around to keep you strung along—it is because you serve a purpose. If communicating with your partner leaves you feeling unheard, unstable, and frustrated, it’s because they don’t care about you, much less what you have to say. A person who loves you would want to spend time with you, know all about you, and ensure that you feel safe and cared for.”

“Narcissists mock and ridicule for many reasons, including making themselves appear superior. One of the trademarks of narcissistic individuals is the way they hijack their victim’s world—the ‘walking on eggshells’ feeling, and persistent anxiety that you experience. This comes from the fear of not knowing what will upset your volatile partner. Your best thought-out plans may crumble around your feet, leaving you with a gnawing feeling of despair and hopelessness.”

“You focus all your energies on how to make your partner love you, and treat you once again like the soulmate they said you were. There is no loophole, in this regard, that disqualifies your partner from being abusive, no matter what they would have you believe.”

“Name-calling is a form of abuse. It is used to belittle you and make you question your worth. It is employed during rage attacks and blame-storms, and, alternately, under the guise of joking. Name-calling is never appropriate.”

“You are exhausted by the repeated cycles of hurt and rescue. This tactic preys on your emotions. The narcissist causes you a great deal of stress and anxiety, and then abruptly relieves that stress. The most common tactic used by the narcissist in this category is the silent treatment, which evokes your fear of abandonment. When the narcissist finally returns, you experience a rush of euphoric relief.”

“Repeated cycles of hurt and rescue are emotionally exhausting. This is the same method used in police interrogations to get a person to confess—sometimes even when they are innocent. When the narcissist returns after numerous stints of the silent treatment, you are emotionally defenseless, and are more prone to accepting their offensive behaviours, in order to avoid them leaving you again. Further, this often leads to your pleading, apologising, and begging the narcissist to stay, even when you have done no wrong. Hurt and rescue cycles explain why narcissistic abuse victims experience cravings and obsessive thoughts, once No Contact has been executed.”

“If you constantly wonder about the status of your relationship, ruminate about what you could do differently, believe the problems are all your fault, constantly obsess about what your partner is up to, experience mood swings, are constantly fearful and anxious, and/or feel like less of a person than before you met your partner, you have been the victim of emotional abuse. It’s important to understand that the aftermath of emotional trauma needs to be taken seriously.”

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For those who object to the label ‘narcissistic abuse’ (my words):

For those who object to the label ‘narcissistic abuse’, under the assumption that it amounts to an ableist slur against those with NPD, you are straightforwardly mistaken about the reason for the label ‘narcissistic abuse’. In all fairness, it is possible that a great many targets of narcissistic abuse are similarly mistaken.

Narcissism is a completely general dimension of personality. Everyone has some degree of narcissism, which one might construe as a person’s general tendency towards having narcissistic motivations, or acting in narcissistically motivated ways. (It is possible for one’s degree of narcissism to change over time.) Not all narcissistically motivated actions are emotionally abuse, and not all instances of emotional abuse are narcissistically motivated.

Narcissistic abuse is just emotional abuse that is narcissistically motivated. Someone who does not have NPD can still be narcissistically motivated, or emotionally abusive, or both. Accordingly, it is possible for someone to be narcissistically abusive without having NPD.

In order to be diagnosed with NPD, one must have a comparatively greater tendency towards narcissistic abuse. However, it doesn’t follow that everyone with NPD will be narcissistically abusive, given the opportunity. Very roughly, to have NPD is to be extremely prone to having narcissistic motivations (to the point of dysfunction), whether or not these motivations happen to lead to abusive behaviours. Again, not all narcissistically motivated behaviours are emotionally abusive, and not all emotional abuse is narcissistically motivated. Narcissistic abuse is simply emotional abuse that is narcissistically motivated, regardless of whether it is imposed by someone who has NPD.

There is a tendency to call a narcissistic abuser ‘a narcissist’ or ‘the narcissist’. E.g. this happens in the attached video. However, the intended meaning of ‘narcissist’ varies wildly. It is sometimes used to refer exclusively to people who have NPD. I would say that this is a fairly sloppy and ill-advised use of the term, for reasons that should be clear from the above. ‘Narcissist’ is also sometimes used (more defensibly) to refer to anyone who is sufficiently prone to having narcissistic motivations (where this might not be sufficient for NPD), or even anyone who is presently acting with a narcissistic motivation. It is in this latter, more defensible sense that I would interpret a use of ‘a narcissist’ or ‘the narcissist’, in a discussion of narcissistic abuse. E.g. in the context of such a discussion, the narcissist would simply be the relevant person who is acting with a narcissistic motivation. In other words, the narcissist would be the relevant person who has performed an emotionally abusive act because of a narcissistic motivation.

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Books by BIPOC Authors - August 2023

🦇 I grew up surrounded by a melting pot of cultures, diverse communities, and unique experiences. Despite the different sources of those multicultural voices, their stories still covered universal topics of colonialism, migration, identity, and race. Each story was another flavor, another sweet spice adding to that melting pot. Today, we have books by BIPOC authors that put those unique voices to the page. If you're interested in traveling to different worlds, whether familiar or foreign, here are a few books by BIPOC authors to add to your TBR! 🦇

✨ Tomb Sweeping by Alexandra Chang ✨ The Dark Place by Britney S. Lewis ✨ Forged by Blood by Ehigbor Okuson ✨ Accidentally in Love by Danielle Jackson ✨ A Council of Dolls by Mona Susan Power ✨ Still Born by Guadalupe Nettel, translated by Rosalind Harvey ✨ The Injustice of Place: Uncovering the Legacy of Poverty in America by Kathryn J. Edin, H. Luke Shaefer, Timothy J. Nelson ✨ Hangman by Maya Binyam ✨ The Heaven & Earth Grocery Store by James McBride (Historical Fiction) ✨ Under the Tamarind Tree by Nigar Alam ✨ Vampires of El Norte by Isabel Cañas ✨ An American Immigrant by Johanna Rojas Vann

🧭 Forgive Me Not by Jennifer Baker 🧭 Two Tribes by Emily Bowen Cohen 🧭 A Quantum Life: My Unlikely Journey from the Street to the Stars by Hakeem Oluseyi and Joshua Horwitz 🧭 Writing in Color: Fourteen Writers on the Lessons We've Learned (edited by) Nafiza Azad and Melody Simpson 🧭 Ghost Book by Remy Lai 🧭 The Water Outlaws by S.L. Huang 🧭 Plantains and Our Becoming by Melania Luisa Marte 🧭 Forty Words for Love by Aisha Saeed 🧭 The Great White Bard: How to Love Shakespeare While Talking About Race by Farah Karim-Cooper 🧭 Take the Long Way Home by Rochelle Alers 🧭 Swim Home to the Vanished by Brendan Shay Basham 🧭 Actually Super by Adi Alsaid

✨ Never a Hero by Vanessa Len ✨ I Fed Her to the Beast and the Beast is Me by Jamison Shea ✨ The Infinity Particle by Wendy Xu ✨ Night of the Living Queers, edited by Shelly Page ✨ Sign of the Slayer by Sharina Harris ✨ Her Radiant Curse by Elizabeth Lim ✨ My Father the Panda Killer by Jamie Jo Hoang ✨ Barely Floating by Lilliam Rivera ✨Happiness Falls by Angie Kim ✨ A Tall Dark Trouble by Vanessa Montalban ✨ Neverwraith by Shakir Rashaan ✨ House of Marionne by J. Elle

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Maine har uss mauke par sabr kiya;

Jahan mujhe rote rote mar jana chahiye tha

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Rose Spring’s first elder! Happy Birthday!

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Y'all! Go listen to An Invitation to the Cookout by Terrell Grice! It has amazing artists on it! You won't regret it!