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i had a weird situation with my best friend recently. we’re so close that people always asked us if we’re dating and it’s always “haha no.” but earlier this year my friend told me they like when people say that, and i said i do too. they told me they’ve had a crush on me for a while, and i said same and i wanted to kiss them. we didn’t that day, but we promised to talk about stuff before jumping into a relationship. anyway, i go on vacation and i’m pretty busy and don’t talk as much. when i come back, i invite them on a day trip and i’m really excited because i’m hoping to kiss them and maybe start something. but during the trip to our destination, they tell me about their coworker and asks me what i think of them. i had a bad feeling and tried to crack a joke about them, and then my friend told me the coworker asked them out, and they accepted. i was really really heartbroken ngl. but i tried to be really supportive and ask appropriate questions. the real thing that made me upset (tho i didn’t show it, i wouldn’t do that to my friend). is that my friend said they knew this relationship with the coworker was going to be short; they’d probably break up after a month. those were their words.
anyway after all this i still tried to be normal and patient but i felt like i was always saying the wrong things. we spent nearly everyday together for the next couple of months and my friend would snap at me sometimes and get frustrated with me. i tried to stay patient but i also gave them space and hung out with my other friends more, but i felt like that only made us grow distant. my friend eventually apologized for everything they did by “playing with my feelings” by saying they liked me before dating someone else. i didn’t want to show how much it affected me so i said i had no entitlement to them and everything between us was okay, i had no hard feelings.
it doesn’t really feel like it’s okay tho, they take days to respond to my texts and i just think we’re growing distant and i really don’t want to. i dont want to bring up the topic again because i was the one who originally said everything was fine and idk. i was wondering if you had advice on handling the situation? or even answering: am i justified in feeling hurt? bc i really had no entitlement over my friend.
thank you so much for your help 🙏
Hi!
I think you're justified in feeling hurt: not because you had any entitlement, but because it's clear that your friend was messing with your feelings a bit.
I think from here, even though you're a bit hesitant, you should say something like "things feel weird between us, is everything okay?" like don't bring up the actual incident right away, but if they're like "nahhh" then you can be like "ever since we last talked about xxx things have been weird, are you sure things are okay?"
And honestly, from there if they still say things are good, then it's not on you. You can't read minds or pull things out of people who don't want to talk, and they have to be willing to communicate, so if they aren't that's their fault, not yours <3
naming you justified anon!
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I have a terrible idea.
So we know how Dottore is kinda forgetful right? Like this man straight up forgot that he killed Krupp not even an hour later.
What if... 👉👈 his lover died and he sometimes forgot that happened?
So Dottore is just chilling, and remembers that he should be making his dear's next round of medications.
He goes through the motions, only to pause midway. Right... his lover is dead.
He throws out the half finished medications.
IF THIS IS TOO EVIL IM SORRY 😭 I JUST THOUGHT OF IT AND IVE BEEN DYING SINCE
It's not a secret that Dottore tends to throw himself into his work, especially when he's particularly excited about getting results. Now, it's still not unusual for the Harbinger to busy himself in his lab... only this time, it's to distract himself from his reality outside of work. He barely even talks to his segments anymore, leaving them to fulfill their respective duties, so he works from project to project. Working, working... although there are occasions when he pauses to wonder what he's doing.
How long has he been working? Ages by now probably, it seems like he lost track of time, as he always did. So much work... no breaks... speaking of breaks, he'd have thought you'd come to pester him to take one by now. That was odd. Quite peculiar, to be honest. Maybe you were caught up in your own interests? He'd have to indulge you in them soon. Speaking of strangeness, his foggy, sleep and food deprived mind realizes he's neglected to start concocting your new medicine! He clicks his tongue at his carelessness, this was of utmost importance! He despised seeing any day when your health was worse off - it was his duty to keep you stable.
Dottore gets to work gathering the necessary items for your meds, his shoulders relaxing a bit as he will see you soon. But then his face turns to a scowl as he realizes important ingredients hadn't been gathered. Why didn't he send an order out for them? That was wholly idiotic - he'd never forget something as important as that... there must have been a good reason... and so he rattles his overfilled brain to remember and then-
It's times like this when Dottore remembers it was his duty to you as Zandik to keep you happy and healthy, and he failed.
The segments ignore the crash from his quarters once again.
#smooches talks#dottore love notes <3#fragile reader <3#anon what if i told u ive actually have a similar idea as the outline for one of the parts in my dottore series.......#“Sometimes he forgets that he doesn't need to justify his unhealthy habits anymore.”#RUNNING AWAY!!!
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it's crazy cause pharmercy debates still happen over that one image of mercy and pharah where pharah looks 7 for some reason even after the devs said that image isn't even canonical but no one who has these debates on whether it's problematic actually looks into the lore.
I can't even defend that because the lore is so spotty and inconsistent. Like, there's nothing I can say about their age difference because anything could be de-canonized.
#anon#ask me#also i think it's so funny that people justify mercy looking “young” by using nanotechnology on her body#guys. 37-39 is not that old. it's entirely possible for a healthy woman to look like that
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did you see the article wrong organ tweet abt an interview with the lead writer —>
https://t.co/5dcfeePkz3
The article really should honestly be read by people who try to make any of the characters actions black or white and ignore the other themes in the game. It specifically mentions these aspects that people try to make seem undebatable or uninterpretive and makes sure to use wording to say it can stem from multiple things and never confirm or deny anything.
I do remind people that the interviewer does not work for Wrong Organ so I am only using quotes and paraphrased statements rather than their own deductions as those should be taken with the same grain of salt of an analysis you see on twitter or tumblr and even my blog. They are still a subjective eye compared to Kasurinen’s direct statements.
Particularly pointing out that Jimmy, while deplorable, is still supposed to complex and his actions are not fueled by some comically sick amusement. And that Curly’s actions are not just rooted in one thing and not just rooted in rape culture but also include other social and systemic factors besides the shallow idea he’s just dick riding for his friends. It’s meant to be interpretative and I need to point out that the main writer says that “good intentions mean nothing when it’s gotten that bad”. A lot of people like to think Curly was only acting with intentions for himself or Jimmy when it’s was a misguided attempt at overall peace that ultimately failed and whatever processes behind that are to be nitpicked, not if he was acting out or malice or disregard.
I wish more was talked about specifically with Anya, Daisuke and Swansea but I understand why they weren’t as Curly’s actions/inactions pre-crash and Jimmy’s actions throughout all segments are the main impactful forces in the game. People should really read it for themselves but sit on this quote directly from the main writer:
#morality is a finicky subject when you think you are acting out of good faith#which is much different than entitlement and#a lot of people tend to not understand that a good or nice person can do unintentionally bad or enabling things and not be a monster like#idk he’s not a villain nor did he not care he just thought it was right and it wasn’t like damn him if you want#it’s very human and very easy to make these mistakes and I like that they don’t try to#discuss relationships here so we can fill in the blanks#they pose the same questions we ask was curly a coward or just ignorant? is there a middle ground? or do they have to be separate?#you can be in either camp I don’t care as long as you understand how the other side is just as justified in their understandings and take#always as it happens for more than one reason#mouthwashing#ask#anon#mouthwashing game#curly mouthwashing#jimmy mouthwashing#anya mouthwashing
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A clip of Director Rockwell recruiting the boys has been shown on TV; I love how as Sonic goes on his rant after Rockwell calls them aliens, Tails looks personally offended while Knuckles simply looks annoyed
ASDFGHJKL! Yeah, they went through a whole spectrum of emotions ❤️😂❤️
Although, Sonic (and others) has a right to be offended. He has been in earth longer than Knuckles and Tails. It’s his home planet 😊
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There is currently a rather large discussion ongoing about the RW fandom behavior, drama, etc. I am not going to talk about the specifics of whats happened for a number of reasons. But what I do want to say is that if at any point you've harassed people over it, whether that be through anon asks or public posts- you did nothing but damage the ability for people to correctly process what is happening. You contributed nothing but harm to an already delicate situation. It does not matter what "side" you were on and I will not tolerate further interaction with me or my work if I found out you did such. If you let your personal hate for anyone boil over into threats, wishes for long term harm and petty comments meant to contribute nothing but slander or mental distress for the individuals involved who were already distressed (or acting irrationally) you did nothing but make it harder for people to process their emotions, thoughts and behaviors constructively. Regardless of who you think was in the right, who fucked up, whatever. It doesn't matter if they deserved it, or earned it, or if its an eye for an eye. Its difficult enough as it is to think clearly when presented with any kind of stressful situation and heckling people does nothing but make it worse and harder for them to explain themself in any capacity. I don't want you anywhere near me if you think that is an acceptable way to act.
#Please do not ask for me details- I am not involved#I am not the person to ask.#I very intentionally stay out of wider fandom circles because i want to keep enjoying things i like (lol)#But i have seen some absolutely vile behavior both openly and on alts or anon#even from the 'anti harassment' side because of course they also just want a justified target#to hurt or slander but this time under the guise of 'well they did it first!'#Its a pathetic display on all sides in terms of behavior long before for you even try picking a part who fucked up and where#and its not surprising that many artists have felt uncomfortable with it long before it boiled over into this. It would have been a problem#even if there had never been an actual incident because people were simply behaving in uncomfortable and offputting ways in regards to how#they treated creators here. fandom has a problem in general with that but it was particularly public and open#Anyway Im not leaving the fandom or anything im comfortably on the fringes of it for a reason and dont intend on digging in any further.#But this issue has been cooking for months for frankly and with this its gotten even more openly hostile. And yes- even those#'anti harassment' types are very happy to harass when they have their own reason for it. so im not giving them an inch#But beyond that and this particular incident people have just been way too comfortable being cruel openly#and letting their personal dislike of things bleed into how they act.#Also one more thing: If an artist deletes or leaves and takes their art with them the bear minimum of respect is to honor that choice#save what you want when its there and keep it but if they want their work gone than god respect that dont set up entire archives#for shit people choose to wipe. If they delete it that should be honored no matter how you feel about it#t.extpost
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if you're gonna vote for biden i hate you but also you don't have to tell me ! i don't want to hear you try to justify why you reaaaaaally want to vote for the genocider actually. cuz maybe i actually don't care and maybe i'm trying to survive as a palestinian rn. have you considered.. idk... maybe NOT thinking about yourselves for the love of god? have you considered keeping your mouth shut and not telling palestinians that ur gonna vote for their genocide?? you can stay silent! for free!!!
#palestine#free palestine#too many anons out here on my and my friends blogs trying to justify why they're supporting our genocide
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apparently the confessions blog is posting dumb takes we have to put it down now
#bwark#not anything personal against the mod if they see this tbc ksbekejd#but like. ''where the hell did mirasif in a qpr come from'' god forbid aromantic people have a little fun with the only confirmed aromantic#character. ''what's the point in loopfile they don't even interact in canon'' have you never been in a fandom before#i don't feel particularly strongly about either of these myself but i think you may be misunderstanding people's intentions#but literally since when have people needed canon evidence in order to justify a ship (platonic or romantic)#it's just for fun#*loopdile not loopfile. too tired to rewrite these tags#everybody except the npd siffrin anon should stop talking#idk if i subscribe to that hc myself but i'll always show up for my fellow cluster bs regardless
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As an attempt at a polite "going forward" comment...
I do not plan to draw for Three Houses or Hopes for a long while. I know a lot of my followers are from the past four years and I appreciate that you followed me at all! But if you are only interested in the art of those characters I wanted to be clear and say you can unfollow me at any point if what i draw no longer aligns with what you want to see.
I might draw for other FEs (like Heroes or 13/14/17) but I do not want to get involved with 3H any more. I do have other interests and across tumblr, twitter (now inactive), and sometimes on discord I've heard enough "I thought it was (FE3H character)".
This is not one person doing it and it is not simply one character being mistaken. I simply want to distance myself from 3H and have unfollowed a few people that reblog art of it because it just leaves a lingering bad taste in my mouth.
Thank you very much for your time and I hope you can find artists who can provide art for topics you like.
#moe talks a lot#not art#again this is NOT the fault of one person its been accumulating for a loooong time#its not even other franchises entirely being labeled as 3h oopsies!#i think one of the most frustrating was a twitter exp where i drew felicia and flora from fates and someone said thought it was marihilda#its just very demotivating and makes me feel like im nothing but a machine for the 3h fans and i want to move past that#i would far prefer no comments or tags than the constant barrage of mistaking a character when i draw for anything else#i know (or rather hope) people who do this are not doing it to be mean! but ! it hurts to put time into something to have it devalued#im sorry to those that really liked my 3h art but i am extremely burnt out on some comments and being asked to justify my doodles#i just want to draw stupid things and it got to the point i had to explain my stupid things#which defeated the stress relief of it being stupid#half of the asks i never replied to were like this so again it is NOT just one person doing this ! its just finally added up#to me needing to be open and clear#i tried to be concise in the main post but it still looks really wordy#opened the ask box again temporarily but not open to anons so we will see how this goes
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Its from a while back (262) because i prefer to kill my brain all at once, but WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING WITH HER SHIRT. That is a SQUARE. It was like this in multiple panels too
What's even funnier / weirder is why are they wearing the shirts in the first place?
1.) Eros and Psyche seem to be completely isolated in the prison, even if Apollo or Leto forced them to wear them they should be able to just remove them if they really don't want to be wearing them as soon as they're unsupervised.
2.) Who's gonna see them wearing the shirts? It's not like they were forced to do some "Apollo 4 King" video on TikTok to make it seem like they were aligning with Apollo, they're deadass just sitting in a prison cell wearing these shirts for seemingly no one and nothing but Apollo's entertainment?
3.) Love how we're just gonna pretend that Apollo's original campaign wasn't "Apollo for President". Love that for him that he finally figured out he lives in a monarchy and not a democracy.
#rachel's really trying to find ways to justify having eros and psyche in the plot#instead of giving them proper character development to begin with#seriously what was the point in rushing over their reunion and marriage if you're just gonna shoehorn them into another plot entirely#once again rachel having all the pieces for a good story and jamming them all into the wrong places together#lore olympus critical#anti lore olympus#lo critical#ask me anything#ama#anon ama#anon ask me anything
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Have you played arkham knights yet? Been watching Jason's part and I kinda like it
Yep played it for the first time I think a year ago and absolutely adored it from start to finish funniest thing was I was wearing my fit bit and I noticed when I was playing the section where jasons chasing you in like a giant crusher my heartbeat was going 135bpm
#ask#anon#that bit was apparently very stressful to me lmao#but yeah i actually adore arkham knights#i think its a good example of like#changing jason for a elseworld stort#but not in a way that lessons his character#hes still a threat#his death was different and his grievance with bruce is different#and it is more joker focused which usually i dont like#but they justify it by the way jason well he didnt actually die but you get what i mean#“his death” equivalent in Arkham knight
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keep your jegulily shit the FUCK out of the jily tag. nobody wants to see your pro-fascist mental illness. YOU ARE NOT WELCOME IN OUR SPACE FUCK OFF
I didn't want to reply to this but...
Lesson in etiquette: being aggressive and accusatory will NEVER get anyone to listen to you :) If you were polite I may have listened but now you're just throwing around LARGE accusations and extremely immature language that demonises real issues such as mental illness and bigotry, which will never make anybody like you or trust you.
I tag jily because jily is in the content! They are 1/3 of the ship so tagging them is logical and reasonable. If you don't like it you can block me or block the jegulily tag :) you don't EVER have an excuse to hide your face and come onto somebody else's account spitting vitriol and hatred over fake characters from a CHILDRENS BOOK
Next: stop equating fictional characters to real issues because it's disgusting and you're minimising real loss of life and suffering so you can make a point. I don't blame you for hiding your name because that's a pretty gross thing to do! People who have lost loved ones to events like the holocaust have begged you lot to stop equating their real trauma to made up characters so you can feel better than other people. And mental illness is also a real issue that you are making out to be trivial and laughable. You sound like so many real bigots I know when you imply that someone you don't like existing must mean mental illness. If only you put this much energy into real issues! Your priorities are clear.
(A little off topic but it's also pretty interesting how it's never the Jegulus fans that get angry at me for correctly tagging content, yet people always portray them as the evil ones?)
#this is why I stopped liking jily btw :)#people have a fucking superiority complex over liking it#and think it justifies being vile shitbags to strangers#once again blaming victims of brainwashing for being brainwashed...okay!#fandom discourse#rude anon#marauders era#I will tag this with jily because I think it's important to show what kind of people are on the fandom :)#jily#jegulily
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Why do the FEH devs insist on ignoring Nabatean lore so much?
I recently had a surprisingly cordial discussion on redshit with someone about the "nabateans = colonisers" take, and one of the main points raised was that the game was purposedly foggy around Nabateans/Sothis/their story because it would obviously favor a certain narrative (and thus make another narrative look, uh, not that marketable anymore).
To be honest, we still ended up with a product that had a lead go "this race and its blood* is the reason why the world sucks" and yet that lead is still marketable enough to have raunchy cipher cards and 5 FEH alts, so I actually wonder if, while pissing on that lore had that purpose, it was ultimately pointless since Supreme Leader can still sell goodies despite her incarnation in FE16.
And not only Supreme Leader - but the entirety of WC where we basically have 70% of the cast crying/complaining about their "mixed blood" or lack of and basically adding their 10 cents to the "this race and its blood is the reason why the world sucks".
I mean, can you imagine Sylvain selling any goodies and alts if Flayn replied to his "wah wah people only are kind to me and want to fuck me because I have Nabatean blood :(" by some uncharacteristic "good for you, I have to hide my ears, had to dye my hair, have to lie about my family because if the truth is found out about my identity, I will be hunted and vivisected like an animal and harvested for parts by people who call my kin abominations - just like what happens in the game where the same people who call my kin "abominations" ally with a classmate who calls me a creature and pretends I am incapable of human feelings based on my race".
FE Fodlan's main selling point is its cast of students, for various reasons, but even if I tried to kid myself, Nopes and FEH made it clears : students are the main selling point.
If you spare more time and attention to the Nabatean plot/lore, the students either grow from "likeable" to "despicable" or worse, you won't gaf about them because yeah sure, Hilda might be upset because people expect things from her due to her crust, but it would feel like a "peanut" compared to Seteth's irrational (granted, it's not so irrational since GW exists) fear that Flayn's newest friends would dissect her if they learnt she was a Nabatean, and being conflicted by finally letting her have human friends and form bonds she crave, or protect her due to the trauma from the genocide of their species.
Don't get me wrong, I love peanuts, I mean, not everyone can have a tragik of loaded backstory!
And yet, given how this verse's DNA is "can you fight against the red emperor who uwus about you", they had to add copious amounts of Earl Grey to their games so there's no clear-cut factions :
The "Your alien blood and its influence on the world corrupted it, so I want to reform it under my command" vs "I don't want to die and you oppose me due to my race and side with the people who genocided my kin"
is turned to :
"Your alien blood Crests and its your church's influence on the world corrupted it, so I want to reform it under my command"
"I don't want to die and you oppose me due to my race and side with the people who genocided my kin"
Sprinkle with the cast's hammering here and there that the "reforms" might be needed - but never develop on what they are - and add a few baseless and groundless takes as a toping (basically everything Claude says about tolerance and the general "isolationism/foreign policy" stuff) and you get FE Fodlan where the Red Emperor's war isn't seen as the catastrophe it is in the other entries from the series!
Now, for FEH...
FWIW, the F!F!Billy's trailer had them try to explain that Sothis was a bit pissed about her slaughtered/massacred children when Nopes never gave any reason about why she was pissed - maybe on Billy's behalf bcs Jerry's dead, but come on, she would indeed deserve the medal of the worst parent in the franchise if that was the case, since Billy can murder her daughter without Sothis taking over ! - but given that they cannot write/go against the source game those characters are from.
They tried a bit, with B!Supreme Leader and Hegemongard's FB, but then it stopped (because she had no "new unit" released since then lol) and I can understand why : Hegemongard came out before the Supreme Emblem, and Hegemongard hates dragons who are seen/perceived as gods by some of their human followers. Come FE17, and now Supreme Emblem accepts Alear because they are "one of the good ones". We can come up with HCs and details and talk about what are emblems or if Hegemongard's views were only hers at the end of AM all day long... But imo, Doylist wise, it still feels it's a retcon because the devs from the main games tried to scrap and remove the most "controversial" traits she had.
For the other characters... Well, you see what Marianne is in FEH (but even in her base games), she's one of the few characters who reacts - in a way - to the partial history about relics and demonic beasts and all... only to give sad uwus to Maurice.
FE16 (and Nopes) refused to have any "student" character react to the Nabatean lore/reveal, about what are relics and all. There are no lines, Claude shared some knowledge in the explore section of VW's last chapter, but we don't have anyone muse or think or even talk about what are relics, what are crests, and what kind of fuckery their ancestors or the ancient humans of Fodlan did.
With that in mind, FEH can't do much : either they write Marianne in a retcon-y way like what happened for Hegemongard (and they're not afraid to piss on characterisation, look at Lyon!), or they flanderise her "character" and develop her around 3 lines she had in the game in her paralogue, and continue to give sad uwus about Momo when he was at best a guy who slaughtered and murdered so much that he abused the Nabatean turned into a relic to the point where he turned in a demonic beast even if he had a matching crest, or at worst, had been part of Nemesis's piñata party in Zanado and was something of a genocider.
Tldr :
Why FE Fodlan never gaf about Nabateans : earl grey + the marketable cast has to stay marketable and you can't sell peanuts at the same price you'd sell swordfish
Why FEH dgaf about Nabatean lore : they can't afford to retcon characters + they have to sell peanut alts with the same seasoning they had in their base game.
For what it's worth though, I think FEH is more daring than the base game(s) given how they gave more lines and screentime to Rhea - through her different alts - than GW. And they even designed her Halloween!alt's lines to piss on some of Claude's assertions, while the various FB involving members of the church also - indirectly - reply to some accusations thrown their way in FE16 when, FE16, never gave them an opportunity or lines to explain that those takes were full of dung.
*"but random, maybe she doesn't know that the crests she often decries is "dragon blood"!"
It's highly debatable, especially given what she and Hubert throw to Billy in CF - but even if she doesn't, Doylist wise we still have a character who, knowingly or not, says "this race and its blood* is the reason why the world sucks" and who is never called out on her prejudice. That's more of an issue regarding the general writing though, she has to be a red emperor and took pages from Ashnard's book, and yet, the player must still feel bad and want to romance her, so her mindest/goal cannot be looked at too closely, because, I guess, even the devs thought it would be difficult to romance her (thus sell goodies!) if more light was shed on the "blood from this race corrupts our people" schtick -> which in turn would also make characters whose backstory and gimmick rely on "crying about crests" be way less likeable, thus marketable and able to sell goodies.
#anon#replies#heroes salt#fodlan nonsense#they can't develop stuff about nabateans else the people would wonder if this thing existed in FE16/Nôpes#and we all know people siding with the Agarthans would have like#a harder time justifying being allied to the Agarthans even if they don't know everything that transpired between them and the nabs#and yet Pelleas is accused of being a moron for listening to Izuka when he didn't even knew Izuka was the one who#developed the feral subhuman drug and earnt a PHD so#in the end everything's always about money#I'd buy in a heartbeat any Hilda (fe4) figurine#but i guess thes devs/money makers believe that antagonists at least in this franchise don't sell as well as marketable characters#like prime waifus#hell even UO started to print figurines of the main heroines but none as of yet of Alcina#can you imagine if the uwu overprotective dad joke#that is basically the crux of the Flayn'n'Seteth's relationship#was more developed in the lines of Seteth being afraid that Flayn would trust humans too much and reveal the truth about her#in a gesture of friendship and trust! and it would turn against her#I mean isn't it basically why the nabs are pissed at Adrestia??#Rhea trusted Willy about her pointy ears and now Willy's scion wants them out of Fodlan because their ears are pointy#or Flayn really getting along with people but ultimately not being able to trust them fully because she cannot tell them the truth#and maybe her support friends and all either pulling what everyone does with Marianne#or have the issue resolved in a more meaningful way like Nabs finally accepting to trust humans again in a plot relevant cutscene#and Flayn's final supports only being available after that cutscene#but we couldn't have that at all because again#Earl Grey + peanuts#can you imagine Sylvain getting a convo with Flayn post reveal? Where he feels like trash for wahwahing about his crust?#that's not the route the games wanted to walk on#so FEH can't walk it either#I swear this isn't a post asking for a new rhealt lol
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so im going into therapy (or social work, more broadly) as a profession (in school rn). i know that not everyone in anti psych would support that, understandably, and im not under an illusion that therapy isnt tied to the whole system and process. but i want to bring a liberationist, anti-racist, pro-mad, and abolitionist ideology to help who i can
do you have any suggested resources or reading recommendations or idk any insight on how to inform the way i go about juggling anti psychiatry in a profession that is considered going hand in hand with it?
Hi anon.
I think there can be ways that people working in the psych system can leverage power and resources in a way where they're acting in solidarity with psych survivors and mad people, but in reality, this very rarely happens, even among professionals who identify as radical or as having lived experience.
Fundamentally, the psychiatric system is one that perpetuates structural violence, and in smaller and larger ways, anyone who works within the system to legitimize it contributes to and is complicit in that violence. So I think that for anyone who is planning to work within the system, you need to be upfront with yourself that there is harm occurring and that isn't something you can just ignore or act like that's something you're separate from. Even if you're not working inpatient or facilitating forced drugging of someone, there's still a lot of ways that therapists can be complicit in psychiatric violence.
One of the most obvious ways is through mandatory reporting. I believe that in order to be an ethical therapist you must break the law--mandatory reporting is a dangerous way that mad people are surveilled by the state, and therapists must work to interrupt that and prevent it. There are a lot of therapists out there already talking about practical ways to avoid mandatory reporting and how to be upfront with clients about it, and I can link some of that at the end of this post. I won't say it's always easy, but we have an obligation to each other to do everything we can to stop psych incarceration from happening.
I think there's a lot of ways that even outpatient, therapists are asked to enable other forms of psychiatric violence. Even if in your practice, you're really focusing on liberation, respecting autonomy, etc, there are ways that other psych professionals might try to get you to help them perpetuate different forms of harm. And because of your degree and licensure, there's this power imbalance between you and your client that means you do have the power to enable these kinds of harms. The degree next to your name means that you will always be believed over your client and that is a lot of power to hold. If you're working with a client with an eating disorder and their dietitian gives an ultimatum that they have to be hospitalized or they're refusing to provide care, what do you do? If your client's psychiatrist is refusing to answer questions or let them switch to other types of medications, what do you do? If your client is involved in a court case and you're getting subpoenaed for their medical records, what do you do? If your MSW program requires you to do one of your internships in an inpatient program, how do you prevent that from happening? There are a lot more examples I can think of, but these are just a few things I wanted to highlight for ways that therapy is still entangled in the larger system.
Another thing that feels important to me is to make the distinction between being a "good therapist" and helping people, because I don't think those things are the same. I see a lot of "radical" therapists get fixated on this idea that they need figure out ways to make the psych system run smoother, to improve access, to overall make the psych system better, and that this is the only way to help people. It's really important to be able to separate those ideas. For me, psych abolition is a project of building up our capacity to care for each other while destroying the systems that currently enact violence on us, and reformist ideas about expanding psychiatric systems, increasing funding, and legitimize psychiatric authority gets in the way of actually transforming care. I think in order to help people, you need to commit to being a "bad therapist" in the eyes of a capitalist healthcare system.
One recommendation I have is to read Franco Basaglia's writing and learn about his approach of the democratic psychiatry movement. As a psychiatrist, he saw his role as a way to disrupt the system and deinstitutionalize. He has this quote where he talks about how they weren't focused on eliminating problems, but rather on how deinstitutionalization would create more chaos and new problems--and how that created so much possibility for transformation. I think he's proof that there are certainly ways that psych professionals can act as accomplices who actually are in solidarity with psych survivors, but it's rare.
Last point I have is that although you gain something from professional training and licensure, there's also a lot you lose. MSW programs often don't actually teach you the skills you want to learn about how to actually support people--there's a lot you're going to have to learn from continuing education credits. From my friends who have gotten their MSW, I've heard a lot of complaints about how surface level a lot of information is, and also about how a lot of the way that information is taught reinforces hierarchal ideas and doesn't respect patient autonomy. I'll also say that gaining licensure oftentimes creates barriers for radical action--I've seen so many therapists who then become so attached to holding onto and not losing that licensure that they weigh it above mad people's lives. I've heard so many therapists say "Oh I can't speak up against restraint because I'll lose my job/I can't ignore mandatory reporting because I'll lose my license/etc etc etc." And I think that can be a really damaging mindset that harms your potential to actually help people. There are several therapists I know who are in the process of intentional de-licensure because of this, but regardless if you pursue that path or not, this is a mindset you need to be on guard against.
All that being said, I think there is a need for more abolitionist therapists who are able to help support our communities, both in terms of creating that space for individual support and on a collective level. There are ways that you can leverage your access to resources and the way you're seen as legitimate in the system to help advocate for people, get them support, and interfere with psych violence. I have a therapist comrade who keeps working in inpatient psychiatry specifically so that they can continue to sneak in banned materials to the ward, prevent illegal restraints, be involved in court proceedings as an advocate, connect people to mad liberation resources, let psych patients use their phone, document psychiatric abuse with the plan to fairly soon release that information as a whistleblower, and more that I'm not going to talk about publicly. They still grapple with the fact that they are currently perpetuating harm at the same time, but to them, it's worth it to be able to sabotage things in that way. And I think that there are ways that you can take the information you learn in your program that is actually useful and find ways to bring that directly to your communities, and that there is good you can. I just think you have to be very intentional and aware of what it takes to actually do that, rather than just staying complacent with the label of being a "radical therapist" without doing anything to make that true.
For resources--here's my psych abolition drive with a lot of different zines, books, workbooks on different psych abolition topics. I really would recommend reading Psychiatry Inside Out by Franco Basaglia as an example of successful psychiatric resistance.
I would also suggest checking out Mutual Aid/Self Social therapy--the people who created this project are trusted comrades of mine, have both gotten their MSW or LMFT, and they have a lot of helpful insight into how to navigate things like avoiding mandatory reporting, de-licensure, etc. They have a discord server and also have regular online MAST meetings to train people on what MAST is and how to set up a MAST collective.
Genuinely wishing you the best of luck through school and appreciate that you're actively thinking about these things.
#asks#psych abolition#recently i've seen a trend. mostly on instagram. of peopel who identify as radical or lived experience therapists still not getting it#or exploiting the work of mad people and acting like it's their own. or using their lived experience as a way to justify the harm that#they perpetuate. or just really not interrogating the hierachy and power imbalance. or really thinking hard enough about what is actually#going on#so this response might seem a bit frustrated but that anger is not directed straight at you anon
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my mutuals (majority that had bigger blogs) have all been dropping like dead flies because of a toxic, pathetic writer on this app that drove all them off. rip to munsonsins, getoswhore, kazushawty, literally everyone. and those that have heen affected yet still continue to stay on this app, i hope you’re all doing fine. but these ppl were driven off all because of jealousy reasons, false plagiarism accusations, death threats, cyberbullying, you fucking name it. we lose so much good works and genuine people on here that created their own platforms for the purposes of consuming fanfiction/writing fanfiction 😐 but since they were being dragged into discourse with a certain someone on this app, it’s crazy how their followers dickride the shit out of that thing and send hate/death threats to them through anon like wowww. 😹
#( ♥︎ ) — messy talk.#tw discourse#now what i don’t fucking understand is just letting the large amount of followers you have getting into your head#becoming all egotistical and treat every innocent writer on here like they’re fucking inferior to you#you are a grown ass 25 year old woman that likes to age up minors and write some fucked up smut about them#imagine having to choose between the struggles of acting like a child or sexualizing a child????#also#i really dgaf about the excuse of them being “fictional” like#dont be a fucking dumbass and justify that shit to me on anon#cuz all you’ll be talking to is a brick wall
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what you and the other anon said is sooo on point bc the show have these perfect setups for movement in the eddie/chris storyline, even in just eddie's, and they keep. not using them. like what y'all said about weston and his dad, and add in hen's line about eddie missing his kid. the logical and obvious storytelling next step would be to show us eddie reaching out to chris. and they just, didn't? they just, showed eddie being sad/happy, like what? and then there's the divorce scene (which was way too long for what it ended up being or doing which was uuuh nothing lbr) there's nothing at all about shannon? not even a hint? and then it's buck not eddie that talks to the wife. like. what was the point of bringing back shannon into the picture only for her and their marriage and divorce and the grief to not come up aside from dead mother in the confessional. it's so weird and frustrating to see the obvious moments where those things should've lead to them been addressed, in whatever way, and the show just. don't take the opportunity to do so. his parents snatched his kid up and moved him to texas ffs!! and it just feels so sloppy to get zero movement or progression in such a big storyline. and now it's the mid season finale and either nothing is gonna happen, or something major will that fucks eddie up again, and then we have to wait ANOTHER 3+ months for anything there and it's just like. whyyyyyy. anyway, sorry for the rant ❤ it's all just sooo stupid and it makes me mad
^^^ all of this, and especially when you remember how, pre-s7, the emergencies were always used as plot devices to further the development of the main characters and move their stories along! like, in the s4 opener, where helping that single mother deliver her baby made chimney realize that he couldn't keep letting his fears of fatherhood keep him from maddie for the rest of her pregnancy anymore. or how the plane crash in s1 caused bobby's breakdown but also caused him to open up to hen and buck for the first time. or how in s5 it was a series of emergencies in 5x14 that gave buck the idea to take eddie to see charlie, so that he could regain his belief that his work as a first responder was actually worth something. like, 8x04 ESPECIALLY seemed like such an obvious set-up for not only eddie to reach out to chris, but also for him to realize he needs to go to texas rather than letting his parents get their way. and then...nothing.
#neethu answers#anon#don't apologize for ranting lmao i'm actually glad there are people coming to talk to me about this#because the way fandom at large is justifying the terrible storytelling in this season is making me feel like i'm crazy#negativity
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