#ask cas

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is the black brothers having abusive parents canon or a fandom thing? same with draco. (sorry im new to this fandom)

Hi!

So it's canon that Sirius ran away and it's canon that Walburga blasted Sirius off of the family tree. It's also canon that Walburga and Orion were supporters of Voldemort's agenda, though idk if it mentioned if they actually supported HIM

I'm 99% sure the actual abuse is fanon but I think it's widely accepted because of the canon context.

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i love how the first and last of the sirius to remus christmas notes you wrote are the shortest, but for different reasons. the first us short bc sirius isnt as comfortable writing a long winded note without sounding too emotional, but the last is short bc remus already knows what he wants to say and theres not much else to say other than "i love you"

just some thoughts! love your writing!

The fact that people actually think about what I write makes me so happy <3 Thank you for reading it!

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So I have a drawing of Lily that I just finished that I rlly like, and I want to post it but I havent posted anything before. My friend keeps saying I just need to post smth, but like... thats scary

Please post it, I wanna see! I know it can be scary but I'll fight any haters for you, promise!

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you could've said cigarettes after sex but instead you went with "post coital spliff" unfair😭😭😭 (no hate I love youuuu)

Hahahaha I had to make it poetic and shit

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aww, you followed me right as I ran out of chocolate:(

it's so funny seeing you follow me because you followed me in the past too and then I go WEEE and end up deactivated 😭

I'm good I'm good

okay so MY question is

if you could only keep ONE marauders ship together, who would it be?

Oh I'm glad I found you again! If this happens to anyone else, people are always welcome to DM me to ask me to re-follow! I don't bite!

To answer your question, I would pick wolfstar.

I know I'm SUCH a jegulus lover and I love writing them most but tbh I don't have anything against jily or bartylus so like...I know James and Reg could be with other people in an alternate universe. But for Sirius and Remus...I can;t see them with anyone but each other. So yeah, Wolfstar.

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I will pray for you.

No, not in a way for you to find god, or for you to be 'fixed'.

I know how toxic is that and my religion should bring peace. Sorry people represent us wrong, sorry people have been very bad, people are always like this.

But, to me, it's the only thing I can do. You are a wonderful person, and i can't do anything for you since I am not in the USA or don't know you.

But I can support your work, like everything, reblog, and I can pray! I will pray for you to be always happy, to reach every goal, to life to be easy on you! And even if my prayings don't do much or if you believe it won't do anything at all, it's okay, at least I want to let you know there are people who love you without even meeting you!

You are wonderful.

Thank you, that's so kind of you <3 I'm sending you lots of love.

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The worst thing that could happen while flirting happened.

For context I am a lesbian. I am gay for the girls. Sapphic. Girl kisser. Whatever the fuck you want to call it

Well I was at a school dance with a few of my friends and they were urging me to flirt since I had recently had a BAD break up. And im like fuck it why not.

So I see this person in the corner right. And they are STUNNING. 100% my type. They have sort curly hair a beautiful face, not wearing too much make up and with a hourglass figure. My friends point them out immediately and tell me I should try my luck out with them. I agree they're cute and go over.

I go over to them and I start to flirt and they flirt back. And we're vibing. So I introduce myself. And then they introduce themselves with a unique masculine name.

My dumbass still does not get it so im like oh that's a unique name how did your parents end up giving it to you etc

And they're like I named myself I'm trans.

Fuck.

So I freeze up. And now obviously I don't want to keep pursuing him since hes not a woman. Maybe I should have stuck around found another excuse and left in a bit but in my sock I blurted out sth along the lines of "oh i thought you were a woman!"

I feel awful about it. The way his face fell- he looked like he was about to cry. Add to everything else that I look like what youd imagine a stereotypical straight woman to look like he probably thought he was passing and I was straight.

I tried to apologise to him but he and his friends left soon after and he's been avoiding me at school

I don't know what to do

new anon.

Awwwwww

I mean...okay, what you said was a bit of a foot-in-the-mouth situation, definitely. But I feel like your mental reaction was actually quite a good thing. Because like...some people might still pursue him because they don't see him as a boy, you know?

So yeah, I think if you see him again, you could apologize and if he seems receptive, try to explain your reaction was because you see him as a boy and so you were figuring that out in your mind. but I wouldn't over apologize, either. Like accept that he probably needs time. As shitty as it feels, you probably upset him and the best thing you can do in that situation is give him space. You can use this to try to learn from your reaction for if this happens again in the future.

But also like...people say dumb shit sometimes. Don't beat yourself up forever. It sounds like it was a mistake, so learn from it, try to apologize, and promise yourself to do better in the future <3

naming you stripes anon

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*deep breath and huge sigh*

Guys. We do not bind with bandages (that's why I literally put multiple warnings about it in Clandestine). We do not bind with things that are not intentionally made for binding. We do not bind for long hours or with incorrectly sized materials. We do not bind unsafely.

Be smart. If you want to bind, do it safely. Meaning:

Use a binder or tape created for binding.

Remove tape correctly, so you don't hurt your skin.

Wash your binders according to directions of the company.

Buy binders/tape from highly-reviewed, reputable, (preferably queer-owned) companies.

Use the correctly sized product. Do not size down.

Use the product for the amount of hours suggested. Usually 8 hours for a binder for an adult and 6 hours for people under 18. AT MOST.

Change your binding routines in hot weather/during exercise. (As in, use a looser binder, bind for less time).

I know you want to bind and I know dysphoria is a bitch but please, please, don't be stupid. Make good choices. If you can't bind safely, find strategies to dress in a way that doesn't accentuate that area, like loose clothing and layering. But please don't make choices that could literally break bones, fuck up your back permanantly, etc. Not good, not good.

/big sibling rant.

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Cas I NEED fanart from you now that self-portrait was beautiful

Guys should I become a professional artist?

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requesting your art skills for remus taking padfoot on a walk

SPOTTED: Moony and Padfoot walking around London

(Help this took me like 20 minutes)

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hey I love your work!! you seem like such a gorgeous, thoughtful person.

I had a question, and you seem trustworthy—Cas have you seen the new ao3 privacy policy? the one with another checkbox? what’s that about? I’m a little scared especially with recent events and the actual documentation seems a little vague. what do you think? I live in the states

I have, and I come armed with research!

For those of you who don't know, the new policy states:

By checking this box, you consent to the processing of your personal data in the United States and other jurisdictions in connection with our provision of AO3 and its related services to you. You acknowledge that the data privacy laws of such jurisdictions may differ from those provided in your jurisdiction. For more information about how your personal data will be processed, please refer to our Privacy Policy.

To translate, this means you are consenting to your personal information (IE: e-mail address and IP address) being shared according to US privacy laws, not the laws of whatever country you live in or happen to currently be reading from. This is because AO3 is US-based.

This sounds scary.

However, if you delve deeper into AO3 privacy policies, it says:

We may share Personal Information if we:

are legally compelled to do so;

have a good-faith belief that such action is necessary to comply with a current judicial proceeding, court order, or legal process served on the OTW; or

are cooperating with law enforcement authorities.

We will cooperate with all investigations conducted by law enforcement authorities within the United States when legally required to do so. Cooperation with law enforcement authorities from other countries and cooperation when it is not legally required are at our sole discretion. Our discretion looks favorably on freedom and justice, and unfavorably on oppression and violence.

Basically this means they'll share your info if they're told to by law enforcement, which has ALWAYS been a law. This isn't a change. I think they just added this to say "Hey, remember if you live outside the US, just know that we as a website have to comply with US-based laws because we live here, and things suck here right now!"

The last part of their statement is also really telling. The creators of ao3 believe in free expression and are not trying to get you in trouble or censor your work. You're not going to get in trouble for posting/reading gay fanfics. It's not illegal to do so. (If that changes, we'll cross that bridge when we come to it).

I think the most important thing now is to advocate for the necessity of websites like ao3, because some people don't like websites like that. I think this shows that there will be probably more opponents to websites like this in the future. But I don't think the FBI is going to come and knock on the doors of everyone who reads bedtime stories on ao3.

Honestly, Ao3 is more transparent about this info than most people. all websites can share any personal info you put in if legally compelled to do so.

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cas your fanart is fire let’s see rosekiller

Of course! But please don't be jealous of my amazing skill.

I swear I'm an adult with a full-time job.

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Absolutely stunning art. Could you draw... wolfstar?

Don't be too blown away by my talent, now

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R-edge and r-edgy

OR

R-egg and r-eggy

Oh gosh, guys this is the question that will lose me all my followers.

R-egg and R-edgy

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May I request deer James and cat Regulus art?

Ngl I used reference photos for this one

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I just learned people use bible to measure their fics,

Like,

"I want a jegulus fic, shorter than the bible preferably but not a requirement."

Or "the gay scene was less than three verses, I felt like I was reading about Jesus wtf"

lol I have heard people say that fics are bigger than the bible, but I've never heard people measuring according to verses, that's wild