#its okay to be disabled

[disablednotdifferent]

no, i’m not saying i can’t go to the store because i’m lazy, i’m saying it because i can’t feel my legs because of how much pain they’re in

no, i’m not saying i don’t feel up to the mall because i don’t want to see you, i’m saying it because i’m too ashamed to tell you i can’t walk right now

no, i’m not saying i don’t want to shower because i’m “gross” or “lazy”, i’m saying it because i don’t think i’d be able to hold myself up in there or raise my arms to wash my hair

no, i’m not saying i haven’t changed clothes in a few days because i’m “being lazy” or “being nasty”, i’m saying it because i’m tired and in too much pain to change my clothes by myself right now

STOP CALLING DISABLED PEOPLE LAZY OR GROSS FOR THINGS WE CAN’T CONTROL!!!!

a little reminder that you are not gross or lazy because of any of these things, you are just struggling more than usual and you know what? thats okay. don’t listen to anyone who tells you otherwise, you can’t control how many spoons you have in a day and that’s okay too.

don’t forget to love yourself a little today <3

[willowshelter]

Let 👏 disabled 👏 characters 👏 be 👏 and👏 stay 👏 disabled 👏

[androdragynous]

I know i complained about the stardew valley penny and George cutscene at length but the it really is fucking. bizarre the lengths people will go to defend it because "the game lets you pick to side with him" (please do literally any reading about wheelchair use and realize why it's a problem that the game rewards you for moving someone without their consent.) or variants of that sentiment but then it's like. the rest of the cutscene is also So Weird

Like. Penny moves an old man in a wheelchair without asking him. He gets upset, she asks if you saw what happened The game prompts you to select from;

"I was. You did a kind thing there, Penny." (+50 friendship with Penny)

"I was. You should've asked instead of assuming George wanted help." (-50 friendship with Penny)

"I'm just taking a walk, minding my own business." (No effect on friendship.)

And these are the REVISED options. Before 1.4, the second option wasn't"you should have asked", it was "You should've left him alone. Now he's grumpy."

So already it's kind of shit. The person she's upset - who's entire existence in the game is experiencing inaccessibility, let's be real - because he was shoved without permission just for being in a wheelchair doesn't have his friendship level affected at all.

Regardless of which answer you pick, George apologizes (Penny does not apologize in every choice! But the guy she shoved does!) and says she was kind.

Once he's gone, she talks about how hard it must be to be old. It's worth noting, for what it's worth, that George has been using a wheelchair since a mining accident caused his immobility; it's not a result of age, and you learn about this whole he struggles with a bookshelf in his own home, where presumably he has been living with a wheelchair for at least two decades (given how he talks about his grandson), which is a whole different can of worms because why is this never addressed in a fictional community with multiple craftspeople who frequently do projects for each other?

Anyways. So Penny's like, damn, sucks that he's old. And the options the game gives you - all neutral in terms of friendship points - are:

"I'd rather not think about it."

"It's just a different part of life."

"That's why we should respect our elders."

"I'd rather die young..."

Like are you kidding me? You have a cutscene that's about being disabled - it's not about aging, because his disability was not caused by aging, it is explicitly and directly about the fact that he is in a wheelchair. And the game assumes your opinions will be "Not my problem,", "That's an old people thing,", and "I'D RATHER BE DEAD"? And this is something people just... don't remark on? Even in conversations ABOUT this cutscene? Like, George's mentions of being disabled are already Constantly Miserable -able-bodied writer standard quality - but the game is just like. Yeah you can say you'd rather be dead rather than express any positive sentiment about this guy surviving a traumatic mining accident. You can't say it's great that he's able to still be a part of the community in his chair, or renovate his house to make it accessible the way you can build ENTIRE HOMES for other characters. The community center you rebuild in the Good Ending for the community is only accessible by stairs. The path out of his home is dirt. It's the little things, y'know, like... obviously he wasn't thought about as his own character. The game's writing sees him as a source of conflict for others, and down to the very tiles of the terrain, he's irrelevant.

AND THEN THE TOWN DOCTOR DOES A HIPAA VIOLATION AND GETS SAD IF YOU SAY GEORGE SHOULD HAVE AGENCY OVER HIS OWN BODY. WHAT ARE WE FUCKING DOING HERE

[neurodivergent-mermaid]

Thinking lots about disability things and realising its okay

Its okay to be unintelligent

Its okay to make lots of mistakes

Its okay to look ugly

Its okay to be weird

Its okay to act weird

Its okay, we are all humans, just trying to survive, it's okay to be weird to look weird to do weird things, when you break it down, it leads to, its okay, it is fine.

[mortuarydolls]

if u call the word retard the r word im gna punch u

[disablednotdifferent]

It’s currently 11 pm, EST. I’m sitting on a barstool in my kitchen while i make myself dinner because my legs hurt (just finished a 6 hour standing shift) and i’m lightheaded, and yknow what ? accommodating myself like this really improved my day. just thought i’d share (:

[salt-baby]

at some point in disability you stop wanting to "get better" and this is just really hard for able bodied people to understand for some reason

[flamingo--ing]

i was an alien this weekend !!! we led a parade!!

[crazysodomite]

opened discord for the first time in like a year and a half. WHAT IS THIS SHIT LMFAOOOOO

[swordsonnet]

lately, i've seen more people in the online autistic community acknowledging the struggles of people with higher support needs, which is of course an important development. but for some, that seems to come with the implicit assumption that low needs autistics "have it easy" or experience no stigma at all, which is just wrong??? people with low support needs are still disabled by their autism and still face discrimination because of it. sure, they are impaired to a lesser degree than those with higher support needs, but that doesn't mean you can just erase their struggles, y'know?

[lamafeeling]

"From the creators of Wonder, a movie on par with Music as far as autism infantilization"

[ditzydoodiary]

"its beneficial for you to watch other things in order for you to expand your horizons" no !!! go away !!!! i exclusively watch children's/animated media because it is one of the ONLY types of media/tv shows/movies i can process as an autistic person. everything else is too stressful. im perfectly happy watching only kids media idgaf dont tell me what to do if its something that unnecessary

[saturnniidae]

Why. Why do people think making AUs where Hiccup keeps his leg is a good thing..

[boycritter]

my disability really isnt a big deal for me. unfortunately my disability seems to be a really big deal for a lot of other people.

[disablednotdifferent]

Hi there folks! My name is Orion [He/Him/They/Them]

I am/Have:

• A physically disabled teen (chronic pain, chronic fatigue, and possible fibromyalgia)

• Neurodivergent (AuDHD)

• Audio Processing Disorder (APD)

• Queer

• POTS

• Super awesome!

I currently use one mobility aid, a cane, but am looking into forearm crutches and/or a wheelchair.

I utilize this blog to post about my experiences as a disabled teen, reblog things relating to my experiences, and post things to hopefully uplift other disabled people.

here are some little things about my blog, including a DNI/INT list!!

this blog is a QUEER FRIENDLY place!!

i myself am queer (FtM and gay T4T), so if that is not something you appreciate, this blog may not be for you!

EVERYONE is welcome here!

any race religion belief, you name it, anyone is welcome here except for those who fall under things listed on my DNI!

I use Tone Tags!

if you don’t understand them/know what they are, or if you just want a list of them, don’t be afraid to DM me!

DNI LIST

• Homophobes/Transphobes/Anybody against the Queer community.

• Racist/Skinhead/N@zi/Anything related to and/or agreeing with these ideals.

• Ableist, against self diagnosis, or anybody who believes disabilities are not real/cannot apply to young people.

• Bullies/Harassers.

• Overall ONLY negative people. While it’s so super okay to be negative sometimes, if that’s ALL you post about/comment/etc, please leave it off my blog or do not follow/interact with me!

INT LIST

• Queer people!

• Other disabled folks of any age!

• Neurodivergent people!

• Respectful neurotypical people!

• Any religion, race, etc etc.

• People who use tone tags!

• Anybody interested in learning about autism/disabilities/anything else I post about on this blog!

• Overall respectful/patient people

• Honestly, literally anyone as long as you are kind and respectful!

Thank you so much for reading folks! I can’t wait to see you around! <3

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[im-lost-in-ikea]

if I could tell myself five years ago anything, it'd be to hold on. that she is so brave and so strong even if no one sees it, but if she can just hold on a little longer it'll be worth it.

now, when things get tough, I think about me in five years. I'm more sure these days that I'll get there. i think she'll wanna tell me now the same thing I wanna tell little her.