#it feels very gaslighty

[peletiersdixon]

I am trying to read Trial of the Sun Queen by Nisha Tuli, and my reading enjoyment is being compromised by the writing of one Ms. Sarah J. Maas.

Lor, the FMC, who has POV chapters, is in the court of the Imperial Fae Sun King, Atlas, going through Trials™️ to be his Sun Queen. Atlas does not have POV chapters. Atlas also has reddish colored hair.

You know who else has POV chapters? Nadir. Nadir is the son of the Imperial Fae Aurora King, Rion. Nadir also has midnight black hair. Do you see where I am going with this?!

So, when I am reading spicy times in this book, between Lor and Atlas, who keeps coming across just a LITTLE BIT too PERFECT, I am like “NOPE NOPE NOPE. I. DO. NOT. TRUST. THIS.”

Anyway, I’m only 60% through the book (and according to the author this is book 1 in a series of 4 [which she said was slow burn] so that is another reason I DO NOT TRUST) SO WE WILL SEE.

[slippery-minghus]

honestly. it's so fucking frustrating and disheartening. that the only thing making me hesitant to cleanly cut contact with my mom, the thing that still looms after cutting away from my dad........ is that when they both finally bite it, that's two houses to sell. that's money that may mean *i* get to have my own house someday.

the key to the security my parents failed to give me from the moment i was born lies in their deaths. the least they can do. the very fucking *least* is to leave me the means to build that security on my own. they owe me so much more than that, but realistically? that small act of restitution is all i can and will ask for.

until then? i want nothing to do with them.

[beaniebaneenie]

This has nothing to do with you, and how dare you emotionally blackmail Loki like that?

Trying to force him to accept you as his mother, so you feel better and less guilty (and completely dismissing his emotional pain and distress over the last millennium) and you can Play Pretend like you're a happy family, when you know that he is desperate for a scrap of comfort? When that also means forcing him to accept Odin, his kidnapper, as his father?

Maybe it's an unpopular opinion, but I'm actually glad Loki denied her.

He didn't give in to the emotional blackmail.

THOR: THE DARK WORLD (2013) dir. Alan Taylor

[animefr0do]

admin at my job make me feel so insane. they make impossible, unrealistic, ridiculous, or otherwise impractical demands and i genuinely can not tell if

they're dumb

they think i'm dumb

do not care about the potentially harmful results of these demands

are lying or being generally dishonest about these situations

some kind of combination of the above

every time i question something, ask for clarification or demonstration, or any sort of explicit instruction i'm treated like i'm being unreasonable for calling bullshit

[sammygender]

*shoving a pile of my writings and song lyrics from between 2019-current at anyone who dares talk to me about my ex* here so this is the required reading to have an opinion on this subject-

[neeweekeewee]

I just finished Helluvaboss’s most recent episode “The Full Moon” and many of the themes surrounding Stolas’ and Blitzo’s rElAtiOnShIp make me even more uncomfortable than before…

For example:

Moxie telling Blitzo to “fuck him good” because their business is making good profits and they don’t want to lose Stolas’ book.

The last quarter of the show where they interact is just so…uncomfortably gaslighty on Stolas’ end. He’s been sexually abusing Blitzo and expects him to take Stolas in with open arms after he finally realizes “it’s wrong to sexually take advantage of the guy I have an obsession with, who is also of lower status than me.” Blitzo has made it clear in the first season how he felt like he was nothing but a sex toy to him and that Stolas made that very clear that all he wanted from him was sex. The consistency in this show is so all over the place in favor of this couple… it’s so cringe. From what we can see in the show, Stolas calls him demeaning pet names like “Blitzy” “My impish little play-thing” “My big-dicked Blitzy” and seems to always make unwanted sexual advances towards Blitzo instead of actually treating him with respect. Even when they’re in some form of danger, he makes it about sex.

“It’s like you cannot believe I might have these feelings about you and your first instinct is sex.”

My apologies….what??? This was their agreement? “On the full moon you bring the book to me and we have PASSIONATE FORNICATION.”

Blitzo had EVERY RIGHT to be upset that way. He is not in the wrong at all.

“Blitz I think so very highly of you, I didn’t realize you think so lowly of me….” LIKE YUCK BRO fuck outta here with that abuser shit.

It’s like the writers are COMPLETELY disregarding season 1….god this was a nightmare to watch.

Also some comments that made me uncomfortable/angry.

I loved the animation and the little glimpse of world building we got to see and that scene of BlitzFizz interacting was EVERYTHING to me.

They’re so much better for each other than Stolas and Blitzo.

[flower-boi16]

I just finished watching The Full Moon, here are my thoughts.

Positives:

+The opening musical number is good & is admittely pretty catchy. I expected it to be some god awful love ballad between Stolas and Blitz, and thank god it didn't end up being that.

+The scenes of the Cherubs being horrified of the stuff at Blitz is buying are pretty funny I'll admit

+Nice to see the Dhorks and Cherubs back as well as a team up between the two. That's a fun idea

Negatives:

-The Dhorks just. Randomly appear out of nowhere to capture the Cherubs...? Where did they come from????

-The Cherubs for some reason try to lie about being excorists...? Why??? Why are they lying about this??? Why can't they just tell the Dhorks their beef with the Imps???

-So the Dhorks got more funding from the government because of the incident that happened the last time they met with the Imps, implying that they did send the footage they had, implying that the government now knows about the existance of demons. Ok so woulden't an incident as big as this get on the news...? Did this thing get on the news or no???

-The Cherubs are screaming right behind Blitz yet he NEVER hears them for some reason????

-Blitz being on completely good terms with Fizz still feels very weird to me. Like Fizz just instantly forgives Blitz for the sheer amount of physical and emotional truama he gave him in one episode and their back to being buddies again. It just doesn't feel earned is what I'm saying.

-So it's revealed that Loona and the others were following Blitz throughout the whole episode, which is how they were able to find the cherubs. Ok so if they were following Blitz around then woulden't they have seen the Cherubs? They were plainly hiding on the roof in the first scene, anyone could see them. Did they see the Cherubs at first? And if they did, why didn't they attack them earlier???

-The whole fight feels oddly very slow. Like I just felt bored while watching this fight scene unfold and that sucks because season 1 was able to create good fights, and even season 2's first half has some well-animated fight scenes. Why do the movements of the characters here feel so sluggish now???

-One of the Cherubs for some reason doesn't cut Millie's tail off and stabs her leg instead even though it's literally the thing that’s strangling her.

-Millie throws st. Cherub with her tail after that which she for some reason didn't do earlier.

-Moxxie makes quip in front of one of the Cherubs when he could’ve just instantly shot him in the face there. Seriously that was such an easy opportunity

-That fucking line where Stolass says "I thought so highly of you, I didn't know you felt so low of me" is PEAK Stolass victimization and Blitz being demonized. Plus it makes no fucking sense; like, BITCH YOU WERE SEXUALLY ABUSING HIM. OF COURSE HE WAS GOING TO HATE YOU FUCKING IDIOT.

-The whole finale scene is very confusing to me. It starts out good enough with the show actually ackgnowlegding Stolas' mistakes for once but then towards the end the framing begins to shift into Stolas victimizing and Blitz demonization, all culminating in that final line. "Oh no Blitz hurt Stolas' feelings he's such an asshole!!!". Like although the show sometimes acknowledges Stolas' mistakes it's rendered null by the show Still framming Blitz as an asshole for not understanding that Stolas has real feelings for him, even though all Stolas has been doing is SEXUALLY ABUSING HIM.

It all feels gaslighty to me. And the line where Stolas says that Blitz not realizing that Stolas has genuine feelings for him and thinks it's just for sleeping with him shows that the reletionship can't work makes it sound like Blitz is apart of the problem for not reconizing that Stolas loves him, even though, again, Stolas has been treating Blitz horribly throughout the first season so why WOULD Blitz think that Stolas loves him???? It's just more Stolas victimization painting him as the sympathetic one while Blitz is once again framed as the asshole by the narrative. I'm sorry. But I'm fucking TIRED of it. I'm tired of Stolas victimization. I'm tired of Blitz being demonized. And I'm TIRED OF THE FANDOM BLAMING BLITZ AS THE TOXIC ONE HERE WHEN HE'S NOT.

And sadly, the Blitz demonization is only going to get worse from here judging by the latest trailer.

This episode was just as awful as I was expecting it to be. 2.5/10.

[nightcolorz]

Its weird to me when people read armand's submission in the "face down in the coffin" scene as a trauma response but say its a manipulation when hes visibly triggered in the "are you asking or making me" scene. What are your thoughts on this kind of pick and choose? D:

Thank u for the ask! Interesting question <3

I think it comes down to how a lot of ppl r understanding of Armand’s character enough to pick up on when his trauma is informing his behavior, but are also just hesitant to interpret most of his actions in good faith bcus they feel the dread of his betrayal coming and can’t trust him to be sincere. Which makes sense lol, especially for new fans or for fans who aren’t rlly into Armand. (It could also be part not relating or identifying with the type of trauma Armand has, so not being able to as easily understand where his reactions r coming from)

But what these fans r missing is that every thing Armand does is a trauma response 😭 his manipulations and his lies are also reactions to his trauma!!! So even if he is being manipulative, he is also always acting from a place of fear. the “are you asking or making me” bit is so obviously a trauma reaction that it boggles my mind that ppl r interpreting it as manipulative. I made a whole post about this lol: https://www.tumblr.com/nightcolorz/754366178230730752/asking-you-because-i-havent-seen-anyone-else?source=share , but tldr, Armand asks Louis this when he’s pushing Armand’s literally one singular clear boundary he will never ever break and by pushing that boundary Armand is internalizing that Louis is communicating that his boundaries mean nothing in this relationship bcus Louis is “his master”. So by asking him if he has a choice or if hes being made, Armand is asking if their weird little bdsm thing is just for fun or if hes seriously taking away his agency. Which, Armand is not mad at Louis for taking away his agency lol. He is upset but not upset that his lover would use him like a slave, in fact he is comfortable with and used to this. What he is upset about is having a distressing dynamic that is unclear in where the rules and the authority lie. Armand is ok with being demeaned, he is not ok with being left lost and confused and unsettled in where his use lies. What he looks for in a relationship is security, which Louis is not giving him. And honestly I find it kinda upsetting when ppl interpret that as manipulative 💀bcus Armand is literally just asking for clarification and perhaps asserting a boundary for the first time in his relationship, which like, is a normal thing to do 😭.

Armand is manipulative and gaslighty, but he’s not emotionally manipulative lol. I don’t think he understands his own emotions and the severity of his own trauma well enough to use it to gain sympathy from ppl that will give him an advantage. He is very lost and desperate 90% of the time and he’s looking for someone to tell him what he should be doing 😭. That’s kinda his deal

thank u for the ask once again!!! <3

[short-honey-badger]

Peppermint Tea 12

Hey guys! Sorry it's been a bit since the last post! I ended up with a bad case of strept throat and I'm just now feeling up to do my stuff. Anyway. I hope you enjoy!

Warnings! None I don't think? Some drinking. Mihawk gets a little dark. A little gaslighty. It's all for your own good tho! Next part? It's finally Smut time!

I forgot to say! The song that they dance to HERE

Begin Again is HERE

Masterlist

Breakfast is already done by the time Dracule finally decides that he is done, not hiding per se, but procrastinating. You greet him with a blinding smile, and his thoughts flash back to the portrait of a younger you. He shoves the image away and brings you in for a quick kiss before he sidesteps you and an excited Hank for the stove. He plies his plate and joins you at the table. 

“I brought you another gift, dear one,” Dracule begins and you roll your eyes at him. He huffs and sips his tea before continuing, “Don’t pout. I think you’ll enjoy this one.” 

“I enjoy all of your gifts, Mihawk,” You point out gently and toss Hank a piece of grilled fish, “But I’ll need to start getting rid of some stuff if you keep bringing me such nice things.” 

Dracule casts his eyes around your humble home. While there wasn’t anything wrong with the things you have drug up from the shore from shipwrecks, It was far less than what you deserved. Especially since he knew about your past.

“Not everything is meant to be kept forever, Darling,” Dracule says right back, and you sigh but nod. The older man does have a point. Out with the old and in with the new, and all that. You catch the smug twist of his lips at your concession and roll your eyes. He was such a priss. 

“Finish your breakfast, and then I’ll bring it in,” Mihawk orders gently after a moment and stands to place a kiss on your brow. He leaves with a lingering look your way that has your cheeks pinking up. 

Down at his ship, Mihawk hefts two large crates with ease and carries them back up the beach and to the cottage. One is filled with a variety of fruit and vegetables that you did not have, and Dracule hoped that the more exotic ones would take to the soil of your island. The other crate held the real gift to you, one that he was far more excited to share. 

The dishes have been cleared by the time he makes it back to your home. Mihawk leaves the crate of seeds and sprouts outside for you to investigate later. Hank is lounging in the sun, and Mihawk rolls his eyes at the big lug as he trudges back inside. You have made them fresh cups of tea, and Dracule gladly takes his with a quiet thanks after setting the crate aside. 

“You'll need a clear space for this one, Darling.” Mihawk points out, and you escape to the living room to clear off part of one of your many bookshelves that line the walls. He follows after you and sets the crate on the floor, then kneels to flip open the lid of the box. You peer inside, brow furrowing at whatever was inside. 

“This is a gramophone. It's an older model, so you'll have to crank it here for it to power itself.” Dracule lifts the record player and sets it on the spot you've cleared for him. He dusts it off and then dives back down to retrieve a large metal horn that he attaches to the back of the box. While he is screwing the horn in, you crouch and look through the crate, carefully pulling out several very thin square objects with art on the front. 

“What are these for?” You ask and hand them over to Mihawk when he reaches for them. He opens the square and pulls out a shiny black disk that he sits in the middle of the gramophone. You watch in growing fascination as the vinyl begins to spin and jump out of your skin when noise blurts out from the horn. 

The static mellows out, and soon your cottage is filled with the delicate notes of classic music and the sound of a man and a woman singing in beautiful harmony. It's in a language that you don't know, but it isn't any less beautiful. You step closer to the machine, awe on your face. You've never heard something so beautiful before, and you close your eyes to better lose yourself in the changing notes. 

Mihawk watches you, eyes softening as he takes you in. You sway side to side, your long hair dancing around your waist, completely entranced in the classical tune. He steps behind you, hands settling on your waist as he gently leads you away from the bookshelf and to the middle of the living room. He sways with you, keeping to the slow beat of the song. 

One of Dracule's hands finds your own, and he twines your fingers together with a hum, bringing it up and around to wrap around his neck. His other arm wraps around your waist, pulling you flush against his front, “This is one of my favorite pieces. It's a recount of a young man and his affection for his first love.” 

You shiver when he speaks, his tone sinful and dripping with intent. You wonder if he is trying to tell you something in his usual, difficult, roundabout way. Did he love you? You were pretty sure that you loved him. 

Mihawk holds you close, and as you close your eyes, it is him you hear, humming quietly in your ear. You cock your head up and bring his head down, kissing him as best you can in the odd angle. He twists you around not a second later, untangling his hand from yours so that Dracule can slip it into your hair and hold you just the way he wants as he kisses you senseless. The song comes to an end just as he is pulling you away, leaving you staring up at Mihawk like he was your everything. 

Dracule gently untangled his hand from your hair to smooth his knuckles across your cheek, then shifted down to rub his thumb along your bottom lip.

“Would you like to listen to more?” Mihawk asks softly and breaks whatever tension that had built around the two of you. 

You nod, an eager smile breaking across your lips, “Yes, please. I didn't understand what they said, but it was beautiful.” 

“Not many would, Latin is a dead language to many,” Dracule informs you helpfully and then crouches to investigate the rest of the records inside the crate, “I made sure to bring you a variety of genres.” 

You thank his kindness with a kiss on his cheek and giggle when the stoic man looks inordinately proud of himself. He flicks your forehead when you go in for another, “You've made your point.” 

You pout at him briefly before you become distracted by the records again. You choose one at random and hand it to Mihawk, and then rise so that you can watch how he changes the disks. 

For the next two days, the two of you went through the music that Dracule had brought for you. While you enjoyed the classical music that the warlord favored, you found that the more upbeat jazz genre was more your style. Dracule would smile to himself whenever he caught you humming one of your favorites and pat himself on the back for doing such a good job on his gift. 

On the third day, the weather turned for the worse, casting your usual tropical and nice weather under dark clouds and raging winds. Rain pelted the island while you and Mihawk took shelter inside, Hank lay in front of the fireplace, drying his wet fur from his run inside. You sat curled up in the corner of the couch, a small glass of wine held in your hand. Mihawk had assured you that just a small bit would not hurt and would help to warm you up. 

Dracule sat in the armchair across from you, feet kicked up as he sipped from his own glass and paged through one of your waterlogged books. Vera Keys crooned in the back, a song about starting all over to begin again. You hum along to the sad song, frowning a bit at the words.

 Could you ever do that? Let go of your life here? Begin again somewhere else? The thought sent fear shooting down your spine, a voice echoing in the back of your mind that you could never leave this island. 

Dracule glances over to see you frowning and can tell that you have delved into your thoughts. He wonders how much of your past that you recall, but he doesn't dare ask, would hate himself for bringing you any unnecessary pain. There was no need for you to know right now, not when it kept you safe. 

“Something wrong, Angel?” Dracule rumbles and sets his book away to focus on you. He stands and steps over Hank to sit beside you on the couch. 

Your lips screw up even more, and you debate on telling Dracule your thoughts. You'd already spilled enough on him the other morning about your dreams. 

“I just…wish that I could leave sometimes,” you admit quietly and sit your glass aside. Your hands pick at themselves, a nervous habit over the years, “But everything I think about it, there is this voice telling me how I shouldn't. How it isn't safe.” 

Dracule is silent beside you. Panic had shot through him for half a second when you mentioned wanting to leave. He could understand why. You've been trapped here all your life, but the thought of Big Mom somehow finding out about you? That was unacceptable. You needed to be kept safe, and Dracule would be the one to take up that role. 

“While I understand your desire to leave, to explore the world,” Mihawk begins softly and draws you close to him, manhandling you a little so that you sit on his lap, legs on either side of his own, “I would listen to that voice. The world is vast, and there are people out there that would destroy everything that makes you, you.” 

You find yourself nodding along. Dracule sounds so serious, and you wish he would tell you what had wronged him in the world for him to feel this way. For him to want you to stay here. 

“What kind of people?” You ask, and Dracule frowns harshly, looming far more frightening than you have seen him since the first time he stepped foot on your island. You aren't sure if his answer brings you comfort or not. 

“People like me, Darling. Pirates who take what they want when they want. I'm where I am for a reason, and I want to keep you away from anyone else who might wish you harm.” 

@writingmysanity @kenkenmaaa @foggyturtleknightangel @browneyedhufflepuff @djbumblebee @goth-mami-writer @myradiaz

[automaticheartcrusade]

Tom Houston, they could never make me hate you Tom Houston. I’m his #1 defender and fan, cause for some reason people genuinely don’t like him and I’ve even seen some people call him bad and I just….how?

What I like about Tom is that when you meet him in Black Friday, at first glance he’s an asshole. He seems very closed off and inconsiderate of other’s people’s feelings. You feel for Emma cause she’s just trying to mend things with her brother in law and you feel for Tim cause he feels left out. But the minute “What Tim Wants”- plays, you immediately see Tom as a whole. He loves his son to death. He loves his wife. He hates himself. He thinks he ruined his families life and that’s why he pushes Emma, the only other family he has left, away. Nick Lang said on Twitter that he also thinks he doesn’t deserve happiness due to this. He’s grappled with so much grief and self loathing, which is probably why Jane’s spirit in Nightmare Time is so gaslighty because he believes he deserves to be treated this way. Not only that but Tom is good with kids. He cares about Tim, he cares about Lex and Hannah. Tom might be a little full of it at times but he’s genuinely a good guy. Also he’s freaking hilarious, Dylan Saunders performance and line reads never fail to crack me up. But with how people speak of Tom, you’d think they never fully watched Black Friday or listened to his songs. He’s such a complex and emotionally distraught character, no one even talks about the fact that he has PTSD from the war AND the crash.

I also saw Hathetfeild fans on my twitter timeline not like Tom Houston anymore because of the car incident. Unpopular opinion but I feel like people take that scene wayyy too seriously. It’s supposed to be so absurd and over the top, a moment to laugh at. On a character perspective, Tom still clearly loves Becky, but we know that he’s constantly tackled with the guilt of what happened to Jane that he’s willing to do anything for her, deep down he still loves her, even if she’s gaslighting him constantly. So yeah Tom Houston get behind me cause they don’t understand you like I do.🤺🤺🤺

[divineatrophy]

Do you have Armand/Daniel fic recs to share? I’d love to hear about your favourite fics!!

omg this question made me realize I've been reading way less than I thought I was, and also I need to start actually using bookmarks because my memory is not it. I wish I had some more avant garde underground picks so forgive me if you've read these before!!

and then what? by andrealyn - maybe?? the first dm fic I read and really stuck in my brain like a little seed, I love memory altering stuff (also were the flowers orange? because hanahaki disease is my trope guilty pleasure and two truths and a liar because daniel's professional life is my other guilty pleasure)

the spiral is unspooling by reedroad - THEEE fic. to me. I'm behind a chapter because they're long but I love the narrative structure of the video tapes and daniel's relationship with his own memories, usually I don't read fics 100k+ words but really well paced. also love seeing dad daniel. dadniel.

the portrait of an angel drawn from memory by e_va - after s2 daniel turning, only one chapter so far but fun character exploration of the dynamics of the decision to turn daniel. very fun art imagery through-line re: armand. and a WEIRD DREAM which I of course am rendered helpless by

care and keeping by katplanet - not what I normally read just because I normally don't seek out explicit stuff but I feel like I saw it rec'd a lot. really good dialogue and character work. I keep thinking of it as just kinda of comfortable? fun to watch them figure stuff out in a character-focused way outside of anything supper plotty or world-ending

perfect victims by argestas - also not what I normally read and also also not what you asked for BUT I love louis here and I never talk about him enough so I'm throwing it out there anyway. as a member of tomshiv nation I can't help but love a complicated marriage where people make themselves unhappy. also armand is gaslighty and annoying in a really understated way that's very funny

that's all I've got for now but always happy to hear recs too!! I tend to read less when I'm writing a lot because idk I guess I'm doing that instead but I know there's some really good stuff out there

[fierceawakening]

My activity is acting up. @ante--meridiem I was able to see something from you earlier and read it but now I’m not seeing it and hope I during somehow nuke it. Since I’m responding from memory I’m likely missing some bits.

First: I think people can have rights to things even if they have undeniably terrible character. I do not like that Harris conceded to Trump, as I think it gives him rein to exercise power in accordance with his character, which is craven, corrupt, and greedy. But the rule is there for a reason, recognizing and enforcing the will of the people, and that’s more important.

I do not think it should matters one whit whether someone has good character or bad in matters of:

Access to housing

Access to health care

Access to sufficient, nutritious food

Safety in your home

Freedom from intimate abuse

A fair trial if accused of crime

Probably some others. These get (or should get, ideally) a designation we call “rights” which mean they are universal and inviolable no matter how horrible someone is or how consistently.

Because I think people have rights, I don’t think it’s a contradiction to say “Susan is a white supremacist. I despise her. But I gave her the keys to apartment 5B yesterday and will bring her food tomorrow. Now if you’ll excuse me I have water to blast in my ear canals to clean out the memory of those words she uses.”

(I don’t think everyone else of my political persuasion sees it this way, but I personally see that as my commitment when I chose the left over the right. To me being a leftist just MEANS society owes support to its members and that duty does not go away no matter what. It’s difficult to live with sometimes but it’s what I strongly believe is required to make a fair world and I’ve chosen to invest in doing that.)

Because of that commitment, I feel very leery when people say what sounds to me like “you’re not supposed to judge someone’s character, only their individual actions.” Because to me, someone’s character just IS the sum of their past actions plus their likely future actions.

Can I be wrong about this math? Given that it involves predicting the future and I am not clairvoyant, yes. I would not have guessed ten years ago that I would think Liz Cheney has admirable character (despite still thinking she holds many alarming and terribly wrong views), because I would neither have predicted Trump nor that so many others would cower before him rather than risk their jobs to defy him, highlighting her bravery in comparison.

But I do think most of us do math like this, and pretty often, so it feels weird and gaslighty to me (whether it’s meant to or not, and I find your arguments that it’s not meant to and is mostly just a response to resurgent Calvinism convincing) to hear “if you conclude someone is more bad than good, you’re not only wrong but behaving badly yourself.”

[medusas-daughter]

Hey so question and this is just a theory and I haven't read the leak.

What if the "Agatha does sacrifice herself for Billy" theory is real but this lead to Rio and Agatha being together in a sort of afterlife thing, would you be more okay with that ?

Because Rio is Death and seems to want Agatha dead but she also very clearly is still in love with Agatha and doesn't want her mother to have her. she wouldn't be casual about the person she loves being dead if they could never see each other again after death, right ?

See I don't think Rio wants Agatha dead I think the fighting is like flirting for them but Rio can heal physical wounds that's why she was okay with a little physical maiming but against leaving Agatha with her mother. I think Rio takes bodies and decomposes them I don't think Rio spends any time with people in their afterlife which is why she hates ghosts cause they're not supposed to exist to her.

But even if the afterlife were real and Agatha and Rio got to be together I would still hate that ending ngl Agatha doesn't need to die for them to be together they were together before when she was alive they can find their way back to that if they both want to. And I would still hate that ending because Agatha would still be dead and I am sick of the sheer number of female characters I fall in love with just to watch die/self sacrifice/lose their power at the end of the story and I find it even more annoying/gaslighty when it's framed as a good thing.

If it happened less often I might be convinced that some stories demand it but it's soooo many it's starting to feel like propaganda

[newlyy]

Your post about misogynistic/patriarchal women really resonated with me and I empathize SO much girl I would be rich if I had a dollar for every single time i’ve seen a woman say some variant or another of “women are WAY worse than men!!!!” and wholeheartedly mean it. It ESPECIALLY makes me feel like the Joker when I see women who by all means carry themselves as feminist/progressive say shit like “misogynistic women are way worse than misogynistic men!!!” or some other misogynistic gaslighty bullshit that came straight from the ancient misogyny playbook.

I wish there was more of us having the space and drive to criticize our own sex class’ actions in a fair and just way without carrying the guilt of how our sex class is treated & without also following the subconscious path of least resistance (woman bad, man good). I wish there were more outlets for us to just be so fucking for real with each other, but in the way of respect, maturity, empathy, dignity, and accountability. I wish we all had more self awareness about the patterns we perpetuate.

It sucks when you not only have to cope with 50% of the population automatically hating you because of the morally neutral biological sex you happened to develop as in the womb, but you also have to deal with the members of your OWN sex perpetuating the cycles of subjugation and working against their own interests on top of that because of how deeply the knife of misogyny is plunged into our stomachs. As an individual girl/woman in the world, you have to incessantly deal with and mentally prepare for the indiscriminate bombardment of misogyny that is almost guaranteed to sneak up on you from every single direction possible. Feeling like you have close to no true allies, or only very few of them on a global scale. It’s a brutal, harrowing feeling.

It definitely gave me more insight into how the human mind copes with pain and injustice in bizarre and miserable ways, I guess. Newlyy I am ripping off the skin of my face thinking about this, it truly is suffocating. The patterns, the cycles, the history repeating itself!!!! I see you and I get it

exactly. you're completely right. no notes.

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My favourite cases that have come up in dissertation research so far are a tie between the fashionable 18th century lady with one eye who grabbed an apparently respectable dude’s wrist while he was pickpocketing her at the theatre, took her purse back *out of his hand* and then punched him in the face before dragging him off to the constable to prosecute him, plus straight-up blanked him when he wrote her a gaslighty letter begging her not to prosecute in a really passive-aggressive way, and the *incredibly* short-sighted Italian writing an Italian-English dictionary in 18th century London who was sexually assaulted by a sex worker sitting in a doorway, was so short-sighted that he then punched *another* sex worker standing close to her, panicked when some nearby dudes surrounded him when the woman he punched understandably screamed and started pushing him into the gutter so that he tried to wave a fruit knife around him to intimidate them, didn’t realise that he *straight up stabbed one of them several times* while doing this, and then was chased by a mob across several streets until he was rescued by the proprieter of a shop where he bought pens and ink, who faced down the mob while he handed him gratefully over to a passing watchman.

(I feel genuinely very sorry for pretty much everyone involved in the second case; it’s just this incredible comedy of errors!)

The stories that are just sitting in the Proceedings of the Old Bailey online database waiting to be found are quite incredible! I’ve never come across either of them *anywhere* before. They are like *jewels*.

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To all the Buddie shippers, I'm so sorry fam.

I watched up to season 4 and posted here last year sometime that I was sure buddie wasn't gonna happen (though I had my fingers crossed for you all anyway) and I am sorry that 911 has turned out like all the other queerbait shows. I've been there, we've all been queerbaited and ignored and made to feel like we're stupid and it sucks ass.

I promise you, you are not being silly or frivolous or deluded for seeing what was right in front of you. Your feelings are 100% valid. The creators used romantic tropes and applied them to two straight characters with no intention of addressing it to either confirm it OR deny it.

That lack of denial is very telling.

TV show creators, producers & showrunners will always say that the fans or the audience are "getting the wrong idea" about a queer pairing. It's incredibly reductive and feels like an attempt to 'shame' fans.

Yet they never try to put an end to the romantic tension they have created. A few lines of dialogue. That's all it would take. A quick denial. Tension resolved, on with the story. Get Maddie to say to Buck:

"You and Eddie have gotten close, hope I'm not overstepping but are you...more than friends?"

That's it. A question. Simple one. Would be in character, make sense and be judgement free.

Hell, they could have any character mistake them for a couple and have them clarify that they are just friends who enjoy hanging out but are straight.

But the writers will never do that. Because they want it both ways. They want fans to watch the show for some representation, without having to provide any.

Denying Buddie is a thing would mean losing the audience that watch the show hoping for it. It means they lose you. And you make them money. It's gaslighty. They treat their fans like idiots and I will never watch a show that does that ever again. (Supernatural was the wake up call).

So while you come to terms with all this buddie fam, do yourselves a favour and use this energy to create! Write fix-it fanfic, draw art, make playlists, crochet...steal the characters you love and just write or read or imagine your own stories....

You can close the door on canon and have fun with the characters on their own.

It is also totally valid to move on to other ships, shows and characters. There's a heap of newer media that consciously avoids queerbaiting and those are the shows that deserve your dedication.

Love and hugs to you all!