#is how they RESPECT women

[ot3]

at this point i just view the term 'queer infighting' as a dogwhistle for transmisogyny. makes my skin crawl every time i see it

[eve-was-framed]

this was genuinely healing to see

[rosefires20]

My brainrot today is thinking about just how incredible for a character Eowyn is.

Genuinely. The series might not have many female characters but the ones we do get go so fucking hard.

To me, Eowyn is literally the definition of defining being a woman for oneself. She rejects the roles she is given despite acknlowdging the importance and its mostly because she knows part of the reason is that she is a woman.

The reason why she is obsessed with Aragorn isn't because she loves him but because she wants what he has. She wants the freedom and courage and bravery that Aragorn has at every turn. She literally has multiple conversations during the Two Towers about how what she fears most is a cage. All this girl wants is the freedom to be and not be forced into a role. The best thing is that she literally gets that.

The segment of Return of the King about Eowyn and Faramir is literally about her piecing together what she truly wants. She doesn't want Aragorn. She wants freedom and the ability to choose. Faramir does nothing but encourage that in her. Their love story is literally one of the healthiest love stories I've seen in a long time because at the heart of it, their love is a place to return home to for both parties. Both go off to lead and help their people for a considerable amount of time before returning to each other but that does not diminish their bond. Even Faramir, I believe, falls in love with her bravery and dedication to her loved ones. The reason she went to Pelenor Fields and Gondor with the troops of Rohan was because she had things she wanted to fight for. She wanted to fight for herself, her people, and her loved ones. She is the one who protects Theoden after he is killed so that his body gets the treatment it deserves. She encourages Merry and helps him go to the battle because she sees her struggle in Merry. They feel helpless standing around when there are things to be doing.

Let's also not forget the fact that she was around Grima Wormtounge just as much as the King was. She was exposed to the same poison and awful words that eroded the king. It's even implied that her care for him is part of the reason why Theoden was savable when Gandalf showed up. She had the same power and bravery as everyone else even if she didn't see it in herself.

Then at the end of the day, SHE decides where she wants to go and what path she wants to walk. She walked the path of a warrior. The path of a princess/ruler. The path of a caretaker. But in the end she decides which elements truly mean something to her outside of gender definitions. That is what makes her character so incredible to me. In this she literally kills one of the biggest enemies in that battle with such a badass line.

[fantastic-nonsense]

Dare I ask: what is Morrison's opinion on Babs and Kory?

feast your eyes on an answer that is both sexist and insanely OOC for every character involved!

I've never been able to decide which part of this answer is the funniest (worst):

the concept that Dick is "happy-go-lucky" (much less to the point where "dealing with" a woman with baggage is a problem) and doesn't come with a metric shit ton of issues himself

Reducing Dick's relationships with either woman to how much "baggage" he has to deal with, as if that's a valid yardstick to judge how healthy, sustainable, or likable either of those relationships are

Kory being objectified and reduced to a "sexy model" and yet is simultaneously someone who has "way too many issues" to be a good romantic partner. This is an especially egregious comment considering she was a better partner to Dick than Dick was to her at multiple points during their relationship because of his issues.

the very idea that Barbara Gordon doesn't have trauma, baggage, and personal neuroses that rival Bruce Wayne himself (or that said trauma would be something that deters Dick from a relationship). Grant Morrison has never picked up a post-1980s Barbara comic in their life and it shows

anyway, once more with feeling: truly every time I stop feeling disgust and disdain towards Grant Morrison and start thinking ‘oh maybe I can forgive them for their many writing crimes someday’ some bullshit comes up to remind me of how much they SUCK

[strangeracrossthestreet]

gestures

these two fuckwads LMFAO the audacity to be awkward and speak like this while attempting murder, I CANNOT WITH THEM

literally just

"eto bleh, a little murder never killed anybody—"

[nerdgirlnarrates]

Even though it's been months since I switched from neurosurgery to internal medicine, I still have a hard time not being angry about the training culture and particularly the sexism of neurosurgery. It wasn't the whole reason I switched, but truthfully it was a significant part of my decision.

I quickly got worn out by constantly being questioned over my family plans. Within minutes of meeting me, attendings and residents felt comfortable lecturing me on the difficulties of having children as a neurosurgeon. One attending even suggested I should ask my co-residents' permission before getting pregnant so as not to inconvenience them. I do not have children and have never indicated if I plan to have any. Truthfully, I do want children, but I would absolutely have foregone that to be a neurosurgeon. I wanted to be a neurosurgeon more than anything. But I was never asked: it was simply assumed that I would want to be a mother first. Purely because I'm a woman, my ambitions were constantly undermined, assumed to be lesser than those of my male peers. Women must want families, therefore women must be less committed. It was inconceivable that I might put my career first. It was impossible to disprove this assumption: what could I have done to demonstrate my commitment more than what I had already done by leading the interest group, taking a research year, doing a sub-I? My interest in neurosurgery would never be viewed the same way my male peers' was, no matter what I did. I would never be viewed as a neurosurgeon in the same way my male peers would be, because I, first and foremost, would be a mother. It turns out women don't even need to have children to be a mother: it is what you essentially are. You can't be allowed to pursue things that might interfere with your potential motherhood.

Furthermore, you are not trusted to know your own ambitions or what might interfere with your motherhood. I am an adult woman who has gone to medical school: I am well aware of what is required in reproduction, pregnancy, and residency, as much as one can be without experiencing it firsthand. And yet, it was always assumed that I had somehow shown up to a neurosurgery sub-I totally ignorant of the demands of the career and of pregnancy. I needed to be enlightened: always by men, often by childless men. Apparently, it was implausible that I could evaluate the situation on my own and come to a decision. I also couldn't be trusted to know what I wanted: if I said I wanted to be a neurosurgeon more than a mother, I was immediately reassured I could still have a family (an interesting flip from the dire warnings issued not five minutes earlier in the conversation). People could not understand my point, which was that I didn't care. I couldn't mean that, because women are fundamentally mothers. I needed to be guided back to my true role.

Because everyone was so confident in their sexist assumptions that I was less committed, I was not offered the same training, guidance, or opportunities as the men. I didn't have projects thrown my way, I didn't get check-ins or advice on my application process, I didn't get opportunities in the OR that my male peers got, I didn't get taught. I once went two whole days on my sub-I without anyone saying a word to me. I would come to work, avoid the senior resident I was warned hated trainees, figure out which OR to go to on my own, scrub in, watch a surgery in complete silence without even the opportunity to cut a knot, then move to the next surgery. How could I possibly become a surgeon in that environment? And this is all to say nothing of the rape jokes, the advice that the best way for a woman to match is to be as hot as possible, listening to my attending advise the male med students on how to get laid, etc.

At a certain point, it became clear it would be incredibly difficult for me to become a neurosurgeon. I wouldn't get research or leadership opportunities, I wouldn't get teaching or feedback, I wouldn't get mentorship, and I wouldn't get respect. I would have to fight tooth and nail for every single piece of my training, and the prospect was just exhausting. Especially when I also really enjoyed internal medicine, where absolutely none of this was happening and I even had attendings telling me I would be good at it (something that didn't happen in neurosurgery until I quit).

I've been told I should get over this, but I don't know how to. I don't know how to stop being mad about how thoroughly sidelined I was for being female. I don't know how to stop being bitter that my intelligence, commitment, and work ethic meant so much less because I'm a woman. I know I made the right decision to switch to internal medicine, and it probably would have been the right decision even if there weren't all these issues with the culture of neurosurgery, but I'm still so angry about how it happened.

[necromanticalscience]

a polycule can be a revered necromancer prodigy of the ninth house, a pressganged cavalier who talks shit but cannot say no to a woman for the life of her, and a corpse

[aimbutmiss]

TW//SA

I just love the idea of Buggy having more women on his crew than the average pirate captain. We have female captains in the story but other than that it doesn't seem like having women on your crew is the norm in the one piece world (which also makes Luffy's crew a minority, but the strawhats are very unique compared to other crews we see, especially in regards to their size but that's a whole other story).

We (kinda) know that Buggy has a thing for "adopting" weird kids and giving them a home where they can feel normal, like part of a crew, a family. He gives people who don't fit in a place to stay, in exchange for their labour of course. This is especially highlighted by opla where Buggy offers Luffy a place on his crew, not hating him from the start but feeling pity for him.

So would it really be surprising for him to offer women who have been wronged a place as well? Ex-prostitutes, r@pe victims etc. I feel like he'd be really considerate for their struggles.

And it makes everyone in the crew feel safe, men women and everyone in-between, to see that on Buggy's list of crimes crewmates can commit, SA is right on top alongside mutiny.

Maybe that's why Alvida trusted him so easily, because she could see he cared where other men wouldn't. And perhaps, this is one of the things that push Mihawk and Crocodile to start respecting the clown.

[andorerso]

the way Cassian was concerned about Bix didn't feel like "I'm worried about this person because I love them" vibes. it was lowkey patronizing imo. he also clearly doesn't see her as an equal. not sure what I'm meant to take away from their relationship, but I don't like how he treats her at all, and it also doesn't feel in line with his characterization. there's a difference between worry/concern and over-protectiveness, and he crosses into over-protectiveness ten times over. I always really hated to see that characterization for him in fics because it never felt true to him, and to see it now in canon... idk man, I just hate it. all this may be by design, but even so, I don't like the implications of it for Cassian's character - once again.

[lovesodeepandwideandwell]

Really one of the seminal moments in my feminism (?) journey was in a seminar on Christian vocation where we read an essay by the teacher waxing poetic about how the Point of All Human Making is Permanence, everything we do is something we want to last forever, and in heaven all the things we made on earth will exist in some kind of way. All his examples were engineers building bridges or composers writing symphonies. And I said "yeah but a lot of the things I make I don't want to last forever. I don't want heaven to be full of socks I've knitted. Or cooking dinner, we don't cook dinner cause we want it to last forever, we cook dinner because we want it to be tasty right now." And the silence in the room. Literally no response or engagement. I think the teacher fumbled something about no, actually, you are trying for something eternal and permanent there. And I said I'm really not and he went "next topic!"

[nyaagolor]

You know I didn’t realize after AA5/6 just how badly I needed a judicial assistant who was like. Respected and valued by their attorney. Seeing how highly Ryu thinks of Susato is such a breath air after so many variations of the Manzai duo vibes

In case 4 when Van Zieks insults her and Ryu IMMEDIATELY snaps back with “I consider her advice essential and her assistance invaluable. Please go ahead, Susato” he instantly became my favorite. Put some respect on her name

[dukeofthomas]

Do you see my vision

[copypastus]

Nothing gave me more whiplash IN MY LIFE than going from acowar to acofas.

Remember when Feyre closed the chapter on her relationship with Tamlin and wished him well? Coz the Inner Circle sure keeps forgetting.

[thegroundhogdidit]

it's gotten to a point where i get kinda pissed off when people make fun of the search for spock and the final frontier. how dare you besmirch the names of the two most poly coded movies of all time. do you find nothing compelling about the needs of the one outweigh the needs of the many. does i don't know if i could bear to lose you again mean nothing to you. how about i choose the danger. as surely as if [his soul] were my very own. i knew i wouldn't die because you two were with me. please captain, not in front of the klingons. i have been and ever shall be your friend. yes these movies are objectively bad but put some respect on their goddamn names

[beddybites]

now guys what did i tell u about sending me asks about wanting me to draw baby giyuu tomioka and comparing this grown man to a baby kitten or implying shinobu or mitsuri are his motherly figures/big sisters

i like posting things that make me happy & stuff but i cant help but talk about these things when ppl are always in my inbox telling me to do things ive established i dont like ):

it makes me rlly uncomfy and makes me rlly sad so please please stop asking for that type of content esp with giyuu::. if i keep gettting these things ill have to close my inbox ;w;

[yallemagne]

exfuckingcuseme?

THey fucking DID ohmcygogd

Beast, you sly dog. A gentleman never kisses and tells.