#intimacy repulsed

[starlinglunatic337]

I wish I wasn’t so cold. I wish I didn’t feel repulsion when someone laid their hands or their love all over me. I want to accept affection without panic. I wish love didn’t make me feel like an alien. I want love to be something other than a foreign concept experienced by others with acceptance and through my eyes, and soul, with disgust.

-M.L.S  (Alias)

[foundfamilywhump]

being aromantic and into whump is like. shoutout to whump for being a great opportunity to engage with stories about intimacy and vulnerability and powerful emotion and physical interactions with other people and intense relationships that are not presumptively based in romance. what would i do without you.

[icelogged]

[imaginethathaikyuu]

Em can we please talk about Tsukki. Everyone keeps writing him as a mean dom and it’s killing my soul. Please say it isn’t so 😭😭😭😭

Lowkey hc Tsukki as ace and super sweet on his person… like he just simps and is very soft in private. I just wanna kiss his pretty fingers. but I’d love to hear your takes.

okay like ive beeeeen saying this since day one, popular fanon characterization is NOT satisfying for me.....

tsukishima kei would arguably be the best partner...imo... LIKE i think he'd be an annoying little fucker at first when you don't know each other well. but as you get closer he becomes the softest sweetest kindest bf.

especially as things get more serious, when he can let go of all of his insecurities and finally start feeling equal to you, his curtain of arrogance drops and he can just be himself :]

he is sooo cat coded imo like he's just always There. he will randomly lay next to u and put your hand on his head (instead of asking u to play with his hair) and just sit in silence forever. Annoys u just for the sake of being a Bother. puts cold drink on the back of your neck, pulls ur hoodie strings closed, places ur fav snacks on the highest shelf. but also ties ur shoe for u and remembers ur coffee order and compliments u every day. wait i love him

but also like i get the fun in writing him as big mean dom who fucks like if that is what u like to read i love that for u and honestly i see why some ppl write him as like. a big doodoo meanie like thats a fun path to go down too. that just isnt the tsukishima kei who lives in my house u know what i mean

[chr0n1c-ag0ny]

it might be because I'm aroace and can't help but project on my favorite little pookie bears 24/7 but like....

not platonic kunidazai, just like, they're dating but they don't have sex, they don't want sex, it's not something that comes up cause they just mutually have their reasons to not want/need it.

and that's not to say they're never intimate with one another, it's just that their intimacy is different. to them, intimacy is taking naps in each others arms, no bandage's, just a blanket and each other's embrace. intimacy is Kunikida washing Dazai's hair while they sit tangled up on the floor of the tub. intimacy is kissing each other so so softly, over scars and marks and phantom pains, over bad memories and pleasant reminders. Intimacy is sharing a cup of coffee in the office. intimacy is mending each other's wounds. intimacy is skin on skin, trusting one another not to hurt, not to take, not to use. Intimacy is talking long into the night, close enough to hear the faintest of whispers, talking about life, their pasts, their fears, their aspirations.

it's all intimacy to them, they don't need sex. one doesn't need it and one doesn't want it ever again, and that's fine, they find their own ways to share that vulnerable space both crave to fill.

[appri-dot]

Touchstarved

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is hishakaku divorced?

hishakaku claims to be aro/ace on account of his violent allergy to intimacy. but that doesn't explain whatever's going on between him and Jerry in 8888.

[moe-broey]

Some. Sort of spectrum. From most likely to least likely.

And by kitten-pile I mean This

I'll put a transcript under cut for easier reading! 🫡

How Likely Are They to Kitten Pile?

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Mirabilis: "are you tired..? do you need a break...? ohh we could take one together..."

If she likes/trusts you even a little, she wants to cuddle about it!!!

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Sharena and Peony: "Okay! 💖 Yay! 💖"

Shari: The only thing stopping her is social conventions -- making her MORE likely to jump at the opportunity!

Peony: Learning social awareness as she goes, and is surprisingly good at it?

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Triandra: "Aren't we a bit old for that...? But... even so..."

Embarrassed, conflicted, but feels strangely nostalgic at the notion...

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Plumeria: "I'm not so petal-soft that I'd resort to such INDECENCY, I mean even if your intentions are Pure USE YOUR HEADS YOU FOOLS!! Girl, the IMPLICATIONS!!!"

Desperately wants to join the kitten-pile, but her Issues and Pride gets in the way.

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Moe: "aw, so cutes!"

Generally touch adverse, extremely picky even with the people it likes/loves -- everything is entirely on its terms.

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

Aroace/intimacy repulsed npd culture is watching everyone you know have complex relationship drama and thinking “damn, I’m so right to not deal with that kind of closeness. They should stop falling in love with people.” And having to consciously remind yourself that it doesn’t normally work that way, and I’m just being the weird distant one again.

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[hostradio]

sunday headcanon but it's literally me just declaring alarie is 100% unfuckable.

[aroaceconfessions]

im romance repulsed but sometimes I just wanna hug and kiss my best friend and I feel guilty for it even though we both feel mutual- it just makes me feel like maybe Im not a proper aroace.

Submitted March 20, 2023

[onlyglass]

that's just not true.... that's not how that works.... kui didn't put so much of her pussy into making the lack of desires and potential for new desires and mithrun's will to LIVE so nuanced for u to just say this.... he may be traumatized and if anything the whole thing is an allegory for SA/general depression and PTSD but that doesn't mean he is sex repulsed or asexual.... if he doesn't have a desire for sex he also doesn't have a desire to Not have sex. do you see how that works.... but anyways that's so beside the point and my point is just huh???? what a claim to make so boldly.... girl

[altschmerzes]

Love your blog for always championing platonic relationships because while I will write romance from time to time the thing I care most about is writing platonic stuff and it’s so heartening to know there are other people who wanna read about friendships and sibling relationships and platonic partners and so on

THANK YOU IT IS MY MISSION IN LIFE…. for real tho thank YOU for caring back, heartening is exactly the word especially on this website lmao im so glad everyone is having fun but it really does feel like anything that’s not romantic gets knocked outta the way and ground down to pave the road to romantic dynamics lmao so. every time someone says that my Eternal Crusade In The Name Of Platonic Love (Wholeheartedly And With My Entire Chest And Not At All Willing To Think It’s Cringe To Do So) is meaningful to them or makes them happy it’s truly fantastic <3 rest assured that people DO care and if nobody else does ill care enough for all of us so there

[interplanetarypurplythornyrose]

Yeah i think the thing i hate about being sex repulsed is entirely just: My friends and partners have a community around their sex and kink things, which allows expected intimacy.

By which i mean that there is a thing (sex/making out/whatever) that sex-enjoyers already want to do. It seems in fact, that it's quite important and special to them. And to find someone who also wants that is pretty easy. But as a sex repulsed asexual, i do not have that. There is no intense intimacy that i can be sure someone will want to do with me without asking. There's no communal thing we all post about doing together thats intimate and vulnerable and full of love, and that kills me.

I want to like sex, i want to desire sex. Not because I can't accept myself, but because i know I'll never have access to the same expected intimacy because I'm repulsed by the idea of sex. In the same way that I wish i was able bodied not because I can't accept that I'm disabled, but because the world literally isn't made for people like me. It's isolating and it sucks, and i wish there was a happy ending to this but sometimes things that cost more money are just worse.

[hex-antoid]

when I say you can bring up any topic I mean *any* topic

please I am so repressed

[keshimasu]

It's sunday so ofc I'm thinking about Shou recruiting Midnight for any sex ed talks