#internet kindness

[mekanikaltrifle]

Hey so the poll came across my dash and one of my mutuals had put in the tags that if we looked at your blog you had been getting hate for it so that’s what led me here and I just wanted to say I’m really sorry people are being such assholes about a lighthearted term difference, even if you HAD meant it as some sort of rage bait or something you’re a human being and you don’t deserve to get treated like anything less, I hope this blows over real quick and that you have a great day/ week regardless 💜

Thank you to you and your mutual for paying attention! I appreciate it greatly, nice to see some folks are not as given to casual rudeness.

The funniest thing is the poll itself was entirely intended for my very small pool of followers, multiple of whom speak UK English/Scottish English and the like, and really was not ever written with an American audience in mind. This of course is not a thing that should matter, but on Tumblr (and the internet) I think it's so common to assume American-ness that even if there's a simple explanation for something you don't recognise, such as a regional difference, it's apparently easier to immediately start laughing at someone else's expense? Wild behaviour imo, ngl.

It is in no way rage bait, it really is just American users missing a bit of nuance-- which is to say I am a Scottish user who was writing for a largely UK/European audience. That's really all it is and it's been massively misread as 'fishing' or 'rage bait' I think?

Maybe next time I'll just write my polls in Scots language and then they'll have no choice but to simply not get it and not reblog :D

And with all that said, I do thank you for wishing me the best and taking care. This has been a wee touch stressful, so seeing the odd one or two folks being decent in around it has been a lifeline, lemme tell you. You take care and look after yourself, aye? Sending you my best wishes.

[gibbearish]

love when ppl defend the aggressive monetization of the internet with "what, do you just expect it to be free and them not make a profit???" like. yeah that would be really nice actually i would love that:)! thanks for asking

[dollsome-does-tumblr]

why does this have so many 20s options? great question! 🤷‍♀️ i'm gonna stick with it, though. it feels right to me.

[fefairys]

getting real fed up with my peers treating teenagers like shit. how did you forget so fucking quickly what it's like to be them. shame on you.

[buggachat]

deserved

[phereshift]

personal opinion but. the reason tiktok’s ‘zepotha’ isn’t doing great isn’t because of a lack of cohesion or poor reasoning behind it (although I’m sure these would’ve contributed). It’s because when I was first introduced to Zepotha it was as a fake movie concept. And when I was first introduced to Goncharov it was as me spending the entire morning trying to figure out why Tumblr was obsessed with some random movie.

[sotwk]

Oxford English Dictionary definition:

I am definitely your friend, my dear @auttumnsayshi! Unfortunately, most members of the generation that lived majority of their lives pre-internet will probably always hold the skeptical view of internet friends not being "real friends". It doesn't make them right. Offline friends and face-to-face interaction with people are still important and necessary, but that doesn't make internet/online friends less valid.

Besides, I met my husband of 6 years online, and so did several (still married) couples we know, so yeah... I would say internet relationships are extremely valid. My parents were skeptical of it too; but now they see I bagged myself a winner. XD

My generation is the current generation of new parents, so hopefully that outdated way of thinking will end with us!

Reblog if you believe internet friends ARE real friends

I’ve met some amazing people online and I know a lot of people who say that internet friendship doesn’t count. I mean my internet friends have been there for me when nobody else was and I love them so much. Just wanna see how many people agree with me that they do count.

[snarkspawn]

I really enjoy playing through tnp again like hi it's been a while

[myopicry]

lurking in radfem spaces has really changed my entire view of most mainstream internet spaces because once you realize just how censored women's voices and feminist thought are on these sites, and how much porn and misogynistic values are defended, you can't unsee it.

how anyone can bear to participate in an online space where porn, of all things, is lauded as the bastion of "self-expression" and yet any woman slightly critical of popular cultural opinions is demonized is wild, especially when a lot of that porn is a) violent and misogynistic b) often accessible by minors c) gross and shallow d) myriad of other reasons far better writers have probably described

fuck I'm just so tired. seeking rationality online is just opening a pandora's box of garbage and seeing the reflection of how bleak the social hegemony has become.

[inkskinned]

before you know about women, you hear that you do not need to love the man, just that you need to love him through his manhood. which is to say you have seen the future painted in lamb's blood over your eyes - how your mother shoots you a look about your father's inability to cook right. how your aunt holds her wineglass and says i'm gonna kill em. men, right! how your best friend bickers with her boyfriend, how she says i can't help it. i come back to him.

you learn: men are gonna cheat. men aren't going to listen when you're talking, because you're nagging. men think emotions are stupid. they think your life is vapid and your hobbies are embarrassing. men will slam things, but that's because men are allowed to be angry. if you get loud, you're hysterical. if a man gets loud - well, men are animals, men are dogs, men can't control their hands or their eyes or their bodies. they're going to make a snide comment about you in the locker room, about your body, about how you're so fucking annoying. you're going to give him kids, and he will give you the money for the kids, and you're going to be running the house 24/7 - but he gets to relax after a long day, because his job is stressful. the man is on stage, and is a comedian, and says "women!"

and you are supposed to love that. you are supposed to love men through how horrible they are to you - because that's what women do. that's what good women do. wife material. your father even told you once - it'll make sense when you're older. it was like staring down a very lonely tunnel.

it feels like something's caught in your throat, but it's all you know, so. it's okay that you see sex as a necessary tool, a sort of okay-enough ritual to keep him happy, even though he doesn't seem to care about happiness as-applied-to you. it is relationship upkeep. it is kissing him and smiling even though he didn't brush his teeth. it is getting on your knees and looking up and holding back a sigh because he barely holds you as you panic through the night. it's not like the sex is bad and you do like feeling wanted. and besides! he's a man! like... they're another species. you'll never be able to actually communicate, right. he isn't listening.

you just don't get it. you don't feel that sense of i'm gonna climb him like a tree. mostly it just feels fucking exhausting. you play the part perfectly. you smile and nod and are "effortlessly" charming. and it's fine! it's alright! you even love him, if you're looking. you could have good life, and a good family, and perfectly happy.

in the late night you google: am i broken. you google i'm not attracted to my husband. you google i get turned on by books but not by him. you google how to get better in bed.

the first time he yells at you, it almost feels like blankness. like - of course this is happening. this is always how it was going to end up. men get angry, and they yell, and you sit there in silence.

you mention it to your friend - just the once - while you're drunk. she shrugs and says it's like that with me too, i just try to forget and move on. men are always gonna hear what they want to. pick your battles and say sorry even though he's in the wrong. you play solitaire online for a month. you go to your therapist appointment and preach about how you're both so in love.

after all, you have a future to want. nobody lied about it - how many instagram posts say marriage is hard. say real love takes work. say we fight like cats and dogs but the best part is that we always make up. how many of your friends say happy anniversary to the best and worst thing to ever happen to me. if you really loved him - loved yourself too - you'd accept that men are just different from you.

the first time she kisses you, it's on a dare at a party. something large and terrifying whips through your body. you wake up sweating from dreams where her mouth is encrusted with pearls and you pick them off one by one with your teeth. fuck. you sit at the computer and your almost-finished game of sim city. you think about your potential perfect life and your potential future family. you google am i gay quiz with your little hands shaking.

you delete each letter slowly. you don't need to love him. you just need to keep going.

[hussyknee]

I do not have the words to articulate my level of rage about this. We need to start killing and eating tech bros.

[applesauce42069]

by the time i was born there was no one left to teach me yiddish songs. only a few people could even tell me which yiddish songs existed, and nobody did, because the world and the society where we spoke and sang in yiddish was destroyed.

music is very special to me and it is something i use very frequently to connect to myself, to my community, to hashem. i play a lot of jewish music, mostly in hebrew.

but i worked to teach myself to sing in yiddish, copying the pronunciation by listening to recordings on the internet. i love the way yiddish feels in my mouth and i love the way it sounds when i sing it.

and i love this song, because its a beautiful song in yiddish about jews just... living. being. loving. flirting. listening to music.

freylach zol zeyn everyone. may we be happy.

[starry-bi-sky]

yall ever think Shen Yuan went through like, internet withdrawal after being transmigrated into Shen Qingqiu? Like, he's canonically a NEET shut-in who did nothing but spend his time online, you can't tell me that for the first week or first few weeks of being SQQ he wasn't twitchy.

Like, reaching instinctively to his pockets for a phone that wasn't there, having an obsessive itch in the back of his mind that he should check and see if X or Y novel or webcomic has updated -- only to realize he can't anymore and being irritated by it. Wanting to go and see if there's new posts about this or that, but again realizing that he can't.

When he's bored or uncomfortable or just feels like wanting to escape he tries to go for his phone to distract himself, but oops! Not there anymore, and now he has to find a new and different way to distract himself from his feelings. And going through system notifications, quests, etc only does so much.

And there's that Tetris Effect too. SQQ makes a mistake while writing and instinctively goes to backspace on it except hey-ho that's not a keyboard and now he just dipped his pinkie into a bottle of ink or on a still-drying letter.

With him scrambling to fix his reputation and learn how to be a peak lord, I think his abrupt cold-turkey from all things internet would just be another straw on the camel's back that he promptly Ignores until it goes away on its own after he acclimates to his new surroundings.

[the-sunlit-earth]

Master Neloth woke up at 3am and chose violence

[existentialterror]

Made my first zine!