#incompatibility

[vizthedatum]

Having written the last post about partnership, I have come to realize that my most recent ex-partner wasn’t treating me like a partner, according to my standards. I don’t think we were very compatible, and their lack of emotional regulation and high level of masking early on in the relationship when we were essentially dating… and they didn’t know they were in love with me (and only admitting it when they asked to be partners?)? I should have ended the romantic and sexual parts of the relationship right then and there.

I don’t think they thought I was partnering with them either.

—

I feel a lot better being out of that relationship even if there were many things I liked. Many things.

But they worked themselves into my life with empty charm that I fell for. I thought they wanted to learn my values and share theirs. I thought they could support me and let me support them.

I genuinely had feelings for them but I was really hurt by them and they just kept lashing out and invalidating me (and being ignorant of how and why). A lot of their behavior was emotionally threatening to me, and I deserve a lot better.

[thoughts-monologues]

Who I’m Not

“She lost him but she found herself and that, that was everything.” Is that how it goes?

It’s different for me.

I found myself when I was with you because with you, I knew who I was not.

I know that I don’t want to serve you water for the rest of my life. I know that I don’t want to clean your messes for the rest of my life. I know that I don’t want to pick up your dirty socks. I know that I don’t want to clean up after you. I don’t want to live in a dirty house where I have to say everything I don’t want you to do and then you making me feel like the villain for doing so. I learned that I don’t like the things that you like. I don’t like artificial air. I don’t like buildings. I don’t like the pretentious life in the city.

I like a quiet, peaceful life and I don’t see “us” in it. Because as I grow up, the more I see the differences I brush aside, the more I see that we cannot live happily together for the rest of our lives without me sacrificing a huge part of who I am every time.

Because like I said, I don’t want to clean up after you for the rest of my life. I don’t want to put myself last every time.

You already lost me a long time ago.

[paradoxical-plutonian]

I’m tired of giving into his charms – we are not compatible. Our lives diverge at a crucial meeting point, irreconcilable. I’m the East and he’s the West – each at our own edge. Our values antithetical to one another.

Journal Entry, February 2021

[memorytales]

you love with teeth, i love with tongue when our mouths meet, they don't move as one

you always chew while my mist would linger you greedily consume i am a fever

deliriously tasting as you devour each bite scraping love turning sour

[princess-vibes25]

OMG YES! I have a friend who has a really hard time with social cues and I understand that completely as I have my own struggles. However, when she is still going on about a one-liner she said a minute ago, it’s really hard for me not to snap at her. Like, she’s so sweet, but sometimes we are not compatible.

its so unfortunate when different peoples neurodivergent traits clash horribly. like yes i totally understand that the man at the other table cant control his stimming and loud vocal tics and i think he deserves to have a nice day out at a restaraunt without judgement. however if i dont remove myself from the audible vicinity in the next 20 seconds i will explode.

[astro1derland]

In today’s transits, the Moon 🌙 at 28° Leo ♌️ 49’ 7” forms a square with Uranus 🧠 at 27° Taurus ♉️ 6’ 36” (rx). Our maternal instinct, sense of well-being and ability to satisfy our emotions clashes with our need for freedom in a fiery and artistic way. See your way to your next phase of life today. Spread good humor today. Find good news in negative places today.

[howifeltabouthim]

'Well, that's not easy to answer . . . and if I did, I'm not sure you would understand me, having been brought up . . . in such a different way.'

L.P. Hartley, from The Harness Room

[gameofthrones2020]

Relationships Compatibility and Incompatibility

Relationships Compatibility and Incompatibility where we can look at the case study Sophie Turner and why the first date is so vital.

This article focused on relationships, compatibility, and incompatibility, and this information can be related to dating advice on maintaining a relationship, be it spiritual or sexual. This information can even be used in long-term relationships as well. Still, the primary focus is on relationships within the first two years, particularly during the dating stage. To understand a relationship…

[addamii]

I got inspired by this post by @thatneoncrisis and I also wanted to draw butch Nona because butches can be silly goofy colorful too and let nobody ever tell you otherwise

[arsenicflame]

Bonus round! Do you use a queue tag?

[chironeis]

the thing is that martin thinks it took "two years of crisis and trauma" just to make him and jon compatible and the reason jon doesn't know how to rebut that wildly incorrect fact is because he's barely aware that he had a stick so far up his ass in season one that it grew roots in his brain before he stubbornly and meticulously and with gritted teeth plucked them all out. jon could've plucked those roots out before all the trauma and crises if he simply chose to. and he would. in so many universes. because martin (and friendship and love and connection) is worth it. mic drop

[emperornorton47]

As an agnostic, I've seen a tendency for atheists to generalize about Christians. The results of this study do not surprise me.

[overcomebyemotions]

When we broke up, he said we weren't compatible. And he was right. Because while I was willing to fight for us, he had already given up.

[phantomrose96]

Aromanticism aside, I haven't really ruled out the idea of getting married. Because you know sharing responsibilities is easier and cheaper, and taxes are better, and western society is really built around couples. I just simply would not share my bed with my spouse, or share my room with them, and I would not want to merge finances with them, and would want to keep my 401k and credit cards all separate, and would want to keep my own meal schedule and cook my own meals and not share my kitchen with them and preferably not share my bathroom with them and definitely absolutely not follow them if they had to move across the country and I would not want to give up my last name or share ownership of my cat or share ownership of my condo or share ow dear fucking god I don't want to get married at all. dear fucking christ all things holy I want to stay single forever. christ alive. I'm marrying my autonomy as we speak.

[astro1derland]

Venus Squares Mars

In today's transits, Venus at 11° Pisces forms a square aspect in accordance with Mars at 11° Gemini. Our communication style resists and refuses to work in an effective manner with our motivations and life force in an dreamy resisting logistic mind sort of way.

[communistkenobi]

The deeply moralist tone that a lot of discussions about media representation take on here are primarily neoliberal before they are anything else. Like the shouting matches people get into about “purity culture” “pro/anti” etc nonsense (even if I think it’s true that some people have a deeply christian worldview about what art ought to say and represent about the world) are downstream of the basic neoliberal assumption that we can and must educate the public by being consumers in a market. “Bad representation” is often framed as a writer’s/developer’s/director’s/etc’s failure to properly educate their audience, or to educate them the wrong way with bad information about the world (which will compel their audience to act, behave, internalise or otherwise believe these bad representations about some social issue). Likewise, to “consume” or give money to a piece of media with Bad Representation is to legitimate and make stronger these bad representations in the world, an act which will cause more people to believe or internalise bad things about themselves or other people. And at the heart of both of those claims is, again, the assumption that mass public education should be undertaken by artists in a private market, who are responsible for creating moral fables and political allegories that they will instil in their audiences by selling it to them. These conversations often become pure nonsense if you don’t accept that the moral and political education of the world should be directed by like, studio executives or tv actors or authors on twitter. There is no horizon of possibility being imagined beyond purchasing, as an individual consumer in a market, your way into good beliefs about the world, instilled in you by Media Product