#incompatibility

[cippy42]

you’re fundamentally incompatible. Stop putting band aids on bullet holes and move on

[vizthedatum]

Having written the last post about partnership, I have come to realize that my most recent ex-partner wasn’t treating me like a partner, according to my standards. I don’t think we were very compatible, and their lack of emotional regulation and high level of masking early on in the relationship when we were essentially dating… and they didn’t know they were in love with me (and only admitting it when they asked to be partners?)? I should have ended the romantic and sexual parts of the relationship right then and there.

I don’t think they thought I was partnering with them either.

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I feel a lot better being out of that relationship even if there were many things I liked. Many things.

But they worked themselves into my life with empty charm that I fell for. I thought they wanted to learn my values and share theirs. I thought they could support me and let me support them.

I genuinely had feelings for them but I was really hurt by them and they just kept lashing out and invalidating me (and being ignorant of how and why). A lot of their behavior was emotionally threatening to me, and I deserve a lot better.

[thoughts-monologues]

Who I’m Not

“She lost him but she found herself and that, that was everything.” Is that how it goes?

It’s different for me.

I found myself when I was with you because with you, I knew who I was not.

I know that I don’t want to serve you water for the rest of my life. I know that I don’t want to clean your messes for the rest of my life. I know that I don’t want to pick up your dirty socks. I know that I don’t want to clean up after you. I don’t want to live in a dirty house where I have to say everything I don’t want you to do and then you making me feel like the villain for doing so. I learned that I don’t like the things that you like. I don’t like artificial air. I don’t like buildings. I don’t like the pretentious life in the city.

I like a quiet, peaceful life and I don’t see “us” in it. Because as I grow up, the more I see the differences I brush aside, the more I see that we cannot live happily together for the rest of our lives without me sacrificing a huge part of who I am every time.

Because like I said, I don’t want to clean up after you for the rest of my life. I don’t want to put myself last every time.

You already lost me a long time ago.

[paradoxical-plutonian]

I’m tired of giving into his charms – we are not compatible. Our lives diverge at a crucial meeting point, irreconcilable. I’m the East and he’s the West – each at our own edge. Our values antithetical to one another.

Journal Entry, February 2021

[memorytales]

you love with teeth, i love with tongue when our mouths meet, they don't move as one

you always chew while my mist would linger you greedily consume i am a fever

deliriously tasting as you devour each bite scraping love turning sour

[princess-vibes25]

OMG YES! I have a friend who has a really hard time with social cues and I understand that completely as I have my own struggles. However, when she is still going on about a one-liner she said a minute ago, it’s really hard for me not to snap at her. Like, she’s so sweet, but sometimes we are not compatible.

its so unfortunate when different peoples neurodivergent traits clash horribly. like yes i totally understand that the man at the other table cant control his stimming and loud vocal tics and i think he deserves to have a nice day out at a restaraunt without judgement. however if i dont remove myself from the audible vicinity in the next 20 seconds i will explode.

[astro1derland]

In today’s transits, the Moon 🌙 at 28° Leo ♌️ 49’ 7” forms a square with Uranus 🧠 at 27° Taurus ♉️ 6’ 36” (rx). Our maternal instinct, sense of well-being and ability to satisfy our emotions clashes with our need for freedom in a fiery and artistic way. See your way to your next phase of life today. Spread good humor today. Find good news in negative places today.

[postscript-mc]

Songs that inspired "Dancing is a Dangerous Game":

[howifeltabouthim]

'Well, that's not easy to answer . . . and if I did, I'm not sure you would understand me, having been brought up . . . in such a different way.'

L.P. Hartley, from The Harness Room

[gameofthrones2020]

Relationships Compatibility and Incompatibility

Relationships Compatibility and Incompatibility where we can look at the case study Sophie Turner and why the first date is so vital.

This article focused on relationships, compatibility, and incompatibility, and this information can be related to dating advice on maintaining a relationship, be it spiritual or sexual. This information can even be used in long-term relationships as well. Still, the primary focus is on relationships within the first two years, particularly during the dating stage. To understand a relationship…

[addamii]

I got inspired by this post by @thatneoncrisis and I also wanted to draw butch Nona because butches can be silly goofy colorful too and let nobody ever tell you otherwise

[arsenicflame]

Bonus round! Do you use a queue tag?

[gaywarcriminals]

The core of Liu Qingge and Shen Jiu’s conflict is that LQG grew up in a world that felt fair and just, that nurtured and rewarded black and white morals, and SJ grew up in a world that punished kindness and scruples, that told him that survival and morals were mutually exclusive. 

To Shen Jiu, morals are a privilege he can't afford if he wants to live, and to Liu Qingge, they're a necessity worth dying for.

[chironeis]

the thing is that martin thinks it took "two years of crisis and trauma" just to make him and jon compatible and the reason jon doesn't know how to rebut that wildly incorrect fact is because he's barely aware that he had a stick so far up his ass in season one that it grew roots in his brain before he stubbornly and meticulously and with gritted teeth plucked them all out. jon could've plucked those roots out before all the trauma and crises if he simply chose to. and he would. in so many universes. because martin (and friendship and love and connection) is worth it. mic drop

[emperornorton47]

As an agnostic, I've seen a tendency for atheists to generalize about Christians. The results of this study do not surprise me.

[astro1derland]

Venus Squares Mars

In today's transits, Venus at 11° Pisces forms a square aspect in accordance with Mars at 11° Gemini. Our communication style resists and refuses to work in an effective manner with our motivations and life force in an dreamy resisting logistic mind sort of way.