#im on disability and need help

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I’m reaching out because my sweet kittens, Miro, Ms. Midnight, and Bandana, need urgent medical care. They’re battling eye infections and likely pneumonia, and we’re still feeling the loss of their brother, Soot, who we had to say goodbye to too soon. Your support means the world to us—every little bit helps cover their vet bills and keep them healthy. Please like, comment, and share this post to help us spread the word and find more friends who can help these little furballs! 🐾💔 #gofundme

[faggotisaacfloofs]

the person who helped today when I fell out of my wheelchair actually did a really great job, so I want to share in case other people wonder what to do. [Note: this is not universal, this is merely a suggestion from one person, every wheelchair user's needs are different! I am a person who uses a manual chair usually pushed by someone else who is also disabled.]

Scenario: you see someone in a wheelchair fall out of their chair, and you have the ability to help.

1. Approach and ask "are you okay?"*

2. Next question if they say no, are vague, or open to continuing conversation** is, "is there anything I can do to help?" Or "what can I do?"

If they say no to help, then that's the end, just leave and go do whatever you were doing!

If they ask for help or say they are mildly injured, ask "what would you like me to do?" And wait for an answer before doing anything! If they seem dazed or confused, they might have hit their head or had another medical event*, or they might just be like that due to regular disability. Be patient.

Do not touch the person unless they say to, or they are like, unconcious in the middle of the road, ya know?? Wheelchair users usually have conditions that mean being handled improperly can severely injure us, you could cause much more damage than the fall.

Some things they might need you to do:

Bring their wheelchair closer (mine went about 5 feet away after it dumped me)

engage the brakes of the wheelchair

hold wheelchair steady if it's an unsteady surface (mud, hill, ramp, wet, etc)

offer an arm for them to hold onto to get up (them grabbing you, not you grabbing them) or move another solid item closer for them to use (i.e. a chair) [only do this if you physically have the ability to!]

If the terrain is rough (i.e. a parking lot), they *might* ask you to push their chair to a more stable area once they are back in their chair

nothing

Something else

Do what they ask, NOT what you think would be helpful. If for some reason you have to do something (i.e. you can't stop oncoming traffic and need to get them out) ASAP, tell them what you plan to do

Keep in mind they might also be D/deaf, have a communication disability, be stunned after the fall, have a head injury, not trust other people, etc. Be patient and treat them as a person with autonomy and agency! They might need to just sit on the ground for a few minutes to recover before trying to get back in their chair. They might want everyone to leave them alone. They might ask you to call someone specific. Their chair might have broken and that can be extremely distressing. All of this is like if your legs spontaneously stop working when you're out and about!

A lot of wheelchair users (NOT ALL) have ways to get into their chair on their own once the chair is close enough and brakes engaged (but it's hard from the ground!). Here's what brakes look like on a lot of manual wheelchairs, in case they ask you to lock the brakes. They're levers on each side and pushing the lever pushes a bar against the wheel to hold it still.

ID: A manual wheelchair with the brake levels circled in red and labeled "user brake levers"

*There is also the possibility of course that a person fell out of their chair due to a seizure or other medical event, so that is why it is important to ask if they are okay. If you saw them hit their head, tell them so. If they had a medical event, follow protocol for that, I'm not gonna get into it here (thought I could).

**sometimes a person will be clear after the first question i.e. "I'm all good thanks" clearly means they do not need you to ask another question, you can just leave them alone. Keep walking and don't stare. A lot of the time people will be a bit banged up but be totally fine and able to manage on their own.

TLDR: Ask the wheelchair user if they're okay, then what they need, and then do exactly that, including leaving them alone. Thanks!

[abyssal-ilk]

im curious about something. when you imagine which companion or advisor or npc is helping your inquisitor with the effects of the anchor, who is it? is it their friends or partners? is it the entire inner circle? is it maybe a companion or advisor that your inquisitor doesn't actually get along with very well but trusts them out of necessity? do they try to brave it out on their own instead? curious minds want to know (me)

[disabled-dragoon]

Does anyone have recommendations for books about disability/with disabled characters in?

[daftpatience]

one thing I have learned about being poor is that you cannot for a moment stop thinking about it

[thedisablednaturalist]

idk whats wrong with me.

I'm trying to exercise, eat healthier, get enough sleep. Just like the doctors say.

But I'm still, STILL, so..so tired. So unbelievably exhausted. I'm starting to think I might have ME or something. Fibro is supposed to be able to be managed with diet and exercise, according to my doctors *rolls eyes*.

I want to work hard like I used to. I want to have bright ideas and feel passion. I do, sometimes, but it's so hard to break through the fog and pain and exhaustion, and it doesn't last. I feel like I'm constantly trying to hide how stupid I am, I'm afraid my coworkers will find out how hard I'm really struggling. All the stuff they praise me for seem like they were all achievements from Before the illness, I don't feel like that person anymore.

But what am I supposed to do? I have to work, I have to make enough to stay out of my parents house. I can't go back there. So I'll keep fighting, hiding, crying, and doing my best to improve my health, even if that's only out of desperation.

[yellow-yarrow]

I get the urge to make jokes about media that is actually dark and depressing (I do this often too) but I wish people were a little more careful with the themes in Mouthwashing

[vulturesawake]

Ok so, I'm considering using a cane because standing for more than a few minutes and bending over/standing up are all really really hard on me. I've never used a cane and I'm not sure where to find this information, do any cane users who work in fast food/work with their hands a lot have any tips on how to utilize a cane while working? I just don't even know what that would look like or how to manage it

[callme-aprilroseisha04]

shadows pride is getting the way of getting down the stairs

[rigormortisangel]

when youre disabled youre not allowed to have dreams without everyone shoving your disability in your face fuck you fuck all of you

[opens-up-4-nobody]

Oh my adhd having students, I mean this in the most "I'm trying to help u pass this class" way possible: what the fuck am I supposed to do with you? And I mean that as an earnest question. If u have advice pls let me know.

[big-boah]

The only thing I have to say about the autism support needs & masking discourse:

There are people who haven't been talked to like a baby by a stranger in real life, and it shows.

[800-dick-pics]

Whoop! Im in debt and its crushing!

I haven't been able to pay off my balance on my credit card for months because of poverty and emergency moving in the spring. This is all survival/medical debt from 2020, I have not used this card in years. I LITERALLY need $81 exactly to keep my card open, if my acct gets closed my credit is gonna be unfixable.

I need $81 by July 7th or Imma get my acct closed!

CA: $sleepyhen

VN: wildwotko

Dm for PPL

[reanimatedmagpie]

immortals whose body did not Quite adapt to the immortality evenly or whose immortality did not take into account everything there is to take.

Immortals with fake teeth, with completely shot sense of taste because tongue cells are fragile and lose sensitivity within a few decades. Immortals whose eyesight's kinda shit. Immortals with bad joints and strain injuries. Immortals with replacement hips. Immortals with so so many surgery scars. Immortals that can't hear as well anymore or at all. Immortals whose immune system hasn't quite held on the entire time, with bone problems, broken noses, worn out or even replaced livers and other organs. immortals subject to time anyway despite being denied the grace of really aging.

Bodies that were not built to go on forever being forced to anyway.

[neonbuck]

hey uh. this month is extremely critical for me as i gear up to find a more stable work situation- i'll be going to conventions with the help of a friend to look for a small art business or collective to join. my health has been badly interfering with this. so any support i get within the next 2 weeks will have my eternal gratitude in return

[grlmsgrotto]

D0N0 post for helping my dog pass peacefully.

Cw pet death, sickness and passing

Donation link HERE

Bean is on his lasts..it's really really bad. i'm devastated and i can barely put myself together i put it better in this tweet to put it shortly, i have till tuesday to gather the total of the euthanasia and incinerating. adding the fees, it rounds up to 300 euros to have him pass as soon as possible and cut his suffering as soon as possible, too.