#because of being visibly autistic
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The only thing I have to say about the autism support needs & masking discourse:
There are people who haven't been talked to like a baby by a stranger in real life, and it shows.
#autism#high support needs#actually autistic#autism things#masking#tw infantilization#i am visibly autistic/disabled#and i know my fellow autistics and disabled friends who have higher support needs know what I'm talking about#I'm too tired to get involved#but a lot of friends have interesting and valid points#i know that a lot of folks are helped by things being broken down and That's fine#im that way sometimes too#I'm talking about others being condescending and assuming your needs without talking to you like anyone else#because of being visibly autistic
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Please don't read this
#vent#but#god its really hard to not wanna kill myself#i set no hope for the next four years#i still have no job and still live with my parents#my boyfriend is a state away#and i feel like complete shit for even complaining about this because i live in fucking california#like i have the least to be scared of supposedly#im not black#im not mexican or latino#im not visibly disabled#i shouldnt be scared of anything#but im half asian#half#biracial#im autistic#im visibly trans even if people all tell me i pass#i keeo getting things telling me to save everything to an external harddrive in case the internet becomes a space where being what i am#is disgusting ang wrong#but guess fucking what!!!#i dont fucking have one!!!#i dont have a computer!!!!!!#WHAT THE FUCK AM I SUPPOSED TO FUCKING DO#i see no light#im just waiting to die#sorry i just needed somewhere to get all this out#sui mention#suicide mention#sui tw#tw sui ideation
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the more time has passed the more I use 'Ash' exclusively as an internet pseudonym and idk, I like my birth name used in my day-to-day especially as I become a much more visibly trans person. Yeah my name is [VERY FEMININE NAME] yes I use he/him pronouns and yes I'm a lesbian and yes I grow facial hair and have a deeper voice. Cope
#of course being more visibly trans is nerve wracking on its own because Uhhh The General Public Is Perceiving Me And Is Increasingly Hostile#but also: it's better to not destroy my brain for the sake of social ease. I like this version of me#I'm already autistic why bother trying so hard at what doesn't come naturally. why bother sacrificing my peace of mind for everyone else#I think I've done enough of that#btw this is not me saying to be an asshole. I like being nice! or at least I try to!#ramblings
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i think i cracked my discomfort with the whole idea of 'do no harm' and it is not that i believe some people need or deserve to be harmed, more that some people will willingly harm themselves or put themselves in harm's way in order to stop us from making progress
i do actually believe, yes, that many exclusionists are harmed by inclusion. for example. but their harm is used to keep people out of community, to harm others in turn, they wield it as both weapon and shield. rather than say, learning to cope with the feelings it brings about to see people having a different and personally incomprehensible experience from their own
similarly, fear is a perfectly valid emotion to feel, and something that people shouldn't have to feel, but it is taken as a defense to do horrendous things to minorities. talk to practically any man (and plenty of mascs of other varieties) that isn't completely cishet, white and abled and you'll have stories of cishet white women who have treated them as a threat in such a way that excludes them from spaces meant for them or put them in outright physical danger with the excuse that they are a man
wielding your own harm as a weapon can be oppressive and/or laterally aggressive, is i guess what i'm trying to say. just because you are harmed does not mean everyone else has to harm themselves to keep you 'safe'
idk maybe i'm just tired of having to shove myself into smaller and smaller boxes (with very real and actively worsening physical and mental impacts) just because other people can't handle my existence without being afraid, or hurt, or whatever. 'your feelings are valid' and all that but i'm slowly killing myself with the effort of masking
#post written by a schizospec autistic transmasc#who can barely go outside because i am FUCKING TERRIFIED#of my ability to pass intersecting with my very visible mental illness#in such a way that gets me fucking murdered by the cops#maybe people should learn to live with being a little spooked by things they don't understand#i sure fucking have to
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being autistic with relatively high social awareness is just a constant stream of mortifying moments of social incompetence. Like I don't understand I'm doing/saying something inappropriate until I see other people's reactions and then it haunts my soul for eternity🫠
#not neo#hate it!#i promise im in my acceptance era but sometimes i need to vent!#i have only had my suspicions for two years and a diagnosis for less than one!#actually autistic#my friend whos also autistic has no social awarenes#like less than zero#idk whats better. getting a pass right away because ur autism is so visible or being relatively liked but not being your authentic self#tbh. not being yourself is not gr8 but it does get you ahead in life. i got an apartment by masking lol!
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embracing the vampire autism i have going on apparently means combing through 500 vtm books and making notes on the lore and contradictions in the lore and potential implications and what was intended to be taken from some things vs things that actually make sense in context/with better research and sorting through what was included for mechanical gameplay vs worldbuilding reasons and combining all of this + the information intentionally left vague so i can form my own ideas into an amalgam of schrodingers canon with which to try to figure out what i personally tend to view as canon in-universe and then still figuring out how to insert the contradictory information/alternate interpretations in as like. character opinion/intentional misinformation/etc.
#The upside to this is i actually really like combing through a bunch of information and sorting through it. in theory.#Lowkey kind of house of leaves/arg feeling#the downside of this is i am being So Autistic about it and it is going to take So Long and also#my desire to be Accurate and the fact that this encompasses so many times and places#means that i am going to want to do So Much only tangentially related researchhelp#and there's already So Many vtm/dark ages books even without getting into the other world of darkness stuff#which at this rate i am probably going to want to get at least somewhat into#because it can canonically intersect with/affect vampire shit at times#mypost#'embracing the vampire autism' i say. as if i havent been visibly careening toward this particular collision for A While#it first i was like. no this isnt the autism. at least not any more than usual. i've always Liked this#this is.... a normal amount of liking something. sure.#.....fuck.#and the issue is. i have. other things to be doing. but here we are.#and instead im like. that unhinged conspiracy board meme from always sunny but with vtm lore#attempting to sort all of it out coherently and borderline comprehensively#which is. kind of fitting for people trying to but together all the different lore and conspiracies in-universe tbh#and kind of reminds me of when i first started researching the occult as a younger teenager#with the like. mountains of information and different loosely interrelated subjects to sift through with various degrees of sketchiness#nostalgic. anyway
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my mum's staying for the weekend pray for me
#i dont like people in my space and also shes mean to me#she hasnt been mean yet lets keep this up#shes only been here a couple hours though so#its my mum new step dad my brother and his new giirrllfrriiend#theyre 16 and have managed to stay together 2 months this is the longest relationship hes ever had lmfao#she has 3 nose peircings and red streaks in her hair shes cool#but im praying i dont need hide time#hide time is what i call having my social battery run out but in a painful autistic way because i get real irritable and mean#and usually i hide away by myself for a couple hours cause that fixes literally everything#but my mum wont allow that cause she doesnt get it#mum im autistic plz leave me alone#but she finds it rude#but also finds me rude when i get irritable because im not being allowed space#so uh#dont know what you want from me lady#ah yes to not be autistic#this isnt even a joke she hates it#she wants me to pretend im not and 'act normal' and basically not be disabled by my disability#she wants it to like not be visible to people she wants no one to know including her she doesnt like being reminded so 💀#unfortunately for her i have a lovely little piece of paper from a doctor saying i do in fact have it so fuck you#anywayz lol#praying i dont need too much hide time 🙏🏻 because i will not get it#autism#so fun
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I am literally so mad that like, two of my coworkers consistently refer to Warp as my "girl". Like, how much more fucking obvious do I have to make it that I'm a huge fag???? Do I have to wear a shirt that says I AM A FAGGOT TRANNY on it to get it through their heads?
#like lets ignore the fact that i consistently they/them it at work (i have permission from it to do that)#i am literally so fucking faggy even at work#me and the other queer dining employees are constantly talking shit about how im getting comphetted by these two#i have literally tried to explain to the other chef on multiple occasions that i am a trans man and my fiance is nonbinary#but he seems to think i am just a really butch lesbian dating a girl?????#and the other problem coworker thinks im dating a trans girl apparently#i can't even correct them too loudly because thats ''inappropriate work conversation'' because it could open me up to harassment and bigotry#like im not already dealing with that on the daily by being a visibly transitioning trans man#ugh sorry for the tag ramble i am just so sick of these two coworkers#but shoutouts to the one very autistic coworker who started calling warp my ''other'' because he heard it was nonbinary from my work friend#warp really liked that one lol
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honestly i don’t really think any mental illnesses have been like “destigmatized”- not fully at least. i think the stigma has just changed from demonization to “that’s not a real problem get over it god”
#obviously demonization is more Actively Harmful#but to say things like depression and anxiety have been destigmatized is. incorrect i feel#yes we are not treated like we’re evil. which is for sure an improvement#nobody deserves to be treated like they’re evil#but our illnesses are now being dismissed. ‘oh everyone has that’ not like me#‘you’re just being lazy’ i wish that were true#like. ok hold on let me use an example bc i’m worried abt reading comprehension on this website#(not my followers i trust u guys but i act as if every post i make will get popular)#my brother is autistic. i have GAD.#my brother was diagnosed when he was 2. he’s faced a lot of bullying from both kids and adults and it sucks and he didn’t deserve it#because of all that bullying (especially as a kid) he’s rejecting his autism and focusing really hard on being as ‘normal’ as possible#i was diagnosed last year at 17. i’ve been having these issues my whole life (my mom and i both saw it) but my issues were dismissed#by all the other adults around me (save for family) because i wasn’t visibly struggling and i was doing well in school#it made me doubt my convictions for a long time. what if i’m wrong?#as such i didn’t seek a diagnosis for a long time until my anxiety had gotten to a point where i knew i couldn’t keep ignoring it#now that i have that diagnosis i’m able to wield it as a weapon. my struggles aren’t made up#they’re real. and they always have been. and i can’t just ‘calm down’ like you can. and that needs to be respected#so while i think one is more actively harmful (bullying and harassment lead to self-rejection and loathing)#the other is also harmful- just passively (constantly being dismissed leads to self-doubt and not asking for help)#also why are people angry about the idea of a mental illness being destigmatized?#one group freeing itself from oppression isn’t gonna immediately forget about the groups who helped them get there#if i’m one day able to get perfect accomodations for my anxiety and nobody looks at me like i’m dramatic when i talk about it#i’m not gonna suddenly stop advocating for mental health issues to be normalized#if anything i’ll argue HARDER. you learned to understand me now learn to understand my siblings#learn to understand those with bpd. with psychosis. the sociopaths. the narcissists. the systems#i’m not gonna act like i have it worse than people who are heavily stigmatized. i’m not gonna get attacked for stuttering at mcdonalds#but that doesn’t mean i have /no/ problems and it doesn’t mean i think i’m better than anyone else#i don’t get why people fight each other about this. it’s a good thing so long as we remember where we came from
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its so hard liking characters that a majority of a fandom hates. cant go a day without seeing someone hating .. painful
#yea this is mostly about equius. why does everyone treat him like shit. maybe hes creepy and awkward but#its because hes fucking VISIBLY AUTISTIC#so i think people who hate equius becuz hes a weirdo are being ableist even if they dont realize it#anyway people who dont like equius just leave bro
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this is also just partially because i got rsd this afternoon from the guy im seeing but also im right and i should get to kill
#op#literally the horror of communicating your desire#and also the horror of people not doing so#anyway yeah let me overshare about the rsd to focus on that it was so silly i walked with him to his work and he said goodbye a bit rushed#which . he was literally late for work and we were standing in front of the open door with us being very visible for the other employees#so makes super sense#but my brain's like no hihi he hates you#like he wasnt the one who invited me over#planning on initiating more physical contact next time i should communicate because he Is autistic but i dont think hes touch repulsed but#yknow communication consent etc#hanging out with him is very fun though#i feel a bit floundering sometimes but ill find my footing and its worth the effort to do so because like i said . its really fun#and hes hot as fuck#if you read this far . does anyone have any date ideas#we're going to bind books together & make . miku binders lol#but thats a bit of a project & more effort#i think just coming over again & bringing my laptop so we can watch hannib/al (filtered 4 tags) further but in the evening is also good#but if someone does have a date idea thats swagalicious#his couch sucks though like his apartment is super fancy because he hires it from like old people who live there#but are now fucked off to somewhere#but yeah its very fancy but the couch is also fancy which means its pretty comfortable but super bad for cuddling which didnt help#anyway im also scared he follows me on tumblr LMAO#if this sounds too like something you did this afternoon. dont let me know <3#i rlly dont have date ideas i started with museum and now im blank#maybe a picnic somewhere. go to the beach#okay bye im gonna finish star/struck now
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2020-2021
GTA RP characters! characters of other roleplayers that I drew for them, from a server I used to play on.
the top 4 are characters from the group my main character was part of. the bottom two are also those characters but in a cute style. the middle one is commission done as part of a fundraiser for st jude streams someone from our rp server was hosting. i donated a commission as one of the auction items :3
#art#digital art#artists on tumblr#ocs#not my ocs#other ocs#gta rp#gta v#gta 5 rp#grand theft auto#gta roleplay#drawing#digital artist#commission#sometimes i really miss gta rp...but it all ended very badly and everhthing got toxic and gross on the server#and i'll forever be salty about basically being told i cant have a visibly autistic character#and cant do comedy rp because they decided only serious and sad rp all the time is allowed and my group had to do crime/shoot cops#because the cop character players were bored and wanted to be stars of the show. so mh group was taken from me and turned upside-down#thats the summary of it. i wrote a whole 35 page doc lmao#anyway this is about my art. look at it im proud of it. even if some of the players of these characters suck😒
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fyi, if you refer to me as "low supports needs" or "less visibly autistic," i will block you.
just because i can communicate verbally doesn't mean I can function without help nor does it mean that my autism is not visibly present.
am i less visibly autistic or can you just not recognize the autism in me?
#i fucking HATE this term so much#as someone who cannot hold down a full time job or brush her teeth without reminders and needs to be forced to eat#as someone who screams and flails and wiggles and shakes as a stim#as someone who repeats words and trips over their sentences a lot#as someone who flunked out of university#as someone who defaulted on student loans and refuses to pay them back#as someone who was evicted for lack of payment#as someone who couldnt go to work and who quits her job after 6 months to a 1 year if im lucky#as someone who constantly says the wrong thing#as someone who relates everything back to my special interest (which is hard to do at the moment cause im mad at her)#am i actually not visibly autistic or can u not see the autism in me??????????#i could go on and on and on and on actually#i wont but you get the fucking point#if we being honest all labels are ableist because we're all fucking autistic and we ALL need accomodations
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#sorenhoots#I have an idea roaming around in my brain#it feels like an overreaction because society reserves the word ‘trauma’ for visible stuff#like a physical injury or a traumatic event so bad that even society’s pressure to not show symptoms isn’t enough to cover it up#but like…. I am slowly allowing myself to expand my definition of trauma to include things that non-autistic people would scoff at#such as being exposed to a bad texture or trying a food that my autism doesn’t like or stuff like that#on one hand it’s like ���oh my god don’t be dramatic. eating a chicken strip with a really chewy spot isn’t trauma’ which sounds like a#reasonable thing to say but like. as a young kid that happened to me and I still can’t eat chicken strips without being *significantly*#stressed about encountering the bad texture again.#i take COMFORT in the fact that- when I had shingles- the shingles pain was HORRIBLE and yet the texture of my bedsheet was WORSE#and I’m realizing I have some Things I’ve always been like… ‘triggered’ by. colors or patterns. I assumed they must be related to my#trauma that is undisputedly traumatic- I assumed those colors or patterns must have been involved#the same way I can’t stand a couple of flavors because they remind me of it#but maybe it’s just that checkered patterns bother my autism. maybe I don’t like blue because it just hurts my eyes.#have I unnecessarily tied Autism Sensory Pain to separate traumatic events as a way to explain them?#I don’t know. but I think the first step in digesting all of that is to allow myself to categories Bad Sensory Events as Traumatic#like I’m allowed to say shingles was traumatic. I panic anytime I think I feel the tingly sensation it started as#but I’m way more repulsed by certain textures. so why not describe them as trauma?#idk. one thing I don’t like is showers? and I started applying some of my PTSD work to them#such as getting familiar with smaller steps that are less sensory overwhelming#or changing the circumstances enough that my brain doesn’t go ‘wait this is a ShowerTM which has traumatized me in the past from sensory’#and it absolutely helps. which is something to mull over at least
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i hate it here
#i wish i could leave. kk be faster at making that ve kincord challenge im gonna go insane in here#i feel so fucking STUPID this just reminds me of the same way i was bullied when i was visibly autistic#made fun of behind your back and being paranoid and knowing everyone hates you and thinks you have a stick up your ass#im just trying to do my job. im just trying to cultivate a better enviroment here#i just want people to stop breaking rules and saying really triggering shit for a joke#but i just feel mocked and laughed at and like a deer in headlights but the headlights are Always on and they are Howling in laughter at#everything i ever say. except for when they are silent#and then i have to delete all my messages and hop ena d pray that they leave me alone if i just delete and move on#i am a fucking moderator and a server co-owner i shouldnt be made to feel like thius#its the same in HHS. this is taking a toll on my mental health#i avoid talking in HHS because of this
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Oh my fucking god. Your tags aria. Fuck
the way he poses his hands is so 🥺<3
i respect all of you that draw his hat- i tried, and a dixie cup up there would have looked better LMAO
Inspiration post under cut!
#YES I LOVE THE THING HE DOES WITH HIS HANDS#I have like. a theory about it.#since he’s always fiddling with his hands in FRONT of himself….#as opposed to ford always folding his in BACK of himself….#I think fords reason is obvious#it’s born out of insecurity about his extra fingers#but STAN#the fact that he so often puts his hand FRONT AND CENTER AT HIGH VISIBILITY#he’s so used to being accused of stealing or breaking something even from when he was a kid#I kinda think it’s in part because he’s subconsciously trying to prove he’s not being sketchy at that moment#him showing his hands like this could be a subconscious way of saying ‘hey! it wasn’t me!’#especially cause he does it a lot when he’s worried or uncomfortable or in a tense situation#it makes me feel like he subconsciously is trying to remove any possibility of people blaming him on something else#that and yes he’s autistic. and he’s adhd. source: trust me#OH MY GODDD#this poor man. fuck#stan showing his hands while ford hides his hands#the parallels...#you put it into words. he's actually more fucked up than i thought. damn#i love him even more now
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