#im extremely queer

[riotinyellow]

You have one short-lived gacha phase 8 years ago and now you're the algorithm's gacha bitch

[i-have-no-soul]

i just think if the biggest pressing issue in your life is trans men making the ‘bold’ claim that they suffer from a unique axis of oppression and discussing how that affects their lives you need to go outside more. maybe that’s just me. if you’re more angry at trans men than you are at anyone else right now that’s a you problem you gotta get sorted out

[cutiesarahsworld]

I can’t stop growing 😵‍💫the way my whole body jiggles is hot 🥵 omfg

[fatbigpiggy]

Oink Oink! FEEDER WANTED! 🐷🐷🐷

[spitblaze]

Okay I've witnessed it happening enough in Queer Internet Circles that I think I can confidently say something about it.

Can we PLEASE stop picking arbitrary lgbt+ demographics out of a hat and having entire conversations about how they 'aren't actually queer' and 'taking valuable resources' for the crimes of 'some of them are cringe' or 'some of them are assholes' or 'they have a nebulous privilege over the rest of us so they're the oppressor, actually'.

Like look, some conversations are absolutely worth having. There's a lot of transmasc shitheads who latch on to toxic masculinity or seem to completely forget what it's like to navigate a world that considers you a woman, or completely fail to realize that being transgender yourself doesn't suddenly mean you don't have to examine yourself for internalized transphobia or transmisogyny. And that should be addressed, every community has its issues, no community is a monolith, no demographic is made up of entirely good smart righteous people or evil bad oppressive abusers. Obviously.

But I'm not talking about that!

I'm talking about people bringing up the same tired rhetoric they used when they tried to claim that nonbinary people are clout-chasing attention seekers who will keep cishet society from taking the rest of us seriously, that people used when they decided asexuals were actually cishets who co-opted our movement for their own personal gain, which was recycled from when people tried to claim that bisexuals are het-passing fakers and if a REAL queer has sex with one they'll be left for a cishet because that's what bisexuals do, which is the same as the shit they spewed at whoever the target was before that! It's paranoid nonsense all the way down, people looking for an acceptable target to take their shit out on!

Can we stop doing this, please?? Can we stop picking demographics within our own community that people arbitrarily decide are fine to bully and mock and kick out of the spaces they helped create because you think that they're cringe or that speaking about the issues they face is privileged whining? Can we stop giving bigoted cishets free reign on already vulnerable communities because someone arbitrarily decided that THESE queers are evil and cringe so its okay to make shitty comments and jokes about them? Can we PLEASE stop the cycle in its tracks while we can still see the crosshairs moving onto tranfems and trans women? We can stop this now before it starts getting uglier and deadlier, but we HAVE to be aware and do more than complaining about it online.

[saturdaymorningcartoonz]

Btw im like full on blocking people who defend the live action Lilo and stitch lol

[starryalpacasstuff]

Knock Knock Boys: A Queer Asian Lens

I didn't watch Knock Knock Boys as it was airing, because it didn't really seem like the kind of show I'd be into. However, this post by @lurkingshan and @waitmyturtles' enthusiastic recommendation convinced me to give it a shot. Having binged the entirety of the series in a day, I can say that the show was an absolute delight to watch.

I've seen plenty of people talking about how wonderfully sex positive the show was, so I'm not going to bother with going too much into it, but I will say that the drama clearly showed the kind of sex education and awareness that is desperately needed around the world. I also really liked how Lukpeach and Latte were the ones responsible for pretty much all of the sex education in the show. It was very realistic in that, in my experience, it's extremely common for teenagers and young adults to get a majority of their knowledge about sex from their friends and the internet. The show had a very clear message about the importance of talking freely about sex with younger generations, because the taboo on the topic only harms teenagers in the long run.

Now, besides that, there was one more issue that I thought the show did wonderfully: it showed how asian kids are often hesitant to discuss things with their parents because they assume the worst in the beginning. I'm having some trouble articulating this, because it's such an abstract, ingrained concept to me, so forgive me if this is incoherent. I'm also generalizing my experience as an Indian, so please do correct me if I'm wrong here. That being said, having been raised in a society that values respect and listening to elders without question, discussing alternate ideas with parents can be a very difficult thing for most of us. It's easy to assume what parents would say to an idea and decide that trying to convince them otherwise is a task that is either futile or requires too much energy.

The best way I can describe is that the mindset becomes "It's better to ask for forgiveness if you get caught instead of asking for permission straight away". For example, had Almond asked his mother if he could stay with three other guys, she would've most definitely flat out refused, since she would've had a lot of preconceived notions about the idea. But, because Almond is able to show her that he's happy as he was, she was perfectly fine with him continuing to stay with the others. I think that's the hallmark of most asian parents, they want us to be happy but they're convinced that they know what kind of life will make us happy. They did something similar with Peak and his father, but my feelings on that are a little more complex, so we'll come back to this.

Peak and Thanwa, man. I loved Latte and Almond but these two just stole the show for me. I know some people felt frustrated with Peak's dallying and hesitance, but I just felt so sad for him, and something about his situation just hit very close to home. And Seng, the actor that he is. One particular moment that stuck with me was the scene when he leaned against the door while Jumper attacked Max. I must've rewatched that moment half a dozen times, because his acting was impeccable. I will say, I wish that they'd given us a better resolution on the arc after Max, but those are mostly minor quibbles. What I really wanted to talk about was the arc with Peak's father. Peak gathering the courage to tell his father with the support from his found family was beautiful. The scene at Knock Knock House the day before Peak left was one of the most magnificent, emotionally charged scenes I've seen in asian ql in a while. Coming from a societ wherein arranged marriage is the norm, the storyline hit hard in all the right places.

But. I did not love the resolution of the arc. I think we've had some conversation about how some shows try to be both in the bubble and out of the bubble simultaneously, and the last two episodes of the show felt a little like that. From what we knew about the father, it felt almost too easy for him to simply accept everything right away. There should have been some struggle for reconciliation. I know that the show has a theme of assumptions and lack of communication disrupting parent-child relationships, but in this case how fast they move on just seems unrealistic. My cynicism aside, even if we assume that the father wasn't homophobic, there should've been more of a conversation on the breaking of the engagement! The social implications, the father asking him why he didn't say anything for so long, Jane's involvement (how did the father know that she knew about this?). The only argument I can see against this is that the father, while initially put off by the revelation, chose to act otherwise to support his son. But then, he most likely wouldn't have insisted they take his car. And there still should've been some sort of a conversation about the engagement. Arranged marriages have a purpose; it's to provide financial and social security. I find it extremely hard to believe that a father who arranged a marriage for his son wouldn't have so much as discuss the implications of being gay with him. They tried to have the engagement have consequences with the wedding banquet, but the resolution for that really only made it worse. This is cynical of me, but I simply cannot suspend my disbelief enough to believe that the entire wedding party was perfectly happy with the turn of events. This whole resolution just seemed out of place in a show that was otherwise so wonderfully grounded in reality while still being absolutely hilarious. I think, if the show had done something a little more similar to GAP, it would've felt more realistic.

All of that aside, I really did enjoy watching the show. It was hilarious and heartwarming, and the characters were absolutely wonderful. The resolution of the final arc did drag it down a little, but I would be lying if I said that watching two queer couples get to celebrate their relationships with their community didn't warm my heart at all (Also, side note- Jane having a girlfriend was a brilliant subversion). All in all, it's a great series. It definitely felt like something new and fresh compared to the kind of qls that I've been watching lately.

[sourscratched]

got caught in one of the back wheels of the bandwagon, extended corniverse headcanons be upon ye

my bryce and clark are based on the lovely lovely designs for them made by @gaybearwedding !! (well they at least were initially. things may have gotten away from me)

additional dumb doodling under the cut

(and one for my little team illinois + nebraska ocs ⬇️)

notes, headcanons, etc:

- the Wicked shirt and the blue button down (from the group pic in the first photoset) are both shirts i’ve owned for a long time and are still in my closet right now

- the team illinois and team nebraska captains are named dani (daniela) and miya and pretty much exactly what happened between bryce and clark also happened with them. they also spent a summer road-tripping together; prime grounds for homosexual thoughts to happen

- for anybody who’s watched the off book episode The Kids Are At Night with Mary Sohn (10/10 episode highly recommended), i imagine that most nights after clark gets done helping his sisters* with their homework he’s probably looking up online editions of Boy Boy Magazine. gotta get connected to the culture

* = my headcanon is that he has two sisters, one older one younger

- the Away Team is from the same country as Princess Emily but they’re diehard Nothing Everything Children Glass fans (is there an actual name for the group who made it?? tag with your headcanon for the band name) and there is a rivalry between the two factions

that’s all ive got for now thanks for reading all my weird little ideas!! 💖💖

[sluttylittlewaste]

Elphaba and Glinda are such doomed platonic soulmates to me. Very much the ex-best friend you never stop thinking about but it would hurt too much to reach out to (because what if they don't respond?)

[harbingerofsoup]

i will say that about 80% of the discourse (and im talking the idiotic social media style discourse) in the iwtv fandom is perpetrated by people who don’t know how to safely and responsibly engage with the gothic horror genre and i don’t care if that comes across as pretentious because it’s true

[qoldenskies]

hey gang i am going to try very very hard not to leave you all on a cliffhanger for too long but my momentum has just been carpet bombed by the turnout of what's been going on in the US so give me a bit thankies

[cold-red-venom]

Unpopular opinion, but you should not have to tell your partner that you are trans if you've fully medically transitioned before you met. Cuz everybody's always saying trans men are man and trans women are women, bc it's true, and if that's the case, and they have fully medically transitioned and have all the parts of the gender they identify with and that their partner sees them as then it should not matter. They have always been the gender that they are now they just had different physical body parts, so it should not matter, because that's in the past now.

[priincessboy]

gender and sexuality is weird because I'll say I'm queer , gnc/masc transsexual and that is my identity but if someone insists on a deeper level of identity (this has happened and will continue to happen) I'll say I'm an aroace bisexual and bigender. but then that brings on more questions like 'how can you be aroace if you have a partner? doesn't that mean your not bisexual?? how can you be bigender and only use he/him and neopronouns?'

its just weird to think that I have to have a deeper set of labels for people who think 'gueer trans guy' isn't enough for them, and then question my labels.

[vanpalmerenthusiast]

okaaay, i was battling between asking you about van palmer and her connection to the religion/lottie, or jackieshauna and their mutual codependency (more from shauna’s side, anyway).

so, could you write about whatever feels closer to your heart, please? like, i want to piss off some people who don’t like jackie for whatever reason (valid, but if it’s not without any justified arguments—those words of hate are useless <3)

please, please, please! the kids are all sat around the bonfire and listening to you patiently

HI HI HI!! i love you very much im sorry i hadn’t gotten around to this til now, been studying so much for exams and haven’t found a lot of time to write!! amazing ask btw, as always

since i’ve been posting about van a lot, i figured i would give jackieshauna a turn because they’re my doomed babies and i love them

goddddd…. CODEPENDENCY!! jackieshauna is such a perfect example of it because it is really 100% true on both sides of the situation. since we want to focus on shauna, per your request, im going to start off by saying shauna’s codependency with jackie is obsessive. everything in her life in some capacity has something to do with jackie. shes with her 24/7, she makes all her decisions with her in mind, she’s fucking jackie’s boyfriend, for christ’s sake. i am one of those people who truly believes that not only was shauna pretending she was similar to jackie when she was cheating with jeff, she was pretending jeff was jackie. jeff is the closest she could sexually get to jackie, and so she betrays her best friend to be closer to her. 

now when i say this, i’m not saying shauna didn’t look up to jackie and wasn’t jealous of her. she very much was, in some way or capacity. but speaking from experience, in queer relationships, especially homoerotic codependent best friendship, there’s so much gray area between wanting to be that person or be with them. i’ve struggled with it, you’ve struggled with it, it’s a curse every queer person has to bear at some point. this hits shauna HEAVY. she tells jeff to say that he loves her- and this can have many meanings. since it’s up for interpretation, i can think of a few reasons why she says it. 

number one, validation. she wants it, and she wants it from jackie. everything she does has to be approved by jackie, even if sometimes she doesn’t think so (for example, the red dress scene, where she says she doesn’t want to wear it but ends up showing up in it anyway because she wants jackie’s approval). number two, like what i said before, she’s pretending jeff is jackie. she wants to hear that jackie loves her. she wants to feel jackie inside her (foreshadowing) and wanting her, all of her, not just the parts that don’t need fixing. and number three, she wants to be like jackie. she wants jeff to want her too, because she is just as good and beautiful and perfect as jackie. she craves an equality between them, that although we knew it was there, she never did. 

shauna continues to stay codependent on jackie her entire life. jackie follows her like a shadow, creeping into every corner and every moment in her world. shauna still hallucinates her, in all her highschool senior soccer captain glory, in her forties- 25 years after jackie’s death. she relies on seeing her, in some strange way. in the taylor’s house, for example, when she sees the memories of the two of them in real time and smiles like it’s the only comfort she’s had in months. jackie is shauna’s solace, no matter how much it hurts that she is.

wrote this a tad bit intoxicated so i’m kind of rambling here, but i hope this suffices xoxoxo im sorry for making you wait!! this isn’t even mentioning the whole cannibalism storyline, which is a huge part of jackieshauna and it deserves its very own post, so stay tuned for that?! til next time on yellowjackets bonfire stories with sophie 💋

[proserpinaschild]

just had one of the most deranged conversations i’ve had in months. an acquaintance i know IN REAL LIFE dmed me to warn me about a mutual person we knows(ALSO IN REAL LIFE) “problematic” behavior in which the behavior in question was being an CSA survivor repeatedly putting themself in harm’s way…in which they proceeded to be confused by the fact i was more concerned about the survivors safety than the other persons “icky” feelings….

[bams-2]

“Why are all your characters lovequeer” its my entrepreneurial spirit. Theres LOADS of lovequeer aros starved of necessities (cute girls) and Id be an idiot not to take advantage of that market