#ill respond soon to dms

[phinjeet]

* sniffle . i lov mutualz i lov online friendshipz i lov connecting through silly showz i lov making art for each other i lov yapping in dmz i lov it here i truly sincerely do

[wickjump]

hey gang, ive kinda had like the worst week of 2024 so far (would say of all time but in 2023 my cat died which tops this). anyway yeah sorry for rarely posting except from posting old drafts that i pretend are new and reblogging whenever i scroll mindlessly to distract myself. haven’t been able to pay as much attention to things as ive liked!!!! some shitty things have happened both to me and the people i care about so ive been trying to focus mostly on that rather than not. that’s life, c’est la vie.

hopefully things should clear up within a few days, but given i promised id be more active like twice before now i have no clue how true that one is. been going through a rough time and not dealing with it in the best of ways and i dunno how long it’ll take to get out of this one fellas. i might post some more cleaned up drafts but it’s hard to focus on a lot of things since anxiety is kicking my ass right now. with any luck ill bounce back sooner than expected though, or at least be more consistent with things. i tried to be more active yesterday but then A Really Bad Thing kinda caught me off guard and im doing a bit worse for wear at the moment. but ill be dandy and will get back soon enough, no longer than like two weeks if things go well!!!!

i also haven’t checked notifs just at all unless im actively expecting a response so if anyone @‘d me or anything of the sort i. did not see it. or any other important reblog. i get hundreds of notifs each day and normally i read through all the replies and reblogs because i like to see your thoughts!! but i haven’t done that much lately either. if something is seriously important, dm me and itll be easier to see it, but i can’t guarantee ill see or respond to it in a timely manner.

OK THATS ALL BYE SORRY 💔

[pricegouge]

I'm not dead I swear, just dying

[kaleochu]

sry for not responding to dms and such ive actually been super busy but it should lighten up before black friday. but uhm update it's going good! work is good and the coworkers are sweet and helpful. i also got a haircut! it's a little awkward bc she asked me about my trip and forgot the last time i came was a few days before 🙃 but just told her it didnt go like i thought it would and stuff happened but im moving forward. we both agreed cutting off your hair symbolizes moving from your past and it felt good to do it.

this friday is the last day of retrograde in saturn and regardless of if you believe in that im hopeful it'll be a moment of good change and clarity. aaaand im hoping to finally get around to paying back others soon with paydayyyyy (which is also on the same day hehe)

[dernarrleid]

ya'll I'm still here, I'm just in the thick of it.

[master-gatherer]

I have reread what I wrote

It's not terrible

I'm still not happy with it 😐

I may still be too close to it

Does anyone want to volunteer to beta 😬 (mutuals only)

[darckcarnival]

(( I get home from sunday DND. It was intense, had to use my character to cure 4 party members of mythic tier t-virus. it worked. then blew up lab. thank fuck. ))

(( So I need to immediately start setting up for stream now! ))

(( I am so sorry for slow activity recently, between exhaustion, ER visit yesterday, and trying to balance schedule, am tired. ))

(( AND SEE MORE FOLLOWERS? HELLO!! ))

[pistolslinger]

(•_•) <)   )/ im    /    \  

(•_•) \(   (> feelin   /    \

(•_•) <)   )/ the rapid approach of a bout of sensory    /    \ overload and i am powerless 2 stop it

[reckless-rider]

:O YAAAAAAAAY I'D LOVE MAHITO BACK, HE'S SO GIRLIE-POP <3

and poor babey megumi </3

i think yuji should save him with a kiss actually, that would work well i think

MAHITO IS SO SILLY <333

Yeah fr it would, he should definitely try that!!

[wooahaes]

turning off my inbox for a little bit on here + the other sideblog. no real reason, just kinda want some space

[mwagneto]

avenue 5 cancelled. carnival row cancelled. the nevers cancelled. cant have shit in detroit

[cryptidapprentice]

man,,,

[prettykitti]

im veryy high lmao

[ficmachine]

Ok this is really silly but ever since I've read that one post you made about glamrock freddy/ monty being with a shy, small, new dancer animatronic, I've had an idea I can't get out of my head. What if the reader used to be an animatronic in Sister Location made to dance Ballet with Ballora? Maybe they were really close and would dance together like the reader being able to pick her up despite being shorter. Maybe something happened and they don't remember anything about the SL or Ballora when they transferred to the PizzaPlex, but for 'some reason' they are really good at ballet. What if the PizzaPlex brought back Ballora to dance with them somehow and the reader suddenly remembers and they have a reunion?What would Freddy/Monty think of them dancing together? Would they be jealous? Would they love how good they are at Ballet? Would they think it's cute that they're really good friends with Ballora and are always competing against one another? Ex: "I bet I can do more Spins than you >:(!!"

(lolll sorry if this makes you uncomfortable to do for some reason, or it's bad somehow. This is my first ask ;-;)

hi dude!

This is a very good idea and it seems like you have a lot of it fleshed out already- but i no longer write for animatronic reader, nor do i write female characters unless its an off-handed mention or a small appearance.

with that said tho! it really does seem like you have some good fleshed out chunk going! :0 by all means flesh this out more! post it as your own! i know i'd definitely be down to read that! (it's just not my cup of tea to write unfortunately ;u; )

but if you DO write it, even if its just bullet points or whatever, small hcs and stuff (or fuck if you need help with it or something im down to beta read and throw ideas at you!) pls tag me in it!

don't get discouraged btw! it's a very lovely first ask <3 i'm honoured that i was the one you sent it to even tho i know it must've taken a lot to just hit send <3

[olderthannetfic]

Okay, I need advice: I'm in a very tiny fandom (like less than two dozen active people and everyone knows each other) and one of the women in it is kind of freaking me out.

We became mutuals because we had some good discussions on some of the characters we liked, but I soon became sort of uncomfortable with a lot of her online behavior whereas simultaneously she's DM-ing me more and more.

She's one of those people who's a hardliner on the issues she cares about (mostly feminism- and SA-related) while talking over people when it comes to issues she doesn't care about (mostly racism and related things). And I see a lot of her trying to intrusively police how other people talk/act, derailing people's posts, arguing with people online over the most stupid shit (where not even her own opinions come off as overly coherent - this week she'll argue something along the lines of "men are evil" and the next she'll argue that people are "demonizing masculinity" - I'll add for clarification that she's not a TERF and supports trans rights but boy... Does she sound like one sometimes) and then digging through people's profiles to find and publicize minor transgressions and bad takes, passive-aggressive vagueposting, and going into mental breakdowns over the most innocuous of online interactions.

TBH she scares me. As someone who suffered through toxic people getting overly attached to me, I genuinely sometimes get a physical reaction when I see her lashing out on the dash.

And she keeps initiating conversations! And sometimes I don't reply or bring the conversation to a natural closure and she keeps at it, or sends me random fics of hers to read that I don't have the heart to tell her don't interest me or whatever. And recently when she disagrees with something I reblogged she direct messages me to rant about it - with a lot of sort of indirect language because she doesn't want to offend me but I can see the intent. The last couple of times I replied politely because I cared about clearing misunderstandings on the topic but next time I'm just gonna tell her I dislike it when she does that.

I really want this person to stop interacting with me, to be honest, and all my polite hints to the effect go unnoticed. But the fandom is so small I feel awkward and uncomfortable about unfollowing or blocking her. I don't think she's too bad of a person, she just comes off as very... Mentally ill, I guess? And since I've tried to be polite so far I feel like it might come out of left field for her?

TBH I feel like something about her behavior also triggers some kind of freeze/fawn reaction inside of me that I don't often get and consequently don't know how to deal with.

So I need impartial advice because I don't see the situation clearly myself

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To summarize, a person who is a walking red flag wants to be friends, and you can't easily ghost her because the fandom is small.

I think you have to accept that there is no low-conflict way out of this.

That's what's holding you back, right? You don't want more drama and you know it's coming. I think you already know in your heart of hearts that you need to get away from her even if it's a pain in the ass.

Step one is to stop responding to her DMs. That will probably make her reach out more, but you should keep not responding. If she escalates and attacks you over it, block her.

The more you offer reasons or try to gently hint, the more that will encourage her. I don't think that's true of everyone, but I do think it's the case here. This is both because it doesn't sound like she's good at perceiving or respecting boundaries and because she inspires a bad lack of ability to assert boundaries in you.

I agree that it's unfortunate that you can't stand up for yourself or tell her plainly when she's out of line, but since you can't and that probably won't change any time soon, you'll need to protect yourself a different way. Sometimes, we just have to avoid people who are bad for us even when it's an us problem. (And here, whoaaaa red flags, so I don't think it's just a you problem anyway.)

There are many sad, lonely, needy people in the world. Some of them are officially mentally ill in some way with a diagnosis. Some just need things they aren't currently getting. That sucks...

But it's also not your job to fix.

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

Am I the asshole for cutting off a mutual for threatening suicide?

I know it sounds bad, but please bear with me.

I stumbled across somebody on Tumblr who shared the same obscure interests as me, and we became mutuals pretty quickly. We hardly interacted outside of liking each other's posts sometimes, which seems to be par for the course for Tumblr mutuals. I had a Discord server with my partners and me in it and we decided to invite them to it in an attempt to be closer friends.

Things were okay for a while, but I noticed a few red flags right off the bat. They'd had a bad experience with their last group of friends and vented about it a lot - that in and of itself is fine, but it got to a point where it was all they would talk about. The vent channel in the server was completely occupied by them, and neither me nor my partners felt comfortable venting there ourselves. Alongside this venting about their old friends, they would continuously insinuate we would be just like them, and would leave them just like their old friends did. Again, I don't have a problem with people asking for reassurance, but this was CONSTANT. When I say it was all they would talk about, I mean it. That kind of mistrust in their supposed friends was mentally draining and made me feel like they didn't value our friendship.

And now we get to the threatening suicide part. This person was very clearly mentally ill, needed help, and lived in an unsupportive home. I had all the sympathy in the world for them, and still hope they manage to get out of it. However, if we did not respond to the constant venting in our Discord server, they would go on Twitter and Tumblr and talk about how everyone was ignoring them, and they were going to kill themselves. Several times. This happened a few times before I approached them and asked them kindly not to vague post about me, as I have "trauma" (put in quotes because the vague posting was not the root cause of it) surrounding people pretending to be my friend and shit-talking me in vague posts. They apologized, and agreed to try and cut down on doing it.

But it didn't stop. A week would pass, and they would go right back to it. Their suicide threats were made near daily, and while I don't mind talking someone down from suicide, being expected to do it every single day was taking a massive toll on my mental health.

Eventually, my partners and I decided we weren't cut out to be friends with this person. A message was sent to the Discord server, explaining we made a collective decision that we were not a good match, and that we'd be deleting the server. Cue the final breakdown - as soon as they saw the message, they started to freak out, threatening to kill themselves, begging not to leave them, saying they'd be alone without us, etc. The server was deleted and they moved to my partner's DMs, still threatening suicide and generally being nasty.

After blocking them on socmed, things were quiet for a while. Occasionally, they will send me or my partners asks telling them they're going to kill themselves and how they just want to "make things right" between us. Obviously these threats are empty. The last one they sent me was on Roblox of all things because I'd blocked them everywhere else.

So, am I the asshole? Should I have continued to stay in this friendship and tried harder to make it work?

What are these acronyms?