#if i don’t respond

[tojiscrack]

take ME away from AMERICA PLS we can swap 🤭

let’s just hold hands and skip over to our own land atp. we can get away from the colonisers 😁

[gayvampyr]

no offense but you guys need to learn the difference between someone implying their experience is universal and a post simply just not being about you

[greykolla-art]

Alastor: “Now, let’s talk about literally anything else please!”

Me: “Good! Cause I don’t know where you went so I can’t go further with this!😂”

[peninsulaisms]

[transmisogyny-explained]

I want to submit a perspective on "afab transfemininity" from. an afab multi gender person. I know my experience isn't representative of everyone who calls themselves this, but I wanted to at least share

I don't call myself a trans woman, I hesitate to call myself transfem. nonetheless, I feel connected to femininity in a distinctly transgender way. when I first came out, I hated being a girl. I was a transmedicalist and validated myself by invalidating others. I had to face a lot of internalized misogyny and transphobia in order to really learn what it meant to be a man. after I started testosterone about 3 yrs ago, I realized I was a lesbian, and started feeling more comfortable being, at least in part, a woman. it was different this time because it was something I liked, something new and my own, not something ascribed to me. it's not cisgender in any way, it is transfemininity

this being said, I know my experience toward transfemininity is extremely different from the norm. I am not what most people are referring to when they refer to transfems, and there are many definitions of transfem that do not include me. despite that, I do have some experiences that overlap, things I can relate to. my femininity is at its core transgender in nature. my gender now is more complex... I feel like both a man and a woman, neither and both. but that doesn't mean my feelings about my gender are predatory or invalid. I don't want to talk over transfems, I am very aware of my place in these conversations. but I still have a place, and it frustrates me to see you share posts that minimize my experience into a stereotype

Why do you view transfemininity as being, at its core, the experience of being “both a man and a woman” lmao

Get back to me when you start viewing trans women as actual women and transfemininity as actual femininity, and not an aesthetic or a vibe or “some other third thing��� apart from femininity.

You “feel femininity in a distinctly transgender way?” Congrats! You’re nonbinary! But that is NOT what being a trans woman is — Their womanhood and femininity is not essentially different from cis women’s.

What you are describing is a very generic experience of being a feminine nonbinary person, and I don't say that to insult you; but to compare that experience to those of trans women’s betrays the fact that you don't view them as the same gender as cis women. Which is transmisogyny. It’s textbook third-gendering.

Call yourself a nonbinary woman- Call yourself whatever you want, in fact. But trans women and TMA people are never going to feel safe around you so long as you continue insisting that transfemininity is essentially the same as the nonbinary femininity you experience, and essentially different from “real” cis women’s femininity.

Also, can I just say that it’s a little condescending that you would end your ask by saying “I’m aware of my place in these conversations, but…”

Like, if you were really “aware of your place” and were actually listening to transfems when we talk about transfeminism, you would be able to recognize the enormous amount of transmisogyny baked into your message. On top of the third-gendering, you also managed to:

Imply that TMA people don’t understand the complexities of gender and nonbinarity like you, a TME person, do

Imply that TMA people creating the language and spaces to discuss our experiences in a way that excludes you, a TME person, is invalidating and somehow tantamount to labeling you as “predatory” (what does that even mean?)

Sent an unprompted ask to a transfem’s blog venting your frustrations with the language of transfeminism, despite the fact that I’m not even the one who made those posts?

Showed a pretty absurd amount of entitlement by insinuating that it’s somehow my problem that you feel frustration over misunderstanding the basics of transfeminist theory

Subtly demanded that I do the emotional labor of managing your frustration, which, frankly, is just classic misogyny

Displayed a complete lack of understanding towards what transmisogyny even is, nor why we, as the direct targets of transmisogyny, need the the language and spaces to discuss it

I really don’t care what transfem “experiences” you think you relate to, the fact that you perpetuate and can benefit from transmisogyny will always separate you from us, and if you actually gave a shit about us and our struggles, you would recognize that and try to be a better ally to us rather than co-opting and redefining our language in a shallow attempt to define us out of existence.

As has been said countless times now:

“Transfeminine” does not mean “trans + feminine,” it is a term coined by TMA people to describe our specific experiences with being denied our femininity. That is something which you, as a person for whom (as you said) womanhood/femininity was ascribed by the system of patriarchy, cannot understand in the way we do.

[electronicmail]

Firefox-official vs electronicmail

Hydrogen bomb vs coughing baby

okay come up with a better idea then. firefox-official is gone asshole it’s electronicmail or nothing

[stealingyourbones]

Never will I stop with the steadfast notion that folks in the DPXDC fandom should interact with at least some form of canon DC media.

There are comics, tv shows, radio dramas both old and new, podcasts, movies, magazines, so much shit that intentionally avoiding the media is simply preventing yourself from spawning new ideas and gaining a new appreciation for a fandom that you’re already in.

The Superman Radio Show has episodes 11 minutes long. A lot of the TV shows don’t have episodes that surpass 30 minutes and most are nearly fully clipped on the official DC YouTube channel. The amount of fan made motion comics is astounding. The amount of fanmade animations is equally as incredible.

[staab]

[automaticsoulharmony]

Creating my own tag game cause I can

Say one thing that is not your main fandom that you could rant about for hours then tag mutuals you wanna get to know <33

I personally could talk about generational differences along with sibling roles and dynamics for ever it fascinates me

Your turn!: @little-doggy-girl-collar @fatallyaddictedtofiction @roseandgold137 @sad-girl-shit11 @starchasing-cryptid @6kate1bishop6 @10dunksfansinatrenchcoat @biterflies @aliteralchicken @transgnckon @annah-kitathryne @masterofthew1cket @rootbeerrex and anyone else who sees this <3

[runeoftheunderworld]

Gonna start a drinking game where I scroll through TikTok, and any time I see someone say they worship Zeus and then disrespect him in the same breath, I’ll take a shot.

Anyone wanna be my designated driver to the hospital?

[idontmindifuforgetme]

I genuinely love not having a crush like I’m not over here feeling physically sick over some mid guy being dry to me I’m literally chilling

[doctorsiren]

Thinking about how last night, at 1 AM, my sister (who isn’t into Ace Attorney) and I were at ihop, and I was very tired and my ADHD meds wore off hours before, so I was rambling about Ace Attorney and trying to explain to her why I don’t believe Gregory Edgeworth was 5’9. I was trying to tell her that, at least in my head, he was 6 feet tall.

And she goes “You say he’s 6 feet? Yeah, 6 feet underground” and I didn’t know how to respond

[semperamans]

benny sneaking in through the window while you’re at your parents and laying his head in your lap because “been a long day. jus’ need your lovin, s’all.” so he wraps his arms around your waist, presses his cheek to your thigh, wedges his fingers beneath your sleep shirt to feel the soft skin at the base of your spine. “talk to me, baby. what’d ya get up to without me?” his voice is dark with fatigue the letters round and slow and steady and perfect. “wanna hear all about it.” he says, then settles in as you tell him about the book you’re reading and the grocery trip you took with zipco and sonny. you inform him on the status of the baby bird that landed on your porch- all good- and the call you had with your childhood friend. your voice is barely above a whisper as you twirl benny’s hair between your fingers, scraping your nails gently across his scalp and it’s no less than five minutes later when he starts snoring. he can’t stay-your parents would flip their top if they found him- but for now you press a kiss to his head, tuck your blanket around his chin, and return to your novel.

[vigilskeep]

the lucanis romance pacing is kind of objectively terrible, no idea what the writing thought process was, but it’s so funny in-world that it basically circles around to a win for me

[friendlycatwife]

I feel really bad for Helluva Boss fans. They’ve been wanting a Millie episode for forever (hell I’ve wanted that) and when they get one it’s her doing the same thing she always does: making the men in her life feel better.

She has one job in Ghostfuckers: restore Blitzo’s broken ego. Tell him he’s a special little boy that did nothing wrong. Hell if it wasn’t for Blitzo, Minnie would still be a “wild and crazy” mercenary instead of a…domesticated housewife? God she really got neutered didn’t she :(

None of this is new obviously. It’s the same crap I said in my video over a year ago. But I guess I was hoping for at least some acknowledgement that things might get better. I hate the show, but I also love it? It’s too fascinating to write off. I mean I gotta be Helluva Boss’s most prominent scholar at this point.

Whether purposeful or accidental…it’s kind of an evil show. Or at least, it has really bad messages. A bit ago I concluded that the most generous interpretation of Helluva Boss is it’s soft core smut you’re not supposed to take seriously. Toxicity is hot as long as you understand it’s actually bad in real life. If I have to think of this show as a real story with real characters, it’s pretty awful. Maybe the safest bet is for us to turn off our brains and jerk it :(

[sillysiluriforme]

Hi there! I just skimmed through most the main bits of your au, and wanted tell you I enjoyed looking around! It's a very unique take on the franchise, and I like the mild (and not-so-mild) horror elements you put in. It's giving a Madoka Magica kinda feel—like a "woohoo we're cool super hereos here to save the day but watch out! The sources of our powers could eat us alive/is actively eating us alive at every second!!" It's a curious change of pace from most au's I see, and I'm looking forward to what else gets developed :)

Thank you !!! I love the constant sensation of unease we’ve cultivated it’s fun :3c