#idk man someone help me understand how this is not disrespectful

[diazsdimples]

Tell me why this motherfucker is talking to someone 8 years younger than him (he's 26) in the bed we shared for 6 years, giggling like a schoolboy, just over a week after we decided to get a divorce? And he says he's not being disrespectful? Get absolutely fucked mate

[tiredfox64]

Hey! Can I request Bi-han and Tomas (separately) with a fem! reader who is a little taller than them? Preferably an established relationship.

They can be HCS, drabbles, whatever you feel most comfortable with if you want to do it.

Thank you in advance and I really enjoy your blog, it is very entertaining 🧚‍♀️ 🫶

Well, Ain’t You a Tall One

Prior notes: I did my best but mind you I’m someone who lies about being 5’4 because I’m not allowed to have that quarter of an inch added on to actually make me 5’4.

Pairings: Bi-Han x Tall! Afab reader, Tomas x Tall! Afab reader

Bi-Han (he might be 6’2 idk)

If you’re gonna talk to Bi-Han do it at a distance so he doesn’t have to look up at you.

*Ah geez something is out of reach for him. Oh what’s he gonna do-HEY! HEY! FUCK IS YOU DOIN TRYIN TO REACH FOR THAT OBJECT HE NEEDS.

Baby, you asked for it. You left yourself open he punched you I don’t make the rules. It was gentle at least.

Be a good girlfriend and pick him up so he can grab it himself. Don’t make him look like a fool in front of his clan. (He’ll allow it just look at the evidence I provided below)

If anyone disrespects your height Bi-Han will punish them. They wanna make fun of how tall you are well he will just stick their head to a large icicle. How bout that, how bout them apples.

You know what makes him feel like a man? Picking you up. Just because you’re a little taller doesn’t make a difference. He’s the man in this relationship.

He knows that people are staring at you because you are taller at him but he still gets upset that people are looking. You are his everyone should understand that.

Please, please, PLEASE, if someone ask you “how’s the weather up there” please say “it’s raining” and spit on them. Bi-Han will find it entertaining and even praise you for it.

No heels! Even on your wedding day. Any shoes that give more height are not allowed on your feet.

If one of his Lin Kuei assassins aren’t listening well he tells you to go up behind them and smack their heads as punishment. You won’t get punished and the assassin can’t smack you back. It’s funny don’t worry.

Bi-Han won’t tell you this but he is impressed by your height. Every woman he has encountered was shorter than him. You are a rare gem.

Tomas (I think he is 6’4 right?)

If he could he would wear a ‘I ❤️ my tall girlfriend’ shirt.

He is absolutely amazed by you. He has never seen a woman this tall before.

It’s a flex really, you are one of a kind.

May someone help the son of a bitch who insults your height cause Tomas will kick the fuck out of their back and bedrid them for five days

When he first met you he commented on how tall you were and you called him a baked bean for that. You thought he was being mean.

He really likes to show you off. Any chance he gets where he can take you out he will do so.

Do you mind being the big spoon? Just for him pleeeeeeeeease.

You have the perfect opportunity to give him forehead kisses. Do it, it will make Tomas happy :)

You wanna wear heels? Go for it! He wants you to feel confident and powerful in them.

Oh now he’s the one taking your hoodie and keeping it for himself. No givesies backsies.

Did he ever tell you how much he loves you? Bring your face a little closer so he can give you a kiss.

After notes: I’m sorry if this isn’t my best work. I knew a guy back in high school who was 6’7. That man is in the Air Force now serving this country RAAAAH 🦅🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🎆🎆🎆🎆🎆…I have to sneeze now. Adiós!

[drsbutmakeitspicy]

More about this post of Lando sending Carlos pictures of Osco (Also Im relearning how to use tumblr so I hope this looks okay, also not betaread)

Lando: [Link]

Carlos: ?

Lando: Some nice pictures from today at the MTC 😉.

Carlos: hm.

Carlos: Why no one fixed his hair? Charlotte never allowed us to show up like that at.🤦‍♂️

Lando: Dunno man, maybe he is afraid of hair brushes.🥴

Carlos: He's an adult.

Lando: Lewis is afraid of onions.🤷

Carlos: I don't believe that. Anyway, tell your teammate to stop being lazy.👍

Lando: 🥱

Carlos: it's absolutely unacceptable to show up at work like that.

Lando: Okay 😶

Carlos: He knew it was one of those type of events right? McLaren would tell us a day or week before. How can he be that disrespectful with his team?

Lando: It's just a bed hair, mate. 🤔

Carlos: Lando you don't understand!! He doesn't care about the teams reputation? Does he need someone to teach him something so basic¿

Lando: are you okay? 🤨

*Carlos is typing*

Lando: You're taking too long, I get it mate. You want to run your fingers through his hair.🥱

Carlos: NO !!!😡

Carlos: I want to just fix it.

Lando: Same thing, mate.

Carlos: NO IT ISNT

Lando: Hm. I think he would be fine with it, as long as you're doing that while kissing him. 😌

Carlos:...

Lando: 🙂

Carlos: would he?

Lando: Idk mate, I never asked, maybe I should. I'll screenshot this and send it to him. 😘

Carlos: Lando I'm gonna block you.

*Lando took a screenshot*

Carlos: LANDO NORRIS

Carlos: DONT YOU DARE 😡

Carlos: I can see you're still Online you Muppet!!!

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Oscar: Hi, it's Oscar. 👋

Oscar: Lando sent me some screenshots.

Oscar: I'm absolutely horrible with keeping my hair, I am aware of that, I didn't hear my alarm that day and only had time to brush my teeth and put a hoodie on.

Carlos: Oh.

Carlos: I don't know what came over me, you don't need to explain yourself, I'm sorry. 🤦‍♂️

Oscar: But I do accept the offer. 👍

Carlos: What offer?

Oscar: ? Lando said you would like to teach me how to take proper care of my hair ? 😶

Carlos: Oh. hm I can help you with that.

Oscar: Ok, it's settled then, mate. You're in Monaco rn right? We can meet at <this place> later if you're free.

Carlos: The harbour?

Oscar: Yea, Mark is lending me his Yatch for the night. I think it would be nice, Lando gave me this idea some weeks ago.

Carlos: you're throwing a party?

Oscar: Nope. Just us, basically.

Carlos: So I can tell you how to take care of your hair¿?

Oscar: Oh shit, maybe I got things wrong, I thought uh, making out was also included.😬

Carlos: OH.

Carlos: It is, Yes.

Oscar: So, uh are you free? 7pm?

Carlos: 👍

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Carlos: Thanks.

Lando: 😛

Lando: Yatch date huh? Hot.🔥🔥🔥

*Carlos Blocked You*

[natlovespink]

Unpopular options on TLOUS fanfics/ and more

1. Ellie would never let you strap her down😭 I'm sorry if you ok with that, that's fine. I'm not judging, but home girl would NEVER let you do that to her.

2. Stop making Ellie seem like a man. No, she's not gonna pick you up and throw you. I also don't think she's this big dommy, mommy. idk why, but I don't see it.

3. I don't like Ellie x Abby. I'm sorry, I dont see it happening.

4. I also don't like how some people write Abby just because she's built like a "man" doesn't mean she acts like one 😭

My opinions on a the TLOUS game in general.

1. Joel is a bad person. I love him, don't get me wrong, but Joel did some really awful and gruesome things that didn't need to be done, but I understand.

2. All of abby friends deserved it but Owen and Mel which I'll talk about later. But they all deserved it they way they talked about how they KILLED KIDS!? was crazy and Manny showed how cooky a d unfair he was and how disrespectful they were to Joel's body.

3. Mel was not in the wrong for not liking abby. She only wanted Mel to come so she can keep Joel alive so she can keep hurting him. Then abby always seem to get in the way of her and Owen's relationship. Owen isn't perfect but the fact that he told abby not to kill Ellie and he said she went overboard showed how he had a little bit of humanity and what he said about thr fireflies being terrorists.

4. Let's stop acting like Abby is perfect 😭 she's to me sadistic. It's kind of the fact that she liked killing scars and even killing CHILDREN them saying it was their fault!? But not just that it's the way she killed Joel after he helped her it's all Joel knew was that someone was gonna cut a little girls head open to TRY and fix humanity Joel didn't know that man he did what he thought was right.

5. Dina had EVERY RIGHT to leave Ellie🤷🏾‍♀️ people say she left because she thought ellie was dead.but she knows ellie, and she knows she's not gonna let anyone do anything TO HER. She just didn't want to deal with the fact of losing another loved one, and Dina was tired of fighting and having to stick by Ellie and this obsession.

6. Tommy forced Ellie.to go after abby which is why we got the ending that we got I understand how hard it must be losing pretty much all you biological family is hard but damm he saw how good ellie had it and it's got ruined.

7. Naughty dog forced us to feel bad foe Abby Ik she may not know what the fireflies where really up to but other then that she and the other wolf members had it good growing up🤷🏾‍♀️ and I don't know what abby expected not for Joel's love ones to come after her? I only started liking abby because of how she took care of Lev and me.readimg fanfics. 😩 but other then that I don't like her and never will really feel bad for her.

8. I'm sorry but if it was Abby vs Ellie again Abby would win🤷🏾‍♀️ Ellie is a 5"5 skinny girl vs a 5'10 muscles Abby would win and the only reason she didn't was because all her muscles where gone.

9. I like the ending of TLOUS 2 Ellie saw Joel In Abby and she realized she can't hold this grunge and surprisingly I feel Joel wouldn't want Ellie to track down his killer and make it her life mission and he would be PISSED at Tommy for making Ellie track down Abby.

10. I feel like is Abby knew what the fireflies where doing she wouldn't stand for it. Not even if her dad said it was for humanity I feel like she would belive what he was doing was wrong.

11. Ellies NEVER gonna get over Riley that was her first love, and I feel like she loved Dina but never the way she loved Riley, and that goes for her relationship with Cat too.

Hiii sorry for my English again 😅 now these are MY OPINIONS

[dreamer0903]

How much I relate to each Marauders era character:

Sirius = 4, bad childhood, and I tried to escape from my home when I was 8, and then when I was 11 (??) but that's it

James = 7, honestly, I always thought that I was the complete opposite of him, BUT recently I realised I'm basically a people pleaser who doesn't want others to really worry about me 😆 so yeah, that was FUN

Peter = 7, okay, I'm not gonna go around backstabbing my friends 😉 but this guy likes food and sleep. He is a little shy compared to the rest of his friends, and I hc him as ace and Bi, so that's me folks.

Remus = 9, I am full of scars and health problems, and back pain is my BFF. I love to read, and I would actually prefer reading with a cup of tea rather than going out to clubs or parties.

Lily = 5, not much to say, I love her, but apart from -> I like to study and I am anxious if I don't, we don't have much in common

Marlene = 1, babe...idk just never related to her much, the only thing I can think of is the fact that I am vaguely disgusted by men lol

Mary = 3, just for the vibes, I feel like she would be a sarcastic girl and I am very sarcastic

Dorcas = 6, I am mean with people who disrespect me and my friends (!!) also kinda sarcastic, too, so yeah, I feel you, girl

Pandora = 7, I have strange dreams every night, and I try to interpret them as much as I can, I love to daydream and I like to help my friends, I want them to be able to talk to me about everything (I feel like this is relatable also for James)

Regulus = 10000, this man, oh boy, I am basically like him, he is me, sarcastic little shit? check, can't deal with his feelings? check, little sibling that feels like a waste and always compared to his big siblings? check, mean but actually cares but doesn't know how to express themselves? yes, likes to read, quiet, cats, and craves academic validation? Yes, that's me

Barty = 8, I would use violence to get back at someone for begin disrespectful to me/people I care about, kinda crazy, doesn't really care what other people think of me.

Evan = 7.5, for the vibes, I am the crazy friend but also the one that needs to keep the others in check before they go too far, snarky little remarks about people I don't like and I would insult you to make you understand that I care about you

NOW, those are my personal opinions on how I view the characters, obviously, so if you feel like "nah Barty is not like this," remember this is just how I view him and relate to him.

Maybe this was a little too personal but...who cares?

Love y'all babes, take care

[papakhan]

Lol why would someone even say that. Like... idk im transmasc im personally mortified of the idea of getting pregnant but... its none of my business if another man wants to be pregnant why would there be any judgement there 😭😭😭 plus the post was very funny people need to stop projecting over a sillay little post. Have a good night king the haters dont get it

the thing is I totally understand trans guys being uncomfortable with the concept of (trans) men getting pregnant. In our society its a very gendered concept, it gets fetishised by weirdos online all the time and to a lot of (especially queer) afab people its strongly associated with control and abuse. I totally get it. That was me not so long ago but after a lot of research I became more comfortable with it because I want to have children one day. I shouldn't have to expose this part of myself as a defence against people calling me transphobic when I am literally trans and half the fight for trans people is "my body my choice"

what gets me is that the tumblr fallout community gets in this fucking argument allll the fucking time over whether the fallout universe should be "dark and gritty and ~realistic~" in regards to Everyone being transphobic Or if the wasteland should be some kind of trans haven without the binds of society. I personally lean on the latter and get a lot of comfort out of the idea that the Great Khans specifically are a bastion of trans joy and experience and to them women having dicks and men giving birth is just. normal.

the end goal for trans people should be to de-gender concepts like pregnancy and penis but we're never gonna fucking get anywhere if trans people project their dysphoria onto each other and start self-flagellating themselves whenever someone steps out of line or makes a stupid joke.

And yeah this is an overreaction to someone critising a stupid post of mine but I'm more mad at the wider culture of the fallout community (and tumblr) regarding this topic because like I said shit like this keeps happening. part of my job is about educating people about trans bodies and saying shit like "don't assume who can and can't get pregnant" and trying to help fellow trans people find comfort in a country that's actively trying to get them all murdered. To then log onto tumblr dot com and get called transphobic because I said I love headcanoning Papa as trans and him being able to deflect the Legion's misogyny because of his transness is like a slap to the face. you guys are meant to be the transgender love website what the fuck are you talking about?? Also Saying that I'm enabling transphobia by allowing people who arent trans men to reblog my post is also stupid and for the record most people in my notes right now are either trans people who are genuinely agreeing that Papa is trans or ghost fans who think I'm talking about their band (but are still trans and still agreeing).

sure maybe I should have put a trigger warning on the post or something because it might trigger someone's dyphoria, but just say that. Don't act like I'm the problem and that I'm too stupid to recognise internalised transphobia and calling me "too comfortable with joking about trans bodies" when 1. I wasn't joking About trans bodies and 2. ITS MY FUCKING BODY

My joke was about how Caesar cant handle Papa being trans. it was a joke about how society cant handle trans people who they can't clock. it was also a joke about how Papa comes from a society where transness is so normalised that he wrongfully assumes that its something everyone can do. At no point was I "nasty about trans bodies" like this person claims I was. In fact I think that pretending that I was says more about how they view trans bodies than it does about how I do, That I can mention trans pregnancy and they automatically assume I'm fetishing or being disrespectful.

anyway. that's a lot of shit. thanks for letting me ramble and tucking me into bed so sweetly <3

[superfluouskeys]

i wave my wand & command u to speak on hopeless, a fic that has lived in my bookmarks for time immemorial.

ohhhhh thank youuu!!!  hopeless was my first wolgraha fic!  It was based on 10 kiss prompts that I decided to make loosely related and kind of flesh out a story for my WoL.  I was just going along cheerfully enjoying FFXIV until Shadowbringers but idk man several things about that part of the story just have my number on speed dial you know!  I was like okay I’m gonna have to write for this to get the rocks out of my brain, ergo I’m gonna have to actually develop an OC.

I pretty much made Adrienne specifically to ship her w/ G’raha so I find it extremely funny a. how quickly I became attached to her for her own sake and b. how I feel her chemistry w/ other characters developed since she was initially conceptualized to complement G’raha specifically LOL.  I previously had a hard time “bonding” with my own OCs and I feel this really marked a turning point in that regard where I was able to focus in on character ideas that really appealed to me enough to form that connection, if that makes sense.

There’s also like a huge gap in my AO3 works from March 2020 until January 2021 when I started writing for FFXIV.  I remember I kept wanting to say something about what I was going through at the time and how I was feeling about my writing and about writing generally, but anything I tried to say barely made any sense because I think I didn’t even know what was going on with me.  There was a period of time where I felt like maybe I just wouldn’t write anymore because I didn’t have it in me.  Nothing inspired me, and nothing I had been working on pre-pandemic even remotely appealed to me anymore.  I felt like it had been written by someone else.

In retrospect, it makes perfect sense, right?  But it was hard to understand the feeling from the middle of it.  And I didn’t want to be cold or disrespectful to the people who have loved my work over the years, but I also couldn’t find a good way of venting my frustration about how I was feeling, so I think I often ended up coming off that way despite my best intentions.

So my main goal in doing the kiss prompts was to not angst about them too much, to just get them done without much editing, and to write something fairly different from what I usually wrote in the past.  I felt like it would be a good challenge for me because as I mentioned I really love unresolved tension and agonizing slow burn, but I think maybe I love it too much LOL, so sometimes when it finally came time for the culmination of the tension I would freeze up because I had built it up so much that I was afraid the payoff wouldn’t be good enough!  Ten shortish prompts where they literally had to kiss felt like a perfect low-stress challenge to help shake my brain loose on this very specific issue, and for that reason I think it’s very sweet and pleasant to read where a lot of my other work is more fraught and angsty LOL.

I really don’t even know if this dialogue feels particularly in character, I was straight up just calling myself out for a laugh:

A dull terror is beginning to take root in her heart, the one that has borne the loss of countless others, the one that has already lost him twice over, and she searches her mind frantically for something to say, something that will keep her from spoiling the moment with things she can’t do anything about. “Is that your idea of a proper courtship?” she wonders, instead, trying at a teasing tone. G’raha looks up.  “Is it not to your liking?” he counters.  “If you’d prefer, I could go and sit across the room.” “You’ll do no such thing!”  Adrienne tightens her grip on him instinctively. G’raha’s grin widens, and his tone turns dramatic.  “Perhaps in a few months, our hands will brush, and I’ll write you a sad letter about it.” “I hate you so much.”  Adrienne laughs weakly, but she cannot bring herself to loosen her grip on him, lest he slip away from her yet again in her negligence. “I don’t think that’s true,” says G’raha pleasantly.

It’s funny, now that my life is like pretty normal and okay again, I’m back to mostly liking fraught and angsty things, but at the time I feel my personal life was so bad that I really needed sweet and pleasant in my escapism!

Fanfic Writer Director's Cut Ask Game!

[maelstroms-blog]

This one is weird, idk, just wanted to give some love to Lucienne, the only one patient enough to put up with Dream's emo BS.

Also, Lucienne is every tired retail worker having to deal with stupid customers, I see a lot of myself in her.

The tall, lithe figure looked down on Lucienne.

'Where is he?' He all But snarled.

It was a different messenger from the faerie kingdom, an impatient one. Lucienne stood tall, looking back into golden eyes.

'My lord had a previous engagement, he will be here momentarily,'

The faerie man scoffed,

'I come here with a message from queen Tatiana  herself, only for the dream King's ears.

Lucienne bit back a sigh, 'If it is that important, perhaps I could pass it on,'

'No! You are merely a servant.'

Lucienne blinked, fixing her gold rimmed glasses. A retort was ready on her lips, it was only her professionalism that kept her quiet.

'Yes, I understand, but my lord is a busy entity.'

The faerie man glared, and then, without warning, he raised his hand as if to strike. Lucienne stood firm, never breaking eye contact, even when she heard the familiar flap of wings, scratching the faerie man with sharp claws. He cried out, glaring at the raven like it was an irksome fly. Then, his eyes widened as a shadow fell upon his face. In fact, all the shadows in the room lengthened and twisted.

'You dare,' came a voice crafted from nightmares, all eyes turned, expecting to see the dream king, regal in his cloak of shadows.

Instead, Dream stood at the foot of his throne, dressed in mismatched pyjamas, too big for his slender frame. His bare feet padded on the floor as he closed the distance, billowing behind him was a tartan dressing robe, obviously taken from a one Hob Gadling.

The faerie man's expression shifted from fear to confusion.

'You interrupted the boss's sleepover,' cawed Matthew, still perched on Lucienne's shoulder.

His wing brushed out against her ear, the same way a human would pat someone's shoulder.

Dream glared down at the faerie man, his eyes two dark abysses,

'You force your way into my palace, demanding my presence, refusing to wait, and when my staff try to help...,' His voice deepened, turning into a growl,

'You would physically harm her.'

A chill settled over the throne, even though it wasn't directed at them. Lucienne and Matthew shivered. The faerie man looked as though he wanted to die, his knees actually shook.

'I-I meant no disrespect-'

'Didn't you?' His form lengthened even more, a stark contrast from his colourful attire,

'I understood you are new at this job, but you should know that any slight taken at one of my staff, is a slight against me.'

Without waiting for an answer, Dream raised a clawed hand and snapped his fingers. With a whoosh of air, idiot went flying back, hitting the palace doors, hard enough to crack whatever it was made of.

Lucienne couldn't keep her eyes from widening, Matthew cawed, impressed.

Dream came to stop in front of Lucienne, shifting his eyes back to his watery blue.

'Lucienne, are you alright?' The concern in his voice was apparent, so much so, that Lucienne had to fight back a sudden feeling of emotion.

'Yes, my lord,' she cleared her throat, 'I was not frightened.'

Dream smiled a small smile, 'I know you weren't.'

The faerie man groaned, slowly, he peeled himself from his imprint, and fell to the ground, heavily.

'As for you,' Dream approached him again, still cutting an imposing figure, despite the cartoon cat on his shirt,

'Tell your queen that I am willing to speak with her, once she employs a messenger not as ignorant as you.'

With another snap of his finger, the faerie was gone, as was the damage done to the wall.

Matthew let out a cawing laugh,

'Did you see his face?'

Lucienne just blinked, 'Not that I am not grateful, my lord, but will this not strain the the Dreaming's alliance with the faerie kingdom?'

Dream looked at her, eyebrow raised,

'I do not care, if that is how they treat staff,' he reached out, as if to take her hand, then just flexed his fingers awkwardly,

'Especially, one as loyal as you, then they are not worth my time.'

Lucienne couldn't keep her small smile from appearing, she focused instead on Matthew, scratching under his beak.

'It is...appreciated, my lord,'

Dream gave a small nod, his show of respect.

'Now, if you'll excuse me, I am certain my hot chocolate has gone cold,' and with that, he vanished, in a flurry of sand and billow of his robe.

Lucienne smiled down at Matthew,

'Shall we have some tea?'

Matthew flapped his wings,

'Yeah, can we have biscuits?'

[that-was-anticlimactic]

okay for the ship ask game. let's see.... how about riteru, higugin, and jetru?

hiiiiiiii beloved <333

lol answered riteru here - the tags are important i think

higugin

ship it

what made you ship it?

LOOK AT THEM!!! okay so maybe a small part of them reminded me of us but like. that's not IT. it's the silent support, the blind faith, the gin prolly giving higuchi a sexuality crisis once she finds out gin isn't a girl,,, it's the late nights in the other's place, it's protecting each other in battle, it's being friends first, it's higuchi loving gin for gin regardless of gender bc she didn't fall for them bc they were a guy or girl or whatever, she fell for their personality.

what are your favorite things about the ship?

dang man. i kind of just answered that lol

but on another note, i think it's the blind faith and trust. you could argue that goes for both gin and higuchi with any of the black lizard, but it feels... idk different with them. it's the i don't have to know everything about you to love you. higuchi thinking she liked akutagawa when really she liked gin (and, really, higuchi just wanted to be respected like him). it's gin respecting higuchi and going out of their way to show it after people disrespect her. it's bonding about being overlooked. it's--

is there an unpopular opinion you have on your ship?

ummmmm i don't think i have any? that or higuchi has ts and gin gives the BEST back massages <333

jetru

ship it

what made you ship it?

tumblr. i thought it was stupid at first tbh and was like “why what is the point of this” and then i saw exactly One jetru fan art and was like “HAHAHAH NEVERMIND THEY ARE IN LOVE” probably like a year after i watched the show??? no but also this art is what like... made me ship it (by @listless-brainrot <333)

what are your favorite things about the ship?

it’s about finding peace and someone to care for you and someone to care for. someone who understands and is willing to help you care your burden and whose burden you want to help carry too. it’s about finding someone who makes you want to be a kid rather than a solider,,, also they are SO SILLY and i love them in my s.okka hanahaki fic lol

is there an unpopular opinion you have on your ship?

ummmm this is objectively better than people making jet z.uko's abusive ex???

[vintage-bentley]

Completely floored at this post I saw today where someone said their husband said David Tennant “looks queer.” idk if they’re in a ✨ kweer ✨ relationship, or if that’s just a straight man, but it felt so out of pocket and disrespectful

David Tennant talked about how he was bullied and straight up beaten for “looking gay” as a kid; it just made me think of those kids calling him queer and literally hate crime-ing him, and it feels really, really insensitive. Doubly because, based on what we know, he’s straight; this man basically said “lol he looks like a fag” and this person took it as an “uwu us queers stay together” moment

I feel like I’d be called overly sensitive or muh terf-y dogwhistle if I said this on main, but man, it’s really bothering me. I’ve never had an issue with people self ID-ing as queer, even though I don’t use it myself, but this was sort of a, “oh *wow*, you people really aren’t ✨ queer ✨ at all and have no idea of decorum or respect” moment. I’m glad you have sense and get why this is so wildly rude and borderline (if not fully) homophobic

That’s so wild omg 😭

People have gotten really bold with the terms they use online, I feel like I’ve been seeing things like “queer”, “fruity”, “limp wrist(ed)”, and even the f slur being slung around so often. It’s like people have forgotten what these terms and slurs actually mean, and have reduced them down to some sort of aesthetic. Which unfortunately makes sense, considering how obsessed with aesthetics the internet is. It’s like, you’re either a “clean girl”, a “mob wife”, or a “fruity little queer”. And it’s all just clothes and shaping yourself into something you’re not just to fit a trend.

So at this point, I really don’t think that when they say “wow he looks so ✨queer✨”, they’re even thinking about same sex attraction. They’re just thinking about quirkiness and colourful clothes. And that’s where the problem is; forgetting that this word you’re throwing around is actually a slur used against a minority group, aka same sex attracted people. And that there’s actual pain attached to those words. In the case of a (as far as we know) straight man mistaken as “queer”, it’s just regular pain from being bullied. But from what I gathered from a DT interview where he talked about this, he seemed to understand how much deeper it would hit for a kid who actually was SSA. So yeah, definitely an odd case to be applying the “wow so queer so quirky!” Thing to.

Anyway, the trendification of “queer” is exactly why I tend to not trust people who self-ID as “queer”, too. Because I know there’s a good chance they aren’t actually SSA, they just go by they/them pronouns and wear gnc clothes sometimes. Or they think dressing up in the “queer” clothing trend makes them the same as an LGB person. And they have no respect for or understanding of the history of that word. They just see it as a silly word that makes them cool.

I’m sure there’s LGB people who do call themselves queer, and that’s fine. They have the right to reclaim a slur personally (as long as they don’t go using it for others). But at this point I can’t help but feel like, why the hell would you want to associate yourself with people making an aesthetic out of your innate sexuality and a slur used against it?

[jvrssy]

hello all of tumblr users,today i want to share my opinion about men in these times,so..lets start. at first i want to say that im not saying it about ALL men,but about those who are like this. as you know,in our times men doesnt have respect for women (talking especially about 12 yo boys who had just watched american psycho and they think they are sigma's). but my question is - why men are so disrespectful to women? many women were mathematics,writers and inventors etc. and i've heard about female inventor who found out something about DNA (idk what was that about DNA especially). but then i heard that men stole her discovery and took credit for it, even though they didn't invent it themselves. it shows how men were jealous of her,or just wanted to be seen,but at her expense. men literally disrespected women for centuries,thinking females are worser,not strong enough,that they cant rule country and many things! im just so pissed off by that,cause human is human,and one person cam be good at something,while someone doesnt have to be either. men saying that women belong to kitchen are showing that they are dependent and immature honestly. its like you dont have 2 legs and 2 hands to cook for yourself,but woman does? i have one boy at school,who is/were saying that women do belong to kitchen,and when a girl would argue with them,they would say like "youre woman,you have no rights" bro WTF is wrong with you? or when in history class was topic about feminism,most of boys started laugh. women fights for their rights for ages,maybe even decades. i bet that if men would have to fight for their rights,it would be easier for them. oh sorry,i forgot that they would never experience,how it feels like,how it feels like to be Arabic woman,and have to cover your whole self under hijab and many clothes,and you can only see. imagine its summer and you have to dress like that. thats humiliating in some senses and very uncomfortable i think. the same is about empathy, maybe women are more "emotional" than most men,but they at least have a heart,to help someone,to put yourself in someone elses situation (not all women idk,it depends on personality). and not to be seen as man hater - most fathers are telling to their sons after they example: fall on the ground and little son start crying cause it hurts him,father would say like "real men doesnt cry" i hate it. everyone can show their emotions,not matter if its a boy,a girl,adult,or old person. everyone should show it,cause in 20 years after hearing things like "dont cry,are you a p***y?" they became hard to show emotions to someone,even to be ashamed of them. and about feminism also: men like to manipulate women,and have fun with them,but tell me why? i know that manipulators cant love theirselfs,and nobody else,but its just..really sick and hurting..same thing about sexualising women from men who are 40+ (but it can be every age) i have seen many catcalling situations on tik tok and im honestly disgusted,cause how dare you say it to a teenager or just to any woman?! do you think that "compliment" like "nice ti*s" or "nice ass" is something cool that someone can hear? i had situations like this in my life too,guy smirking at me,and i was already disgusted by him. thats why sometimes i dont understand the second gender. ofcourse anything can work on two sides,woman can got sexualized like men too,so read whole post before judging and typing mean stuff.

[not-poignant]

I find Caleb's 'omega envy' really interesting. Is he aware that he has it? And does he know that he's envying a designation that is oppressed? I can't help but feel like it's similar to privileged white people who are jealous of minorities because they've never actually experience what being a member of that minority group actually entails.

Like if Caleb was actually an omega, I highly doubt he'd have the same amount of bodily autonomy or a respectable job he enjoys. To me Caleb comes across as someone who is lacking the self awareness to acknowledge the privileges he has and how fortunate he is to have been born a beta in a society that treats alphas and betas better than omegas.

Idk if I'm making any sense with this but even the way he treats Efnisien. It's like Caleb is completely unaware that Efnisien as an omega is the unfortunate one here, not Caleb.

Whewz sorry for the rant.

Hi anon!

I feel like you might be new to omegaverse. Generally speaking, and very broadly across every omegaverse story, the alpha/beta/omega designations are considered gender designations. They're often called 'secondary genders.' And by and large, for over 20 years, they are considered either tropey or subversive explorations of gender, what makes gender and transness. (Sometimes it's just an excuse for knotting though, let's be real).

It's possible you've only read Underline the Red and not Underline the Black because omegaverse is also defined as a gender in Underline the Black here:

"It's the appendix [rutting] of the secondary genders."

In that sense, Faber's (I think you mean Faber, and not Caleb) omega envy is a gender comparison, or a trans metaphor, and not a race metaphor (especially since races do exist in the Hillview universe, and omega/beta/alpha designations aren't considered ethnicities, because people of all races can be these secondary gender designations and experience what Faber's experiencing too.)

The comparison that's more apt therefore is when someone who is AMAB knows/feels that they are a woman. Women are generally oppressed and live in misogynistic societies, and trans women do sometimes get challenged along the axis of 'why would you want to be a woman' (they don't have a choice, is the thing, they're trans) or 'how can you be a woman when you can never understand our oppression' (a giant TERF red flag, and absolutely concern trolling, because trans women are some of the most oppressed people in the world).

Like if Caleb [Faber]* was actually an omega, I highly doubt he'd have the same amount of bodily autonomy or a respectable job he enjoys.

He wouldn't. He knows that. He's definitely aware that he has omega envy, and he's ashamed of it actually for the reasons you're pointing out (though along a gender axis, and not a race one). Underline the Red only has two chapters up on AO3 and it's very early days re: what we know about Faber's deeper thoughts regarding this issue. But he knows better than most how many omegas get treated because he works at Hillview.

To me Caleb [Faber] comes across as someone who is lacking the self awareness to acknowledge the privileges he has and how fortunate he is to have been born a beta in a society that treats alphas and betas better than omegas.

This just isn't how being trans works.

A trans woman can't go 'well I'm going to remind myself of all the privileges I've had being raised as a man so I'll go back to feeling grateful for being a man (even though I'm a woman and very few people respect that.)' I mean they can do this, but it's not exactly a very gender affirming thing to do, y'know?

It's like when people say that nonbinary folks who are "assigned gender passing" (i.e. they appear to be the gender that they were assigned at birth) have 'privilege' over nonbinary people that aren't. That's somewhat true in specific situations, but what it actually means is the 24/7 experience of having your gender constantly disrespected, and living in a world where affirmation almost never exists except among a very closed knit group of people. So yes, there's some privilege in some settings, but in the day-to-day, there's also a great amount of ongoing oppression that continues.

Also, as a trans person, I know I'm writing a trans metaphor, because I'm using a trope system (omegaverse) that is famously used to explore gender, and because I literally called it a gender system in my story, which is how you know it's about gender, and not race.

Within the Hillview and omegaverse universes, people of colour can experience this, it's not exclusive to white people. It doesn't belong to white people. It's about gender, which happens to everyone.

Idk if I'm making any sense with this but even the way he treats Efnisien. It's like Caleb [Faber] is completely unaware that Efnisien as an omega is the unfortunate one here, not Caleb [Faber].

I don't think... you've read this story all the way through? Or have only read the first few chapters before stopping. So I'll be clear even though it might be a spoiler for you, anon, Efnisien isn't an omega. He's an alpha. Efnisien is unfortunate because he's suffered a lifetime of abuse and medical experimentation, and for many other reasons, not least that he still experiences some omega oppression (along with transphobia), but Efnisien's not an omega.

*Edit to quotes added for clarity.

[hibiscxs]

Lbh Henry Cavill will be fine career-wise. He’s a big name and very popular across a lot of demographics

As someone who just spent the last month bingeing almost everything he’s ever been in, I’ll say this: most of his projects haven’t been great. I personally think he can be a great actor when the writing is there and its something he can really enjoy (ie. geralt and sherlock).

Idk who he is as a person. He seems really nice and down-to-earth in interviews and the like. His costars seem to have nothing but good to say about him. But I remember the MeToo stuff from way before i ever started following him, which i also remember his apologizing about in a way that seemed genuine to me when i read up about it also before i was a fan. And you never know about celebrities. They could just have really good PR.

Re: the witcher and some stuff from a podcast (???) thats going around. I dont buy it. Not because im convinced hes some angel, but you would think we would have heard about this by now. You’d think we’d see some tension between him and the other actors, but we don’t. All we see is tension between him and his boss, which is understandable considering he quit. Also re:quitting. It seems pretty obvious he quit bc he didnt like the direction the show was heading in. And that’s fair. But it’s also fair to assume that being “back” as Superman made him more comfortable with leaving the witcher in terms of consistent employment. Seeing now that there was no formal agreement in place, I can’t help but see it as unwise on his part, which I’ve realized kind of lines up when you look at his projects as a whole. He seems to put too much faith in others having the same mindset as him, which I don’t say as a compliment.

But man, what the hell was WB thinking. The DCEU hasnt exactly been doing well lately. Most of the attraction wasnt the movies themselves, but the stars like Cavill, Gadot, Momoa, Robbie, even Affleck. Trying for another “hard reboot” just seems like such a bad choice when what the DCEU has been lacking is any type of consistency that fans can rely on.

And no matter who the actor, or how good of a person they are or how popular or how employed, it’s unbelievably shitty to encourage one of them to reprise a role thats been in limbo for years and to have him announce it to his fans to promote their franchise and then drop him not even 2 months later.

The hardest hit, of course, is not really to henry cavill (who, again, will be fine and very employable), but to fans. As an actor, he is so refreshing because he was clearly so passionate about his roles as geralt and superman. He knew his stuff, he wanted to do those roles justice, and that’s why it was so easy for fans to love geralt or clark. To know that someone involved will put the effort into making sure “yes, this is the story i know and love, being brought to life in a new medium”, but to see the show drop in quality in season 2 and then that actor leaves, but then hes back in another big role that you know he is equally invested in, only for this? God, the disrespect to these people who invest time and energy and money in hopes that they get a good piece of media for them to enjoy.

[glitchdollmemoria]

yknow on the topic of that it/its post, its really fucking frustrating that i cant usually feel comfortable calling my partner it/its in public when that is a pronoun set it uses. bc i dont want people flipping their shit being like "umm why are you calling your PARTNER an IT dont you LOVE uhh them her him um what other ones have you used again im confused haha help please" YOU IDIOT IM CALLING IT "IT" BECAUSE I LOVE IT!!!!! if you disrespect my wife i will HARM YOU IN SOME WAY

and fucking like. idk. i also use it/its among other pronouns, and i dont even tell people irl most of the time bc i know people tend to react poorly. and im just fucking tired of people using their discomfort to justify ignoring or even insulting aspects of another persons identity. and on the one hand i sorta get if someone has been traumatized by seeing trans people dehumanized by being called "it" or having experienced that dehumanization firsthand. i have literally been called an "it" before i started using these pronouns bc of my androgyny, i fucking used to live in the conservative usamerican south i KNOW this is a way that people dehumanize us.

but theyre still my pronouns. theyre still my partners pronouns. if we are actively saying, "these make us comfortable, these make us happy" then that is NOT the same as some bigot who doesnt see us as people.

and im gonna try to word this next part carefully, bc i dont want to give the impression that i dont care about the trauma that comes with transphobes using it/its to dehumanize us. but at the same time... he/him, she/her, and they/them are all ALSO used to deny us our human autonomy. they are all used to insult and debase us depending on the circumstances. those people who make a point to call trans people by the wrong pronouns? the ones who specifically paint transmascs as Stupid Confused Foolish Women because our ~womanly brains~ are just too small to understand that we arent men, the people who make this point with a firm "she"? the ones who do the same to transfems, painting them as dangerous and aggressive, and misgendering them specifically to make that point? even to some degree the people who dont want to correctly gender any of us because we dont fit their standards for a Real Man or a Real Woman, but they still want to come off as liberal and supportive and progressive and a Good Ally, so they just call us all "they" instead of actually respecting who we are, and insist on still doing this even when explicitly told not to?

all of them weaponize one pronoun or another to cause us harm. all of them use "acceptable" (or at least SOMEWHAT "acceptable" in the case of they/them) pronouns to harm us, to deny us the autonomy to make our own choices about our bodies and lives and existences. it/its is NOT the only one.

i have been hurt by people insistently calling me "she", by people calling others in my community "she", it has been weaponized against me to the extent that im only just beginning to unpack and accept my femininity as a nonbinary person after a decade of knowing i wasnt cis. the weaponization of she/her pronouns has caused lasting psychological effects that have, perhaps permanently, altered the way i view myself and how i interact with the people around me. and NONE OF THAT DAMAGE justifies me telling anyone that im not comfortable using she/her for them, no matter the circumstances, because i dont get to decide what pronouns someone else uses!

again: i know theres still a difference between those examples and it/its. but its not as MUCH of a difference as people act like it is, and its frustrating to have to keep a part of my and my partners identities hidden away just because other people dont find those parts acceptable. its fucking tiring. i want to live as myself - as a person who has reclaimed feelings of inhumanity - and i want my partner to live as itself too. im. tired.

[death-munchkin]

CW: // Abuse Toxic shit from my mom's abuse toolbag

Sometimes I just feel like listing the shit my mom does to remind myself it's toxic, to help someone else who's currently in a toxic relationship and wants to know some red flags, or just for people to laugh at the ridiculousness of this woman. CW for discussing mental/emotional abuse. Mentions of homo/bi/transphobia.

"You should dump your [Partner] because you're bi and thus can't be loyal." Opening strong with homo/biphobia right off the bat. Good one mum, I definitely haven't heard that a million times before, it will definitely get me to side with you over them this time, just keep trying it'll work eventually /s.

"No that didn't happen, don't you ever say that happened. You can say anything about me but don't ever say I did that!" Yes you did, no you telling me to pretend it didn't happen won't make it so it didn't happen. No you not remembering doing it doesn't mean it didn't happen. Grow up.

"I will always love you no matter what and always support you." (after berating me for over an hour) If this is what your love is, thanks but no thanks, I'll take the pass.

"Your [Partner] is making you disagree with me, aren't [they]? [They're] putting you up to this!" No mum, they don't 'put me up to' anything, I came to the conclusion that you're wrong and need to gtfo my life all by myself, thanks. I'm a grown ass man I can make my own decisions. They're just supporting me during the fallout. Nice try to make me think they're the problem and not you though.

"What changed all of a sudden? You were always so happy and we never fought! And then your [partner] showed up and now we fight all the time!" First of all, no, we fought loooong before I even met my partner. Two, I've been depressed and I've hated you for over a decade, again, long before even meeting my partner. Three, we fight more often because you won't shut up about trying to get me to leave my partner and it's pissing me off.

"Well, if I'm not allowed to call you until I respect your boundaries, then I won't call you until you allow me to disrespect your boundaries!" Ohh noooo. What ever will I do if you don't call me just to disrespect my boundaries, the horror, how will I live /s.

"You should move in with me, I can help fix your life for you." My life is fine without you, thanks.

[After all of the above, breaking me down to tears, literally begging for her to stop and just leave me alone] "Okay. Alright... So what are you doing for Christmas this year?" Lol, nope, fuck off you're not welcome here.

And, to top it all off, because this is the funniest thing to me: "Where did I go wrong? When did your life go so off track? I don't understand???" idk mum, maybe living with someone like you for 18 years kinda screwed my brain a wee bit.

[trans-rights-coastalmangoes]

I actually think it’s a really bad idea to start treating the kids like they’re younger than they are, like if they’re 16 and you’re calling them 12/14 it’ll get them off your back, but doesn’t do much to protect the kid in other situations when they’re flirting with other older ppl. Sending them off by calling them younger than they are will just cause them to seek validation elsewhere

A tactic that a lot of predators use is telling teenagers that they’re “so mature for their age,” which can be super flattering when people are constantly patronizing to them based on their age.

I’m eternally grateful for the older men who turned me down firmly & politely. I didn’t feel disrespected, my ego may have been a bit bruised, but most importantly it set the precedent for how I should be treated, like a person, a teenager, but too young to really understand what was wrong with flirting with older men. Things you can consider saying that might help convince a kid to avoid potentially dangerous situations:

”Idk, would you feel comfortable dating someone x years younger than you?” (answer being obviously no)

“Yeah, I used to get crushes on older people too when I was your age but I didn’t realize how much different being (current age) is”

“Anyone who wants to date a minor is doing so because women their age can see what’s wrong with them”

“No, I’ve got a niece/cousin/kid/younger sibling who’s your age”

“Age isn’t just a number and people who say otherwise are lying”

“Don’t waste your time with older guys, when you’re my age it’s loser behavior to date someone much younger”

Ik this is gendered because young woman/older man is the dynamic I have the most personal experience with, if anyone’s got some for other gender dynamics I’d love to hear them. Treat kids as they are, whole human beings with needs who sometimes need to be told what’s up