#idk man someone help me understand how this is not disrespectful

[diazsdimples]

Tell me why this motherfucker is talking to someone 8 years younger than him (he's 26) in the bed we shared for 6 years, giggling like a schoolboy, just over a week after we decided to get a divorce? And he says he's not being disrespectful? Get absolutely fucked mate

[tiredfox64]

Hey! Can I request Bi-han and Tomas (separately) with a fem! reader who is a little taller than them? Preferably an established relationship.

They can be HCS, drabbles, whatever you feel most comfortable with if you want to do it.

Thank you in advance and I really enjoy your blog, it is very entertaining 🧚‍♀️ 🫶

Well, Ain’t You a Tall One

Prior notes: I did my best but mind you I’m someone who lies about being 5’4 because I’m not allowed to have that quarter of an inch added on to actually make me 5’4.

Pairings: Bi-Han x Tall! Afab reader, Tomas x Tall! Afab reader

Bi-Han (he might be 6’2 idk)

If you’re gonna talk to Bi-Han do it at a distance so he doesn’t have to look up at you.

*Ah geez something is out of reach for him. Oh what’s he gonna do-HEY! HEY! FUCK IS YOU DOIN TRYIN TO REACH FOR THAT OBJECT HE NEEDS.

Baby, you asked for it. You left yourself open he punched you I don’t make the rules. It was gentle at least.

Be a good girlfriend and pick him up so he can grab it himself. Don’t make him look like a fool in front of his clan. (He’ll allow it just look at the evidence I provided below)

If anyone disrespects your height Bi-Han will punish them. They wanna make fun of how tall you are well he will just stick their head to a large icicle. How bout that, how bout them apples.

You know what makes him feel like a man? Picking you up. Just because you’re a little taller doesn’t make a difference. He’s the man in this relationship.

He knows that people are staring at you because you are taller at him but he still gets upset that people are looking. You are his everyone should understand that.

Please, please, PLEASE, if someone ask you “how’s the weather up there” please say “it’s raining” and spit on them. Bi-Han will find it entertaining and even praise you for it.

No heels! Even on your wedding day. Any shoes that give more height are not allowed on your feet.

If one of his Lin Kuei assassins aren’t listening well he tells you to go up behind them and smack their heads as punishment. You won’t get punished and the assassin can’t smack you back. It’s funny don’t worry.

Bi-Han won’t tell you this but he is impressed by your height. Every woman he has encountered was shorter than him. You are a rare gem.

Tomas (I think he is 6’4 right?)

If he could he would wear a ‘I ❤️ my tall girlfriend’ shirt.

He is absolutely amazed by you. He has never seen a woman this tall before.

It’s a flex really, you are one of a kind.

May someone help the son of a bitch who insults your height cause Tomas will kick the fuck out of their back and bedrid them for five days

When he first met you he commented on how tall you were and you called him a baked bean for that. You thought he was being mean.

He really likes to show you off. Any chance he gets where he can take you out he will do so.

Do you mind being the big spoon? Just for him pleeeeeeeeease.

You have the perfect opportunity to give him forehead kisses. Do it, it will make Tomas happy :)

You wanna wear heels? Go for it! He wants you to feel confident and powerful in them.

Oh now he’s the one taking your hoodie and keeping it for himself. No givesies backsies.

Did he ever tell you how much he loves you? Bring your face a little closer so he can give you a kiss.

After notes: I’m sorry if this isn’t my best work. I knew a guy back in high school who was 6’7. That man is in the Air Force now serving this country RAAAAH 🦅🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🎆🎆🎆🎆🎆…I have to sneeze now. Adiós!

[heavenlymorals]

Do you have any tips for how to write Arthur Morgan’s personality in general? I’m trying to write a fic but I feel like no matter what I do it somehow just makes him feel out of character haha. It’s probably since I’m writing one with a reader/oc character x Arthur. Like I don’t want to remove Mary from the story because she shaped so much of his character’s pain (since in my opinion I assume that Arthur probably got Eliza with child from a one night stand trying to bounce back after Mary had told him that she was engaged to some other man). But I also don’t know how to really write Arthur as he’s completely over Mary and how he is instead with someone he considers the love of his life, cheesy I know but I had too haha. I’m also trying to somewhat do a slow burn and trying to instead have Arthur seemingly brood over his love for the reader rather than how he did with Mary in the game.

I don’t know if this makes sense and feel free to ignore it LOL

Ahah here goes nothing- my consensus on a general understanding of Arthur Morgan-

I think the biggest thing that people should focus on when writing Arthur is his personality differences between men and women. There is a pretty clear divide between how behaves with men compared to how he behaves with women. It can change slightly between how close he is with the people, but it's pretty much the same.

With women, Arthur is very respectful and chivalrous. He even gets mad at other men if they don't behave accordingly. He is more interested in them as well in the sense that he'll listen to their dreams and hobbies and either add to the conversation or encourage them in some way that seems more meaningful, even if it can be at times superficial, just a way to be polite. However, he is no push over. You know that meme that's like "Me and my girl don't argue, she tells me to shut the fuck up and I do"? Yeah, that is NOT Arthur. He can raise his voice, call them out, etc etc. when he feels disrespected in some way or if the person is doing something stupid. We see this with Mary, Sadie, and Abigail. He is also more likely to talk about his emotions with women, but not really BE emotional. Idk if that makes sense, but I don't know how else to say it.

However, Arthur is more inclined to be disrespectful to women who don't fit into his view of life and the status quo of the time (ie. Prostitutes, masculine women, etc.)

Honestly, just think of that when writing him with your oc (I'm going to assume they're a woman 😭). Is Mary a big part of Arthur's character? Yes and no. He can obviously make time for her, but she isn't controlling his every action and thought process. His main focus is the collective of the gang and once the gang is safe, that's when he'll actively start looking for love because that's when he'll have the time and energy for it.

Now with men, Arthur is much more rough. He is very much a suck it up kinda guy with other dudes. There is clearly a hierarchy in the game and he enforces it, especially with the men underneath him. He forces them to work, doesn't take their excuses really, will call them out, will be mean, and will even make threats (ie. Sean). He likes men who are hard workers and are always on the go (Lenny) and is more likely to be jovial, open, and willing to talk. He also will take NO shit from other men and that will either leave the other man read to filth or a black eye. Arthur also does not disclose feelings of fear or inadequacy to other men, but he will show more active emotions like joy or anger.

Honestly, whenever I feel like writing Arthur, I just think of the average older American outdoorsman and it helps me out pretty well. Chivalrous and respectful with expectations and a no bullshit attitude.

Hope this helps and happy writing 🫶🏼

[drsbutmakeitspicy]

More about this post of Lando sending Carlos pictures of Osco (Also Im relearning how to use tumblr so I hope this looks okay, also not betaread)

Lando: [Link]

Carlos: ?

Lando: Some nice pictures from today at the MTC 😉.

Carlos: hm.

Carlos: Why no one fixed his hair? Charlotte never allowed us to show up like that at.🤦‍♂️

Lando: Dunno man, maybe he is afraid of hair brushes.🥴

Carlos: He's an adult.

Lando: Lewis is afraid of onions.🤷

Carlos: I don't believe that. Anyway, tell your teammate to stop being lazy.👍

Lando: 🥱

Carlos: it's absolutely unacceptable to show up at work like that.

Lando: Okay 😶

Carlos: He knew it was one of those type of events right? McLaren would tell us a day or week before. How can he be that disrespectful with his team?

Lando: It's just a bed hair, mate. 🤔

Carlos: Lando you don't understand!! He doesn't care about the teams reputation? Does he need someone to teach him something so basic¿

Lando: are you okay? 🤨

*Carlos is typing*

Lando: You're taking too long, I get it mate. You want to run your fingers through his hair.🥱

Carlos: NO !!!😡

Carlos: I want to just fix it.

Lando: Same thing, mate.

Carlos: NO IT ISNT

Lando: Hm. I think he would be fine with it, as long as you're doing that while kissing him. 😌

Carlos:...

Lando: 🙂

Carlos: would he?

Lando: Idk mate, I never asked, maybe I should. I'll screenshot this and send it to him. 😘

Carlos: Lando I'm gonna block you.

*Lando took a screenshot*

Carlos: LANDO NORRIS

Carlos: DONT YOU DARE 😡

Carlos: I can see you're still Online you Muppet!!!

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Oscar: Hi, it's Oscar. 👋

Oscar: Lando sent me some screenshots.

Oscar: I'm absolutely horrible with keeping my hair, I am aware of that, I didn't hear my alarm that day and only had time to brush my teeth and put a hoodie on.

Carlos: Oh.

Carlos: I don't know what came over me, you don't need to explain yourself, I'm sorry. 🤦‍♂️

Oscar: But I do accept the offer. 👍

Carlos: What offer?

Oscar: ? Lando said you would like to teach me how to take proper care of my hair ? 😶

Carlos: Oh. hm I can help you with that.

Oscar: Ok, it's settled then, mate. You're in Monaco rn right? We can meet at <this place> later if you're free.

Carlos: The harbour?

Oscar: Yea, Mark is lending me his Yatch for the night. I think it would be nice, Lando gave me this idea some weeks ago.

Carlos: you're throwing a party?

Oscar: Nope. Just us, basically.

Carlos: So I can tell you how to take care of your hair¿?

Oscar: Oh shit, maybe I got things wrong, I thought uh, making out was also included.😬

Carlos: OH.

Carlos: It is, Yes.

Oscar: So, uh are you free? 7pm?

Carlos: 👍

------

Carlos: Thanks.

Lando: 😛

Lando: Yatch date huh? Hot.🔥🔥🔥

*Carlos Blocked You*

[natlovespink]

Unpopular options on TLOUS fanfics/ and more

1. Ellie would never let you strap her down😭 I'm sorry if you ok with that, that's fine. I'm not judging, but home girl would NEVER let you do that to her.

2. Stop making Ellie seem like a man. No, she's not gonna pick you up and throw you. I also don't think she's this big dommy, mommy. idk why, but I don't see it.

3. I don't like Ellie x Abby. I'm sorry, I dont see it happening.

4. I also don't like how some people write Abby just because she's built like a "man" doesn't mean she acts like one 😭

My opinions on a the TLOUS game in general.

1. Joel is a bad person. I love him, don't get me wrong, but Joel did some really awful and gruesome things that didn't need to be done, but I understand.

2. All of abby friends deserved it but Owen and Mel which I'll talk about later. But they all deserved it they way they talked about how they KILLED KIDS!? was crazy and Manny showed how cooky a d unfair he was and how disrespectful they were to Joel's body.

3. Mel was not in the wrong for not liking abby. She only wanted Mel to come so she can keep Joel alive so she can keep hurting him. Then abby always seem to get in the way of her and Owen's relationship. Owen isn't perfect but the fact that he told abby not to kill Ellie and he said she went overboard showed how he had a little bit of humanity and what he said about thr fireflies being terrorists.

4. Let's stop acting like Abby is perfect 😭 she's to me sadistic. It's kind of the fact that she liked killing scars and even killing CHILDREN them saying it was their fault!? But not just that it's the way she killed Joel after he helped her it's all Joel knew was that someone was gonna cut a little girls head open to TRY and fix humanity Joel didn't know that man he did what he thought was right.

5. Dina had EVERY RIGHT to leave Ellie🤷🏾‍♀️ people say she left because she thought ellie was dead.but she knows ellie, and she knows she's not gonna let anyone do anything TO HER. She just didn't want to deal with the fact of losing another loved one, and Dina was tired of fighting and having to stick by Ellie and this obsession.

6. Tommy forced Ellie.to go after abby which is why we got the ending that we got I understand how hard it must be losing pretty much all you biological family is hard but damm he saw how good ellie had it and it's got ruined.

7. Naughty dog forced us to feel bad foe Abby Ik she may not know what the fireflies where really up to but other then that she and the other wolf members had it good growing up🤷🏾‍♀️ and I don't know what abby expected not for Joel's love ones to come after her? I only started liking abby because of how she took care of Lev and me.readimg fanfics. 😩 but other then that I don't like her and never will really feel bad for her.

8. I'm sorry but if it was Abby vs Ellie again Abby would win🤷🏾‍♀️ Ellie is a 5"5 skinny girl vs a 5'10 muscles Abby would win and the only reason she didn't was because all her muscles where gone.

9. I like the ending of TLOUS 2 Ellie saw Joel In Abby and she realized she can't hold this grunge and surprisingly I feel Joel wouldn't want Ellie to track down his killer and make it her life mission and he would be PISSED at Tommy for making Ellie track down Abby.

10. I feel like is Abby knew what the fireflies where doing she wouldn't stand for it. Not even if her dad said it was for humanity I feel like she would belive what he was doing was wrong.

11. Ellies NEVER gonna get over Riley that was her first love, and I feel like she loved Dina but never the way she loved Riley, and that goes for her relationship with Cat too.

Hiii sorry for my English again 😅 now these are MY OPINIONS

[dreamer0903]

How much I relate to each Marauders era character:

Sirius = 4, bad childhood, and I tried to escape from my home when I was 8, and then when I was 11 (??) but that's it

James = 7, honestly, I always thought that I was the complete opposite of him, BUT recently I realised I'm basically a people pleaser who doesn't want others to really worry about me 😆 so yeah, that was FUN

Peter = 7, okay, I'm not gonna go around backstabbing my friends 😉 but this guy likes food and sleep. He is a little shy compared to the rest of his friends, and I hc him as ace and Bi, so that's me folks.

Remus = 9, I am full of scars and health problems, and back pain is my BFF. I love to read, and I would actually prefer reading with a cup of tea rather than going out to clubs or parties.

Lily = 5, not much to say, I love her, but apart from -> I like to study and I am anxious if I don't, we don't have much in common

Marlene = 1, babe...idk just never related to her much, the only thing I can think of is the fact that I am vaguely disgusted by men lol

Mary = 3, just for the vibes, I feel like she would be a sarcastic girl and I am very sarcastic

Dorcas = 6, I am mean with people who disrespect me and my friends (!!) also kinda sarcastic, too, so yeah, I feel you, girl

Pandora = 7, I have strange dreams every night, and I try to interpret them as much as I can, I love to daydream and I like to help my friends, I want them to be able to talk to me about everything (I feel like this is relatable also for James)

Regulus = 10000, this man, oh boy, I am basically like him, he is me, sarcastic little shit? check, can't deal with his feelings? check, little sibling that feels like a waste and always compared to his big siblings? check, mean but actually cares but doesn't know how to express themselves? yes, likes to read, quiet, cats, and craves academic validation? Yes, that's me

Barty = 8, I would use violence to get back at someone for begin disrespectful to me/people I care about, kinda crazy, doesn't really care what other people think of me.

Evan = 7.5, for the vibes, I am the crazy friend but also the one that needs to keep the others in check before they go too far, snarky little remarks about people I don't like and I would insult you to make you understand that I care about you

NOW, those are my personal opinions on how I view the characters, obviously, so if you feel like "nah Barty is not like this," remember this is just how I view him and relate to him.

Maybe this was a little too personal but...who cares?

Love y'all babes, take care

[maelstroms-blog]

This one is weird, idk, just wanted to give some love to Lucienne, the only one patient enough to put up with Dream's emo BS.

Also, Lucienne is every tired retail worker having to deal with stupid customers, I see a lot of myself in her.

The tall, lithe figure looked down on Lucienne.

'Where is he?' He all But snarled.

It was a different messenger from the faerie kingdom, an impatient one. Lucienne stood tall, looking back into golden eyes.

'My lord had a previous engagement, he will be here momentarily,'

The faerie man scoffed,

'I come here with a message from queen Tatiana  herself, only for the dream King's ears.

Lucienne bit back a sigh, 'If it is that important, perhaps I could pass it on,'

'No! You are merely a servant.'

Lucienne blinked, fixing her gold rimmed glasses. A retort was ready on her lips, it was only her professionalism that kept her quiet.

'Yes, I understand, but my lord is a busy entity.'

The faerie man glared, and then, without warning, he raised his hand as if to strike. Lucienne stood firm, never breaking eye contact, even when she heard the familiar flap of wings, scratching the faerie man with sharp claws. He cried out, glaring at the raven like it was an irksome fly. Then, his eyes widened as a shadow fell upon his face. In fact, all the shadows in the room lengthened and twisted.

'You dare,' came a voice crafted from nightmares, all eyes turned, expecting to see the dream king, regal in his cloak of shadows.

Instead, Dream stood at the foot of his throne, dressed in mismatched pyjamas, too big for his slender frame. His bare feet padded on the floor as he closed the distance, billowing behind him was a tartan dressing robe, obviously taken from a one Hob Gadling.

The faerie man's expression shifted from fear to confusion.

'You interrupted the boss's sleepover,' cawed Matthew, still perched on Lucienne's shoulder.

His wing brushed out against her ear, the same way a human would pat someone's shoulder.

Dream glared down at the faerie man, his eyes two dark abysses,

'You force your way into my palace, demanding my presence, refusing to wait, and when my staff try to help...,' His voice deepened, turning into a growl,

'You would physically harm her.'

A chill settled over the throne, even though it wasn't directed at them. Lucienne and Matthew shivered. The faerie man looked as though he wanted to die, his knees actually shook.

'I-I meant no disrespect-'

'Didn't you?' His form lengthened even more, a stark contrast from his colourful attire,

'I understood you are new at this job, but you should know that any slight taken at one of my staff, is a slight against me.'

Without waiting for an answer, Dream raised a clawed hand and snapped his fingers. With a whoosh of air, idiot went flying back, hitting the palace doors, hard enough to crack whatever it was made of.

Lucienne couldn't keep her eyes from widening, Matthew cawed, impressed.

Dream came to stop in front of Lucienne, shifting his eyes back to his watery blue.

'Lucienne, are you alright?' The concern in his voice was apparent, so much so, that Lucienne had to fight back a sudden feeling of emotion.

'Yes, my lord,' she cleared her throat, 'I was not frightened.'

Dream smiled a small smile, 'I know you weren't.'

The faerie man groaned, slowly, he peeled himself from his imprint, and fell to the ground, heavily.

'As for you,' Dream approached him again, still cutting an imposing figure, despite the cartoon cat on his shirt,

'Tell your queen that I am willing to speak with her, once she employs a messenger not as ignorant as you.'

With another snap of his finger, the faerie was gone, as was the damage done to the wall.

Matthew let out a cawing laugh,

'Did you see his face?'

Lucienne just blinked, 'Not that I am not grateful, my lord, but will this not strain the the Dreaming's alliance with the faerie kingdom?'

Dream looked at her, eyebrow raised,

'I do not care, if that is how they treat staff,' he reached out, as if to take her hand, then just flexed his fingers awkwardly,

'Especially, one as loyal as you, then they are not worth my time.'

Lucienne couldn't keep her small smile from appearing, she focused instead on Matthew, scratching under his beak.

'It is...appreciated, my lord,'

Dream gave a small nod, his show of respect.

'Now, if you'll excuse me, I am certain my hot chocolate has gone cold,' and with that, he vanished, in a flurry of sand and billow of his robe.

Lucienne smiled down at Matthew,

'Shall we have some tea?'

Matthew flapped his wings,

'Yeah, can we have biscuits?'

[that-was-anticlimactic]

okay for the ship ask game. let's see.... how about riteru, higugin, and jetru?

hiiiiiiii beloved <333

lol answered riteru here - the tags are important i think

higugin

ship it

what made you ship it?

LOOK AT THEM!!! okay so maybe a small part of them reminded me of us but like. that's not IT. it's the silent support, the blind faith, the gin prolly giving higuchi a sexuality crisis once she finds out gin isn't a girl,,, it's the late nights in the other's place, it's protecting each other in battle, it's being friends first, it's higuchi loving gin for gin regardless of gender bc she didn't fall for them bc they were a guy or girl or whatever, she fell for their personality.

what are your favorite things about the ship?

dang man. i kind of just answered that lol

but on another note, i think it's the blind faith and trust. you could argue that goes for both gin and higuchi with any of the black lizard, but it feels... idk different with them. it's the i don't have to know everything about you to love you. higuchi thinking she liked akutagawa when really she liked gin (and, really, higuchi just wanted to be respected like him). it's gin respecting higuchi and going out of their way to show it after people disrespect her. it's bonding about being overlooked. it's--

is there an unpopular opinion you have on your ship?

ummmmm i don't think i have any? that or higuchi has ts and gin gives the BEST back massages <333

jetru

ship it

what made you ship it?

tumblr. i thought it was stupid at first tbh and was like “why what is the point of this” and then i saw exactly One jetru fan art and was like “HAHAHAH NEVERMIND THEY ARE IN LOVE” probably like a year after i watched the show??? no but also this art is what like... made me ship it (by @listless-brainrot <333)

what are your favorite things about the ship?

it’s about finding peace and someone to care for you and someone to care for. someone who understands and is willing to help you care your burden and whose burden you want to help carry too. it’s about finding someone who makes you want to be a kid rather than a solider,,, also they are SO SILLY and i love them in my s.okka hanahaki fic lol

is there an unpopular opinion you have on your ship?

ummmm this is objectively better than people making jet z.uko's abusive ex???

[vintage-bentley]

Completely floored at this post I saw today where someone said their husband said David Tennant “looks queer.” idk if they’re in a ✨ kweer ✨ relationship, or if that’s just a straight man, but it felt so out of pocket and disrespectful

David Tennant talked about how he was bullied and straight up beaten for “looking gay” as a kid; it just made me think of those kids calling him queer and literally hate crime-ing him, and it feels really, really insensitive. Doubly because, based on what we know, he’s straight; this man basically said “lol he looks like a fag” and this person took it as an “uwu us queers stay together” moment

I feel like I’d be called overly sensitive or muh terf-y dogwhistle if I said this on main, but man, it’s really bothering me. I’ve never had an issue with people self ID-ing as queer, even though I don’t use it myself, but this was sort of a, “oh *wow*, you people really aren’t ✨ queer ✨ at all and have no idea of decorum or respect” moment. I’m glad you have sense and get why this is so wildly rude and borderline (if not fully) homophobic

That’s so wild omg 😭

People have gotten really bold with the terms they use online, I feel like I’ve been seeing things like “queer”, “fruity”, “limp wrist(ed)”, and even the f slur being slung around so often. It’s like people have forgotten what these terms and slurs actually mean, and have reduced them down to some sort of aesthetic. Which unfortunately makes sense, considering how obsessed with aesthetics the internet is. It’s like, you’re either a “clean girl”, a “mob wife”, or a “fruity little queer”. And it’s all just clothes and shaping yourself into something you’re not just to fit a trend.

So at this point, I really don’t think that when they say “wow he looks so ✨queer✨”, they’re even thinking about same sex attraction. They’re just thinking about quirkiness and colourful clothes. And that’s where the problem is; forgetting that this word you’re throwing around is actually a slur used against a minority group, aka same sex attracted people. And that there’s actual pain attached to those words. In the case of a (as far as we know) straight man mistaken as “queer”, it’s just regular pain from being bullied. But from what I gathered from a DT interview where he talked about this, he seemed to understand how much deeper it would hit for a kid who actually was SSA. So yeah, definitely an odd case to be applying the “wow so queer so quirky!” Thing to.

Anyway, the trendification of “queer” is exactly why I tend to not trust people who self-ID as “queer”, too. Because I know there’s a good chance they aren’t actually SSA, they just go by they/them pronouns and wear gnc clothes sometimes. Or they think dressing up in the “queer” clothing trend makes them the same as an LGB person. And they have no respect for or understanding of the history of that word. They just see it as a silly word that makes them cool.

I’m sure there’s LGB people who do call themselves queer, and that’s fine. They have the right to reclaim a slur personally (as long as they don’t go using it for others). But at this point I can’t help but feel like, why the hell would you want to associate yourself with people making an aesthetic out of your innate sexuality and a slur used against it?

[jvrssy]

hello all of tumblr users,today i want to share my opinion about men in these times,so..lets start. at first i want to say that im not saying it about ALL men,but about those who are like this. as you know,in our times men doesnt have respect for women (talking especially about 12 yo boys who had just watched american psycho and they think they are sigma's). but my question is - why men are so disrespectful to women? many women were mathematics,writers and inventors etc. and i've heard about female inventor who found out something about DNA (idk what was that about DNA especially). but then i heard that men stole her discovery and took credit for it, even though they didn't invent it themselves. it shows how men were jealous of her,or just wanted to be seen,but at her expense. men literally disrespected women for centuries,thinking females are worser,not strong enough,that they cant rule country and many things! im just so pissed off by that,cause human is human,and one person cam be good at something,while someone doesnt have to be either. men saying that women belong to kitchen are showing that they are dependent and immature honestly. its like you dont have 2 legs and 2 hands to cook for yourself,but woman does? i have one boy at school,who is/were saying that women do belong to kitchen,and when a girl would argue with them,they would say like "youre woman,you have no rights" bro WTF is wrong with you? or when in history class was topic about feminism,most of boys started laugh. women fights for their rights for ages,maybe even decades. i bet that if men would have to fight for their rights,it would be easier for them. oh sorry,i forgot that they would never experience,how it feels like,how it feels like to be Arabic woman,and have to cover your whole self under hijab and many clothes,and you can only see. imagine its summer and you have to dress like that. thats humiliating in some senses and very uncomfortable i think. the same is about empathy, maybe women are more "emotional" than most men,but they at least have a heart,to help someone,to put yourself in someone elses situation (not all women idk,it depends on personality). and not to be seen as man hater - most fathers are telling to their sons after they example: fall on the ground and little son start crying cause it hurts him,father would say like "real men doesnt cry" i hate it. everyone can show their emotions,not matter if its a boy,a girl,adult,or old person. everyone should show it,cause in 20 years after hearing things like "dont cry,are you a p***y?" they became hard to show emotions to someone,even to be ashamed of them. and about feminism also: men like to manipulate women,and have fun with them,but tell me why? i know that manipulators cant love theirselfs,and nobody else,but its just..really sick and hurting..same thing about sexualising women from men who are 40+ (but it can be every age) i have seen many catcalling situations on tik tok and im honestly disgusted,cause how dare you say it to a teenager or just to any woman?! do you think that "compliment" like "nice ti*s" or "nice ass" is something cool that someone can hear? i had situations like this in my life too,guy smirking at me,and i was already disgusted by him. thats why sometimes i dont understand the second gender. ofcourse anything can work on two sides,woman can got sexualized like men too,so read whole post before judging and typing mean stuff.

[not-poignant]

I find Caleb's 'omega envy' really interesting. Is he aware that he has it? And does he know that he's envying a designation that is oppressed? I can't help but feel like it's similar to privileged white people who are jealous of minorities because they've never actually experience what being a member of that minority group actually entails.

Like if Caleb was actually an omega, I highly doubt he'd have the same amount of bodily autonomy or a respectable job he enjoys. To me Caleb comes across as someone who is lacking the self awareness to acknowledge the privileges he has and how fortunate he is to have been born a beta in a society that treats alphas and betas better than omegas.

Idk if I'm making any sense with this but even the way he treats Efnisien. It's like Caleb is completely unaware that Efnisien as an omega is the unfortunate one here, not Caleb.

Whewz sorry for the rant.

Hi anon!

I feel like you might be new to omegaverse. Generally speaking, and very broadly across every omegaverse story, the alpha/beta/omega designations are considered gender designations. They're often called 'secondary genders.' And by and large, for over 20 years, they are considered either tropey or subversive explorations of gender, what makes gender and transness. (Sometimes it's just an excuse for knotting though, let's be real).

It's possible you've only read Underline the Red and not Underline the Black because omegaverse is also defined as a gender in Underline the Black here:

"It's the appendix [rutting] of the secondary genders."

In that sense, Faber's (I think you mean Faber, and not Caleb) omega envy is a gender comparison, or a trans metaphor, and not a race metaphor (especially since races do exist in the Hillview universe, and omega/beta/alpha designations aren't considered ethnicities, because people of all races can be these secondary gender designations and experience what Faber's experiencing too.)

The comparison that's more apt therefore is when someone who is AMAB knows/feels that they are a woman. Women are generally oppressed and live in misogynistic societies, and trans women do sometimes get challenged along the axis of 'why would you want to be a woman' (they don't have a choice, is the thing, they're trans) or 'how can you be a woman when you can never understand our oppression' (a giant TERF red flag, and absolutely concern trolling, because trans women are some of the most oppressed people in the world).

Like if Caleb [Faber]* was actually an omega, I highly doubt he'd have the same amount of bodily autonomy or a respectable job he enjoys.

He wouldn't. He knows that. He's definitely aware that he has omega envy, and he's ashamed of it actually for the reasons you're pointing out (though along a gender axis, and not a race one). Underline the Red only has two chapters up on AO3 and it's very early days re: what we know about Faber's deeper thoughts regarding this issue. But he knows better than most how many omegas get treated because he works at Hillview.

To me Caleb [Faber] comes across as someone who is lacking the self awareness to acknowledge the privileges he has and how fortunate he is to have been born a beta in a society that treats alphas and betas better than omegas.

This just isn't how being trans works.

A trans woman can't go 'well I'm going to remind myself of all the privileges I've had being raised as a man so I'll go back to feeling grateful for being a man (even though I'm a woman and very few people respect that.)' I mean they can do this, but it's not exactly a very gender affirming thing to do, y'know?

It's like when people say that nonbinary folks who are "assigned gender passing" (i.e. they appear to be the gender that they were assigned at birth) have 'privilege' over nonbinary people that aren't. That's somewhat true in specific situations, but what it actually means is the 24/7 experience of having your gender constantly disrespected, and living in a world where affirmation almost never exists except among a very closed knit group of people. So yes, there's some privilege in some settings, but in the day-to-day, there's also a great amount of ongoing oppression that continues.

Also, as a trans person, I know I'm writing a trans metaphor, because I'm using a trope system (omegaverse) that is famously used to explore gender, and because I literally called it a gender system in my story, which is how you know it's about gender, and not race.

Within the Hillview and omegaverse universes, people of colour can experience this, it's not exclusive to white people. It doesn't belong to white people. It's about gender, which happens to everyone.

Idk if I'm making any sense with this but even the way he treats Efnisien. It's like Caleb [Faber] is completely unaware that Efnisien as an omega is the unfortunate one here, not Caleb [Faber].

I don't think... you've read this story all the way through? Or have only read the first few chapters before stopping. So I'll be clear even though it might be a spoiler for you, anon, Efnisien isn't an omega. He's an alpha. Efnisien is unfortunate because he's suffered a lifetime of abuse and medical experimentation, and for many other reasons, not least that he still experiences some omega oppression (along with transphobia), but Efnisien's not an omega.

*Edit to quotes added for clarity.

[glitchdollmemoria]

yknow on the topic of that it/its post, its really fucking frustrating that i cant usually feel comfortable calling my partner it/its in public when that is a pronoun set it uses. bc i dont want people flipping their shit being like "umm why are you calling your PARTNER an IT dont you LOVE uhh them her him um what other ones have you used again im confused haha help please" YOU IDIOT IM CALLING IT "IT" BECAUSE I LOVE IT!!!!! if you disrespect my wife i will HARM YOU IN SOME WAY

and fucking like. idk. i also use it/its among other pronouns, and i dont even tell people irl most of the time bc i know people tend to react poorly. and im just fucking tired of people using their discomfort to justify ignoring or even insulting aspects of another persons identity. and on the one hand i sorta get if someone has been traumatized by seeing trans people dehumanized by being called "it" or having experienced that dehumanization firsthand. i have literally been called an "it" before i started using these pronouns bc of my androgyny, i fucking used to live in the conservative usamerican south i KNOW this is a way that people dehumanize us.

but theyre still my pronouns. theyre still my partners pronouns. if we are actively saying, "these make us comfortable, these make us happy" then that is NOT the same as some bigot who doesnt see us as people.

and im gonna try to word this next part carefully, bc i dont want to give the impression that i dont care about the trauma that comes with transphobes using it/its to dehumanize us. but at the same time... he/him, she/her, and they/them are all ALSO used to deny us our human autonomy. they are all used to insult and debase us depending on the circumstances. those people who make a point to call trans people by the wrong pronouns? the ones who specifically paint transmascs as Stupid Confused Foolish Women because our ~womanly brains~ are just too small to understand that we arent men, the people who make this point with a firm "she"? the ones who do the same to transfems, painting them as dangerous and aggressive, and misgendering them specifically to make that point? even to some degree the people who dont want to correctly gender any of us because we dont fit their standards for a Real Man or a Real Woman, but they still want to come off as liberal and supportive and progressive and a Good Ally, so they just call us all "they" instead of actually respecting who we are, and insist on still doing this even when explicitly told not to?

all of them weaponize one pronoun or another to cause us harm. all of them use "acceptable" (or at least SOMEWHAT "acceptable" in the case of they/them) pronouns to harm us, to deny us the autonomy to make our own choices about our bodies and lives and existences. it/its is NOT the only one.

i have been hurt by people insistently calling me "she", by people calling others in my community "she", it has been weaponized against me to the extent that im only just beginning to unpack and accept my femininity as a nonbinary person after a decade of knowing i wasnt cis. the weaponization of she/her pronouns has caused lasting psychological effects that have, perhaps permanently, altered the way i view myself and how i interact with the people around me. and NONE OF THAT DAMAGE justifies me telling anyone that im not comfortable using she/her for them, no matter the circumstances, because i dont get to decide what pronouns someone else uses!

again: i know theres still a difference between those examples and it/its. but its not as MUCH of a difference as people act like it is, and its frustrating to have to keep a part of my and my partners identities hidden away just because other people dont find those parts acceptable. its fucking tiring. i want to live as myself - as a person who has reclaimed feelings of inhumanity - and i want my partner to live as itself too. im. tired.

[trans-rights-coastalmangoes]

I actually think it’s a really bad idea to start treating the kids like they’re younger than they are, like if they’re 16 and you’re calling them 12/14 it’ll get them off your back, but doesn’t do much to protect the kid in other situations when they’re flirting with other older ppl. Sending them off by calling them younger than they are will just cause them to seek validation elsewhere

A tactic that a lot of predators use is telling teenagers that they’re “so mature for their age,” which can be super flattering when people are constantly patronizing to them based on their age.

I’m eternally grateful for the older men who turned me down firmly & politely. I didn’t feel disrespected, my ego may have been a bit bruised, but most importantly it set the precedent for how I should be treated, like a person, a teenager, but too young to really understand what was wrong with flirting with older men. Things you can consider saying that might help convince a kid to avoid potentially dangerous situations:

”Idk, would you feel comfortable dating someone x years younger than you?” (answer being obviously no)

“Yeah, I used to get crushes on older people too when I was your age but I didn’t realize how much different being (current age) is”

“Anyone who wants to date a minor is doing so because women their age can see what’s wrong with them”

“No, I’ve got a niece/cousin/kid/younger sibling who’s your age”

“Age isn’t just a number and people who say otherwise are lying”

“Don’t waste your time with older guys, when you’re my age it’s loser behavior to date someone much younger”

Ik this is gendered because young woman/older man is the dynamic I have the most personal experience with, if anyone’s got some for other gender dynamics I’d love to hear them. Treat kids as they are, whole human beings with needs who sometimes need to be told what’s up

[nathank77]

5/18/24

5:36 p.m

This isn't mark didn't respect that I didn't work cause i am able bodied... like it's shitty but like it's not the same thing..

He didn't respect everything that I was. The core of my humanity. Everything i worked for.

Me being Nathan is everything to me. I'd be dead right now if I hadn't transitioned.

I think about my aunt Debbie and it's like she doesn't respect me as Nathan either but I'd go cause at least she calls me Nathan.... I'd go for my mother despite the massive amount of shit she talks about me and how she prob deadnames me all the time. It's an assumption I'm prob right about but I don't know for sure. I'm prob 99.99% right but nonetheless...she still calls me Nathan

I wouldn't go to my uncle Kenny's funeral why??? Cause I still remember him yelling my deadname at me and you have a cunt.

He is a gay man and he couldn't get on board with my transition.. he yelled you have a cunt and my deadname so many times at me I wouldn't go... cause yea. It's the core of who I am

I thought long and hard about mark and I wouldn't regret it. Psychosis or not. Now I have to consider how angry my father will be at me and the stone wall it'll put in between us despite my very good reasons for not going....

I'm beyond stressed. My tactile hallucinations with my mental pictures are killing me. My potential auditory hallucination with my mental pictures are killing me cause I'm scared. Idk if it's real xanax but I think it is.

Am I getting worse? I've been seeing a lot of the creature but super segmented... never clear... the deadname Nathan thing has gotten a bit better...

But idk.. once I truly relaxed last night- the auditory hallucination calmed down a bit... i wouldn't say it's getting worse.. but it feels like it is sometimes.

Beyond that seeing my mother today is a lot.. I'm not okay and I have no one to talk to and I really don't need this stress about Mark.

I'm SICK I don't need to see people crying and see a dead body. Unless it's someone I truly loved who loved me.

This isn't fair cause like he didn't see me as Nathan. He saw me as a freak. And I saw him as a pos.

And I don't want to go out of respect for anyone. Other than my dad but psychosis plays a role.

And I mean if you were trans dad and someone didn't respect you said the things he said to me to you and to your sister and mother you wouldn't feel any different than me bc you'd understand this isn't minor disrespect....

He completely rejected my entire identity. And I don't have one molecule of respect for mark. I used to like Melissa but once I saw the fb post she was put on my shit list.

I'm getting anxiety about sleeping again and with my new bottle of Xanax with a pick up date of the 21st coming up and my Dr not wanting to see me monthly anymore I'm worried I'm going to be getting a Placebo.. maybe the insurance is like it isn't malpractice and you don't have to see him every month now idk. But I'm terrified. I need xanax to hit sleep stage one or I have to start smoking weed again and that didn't seem to help.

Idk if I'm even going to try to smoke weed again... I mean last night I considered it. Cause I was like if I don't fall asleep now all I have is 4 options. 75mg of Hydroxyzine... in total..... 3x my daily dose.... another 25mg of Benadryl or another half mg of xanax. Or weed.

[girltomboy]

My mom texted me about having a bad day, and I know it's one of her spiraling periods, where she thinks back on all the negativity she's ever experienced and dwells on it. She says she's never been genuinely loved and wanted, and everyone in her life has had hidden intentions and lied and betrayed her. Well, I've been a witness to some of that and I think she has a right to feel that way, but I also feel like sometimes she tries to transfer her anxiety surrounding other people to me in order to prevent me from experiencing the same betrayal she has. Which, ultimately, I would say comes from good intentions, but isn't very helpful because all she does is give me anxiety and paranoia, and stress me out for both of us. Historically, she's had this tendency to guard herself and keep her distance from people (that includes friends) and I understand that, I used to do it too, but I don't want to live like that anymore. I don't have that fear of people anymore and I want to keep my heart open.

She also told me she's been noticing my stepdad and a woman who works at the store next to their house have been looking at each other for a while. She said one time he said her name in bed, which... I don't know how necessary it was for me to know. Maybe I have a weird idea of what's appropriate and what isn't in a mother-daughter relationship, it's not like there's a guide or anything, though I wish there was. And she pointed it out, and my stepdad switched up and said it's his daughter's name. Which. Idk, again, my mind is kinda blown by the implication that the explanation somehow makes it any better? Mom didn't imply that, but just the idea... I don't know. I don't really want to dwell on this. And when she brought up her worries to my stepdad he blew up and blamed her for being paranoid and jealous like his ex wife. So basically she thinks she can't bring it up anymore because she'd just get gaslighted. And he also said something like "Did you notice the titties on that woman?" TO HER? I guess these things would plant a lot of insanity in my head too, but I don't know why she thinks she has to put up with it. Even in the stories that she told me about my dad, when he was first cheating on her and abusing her, I couldn't really understand why she stayed for that long, why she allowed everything to pile up before she divorced him. I'm not blaming her, but I'm just wondering. I wouldn't want her to stay in a place and situation that's making her miserable, she has no little children to worry about, she has a place to go back to if needed, family to fall back on for support. On the other hand, I can see why she wouldn't want to move back home with my grandma. It's a bit of a desperate situation for her to be in. I wish my support and reassurance could be enough, but I can only muster up so much encouragement from my very limited experience, in times like this I wish she had a close friend to talk it out with. I often find myself wishing for a friend for my mom, someone she can just talk to who would know how to listen and what to say.

She tells me to walk away whenever I feel disrespected, or used, or lied to, or taken advantage of, or taken for granted, and I do already, I do try to eliminate any negativity and disrespect from my life. But she doesn't need to project her past onto me. She's always so doubtful and negative towards my relationship, always tells me she doesn't trust men anymore and that I should find myself "a real man to love me". Which is such a weird thing to say to your daughter who's been in a relationship for over 3 years, instead of celebrating and being happy for her. I mean she's never cared about my relationship or my boyfriend, and the only times she ever asks about him is to ask if we're still together. It's why I know for sure I can't trust her to support me in my relationship, and when my bf and I had issues I couldn't open up to her or confess about anything, I had no one to seek any support from, I just suffered in silence through all of it. And because of this behavior of hers I don't want to introduce my bf to my family (much less HIS family to mine), and it makes me feel bad for him. It's also particularly cruel because she's been through something similar with my father and, well, you'd think or expect there was a lesson to be learned in all of that.

Today felt off for me too, I felt weirdly irritated and then I got sleepy and I took a nap. Then when I woke up I felt an emotional wave hit me and I felt like crying at everything I saw. Then my mom texted me too, and another avalanche came. And the thought that I have to go back to work tomorrow is making me go unspeakably insane.

[smokingasters]

Idk if you have seen the most recent TomoSeki interview but this is what he basically says(DeepL translated but comments said pretty much the same thing so I’m assuming it’s not incorrect):

1.He doesn’t think Kougami should have a lukewarm(I assume he means somewhat hopeful?)ending.Instead of being happy with someone else he wants Kougami to be executed by Akane or he wants Akane to find his dead body.This is how he envisions Kougami’s definitive ending scenario.Apparently he also discussed it with the director,Shiotani before PPP started recording and Shiotani was very surprised by Seki’s vision.(not sure why?maybe he’d a different vision or something?)He also wants Akane to think long and hard before shutting down Sybil system.

2.He says he doesn’t think Kougami shouldn’t be happy but he should never have a normal life that means peace,regular day to day life or family.I don’t exactly understand what he said but it has to do with burden of sins or something.He probably means after what Kougami has done he shouldn’t be allowed to have that.

3.It also does seem like Seki kind of thought Kougami as an ideal man(who lives and dies in the battlefield for his honour)but writing team just wanted him to be a regular man(?!)

I know this is the voice actor’s vision and everyone has their own vision of how the charecters should end up being.But all these overwhelming negativity surrounding Kougami’s character is starting to irritate me a bit?It’s constantly about how he should die/obsessed with death.If he wanted to die there’s no reason to bring him back in case 3?What’s the point of him coming back to Japan again?He could have easily died in the 5 years he’s in battlefield,off screen.If he wants to die by Akane’s hands now what’s the point?Except traumatising Akane who’s literally suffered more than anyone in the narrative also respects and looks up to him more than anyone?There’s no glory in this way of death.Like I said everyone is allowed to have their own vision but this isn’t what the story is about.Kougami constantly going around with his obsession with death is repetitive and tiring.Of course they might be postponing his death until the last moment because he’s arguably the most popular character.If death is what’s in store for him he should get killed obscurely.That’s how death is.No grand gestures just obscurity.

First off, I apologise, Anon, for the late response. I’m inactive on Tumblr these days. Also, I haven’t read the interview, I’ll look for it later.

I suppose Seki-san wants to make it as depressing as possible. I don’t agree with his view that Kogami should die, especially at Akane’s hands. If he dies protecting her and she’s unable to do anything, that would be a disrespect to Kogami’s and Akane’s character.

I agree that Kogami is becoming a bit repetitive. From a dynamic character, he’s become very static at least in anime perspective. I believe that his inner evolution is more important now, It would be a nice change if they depicted Kogami’s personal relationships, outside the field of work. We’ve seen the dynamic between Gino and Sugo, but nothing much about Gino and Kogami’s strained dynamic. Akane and Kogami have stuff to sort through as well.

Frankly even I don’t see much of a point if it ends with his death, considering that it would be a weird end, Akane and Gino would blame themselves and it wouldn’t be the same. I think the biggest surprise would be if his Crime Coefficient went back to normal. There are a few lines in PP-Case 3 translated novel (kindly translated by @temporarilyunstable) that captured my heart, and it makes me think Kogami won't die an ignoble death and he’ll make a different choice. Kogami's inner monologue with Makishima under the moonlight:

Kogami's reflection as he leaves Tenzing:

Kogami’s purpose in the story that brings him back to where he starts, with Akane and Gino. I believe that Kogami regrets abandoning them, and that is why he’s back to stand by their side and help change the Psycho Pass world.

So, I still have some hope for him ❤️ Sorry, Seki-san, maybe he’s tired of voicing Kogami?