#i'm tired of this bullshit

[thebisexualwreckoning]

PSA!!!!!

This is for the people who didn't know they were gay or bi or pan or ace or aro in their childhood.

This is for the people who had crushes which could be deemed straight and then came out as gay later in their lives.

This is for the trans or genderqueer or fluid or nonbinary people who did not experience dysphoria in their agab.

This one is for the people who don't want to take T or E or have gender-affirming surgery but are still trans.

This one is for the sex-positive or sex-neutral aces who are told that they aren't ace because they aren't disgusted by sex.

This one is for anyone who has been told, "You just need to find the right girl/guy!"

This one is for all the queer people who have been told that they cannot be queer because of their religion, race, ethnicity, etc.

This one is for all the queer people who were told that they weren't queer just because they didn't fit into somebody else's idea of what being queer is like.

Nobody can tell you how to be queer. The only one who gets to decide that is YOU. Queer people do not need to bend themselves over backwards to make others comfortable.

We have always been here and we will continue to be here, and everyone else will just have to learn to accept that.

[quemirabobo]

*been sick and feeling like shit for over a month and half, having slight fever, body and throat pain that comes and goes alone* let's talk this to my infectologist

Infectologist: this is weird, it can be some autoimmune problem, let's do some test

Me: sure, okay *actually digest the implications after like 2hs*.... What about no?

Body stop wanting to kill me challenge part 26359

[davinaclare]

hey disney people? here's an idea. how about instead of taking old and beloved movies and change them completely to fit into the "new sensibilities" of today... how about you make something new? for example? if those old movies aren't fit for girls nowadays, make other movies that are. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[sunnywalnut]

People can't even handle femme presenting afab folks using exclusively they/them pronouns and wanting to be called someone's girlfriend.

What makes you think you can handle the gendervoid goobers that use it/it's while working an office job?

Oh you meant... You meant the ACCEPTABLE quickly pixie dream girl type of queers.... Ah.... Um. Sorry dude. We're fresh out.

All we got is this short trans dude who makes paper flowers every Valentine's Day and refuses to bind because it hurts his ribs.

Oh. Oh goodness. Okay so uh. Sadly. We don't carry the fictional customizable gays either. No, we never have. This is real life. Fuck you.

I actually really hate how the "just call me a slur" joke went from being a critique of rainbow capitalism and faux inclusionism to being a way to make fun of nonbinary and aspec ppl literally just. having language.

"Joyfriend? Queerplatonic? Erm.. literally just call me a slur XD" shut the fuck upppp goddamn

[e11-6ix]

Maybe I'm fucking stupid or something but like. What? Why people think that scientists (in that case), writers, artists, common folk from Russia "profit off of human suffering". They don't. Politics and military do. They truly profit off of suffering.

The same as you know in USA for example. Or in a lot of other countries.

I don't support the war with Ukraine and I think it's pointless, violent and inhumane but come on people. Open your eyes. Let people that aren't in any way responsible for what's happening just live.

[fiercynn]

wait you mean this part of voting is not harm reduction: an indigenous perspective???

We don’t dismiss the reality that, on the scale of U.S. settler colonial violence, even the slightest degree of harm can mean life or death for those most vulnerable. What we assert here is that the entire notion of “voting as harm reduction” obscures and perpetuates settler-colonial violence, there is nothing “less harmful” about it, and there are more effective ways to intervene in its violences. [x]

wow way to cherry-pick a single line and ignore the ENTIRE FUCKING POINT

[scoliwings]

"What if you were cured?"

This is a question I get a lot, usually after sharing that I am deaf and I do not speak English. Deaf people get this in general. We've likely been asked this thousands of times in our lifetimes.

Most people treat it as a casual, sometimes playful question. Like it's something that would have a "why, yes, I'd love to be hearing!" answer. As if it's obvious that everyone who's ever deaf or disabled should simply choose to be abled. As if it's even remotely easy to get that kind of treatment, to simply learn a language you've never even heard, to simply have your ears altered to take on a small, artificial fraction of the full range of hearing people have.

I've been asked that question so much that it all sounds like "Why don't you just die?" to me.

I'm used to shrugging it off and I constantly educate people about deaf culture and accessibility and why these kinds of questions are wrong. Now, I'm surrounded by people who defend me if this is asked. It's a nice balm to the decades of isolation and pain I've been through, particularly when I rarely find any deaf people online or in person.

[sunnywalnut]

I feel like the fact that they just blatantly ignored the "little to no" baked into my fresh garlic bread sexuality needs a bit more attention.

Like sure. Shein is trash. Elitist vegans and vegetarians should be criticized. OCD is a serious mental disorder and should be treated as such. All things we can and should agree on. Cool.

Except this shit is literally terf rhetoric.

Terfs will rattle off a couple things that people basically universally agree with to get them to get in the accepting mindset, and then sprinkle in hateful rhetoric to introduce it to your mindset. It's literally a manipulation tactic. And it's RAMPANT in the terf "community" as well as other problematic groups.

So no.

I think I'll pass.

I just love gatekeeping in general. Like no I don't acknowledge you as asexual if you have sex and enjoy it. No I don't acknowledge you as a True Punk if you buy your clothes on shein. No I don't acknowledge you as a vegetarian if you eat chicken nuggets sometimes. No I don't acknowledge you as a lesbian if you date men. No I don't acknowledge you as OCD if you diagnosed yourself and believe intrusive thoughts are "step on that leaf lol". Words have definitions and there are certain criteria you need to meet in order to fit specific identities and labels. MAKE CALLING PEOPLE POSERS GREAT AGAIN‼️

[aishabellasbigblogofeverything]

I love it when women hate men. I love it when women are allowed to vent to each other about how horrible and creepy men are. I love it when women form friendships with and prioritize each other over relationships with men(whether they're attracted to them or not). I love it when women put men dni in their bios and on their nude photos and on posts on their blogs. I love it when women refuse to mollycoddle and accommodate entitled male feelings with "but this doesn't mean I hate all men, I know a few men who are great, I love my father/sons/brothers/uncles/male cousins/guy friends" I love it when women complain about men WITHOUT "not all men" being a disclaimer. I love it when women avoid socializing with/refuse to be around/befriend/get close to men because they know men can't be trusted. I love it when women make "kill all men" jokes. I love it when women offer absolutely no concern or care for men's feelings and if their misandry offends men whatsoever because why should we, men are the oppressor class who have raped and killed and abused us and kept us as subjugated as second-class citizens for millennia, they regularly mistreat us and the women in their own marginalized communities still every single day and make this world so much harder and more awful for us to be in, and if we choose to hate them and not spare them any sympathy then so be it, and I don't just mean "men as a class" either, you can be a woman who doesn't want to have anything to do with any man on an individual basis and completely cuts off men from her personal life too and ykw I will love and fucking support you in that because men deserve absolutely NOTHING from us. If they're so tough and strong then they can handle it just like they can handle being lonely. If you are a woman who hates men, ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE A LESBIAN AND/OR A TRANS WOMAN, then just know that I love you. I love you, I support you, and you are safe here.

[hamletisintown]

Core memory

[thenonbinarydetective]

Things batfam stans need to leave behind in 2023:

Jason's Lazarus pit rage

Thinking Tim's parents were horribly abusive and hated him

Only caring about Stephanie in terms of her relationship to another person (ex: Tim's bestie/ex/gf or Cass' gf/bestie)

Treating Jason or Stephanie like they're stupid

Feral Demon Child Damian

Permanent sunshine boy Dick Grayson

Any "[blank] was the real violent Robin" discourse

Really just any reducing or sectioning of certain traits to certain batfam members and not allowing other characters to exhibit those same traits (ex: see sunshine Dick Grayson)

But also stealing traits from other characters and projecting them onto someone else (ex: Jason getting Dick's personality in fics. He is not the same type of big brother Dick is canonically)

Purposefully mischaracterizing characters for angst (ex: Dick sent Tim to Arkham, my beloathed. also again see Tim's parents)

Trying really hard to nuclearize the family. They are an unconventional family for many reasons, and that's why they're interesting.

"Alfred solos the batfam"

Making Duke "the normal one" and completely forgetting to give him an actual personality.

Cass using sign language because she can read body language (note: does not apply to YJ Cass who has damaged vocal chords)

Cass being used as a prop for her brothers

Tim being weak, woobified baby

Feel free to add on ~~

Don't send hate over these things because idgaf, they are harmful mischaracterizations, and many are built on total ignorance and often racism, classism, ableism, and sexism.

[god-i-hope-so]

I wonder how many of Tommy haters ever experienced racism. My guess is a very small part of them because let me tell you one thing: you don't spend after work time with your racist coworker on your own. EVER. You don't share stories and jokes with them. EVER. You know the mental cost of spending time with a racist when you're a poc? No you don't. And you think Hen and Chim would choose to spend their free time with a racist instead of anyone else? Instead of going home? No one forced them, and there's no one else. They decided to have drinks together because Tommy changed and they want to support change.

You can call out his past behavior, absolutely, and I did it myself because it needs to be done. You know what needs to be done too? Acknowledge positive change. It's crucial to see and support change. Change is what makes the world better, little by little. But you wouldn't know if you're not a poc, right? How does it feel to be a white knight trying to get some "good ally" points from the poc you use for you hate campaign? All that for a fucking ship? Is it worth it? Do you have your ship canon now?

But please, educate me on racism and how Hen and Chim acted in S2, apparently forced (by who?) to spend their free time with Tommy.

[usermischief]

"But Buck needs to explore his sexuality more!" And he is. A bisexual person can explore their sexuality while being in a committed relationship. A bisexual person does NOT have to fuck everyone with a heartbeat to do that.

[adelphenium]

tknp + a long-suffering lawson

[antiyourwokehomophobia2]

I have long since taken the mantra "write what you want to see" to heart, but I've just gotta say that it's kind of upsetting that gay movies seem to only fit two extremes. There's one end where the characters never kiss (or kiss once) or have sex (even implied). It's very sweet and clean and PG. The other extreme is like. Orgies every 5 minutes. Cheating. Abuse. Promiscuity.

It's just like. Y'all know that letting gay people have sex doesn't mean they can't be sweet as well, right? That man who shows up at his boyfriend's door with flowers and takes him to a nice dinner can fuck him (and only him) later. They can be married with a beautiful idyllic backdrop and still want each other carnally. Lesbians can make flower crowns and go for late night drives and write love songs and pick flowers and eat pussy? Monogamously.

I just really feel like people think there's some dichotomy where one side is "sweet = sexless" and the other is "sex = promiscuous low life"

[like-pixie-dust]

Okay, so I saw the theory that the four men in the "Opera" video are actually MCR in prosthetics, so obviously I lost my mind for the next 20 minutes analyzing and trying to decide whether this was plausible or not. This is what I come back with.

1. The two men on the left look VERY MUCH like Frank and Mikey, no doubt, so if it is NOT the boys in prosthetics, that would be an insane coincidence.

2. The most compelling evidence to back this theory is teeth. You can get super high-quality prosthetics and do really good photoshop, but teeth are gonna be hard to fake without it looking obvious.

If you look at these two, I think most will agree that their teeth are VERY similar. (apologies for the low quality Frank pic, i think the mcarmy will understand it's tough to find photos of them that are more than three pixels)

3. The other thing that's gonna be hard to fake/mask is eyelashes. You can't exactly remove them, and as we know, Gerard has very long thick eyelashes.

We will ignore the eye color because that could probably easily be changed with good contacts and editing. but the eyelashes line up here. The man in the video even has the curl that Gerards lashes do.

4. One of the things that breaks the immersion of this theory is their heights. By all means, Ray should be the tallest here, yet he seems to be the shortest? he is slouching quite a bit, but even so, at 6'1", he shouldn't look that short compared to Frank, who is only 5'6 and also seems to be slightly slouched.

Other than that, it just seems too realistic to be prosthetics? I thought this theory was completely delusional until I started looking deeper into it, so I'm basically 50/50 on whether this is true or not. If you bothered reading all this, please share your thoughts!!! I'm so confused.