#i was guilty of that too dont get me wrong
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i'll screaaam are you a kuwameshi fan also... (also assuming you like it the other way around, actually. urabara? idk tbh) BUT either way fucking based, youre so good and you have excellent taste As Always
its YUUKUWA* (corrected from yusukuwa) (and yes that is the order i prefer ♥ urameshi is a much respected member of a short top hall of fame)
FUCK YEAH BROTHER/SISTER SHAKING YOUR HAND THROUGH THE SCREEN
#anonymous#it goes so crazy#add: not much can be found thru that tag cuz kuwameshi is more popular one even if the order implied is y/k because its just that#english speaking fandom sticks to one name and uses it for everything#i was guilty of that too dont get me wrong#cue all the art on my old account tagged z0lu and not luz0 while it was very much fixed luz0
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#when i got hashtag sick i was in hospital and i was doing my regularly scheduled call with my dad#and i really had no plans of telling him bc ive done that before and its not like he can scare the MS away or anything#i dont know what happened. maybe because it was such a fucking bad episode. maybe because i was so tired. maybe it was a secret 3rd thing#but one minute was like fine then i just burst into tears and i was crying so hard which is MEGA EW BC IM NOT A CRIER LIKE THAT#and my dad freaked out and he was like whats wrong and i didnt wanna tell him but I also sounded insane bc i spontaneously started sobbing#and he was getting more alarmed and i was upset that id upset him and so i just spat it out i was like 'listen king'#'its no biggie but my body is trying to kill me again and im just a little sad atm' and he replied 'baba why wouldnt you tell me?'#and this man who has a very big serious job literally dropped everything and took a 20 hr flight over#and he genuinely just grabbed one of his work suitcase because he showed up with nothing but dress shirts and his laptop#and i think maybe it healed me a little. i mean it def also made me sad too but mostly healed me#and he'd been here for a couple of weeks and he left today and i feel shit about being sad about it#again because he has a very big and very serious job and i genuinely dont understand how he even just showed up like that#so I felt guilty throughout#anyway i dont think he drinks anymore but i was like king have a sip of wine with me and he did and it was lovely#and I hope I become my fathers daughter and not my mother's child. praying to both our gods#heres to healing ❤️🩹
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omw to play emotional support for my mom disguised as ✨fun family bonding time✨ for the rest of the week <3333 there's something so deeply wrong with me uwu teehee
#and i still havent texted my friend back even tho she texted me a week ago and i told her ill text her back this week when i have the time#and i DO have the time. im just fucked in the head and the prospect of having a conversation with another person where i again#have to pretend im not at the very brink of a serious mental and emotional breakdown. is making me lose my fucking mind#ik she's having a bad time rn and she needs the reassurance and jesus fucking christ i tried i had two long conversations with her#that were allllll about her. only her. not a single word about me. that's fine. this is what people need in such moments right#to just get patted on the head and hugged and told their suffering is real and what happened to them is unfair and just made to feel#that for a moment they're the centre of attention and it is all about them. this is normal. this is why therapy exists.#so i try to give this to her but it is fucking draining. and i NEVER get the same treatment back. like she caught me crying at uni last week#and like yes she'll say some nice things but she'll always find a way to turn the conversation back on the topic of ✨her✨#like we started talking about my therapy and i finally got to actually say a word or two about what im dealing with. but then she goes#'yeah im just trying to figure out what's wrong with me when i listen to you haha like i could never cut myself cause it looks ugly.#ofc it doesnt look ugly on you haha but i could never lol'#like thanks haha good to know ill just shut up then and steer the conversation back onto you why dont i. i mean its not like#i spent over an hour a few days back sitting with you and listening to your talk about your childhood and validating you and not saying#a word a single fucking word about myself even tho i was also going through it myself but who cares right. and now im the bad guy again#because im not texting back.#i feel like im finally fucking snapping cause at this point im properly fucking angry. IM having a bad time too. IM going through it too.#I have bad coping skills and had a fucked up childhood and traumas in my life TOO and im allowed to just not be able to handle it#i really wanna break something lol maybe therapy's working after all lmao#oh also this is why i dont eat breakfast. i do it once and then feel guilty and suicidal lol normal behaviour#pojebie mnie zaraz przysięgam na boga mam dość kurwa BASTA
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#bo posting#vent#i was gonna posy this with a picture of croutons but that felt wrong shxjdh#uh im. scared i wont be able to draw again consistently for a while#i think im really accepting just how burnt out i am#i dont like the fear. anxiety. and envy ive been bottling up about drawing lately#like its not doing me any good to avoid everything artistic just bc i cant draw rn#but im... afraid that this will last for a long time#the last time this happened i barely drew for 2 years straight#i dont think im conveying just how painful and stressful this actually is. im not okay and im struggling to accept this#and its fucking depressing too?? i feel miserable knowing i cant do shit for my ocs and cant contribute creatively w friends#i just... feel like im... like not fun to be around rn ig? like a killjoy? a haunting presence who cant offer anything new or fun#im really debating reaching out and offering refunds to people who commed me#at least if they dont want to keep waiting#because idk when ill be able to get them done and i feel incredibly guilty#🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠
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i was bored to death at work on friday and wrote out some oc thoughts on marnin and selp and their personalities and i want to reiterate/summarize them here too
marnin is, first and foremost, careful, nervous, and guilty—he is quick to blame himself in any situation and is as careful as he possibly can be, especially around selp (when he is of his own mind). however, marnin is also curious and obsessive, and these things can build up and like consume his thoughts and cause him to act impulsively and without thinking. as careful as marnin tries to be in toeing the lines of their weird relationship, he is DEEPLY curious about everything about selp and of such an obsessive personality (and the two of them being isolated together doesnt really help keep his mind straight either) that he ends up crossing lines he normally wouldnt and then wallowing in guilt about it later. his guilty conscience also keeps him from picking up consciously on the signals selp puts out that beg him over the hazy, unclear lines between them; he picks up those hints only unconsciously, as they feed into his obsession, curiosity, and want.
selp, however, is putting out those signals at almost all times. for all that marnin is careful and reserved, selp is possessive and analytical and jealous. these might not be the first words you would use to describe him upon meeting him (or upon reading the story he features in), but they are his deepest and some of his strongest personality traits, especially in regards to the relationship he and marnin share. don't get me wrong, he tries to be careful with marnin. he knows marnin well and becomes very quickly acquainted with marnin's anxiety and conscience. this is why he doesnt push or act himself, usually. he doesnt want to frighten or distress marnin. but selp is obsessive to a whole other degree. marnin wants to know things; selp NEEDS to know every last thing about marnin in his efforts to "have" and "keep" him. it is why, especially in the beginning, selp takes so many more liberties asking questions, touching and investigating marnin physically, and making decisions for him. once they are on the ship alone among the stars and the boundaries between them begin to blur and selp sees how much this confuses and distresses marnin, that is when he takes more of a backseat role and encourages, flirts, asks leading, dangerous questions, and utilizes this new body language he has never tapped into before but that marnin reacts to. as little as selp understands the physical draw he feels, due to it not being a thing at all in olss culture, he thoroughly enjoys each heightening moment of intimacy between them and truly it is a feat of his restraint that he manages to maintain his more passive role as his need and obsession and desire to "have" increase as their encounters cross further and further into the realm of the sexual. i would say, especially in some of these ways, selp is manipulative, though i would try to argue he never goes too far with his manipulation, and marnin's guilt is entirely his own creation, as selp is always quick to assure him that 1) theyve done nothing wrong, marnin has done nothing wrong and 2) they BOTH acted, mutually
marnin is walking repression and restraint carrying simmering want that is forced to build and bubble over in outbursts that cause him, after the fact, to panic and apologize and beat himself up. selp is a vibrating, horny 600 year old who doesn't even know what sex is but wants it so so bad but restrains himself tremuously, waiting until marnin is on his wavelength and then sending out a steady stream of sub-atomic invitations to partake of his flesh. and they were made for each other.
#dont get me wrong selp is also genuine and sweet and loving#he wants to know EVERYTHING about marnin not just inspect his body sexually. and he is genuinely interested#he is a scientist after all. so he has a genuine scholastic interest in marnin's culture and language and biology#that goes along with his possessive wanting interest in those things#i feel like when im just describing their relationship i do selp no justice. he is funny + understanding + caring + protective + smart#and these are all a part of their relationship too!! but i have somehow struggled to figure out how marnins timid personality would ever be#brave enough to lay his hands on selp and do what both of them want so badly to do. and it does HAVE to be him i have tried.#when selp initiates physically instead of just sending out supersonic waves marnin panics and doesnt know how to react#when marnin takes the initiative and therefore CAN blame himself for a second he is easier to assure him and he gets a little less guilty#every time. after a certain point. he feels more guilty every time until he reaches a breaking poiny and they have an intervention#(marnin had shied away from verbally recognizing the fact that they wanna fuck each other bc he didnt understand it. also taboo.)#and then after the intervention he feels a little better and more confident each time they touch each other (half the time not even sexually#btw) until he is totally comfortable and confident in it#<- shoves all that to the side* ANYWAY HAHA THIS SAYS NOTHING ABOUT ME IN COLLEGE. HAHA THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ME PERSONALLY.#MY OCS ARENT A REFLECTION OF ME WHEN I MADE THEM THEY ARENT. THEY ARENT.#t
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#keroro#i love this. she is me. i can live my unbridled amounts of cute aggression towards him THRU HER#i literally need to do this irl#like i just skimmed ep 64 bc i was curious about this trauma switch thing and ive never wanted to grab him and whack him around more#in an affectionate way not because im mad at him oh no. i understand him so deeply. i feel him. i know his most inner psyche.#and he inspires unrecorded levels of senseless violence in me#me in my little ignoramus bubble writing a 4 pages dissertation on his character anyway bc like. i get him ok#his deep seated sense of guilt that he's constantly fighting against. that he needs to repress and deny in order to function.#his fear of abandonment. fear of never being enough. not being able to make up for it. for himself. thats why hes self sacrificing#his selfish childishness that comes from not having been allowed a lot in his youth. taking friends for granted in his past but knowing -#you dont fit in with them. constantly apologizing for yourself. taking space. too much. self indulgence. because friends is s scary concept#and yet one you couldnt survive without. letting them walk all over you. denying your anger. your fears. crawling back to them with a smile#at their feet and biting time because what you really want is friends. company. but you think you don't deserve it. deep down.#maybe u dont. your worst reminder the friend you love. and if they ditch you it's deserved. you don't need them (you do)#why am i rambling!!!! he has ruined me. if im wrong dont even tell me bc i prefer this version in my head anyway#*charlie voice* look at me. psychological trauma up to here#im not saying growing up poor with a father that shames you for your interests and ''disciplines'' you made him selfish but. no yes!#i am saying that. bc i know how it is. growing up with friends that have a lot that u can never afford. u feel guilty just being with them#ok we strayed a lot from the og post which is just me saying I WANNA PUNCH THIS GUY SO BAD (he is me)#keroro gunso
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#Lately whenever i see pictures or art of the aurora....instead of feeling wonder and whimsy and warmth like i always used to#i just feel.....profound sadness#which sucks!!!!#im trying to unpack it. what went wrong-#i think it might just be some form of overgrown longing. like a plant whos roots are too big for its pot and are now rotting#idk. im really trying to get a handle on it.#like YES i have wanted to see them for over a decade and keep getting cockblocked by funds etc#but im not!!! 90! theres still time...... trying to beat that into my skull#kuz i dont like living like this#it makes me feel guilty and embarrassed#to be acting like such a little baby abt it#n e ways#rambles#personal
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i actually love living my life costantly second guessing every good social interaction i have since men think any type of not cold politeness is a flirt. i will start killing
#i hate it bc it makes ME feel guilty it makes ME feel like i did something wrong like IM wrong for the way i am.#i cannot make peace with it its so upsetting bc its not in my nature to not be nice to ppl. i dont want to change that#but i hate living like this too...it makes me miserable#its been seriously wearing me down lately sorry if i keep talking abt it#a#WHAT do you want me to say. to make you miserable. do i have to be mean to get you off me?? i dont want to
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I think people need to learn to be normal again
#i am also people#but seriously why do you always have to have a stance on one end of the Spectrum?#why cant we all just be nice and normal about stuff?#why does everything on the internet need to be invaded by extremists?#i just dont get how you see different peoples experiences and then just go off and end with hitler was right#maybe we all need to calm down and just listen?#also we need to stop misusing words please#we are turning them into parodies and its not olay anymore#words have definitions and you cant be upset at others when you use words wrong that they understand you wrong#i also guilty of this but I'm gonna start working on this#not being able to work has me spending too much time on the internet#also why does everyone always have to mean everything in a bad way?#why do we always assume the worst of people?
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do you ever miss being obsessed with one single cd like a movie soundtrack or something and playing it over and over again for months until it becomes a part of you
#dont get me wrong because i do think streaming music is amazing like u can literally listen to everything and anything whenever u want#including imports and things u otherwise couldnt find like im 100% for streaming and i pay spotify every month to prove it#however ! i do get like overwhelmed ? sometimes because there's just Too much sometimes im like. well#i cant decide what to listen to because i dont know what i want to listen to so ill just listen to nothing#and i kind of miss the simplicity of being like ok ill just put this cd in and play it on repeat until i get sick of it#now im like well i have every song in the world almost and i feel guilty listening to just these 3 on repeat... but i dont know what else#to listen to anyway. u get it i just get overwhelmed i guess is the best word for it#and yes obviously you can still do this it's just not the same as when it was like the only option
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man I think I fucked uuuuppppp a little 😭
#busy at work running a trial for someone in my department today which is actually a pretty interesting one so yayy enrichment#but also feeling kind of guilty i think i accidentally upset my roommate so. ahhhhh. 😥#well im not sure if im rly at fault bc i dont think i did anything Wrong per se. but ik shes been having a hard time lately so probably#shouldve thought a little bit more. but also i dont wanna be selfcentred assuming how she feels is necessarily related to me...#but it probably came across a little mean even tho it wasnt intended that way and also i feel like a hypocrite for getting upset at her-#historically over similar + even tho i recognised it was irrational/unfair of me + got over it i still dont want anyone else to feel that#but ALSOOOO i feel weirdly a little defensive too bc i think im starting to realise some things and umm. well i dont know yet but yeah.#do u see my conundrum...... this is so vague and unintelligible but im at work and dont wanna get into it rn#or ill start spiralling worrying. even if i did upset her i wont see her until tmr anyway so cant apologise until then. sigh#i dont knoooooowwwwww well i hope shes having an okay day i know there are probably other things on her mind too esp today#whoevers watching from above look after her.....and i will try. not to be insensitive again. even though its kind of complicated#i need to journal this out i think when i have the time bc im confusing myself. girls will compartmentalise everything and then have to#deal with interdepartmental issues that cause them to experience diametrically conflicting emotions simultaneously until they blow a fuse#its literally not even that deep can i be normal for once#augh! well. 10 more mins of my lunch break#.diaries
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it would explain so much
#fuck#like i feel like ive been getting healthier thinking patterns lately#so maybe i was just rlly neurotic for a bit??#but like#my self worth definitely hinges on other people's perception of me#like sometimes it feels more important than the reality#but like i also feel guilty about that#like i feel ashamed of myself but i still do it#but i also recognize that the thing i need to do to improve that is to stop doing things im ashamed of#and i like the thought of being someone im not ashamed of#but fuck. it would make so much sense#after my aunt died i started feeling like my dad was self-absorbed in a way i am too#and looking at the wiki for communal narcissm#it would make sense#id never heard of the term 'parasuicidal' until that article but that was exactly what i have always done and i even recognized it then#is there such a thing as a self aware narcissist?#i definitely have been overexaggerating to myself the effects of finishing a year and a half of art school#and i mean ive literally used makeup to make myself look more tired on days that i wanted sympathy#like.#AND if people dont talk to Me Specifically in conversations i stop talking and sort of just dissociate#and the thing that scares me about dying is having people know it's my own fault#and i feel like i am always trying to make up for all the everything#and i just. i dont know what to do right now#i feel like im checking all the boxes for vulnerable narcissist#i wanted to find out what was wrong with me but i wanted it to be one of the “nice” disorders#i wanted it to be autism or cptsd or bpd or ocd or one of the other ones that people hear about and feel bad for you#i dont want it to be the one where if you tell people you have it they immediately stop trusting you#i dont want to be untrustworthy or abusive or manipulative#i felt so so so guilty for my entire life and tried so so hard not to be abusive or manipulative or mean or problematic#like i want to be a nice person!!! i dont want to hurt people!!!!
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apologies are hard and can be embarassing
but life is too short to let your grandma go to bed sad
#it wasnt a big bad deal#but i didnt listen and projected my guilt#i wanted to be angry and annoyed#but whats the point#is it really that important to feel right when youre actually wrong#to feel mighty bc youre less emotional than another person#its hard to swallow that pride and to admit you were wrong#but you never know if this moment is the last with that person#and putting in that perspective it makes it easy to say youre sorry#i sometimes forget this#something i learned very young after fighting with my mom and upon reflection realized i was wrong the whole time#ive always had this ability since then to swallow my pride almost immediately and jump straight to fixing what i did wrong#but then long story short i lost that ability when i learned the word 'no' for myself#i stopped paying attention and focused on only me#and sometimes i forget that this is not who i want to be. i forget to work on myself#im glad that i made myself apologize and im glad that i made sure i didnt apologize weakly#none of that 'im sorry you feel that way'#but id like to work on avoiding this all together. and thats hard for me. because it requires me to be aware like i used to#which for me is PTSD related. but i dont want to be on my deathbed recalling all the pointless times i doubled down#taking up time that could have been happy#people say its easy to be kind and it is but sometimes when youre guilty it feels good to give into your frustrations and get defensive#again nothing bad happened. i just told her i wanted to do the dishes. she was currently washing some and because of guilt#of my perception of what shes able to do i doubled down on me doing them instead of her even though she assured me she was able#i thought she was lying to me and she got upset. no yelling just not allowing her to do what little shes able#and not trusting her at her word. to be fair she does lie and will admit that she has- when doing things when i feel sick#even when i tell her that id rather choose what im able to do instead of her assuming. which is exactly what i did#me being a hypocrit. so yeah. not a great feeling on multiple levels of this scenario#but truly i need to remember to focus on what matters and that is just taking someones word for it while making sure they know they can#freely tell their feelings. meaning if shes doing the dishes and she says shes fine. let it be. and make sure she absolutely knows that when#i say im fine that i too am telling the truth
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its always "women are people" until that means theyre capable of being soemthing other than perfect, demure victims. sometimes. and this is a wild concept. women can be cruel. because women are people and people are capable of hurting other people on purpose.
#the beleive all victims movment is good in spirit but like. women lie abt being raped. not the most often but it still happens#and it doesnt mean that men are 'looking to ne the victims' and the men worried about it happening are not 'outing themselves'#its innocent until proven guilty until youre a man going against a woman#and im so mad about it rn#like ?? women do shitty things too ???#women are capable of everything. oh except for being mean or wrong or lying <- stupid rhetoric i see often#i dont think ive ever seen women take a mans story about being hurt by a woman seriously like ever#its probably happened but not qhere ive seen it#men get their issues so ignored and theyre not allowed to talk abt it#bc that means talking shit abt women and being anti feminist or smth#like ??#women can say 'ugh i hate men theyre so mean and scary' and everyone says thats fine#but a man cant say 'women have hurt me' without getting hounded for hating women and being a terrible person#itd be so shitty to live with the kill all men type of 'feminism' and then not be able to talk abt how that hurts#'no one hates women like stroaght men' no one hates men like straight women either#ive also seen a lot of talk abt why sahing you hate all mene xcept trans men is bad#and it is bad for teh reasons ive seen and stuff#but also ..#get this ...#men are people#with feelings and stuff#and you shouldnt be saying that anyways#women are vapable of being shitty and men have feelings#wild that this even needs to be said#im so upset rn#vent#vent post
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#i yhink . this is good for me.#working w my nanna and . potentually working at my fav bar may actually b good for me rn#im so physically tired dont get me wrong. vut my mental health is.good ?#and has been since i stsrted this#like its only been 3 days . but . i want to go back to bartending#im good at it . and i Like this place so i think im okay with doing this#like . i think my other job just Sucked bc i dont mind being a bartender . and i will b working#at 2 diff locations#i think . i was orifinally hired fir the other bar but . this works too#i just hated the idea of seeing * and having to serve him rlly . like i can Pretend . it wont bothrr me and treat him like#i sont know him or wtv it is i have to do. but . it might destroy me a Little.#oh .#anyway . suddebly felt guilty for eating i might kms abt it#feel Full n that . is a minir trigger of mine#like i can igmore it but dawg . still is annoying when i feel . guilty bc i ate#as if im not Hungry? and havent just worked 10hrs in the last . 24hrs.#like i was walking / running for a lot of that ! i am probsbly not consuming wnough to match it as it is !#vc i have been So Hungry for a while . so itd make sense
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Going 'haha I do that' while reading about symptoms of depression and immediately shutting the thoughts down
#even though its listed as the diagnosis i have for my medication#even though since i was like 12 i have had weird suspicions about it#even though a lot of the things i read match with what i feel#even also that its the word my own therapist used#i just cannot accept what is wrong with me could be depression#itjustfeels like part of my whole being. mypersonality. its been with me for solong#and i read thats also something normal that depressed people feel...#but i dont think i have reasons to be depressions. i feel like im exagerating. that i do not deserve such a serious thing#whatever is wrong with me is a personal failing. in my head#i know logically Depression is most likely what i have. thatit has been untreated so long thats why it has gotten so bad#but i just cannot let myself accept that. i feel guilty of others knowing. thibkig they must think me a liar and fool#i just want to remember what enjoying things I liked doing felt like. please#haunted.txt#i cannot sleep. or i sleep too much. cant feel nothing or i feel too much. cant even move somedays#this is not living. i cant even work on getting my shit together#and everyday i fear of being abandoned for being too much of a burden. too boring. because of how sad i am
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